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Rebels For Joy

Learn the tools and embody the energy that will help you re-engage your purpose, passion, and power. Listen in each week as your Rebellion leader and Mama on a Mission, Bonnie Kelly brings you soul-filled conversations to spark change, end self-sabotage, remove the masks, and make Joy the standard of living. Sister, If you are ready to dream bigger, then welcome to the revolution! We are Rebels For Joy.

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Dust yourself off
“Success is not final. Failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” -Winston Churchill Today, we will be diving into this resilient mindset and what it means just to dust yourself off and get back up. This episode will inspire you, especially if your booty has been kicked too many times and you feel like sitting on the ground. I dive into this Winston Churchill quote and explain why it's the exact definition of what it means to be resilient. It's time to dust off these ideas that you're inadequate, that you're not enough, and that you're unworthy. Tune in as I talk about how to stand strong and how you can find an opportunity in every situation. In this Episode: [ 2:10 ] What is the world’s saddest pizza? [ 3:00 ] What it means to be resilient [ 6:30 ] Why failure is not fatal [ 10:45 ] The best relationship advice I have ever received   [ 12:45 ] It is the courage to continue that counts     Joy Filling Quotes:  When we fail to celebrate the successes along the way, you undoubtedly will burn out.” “When we think about success, I want you to recognize it's not a destination. It is a stop on the map.” “A lasting relationship is finding ways back to love.” “If you're on your 9,999th relationship, the next one might be it.” “Open-mindedness of learning and growing is what will catapult you into the next point on the map of success.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
20:54 09/28/2021
Breaking down the walls
"You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness." -Brené Brown Today we are diving into the trenches of vulnerability and exploring in depth some of the powerful teachings of my girl Brené Brown. We will look at how you can break down those walls that keep you safe and keep you emotionally distant. I'll help you find a better path to honoring and protecting yourself while still being connected to others. When we open ourselves up, take risks, share our truth, and do things that scare us, that requires vulnerability. Tune in as I explain the ways to let yourself become more vulnerable. In this Episode: [ 2:20 ] Did you hear about the monkey who shared an Amazon account? [ 8:30 ] Emotional harm is your choice   [ 13:50 ] Where are you keeping your walls up?   [ 17:05 ] It’s time to walk inside your story and own it [ 19:45 ] What steps you should take to become more vulnerable   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Vulnerability takes a tremendous amount of courage and bravery.” “It's my choice to be offended, hurt, or reactive to your beliefs.” “You can have the courage to connect with anyone, and you have the courage to not connect with anyone.” Vulnerability requires discernment.” “When you shut down vulnerability, you're going to shut down opportunities.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
23:05 09/21/2021
Emotional Detox
Today we are talking about emotionally detoxing. It's all about getting rid of all of the shame, the blame, hurt, pain, and getting ourselves back into a resonance of joy. We often hear about sugar detoxes, but we don't talk enough about emotional detoxes. Emotional detoxing should happen on a regular basis. You shouldn't be at a breaking point before you decide to have an emotional detox. Tune in as I teach you my three-step process on how to do your emotional detox right now.  In this Episode: [ 2:00 ] Why did local police acquire 1,000 bees? [ 4:50 ] What if we allowed joy to be the status quo? [ 9:10 ] Surrender and clear the mind [ 10:50 ] Now, it’s time for mindfulness training [ 12:25 ] Next, you can clean and clear   Joy Filling Quotes:  “How different would your life, your relationships, your reactions be if you let joy lead the way?” “You want to spend at least a week surrendering and clearing the mind.” “We are intentional about the direction and the ideas that we are having.” “I want to get very clear with my new identity of how I show up to the world.” “I hope you are thriving in this wonderful world we call life.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
18:04 09/14/2021
Grief, Regret & Joy
“The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line, Nor all your Tears wash out a Word of it.” Today's episode is a little more serious; it's all about grief. All of us either have had an experience with grief or inevitably will experience it in the future. Grief is not something that any of us can escape from. If you've ever loved a parent, a sibling, a friend, an animal, a job, an idea, you will undoubtedly come into contact with grief. This episode will end with the opportunity to reclaim your joy, to be able to move quickly through the stages of grief, and allow you to come back to this place of peace, happiness, and gratitude. In this Episode: [ 2:45 ] I’m going through a thick season of grief   [ 5:15 ] Recognize the different ways grief can show up [ 8:20 ] Acceptance is when joy can return [ 13:00 ] When we get stuck, life cannot breathe [ 15:30 ] How do we find joy again during grief?     Joy Filling Quotes:  “We have an expiration date; we know that it's coming, and it gives all of us time to wrestle with our emotions.” “It's through acceptance that our joy returns.” “When grief comes, regrets are going to follow.” “We have to move through these emotions; we have to keep that process moving.” “We cannot harbor and stay stuck. Otherwise, life does not breathe through us.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
23:16 09/07/2021
Subconscious Change
“Your thoughts change your life.” Today we are talking about the power of the subconscious mind. The information here is not only going to change the dynamic of how you respond and react but can ultimately give you the joy, the lasting joy that you so desperately seek. We're going to cover some of the basics; then, we will expand on those basics to help you elevate your personal development. Tune in as I chat about the differences between the conscious and the subconscious mind and why we want to spend so much energy and attention on reprogramming the subconscious mind. In this Episode: [ 3:00 ] I asked my dog, what's two minus two? He said nothing. [ 9:00 ] Start to pay attention to your thoughts + tune into your feelings   [ 12:30 ] Collect the data, so you know what to change [ 14:00 ] Get below the surface and track your conscious thoughts [ 16:15 ] Remind yourself that you’re a rebel + commit to the inner work   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We have the power to reprogram our subconscious mind if we're willing to put our attention and resources there.” “The subconscious mind is keeping you stuck.” “We need to collect the data, so we know what to change. Once we know what to change, we can unroot from that.” “Your mind will work for you in an unstoppable way.” “The inner work starts with getting more information; you need to just educate yourself.” Resources: The Power of Your Subconscious Mind: HERE True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
19:44 08/31/2021
Connecting Deeper
What blocks you from being and feeling connected to others? Today is all about how you can connect deeper and start to reclaim those personal connections beginning today. I dive deep into how we can remove the mask and the blocks that keep us from being connected. We all desire connection; it is what allows us to feel loved and appreciated and valued. Plus, it's what allows us to feel seen and heard. Our connections will enable us to thrive as a culture and as a community. However, a connection can also lead to abuse and abandonment. Tune in as we talk about creating deep connections when they can also be threats. In this Episode: [ 2:20 ] What did the 0 say to the 8?   [ 4:30 ] Why you can’t have a connection without vulnerability   [ 8:45 ] Start looking for better vulnerability connections   [ 10:20 ] Vulnerability isn't a sign of weakness; it is a sign of courage [ 16:05 ] Connection means there is no judgment   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Oftentimes, we try to connect with people who are incapable of connection.” “Be willing to forgive those who are ignorant and incapable of giving a connection to you.” “There are people and friends that await you when you open yourself up to receiving them.” “You ultimately get to tell your story.” “Your vibe attracts your tribe.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
21:54 08/24/2021
Becoming Emotionally Intelligent
“Every human has four endowments - self-awareness, conscience, independent will, and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom... The power to choose, to respond, to change.” I am excited today to be talking to you about how you can become more emotionally intelligent by harnessing the four endowments, as Stephen Covey often references. These four powerful components make the very foundation of being emotionally intelligent. These four endowments should be taught in every school to every child because it would simply make a world of difference. Plus, I explain that the endowments aren’t complicated, but they take practice. Tune in as I reveal how you can practice the four endowments in your life every single day. In this Episode: [ 2:30 ] Have you heard about the chocolate record player? [ 4:50 ] Self-awareness of yourself, your thoughts, and your role in the world [ 8:00 ] Conscience is your ability to know what’s right or wrong [ 10:20 ] Independent will is the reminder that you have a choice [ 12:30 ] Creative imagination is your ability to see things beyond what is right in front of you     Joy Filling Quotes:  “Understand how your feelings influence your decisions, actions, and reactions.” “Self-awareness is one of the most powerful tools that we have.” “When we can engage our self-awareness, it gives us the power to choose differently.” “We have the power to choose better; to choose things that are in alignment with our dreams, ambitions, goals, and desires.” “We can allow our intuitions to allow us to be the strongest and best versions of ourselves.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
18:49 08/17/2021
Feel Like Giving Up?
I am excited for today's episode because I often hear this complaint about not seeing results fast enough. We often feel a want or desire to give up when we're just short of our goalpost because we do not see results, and we start feeling discouraged. I will reveal how you can be able to power through and to keep that motivation alive. The fruits of your labor, the fruits of your hard work, are going to take time to be able to be seen. Tune in as I reveal the reasons why you should never give up on your dreams and how to find your version of success. In this Episode: [ 5:00 ] How our instant gratification mentality is affecting our motivation   [ 9:30 ] The results that we want are three feet away from where we typically give up [ 13:20 ] Hold the vision of what it is that you desire [ 15:45 ] Success is inevitable for those who believe it's true   Joy Filling Quotes:  “The last thing to grow on a fruit tree is the fruit.” “It takes seven years on average for avocado trees to fully produce.” “Don't give up three feet shy of your goal.” “Continue to put your mindset on what it is that you desire.” “Remind yourself that it takes years before you see the fruit on the trees.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
18:52 08/10/2021
The Most Overlooked Tool
Today we are diving into the most overlooked personal development practice. If you've been a student of personal development work for any amount of time, there are some basic practices that you need to ground yourself in and build your foundation on. Without a foundation, it's easy for us to build a home on unstable ground. There is one key factor that will bring joy in your life no matter what. Tune in to hear all about the importance of gratitude on your personal development journey. In this Episode: [ 2:00 ] What do a tick and the Eifel Tower have in common? [ 4:15 ] The cornerstones of your personal development work [ 5:30 ] The most critical component of a joy-filled life [ 12:15 ] It’s time to refocus your attention on gratitude     Joy Filling Quotes:  “Be extremely mindful about how you're engaging.” “Self-care is mental, emotional, physical and spiritual.” “Watch your joy skyrocket when we can have pura vida.” “Have gratitude just come alive in our very essence.” “It's time for all of us to stop focusing on what's wrong in this world.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
16:13 08/03/2021
This is a Game Changer
I am very excited to talk to you today about the three most powerful words that are guaranteed to change your life. Now, these are three words that I have personally adopted into my vocabulary on the regular. These three words are something that takes a tremendous amount of practice, patience, and willingness to adapt and utilize to its maximum potential. You can take advantage of them this week, this day, and this month, as you are progressing forward, living the most joyful lives imaginable. Tune in as I reveal the three most powerful words for a joy-filled life.   In this Episode:   ·       [ 2:45 ] What do you call a fish wearing a bowtie? ·       [ 4:45 ] How you can make suffering optional ·       [ 6:00 ] It’s my choice ·       [ 10:50 ] Ask yourself: where am I suffering?   Joy Filling Quotes: ·       “There are three words that can always help me, pull me back, and end my suffering.” ·       “It’s my choice.” ·       “If you have thoughts that cause you suffering beyond the initial pain, then that's your choice.” ·       “It's my choice to show up or not.” ·       “Where are you withholding joy from your life?”     Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
14:37 07/27/2021
Fear of the Future
"It's not the future that you're afraid of. It's repeating the past that makes you anxious." Today we're going to be talking about the fear of the unknown. We are chatting about ways to navigate and change the dynamic and relationship that you have with fear. Ultimately, fear does not have to be something you battle; it does not have to be something that controls you. Fear does not have to be something you are afraid of because it's so powerful and overwhelming. Instead, the fear of the unknown can be your ally. When we can learn to use our emotions as guides to help us navigate life and serve us to the highest potential. In this Episode: [ 5:50 ] The fear of the unknown is actually the fear of our past [ 8:30 ] We incorporated our past into our identities [ 11:40 ] It’s time to challenge our chapters [ 13:10 ] How I chose to change my identity and core beliefs   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We are capable of navigating the future.” “You want to look at the future; close your eyes for a moment, feel into your gut.” “Ask yourself, is the story written fairly?” “Your mind is constantly making assumptions.” “Move confidently forward through life.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
17:19 07/20/2021
Stop Yelling, Start Listening
"You need to calm down, you're being too loud." I'm not the only one that's noticed how loud life and people on the internet, news, and the media have gotten. It seems like everyone is yelling, and no one is listening. When this happens, there is no room for compromise, movement, or growth. Sadly, it is crippling our ability to advance forward. It's time to reclaim your joy by listening to your intuition. Remember, no one can hurt you without your permission. Tune in as I explain how we can turn down the noise and find ways back to love. In this Episode: It’s time to talk about how loud the world is right now [ 2:40 ] The one thing you need to know about marriage [ 7:30 ] Remember, it’s time to reclaim joy [ 9:40 ] The reality is no one can hurt you without your permission [ 12:00 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “It is easy and inevitable that you fall out of love, but it's essential that you find ways back to love.” “We're getting so riled up by everything that we are not even listening to ourselves.” “Mama, your intuition is on fire.” “The reality is no one can hurt you without your permission.” “We can find common ground and grow.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
16:46 07/13/2021
La Pause (take it from the French!)
Why is it important to pause? Today we're going to talk about something that I was reminded of by a sleep training coach. I'm a huge fan of sleep training to help your children understand the difference between day and night. Also, sleep training is an excellent way for children to get into a rhythm of sleep and allow moms into a rhythm of sleep. Tune in as I reveal the most powerful lesson that I learned from my sleep consultant and how you can apply it to your entire life.  In this Episode: My experience with sleep training [ 4:30 ] The importance of pausing in life [ 6:10 ] How pausing can be a powerful gift [ 8:15 ] Always remember to breathe during challenging moments [ 11:55 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We're very intentional about naps.” “We're very intentional about giving her space so she can learn to put herself to sleep.” “Create space in between our reactive selves and our conscious selves.” “A pause indicates to the brain that you're safe.” “Take a timeout and breathe.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy  
18:57 07/06/2021
Feel Better NOW with These 3-Simple Words
What is a mantra that suits you best? In this episode, we will talk about what you can say to yourself right now to feel better immediately. It doesn't matter what's going on, and it doesn't matter what kind of a day you've had. No matter what your bosses said, what your kids are doing, what your spouse is doing - this is the quick shift to feeling better right this second. I'm so excited to tell you about it because it is a mantra that I live by. It reminds me of just how powerful I am. Please tune in to this episode to hear what exactly it is!  In this Episode: [ 2:50 ] What does a house love to wear? [ 5:25 ] The three words you need to say to yourself right now [ 8:30 ] You are a conscious creator of your life [ 12:20 ] It’s time to reclaim your power   Joy Filling Quotes:  “It’s my choice.” “It's my choice to be present or to be numbing out.” “It's your choice to do the inner work or keep going down the path that you're on.” “It's your choice to do something or to do nothing.” “It's my choice to feel better.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
15:03 06/29/2021
Letting Go of Emotional Baggage
How can you let go of emotional baggage and move on? Today we will be talking about how to let go of emotional baggage that is weighing you down. First, let's acknowledge the fact that we all have it. There isn't anyone that has escaped their childhood, adolescence, teenage years, or college years without experiencing some hardship, trauma, controversy, betrayal, or pain that has hurt us in a certain way—having emotional baggage a part of being human. Your brain's primary job is to survive. It's going to hold on to memories and experiences of pain and anything that's perceived as a threat. Tune in as I reveal how you can start letting go of your emotional baggage. In this Episode: [ 3:00 ] How do you make a waterbed bouncier?   [ 6:15 ] Why you should say thank you to your brain [ 9:40 ] How you can let go of your emotional baggage   [ 16:15 ] What is your objective of not letting go? [ 20:55 ] Your happiness should not be contingent on other people   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Our relationships are our greatest teachers.” “We can intentionally choose to start releasing the past.” “We need to start with the inner work.” “Decide on what it is that we want and how do we want to feel.” “My happiness and joy should not be contingent upon other people's behaviors, actions, thoughts, and reasonings.” Resources: True To Your Core: CLICK HERE Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
26:07 06/22/2021
Fear of Letting People Down
Today we are going to talk about the fear of letting people down. There are a few different components to this: recognizing how powerful fear is and how influential fear can be on your decisions, actions, and reactions. I will share with you some powerful questions to ask yourself to understand better where this fear is coming from and how and why it's showing up. Tune in as I also reveal my three-step process and how to shift even the most irrational fears.  In this Episode: [ 2:20 ] How does a computer get drunk? [ 6:10 ] It’s time to do the inner work [ 12:10 ] Shifting your fears can be done in three easy steps [ 18:10 ] Affirm what it is that you need to hear   Joy Filling Quotes:  “It's okay to have a different opinion.” “You deserve joy, and you deserve to live a life of your own.” “Your fear is doing its job; fear is designed to protect you.” “Better things are on their way by letting this go.” “Thank you fear for showing me the threat.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
21:43 06/15/2021
Shifting Unrealistic Expectations
Why do people challenge their expectations? In this episode, we will talk about challenging your expectations to really determine if they're realistic or unrealistic. It has been said that expectations are the route to most heartache, and I know this to be absolutely true. Today is all about healing that heartache to bring and shed some light on your expectations, both spoken and unspoken, and set you on a path to success. In reality, expectations aren't a bad thing; however, it would help if you still challenged them. Tune in as I give tips on how you can do that. In this Episode: What is a scientist’s favorite dog breed? [ 2:25 ] We can use the same words, but the meanings are different [ 4:50 ] Find ways to communicate your needs + desires [ 5:55 ] Discover what matters when it comes to expectations [ 9:00 ] Get to the heart of your expectations [ 11:10 ] The biggest repercussion of expectations [ 13:55 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Expectations are the route to most heartache.” “Most expectations are based on assumptions.” “Our expectations often become unrealistic.” “There's more than one way to be able to do something or to meet a goal.” “Have compromises around your standards.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
20:32 06/08/2021
20-Second Happy Hack
In this episode, we will talk about one powerful way you can 'Happy Hack' your day. This is such an easy and fun thing that you can do right now, and I can't wait to share it with you! I'm going to challenge you not only to do this every day, but I'm going to challenge you to do it five times a day and just watch how you feel. It is so simple and yet so powerful that it is life-changing. Please tune in to the episode to hear what it is! In this Episode: Where is the best place in America to shop for a football uniform? [ 2:40 ]   About the power of smiling [ 4:00 ] I am challenging you to do this exercise five times a day [ 5:30 ]   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We can begin to share our joy with the rest of the world.” “Did you know that smiling for at least 20 seconds can have the same chemical reaction in your body as eating 2,000 Hershey Kisses?” “Put a smile on your face right now.” “Smiling is a zero-calorie activity.” “Make it your intent this week to smile.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
12:16 06/01/2021
You Can't Do It All
Today we are talking about how you can't do it all and how we can have peace with that. In fact, maybe you can bring back a little bit of joy as a result of it. So I'm going to share three different mind shifts that you need so you can have peace with the fact that you can't do it all. First, you need to recognize that you have one fuel tank. Then, create a list of everything that needs to be done and look at how much energy it's taking. Tune in as I give tips on prioritizing your fuel consumption and what you need to consider when thinking about what you truly desire. In this Episode: [ 2:15 ] What do you call a participation trophy in astronomy? [ 8:15 ] Recognize that you have one fuel tank   [ 11:10 ] How to intentionally prioritize your fuel consumption   [ 14:30 ] Don’t forget about your marriage too   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Are you prioritizing your fuel consumption intentionally?” “Because you only have 100%, you may need to give something up to acquire something else.” “When's the last time you really took into consideration what you want?” “Start to prioritize your fuel consumption intentionally."  Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
22:45 05/25/2021
Mom Guilt
This episode is one of those topics I think is hugely relevant for everyone. It's something that most of us struggle and suffer from; it weighs on us and constantly feeds into this idea that we're just not enough. We are talking about that pesky mom guilt that so many of us struggle with. I reveal the four ways we can begin to shift that guilt to bring us back to joy. I want to draw a line in the sand, and I want to begin to shift the tides on this guilt so that we can feel more peace. That way, we can realign back with our joy because guilt is one of the most destructive emotions we can harbor in our bodies. Luckily, every emotion we experience can actually be calibrated from the most damaging to the most constructive. So tune in for the four ways to shift your guilt into joy. In this Episode: [ 2:00 ] What do snails become when they die?   [ 5:00 ] Identify what you feel guilty about   [ 15:15 ] Don’t forget that you’re doing your best [ 17:20 ] Recognize your energetic fuel tanks [ 18:55 ] Challenge your expectations   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We want to raise that energy vibration.” “I'm human, and I make mistakes.” “Your guilt should not be leading your parental decisions.” “You're doing your best, and your best is good enough.” “Tomorrow I'm going to choose something different.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
23:44 05/18/2021
Stop Hitting the EASY Button
Today I am excited to talk about how you can stop hitting the easy button. Now the easy button is often the button you push when you are avoiding something or procrastinating. Sometimes you press the easy button when you are people-pleasing or when you are becoming a chameleon. Lastly, you can be pushing the easy button when you’re not using your voice and when you’re not advocating for your needs. These are easy things to do in the short term. When you make a hard choice, you speak up against something that everyone else believes. A hard choice is speaking your truth regardless of how that might affect the dynamic or other people's decisions and behaviors. You should be willing to advocate for your needs and ask for what you want versus allowing people to walk all over you. Tune in as I give you three powerful ways to shift and get your needs met. Eventually, you will have more joy because that's what this podcast is all about! In this Episode: [ 2:50 ] What do you call an elephant that doesn't matter? [ 7:10 ] Find clarity on where and how you are hitting the easy button [ 10:50 ] Challenge your fears   [ 12:45 ] Affirm that you are capable of doing hard things [ 14:05 ] Focus on the big picture   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Easy choices eventually lead to heartache.” “Affirm that you are capable of doing hard things.” “Challenge your excuse.” “Focus on the big picture versus the short-term gain.”   Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
18:27 05/11/2021
How To Speak Up
Why should you speak your truth? Today we are going to talk about how to speak up. For all of my soul sisters struggling to speak their truth and struggling to advocate for their needs - this episode is for you. We will talk about three things you can start doing right now to begin to speak and align better with your truth. For me, learning to speak up and to advocate for myself was indeed a challenging task. I always wanted others to feel welcomed, supported and uplifted. I started to realize that I don't do the same for myself. In fact, I often will put myself last. Just like I did, it's time for you to learn how to speak up, it's time for you to learn how to advocate for your needs, it's time for you to matter. In reality, you do matter - your truth matters, your needs, and your wants matter. When you can learn these skills of speaking up for yourself, you will be a better person. I'm going to teach you three powerful ways that you can begin to do that right now - it is going to be a game-changer in the dynamics of your relationships. In this Episode: [ 2:20 ] Why do trees seems suspicious on sunny days? [ 6:10 ] It’s important to take care of yourself   [ 9:25 ] Focus on the small ways that you can speak up [ 11:40 ] What is stopping you from speaking your truth?   [ 13:15 ] What do you want to accomplish from speaking up?   [ 14:50 ] Follow the boundary rules   Joy Filling Quotes:  “If we ignore it, the fear wins.” “Get a lot more clarity on what it is that you want to achieve.” “As a Rebel For Joy, we know we are committed to doing the inner work to live a joyful life.” “Be clear, kind, unemotional, and you make it a request.” “We want to learn to speak our truth in a calm, rational, loving demeanor.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
20:12 05/04/2021
How to Have Difficult Conversations
Are you avoiding a difficult conversation? Today we are talking about how to have difficult conversations. I cannot tell you how many emails I get from people struggling with being present or handling difficult conversations. In fact, the number one go-to when it comes to addressing these things is avoidance. We avoid, we procrastinate, or we find ourselves people-pleasing to try to accommodate others. In this episode, I give you three different inner tips and outer tips on how to change and transform. That way, you can actually start having those conversations that you may have been avoiding. I know all too well how to avoid, procrastinate, or people please when it comes to difficult conversations. Sometimes the weight of my truth was slowing me down. However, I now know that having those difficult conversations will make you feel so much more joyful. Tune in for tips about making those difficult conversations easier! In this Episode: [ 2:50 ] How do you weigh a millennial?   [ 8:30 ] Why you need to get clarity   [ 9:15 ] Ask your fear for guidance   [ 10:20 ] Trace it back [ 12:45 ] It’s time to do the outer work   Joy Filling Quotes:  “We want to begin to dive into those inner reasons so that we can then have the outer work.” “You cannot have outward success without doing the inner work first.” “We want to start asking our fear for guidance.” “Fear is there to guide you; fear is there to help point out the flaws.”   Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
22:02 04/27/2021
Stop Being Robbed of Joy
Is your joy sleeping? Today we are going to talk about awakening joy. I love talking about happiness and all the ways that we can bring and cultivate more joy in our life. We are going to talk a little bit more about what robs us of our joy and thinking inwards to how we can awaken more joy in our life. My goal isn't to just bring you joy right now, but to help you cultivate lasting joy, and everlasting joy is something that you nurture. Your natural nature is to be happy. So, it's time to awaken your joy. The first step in awakening your joy is identifying what has caused your happiness to go into slumber. By doing that investigational piece first, you can start identifying when and why your joy has gone into slumber. When you wake the bear of joy, you want it to stay awake; you don't want it to go back to sleep for these extended periods. Tune in as I give more tips on awakening your lasting joy. In this Episode: [ 5:25 ] Did you hear about the restaurant on the moon? [ 8:40 ] Identify what has caused your happiness to go into slumber   [ 12:15 ] Move into clarity and ask yourself what you want   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Your natural nature is to be happy.” “We get clarity on what we want so we can decide on how we're going to behave moving forward.” “You can't take action unless you have an understanding behind it.” “We want to awaken joy.” “I deserve happiness because I'm alive.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
17:24 04/20/2021
Do This Daily
Do you wake up with a smile on your face? I am excited about today's Do This Daily Conversation. These are my three D's, sister! Do these three things daily to allow yourself to be the happiest, most joyful version of YOU imaginable. I wake up with a smile on my face; I always look forward to starting the day. That is something I cultivated; I wasn't born that way. The three D's help me to maintain that level of happiness. The three D's are things that I am very intentional about daily because I know they create that foundation of everlasting joy. When I say everlasting, it's not like a fairy tale because fairy tales are not sustainable. If you were happy all the time without the complexity, dimension, and depth, would you appreciate your happiness? Of course not! So, tune in as reveal the three D's that will help you maintain happiness. In this Episode: [ 3:00 ] Why did the man hate his job as an origami teacher?   [ 5:20 ] Choose to deepen in your inner work [ 8:40 ] Discover something new [ 10:45 ] Dancing is an important component of happiness   Joy Filling Quotes:  “I wake up with a smile on my face. I'm looking forward to starting the day.” “Discover something new, learn something new, and expand that consciousness.” “The more that you move your body, the better.” “Be very intentional every day to dance and to move your booty.” “You're living a life by design.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
15:31 04/13/2021
Reset Your Happy (Now!)
How do you empower yourself to be happy? I am excited today to talk to you about resetting your happiness and the three essential elements that will always bring you back to joy. I feel after the year we've had, this conversation is needed more than ever before. All of us have experienced a lot of numbness and disconnection from the Coronavirus, riots, and fires. These three basic elements of joy will be a foundation for the rest of your life. If you're like me, you might feel it almost instantaneously. But for most people, it might take weeks of practice before you actually start to reap the rewards. I know that we live in a world of instant gratification. We don't like waiting for things. However, trust me, it's worth it! More than anything, I hope you start to practice all three of them but at least commit to one today. In this Episode: [ 2:55 ] Why does Humpty Dumpty love Autumn? [ 6:30 ] How we can be gardeners of our own mindset [ 7:55 ] Gratitude [ 11:10 ] Affirmations   [ 13:00 ] Intentionality   Joy Filling Quotes:  “I’ve spent a lot of time and energy doing the inner work to allow that to be my truth.” “I know that I am strong enough, I know that I am good enough, I know that I am worthy enough.” “When we can affirm every day, if we can be grateful every day, watch what happens to your happiness level.” “With cultivating joy and with creating happiness - I'm very intentional.”   Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
18:30 04/06/2021
Chronic Procrastination
This episode is the fifth degree of self-sabotage, which means we're diving deep into procrastination today. Now I know this is a big topic that affects a lot of you. So I'm going to do my best to give you that overview and a deeper understanding of what it means to be a procrastinator and reinforce those three steps on how to end it for real. A procrastinator is a person who is habitually putting off doing things; they are consciously aware that they're not following through. A procrastinator has good intent; they plan on taking action later. Tune in as I go super deep into procrastination and how you can stop this self-sabotaging behavior. In this Episode: [ 3:40 ] What does a vegan zombie like to eat? [ 5:20 ] All about procrastinators [ 13:40 ] Get to the root of your procrastination [ 16:40 ] Remember, there is nothing wrong with you!   Joy Filling Quotes:  “A lot of my self-esteem was built on this perception of what others thought of me.” “If you do not do the deep dive, it will not be a lasting transformation.” “What are you most afraid of?” “There's a behavioral pattern and a thought pattern under the surface that is running the show.” “Information is going to empower you.” Resources: Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
21:42 03/30/2021
Let's Talk: Inconsistent Behavior
Do you struggle with consistency? We are continuing our conversation in-depth about ending the cycle of self-sabotage. This episode is explicitly talking about the behavioral pattern of inconsistency. Do you find yourself inconsistent with your work, your marketing, your health, your finances, or your fitness? We're going to dive a little deeper into this specific behavior. So, what does it mean to be inconsistent? It means you are not staying the same throughout. However, you can't be the same version of yourself throughout life; you learn too much, you acquire too much information, and you make changes. So, it’s essential to recognize that staying the same is an unrealistic standard that you're not going to meet. Inconsistency also means acting at variance with one's owns principles. For example, if one of your principles is drinking more water, yet you find yourself drinking soda – you are acting inconsistently on your principles. Well, inconsistency is just a behavior; it's a behavioral pattern that we want to shift. When we are inconsistent, it is just a habit. To shift away from being inconsistent, we need to understand why we have this behavior. Why do we allow ourselves to get so distracted so quickly? Once we know this, we can make the shift. Tune in as I chat about the importance of understanding your ‘why’ when it comes to inconsistency. In this Episode: [ 3:25 ] What time does a duck wake up? [ 4:55 ] How you are inconsistent with your principles [ 8:30 ] Recognize that inconsistency is a behavioral pattern that you want to shift [ 15:55 ] It’s time to understand why you are inconsistent   Joy Filling Quotes:  “Most people who are inconsistent really fear the unknown.” “You have different challenges at different seasons and different times.” “Inconsistency is just a behavior.” “It's so important for us to get back into our bodies.”   Resources: Ending Self- Sabotage (for real): https://rebelsforjoy.com/sabotage/ Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
20:52 03/23/2021
Stop Avoiding & Start Doing!
What are you running away from? In this series, we have three more episodes to talk about the five different degrees of self-sabotage. So far, we've covered people-pleasing and perfectionism. In this episode, we're going to talk about avoiding and distracting. If you're just tuning in to this series, I highly recommend you go back and make sure to listen to ending self-sabotage for real parts one and two. Often, when we find ourselves playing the game of procrastination, we identify ourselves as weak or something is wrong with us. However, that's not the case. Self-sabotage is just behavioral patterns that are playing out. Remember, they don't serve us anymore. When we can think of them in that way, they become less emotionally charged and easier to transform. So, let's dive into avoiding. An avoider is a person who actively keeps away from not doing something. The keyword in this definition that I want to highlight is “actively.” An avoider is usually consciously aware that they're in avoidance. Now, that's important because there is a significant distinguishing difference between avoidance and procrastination. Procrastinators often aren't aware that they're procrastinating because they're stuck in a behavioral pattern. They're doing behaviors that will keep them away from something, whereas avoiders come from an emotional charge - it's more of a reaction. Tune as I reveal what you need to do to stop this self-sabotaging behavior and how you can embrace the pain and release the stress. In this Episode: [ 2:45 ] Why should you sit in the corner every time you get cold? [ 3:55 ] The reason we find ourselves avoiding + procrastinating.  [ 4:55 ] The difference between avoiding + procrastinating   [ 8:10 ] It’s time to become aware of how you are avoiding  [ 13:40 ] Why you need to embrace the pain [ 20:35 ] How to release the anxiety + stress    Joy Filling Quotes:  “Avoiders want to escape their thoughts and feelings.” “Ultimately, avoiders are trying to avoid feeling like a failure.” “When we avoid pain, we will get sucked into suffering.” “Your fear can no longer be the motive for why you are doing what you're doing.” “It is time to just give to yourself the same joy you wish upon your children.” Resources: Ending Self- Sabotage (for real): https://rebelsforjoy.com/sabotage/ Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
25:41 03/16/2021
Aligning Your Purpose with Amber Lilyestrom
What’s your wildest dream? Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding strategist and business coach, author and speaker. She has been featured by Forbes, Entrepreneur and Working Mother Magazine. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast, which has over 100,000 monthly downloads. and the creator of the Ignite Your Soul Summit, an annual live event in Portsmouth, NH. In this episode, we jump right into purpose. Purpose is your reason for creating or doing something. Also, purpose can mean the reason you exist. Not having a purpose or denying yourself of your purpose can really rob you of joy. When you do not align with your purpose, when you're not on the right path, you feel frustrated and create destructive habits that result in a lack of fulfillment and joy. It's critical to know your truth and be intimately connected with yourself. That way, you can communicate and speak that truth however it manifests for you. Later, Amber reveals what to do when you are growing faster than your partner. Most women are focused on their personal development and growth. Plus, their level of consciousness is at a place where they understand the need to really commit to that work. Sometimes, this can be frustrating when you are growing faster than the one that you love. It will be critical to get to a place where you can recognize that you and your partner are different people. Luckily, Amber gives loads of tips on exactly how to do the inner work. Tune in as we chat about the importance of acknowledging your dreams in order to create deep changes.  In this Episode: [ 1:45 ] All about Amber   [ 5:20 ] The foundation of your purpose [ 8:20 ] Finding alignment into your meaning [ 14:20 ] What to do when you’re growing faster than your partner [ 21:20 ] Every situation is an opportunity to have a mirror moment [ 32:30 ] It’s time to acknowledge your dreams   Joy Filling Quotes:  “I believe that every single person on this planet has a purpose.” “We all have a collective purpose to feel joy.” “The meaning of life is to be in joy.” “If the dream is in you, it's for you.” “Give yourself permission to dream.” Resources: Amber’s Website: https://www.amberlilyestrom.com/ Amber on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amberlilyestrom/ Amber on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BrandLoveCoach Free Affirmation Downloads: https://rebelsforjoy.com/hip-hop Free Forgiveness Quick Start Formula : CLICK HERE Free Boundaries Quick Start Formula: CLICK HERE IG: www.instagram.com/rebelsforjoy IG Personal: @Bonniekelly.me Facebook Group www.facebook.com/groups/rebelsforjoy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/rebelsforjoy
41:20 03/09/2021