Stop Wanting Him Back & Find Someone Better

Claire explains why she'll be taking a break from the podcast for a little while, and also offers her thoughts on breaks in romantic relationships.Email hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com for more info on her 1:1 COACHING SPECIAL OFFER and follow @clairetheheartbreakcoach on Instagram where she will continue to show up and serve valuable content daily!

18/03/2024 • 13:12

This episode was inspired by Claire's favorite guilty pleasure, The Bachelor!After watching the hometowns episode of Joey's season, Claire found herself disturbed by the panicked fear of some of the women's family members who didn't want their daughter or sister to get their heart broken.Of course NO ONE wants to get their hearts broken or see a loved one get hurt, but at the end of the day, heartbreak is inevitable for most people, AND, if you lean in for the lessons, healing and growth that can always be found in it, dare Claire say that heartbreak CAN be a good thing??Tune in for 6 reasons why.Email hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com for her NEW CLIENT 1:1 SPECIAL.

11/03/2024 • 35:37

The terror of getting your heart broken again is SO real, valid and NORMAL. Especially if it's been a long time since you've really liked someone, and/or have experienced trauma and heartbreak in your past.  In this episode, Claire walks you through eight steps you can take to navigate your fear of getting heartbroken again-- spoiler alert:It's not about getting rid of the fear.It's about navigating the fear while staying true to yourself.Get your pen and paper out! 

26/02/2024 • 34:26

If you feel like you're "doing all the things" but still find yourself heartbroken, this episode is for you. Heartbreak can leave you feeling scattered, exhausted and blocked from thinking straight, as well as blocked on taking care of business in your life, whether it's personal or professional.This episode is NOT an invitation for you to shame or blame yourself if you hear some of the things you might not even realize you're doing which has been prolonging your pain...This episode was created for you to become even that much more aware of how else you might be getting in your own way, amidst all the brain fog and heartache.Healing heartbreak is NOT a linear process!  Be gentle and easy on yourself.  You're human.  Be patient.

19/02/2024 • 18:04

This is one of those extra vulnerable episodes Claire shares as she turns 43. Usually her birthday episodes are about all the growth and reflection on how far she has come, since her rockbottom relationship, 13 years prior...But today she reflects on hitting her upper limit recently, finding herself highly irritable (even for her!) and recognizing how she is very much still a STUDENT of this work first-- not the teacher.If you relate to self-sabotaging, whether heartbroken or single and looking for love, take a listen.Link to Claire's Valentine's Course Special:  https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse-valentinesdayoffer

12/02/2024 • 29:15

If Claire had a nickel for every time she fell into the trap of this limiting belief, or for when a client has felt this way!!You are not alone if you believe this falsity to be true.Yes.Falsity!In today's episode, Claire unpacks how it's possible to disprove the idea that guys (insert whichever gender pronoun applies) you want, don't want you.It's so important to diffuse this mean thoughts that don't serve you, and therefore greatly impact how you show up when you're looking for love.It's not as easy as it sounds, but don't let your past experiences in dating dictate how the future is going to go... Tune in to hear how!Link to Claire's Valentine's Course Special:  https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse-valentinesdayoffer

05/02/2024 • 32:24

Today's episode piggy-backs off of last week's episode, Putting 1% More Effort Into Your Healing-Heartbreak Journey. (Episode 253)Finding love can feel very overwhelming, despite how much you know you want it.If you've been hurt before or alone for too long that the process of dating feels daunting, or you just despise the apps and you're not doing much to manage your resistance, chances are you'll let a lot of time go by, NOT taking action and then find yourself frustrated for still being alone.If this is you, it is Claire's hope that you'll be inspired to take just 1% more action, and follow some of her suggestions in this episode, one step at a time! Link to Claire's Valentine's Course Special:  https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse-valentinesdayofferEpisode referencesMy Heartbreak Story Episode 5

29/01/2024 • 30:07

Claire gets it. You're heartbroken and just don't want to do anything.Showing up for work feels like a huge accomplishment and once you do, there's no energy left for anything else...But you're over feeling this way.You want to do something but everything everyone suggests feels too hard, too heavy, and too much.In this episode, Claire explains how she too found herself in a bit of a stuck, shutdown mode with her own personal goals, and offers how powerful things can shift by doing just a liiiiiltle bit more.She also makes suggestions on how you can put just 1% more effort into healing your heartbreak.Episode referencesMy Heartbreak Story Episode 5

22/01/2024 • 29:38

This episode is inspired by two of Claire's clients this past week-- one who needed to step into her power as a budding entrepreneur, and another who celebrated owning her power with a new guy she was dating and really interested in.This is a must-listen if you feel like you are showing up for your dating life by doing all the things: swiping, dating, visualizing, etc, but aren't feeling like there's much momentum happening...It just might have to do with you not recognizing and harnessing your power!

15/01/2024 • 30:52

This episode was inspired by one of Claire's group clients and a fellow coach, who presented the idea of exploring desire vs. desperation to heal heartbreak.Claire was curious about why her client didn't want to feel desperate to heal, and in this episode she explores why desperation to heal may not be such a bad thing, while desperation in the midst of singledom, wouldn't be what she'd recommend.  Referenced episodes5: My Heartbreak Story250: Discouraging Dating App Stats

08/01/2024 • 26:12

This episode is inspired by Claire's client who was trying to not be discouraged over 7 guys she INTENTIONALLY swiped right on -- that included a thoughtful reachout to each-- but none of them responded.Claire gave her client an encouraging perspective that you all need to hear--especially if you have a lot of resistance to the dating apps or just dating in general.Regardless of whether you find your person on the apps or don't, this is a must-listen if you are planning on making 2024 your year of finding love!

25/12/2023 • 34:14

What if you always feel longing toward your ex?What if you always feel miserable while single until your right person arrives?Or perhaps you already found love but you're ALWAYS fearing that he'll leave?In today's episode, Claire unpacks how you can manage the repetitive, stubborn fears you live with on the regular and desperately want to shake, but just can't seem to be able to! 

18/12/2023 • 33:43

Ahhhhh.... the age-old question most single people hate at the holidays when they're reconnecting with the prying aunt they don't want to engage with.So how do you handle it?  Do you stick it to her?Defend yourself?Pretend like you don't care?Laugh it off?In today's episode Claire helps you get more clarity on why the question is so irritating-- even if you ARE fine being single right now-- and offers a few ways you can go about responding to it.Enjoy!  Referenced episodeBeing The Underdog In Your Love-Life

11/12/2023 • 30:05

Navigating your singledom or broken heart throughout the holidays can feel extra heavy and hard.  There are annoying probing family members.Lots of social obligations.And it feels like you're so alone in this and it seems like everyone has someone except you.Everyone has HAPPINESS except you.Well, Claire is here to tell you how not true that is, and offers tips in this replay episode she recorded back in November of 2021.PLEASE NOTE:  The course Claire references IS available now, along with a BONUS 1:1 call with Claire.  Click HERE to sign up.  But THERE ARE NO JOURNALS available and NO week of group calls as an offering right now.  Again, this episode is a replay that mentions an old offer.https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourseEpisode MentionedAll I Want for Christmas is a Crush

04/12/2023 • 31:03

Whatever holiday it is that you celebrate, Claire is inviting you to look at your resistance to showing up on your search for love at this time of year.There tends to be three reasons people give up and/or hit pause on their search for love during the holiday season:1) They just assume they'll be alone and have no one to crush on because it's already October or November2) They assume people are busy with work and holiday festivities so on one's really looking to date OR they themselves get bogged down with work and holiday festivities3) They assume everyone is traveling or they might be traveling, so what's the point?!!?Claire gives her 10 cents on this resistance in her latest episode, All I Want For Christmas Is a CRUSH! Resources MentionedPrepare your heart for the holidays: https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/blog/2021%2F11%2F15%2Fprepare-your-heart-for-the-holidaysHeartbreak for the Holidays: https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/blog/heartbreak-for-the-holidaysBlack Friday Deal: https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/blackfriday_thecourse

27/11/2023 • 23:52

Claire was recently referred to as an underdog in regards to being a step-mom and soon-to-be second wife, and it got her thinking about how so many of her clients feel like the underdog because of their relationship statuses...Whether you're heartbroken, single at WHATEVER age, divorced, a mom, NOT a mom, a step-mom, not as far along as you'd prefer to be with your career and finances, YOU GET TO DECIDE if this makes you an underdog or not.You also get to decide whether or not you want to take on what someone else thinks about you, based on your relationship status or ANY status.Tune in to hear more about how you can shift your perspective and recognize that the way you own yourself RIGHT NOW is another step towards deepening your relationship with yourself.Episode Mentioned41 & Never Been Married (GASP)

20/11/2023 • 29:16

Claire brings on her client, Drybar co-Founder, Alli Webb, who recently wrote the book, The Messy Truth. The Messy Truth is all about how Alli got Drybar to a $255 million business in a short period of time, while also grieving the loss of her marriage, mother, and navigating a very scary and challenging time with her son.  Claire takes some gems of wisdom from The Messy Truth and applies it to dating with Alli on this episode... You won't want to miss this conversation that reveals you really don't need to have it all together in order to be successful.  Make sure you purchase a copy today!  https://www.amazon.com/Messy-Truth-Business-Millions-Almost/dp/1400333733

14/11/2023 • 47:49

You're seeing someone new who overall is pretty great except...His breath is kinda bad. He doesn't know the difference between they're, their, and there! His pants are a hair too tight for your liking...Dealbreaker?You automatically think, "YES!," but there's this other part of you that wonders, "Am I being too picky?"Or dare I say..."ICKY?!!"Because you just can't seem to shake your long list of ICKS when it comes to meeting someone new, no matter how wonderful they are and offer up a lot of great things you're looking for in a partner.In this episode, Claire addresses how to navigate your chronic case of the icks, and offers up some common icks she hears from her clients, that she actually thinks COULD be work-throughable... but others?Not so much!If you're struggling with deciphering which of your icks are valid and which icks aren't, this episode is for you!

06/11/2023 • 44:36

In today's episode, Claire interviews her course student, Lora, who found true love after two marriages and a dragged out situationship.  Lora is so honest, raw, real, articulate and vulnerable with sharing her story, that touches on the issue of age being a "thing" whiie looking for love and how she made it NOT a thing at almost 50, and they also discuss how differently she showed up in her dating life by the time she found the man of her dreams, thanks to doing the work in Claire's course, combined with a wonderful therapist.**PLEASE NOTE** The course is a lifetime-access course with over 75 videos and is not to be confused with Claire's group program, where students have access to the same course but also have four opportunities a week to get coached by Claire in a group setting. As of today, (Oct 23rd) Claire is bringing back the course which also offers a bonus 1:1 coaching call with Claire.  You can check out all the details HERE: https://www.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/thecourse

23/10/2023 • 71:17

You're desperate to heal your heart and/or find love, and you know that it will require something more of you because what you're doing isn't working...But you just can't bring yourself to trying something new or different, let alone stick to it!  In today's episode, Claire shares about her client who is so coachable and wants the results SO badly, but is feeling very resistant to showing up on the regular with the tools Claire is asking her to work with and implement.THIS IS SO COMMON AND NORMAL!Claire shares how she and her client are navigating through this natural resistance to showing up differently, despite wanting the result on the other side, so badly!

16/10/2023 • 30:01

Hopefully you know you're not alone when it comes to dreading dates you go on, BUT perhaps you don't know that this dread isn't serving you AND that you can do something about it!This episode was specifically inspired by two of Claire's clients who have been in a state of dread before dates. One client felt that she "knew" it just wasn't going to go well, and another touched on her discomfort with there being so much uncertainty when it comes to meeting a stranger off the apps!  Both are totally relatable and Claire shares how she was able to get them into a more calm and open space for future dates that she hope will also help YOU! Episode reference: 239 When Love Isn't In The Cards

09/10/2023 • 36:33

It's natural to believe this thought when time and time again, a friend gets engaged or is on her third baby, or you've gone on 10 dates and they've all sucked!But it's a belief that can really make you feel super discouraged, sad and resistant about finding love, and have you losing sight of the life you're living RIGHT NOW.On today's episode, Claire walks you through how to navigate this belief-- Love not being in the cards for you-- so that you can keep going on your finding-love journey while genuinely enjoying the ride!

02/10/2023 • 48:35

It's easy to swim in your head with thoughts like, "I can't believe it's over," or "He duped me" or "I'll never get over him," in the midst of your heartbreak.The same goes for when you're navigating finding love:  "All the good ones are gone." "I'm too old." "Love must not be in the cards for me."In today's episode, Claire talks about the importance of letting yourself grieve and experience the common struggles that go along with your love-life journey, but then touches on how there comes a time and a place when you must really focus on the story or several stories that are causing you suffering, and commit to debunking them. 

25/09/2023 • 26:48

When you're newly dating after a lot of healing over previous painful relationships, it's difficult to separate the past from both the present and the future. It's easy to anticipate that the other shoe will drop because you believe "it always does" when it comes to your dating life. Claire expands on what you need to focus on instead, as you navigate putting your heart out there again, in this latest episode. Check it out!

18/09/2023 • 33:36

The hardest part about heartbreak over a break-up with a romantic partner isn't the loss of the person.  It isn't even cutting contact.  Yes, those parts are SUPER hard, but there is something that Claire has decided is even HARDER than either of these components of your heartbreak...Tune in to find out AND understand why this aspect of your heartbreak is the MOST important to consciously face.

11/09/2023 • 27:06

It's hard enough to process the grief of the loss of a partner--especially if he left you.But in Claire's opinion, she finds it extra hard to process the reality of the situation with time and space to process, AFTER the relationship.Maybe all the things you feared about his antics that he vehemently denied, turned out to be true, and you feel rage and shame both at him and yourself, for falling for his lies.Or, you saw and heard awful things he said and did, and you turned a blind eye out of fear of being alone and the fear of him not being who he promised you he was.So, what do you DO with all these daunting truths post the break-up? Check out the episode to find out more!

04/09/2023 • 30:01

This is a torturous thought both Claire and her clients have moved through, amidst their heartbreak.In today's episode, Claire shares about two personal experiences where she believed it was her fault for the demise of the relationships, leading her to ruminating and resisting the idea that everything unfolded exactly the way it was supposed to... as cliché as this sounds.Claire's hope is for you to be able to see the same for yourself after listening to this episode, if you're finding yourself resisting the idea that if you'd behaved differently, the outcome of the relationship ending would have most likely been the same.

28/08/2023 • 35:47

TRIGGER WARNING as there is a mention of self-harm in this episode.On this week’s episode, Claire talks about the importance of NOT shaming yourself when experiencing anger while moving through your heartbreak. Anger is an emotion that many people have been told “isn’t healthy” or is “inappropriate to carry…”Claire wildly disagrees and shares why.She also shares her own experience of feeling shame for all the anger she carried for years and years, without realizing the detrimental effects it was having on herself, her body, and her relationships, because she had no idea what to do with it!Of course there is a balance when it comes to managing our anger or any other negative emotion, but the last thing Claire wants you to do is bypass it, by covering it over, denying or intentionally trying to resist it. Find out what she suggests instead and take a listen!

21/08/2023 • 32:58

Getting back on the horse feels extra hard when you've been burned so badly!You don't want to get your heart broken again.You don't want to move through the inevitable BS on the apps.You don't want to waste your time on a bunch of duds.You don't want to be duped again.You'd rather hang with your friends!But there's a reason you're intrigued by hearing from someone who's about to suggest how to get back on the horse after being burned so bad:You REALLY want to share your life with the RIGHT person...RIGHT?In today's episode, Claire offers 5 steps to help you get back on the horse after getting burned.Don't the some lame-os of your past stop you from creating what you really really want!Enjoy!Episode reference: Dating App Smackdown

14/08/2023 • 32:01

Whether you’re reeling over a long or short-term relationship, it’s already hard enough that you’re heartbroken, but then the layer of shame for how long it’s taking to heal, is a bad cherry on top!  Claire always says there is NO SHAME over how long it takes to get over any relationship, no matter how short-lived it was. The pain usually isn’t really about the other person anyway.It’s more about you and what you’re thinking that’s making you FEEL a certain way.(At least that’s Claire’s very simplified version of heartbreak) Thoughts like:  I’ll never get over him. Even if he’s wrong for me, I don’t know if anyone else will do it for me like he did.What’s wrong with me that I still want him back??  In this week’s episode Claire shares about a coaching exchange she had with a wonderful woman, who was struggling with fully letting her ex go, as well as struggling with the judgement she had about how long it was taking her to heal.At the end of their coaching, her client said she felt so much relief, and it is Claire’s hope that if you are relating to this woman’s struggles, that you too will find relief with what she shares in this episode.

07/08/2023 • 29:00