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Start to Finish Motherhood with Aisha

Start to Finish Motherhood, a podcast for those thinking or already Single Mothers by Choice, just looking for practical advice for navigating life's relationships. When you decide to have children on your own, it doesn't mean that you're completely alone. Aisha is partnering with you every step of your journey. Hosted by Aisha (former co-host of the Mocha Single Mothers by Choice / Black Single Mothers by Choice podcast).


S3E4 - What's it Like to Find Out You're Having Twins - Jamela
Join Aisha as she converses with  Jamila, who shares her inspiring story of embracing her twin pregnancy.  In this episode, we dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of pursuing parenthood solo, from deciding to become a mom, navigating fertility treatments as a solo person, to the joyous discovery of expecting twins. This conversation sheds light on the resilience, hope, and community needed to support the single mother by choice's journey.  Tune in for an episode filled with personal insights, laughter, and the shared excitement of what it's like find out you are having and preparing to welcome twins.
36:52 5/22/24
S3E3 - What's it Like Parenting as an Expat
Join Aisha in this super sized and enlightening episode which delves into the vibrant lives of expat single mothers. Through an engaging panel discussion, they explore the unique challenges and joys of parenting abroad, from the decision to move for a fresh start to the day-to-day experiences that shape their new lives in Mexico. Our panelists, including Key, Johna, and Pam, share their heartfelt stories and practical advice on navigating life away from the U.S., touching on topics like racism, community building, and the pursuit of a peaceful, fulfilling life for their children. Tune in to be inspired by these brave women who took the leap into expat motherhood, seeking a better quality of life and a community outside the US.   Path to Freedom: The Path to Freedom | Doing Life Afraid Exudus Summit: ExodUS Summit 2023 by ExodUS Summit ( Hermana a Hermana Female Entreprenur Collective FB Group
68:53 5/15/24
S3E2 - *Rebroadcast* On A Mother's Legacy w/ Dawn Wright
*This is a rebroadcast of the Season 2 Mother's day Episode* In this podcast episode, Aisha and Dawn discuss Dawn's life and career. Dawn is a chief scientist, keynote speaker, and author who became the first Black person to go to the deepest part of the ocean. Aisha and Dawn discuss the struggles of being the only Black person in their respective workplaces and the importance of diversity and representation. They also talk about the impact of Dawn's mother on her life and career, and how her mother's words of encouragement have stayed with her throughout her life. Additionally, they touch on Dawn's experiences growing up in Hawaii, her work as an ocean-going science technician, and her pursuit of a PhD at UC Santa Barbara, which led her to discover her passion for GIS. Overall, the podcast is a heartfelt conversation about the challenges of navigating academia and science as a person of color, the importance of mentorship, and the impact of supportive parenting. To learn more about Dawn's Expedition:
41:13 5/10/24
S3E1 - What's it Like Being a Mom Who Podcasts
Welcome to the third season of Start to Finish Motherhood, a podcast where the vibrant Aisha partners with listeners navigating the unique journey of single motherhood by choice. In this first episode, Aisha warmly ushers in the new season with excitement, reflecting on the unexpected twists and turns of life and how each year offers new challenges and opportunities, and a delightful conversation around what it's like to be a mother who podcasts!
28:32 5/8/24
*Bonus* Alabama IVF Ruling with Alease the Embryologist
In this episode, Aisha is joined by Alease, an esteemed embryologist from North Carolina, to discuss the significant Alabama Supreme Court ruling on frozen embryos. This ruling has sparked discussions about the legal status of embryos and its effects on IVF treatments. Alease provides an in-depth look at Assisted Reproductive Technologies (ART), from the science behind embryo development to the steps leading to potential pregnancy. They also address the immediate concerns of patients in Alabama, including the impact on ongoing and future treatment cycles, legal uncertainties, and the situation for those with embryos stored in the state. This conversation offers valuable insights into the intersection of reproductive technology, law, and ethics. Follow Alease: Alease Daniel Barnes, B.S. Embryologist (@alease_the_embryologist) • Instagram photos and videos RESOLVE’s Statement Regarding Alabama Supreme Court Ruling | ASRM Condemns Profoundly Misguided and Dangerous Court Decision in Alabama | American Society for Reproductive Medicine | ASRM  
23:14 2/28/24
*New Podcast Alert* NorthStar GAZE
Embark on a transformative journey with the “NorthStar Gaze" podcast, sharing intimate stories from Geo luminaries. In 1-on-1 chats, explore their journeys and profound contributions to geography and GIS. Inspired by our Telescope program, each episode offers a telescopic view into their lives. Uncover the human side of Geo, where passion meets purpose, and racial justice is central. The “NorthStar Gaze" is your invitation to a Homecoming, where diverse voices paint the tapestry of contributions to geography and STEM. Tune in and let the brilliance of these geo-stars guide you.
01:25 2/14/24
S2E17 - Reflections on Season 2
In the final episode of 'Start to Finish Motherhood' Season 2, Aisha takes a reflective journey back through the season. From discussions about single motherhood, dealing with grief, healthcare and navigating personal financial wellbeing, Aisha thanks the phenomenal guests of Season 2 and highlights their impactful insights. This episode provides a warm farewell... until Season 3. To be the first to hear about the Season 3 release date, subscribe to the Start to Finish Motherhood newsletter! Check out video episodes on the Start to Finish Motherhood YouTube channel Please leave a rating on: Amazon Music Apple Podcasts Spotify (please lea a Leave a 5 star rating)
38:42 1/24/24
S2E16 - How to Prepare for and Survive the IEP Process w/ Sudane & Sunday
In this supersized, but highly informative, episode guests Sudane and Sunday share their professional insight into the Individualized Education Plan process (IEP) and Aisha shares part of her personal experience navigating the process as a parent.   A detailed examination of IEPs and 504 plans is provided, highlighting their uses, differences and recommendations for navigating the process. The conversation also covers obtaining services from public and private schools, offering advice on how parents can advocate effectively during the various phases of the process.  All three, offer the sage advice encouraging parents to be proactive and involved throughout the process. They conversation also touches on the structural forces, racial disparities that impact seeking special education services and the growing acceptance and transparency around IEPs. 
58:08 1/17/24
S2E15 - Your Frequently Asked Questions
Welcome to another exciting episode of Start to Finish Motherhood Season Two! Today, we've got something special in store for you, as promised – it's the Frequently Asked Questions episode. But before we dive into these fantastic questions that you, wonderful listeners, sent in through email, the Facebook group, and our Start to Finish Motherhood Instagram page, I want to extend a heartfelt thank you to all of you. Your engagement and support mean the world to me.   Now, let's set the stage before we get into these thought-provoking questions. I want to share where my mind is at – not too long ago, I was right where many of you are now, just beginning this incredible journey of single motherhood by choice. So, some of these questions take me back to those early days, while others reflect where I am now with my kids aged nine and four, soon to be five. I'm deep in the parenting trenches, and I want you to know that I'm not here to downplay your experiences. We've all been there, caught up in worries about what others might say or think. But there comes a point where you gain some perspective and realize that everything's going to be okay. That's the lens I'm using to offer my advice.  Here is a peek at some of the questions addressed in this episode:   1. How did you prepare your supervisors and direct reports at work for your pregnancy? 2. How do you politely tell male friends you do not want them to be your donor? 3. How do you deal with the long wait time between thinking of becoming an SMC and trying?   4. How do you find the time to fit in workouts as a single mom? 5. How do you explain your child's conception story to others, and do people typically believe you? 6. Were you financially prepared when you decided to become an SMC? 7. Is there a distinction between being a solo mom, a choice mom, and an SMC? 8. Do SMCs ever get married, and if so, how does it impact their single motherhood journey? 9. Have you thought about the long-term consequences of being an SMC, and if so, what are they? 10. How do you approach your dating profile if you're an SMC?   And many more...   Get ready for some insightful answers to these burning questions in this episode!
43:49 1/10/24
Bonus - Happy Holidays from Start to Finish Motherhood
Thank you all for making 2023 a huge success.  Happy Holiday Season from the Start to Finish Motherhood family to yours.  Wishing you peace and joy.  See you in 2024 with the final three episodes of season 2. Looking from something more check out the videos from season 2 on the YouTube playlist.  Oh and don't forget to subscribe, like, and share.
00:59 12/23/23
S2E14 - How Health Maintenance Plays a Part in Your Estate Plan w/ Dr. Renita White
In this insightful podcast episode, we explore the essentials of being an intentional single parent, with a focus on health maintenance and legal planning. Our guest, Dr. Rita White, an expert OBGYN, emphasizes the importance of proactive health care and self-advocacy. Key topics include the need for vital legal documents, understanding family medical history, and navigating healthcare disparities, especially for single mothers by choice. The discussion also delves into fertility awareness and the role of community support in managing health care challenges. This episode offers valuable insights for anyone interested in health, parenting, and informed decision-making.
41:14 12/20/23
S2E13 - How Functional Medicine can Play a Role in the Fertility Journey w/ Bertha
In this engaging podcast episode, Bertha, a Single Mother by Choice and functional medicine practitioner, shared her inspiring journey to motherhood and the intersection of functional medicine with fertility, menopause, and overall health. Bertha emphasized the importance of addressing root causes in functional medicine, offering valuable insights into optimizing the body for fertility and the impact of stress on well-being. The conversation expanded to preventative care, encapsulated in the NEWSTART principles, covering nutrition, exercise, water intake, sunlight exposure, temperance, air, rest, and trust. Bertha highlighted the therapeutic benefits of gardening and the importance of sunscreen in skincare. This episode seamlessly weaves personal narrative, expert insights, and practical tips, providing a holistic exploration of Bertha's journey and the vital role of functional medicine in well-being.   To find out more about Bertha's Functional Medicine Practice visit:  Holistic Doctors I Aesthetics Services I Specialty Labs (
49:28 12/13/23
S2E12 - How Dating Has Changed in the Age of Social Media w/ Jada
In this lively podcast episode, Aisha and her guest, Jada, dive into the intricacies of dating in the era of social media. They discuss various aspects of online dating, the importance of open communication in relationships, and how social media can impact personal lives. The conversation also highlights the need for understanding and respect when airing relationship issues on social media (we don't recommend it) and how to recover from a gaffe. Aisha and Jada share insights, personal experiences, and valuable advice for navigating the complex world of dating in the digital age.   Jada can be found, wherever you get your podcasts and here! 
44:33 12/6/23
S2E11 - How to Attain a Soft Life as A Single Mother by Choice
In this episode, Aisha shares her journey through a significant life transition as her children grow older and more independent. She discusses her desire for a "soft life," where she aims to reduce stress and create more space for herself. Aisha explores various strategies to achieve this, including finding me-time through babysitters and Parents Night Out events, considering regular massages for relaxation and flexibility, and exploring meal prep services to simplify her cooking routine. She also highlights the importance of cherishing moments with her children as they grow and reflects on the privilege and responsibility that come with her choices as a single mother by choice. Join Aisha as she navigates this transition and strives to make her life more stress-free and fulfilling.
25:08 11/29/23
S2E10 - How I Adopted my Child at Birth w/ Joy
In this heartwarming episode, we delve into Joy's Single Mother by Choice journey, which took her through the ups and downs of adoption. Aisha highlights the importance of resilience during the path to parenthood, emphasizing that becoming a single mother by choice is indeed a journey. Joy shares her adoption experience, from creating an adoption profile to navigating the process with consultants and agencies. She discusses her motivation to adopt, emphasizing the need for self-advocacy and staying in the driver's seat. Joy also encourages seeking support from therapists and online communities like the Melanated Single Mothers by Choice Facebook group. She mentions valuable resources like the "We Adopt Too" granting agency for families of color pursuing adoption. It's a conversation filled with wisdom and inspiration for anyone on their own Single Mother by Choice journey.   Joy's Story: Journey to Motherhood: Adopting as a Single Black Woman - Ebony Joy's IG handle
49:14 11/22/23
S2E9 - How to Build a Village from Your Work Community
In this episode, Aisha continues her series on building your Single Mother by Choice (SMC) village, focusing on creating connections and support within your workplace. She emphasizes the importance of intentionally seeking out meaningful relationships with coworkers, which can be a valuable source of support for SMCs. Aisha shares her personal experiences and insights on how to establish these connections, maintain boundaries, and build diverse relationships that can benefit your parenting journey. Whether you're an SMC or part of another community, these tips on connecting with coworkers can apply to various situations. Aisha encourages listeners to be open, respectful, and proactive in building their village within the workplace.
30:05 11/15/23
S2E8 - How Finacial Planning Can Support Your SMC Journey w/ Nicole, CFP
In this lively and informative episode, Aisha introduces Nicole, a certified financial planner with 20 years of experience, and dives into a range of topics relevant to the Single Mother by Choice community. Nicole shares her qualifications and highlights the importance of working with a fiduciary for financial peace of mind. The conversation covers financial planning for various life stages, including tips for those in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, as well as insights on funding options for adoption and college savings. Listeners will appreciate Nicole's practical advice and can easily connect with her through her website and social media for further guidance.   Nicole Carson can be found: Web: Instagram: @2nd_storywealth
47:36 11/8/23
S2E7 - How Lack of Margin Impacts My Parenting
In this episode, Aisha delves into the crucial concept of creating "margin" in our lives. She discusses how margin refers to making space for unexpected but predictable occurrences like flat tires, sick children, or personal health issues. Aisha shares her approach to balancing social commitments and self-care, especially as a single mother. She reflects on how stress can affect her and, in turn, her children, and offers insights into managing her mood and boundaries to alleviate stress. Aisha's candid and relatable discussion provides valuable tips for parents striving to create balance and margin in their lives, ensuring a healthier and more fulfilling parenting journey.   This is an updated article of the one that is mentioned in the episode: Busyness & The Lack of Margin in Our Lives - Appreciation at Work   Journal can be found here:
35:47 11/1/23
S2E6 - How I Grieved the Loss of my Daughter w/ Madli
In this poignant episode, Aisha and Madli discuss the challenging journey of single motherhood by choice, with a trigger warning for the loss of a child. They emphasize how such losses change lives and the need to acknowledge these struggles, especially in October, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Month. Madli shares her personal experience of a stillbirth and its physical and emotional toll. They talk about the grief process, challenges of the medical system, and advice for those dealing with loss. The episode aims to create awareness, understanding, and support for those affected by pregnancy and infant loss.
35:41 10/25/23
S2E5 - How to Build a Village from the Single Mothers by Choice Community
In this episode, we explore part two of building your Single Mother by Choice village. While part one focused on involving family members, here, we delve into expanding your support network within the global Single Mother by Choice community. You'll learn that connecting with just three to four like-minded single mothers by choice, who share your interests and may have kids of similar ages, can be invaluable. Aisha stresses the importance of relying on this community, especially when family support might not materialize as expected. She highlights how fellow single mothers by choice offer support at every stage of your journey, validate your unique family, and even help your children. Plus, stay tuned for tips on finding and connecting with your community in this vibrant space—it's a priceless resource!      
37:56 10/18/23
S2E4 - How I'm Living My Best Life Childfree w/ Dr.Kris Marsh and Rahmah
In this episode Aisha has a conversation with Dr. Kris Marsh and Rahmah Wims about choice, societal norms, and living as part of the "Love Jones Cohort." Dr. Marsh's book, "The Love Jones Cohort: Single and Living Alone in the Black Middle Class," explores the experiences of Black individuals who have chosen to remain single and live alone. The discussion delves into their experience, the backlash they've faced for their choices, societal messaging around Black women's life choices, and how these choices are perceived differently at various stages of life. The guests emphasize the importance of respecting diverse life paths and encourage asking questions about why people make the choices they do. Purchase Dr. Marsh's book here:  Amazon Audible Find out More about Dr. Kris Marsh: The Embodied podcast that Dr. Marsh and Aisha appeared on discussing being Single by Choice More on Rahmah's Journey: S1E9 - On Ending the SMC Journey and Moving on w/ Rahmah  
57:06 10/11/23
S2E3 - How to Build a Village from Family Members
In this insightful episode, Aisha discusses the crucial topic of building a "Single Mother by Choice" village, addressing questions many in this community often have. The episode delves into the complexities of selecting and nurturing a support network, focusing on building a community from family members (later episodes will focus on building community from co workers and from the larger SMC community). Aisha emphasizes the importance of honest self-assessment and thorough vetting of potential village members, highlighting key considerations such as values, communication, kindness, and consistency. Drawing from personal experiences, Aisha provides valuable guidance for single mothers by choice, urging them to be intentional about who they invite into their lives and their children's lives. This episode serves as a thoughtful and practical resource for those embarking on the journey of single motherhood by choice and hoping to build a village.  Submit your frequently asked questions here so they can be answered on a future episode and via personal email from the host of Start to Finish Motherhood.  
31:16 10/4/23
S2E2 - How I'm Parenting Transracially, An Adoption Story w/ Lynn
In this podcast episode, Aisha interviews Lynn, a single mother by choice who adopted two white children from foster care and later had a biological child through embryo adoption. Lynn shares her journey and experiences in adopting transracially and raising multiracial children. She discusses the challenges and joys of being a single mother by choice and navigating conversations about race and identity with her children. Lynn emphasizes the importance of providing a diverse and inclusive environment for her children and empowering them to set boundaries when it comes to sharing their adoption stories with others. She also recommends joining online support groups and communities for individuals interested in adoption and parenting transracially. If you want to learn more about the life of Single Mother’s by Choice and the things, they navigate on a day-to-day basis check out this Day in the Life Playlist here. If you have questions, you’d like to have addressed on the podcast submit it here.
34:13 9/27/23
S2E1 - How I Spent Three Days Without Kids & Updates
In the season two opener, Aisha reflects on her journey from a reluctant podcaster to a passionate storyteller. She discusses the joy of podcasting, sharing stories, and connecting with listeners as a "friend in someone's head." The upcoming season promises a diverse range of episodes, including conversations with authors, discussions on adoption, and more. Aisha also shares personal experiences from her busy summer, raising her kids, and navigating the dating world. As she enters a new phase with her children growing up, she acknowledges the challenges of transitions but is leaning into each moment. The season will also feature a Frequently Asked Questions episode, so listeners are encouraged to send in their queries. Stay tuned for an exciting and insightful Season Two! Submit your frequently asked questions here so they can be answered on a future episode and via personal email from the host of Start to Finish Motherhood. Interested in learning more about summers as an SMC checkout this video on YouTube click here.  Read about our summer here. 
27:00 9/27/23
S2E0 - Season 2 Trailer
Are you ready for the next phase of this incredible journey?  Season two of the Start to Finish Motherhood podcast is about to kick off, and trust us, you don't want to miss it! Get ready to dive into a world of joy, human connection, and invaluable information. Start to Finish Motherhood is a podcast for anyone who's thinking of becoming a single mother by choice, anyone who's already parenting as a single mother by choice and just looking for advice on navigating it all, or a friend or family member who's looking to support someone else's single mother by choice journey. This season, we've got it all - from health advocacy to navigating the complexities of dating in the age of social media, from financial literacy to exploring the empowering choice of single motherhood. We'll touch on love, loss, functional medicine, adoption, community-building as a single mother by choice, and so much more. If you're not already subscribed to the podcast here or on the YouTube channel (Start to Finish Motherhood - YouTube), now's the time to hit that notification button because you deserve this wealth of knowledge and inspiration. In this season, we're taking you on a rollercoaster ride through some eye-opening discussions. Ever wondered about the art of sliding into someone's DMs? We break down what it means and the potential outcomes – from good trouble to bad trouble. We also explore the world of online dating, which extends beyond apps and into your personal social media profiles. Plus, we delve into the importance of life insurance and having a will, and we uncover the fascinating world of functional medicine, especially its relevance to addressing health disparities in the Black community. So get ready for insightful conversations that resonate with women considering motherhood and empower you with knowledge and stories that'll inspire your journey. Don't miss out – season two is just around the corner!   Join the mailing list today Visit the website for blogs and other resources  
16:43 9/18/23
Bonus - (Part 2) On Challenging the Assumption that Single Mothers by Choice Hate Men w/ Clinton
Aisha and Clinton wrap up their conversation and discuss upcoming programing for   Clinton Johnson along with Aisha and others are founders of NorthStar of GIS an organization focused on increasing representation and inclusion in geostem fields.    
20:51 6/14/23
Bonus - (Part 1) On Challenging the Assumption that Single Mothers by Choice Hate Men w/ Clinton
In anticipation of Father's Day, Aisha Jenkins challenges the assumption that Single Mothers by Choice harbor resentment towards men. Her lens is shaped by her own positive experiences with her step father and close relationships with brothers and friends who actively participate in her children's lives. Aisha's guest, Clinton Johnson, joins the conversation as one of those trusted male friends. They discuss their collaborative work and exchange insights on navigating single parenthood. Clinton shares his experiences from two decades ago, allowing for a comparison with Aisha's current journey. The discussion delves into the stereotypes surrounding single parenthood and how these perceptions impact various aspects of life, from education to the workplace. Together, Aisha and Clinton challenge societal norms and shed light on the diverse experiences of single parents. Clinton Johnson along with Aisha and others are founders of NorthStar of GIS an organization focused on increasing representation and inclusion in geostem fields.
30:48 6/14/23
S1E20 - Reflecting on Season 1
The first season of Start to Finish Motherhood has been a truly incredible journey, filled with blessings and a deep trust in the path set before me. I've had the privilege of sharing meaningful, human stories from diverse perspectives, emphasizing the importance of connecting on a personal level. Through my own experiences and a desire to pay it forward, I've focused on normalizing black voices and stories, amplifying their narratives alongside those of others.   Within the Single Mother by Choice community, I've found my calling, empowering individuals to live their best lives. By presenting a comprehensive portrayal of the journey, I've aimed to capture the full range of experiences and emotions. I'm immensely grateful to all the guests who trusted me with their stories, and I'm excited to continue highlighting the essence of each interview that resonated with listeners.   These Episodes have videos that can be found here on my YouTube channel:   S1E2 - *Video* On Why Self-Care Should be a Priority (Part 1) with Tennielle Brew   S1E10 - *Video* How to Plan a Life-Changing Sabbatical Abroad (Single Mom by Choice Style)   S1E15 - *Video* On Financial Planning for Single Mothers by Choice w/ Wilson S1E17 - *Video* On Navigating Donor Sibling Relationships w/ Edrenna and Rosanna Hertz S1E18 - *Video* On Using a Known Donor - w/ Elaine   Audio only episodes: S1E6 - (Part 2) On Shooting for the Stars as a Single Mother by Choice parenting with a Disability S1E8 - On Making Mommy Friends w/ Vikki S1E9 - On Ending the Single Mother by Choice (SMC) Journey and Moving on w/ Rahmah S1E16 - On A Mother's Legacy w/ Dawn Wright
39:56 6/7/23
S1E19 - Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) w/ Aisha
In this episode, Aisha dives into some questions frequently asked of Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs) along with some questions sent in by you!  She covers questions like the typical day of a Single Mother by Choice, the experience of an HSG (Hysterosalpingogram), surprises of solo parenting, advice for raising multiracial children, going from one child to two, and more. Keep those questions coming and stay tuned for answers in season 2.  Oh, and don't forget to check out the YouTube video of this episode!   Check out the video episode here!   Aisha mentioned her PopSugar artice during this episode, you can read it here.
37:47 5/31/23
S1E18 - On Using a Known Donor - w/ Elaine
In this episode, we dive into the fascinating world of unconventional family planning and the diverse paths people can take to create their own families. Our guest today is Elaine, a Single Mother by Choice (SMC) who embarked on this unique journey using known donor sperm. She also happens to be the founder of a thriving Facebook group that connects aspiring parents with sperm donors. Get ready for an honest and supportive conversation that challenges traditional norms and celebrates the power of choice.   Check out the video of this episode here on YouTube!   During this episode Elaine mentioned Sperm Donor USA which is one of the FB Groups she admins.   Some of the resources Elaine mentioned during the episode: Pre Mom Thermometer Wondfo Pregnanacy test strips Easy home Ovulation test strips Softcup Menstrual Cup Modern Fertility test kit Books I have used and feel comfortable sharing my affiliate link:  It Starts with the Egg  Knock yourself Up For additional resources and to join the Start to Finish Motherhood membership visit: Join the mailing list: You can download my free Conversation Prep to help you prepare for any tough conversation you will be having: Check out my Wall Street Journal profile:
35:46 5/24/23