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Life After Menopause

Because we don’t become invisible when we reach a certain age! In fact, many of us begin to question our lives and the way things are. This is the women-centred post-menopausal podcast where where women share their stories, experts and specialists share information and knowledge about health, wellbeing, finances, style, diets, and relationships, and where we also look into the unique challenges that older women face in society, because we don’t just disappear when you get to midlife! We’ll be discussing things like the demonisation of older women, the feeling of being invisible, redefining yourself, creating a life that makes you want to leap out of bed in the morning, and the stigma of ageing. I’m so excited to share this with you all, thanks for being part of this journey with me. Don’t forget to like, subscribe and share the podcast. 💕 www.lifeaftermenopause.net

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Why it's crucial to process our negative emotions with Dr Marny Lishman
Many of us grew up with people telling us not to be angry or not to be "ridiculous" - this idea that we can show some emotion, but we have to suppress others. Dr Marny Lishman is a psychologist who joins me this episode to talk about adaptability, wellbeing and change. After the last couple of years, many of us have become more stressed, unhappy, and ultimately mentally unwell. And unfortunately, we have been grown up without being taught to properly process negative emotions, leaving us overwhelmed, and triggered at any moment. Join us in this episode to talk about mental health and how you can best identify and express your emotions.    Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep230
42:46 20/02/2024
Suzanne Storrie: Creating a Routine for Focus and Goal Achievement
In this thought-provoking episode, join us as we venture into the multifaceted world of Suzanne Storrie, a former corporate executive turned dairy farmer and executive coach. Suzanne takes us through her incredible life transformation, sharing insights on how cultivating a meaningful routine can anchor us in the present and direct us towards a future filled with intention and purpose. Suzanne is a former high-profile executive with a diverse career at NRL, Layton, CBA, and Qantas. Amidst the challenges of COVID, she made a transformative shift from corporate leadership to becoming a dairy farmer and executive coach. Her story explores the complexities of balancing vastly different lifestyles and finding renewed confidence and peace.    Key Takeaways: How to establish a daily routine, like the "Sphere of Silence," to enhance focus  How embracing change is pivotal for personal growth and developing self-reliance. Learn how to prioritise tasks to maintain a balance between work, family, and self-care. Why Suzzane transitioned into farming, offsetting the demands of her previous corporate roles. Why transition periods offer unique opportunities for re-alignment with personal values and setting new goals. Quote: We all want to see that we're making progress... the research says you're 42% more likely to achieve your goals if you write your goals down. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 0:01:11 - Dwelling on past mistakes and regrets 0:04:12 - Letting go of anger, sadness, and bitterness 0:07:08 - Learning to detach and focus on the present 0:08:40 - Handing over responsibilities and seeking support 0:11:03 - Redefining the mother-daughter relationship in a business context 0:14:38 - Overcoming self-indulgence and sharing personal experiences 0:18:12 - Dealing with unhappiness in a relationship without a major reason Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep229
47:39 13/02/2024
The Guilt and Grief of Midlife
Midlife comes with a whole heap of angst, worries, concerns, confronting changes, all of it. In this episode, I take a look at how to handle all the changes that are going on without losing your mind (too much!) Find out more here: lifeaftermenopause.net/ep228
24:10 06/02/2024
Fake Forgiveness, Passive Aggression and Why Being Grateful Suppresses Women’s Power
In this episode, Karen reflects on her personal journey of self-discovery and shares their thoughts on gratitude and forgiveness. She explores the idea of gratitude being linked to the patriarchy and how it may be used to suppress women's power. She also discuss forgiveness and express her skepticism towards the concept of "fake forgiveness" and emphasises the importance of honesty and setting boundaries, rather than avoiding confrontation and pretending to forgive.    Key Takeaways:  How gratitude can occasionally create feelings of powerlessness contrasting with the empowering effect of appreciation. The association of gratitude with dependency may be linked to the patriarchy and the suppression of women's power. How appreciation allows us to take ownership of our creations, providing a more empowering perspective. The consequences of "fake forgiveness" and passive-aggressive behavior Quote "Fake it till you make it. I don't like that. To me, it's dishonest."   Timestamps 03:12 - Differentiating between gratitude and appreciation 06:44 - Exploring the potential connection between gratitude and the patriarchy 09:51 - Challenging societal expectations of gratitude and appreciation 12:03 - Criticising the insincerity of some expressions of forgiveness and gratitude 15:16 - The importance of being true to oneself 19:07 - Triggering experiences and self-reflection 20:51 - Drawing the line and sending a message to the universe Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep227
23:14 30/01/2024
Dr Ivana Matic-Stancin: Approaching Perimenopause Holistically, and Why Women Need Each Other During and After Menopause
Dr. Ivana Matic Stanson discusses the importance of taking a holistic approach to perimenopausal health. She also highlights the societal messages and expectations that can add to the stress and overwhelm experienced by women during this transition. By providing education, support, and guidance, Dr. Stanson helps women navigate perimenopause and embrace the next stage of their lives with confidence and well-being. Dr. Ivana Matic Stanson is a perimenopausal health specialist, she also provides one-on-one consultations, group appointments, and online coaching to help women navigate the challenges of perimenopause and transition to a healthier and happier stage of life.   Key Takeaways: Why does perimenopause demand a holistic approach What are the factors that can contribute to the severity and duration of perimenopausal symptoms How mindfulness and reflection can help women navigate the challenges of perimenopause  Why understanding the physiological changes happening in the body during perimenopause is crucial for women to make informed decisions Quotes: "Perimenopausal health is about addressing all possible angles because we are such complex beings." - Dr. Ivana Matic Stanson Timestamp 01:25 - Dr. Ivana Matic Stanson's approach to holistic perimenopausal health 07:28 - Importance of community and sense of belonging in healthcare 12:02 -  Perimenopausal symptoms and the importance of lifestyle and stress management 19:42 - Slowing down, reflecting, and finding a new way of being 25:28 - Understanding the physiology of the body is crucial for managing symptoms. 30:39 - Adjusting eating habits and self-care is necessary during menopause. 36:56 - Transitioning to perimenopause in a healthy and informed way 37:23 - Conclusion and closing remarks     Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep226
39:13 23/01/2024
Lyndal Stellenberg: Overcoming Body Image Issues, and Embracing Summer
Lyndal Sterenberg, founder of Es Una, talks about her journey in creating a swimwear brand that focuses on body confidence and comfort. Lyndal emphasises the importance of finding swimwear that takes away the anxiety many women feel about their bodies and allows them to enjoy summer activities without self-consciousness. She also discusses the impact of social media on body image and the need for women to embrace their bodies and share their stories.   In addition to her work with Es Una, Lyndal is involved in a program called Making Her Mark, which aims to encourage women and girls to pursue nontraditional careers. She shares her passion for supporting women in male-dominated industries and helping them find the courage to pursue their goals. Key Takeaways: How finding the right swimwear that takes away that anxiety can help women enjoy summer activities without self-consciousness. Why women should embrace their bodies and share their stories. How social media can have a negative impact on body image How to build confidence and overcoming your inner critic. Lindell's challenges and successes encountered in establishing a Es Una Quotes: "Finding swimwear that takes away the anxiety many women feel about their bodies allows them to enjoy summer activities without self-consciousness." - Lyndal Stellenberg Timestamps 03:40  The inspiration behind Lyndal's swimwear designs 05:38  The impact of social media on body confidence 12:23  The importance of courage and confidence to enjoy summer activities 15:34  Overcoming inner critic through research and planning 17:44  Building confidence by taking on challenges 19:32  Lyndal's journey into fashion design 24:29  Addressing individual body issues and finding solutions Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep225
32:22 16/01/2024
Life After Menopause: The Importance of Trusting Your Intuition and Recognising Toxic Relationships
In this episode, Karen reflects on her personal experiences over the past year and discusses the importance of trusting one's gut instinct and recognising toxic relationships. She shares her journey of post-menopause and how it has brought clarity and a sense of liberation.  She also delves into her recent business experiences, highlighting the importance of trusting her instincts and recognising toxic relationships.    Key Takeaways: How to trust your intuition Why sharing personal experiences allows for connection and validation. How to recognise the people you tolerate in your life and evaluate if they are toxic. Discovering your untapped potential - why it matters Empowerment and coping strategies in menopause women Quote: "I am thoroughly postmenopausal and very glad for it. I cannot tell you how nice it is to be post menopause because there's just so many more things available." Timestamp 00:31 - Transition to focusing on life after menopause and personal experiences 04:45 - Recap of the past year, including separation, house sale, and podcasting business 05:26 - Difficulty in ending relationships with people who are "just okay" 06:37 - Negative impact of marketing relationship on podcast downloads and business 09:14 - Realisation that many "tolerated" people are toxic narcissists 10:26 - Frustration with people who don't learn from feedback 12:06 - Importance of sharing experiences and validating others' feelings   Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep224
14:53 09/01/2024
The most dramatic year of my life: Turning 60, Separation, Moving House
In this episode, Karen O'Connor reflects on her podcast journey and shares updates on her life over the past year. She discusses the vulnerability and challenges of sharing personal thoughts and experiences. Karen explores the concept of finding purpose in life and the pressure society places on individuals to have a singular purpose. She also delves into her decision to take a break from her long-term marriage to rediscover herself and her desires. Karen highlights the importance of addressing discomfort and making changes to live a more fulfilling life.   Key Takeaways: Why finding a singular purpose in life can be challenging, and it's okay to have multiple purposes and goals. How goals can feel restrictive, and how focusing on outcomes and experiences can provide more freedom and possibilities. The importance of  prioritising one's own wants and needs instead of solely focusing on others. How society's expectations and gender roles can limit personal growth and fulfillment. How taking action and addressing discomfort can lead to personal growth and a more authentic life. Quote: "I don't have a single purpose in life, a single goal that I want to achieve, a single thing that I'm going to do and make it my life's meaning." Timestamp 03:37 - The limitations of setting goals and finding meaning 08:17 - Exploring the idea of spending time apart in a long-term relationship 13:26 - The difficulty of making the decision to separate 18:07 - Taking action and embracing uncertainty is perceived as unusual 24:11 - Gender differences are mostly a result of societal training 27:49 - Children's response to bullying is ostracising the bully. 33:05 - Tolerating inappropriate behavior as a woman. 35:52 - Realisation of tolerating discomfort and danger in life. 39:14 - Feeling the cognitive dissonance of being a woman in patriarchy.
42:57 02/01/2024
The Best of 2023: Menopause, Toxic Relationships, Essential Oils and more!
Karen O'Connor reflects on the most popular episodes of her podcast from the past year. She highlights snippets from interviews with various guests, covering topics such as aromatherapy for menopause symptoms, managing hormones in menopause, toxic relationships, essential oils, and the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and finding ways to cope with trauma and stress. Key Takeaways: How aromatherapy can be helpful for managing menopause symptoms, hormone levels and sensitivities. How recognising and understanding patterns of behavior can help break negative cycles and promote personal growth. Coping with Trauma from both major events and smaller, cumulative experiences, often leading to addictive behaviors. Managing stress and promoting mental well-being through exercise and meditation Why Gaslighting Awareness is vital in preserving one's thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Quotes: "Menopause is not a Xanax deficiency. It's about supporting our bodies and finding ways to alleviate symptoms." - Lisa Baker     Timestamp 07:41 - The risks and benefits of ingesting essential oils with aromatherapist Amy Anthony 12:03 - How Lisa Baker helps women through the menopause period 15:25 - Reclaiming agency over body and health choices 17:14 - Fear of expressing ourselves and being accepted 20:43 - Dealing with fragility, anxiety, and uncertainty 25:00 - Importance of guidelines for letting go of stress and trauma. 27:22 - Breaking negative relationship patterns through therapy and self-awareness. 30:51 - Coping with toxic behavior by focusing on meditation and exercise. 35:24 - Differentiating between extreme gaslighting and normal relationship dynamics.       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep222
36:33 26/12/2023
The Shocking Truth Behind Your Menopausal Weight Gain with Sylvia North
In this episode, Sylvia North discusses the impact of insulin resistance on women's health during perimenopause and menopause. If you have gained weight and are having difficulty losing weight, you may have a resistance to insulin. As we get older we lose a lot of estrogen which can lead to this resistance, and increases the risk of heart problems, bone density issues, and diabetes. Sylvia shares how best to manage blood sugar levels and the best diet for menopausal women. She also delves into the role of stress, exercise, and sleep in maintaining metabolic health. What is insulin resistance? Insulin resistance occurs when cells become less efficient at using different types of fuels, such as glucose and fat. Key Takeaways: How insulin resistance induces metabolic alterations, elevates the risk of chronic diseases and affects the body's ability to use glucose and fat efficiently, resulting in weight gain and difficulty losing weight. The importance of adequate protein intake during menopause to support muscle and bone health. Why balanced meals and snacks are essential for stable blood sugar levels Factors contributing to insulin resistance and metabolic health Recommended diet and holistic approaches to maintaining metabolic health during menopause Quotes: And insulin is a storage hormone, it's a growth hormone. It also makes you hungry.  Chapters 01:12 - Hidden impacts of perimenopause and menopause 03:24 - Insulin resistance and its effects on the body 09:00 - Impact of high carb diet on brain fog 11:15 - Managing blood sugar during perimenopause 16:52 - Good nutrition during perimenopause 22:29 - Use hand size as a guide for protein portion sizes 24:21 - Importance of getting enough protein in meals 26:38 - Considerations for intermittent fasting and protein intake 30:11 - Strategies for weight loss and improving metabolic flexibility 36:35 - The best diet and reducing hunger cravings   Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep221
41:39 19/12/2023
Navigating Relationships with Ex-In-Laws During Christmas with Nancy Diaz
In this episode Nancy Diaz, shares her journey of moving to Australia and finding her calling in working with this specific population. Nancy emphasizes the importance of self-care and the challenges faced by women in balancing cultural expectations and their own desires. She also discusses the impact of separation on migrant families and offers advice on how to navigate relationships with ex-in-laws during special occasions. Nancy highlights the power of mindfulness and the effectiveness of brain spotting in trauma therapy. Nancy is a trauma-informed therapist, speaker, and host of the Global Citizen Therapy podcast. She specializes in working with women of color who are daughters of immigrants. Nancy is originally from the US but has been living in Australia for the past five years. Key Takeaways: Why women of color and daughters of immigrants often feel a heavy burden to repay their parents for the opportunities they have. How gender plays a significant role in the responsibilities placed on women from a young age. The importance of having an open and empathetic communication with family members about expectations and desires for special occasions. How mindfulness can help individuals become more in tune with their bodies and advocate for their own needs. What is Brain spotting, a somatic approach can help access and process trauma stored in the body. Quotes: " I realised that gender played such an important role, especially across different cultures, across different countries." "Just because it was like that in the past, sometimes we just have to grieve and realize that's how it used to be and those memories will always be with us."   Timestamps 03:27  Common experiences of women of color and daughters of immigrants 08:11  Impact of family separation on migrant families 13:13  Multilayered issues faced by daughters of immigrants. 14:09  Isolation and stress for parents with limited English proficiency. 17:07  Dealing with extended family during separation and migration. 19:26  Finding community and acceptance in other ways. 23:19  Importance of strong communication in handling relationships and disappointments 25:48  Breaking generational cycles by having uncomfortable conversations 29:58  Shifting conversations to lighter activities to create a safe space 33:47  Embracing a range of tools and techniques for personal growth 34:47  Combination of mindfulness and other tools for individual effectiveness Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep220
47:51 12/12/2023
Navigating the Holidays After Divorce: Tips for Dealing with Your Ex’s Family with Laura Petrie
In this episode Laura Petrie talks about how to navigate relationships with ex-in-laws after a separation or divorce, particularly during the holiday season. Laura shares five tips for managing these situations, including setting up for success, putting the children first, setting boundaries, thinking long term, and taking care of oneself. She emphasises the importance of planning, self-awareness, and maintaining a positive mindset when dealing with challenging family dynamics.  Laura is a counselor and coach based in Melbourne. She specialises in helping women navigate midlife issues, including separation and divorce. With her personal experience and professional expertise, she provides guidance and support to individuals going through challenging life transitions.   Key Takeaways: Why setting clear expectations and communicating with your ex and their family is crucial before holiday events. How to prioritise the well-being of your children while also considering your own mental health. How to establish personal boundaries and decide what topics are off-limits for discussion. How to navigate co-parenting effectively begins with understanding it as a long-term commitment.  How to prioritise your well-being involves practicing self-care and having a plan in place for managing stress and emotions, particularly during and after family gatherings Chapters 02:24  Challenges of dealing with ex's family during Christmas 04:14  Importance of preparation and clear communication 09:29  Putting the children first while considering mental health 10:53  Balancing children's needs with personal well-being 11:51  Coping strategies for visiting ex's family during holidays 13:48  Setting boundaries and managing emotions during family events 16:15  Importance of planning and preparing for social situations 17:50  Having topics and responses prepared for awkward conversations 21:35  Thinking about long-term co-parenting and future events 22:43  Challenges of maintaining a connection with ex after divorce 27:37  Take care of yourself; plan self-care activities 35:05  Advice for mothers or mother-in-laws hosting Christmas lunch Quotes: "Set yourself, your ex, and your children up for success by clarifying logistics and expectations before holiday events." - Laura Petrie "Decide who you want to be and how you want to present yourself in challenging situations." - Laura Petrie "Remember that co-parenting is a long game, and you will be connected to your ex for the rest of your life." - Laura Petrie       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep219
39:06 05/12/2023
Why Diets Fail During Menopause with Rachel Freiman
It's one of the dreaded symptoms of menopause: The Menopause Belly, the weight that can't be shifted no matter what you do. It's as though suddenly, everything that used to work, no longer works anymore, it actually makes things worse. Which leads to the question: what can we do? Not just to stay healthy but to lose that belly fat and begin to feel good about ourselves again? In the quest for better health and fitness, particularly during menopause, it's crucial to understand why traditional dieting approaches often fall short and how a more holistic view of nutrition can provide lasting solutions. Rachel Freiman, author and founder of Mindstrong Fitness, discusses the neuroscience behind dieting and the importance of understanding nutrition as a skill. She explains why diets don't work, how any kind of restriction isn't sustainable and how to fuel your body the right way to achieve your weight loss goals. She also highlights the impact of nutrition on menopause symptoms and the importance of raising one's energy and vibration to live a fulfilled life. Key Takeaways:  The real reason why diets don't work. What macros are and why we need to understand them. The importance of personalised nutrition plans in sustainable weight loss. Menopause does not have to negatively impact metabolism; proper nutrition can help fire up the metabolism. How nutrition plays a significant role in minimising menopause symptoms such as hot flashes and sleep disturbances. How taking control of nutrition and raising one's energy and vibration can lead to a more fulfilled life. Chapters: 0:03:45  Rachel's passion for teaching nutrition and debunking diet myths 0:07:34  Changes in metabolism and exercise requirements for women 0:08:46  The biology of aging and metabolism 0:10:39  Trusting the body and firing up metabolism through nutrition 0:11:04  The importance of lean muscle mass for longevity 0:11:28  Importance of resistance training for women as they age 0:13:34  Traditional diets based on restriction are not sustainable 0:15:22  Personalized approach to nutrition using macros 0:22:00  Impact of menopause on metabolism and hormones. 0:33:55  Diet industry's marketing and lack of empowerment 0:37:24  Immediate empowerment and transformation through taking control 0:39:19  Mindset shift from all in, all out to continuous progress Quotes "The world does not need another personal trainer. The world does not need another diet system"  "We can absolutely fire up your metabolism through nutrition alone" - Rachel Freiman Listen, watch and find out more here: https://mmmpodcast.me/ep218
42:09 28/11/2023
The Life Changing And Unknown Side Effect of Menopause with Mairi Thompson
In this episode, Mairi Thomson talks about a little known side effect of peri-menopause and menopause: bone density loss.  There is a huge need for women to become aware of this condition and be proactive in managing their bone density before any loss becomes irreversible.  In this episode, Mairi Thompson shares her own experience of being diagnosed with osteopenia, a condition that can lead to osteoporosis, and how it prompted her to find out as much as she could about the topic and then teach others about the importance of bone health. Key Takeaways: Bone density loss is a silent symptom of menopause that often goes unnoticed and unaddressed. Women over 40 are at a higher risk for osteopenia and osteoporosis due to hormonal changes and other factors. Building strong bones before entering perimenopause can help prevent further bone density loss. Strength training and weight-bearing exercises are crucial for maintaining bone health during menopause. Increasing protein intake, especially at breakfast, can support muscle and bone health. Timestamps: 0:02:00 | Mari's experience with perimenopause and shock of symptoms 0:05:18 | The importance of bone density and risk factors for osteoporosis 0:10:29 | Cost and coverage of bone scan test 0:11:46 | The impact of oestrogen in menopause 0:12:39 | How to monitor oestrogen levels and manage symptoms 0:16:56 | The changes we can make in exercise, diet, and stress management to support bone health 0:17:25 | The impact of hormones, metabolism, and inflammation on weight and energy 0:18:29 | Differences in fat storage and energy utilisation during menopause 0:21:30 | How inflammation and stress affect food absorption and fat storage 0:25:43 | Why doing the same exercise routine won't work in menopause 0:26:46 | How menopause can negatively impact body confidence and self-esteem 0:31:43 | Why oestrogen is necessary for building muscle mass 0:33:20 | How to embrace menopause as a time of reflection and empowerment 0:39:03 | How to get in touch with Mari Thompson at BodyMindBones.com Quotes: "You can't cut out health the symptoms of perimenopause, but you can make your symptoms better." - Mari Thompson "If you can build your bone density bank before you hit perimenopause, you have a much better chance of maintaining your bone density." - Mari Thompson "Strength and weight training has been proven to burn belly fat and build muscle mass." - Mari Thompson Listen, watch and find out more here: https://mmmpodcast.me/ep217  
40:17 21/11/2023
The Ultimate Midlife Guide To Wokeness With Nina Thom, Author
Are you "woke"? Are you against "woke" and what it stands for? Do you understand the term? Do you know what it's really talking about? In these days of fast-changing terminology, a common word can change its meaning and the implications of being labelled by that word in an instant. "Woke" is a classic example of that. Nina Thom, author of “Woke or Not: A Guide to Woke for Older People,” joins us to discuss the concept of “woke”, what it is and how it came about. We also discuss the anti-woke movements and that modern day phenomenon, cancel culture. This is about giving midlife women a comprehensive understanding of woke and its impact on society. Find out more, connect with Nina and buy the book here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep216 
43:30 14/11/2023
Mastering Jet Lag: The Ultimate Guide to Beating Travel Exhaustion
Did you know that Jet Lag can have a much wider impact beyond just being tired for a few days?  Most of us know that jet lag disrupts our body clock, leading to daytime sleepiness, brain fog, and mood changes, but how many of us have considered the wider impact that these disruptions can have on those around us? Dr Steven Jasper explains so many things about jet lag that you may not be aware of: preventing jet lag, recovering from jet lag as quickly as possible, minimising the impact of jet lag on our private lives, work lives and overall health. Join us now to find out what type of body clock you have and how you can work with your body type to mitigate the effects of jet lag. Key Takeaways: Jet lag can have a significant impact on performance, mood, and overall well-being. Morning people may find flying west more challenging, while evening people may struggle more with flying east. Supporting employees who travel frequently includes allowing breaks and time outside, delegating tasks, and providing time off to recover from jet lag. In families, open communication and understanding are crucial when dealing with jet lag. Respecting individual body clocks and chronotypes can help prevent and manage jet lag. Key Points: 04:12   Impact of jet lag on business travellers’ performance 05:57   Impact of jet lag on relationships and family life 08:11   Explanation of what causes jet lag 09:04   Factors that influence susceptibility to jet lag 09:30   Difference in jet lag experience based on morning or evening preference 16:30   The serious health effects from jet lag 27:45   Challenges for partners left behind during travel 28:36   Impact of travel on family life 32:16   Using light therapy to prevent jet lag 36:50   The need for employers to support workers who travel frequently Quote: "Jet lag can have an impact on relationships, as it can lead to irritability and strain." - Dr. Steve Jasper   Connect with Steve and find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep215
40:23 07/11/2023
Becoming Your Own Best Friend: Ten Steps to Liking Who You Are | Pip Mckay
Many of us do things to "improve" ourselves, whether that's personal development courses, reading self-help books or listening to podcasts (thanks!), but how many of us do those things because we believe there's something wrong with us? The problem is the person we have to spend the most time with is ourselves, so let me ask you this: how much do you like yourself? Do you focus on what you've done wrong, on what you did or didn't do when you should or shouldn't have done it? Are you one of those people who compares themselves to others only to realise how much better other people are in life, in looks, in achievements? Personally - and not being a perfectionist in any way, shape or form, nor am I judgemental or critical (particularly towards myself) - this is exactly what I do: I focus on what I did wrong, what I could have done better and, for the most part, I'm not happy with myself about the whole thing, so the idea of liking myself is possibly a bit far-fetched, maybe even a tad outrageous. Join me in conversation with one of Australia’s most respected coaches and trainers in the fields of personal development, NLP and Coaching, Pip MacKay.   Find out more about Pip, register for her upcoming free 1-day event and connect with her here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep214
71:48 31/10/2023
How To Survive Medical Trauma with Shana Pereira
When trauma of any kind descends on us, it can be very difficult to keep from sinking into depression, hopelessness and apathy but some people seem to manage it. How do you manage your emotions, take responsibility while being open to other people's ideas, and allow your loved ones to support you without taking onboard their upset and pain? Also, how do you make the best decisions for yourself and your life while you're in the middle of all fear, pain and upset? Anyone who's ever been told that they or a loved one has a life threatening medical condition will know how the mind and body can shut down. You don't hear things, you can't function, your whole existence seems to initially be one of numbness followed by overwhelming and often incapacitating emotions. Unfortunately, there are decisions to be made, people to notify, things to do. At age 35, Shana Pereira was told that her kidneys were failing. Five years later and still waiting for a transplant, she was told that her heart was also failing. At Christmas 2020, while doctors were telling her that a heart and kidney donor had been found, Shana went into cardiac arrest and flatlined for 2 minutes. She was rushed to surgery where they manually kept her heart beating until the replacement arrived several hours later. Now Shana is supporting other people going through challenging medical experiences about how to take care of yourself emotionally and physically and how to set yourself up with a medical team that's going to give you support in a way that works best for you. In other words, how to take responsibility for your own medical journey while allowing your doctors to perform to the best of their ability. It's not about taking control, it's about creating a team. Join us now and download Shana's book here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep213
47:53 24/10/2023
The Unique Challenges Facing Women Of Colour During Menopause
Menopause can be a very stressful time but imagine what it's like when that's compounded with a healthcare system that's biased against you.   Studies show that women of colour experience menopause at an earlier age and with much stronger symptoms than their caucasian counterparts.   Menopause can be daunting and challenging enough because it's still not openly discussed or understood by many women or healthcare professionals. When you add into that mix the lack of representation and research focused on menopause in women of colour, it can lead to disparities in healthcare. Dr Monica Williams talks to us today about the experience that African American women have through menopause, how menopause can hit earlier, how health advice is often not sought because of systemic bias against women of colour, how beliefs such as black women don't feel pain are still present in some medical professionals today. We also talk about multi-disciplinary approaches to menopause, bio-identical hormones and the need for open discussion and sharing among women of all races.       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep213
44:33 17/10/2023
Speak Your Truth: The Path to Finding Your Voice with Emmanuela Grace
Our voices naturally change over time through age, hormones and all the different life experiences that we have. But what happens when your voice changes to the point where you have difficulty being heard in conversation or you sound timid or uncertain? How do you overcome that? When singer and voice coach, Emmanuela Grace, started coaching other people on how to make the most of their voices, she soon realised that some people needed more than voice coaching to be able to speak comfortably and confidently.  For example, why do some people struggle with small talk? Why do so many of us struggle with public speaking? Why do women often feel self conscious when they have to talk to a group of mainly male directors? And why do many women shy away from stating where their boundaries are? So off Emmanuela went to do a degree in psychology so she could answer these questions and fully support people. With a fascinating combination of psychology and voice coaching, Emmanuela talks us through the process of learning about ourselves so we can feel more comfortable and confident in all situations.  Key points: 6:34 - Why learning to speak up may involve more than just a voice coach 7:29 - Why small talk can feel so overwhelming and difficult   *** Emmanuela has done a special video for you on how to get your vocal chords ready before you go into an important conversation. You'll find the link on the episode page here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep212
38:08 10/10/2023
Hot Topic: Racism In Australia Today with Pamela Anderson, CEO of EMILYs List Australia
Australia is coming up to The Voice Referendum and apparently becoming more of a "divided nation" by the day. But why do First Nations people need a special mention in the constitution? Shouldn't the constitution cover them already? Have you ever tried to explain to someone what sexism is but they just can't see what you're saying? The sexism is so ingrained that it's invisible? What if racism is the same? That it's so deeply ingrained in our culture that we can't see it?  This is a hot topic in Australia at the moment: should our First Nations people have a say in policies and decisions that impact them? Isn't that like saying that it's necessary for women to be involved and consulted in the decisions and policies that impact women?  Yorta Yorta and Gunnai-Kurnai woman, Pamela Anderson, CEO of EMILY's List Australia, explains to us the history of First Nations people after colonisation, how trauma is passed down through the generations and talks about the systemic racism that most white people don't realise is present.   Timestamps: 02:06 - Introduction into Pamela's heritage & experiences as a First Nations person 05:26 - The impact & implications of "Terra Nullius" 14:47 - Issues with Australian Policy regarding First Nations people 16:35 - The Australian Constitution 20:09 - Why should our constitution specifically include First Nations people? 23:03 - Why would any First Nations people vote No? 23:57 - What is systemic racism? 33:13 - Why stolen generation is still happening 39:32 - Assimilation, trauma & substance abuse in First Nations communities     Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep210
42:23 03/10/2023
Carbon Footprints: Why It’s Not All About Planting More Trees with Richie Mulder
We've probably all heard the term "carbon footprint" but how many of us know what our carbon footprint is, why it matters and what we can do about it? And minimising or negating our carbon footprint goes way beyond planting a few trees. Carbon footprint refers to the total amount of greenhouse gases, primarily carbon dioxide, emitted by an individual, organisation, or community over a specific period. All creatures on earth have a carbon footprint, i.e. they produce carbon in many forms, and our atmosphere is designed to deal with that. What we're producing these days is way beyond nature's capacity to manage. You don't have to be an "eco-warrior" or live off the grid to reduce the impact that your life or business has on the planet or even to support the planet positively. There are a few easy things that we can all do as businesses and individuals that can make a big difference. Accredited carbon specialist, Richie Mulder from Carbonhalo, talks to us about how we can all make a huge difference to our community as well as the planet. Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep209
40:50 26/09/2023
Women In Conversation: Why Doctors Don’t Know About Menopause with Julia Browne
In most Western countries, there's no requirement for GPs to have any knowledge of menopause and the complications it can cause. Indeed, in Australia, until recently, any study of Menopause was an optional extra in a medical degree even though 50% of women will suffer symptoms that impact their lives. A group of women have launched a petition to send to the government to request that keeping up to date with the latest research on menopause becomes compulsory for all GPs You're at work, in a meeting or giving a presentation to a room full of people and suddenly you have no idea what you were going to say, it's completely gone. You work in a scientific or high tech environment which involves technical terms that you've been familiar with for your entire life but suddenly you can't remember the terms or what they mean. You're picking your kids up from school and you go over to one of your child's friend's mothers, but you can't remember the child's name even though they've been to your house on multiple occasions. Sound familiar? When that happens to us, our first thought is probably "I've got early onset dementia!" So we get stressed out and anxious and we start noticing how many times this happens to us and it begins to happen more and more frequently until we feel like we're unable to function properly, so we quit our jobs because we don't feel like we're capable of holding that position any more. We go to our GP and they probably give us sleeping tablets and SSRI's. They might say to us, "It's probably menopause, you'll be okay in a few years". Years! What do we do in the meantime? We don't feel that we can function, so we get onto social media and, if we feel confident enough, join a few groups and discover that so many other women are experiencing this yet our doctors told us nothing about it. Join me in conversation with Julia Browne, co-founder of Peri-Pausers, a group determined to bring this lack of support and information to the attention of the government.       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep209
40:55 19/09/2023
Preserving Your Well-being: The Value of Professional Support During Separation
The average separation/divorce takes three years to complete and 70% of people leave the relationship emotionally two years before they leave the relationship physically. Yet very few of us spend that time thinking about how the process will go and what they want the future to look like. How much easier would the process be if we could map the whole thing out and really think about all the possible variations of who gets what, who does what and when, how we're going to respond when our partner does why, what are our triggers? Separating is up there are one of the top three most stressful events in anyone's lives and there are whole stages of grief, anger, resentment, fear, upset, excitement, the whole kit and caboodle of emotions to go through. Yet many of us go through it alone for various good - and not so good - reasons. While it's important to have supportive friends and family around us, we also need experts and professionals on our team too, people who can be relied upon to give objective, honest advice and feedback because while friends and family are great, they may not be the most detached people in this whole thing! After experiencing her own traumatic separation and divorce, making a lot of mistakes and finishing with a lot of regrets, Bridgette Jackson now supports other people going through the same experience to hopefully come out the other end in the best frame of mind and feeling as good about everything as they possibly can. Whether you're in a happy relationship yourself or not, this kind of information is important to know because we all know someone who needs this support.     Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep199
46:54 12/09/2023
Don’t Do Separating Alone: How To Get The Support We Need
When we're feeling anxious or depressed, we often feel very alone. When you add wanting to leave your partner into that mix, the helplessness and overwhelm can increase exponentially. Many of us hide just how unhappy we are with our lives behind facades, to ourselves as well as to everyone else, so even just making enquiries as to the process of separating from our partner can be something that we don't want to discuss with anyone. Should we stay or should we go? What's the process? What's the answer? When Carolyn Tate and her friend, Gillian Moody, found themselves going through separation and divorce, they realised that they were so lucky to have each other there to share the load because the number of new conversations with different people (lawyers, counsellors, teachers, family, friends, partners) that they had to have was overwhelming and downright terrifying. Yet most people who are thinking of separating do all this on their own. The two friends set out to create a resource where women could go to get all the information they needed to help them through this time in their life. They enrolled the support of solicitors, counsellors, psychologists and other experts and they created groups where women could go to share what was happening in their lives in a safe space without judgement.  They called it The Women's Divorce Academy. Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep198
41:59 05/09/2023
Dating After 50: Overcoming Challenges and Embracing Opportunities
Ending a long term relationship is difficult enough with all the fears and uncertainties that go with that but the thought of getting back onto the dating scene after a 20- or 30-year relationship can be even more daunting. We all hear the horror stories of the current dating scene, particularly online dating, and we're already battle scarred from the breakup of our long term relationship so why would we get back into the dating scene and how do we make sure we end up with the relationship that we want and not a repeat of the relationship that we've just come out of? THE most important thing in all of this is to know yourself. We all think we know ourselves but how many of us can truly pinpoint what we want? If you're like me, you know exactly what you don't want but what you do want? That's a different matter. And what was your role in the breakup? What ways of behaving do you have that contributed to your unhappiness? Unless you can recognise what you're doing, you'll probably end up in the same relationship feeling the same way that you did before. With a host of qualifications around relationships, including Internationally Accredited Dating & Relationship coach, NLP Master Coach, Certified Master mBIT Coach and an Authorised Gottman Seven Principles Leader, Debbie Rivers helps and supports people to get the life and the relationships that they've always dreamed of. Key points: 01:22 - If you need to ask how to be happy, there's a big problem 01:35 - Why leaving a marriage in never the easy option 02:30 - How the fears around dating can get in the way 03:46 - Why we believe it's okay to be "just a bit unhappy" in a relationship 08:45 - Why staying in a relationship because you have children may not be the best thing to do 13:08 - Why many people end up with the same relationship over and over again 19:04 - What to do when you don't know what it is you want from a relationship (or life) 20:50 - How to find the joy in life 26:32 - How to spot your repeat patterns in relationships 28:33 - How to figure out if a relationship will work 32:44 - How Married At First Sight sets couples up to fail 36:42 - The problems with dating as you grow older 40:50 - Why dating apps can cause so many problems... and how to overcome that   Join us now and find out what it's like to get back onto the dating scene, how to embrace the process, have fun, and be confident in your worth and what you bring to a potential partnership.       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep197
46:58 29/08/2023
Trust Betrayed: Can Infidelity be a One-Time Mistake or is ’Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater’ True? with Dr Dee Tozer
What do you do when you find out your partner has cheated on you? Or they've been lying about something? How do you rebuild trust? Can you rebuild trust? All good relationships are built on some kind of trust and when that's broken by one or both of the parties, it can be almost impossible to overcome. Almost impossible... Dr Deirdre Tozer is a psychologist who specialises in supporting couples going through this kind of pretty much irretrievable breakdown crisis: infidelity (ongoing or one off), lying about money, lying about other things, gambling, constant arguments, all of it. The difference between Dee and other relationship guidance counsellors is that she has a 90%+ success rate in rebuilding relationships and one of the reasons for that is that she doesn't just sit the couples down together and have them talk through things, she speaks to them individually. Key points: 00:48 - How Dee's counselling differs from 'normal' relationship counselling 06:10 - Creating an Operating System for yourself and your relationship 09:57 - The problem with most relationship counselling 13:09 - Why there's no 'truth' and why we shouldn't change 17:01 - Why people cheat 21:55 - The seven different kinds of couples 30:35 - The habit of reacting rather than responding 33:00 - The problem with trying to sort out your relationship while you're sitting next to each other in the counsellor's office 35:50 - Why "the glass on the sink" thing is more than just a comment about putting your dishes in the dishwasher 40:55 - Is the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" true?     Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep196
45:38 22/08/2023
The Art of Reading People: Unveiling the Hidden Benefits of Understanding Others with Alan Stevens
Reading people is a crucial skill that enhances our understanding of others, fosters empathy, and improves communication. Through observation of facial expressions, body language, and verbal cues, we gain valuable insights into a person's emotions, intentions, and thoughts, often going beyond what they explicitly convey.    Some of us are good at reading people, some of us are maybe not so good but the bottom line is the ability to read people is a crucial skill in all our relationships... if we want them to be successful. We've all experienced those situations where someone just won't shut up or they don't listen, they cut people off. Maybe you have a partner who, when you try to talk your way through something that's bothering you, interrupts you and tells you how to fix what they think is the problem (and most of the time, they've missed the point!). In a business situation, the ability to read people will win or lose you sales. In a personal relationship, poor connection, not listening to the other person will put an enormous strain on the relationship. Alan Stevens is an expert in profiling and reading people and he talks to us about what he does, why this is so important and how we can use it in our daily lives all our relationships, familial, personal and business.       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep195
48:32 15/08/2023
Reshaping Your Reality: Psychological Strategies for Shifting Limiting Beliefs with Dr Kirsty Seward
Body image, overeating, bingeing, overexercising, self image, they all go hand in hand. You can't change any of them permanently without getting to the reasons behind the beliefs that cause that behaviour Self-awareness and understanding one's emotional relationship with food play a pivotal role. Recognising triggers, such as stress, boredom, or emotional eating patterns, allows us to develop healthier coping mechanisms. But how do we recognise those behaviours? Dr Kirsty Seward is fascinated by behavioural change, why some of it works, why most of it doesn't and how do we as individuals find what does work for us and then apply it. This is not your average podcast talking about body image or eating disorders. This is a deep dive into the why's, into how we begin to recognise our behaviours, understand them and how we put new behaviours in place, ones that are more beneficial to us and our goals in life. Join us now...       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep192
52:11 08/08/2023
The Hidden Price of Settling: Understanding the Impact of an Okay Relationship
Leaving a relationship is an emotionally challenging - and charged - decision, but if there's nothing particularly wrong, if the relationship is just a bit meh, how do you justify even going to counselling, never mind separating? This can be one of the biggest problems: if there's not much wrong, how do you do something about it? If you're not happy but you're also not unhappy, how do you have that conversation with your partner? It's easy to look at an abusive relationship and say, "You need to leave" but when the relationship is okay, it can be very difficult to explain why it's not working for you to yourself. And it can be even more difficult explaining how we feel to other people. Self-awareness can be both a blessing and a curse in this situation because if we are 100% responsible for everything that happens in our lives (this is not about fault or blame, it's about being responsible for our behaviour and reactions to events) then how do we correct something and tell someone else that the relationship isn't working for us and we want to change or end it without causing them no end of pain?     Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep193
19:47 01/08/2023

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