Start to Finish Motherhood with Aisha

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. Mother’s Day Special — A Tribute to Single Mothers, Legacy, and the Power of Presence In this deeply moving Mother’s Day episode, Start to Finish Motherhood revisits a powerful conversation that honors the quiet strength, resilience, and lifelong impact of single mothers—particularly Black mothers raising children in spaces where they were never meant to thrive. This special rebroadcast features a heartfelt conversation with Dawn Wright, a globally respected scientist, educator, and the first Black person to reach the deepest part of the ocean. At its core, this episode is not about accolades—it is about legacy, mother–daughter bonds, and how one intentional parent can shape an entire life. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice, solo parents, and anyone reflecting on the ways mothers influence identity, courage, and possibility. In this episode, you’ll hear: A moving tribute to a mother who raised her daughter as a single parent with integrity, vision, and unwavering belief Reflections on growing up as a “mom and child family” long before it was widely accepted How single mothers model leadership, adaptability, and courage for their children Stories of navigating race, belonging, and visibility across the U.S., Canada, and Hawaiʻi The importance of friendship, trust, and mutual respect in mother–daughter relationships How encouragement and curiosity can shape a child’s love of learning Why representation matters—especially for Black children imagining futures in STEM The role mentors, teachers, and community play alongside single parents What it means to be a “first,” and how to carry that responsibility with grace Why this work—equity, visibility, and opportunity—is a long game The conversation also explores how children internalize what they see modeled: resilience in the face of uncertainty, joy alongside hardship, and the confidence to imagine a life bigger than what the world may initially offer. This Mother’s Day episode is a reminder that single mothers do not raise children alone—they raise leaders, thinkers, and legacy builders. And often, they do so without recognition, applause, or safety nets—just love, clarity, and resolve. Learn More Explore the Challenger Deep expedition and related resources here: https://esriurl.com/challengeaccepted Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/ Chapters (00:00:04) - Aisha Jenkins's Welcome to Work(00:01:57) - Dawn Wright on The Elevator With Aisha(00:06:54) - Tom Brokaw on Mothers' Day(00:12:46) - Black People in Canada and Hawaii(00:18:36) - Inspiring scientists: The story of Dawn Watson(00:23:42) - When Will This End?(00:23:58) - Graduate student at ESRI: From science to GIS(00:29:32) - Dawn on the Deep Sea(00:31:31) - ESRI's K-12 outreach(00:36:05) - Dawn on Becoming a First Woman

5/6/26 • 41:13

We made it, y'all. This is the Season 5 finale, and Aisha is reflecting on a season that was deeply personal, beautifully honest, and full of growth. Season 5 was the first of four planned mashup seasons, pulling from the archives of the original Black Single Mothers By Choice podcast and layering in fresh reflection from a 50-year-old vantage point. Here's a list of takeaways from what was covered, what evolved, and what's coming next. Key Takeaways The fertility industry is evolving in ways that matter for our kids. Get a financial planner before your finances are "ready." Medical advocacy for Black women is not optional. Trust yourself to make life-altering decisions, and build the right bench to support you. Legacy is not about a ladder. It's about the life you're actually building. Check out my friend Andrea's *New* podcast Disrupt.Delete.Reset Coming Next: Season 6 is a mashup season releasing in Winter 2026. Connect With Me: Instagram: @starttofinishmotherhood Email: aisha@starttofinishmotherhood.com Support the show: starttofinishmotherhood.com/coffee Chapters (00:00:04) - Starting to Finish Motherhood(00:00:47) - Black Single Mothers by Choice: Season 5(00:02:51) - Season 5: Expectations vs Reality(00:04:58) - Sperm Bank Salary and Costs(00:07:29) - The Power of a Financial Planner(00:09:41) - Disrupt, Delete and Reset: On Me(00:13:03) - Black moms and the medical system(00:16:28) - As I Approach 50, I Have Zero Reserves(00:18:55) - Melanated Single Mothers By Choice(00:20:22) - Single Mothers by Choice

4/29/26 • 23:55

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. In this special mash-up Ask Me Anything episode, Aisha revisits one of the very first listener Q&A conversations from Start to Finish Motherhood—now with years of lived experience, reflection, and growth layered in. She responds to foundational questions about becoming a Single Mother by Choice, while offering thoughtful updates on how life, parenting, and perspective have evolved since the original recording. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice, women considering solo motherhood, and long-time listeners who appreciate honest answers, real updates, and the wisdom that comes with time. In this episode, Aisha answers listener questions about: How she told her family about her decision to become a Single Mother by Choice Whether there is a “right” age to become an SMC How mindset, preparation, and self-awareness matter more than timelines Financial readiness, rainy-day planning, and stacking resources intentionally Navigating fertility care, insurance barriers, and discrimination against SMCs Why advocacy in medical spaces is essential—especially after loss or trauma How and when to talk to children about donor conception Preparing children to confidently share their family story at school and beyond Why telling conception stories early and often builds trust and security How family conversations naturally evolve as children grow Aisha also shares meaningful life updates, including: A major career pivot after burnout and choosing mental health over comfort Returning to consulting and academia with a focus on ethics, justice, and equity Shifting financial strategies to support freelance work and income variability How open communication with her children continues to deepen over time Updates on donor siblings, donor conception conversations, and developmental changes This mash-up is both a...

4/22/26 • 21:41

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. What really happens inside a sperm bank—and how are decisions made that shape families for generations? In this in-depth mash-up episode, Aisha pulls back the curtain on the donor sperm industry with a rare, candid conversation with Alease, Clinic Relations Manager at Seattle Sperm Bank and a Black mother herself. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice, Black women navigating donor conception, and anyone seeking transparency around sperm banks, donor policies, and long-term implications for donor-conceived children. In this episode, Aisha and Alease discuss: What “Open ID” donors actually mean—and why anonymous donors are becoming rare How DNA testing (Ancestry, 23andMe) is reshaping donor anonymity Why Seattle Sperm Bank prioritizes Open ID donors and smaller family limits How donor–offspring contact is facilitated once children reach adulthood The realities of donor supply shortages, especially for Black donors How COVID impacted donor recruitment and availability What goes into screening donors, including genetic testing, background checks, and physical exams How known donor arrangements can be facilitated safely through a sperm bank Transparent pricing for donor access, vials, storage, shipping, and buy-back options Why donor-conceived children’s mental health and identity matter in family-building decisions Alease also courageously shares her own traumatic birth experience, highlighting how racial bias shows up in medical settings—even for educated, partnered Black women. Her story underscores why medical advocacy, informed consent, and speaking up are critical for Black mothers in every family-building path.   This mash-up blends industry insight, lived experience, and honest dialogue—offering listeners both practical information and validation as they navigate donor conception with clarity and confidence.   Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube:

4/15/26 • 31:46

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. Adoption doesn’t end with choosing a path—it deepens with questions about culture, identity, openness, and long-term responsibility. In this second part of the adoption mash-up series, Aisha continues the conversation with adoption attorney Michelle and Single Mother by Choice Angela, diving into the often misunderstood realities of international adoption, transracial adoption, and open adoption.   This episode is for Black Single Mothers by Choice who are considering adoption, are early in their research, or want a clearer, more honest understanding of what adoption truly requires beyond the headlines.   In this episode, Aisha, Michelle, and Angela discuss: Why international adoption has sharply declined and what that means today How Hague Convention rules, country closures, and cost affect international adoption Why international adoption often requires older child placements and extended stays abroad The realities of transracial adoption and the cultural competence it demands Why there is no such thing as a fully “closed” adoption in the age of DNA and technology What open adoption really looks like across a wide spectrum of contact Why openness, when safe, is often in the best interest of the child How and when to talk to children about adoption—early, often, and honestly Kinship adoption and how family stories are best shared without secrecy Home studies, risk profiles, and preparing your life—not just your heart—for adoption Why building a village is essential before bringing a child home   Aisha also reflects on her own experiences navigating uncertainty, expectations, and the emotional weight of choosing a path to motherhood, reinforcing that adoption—like all SMC journeys—requires preparation, humility, advocacy, and deep self-trust.   This mash-up offers clarity without sugarcoating and empowers listeners to approach adoption with honesty, cultural responsibility, and a child-centered mindset.   Parenting Transracially Lynn's Story -

4/8/26 • 34:40

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. Parenthood rarely unfolds the way we imagine—and birth, breastfeeding, and early parenting often challenge even the most thoughtful plans. In this deeply reflective mash-up episode, Aisha revisits a powerful conversation about managing expectations when life, bodies, and systems intervene in unpredictable ways. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice, Black mothers, and parents navigating pregnancy, birth recovery, breastfeeding, and the emotional weight of unmet expectations. In this episode, Aisha is joined by Simone, a former doula, teacher, entrepreneur, and Single Mother by Choice, who shares her firsthand experience with a planned home birth that resulted in an unexpected cesarean. Together, they explore how disappointment, trauma, and resilience coexist in early parenthood—and why naming our experiences matters. In this episode, Aisha and Simone discuss: How expectations around conception, pregnancy, labor, and delivery often shift The emotional impact of birth trauma and “home birth cesareans” Why naming your experience helps release shame and isolation The realities of breastfeeding, including pain, supply myths, and hospital pressure The importance of bodily autonomy, informed consent, and medical advocacy How community support is essential—not optional—in postpartum healing Why developmental expectations for children (and parents) need compassion and realism Aisha also reflects on her own pregnancies, pregnancy loss, gestational diabetes, and the physical and emotional toll of navigating high-risk pregnancies and postpartum recovery—offering honesty, humor, and reassurance along the way. This mash-up affirms a powerful truth: disappointment does not negate love, and honoring your experience is part of honoring yourself as a parent. Managing expectations is not about lowering standards—it’s about meeting reality with grace, truth, and support.   Ending the SMC Journey - https://starttofinishmotherhood.com/blog/s1e9-on-ending-the-smc-journey-and-moving-on-w-rahmah/  

4/2/26 • 32:56

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. Adoption is a real, viable, and often misunderstood path to motherhood—especially for Black Single Mothers by Choice. In this foundational mash-up episode, Aisha revisits one of her earliest and most important conversations on adoption, reflecting on how the information still holds true years later. This episode is for Black Single Mothers by Choice who are exploring adoption, considering a second child, or trying to understand how adoption fits into their broader motherhood journey. In this episode, Aisha is joined by two powerful voices: Angela, a Black Single Mother by Choice who adopted her son through domestic infant adoption Michelle, an adoption attorney and Single Mother by Choice, offering legal insight and decades of experience Together, they discuss: The three primary adoption paths: domestic infant adoption, foster care adoption, and international adoption What the adoption process actually looks like from start to finish Common myths about Black families and adoption—and why they’re false How self-matching, agencies, attorneys, and facilitators work (and where caution is needed) The realities of wait times, risk profiles, and decision-making Financial considerations, including fees, grants, tax credits, and disruptions Why building community and working with qualified professionals matters Aisha also shares her own reflections on considering adoption while trying for a second child, naming the emotional weight, research, and discernment involved. This episode emphasizes that adoption—like all SMC paths—requires clarity, patience, advocacy, and support. This is part one of a two-part adoption series and sets a grounded, honest foundation for Black women considering adoption as a path to motherhood.   Noire Adoption Community:

3/25/26 • 39:56

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. Using a known donor can feel appealing—and complicated. In this mash-up episode, Aisha revisits a candid, deeply practical conversation about what it really means to pursue the known donor path as a Single Mother by Choice, including the emotional, legal, and relational realities that are often overlooked early on. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice considering a known donor, women weighing donor options, and anyone seeking clear-eyed guidance before moving forward. In this episode, Aisha: Explores why known donor arrangements can become complicated over time Discusses common boundary issues and shifting expectations Breaks down why legal protection is essential—not optional Highlights red flags to watch for when evaluating a potential donor Shares lived experiences that clarify the difference between SMC and co-parenting Emphasizes having hard conversations early, before conception Aisha is joined by Safara, a Single Mother by Choice who used a known donor, who shares her firsthand experience navigating donor selection, expectations, STD testing, flexibility, and legal safeguards. Together, they unpack why “forewarned is forearmed,” and how asking uncomfortable questions is a form of self-protection and love. This mash-up reinforces a key truth of the SMC journey: clarity, boundaries, and legal advocacy create freedom—not limitation. Elain's Known Donor Story:  S1E18 - On Using a Known Donor - w/ Elaine - Start to Finish Motherhood Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/  

3/18/26 • 18:07

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. Traveling with kids as a Single Mother by Choice can feel intimidating—but it’s also deeply rewarding. In this mash-up episode, Aisha revisits one of her most practical and time-tested conversations on family travel, now updated with real-world experience from international trips across Sri Lanka, Costa Rica, London, and beyond. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice, Black mothers, and parents who want to travel intentionally with children while protecting their energy, sanity, and sense of adventure. In this episode, Aisha: Reflects on how her confidence traveling with children has evolved over time Shares why international travel became a form of reset, healing, and growth Offers practical travel hacks for packing, airport navigation, and long flights Explains why carrying copies of children’s birth certificates matters—especially for solo parents Discusses choosing child-friendly destinations, accommodations, and childcare supports Reframes travel as education, connection, and legacy-building for children Blending early motherhood planning with present-day hindsight, this mash-up reinforces that traveling with kids doesn’t require perfection—just preparation, flexibility, and trust in yourself. Whether you’re planning your first trip or refining your travel style, this episode offers grounded advice and encouragement to keep going. Tips for Planning Travel w/ Kids:   https://start-to-finish-motherhood-with-aisha.castos.com/episodes/s4e7-tips-for-planning-travel-with-kids   What's it Like Planning an Epic Trip as an SMC: S3E20: What's it Like Planning an Epic Trip as a Single Mother by Choice - Start to Finish Motherhood   Planning for a Summer Abroad: https://starttofinishmotherhood.com/blog/s1e10-on-planning-for-a-summer-abroad-w-jas/   Stay Connected

3/11/26 • 14:37

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. Deciding whether to expand your family as a Single Mother by Choice brings new questions, emotions, and layers of reflection. In this mash-up episode, Aisha revisits the internal and practical considerations of trying for a second child—now informed by experience and perspective. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice considering another pregnancy, feeling uncertain, or navigating pressure—internal or external—around family size. In this episode, Aisha: Reflects on emotional readiness and capacity Discusses logistics, finances, and energy considerations Names the tension between desire and realism Explores how timing and support systems matter Reinforces that thoughtful consideration is a strength This episode offers reassurance that pausing, questioning, or choosing differently than expected is part of intentional motherhood. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/   Chapters (00:00:04) - How to Finish Motherhood With Two Children(00:07:29) - Donor Egg Story(00:10:17) - How I Learned To Have A Second Child in My 40s(00:20:17) - How to Start to Finish Motherhood with Aisha

3/4/26 • 21:58

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. This Mash-Up episode revisits a foundational conversation from Black Single Mothers by Choice, updated with reflection and insight from parenting school-age children. Estate planning is an act of love—and for Single Mothers by Choice, it’s also an act of protection. In this mash-up episode, Aisha revisits why planning ahead matters, even when it feels uncomfortable or overwhelming. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice who want to ensure their children are protected, supported, and cared for—no matter what the future holds. In this episode, Aisha: Explains why estate planning is essential for SMC families Discusses guardianship, wills, and naming decision-makers Reflects on emotional resistance and common fears Emphasizes planning as empowerment, not pessimism Encourages taking small, manageable steps toward security This episode reframes estate planning as a grounding, intentional part of responsible motherhood—not something to delay or fear. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/ Chapters (00:00:04) - Start to Finish Motherhood: How to Manage Your Money(00:04:46) - Estate Planning for Moms...(00:10:41) - Single Mother's End-of-Life Plans

2/25/26 • 14:37

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. If this episode gave you something, here is a link to buy me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. Parenting during a global crisis changed everything. In this mash-up episode, Aisha reflects on what it meant to raise children through the uncertainty, fear, and isolation of the COVID-19 pandemic while navigating single motherhood with intention and care. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice, Black mothers, and parents who are still processing how the pandemic reshaped their families, priorities, and sense of safety. In this episode, Aisha: Reflects on parenting decisions made during uncertainty Discusses emotional labor, burnout, and decision fatigue Explores how isolation impacted both parents and children Names the importance of grace, flexibility, and mental health Emphasizes community care and trusting your instincts as a parent This mash-up honors the reality that survival required adaptability—and that there is no single “right” way to have parented through unprecedented times. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/   Chapters (00:00:04) - Starting to Finish Motherhood(00:02:10) - Punishment for leaving my job during the pandemic(00:08:33) - COVID Pandemic: The Mother's Experience(00:14:43) - Virtual Learning: What Are the Kids Learning?(00:21:41) - Single Mother by Choice

2/18/26 • 22:35

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. If this episode gave you something, here is a link to buy me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. Medical systems don’t always protect Black women—and that reality becomes especially clear during fertility care, pregnancy, and parenting. In this powerful mash-up episode, Aisha revisits conversations about medical advocacy, bodily autonomy, and navigating healthcare as a Black mother. This episode is for Black women, Single Mothers by Choice, and anyone learning how to advocate for themselves and their children within medical systems. In this episode, Aisha: Names the realities of racial bias in healthcare Discusses the importance of informed consent and documentation Shares strategies for advocating for yourself in medical settings Reflects on trust, intuition, and preparation Emphasizes community knowledge as a form of protection This mash-up centers truth, preparation, and empowerment—reminding listeners that advocacy is not optional, it’s essential. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/   Chapters (00:00:04) - Start to Finish Motherhood: Black Parents(00:04:21) - Being an SMC(00:11:58) - What Could Possibly Go Wrong With My Egg Donor?(00:18:17) - Single Mother by Choice

2/11/26 • 19:22

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. If this episode gave you something, here is a link to buy me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. What does dating look like when you’re parenting with intention, protecting your peace, and honoring your identity as a Black Single Mother by Choice? In this mash-up episode, Aisha revisits candid conversations about love, boundaries, and self-worth—now informed by growth and hindsight. This episode is for Black Single Mothers by Choice who are dating, considering dating, or redefining what partnership and fulfillment mean to them. In this episode, Aisha: Explores the realities of dating as a Black SMC Discusses boundaries, safety, and emotional readiness Reflects on confidence, self-image, and honest communication Shares lessons about pacing, expectations, and discernment Reinforces the importance of self-care and community support This episode affirms that dating doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s timeline—and that your worth is not up for negotiation. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/   Chapters (00:00:04) - Start to Finish Motherhood: Dating Now(00:05:28) - What I Was Looking For In A Donor(00:13:28) - On The Importance of Being An SMC(00:15:28) - Are You Single Mother Dating?(00:17:35) - Starting to Finish Motherhood With Aisha

2/4/26 • 35:47

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. If this episode gave you something, here is a link to buy me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. Choosing a sperm donor is one of the most personal and layered decisions in the Single Mother by Choice journey. In this mash-up episode, Aisha revisits the early questions, fears, and considerations that come with donor selection—now grounded in lived experience and reflection. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice, Black women navigating donor conception, and anyone seeking clarity, agency, and reassurance in the decision-making process. In this episode, Aisha: Breaks down the different types of sperm donors and donor arrangements Discusses how values, identity, and long-term thinking shape donor choice Reflects on emotional, cultural, and practical considerations Addresses common anxieties and decision fatigue Emphasizes that informed choice—not perfection—is the goal This mash-up offers space to slow down, ask better questions, and trust yourself as you build your family with intention. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/   Chapters (00:00:04) - Single Mothers: What They Need to Know(00:03:46) - Donor Choosing(00:04:51) - Donor Sperm Search: From 554 to 1(00:06:27) - Using A Donor For My Baby(00:08:11) - Why are the numbers of black donors so low(00:09:35) - Starting to Finish Motherhood With Aisha

1/28/26 • 10:26

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. If this episode gave you something, here is a link to buy me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. When you’re starting or expanding your family as a Single Mother by Choice, understanding your fertility options matters. In this mash-up episode, Aisha revisits the basics of IUI and IVF—what they are, how they differ, and why context is everything. This episode is for Single Mothers by Choice, Black women navigating fertility decisions, and anyone feeling overwhelmed by medical language and options. In this episode, Aisha: Explains the core differences between IUI and IVF in plain language Discusses factors that influence fertility decision-making Reflects on cost, access, timing, and emotional readiness Names the importance of advocacy and informed consent Emphasizes that there is no “right” path—only the right one for you This mash-up blends early fertility education with lived reflection, helping listeners approach decisions with clarity, self-trust, and agency. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/   Chapters (00:00:04) - Start to Finish Motherhood(00:01:44) - Pregnancy Rates by Procedures and Race(00:05:56) - How To Cope With a SMC(00:06:57) - IUI vs In-Vitro Fertilization ((00:08:36) - What are the costs associated with IVF cycle(00:10:03) - UI vs IVF: How to get pregnant with your own eggs(00:11:54) - How To Finish IVF 3 Times

1/21/26 • 16:51

If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. If this episode gave you something, here is a link to buy me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. What does it actually mean to be a Single Mother by Choice—and why does clarity matter so much at the beginning of the journey? In this foundational mash-up episode, Aisha revisits one of the most common and important questions she’s been asked over the years. This episode is for women exploring solo motherhood, Black women considering becoming Single Mothers by Choice, and anyone seeking language, grounding, and validation around intentional family building. In this episode, Aisha: Defines what “Single Mother by Choice” truly means Breaks down common misconceptions and stereotypes Explains the difference between circumstance and intention Shares why naming your path matters emotionally and practically Reflects on how identity, choice, and community shape the journey This mash-up brings early insights into conversation with lived experience, offering reassurance that intentional motherhood can be thoughtful, empowered, and deeply rooted in care. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/   Chapters (00:00:04) - Single Mothers by Choice: How to Parent Your Childs(00:04:42) - SNC on the SMC Path(00:06:40) - The Journey to Having a Second Daughter(00:08:04) - The Social Perception of Single Motherhood(00:09:28) - What is a Single Mother by Choice?(00:10:53) - What do you think is the biggest difference between a single mother by(00:13:07) - What Makes an SMC Different From Others?(00:15:32) - Do You Hate Men?(00:16:30) - Starting to Finish Motherhood With Aisha

1/14/26 • 17:24

If this episode gave you something, here is a link to buy me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. For Black Single Mothers by Choice continuing the journey, these Mash-Up episodes revisit early conversations with new insight from parenting school-age children. What happens when you pause long enough to reflect—and then decide to bring everything you’ve built back under one roof? In this Season Five trailer, Aisha shares what’s ahead for Start to Finish Motherhood and why this season is about honoring the past while moving forward with intention. This episode is for Black single mothers by choice, long-time listeners, and anyone navigating transition, reflection, and renewal. In this short but grounding episode, Aisha: Reflects on the evolution of Start to Finish Motherhood Shares why this season blends archived wisdom with present-day perspective Explains the intention behind the Season Five “mash-up” format Invites listeners into a slower, more integrated season of storytelling Sets the tone for reflection, honesty, and continuity Season Five is about bringing the full journey together—early motherhood, hard decisions, growth, and clarity—under one banner. Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starttofinishmotherhood YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StarttoFinishMotherhood Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/starttofinishmotherhood/   Chapters (00:00:04) - Starting to Finish Motherhood: Black Single Mothers by Choice

1/14/26 • 03:14

In this heartfelt holiday update, Aisha returns to share gratitude, reflection, and a beautiful glimpse into what’s next for the Start to Finish Motherhood community. After an intense year balancing career growth, motherhood, and personal evolution, she takes a moment to slow down, acknowledge how far we’ve come, and celebrate the resilience and love that has carried us through. In this message, Aisha reflects on her transition into technical consulting, lessons learned during her hiatus, and the clarity she gained about the future direction of the podcast. With honesty and warmth, she revisits the early years of her Single Mother by Choice journey, honoring where she’s been and embracing where she’s going. And here’s the exciting news: Season 5 is officially coming in 2026! This next chapter will bring her creative works back under one home, blending beloved earlier episodes with fresh reflections, updated insights, and new perspectives on life, motherhood, community, and growth. Think of it as a thoughtful “throwback season” — a loving conversation between past and present, weaving together wisdom, laughter, lessons, and love. As always, this space remains grounded in authenticity, friendship, joy, and the powerful community that surrounds Start to Finish Motherhood. From Aisha’s family to yours — wishing you peace, warmth, and a joyful New Year. Stay tuned… and get ready for what’s next. 00:00 – Looking back on an unforgettable year 00:45 – A warm holiday wish to the community 01:00 – Announcing Season Five 01:30 – Career pivots, growth, and clarity 02:15 – What a meaningful hiatus revealed 03:00 – Reflecting on early parenting and honoring privacy 03:45 – Revisiting earlier creative work and lessons learned 04:15 – The decision to reunite everything under one banner 04:45 – Introducing the “throwback” concept + future vision 05:20 – Deep gratitude for friendship, love, and community 06:00 – Holiday blessings + see you in 2026! Chapters (00:00:04) - Starting to Finish Motherhood(00:00:28) - Single Mother by Choice:

12/24/25 • 06:15

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. In this reflective closing episode of season four, Aisha shares her journey through personal challenges, including navigating a toxic work environment, prioritizing mental health, and embracing change. She discusses the importance of support systems, self-care, and taking time to find clarity in life decisions. Aisha emphasizes the significance of owning one's narrative and the freedom that comes with making intentional choices. As she looks forward to new adventures, she encourages listeners to embrace their own journeys with courage and authenticity.   Black Single Mothers by Choice: https://open.spotify.com/show/0PBzQRzmLQOTpwl3x9deAG?si=34b2b4a90cf54908   Start to Finish Motherhood Blog: Home - Blog   Start to Finish Motherhood on YouTube: (1) Start to Finish Motherhood - YouTube

8/13/25 • 23:09

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. In this episode, Aisha recounts her transformative 24-day vacation with her two children. Sharing the logistics, cost analysis, and emotional highlights, she emphasizes the irreplaceable lifetime memories created despite a substantial expense of $8,000. The discussion touches on the importance of relaxation, the challenges of language barriers, and the need for child-friendly activities. While enjoying botanical gardens and parks, she also navigates instances of cultural insensitivity. Regine reflects on how such travel experiences, inherited from her father, are a valuable legacy she plans to pass on to her children.   Travel was arranged and coordinated in part by Lia Travels Find out more about SMBC Resources here!

8/6/25 • 16:36

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. In this episode, Aisha shares insights and personal experiences on planning birthday parties, especially for kids. Highlighting the importance of simplicity, budgeting, and focusing on the child's enjoyment, she offers practical advice for parents navigating the challenges of birthday planning. The conversation includes age-specific tips, addresses common anxieties, and emphasizes the significance of personal touches over societal expectations. Aisha also underscores the importance of celebrating one's own birthday, modeling self-care and celebration for children.

7/30/25 • 22:55

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. Join Aisha in this super-sized and enlightening episode which delves into the vibrant lives of expat single mothers. Through an engaging panel discussion, they explore the unique challenges and joys of parenting abroad, from the decision to move for a fresh start to the day-to-day experiences that shape their new lives in Mexico. Our panelists, including Key, Johna, and Pam, share their heartfelt stories and practical advice on navigating life away from the U.S., touching on topics like racism, community building, and the pursuit of a peaceful, fulfilling life for their children. Tune in to be inspired by these brave women who took the leap into expat motherhood, seeking a better quality of life and a community outside the US.   Path to Freedom: The Path to Freedom | Doing Life Afraid Exudus Summit: ExodUS Summit 2023 by ExodUS Summit (heysummit.com) Hermana a Hermana Female Entreprenur Collective FB Group

7/23/25 • 69:09

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. In this episode, the host reflects on how becoming a parent has changed her life and discusses the challenges and joys of incorporating travel with kids. She shares a story about a trip to Sri Lanka that included a 16-hour layover in London, allowing her to meet a virtual friend, Nadine, and their children in person for the first time. Nadine also shares insights on the Windrush generation and its impact on her family. This episode highlights the importance of seizing opportunities to build meaningful connections and explores the sense of community within the Melanated Single Mother by Choice group.

7/16/25 • 15:16

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. In this episode, we have an enlightening conversation with Dr. Natasha, also known as the Medical Tourism RN. We dive deep into important topics surrounding reproductive health, fertility options, and the growing trend of medical and fertility tourism. From understanding a basic fertility workup to navigating international healthcare systems, we cover a wide variety of topics that are crucial for women, especially those in the Single Mother by Choice (SMC) community. Whether you're considering IVF, looking for cost-effective healthcare options abroad, or just want to understand your reproductive health better, this episode is packed with valuable information. Don't miss out—tune in to empower yourself with knowledge and make informed decisions about your fertility journey!     MedicalTourism RN   Reproductive Health: Navigating Wellness For Black Women to Prepare to Go Abroad

7/9/25 • 45:24

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. In this episode, host Aisha interviews Regine, the founder of SMBC Resources. Regine shares her journey as a solo mother by choice, including the personal and societal challenges she overcame. She discusses her motivation for creating SMBC Resources, a central hub offering a directory of experts, guides, scholarships, and tools for solo moms or women wanting to embark on a solo motherhood journey. Regine emphasizes the importance of dismantling stereotypes around single parenting and the need for supportive communities. The episode covers various aspects of the journey, from the importance of understanding one's resources to the joy and challenges of solo parenting.   Find out more about SMBC Resources here!

7/2/25 • 61:43

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. In this episode, Aisha shares practical advice for single mothers traveling with children through a detailed recount of her family's 24-day trip to Sri Lanka. The episode captures snippets of their journey, featuring real-time reactions from her kids, tips for making the most of travel experiences, and the significance of cultural immersion. Aisha reflects on the challenges and joys of international travel with kids, from navigating long flights to embracing local cuisines and traditions. Highlights include their adventures in Colombo, Kandy, and Wellagama Bay, interactions with locals, and unique experiences like safaris and tea plantation visits.   Travel was arranged and coordinated in part by Lia Travels

6/25/25 • 43:45

In this episode, we explore part two of building your Single Mother by Choice village. While part one focused on involving family members, here, we delve into expanding your support network within the global Single Mother by Choice community. You'll learn that connecting with just three to four like-minded single mothers by choice, who share your interests and may have kids of similar ages, can be invaluable. Aisha stresses the importance of relying on this community, especially when family support might not materialize as expected. She highlights how fellow single mothers by choice offer support at every stage of your journey, validate your unique family, and even help your children. Plus, stay tuned for tips on finding and connecting with your community in this vibrant space—it's a priceless resource!

6/18/25 • 38:13

In this episode, we explore the unexpected surprise one parent experiences when her 7 year old daughter starts talking about Teslas. We discuss how Tesla has become a topic of conversation on playgrounds and among children. We also learn that black children need to see more people driving electric cars, so we talk about one person’s efforts to make that happen in their own community. Finally, we are introduced to North Star, a geospatial intelligence platform that can help shape policies and practices related to pandemics, federal infrastructure plans, education investments and more. We can also create environmental awareness within our homes, like through a garden where kids can learn about bees, insects, Monarch butterflies, and where food comes from. Lastly, North Star is an organization focused on using geographic data and geospatial intelligence for pandemic response, federal infrastructure plans, education investments, as well as ride-sharing apps like Uber.   They can visit us @gisnorthstar.org online. They can also find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn.   https://gisnorthstar.org/  

6/15/25 • 20:51

Add this to each podcast episode: If this podcast has helped you in any way, consider buying me a coffee. No pressure. Just know it keeps the mic on. Aisha engages in aa funny, insightful and heartfelt conversation with her guest, Kimberly, about the challenges and strategies of dating as a Single Mother by Choice (SMC). Kimberly shares her personal journey of becoming an SMC, her experiences with the resilience needed to balance motherhood and dating, and detailed strategies for dating successfully. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-care, maintaining a support network, advocating for oneself, and dating intelligently and safely while managing the unique challenges faced by single mothers. Listeners gain practical advice on everything from preparing for dates, utilizing online dating, to maintaining enthusiasm and energy in the dating process. The episode also explores the importance of dating oneself and keeping a positive self-image.

6/11/25 • 41:03