The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.
Today, we’re just going to jam on gratitude and perspective and how the way we frame things is the way we see them. I’m sharing what I think are the most valuable insights and thoughts I have in this season of life. Things I’ve learned from my reading a book a week every week and just being a student of life. Having conversations with all different types of people and perspectives and with different experiences. This is a fun one with lots of different ideas for you think about and maybe insert your life and routine. I loveeee reading a book a week I’ve replaced social media with reading/audio books Only on social during mellow movement - breaking the cycle of social media early morning and in evenings and in any free minutes. I have a plan and stick to it instead. I’m prioritizing stretching with weights for longevity I 100% believe that aging is mostly neglect not an avoidable part of life I’m going PRO at sleeping and bedtime routine - setting a plan and being strict with it And when something seems hard- becoming a PRO at it - starting something or solving something. Monotasking - do one thing until it’s totally done Using social media strategically and not passively Purge. Have less and know where it all is. Plus life is so much more calm. Spending money very intentionally. For me it’s mostly longevity and nutrition. I also like being put together and have nice things to wear but that’s way more Zara these days than designer. Have a set plan for the day before it gets going. If you don’t have a plan, your day will run you. Start in control and stick to the plan. Don’t let emotion stray you. Sending love to you and yours this holiday season and beyond!
11/29/24 • 29:16
Whether you have one kid or 5 kids or you don’t have kids but plan to one day… this podcast episode is filled with ideas for you to really connect with each child - starting at any age. Life is busy and the months go by quickly. I’ve learned just how important it is to slow down and be mindful of the relationship and connection that you have with each child and how it changes as they get older. My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas of ways to really connect and stay connected with your child. Ideas that will really get you thinking about how you can insert the best ideas for you, into your daily lives. I believe so much that an extra ordinary life comes largely from taking ordinary moments and making them extra ordinary and this episode is filled with so many ways to do just that with your babies. **Lots of ideas… 1:1 time consistently Leave out something to do together (book or football etc) Do what they are interested in Ask questions that are open ended and curious Show your love in the way that resonates most with them Celebrate tiny wins- things you wouldn’t normally celebrate Learn a new skill together Share a hobby Create traditions with each child (ex: Sunday am pancakes) Work together on a charity project Frame pictures of them that represent special accomplishments or moments Projects that live on like a time capsule (digital or actual) Dream day together - make a list, look forward to it, do all of the things on the list Plan dream playdate together for their friends Plan their birthday parties together Start a small business, podcast or blog together Go on walks after dinner - low pressure environment Make a seasonal bucket list (summer bucket list to go zip lining etc) LAUGH! Plan vacations / adventures **With each kid have a… TRADITION once a week or once a year SONG that is theirs/yours THING that is yours (star, magic, champion etc) OUTING to look forward to **Things to avoid… Always solving everything for them Dividing your time with technology Be curious and not judgmental Allow them space to fully be who they are **How we can use what we know about habits to make this all happen! Anchor to exiting (after brushing your teeth..) Start tiny - 2 minutes of something Focus on behavior, not outcomes Be flexible - helps you be consistent Change your physical space Just start- build on small wins - momentum Focus on doing, not perfection CHEERS to having the most awesome connections with your awesome kids!
11/17/24 • 44:31
Every year around my birthday I’m like, ok, what’s the secret unlock at this age? Like what have I learned and what I am doing that makes the biggest difference in my life? This year, that skill that I’ve unlocked in myself this ability to turn what feels like the worst thing, into the best thing. In a very practical and realistic way. So aside from anything really really sad in life, this strategy allows you to get out of thinking and saying how much this sucks or is unfair or is the worst thing that could happen. And flipping it to- how could this become the best thing? I’m going to fully explain it because once you set yourself up like this - it’s crazy how you can see the same situations completely differently. It’s saying to yourself, this sucks, and it’s not at all what I wanted. But, how could it actually be the best thing? You have to listen to this full episode - it’s 20 minutes or so that will change the way you react when things go sideways. Things that are awful - like getting fired or someone breaking up with you or you don’t get the promotion or don’t get into the college or high school that you wanted. You sprain your ankle and can’t workout for 3 months and it’s your favorite thing.. This is what we know for sure… Bad things happen. People dont know how to cope. And they allow one bad thing to snowball into more. THIS IS THE UNLOCK! Bad things suck. The only thing worse is letting one bad thing ruin many good things. One bad thing happens and the way you operate afterwards is what more bad things happen. Because really… things aren’t good or bad- they just are. It's becoming anti fragile as we go. People often dont know how to cope with bad stuff. Thats how you end up with this weird spiral with more bad things happening. People dont know how to manage their emotions so they just react. The more I try to create space between how I feel and what I do, the more I've been able to control my outcomes in situations. It’s a superpower, I’m telling you. The next time something in your life sucks, ask yourself, how can this actually be the best thing ever?
10/21/24 • 10:11
Today we’re talking about party cakes! And all the ways you can make them magical. From cakes you make yourself at home, to store or bakery bought cakes that you jazz up to custom made cakes, I have ideas for you for all of them! From simple to extravagant and ways to make the party cake so magical and perfect for the occasion. My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas so next time you have a cake to plan, it’s the most special. We’re talking about the center of the party today… the cake! What’s our top priority? Taste, design, price. Get a Pinterest board going and a folder on your phone. If doing for someone else - show them inspiration and tell you which they like! Treats vs a big cake or a few cakes Ways to make your cake magical -Surprise inside cake - have bakery fill or you fill if baking -Custom topper - Etsy -Tons of toppers - Amazon + candy -Cake to match the theme A cake is a great “thank you for having us” gift! Or to bring to a party! My cake creators info: Brooke- bangpopshop@gmail.com My sign & cake topper creator: Anh- anh@bldahlia.com Custom cookie designer: Megan- cousincookie@yahoo.com Tag me on IG when you create magical cakes!! @LindsaysCloud XOX
10/4/24 • 34:08
It may sound obvious, but honest, like real saying what you think, I’m obsessed with being honest and direct because it does so much for you. If you need to tell someone how you really feel or cancel on some thing or decline an invitation, be honest. Be kind and considerate and compassionate and have empathy… all those things. But just be honest. Even if it stings for a second people will respect your honesty and It’s hard to be mad at the truth. Honesty is a superpower because it allows you to go to sleep without crumbs! You sleep well knowing you don’t have little stories to make sure you keep up with or the pressure of doing something that you really don’t want to do because you weren’t honest from the beginning. Oh my gosh how much less complicated things are when you are direct and honest. Rather than calling a friend or thinking about something for days- you know how you feel - be direct and honest and move on to the next. Most things aren’t actually as big of a deal as we make them out to be. You don’t have little white lies to keep track of, and you don’t hold on to the burden of things. Think about how much more effective it is to talk to someone directly about something that is bothering you rather than not talk to them and talk to other people who can’t do anything about it and it just makes the problem bigger and stirs up complication. Often times, when you go straight to the source and you are honest, you can clear up miscommunications really quickly. Being honest doesn’t mean just saying the first thing that comes to mind and bulldozing other peoples feelings. To me it’s completely the opposite. When I think about what’s the best solution or the best way to handle a situation, it’s simple. Just be honest. If someone asked me to invest in a company, and it’s not a good fit, I tell them that rather than making up an excuse, that’s not true Examples! At work! Direct approach: “Your report had a lot of valuable information, but the formatting and structure made it difficult to follow. We need it to be more organized to ensure clarity.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see how much effort you put into this report, and that’s really appreciated. I know making adjustments might feel like extra work, but a clearer structure will help showcase the quality of your insights even more.” With kids! Direct approach: “You can’t stay up past your bedtime. It’s not allowed.” With empathy and compassion: “I know you really want to stay up longer and finish your game, but you need rest to feel good tomorrow. Let’s set a time to finish it tomorrow after you’ve slept well.” Direct approach: “You didn’t clean your room, so you can’t go to the party.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see that cleaning your room wasn’t fun or easy, but it’s important to follow through on your responsibilities. Since you didn’t finish, you won’t be able to go to the party today, but we can plan something fun when you finish it later.” Direct approach: “You hit your brother, and that’s not acceptable.” With empathy and compassion: “I saw you hit your brother, and that’s not okay. I understand you were upset, but hurting others is not how we solve problems. Let’s talk about why you were angry, and we can figure out better ways to handle those feelings next time.” With spouse! Direct approach: “I don’t feel like you’re meeting my emotional needs.” With empathy and compassion: “Lately, I’ve been feeling like I need more emotional connection between us. I know we’ve both been busy, but I really miss the deeper conversations we used to have. Can we find some time to reconnect and share more with each other?” Direct approach: “You’re not doing your share of the housework.” With empathy and compassion: “I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with the housework lately, and it seems like I’ve been taking on more of the load. I know we both have busy schedules, but could we figure out a way to balance things better? It would really help me out.” With friends! Direct approach: “You’re always late, and it’s frustrating.” With empathy and compassion: “I really value our time together, but it’s been tough when you’re often late. I understand things come up, but it would mean a lot if we could make more of an effort to start on time. Is there something I can do to help?” CHEERS to being your most awesome direct and honest self!!
10/1/24 • 26:13
If you struggle with getting things done and being productive - I have one strategy, one change that will make you 10 times more productive. I love working with and studying high achievers and this one skill is something they all have. We’re going through how most people tackle tasks and make decisions and how high achievers do. And then, how you can start doing things this way right away. It’s one shift in how you do every thing, that changes the game. We are learning into the power of undivided attention, leading to more effective, efficient, and high-quality outcomes. Focus on one thing at a time - do it the very best you can, then move on. It’s mono-tasking at it’s finest. On the daily... Improved Quality of Work: When you dedicate your full attention to a single project, you can dive deeper into the details and nuances. This focused effort often leads to higher-quality results. For instance, a writer working on a novel without distractions is more likely to produce a well-crafted manuscript compared to if they were juggling multiple writing projects. Faster Completion Time: By concentrating on one task, you minimize the time lost to context-switching. For example, a software developer who focuses solely on debugging a specific piece of code can resolve issues faster than if they were constantly shifting between debugging and feature development. Enhanced Problem-Solving: Monotasking allows you to immerse yourself fully in a problem, which often leads to more creative and effective solutions. Consider an architect working on a building design; uninterrupted focus enables them to explore innovative solutions and address potential issues more thoroughly. Reduced Stress and Burnout: Handling multiple tasks simultaneously can be overwhelming and lead to stress. Monotasking reduces this strain by simplifying your workload. For instance, a project manager who tackles one project at a time can manage deadlines and expectations more effectively, reducing the risk of burnout. Increased Mastery and Expertise: Focusing on a single project allows you to gain deeper expertise and mastery in that area. For example, a researcher concentrating on one scientific study can develop a more nuanced understanding and contribute more significant findings than if they were dividing their attention among several studies. In the big picture, in the words of Alex Hormuz… “The only way to achieve extraordinary results is to focus on one thing at a time and become obsessed with it.” “Your ability to focus on one thing for an extended period of time is directly correlated with your success.” “Success comes from the ability to concentrate your energy and efforts on a single goal until it’s achieved.”
9/18/24 • 24:57
In this episode, we are talking about having strategic reactions instead of emotional ones. All day every day we are faced with situations in which we have opinions and emotions. But that doesn’t mean we have to act on them. It may seem so foreign at first put overtime, it’s the most empowering thing, because your energy is not wasted, and you don’t have unnecessary headaches. Asking yourself two things - is this worth my energy and what is the end result I want? It takes training to not act on your emotions but it’s crazy powerful. You keep so much more of control of your life and the situations you are in. This episode will save you heartache, stress and will certainly get you more of what you want. Before you send the text or the email - sleep on it and decide in the morning. Emotions don't require actions! Thinking through- what happens AFTER this … is so helpful! What is the end result that I want? If you go nuclear on someone - We should think of the end goal in mind. I want them to not do that again. I don’t want them to retaliate. If you are trying to avoid retaliation, then it’s better not to throw the rock. Often times I just want to get the F out of the conversation. So how about just agree and move on. Examples: Someone says to you.. “You’re fit because you’re lucky. You have good genetics so it comes easy to you." You say, Ya, it’s nice. Maybe something triggers you politically. Maybe someone says something uncalled for or inappropriate. You should probably learn how to do ___ before trying it. Like what do you even know about it? You don't always have to set them straight or stand up for yourself. Control what you can control. THINK 2 steps ahead. Often times it’s honesty. Just tell the truth. It’s just so powerful for all stages of life. You have to separate you feeling something and you acting on something. You may feel angry at your co-worker but jabbing at them will only make your work life miserable. You have to resist things that might make you feel better in the moment. Create space and time! When you feel something and have the desire to act on it - since we want to make as logical of decisions as we can. If we make more logical decisions, we want to create space from when we feel and when we act. Just because you feel something doesn't mean to act on it. You’re most likely to regret decisions that you make immediately after something - your instant reaction. CHEERS to your super power of controlling your emotions and having strategic reactions!
9/13/24 • 27:42
Let’s explore how we can transform ordinary experiences into extraordinary ones by leaning into the elements that make moments memorable. I’ve been trying to do this in my own life - making long drives that would otherwise be sort of boring - fun in some way. And setting up a little family game or activity during the day while the kids are at school for us to all play after dinner. I’m on this quest to make more lasting memories and have more connections with my people. Not get too caught up in routine and distractions that we forget to celebrate little wins and create more peak moments each week. I just read the book The Power of Moments by Dan & Chip Heath and this could not have come at a better time. Today we are talking about how you can inject elements of surprise and excitement and newness into everyday tasks. By breaking away from routine, amplifying high points, and focusing on emotional impact, we can turn the mundane into the meaningful and forge lasting memories that enrich both personal and professional experiences. Defining Moments: Moments that stand out in our lives are often characterized by their emotional intensity. They break from routine and are memorable. Four Key Elements: To create powerful moments, focus on these elements: Elevation: Moments that rise above the ordinary and create a sense of wonder or excitement. Insight: Moments that lead to a profound realization or understanding. Pride: Moments that highlight achievements and strengths, often marking milestones. Connection: Moments that deepen relationships and foster a sense of belonging. Elevate Ordinary Experiences: Inject elements of surprise, excitement, or novelty into routine activities. This could mean adding unexpected touches, celebrating small wins, or introducing fun elements to everyday tasks. Break the Script: Deviate from the norm to create memorable experiences. By breaking away from routine and introducing something unique or unexpected, you can make an ordinary moment stand out. Break the script - this is doing something that defies the expectation in the moment. To create more peaks! It can’t happen so often that it becomes the normal The Power of Small Moments: Even small, intentional actions can create meaningful moments, like personalized gestures or thoughtful acknowledgments. Celebrations: celebrating milestones can help create lasting positive memories and reinforce values. Designing Moments for Others: Think about how you can intentionally craft moments that will impact others positively, whether in personal relationships or in professional settings. The Role of Storytelling: Crafting moments often involves effective storytelling, whether in personal experiences or in shaping the culture of an organization. Leveraging Moments for Growth: Use impactful moments as opportunities for learning and growth, both personally and within organizations. Focus on Peaks: Identify and amplify the high points of an experience. Whether it's a significant achievement or a joyful event, emphasizing these peak moments helps make them more memorable. Create Moments of Pride: Highlight achievements and milestones to foster a sense of pride. Celebrating successes, no matter how small, can turn an ordinary occasion into a meaningful one. Foster Connection: Strengthen relationships by creating moments that deepen connections. This can be achieved through meaningful interactions, shared experiences, or personalized gestures. Use Rituals and Traditions: Establishing rituals or traditions can transform routine events into special moments. These practices provide structure and meaning, enhancing the significance of ordinary experiences. Design for Emotional Impact: Consider the emotional journey of the moment and aim to design experiences that resonate deeply. Whether it's through storytelling, thoughtful gestures, or creating a sense of awe, focusing on emotional impact can elevate ordinary moments. How to plan for these moments!! Calendar out your life and picture yourself doing the things! What would make it more special? A birthday- a massive poster card or game to celebrate the bday person. When planning, don’t fall back on how you do things - for everything. Keep some things the same - the ones that work best - then find new ideas for the rest. ASK your people and listen! By applying these strategies, you can transform everyday activities into memorable experiences that leave a lasting impression. Items mentioned in this episode... Darts- https://amzn.to/4cUESDX Cookies- cousincookie@yahoo.com Book- https://amzn.to/3TmgK6f CHEERS to focusing on emotional impact to elevate ordinary moments!!
9/9/24 • 38:37
The goal of this episode is to get you thinking about planning more newness in your life. New experiences and adventures. Because we know- If you don’t put stuff on your calendar that you really want to do - life will take over. Work will happen, chores will be there and before you know it, we’re running life in reactive mode. All of the other life stuff will fill in anyway. Today we are focusing on planning things ahead of time that feel exciting and that you can do with your favorite people on the planet. We’re going through lots of ideas and getting rid of any hurdles you might have in your way as we go. Let’s map it all out then all we have to do is follow the script. Braindump things you’d love to do! See who wants to do it with you! figure out what’s stopping you and what are you believing that isnt actually true? Ideas of what to do! *Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing *Visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience Find a local path and plan a hike *Go camping for the weekend at a local spot Take a photography workshop class with friends *Set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area *Plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries *Learn to kayak at a local river *Road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit *Plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch *Plan a ride in a hot air balloon *Get a group to go indoor rock climbing *Book a rental cabin for the weekend *Take the train on an adventure *Run a non-profit project with a friend *Learn a new skill *Take a new class with family and friends.
8/31/24 • 23:25
I realized I wanted to have a few key things that I say to my kids all the time, that they will remember their whole lives. You know how special it is when someone says, oh growing up my mom always told me this… or my dad made sure I knew this… Parenting can be overwhelming and a lot just keeping up with the day-to-day. I sat down last week to write out the things that I’ve learned along the way that I think are the most important to help them be confident and strong and kind and grow up to be really awesome people. My goal in this podcast episode is to you give you lots of ideas of things to say to your kids over and over so it really sinks in. Here we go! 15 Awesome Messages To Say To Our Kids Constantly... 1 Make decisions and pursue passions based on what feels best to you. You define what success means to you. 2. Comparing yourself to other people will always steal your joy. 3 If you never speak unkindly of people, you never have to worry about it coming back to you. 4. The best way to make good decisions is to not put yourself in a bad situations. 5. Call me the second something goes sideways - I’ve got your back always. 6 Follow the rules and always be kind, but also live boldly and push limits. 7 Embrace all of your emotions and don’t label any as good or bad. 8 The more you fail, the more you are trying. Collect as many fails as you can and learn the lessons along the way. 9 Never say a word about your body that you wouldn’t say to your best friend about hers. 10 Give full effort to everything you do. 11 Family first, always take care of each other. 12 Don’t let little things that don’t matter in the big picture, get you too upset. 13 Make it your mission to be the one that helps someone who needs it. Sit by someone who is alone, volunteer and dedicate time to others. (The way to never feel entitled and see how most of the world lives) 14 You can become good at literally anything you want to be - you just have to be willing to work hard for it. Hard work, consistently can get you anywhere you want. 15 You are so incredibly loved 🤍🤍
8/19/24 • 26:35
Ok let’s do it - what’s a 34? It’s the percentage of people who are happy and feel fulfilled in their lives. Leaving 66% of people- unhappy and unfulfilled. I love putting a number to it because it’s the best push when you’re scared. When it’s hard to start something new and risk failing… When it’s hard to say no to an event you don’t want to go to but everyone else is going… We know that what most people are doing isn’t working because the majority of people aren’t happy. They don’t feel joy and fulfillment and progress in their lives on the daily and in the big picture. We know a life that makes us feel excited and inspired isn’t just going to happen to us - we have to work for it and plan for it and design it. Today, we’re making a plan for becoming a forever 34. Getting out of our own way and out of our head, and doing more of things we love and less of things we hate. We’re making a plan to be the happy minority today. HOW I BECAME A 34… I started designing my days with intention. Realizing that it wasn’t just going to happen, nobody was going to do it for me and nothing was going to change if my habits didn’t change. I needed an actual SYSTEM to help bridge the gap between the life I wanted and the life I was living. A way to get super clear on my goals and then design a life based on those priorities. I needed a way to organize the habits I knew I needed to be doing and a way to avoid distractions, celebrate small wins and focus on consistency. I tried calendar books, habits apps, charts, notes on mirrors, lol basically everything. There wasn’t an actual habits system that helps you get crazy clear on your priorities and set big goals, then charge towards them daily. So I created one. And it’s awesome. It’s called 2.0 and it’s this awesome gift box filled with deep dive sheets, calendar books (one for each week) and other fun supplies to get you going and keep you on track. It’s a clear path to becoming a 34🚀❤️ This link takes you directly to a layout of how it all works📝✨ https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse
8/14/24 • 32:05
Let’s talk about how to order healthy at any restaurant and what are the right questions to ask, to get a delish but also good for you meal. Now, up front I want to be clear that I am all about loving what you eat, and having the special experiences and endulging- for sure! But for the majority of the time - I think we all feel the best when we fuel our bodys with whole foods and limit sugars, refined carbs and seeds oils. I’m going to give you tips if you are an easy order-er when you’re out- and also if you’re like me and have no problems being the person with the complicated order - so many tips for you too. In fact, if there’s ever a viral video of someone with like their wildly complicated order, 5 different friends will send me the same video. I laugh too because it’s accurate but hey I’ve learned what makes me body feel crappy and what makes it feel great and if my order has a few turns to get there, it’s worth it. TIPS! Research where you’re going ahead of time - pick places with healthier options. As you get into doing this, call and ask the questions before you go- that way you can order easier when you get there. Tips for the… Easy order-er -focus on protein -sauce on the side -extra veggies instead of a starch -lettece wrapped instead of a bun Complicated order-er -Cook with olive oil or avocado oil -Drinks - no refined sugar- ask for what fresh fruits they have -Fish - wild caught -Chicken - organic -Beef - grass fed beef or steak For dessert - bowl of berries - anything on top on the side please See if you can get something from breakfast menu like greek yogurt and fruit with granola on the side. And if you’re at a place that isn’t an experience- bring your own glass container! No shame in bringing your own yummy food if they don’t have the right thing for you! CHEERS to loving the healthy foods you are ordering out!
8/2/24 • 31:44
Let’s plan your weekly workout schedule in a way that helps you to be your strongest and most functional self now, and also train for longevity and healthspan. The concepts I’m sharing today are from the book, Outlive, by Peter Attia. He takes this complicated topic- what forms of exercise are best for us… and makes it super clear. We are going through the 4 pillars and exact types of exercises you can do for them. I believe that there are so many ways to get to what you want in life- you have options so pick one that sounds fun. So giving you lots of choices and I’m also giving you exact examples of classes to take- if you want to use my favorite online platform - OBE fitness. Using Peter Attia’s 4 pillars as our guide to fitness will help us delay the onset of chronic disease, while also maintaining health span for as long as possible. Peter Attia outlines 4 different types of exercise: 1. Stability- the foundation of everything. It’s what allows you to pick-up 50 pounds off the floor without getting injured. It’s focusing on core strength (pilates), balance exercises (balance board or stability ball), functional movements (lunges and squats), progressive overload (challenging muscles through duration or resistance) and injury prevention (strengthen muscles around joints). 2. Strength- muscle mass and strength training. Lifting weights! A fall that will barely bruise you as a 30 year old can kill you as an 80 year old because you aren’t strong enough to survive it. 3. ZONE 2 cardio- aerobic efficiency - this is a steady state where you are cruising along at a sustainable pace. You should be able to maintain a conversation comfortably while exercising at this pace. 4. ZONE 5 cardio - VO2 MAX - an Aerobic peak, a short burst of energy like a HIIT workout. Attia says that all 4 pillars must be in your routine if you are exercising for longevity. Here are the types of classes to use on OBE for each type of exercise: 1. Stability- Sculpt 2. Strength- Strength & Power 3. Zone 2 Cardio- Low Impact HIIT & Dance Cardio 4. Zone 5 Cardio- HIIT & Boxing & Endurance As we age, we lose muscle mass and bone mineral density. Lifting weights prevents this which makes it an essential part of our longevity plan. Here is a link to Attia’s book: https://amzn.to/3SvaKYb And to Lindsay’s 2.0 Master Course: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-courses Cheers to moving in the best way now… to plan for a long and healthy life!
7/30/24 • 21:57
Today we are going through 20 things that I think we can all do- to become the super human version of ourselves. Some are biohacking strategies, others are mindset and some are the way we move and what we eat. They are all so good and backed by science done by actual experts on the topic. I just did a re-read of 3 of my favorite books on longevity and health Outlive, Lifespan & Superhuman and I’m bringing you what I think are the best habits we can all do, to feel great now and function the best as we age. There is so much information to sort through when it comes to this topic, my goal in this episode is to clear the waters and give you a cheat sheet for the best ways to get closer to the super human version of you and feel awesome! These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME! They are the natural medicine for…stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life. Treat the cause, not the symptom! Click here to download and print your Super Human Cheat Sheet! (Emily is putting it as a blog on the site - please add in that blog link) Here are the Super Human Habits! 1. Get Sunlight 2. Lift Heavy Weights 3. Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen 4. Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep 5. Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings) 6. Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes 7. Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility) 8. Take A Cold Shower / Cold Plunge 9. Take A Hot Bath / Sauna 10. Protect Your Happy Headspace 11. Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive 12. Do Some Grounding / Feel The Earth 13. No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed 14. No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep 15. Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze) 16. Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative) 17. 10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key) 18. Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile) 19. Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success 20. Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe)
7/25/24 • 50:59
Today we are making a plan to become tougher and less fragile. Because it puts us in the drivers seat. When we take full accountability for things and we resist the urge to fall into mindless scrolling or just going with whatever everyone else is doing, we’re planning for the long game. Taking lots of small risks and trying new things and pushing yourself and getting uncomfortable - it’s all conditioning you to be tough for life. So you are mentally and physically strong when you need to me. So when something hard is in front of you, you haven’t created this comfortable bubble that you live in that you just fall apart. I am on optimist to the extreme - so don’t take this as a negative - but just an honest observation - more and more people today are fragile and easily offended than ever before. That’s not the life we are working to create here - so let’s design our plan for being completely anti-fragile. How do we get tougher and less fragile? First, let’s unpack, where we are at and how we got here. Then, let’s make a plan to become anti-fragile. I’m finishing up the the book The Coddling Of The American Mind and it’s SO interesting. The authors explore why people are mentally weaker than they used to be and more emotionally fragile. A few key points that the authors make… In the last 15 years the public has become more emotionally fragile and young people in particular are less tolerant of any discomfort that comes their way. They talk about a few explanations that they have data to support that explain this… 1. Rise in helicopter parenting The assumption that parents need to watch their kids and protect them at all costs. 2. Philosophy of safetyism The belief that anything that can cause pain or suffering is ultimately harmful in the long run and can even be tramatic. 3. Lack of play The past few generations of kids have been so overloaded with schoolwork and extracurricular activities trying to get into a good high school and college that they haven’t had time to be kids, and it turns out that most mental and emotional development happens when they are playing. 4. Social media Social comparison, fear of missing out, constant connectivity and validation seeing are always that social media makes us more emotionally fragile. JOE ROGAN says… The hardest thing that has ever happened to you is the hardest thing that has ever happened to you. It’s so easy to win right now because most people are special snowflakes. Responses from social media: Everyone expects things at their fingertips with the Internet. Over parenting… In the 90s we got sent outside all day. Kids never have to struggle or just figure it out. Parents are too connected to kids. We are overstimulated with technology. Higher stimulation and emotions means faster to break down. Think we have more awareness and options more than ever to cater to comfort. Overprotective parenting and limiting exposure to the “hard” in life. The media telling us that everything our parents did was wrong. Definitely the younger generation has a difficult time managing stress and pressure. Not as much adversity to face, we embrace differences more than different opinions. Computers and less social interactions. Everyone gets a trophy. Lack of downtime in children. Too much screen time. We know more dangers than our parents did. I blame the Internet. Lack of basics In kids. One thing we know for sure - we must be anti-fragile to thrive. So knowing all this, how do we become anti-fragile? Here’s the breakdown.. We need to do harder things! Embrace uncomfortable too! Book: Antifragile Author Nassim Taleb Thoughts from this book! Do hard things because adversities make you grow Go through life as a flaneur Adopt an anti fragile life philosophy Make a plan for yourself and then stick to it. Build in redundancy and layers (no single point of failure) Resist the urge to suppress randomness Make sure that you have your soul in the game Experiment and tinker — take lots of small risks Avoid risks that, if lost, would wipe you out completely Don’t get consumed by data Keep your options open Focus more on avoiding things that don’t work than trying to find out what does work Respect the old — look for habits and rules that have been around for a long time #1 tip! Put tough people in your ears!! You have to be willing to look wrong/do the thing everyone else isn’t in the short term to look like a genius in the long term. As the old adage goes, when you do what everyone else does, don’t be surprised when you get the same results everyone else does.
6/11/24 • 34:31
Polls show that over half of people walking around are unhappy and I think it’s because they are stuck in mediocre. A mediocre job, what they would consider as a mediocre relationship, mediocre health, mediocre version of whatever success means to them. And likely they probably have a story why they are stuck in mediocre. But the real story is, you can get unstuck anytime. Now, of course, some of us were still dealt a more difficult card than others. So it’s going to take more work to get out of mediocre but it’s possible because people who have had it harder than us have done it so we can too. It comes down to being honest with yourself about how you feel about different buckets of your life, realizing and believing that you’re incomplete control of all of it, and then establishing daily habits that support the exceptional version of you, not the mediocre version. I’m very positive and optimistic about the world we live in but I also think it’s so easy to win right now because most people settle for mediocre. They simply aren’t willing to do the hard work, or they are stuck in habits and routines that support their mediocre life, or they accepted that they are not good at something without actually putting in the hours required to become good at it. We’ve got one shot on this planet and mediocre is not the plan. Here’s the trickiest part - when you are honest with yourself and assess what in your life is mediocre - it feels painful like you should have done something differently. But when you lose the ego behind it and take it with the approach of - well I can’t do anything about what’s happened before now but I can for sure take all the lessons learned and make the best decisions going forward. It’s not a fail on me - it’s forward focusing with a growth mindset. WHY do we sit in mediocre sometimes? Fear of failure Easier to stay in your comfort zone Lack of ambition Conforming to social norms Limiting beliefs Not willing to work hard Perceived lack of resources HOW do we get out of it? Get around a new crew/ have different influences Outwork your self doubt - Alex Hormozi Focus on learning and improvement always Have high standards for yourself Take massive action Learn from failures and embrace them Stop getting distracted and doing the wrong things Consistency and discipline! Set-up systems and processes so it all seems more do-able Have a clear vision of your long term goals and set-up habits to do each day that support those goals. We have to be willing to have discomfort now - and resist immediate satisfaction, for the long-term satisfaction that is so much sweeter!
5/17/24 • 38:40
I do quite a few podcast topics around living in the most positive headspace possible. This one takes it to the next level. I’m sharing specific action steps for completely deleting something negative from your life. I’ve been trying to get to this point for years and something happened recently that made me realize. I’m there. Quick story… another mom friend and I were working on a project for a group with our kids and another mom came in blazing with all this negativity and opinions and it was just ridiculous. My friend and I were the ones doing all the work and she came in hot and I had all these opinions about how we were doing it wrong and was offended. It didn’t involve her. The whole thing just made no sense. But it was jarring at the time because she sent emails and CCed other people, on and on . OK, so fast-forward to last week my friend and I are talking and the other mom who had tried to make our life miserable joined in and we all had a nice chat. Afterwards, my friend reminded me who she was and I was like oh my gosh, you know it’s so crazy. I had physically deleted that experience from my mind. I had no idea, that was the woman because it just didn’t exist anymore. A big part of this is focusing on what you can control. I can’t control her crazy so I deleted it. Today we’re going to go through exactly how to do that. Let’s define some terms - what are we deleting? Negativity, judgment, drama, anything that makes you feel crappy or bad about yourself or upset or stressed or insecure. We don’t need it. So we aren’t just going to try to ignore it, we are going to completely erase it from our headspace so it’s not taking up our precious bandwidth. ACTION STEPS -Realize what it is -Take the fire out of it -Focus on what you can control -Journal am and pm to clear your mind -Think of something SO important to you and realize that time you spend thinking/talking/stressing about the thing- is time away from that something important. Like bike riding or playing with your toddler or calling your mom. -Control your thoughts -Control your words- if you don’t let it grow, it can’t get bigger! -Don’t respond to crazy! Tell yourself - I don't negotiate with terrorists!!! I’m telling you, the clarity you will feel from not carrying around all this weight that isn’t needed is crazy!!! Focus on what you can control - let go of the rest. When you think about protecting your happy headspace at all costs - when thats an actual priority of yours, all of this gets easier. CHEERS to hitting the DELETE button on anything that doesn’t bring you JOY!
5/13/24 • 24:54
I am recording this on our 15 year wedding anniversary! On this day 15 years ago Craig and I got married in Cabo, and we started dating 5 years before that. So 20 years in, what have we learned… what have we done awesome and where did we struggle… I’m sharing a bit of our journey and what we know now that been awesome to know from the start. I hesitate on doing podcast episodes on marriage and also raising kids because it’s all so evolving and just when you think you have part of it totally figured out, there’s a curve ball. But, I do have some awesome take-aways that I think will be valuable for anyone in a relationship or looking to be, plus some funny (and painful) stories about how we got here.
5/9/24 • 31:52
This is how you don’t wake up one day with a marriage where you don’t communicate or connect. This is how you don’t wake up one day unable to easily walk up a flight of stairs.. It’s called course correcting and I think it’s the answer to how we focus on little things daily to support the big things that matter most to us. It’s adjusting as we go. Not letting things spiral until we hit rock bottom then need an extreme plan to get back on track. It’s being present and noticing things when they are off - in all buckets of your life. Health, finances, relationships… all of it. This is your plan for course correcting and compounding small habits that gradually lead the life you want. It’s our daily plan actually for designing a life that you love. The 1 in 60 rule! If a pilot takes off headed to their destination and they are just one degree off course, every 60 miles you fly with that error moves you one full mile off course. So you can see that even a slight variance from accuracy can create a real issue. This is all about small decisions that you make everyday. You don’t just wake-up one day with a bad marriage or a disconnected relationship with your child, it compounds over time. And on the flip, you don’t just wake up one day feeling like your healthiest and strongest self. It all compounds over time. But the best news is - this makes it feel manageable. It’s constant focus and attention everyday. It’s knowing your goals and priorities. In my Ultimate Master Course and also in the 2.0 Habits System, I focus SO much on figuring out what you love and don’t love because I think most people just don’t ask themselves the questions! Here’s that link if you’re interested: Course- https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse 2.0 Habits System & Weekly Books- https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/the-ultimate-mindset-master-course-1 I created a system to focus on daily habits because after reading every possible habits books and really studying the topic at a deep level, I realized that we just need to set ourselves up to do the daily things. To do the things that bring us closer to our goals or the person that we want to be and NOT do the things that take us further away from it.
4/29/24 • 27:26
This episode is all about sneaky procrastination! Because I think all of us in some ways trick ourselves into thinking we are doing the thing- that thing you want to do or need to do - the hard thing that will bring you growth in the way you want - whatever that thing is for you right now. And instead of actually doing the thing - we do a whole host of things like - make lists, we say we are planning, we talk about it, we do endless research on it OR we avoid it completely and go refold drawers or something. I am going to read you the best short article I’ve read on the topic and we’re going to unpack it so you can apply it to your life in real time. Why do we let ourselves get distracted or procrastinate when something feels hard or uncomfortable? What are we doing to trick ourselves to think we are working on it when actually we just aren’t doing the thing? I read this article by Strangest Loop called things that aren't doing the thing Here it is: Preparing to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Scheduling time to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Making a to-do list for the thing isn't doing the thing. Telling people you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Writing a banger tweet about how you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on other people who have done the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on the obstacles in the way of doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Fantasizing about all of the adoration you'll receive once you do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how other people did the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading this essay isn't doing the thing. The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing. ------------------- You can dress it up however you want But the work just needs doing Ultimately - it’s hitting play and recording the podcast or starting the blog or lifting the weight or making the first healthy meal. We are motivated by the avoidance of discomfort. Figure out - what is the discomfort? Often times, have no idea what the discomfort is - we are just avoiding it. If you have a hard email to write, you might refold and entire set of drawers to avoid doing the thing. Or if you get to a hard point in writing a book - when it gets hard - we reach for our phone for distraction. WHY Because we are avoiding the discomfort. Ask- WHY am I avoiding this? Maybe you need more research. Don’t keep banging your head. When you become aware of the discomfort - you make a plan to attack it. I’ve heard Steven Bartlette say it in this way… What is the psychological discomfort I am avoiding right now? Write down - what is the THING. Unpack it. WHY it’s important to force yourself to do the actual thing… because it’s the only thing that matters in becoming the person you want to be or reaching the goal you want to achieve. Thank you for listening! Have an awesome day!
4/26/24 • 19:38
I feel like most people would say they tired. Today, yesterday, most days. I’m really interested in this. Are we actually tired or are we sort of not excited by what we are doing most days? And if we are tired, is it because the days are too full and we are doing too many things orrrr is it because we aren’t setting ourself up to feel rested and rejuvenated. Either way, we need to solve it because we can’t complain that we are tired and not do anything to change it. In this episode, let’s figure out what’s up. Are you actually tired or are you overwhelmed or underwhelmed with life right now? The awesome news - I’m sharing strategies for tackling both. Let’s get you un-tired so you can be where your feet are and live your days fully. First, let’s figure out why you’re tired. 1. Actually tired Strategies- get more sleep, get better sleep, hydrate with electrolytes, no screen before bed, no food just before bed, create best sleep environment, stick to a schedule. 2. Not excited with life / overwhelmed / underwhelmed Strategies- ask yourself the hard questions Make the changes you need to, have the conversations you need to, do the things you know you should. 3. In this lazy habit pattern Just like momentum brings momentum, non-momentum brings non-momentum Strategies- small steps to move more - get going - exhaust yourself CHEERS to getting un-tired and living your most full life.
3/27/24 • 30:39
Today we are taking the complicated out of eating mostly whole foods and high protein at home in a way that makes you feel full and energized. It’s taken me so many years of learning and spending money on experts to help me figure it all out. Now every persons body is different of course but I’m sharing lots of ideas of you to chose from to eat in a way that reduces inflammation in your body and helps you be your healthiest and can help you lose weight, all while feeling satisfied. I’m giving you a grocery list to follow to make it all simple and not so complicated. Because this is what I know… most people aren’t eating enough protein and are eating too much processed foods. Most people say they are tired and often times we want to healthier but it’s hard to know where to start. I also know that we must have a strong plan in order to stick to our goals. So this is our plan for eating to feel our best in the short term and long term. Eating for energy and longevity and the part I think that most people miss with this - buying organic and grass fed items are always more expensive than the regular but if you prep it the right way, it is absolutely less expensive than ordering in. And if you know me you know there are some awesome healthy treats in the plan too, because that’s what makes it sustainable in the long term. We are full and satisfied and know it’s not at all a diet, but rather a lifestyle to feel our best. Let’s go! Here is your grocery list *Grassfed ground beef or steaks *Organic ground chicken or turkey *Organic pasture raised eggs *1 organic butter lettuce *1 organic head of iceberg lettuce *1 organic rotisserie chicken *Veggies like zucchini, onions, peppers *Avocados (1 per day) *Berries *2 large organic greek yogurts Then some throw ins to make all of this sustainable *Siete toritilla chips *Grain free tortillas *Grass fed organic cheese, raw if possible *Organic dark chocolate *Raw honey *Bananas & peanut butter And to cook it in… *Avocado oil *Coconut oil *Olive oil How to make the money go the furthest! Protein amounts... An egg has 6g of protein A chicken breast as about 40g of protein One pound of ground beef has 65g of protein Some seeds can be great too like hemp seeds and pumpkin seeds So if your goal is 1g of protein per pound of body weight- you can divide out how much protein you need per meal. My goal is 120g per day so I plan for about 40-50g per meal and I have 3 meals. I think the KEY to all of this is to base your meals around protein and mostly whole foods. Get some veggies and some carbs and you’re nice and full and happy! Other options based on preferences! *Halibut or salmon -always wild caught *Canned tuna or chicken *Flax seeds and chia seeds *Protein powders! Take this list with you to the grocery store! XO Lindsay
3/15/24 • 36:10
I have my favorite little due on the podcast with me today. Today Parker is going to tell us the story of when he got bit in the head by a scorpion on vacation and we’re going to talk about being kind and being brave and probably soccer. Ok so life as a 6 year old and so many stories. Listen in for some fun insight into the life of a little guy and his plan for convincing Dad to have one more baby, a brother named Hot Dog. Thanks for listening!!
3/13/24 • 18:50
You want to know the craziest thing about worrying what other people think of you? With the amount of time and energy you spend worrying about what people might think if you do this or that, you could actually DO the thing. You take control back of your life and your choices when you’re making them based on what you really want and what feels best to you. You’ll take more risks, try new things and put yourself out there. Because we know that one day we will be 90 and we won’t have the opportunities that we have today, we just won’t. Thinking about it that way makes it a lot less scary to let it go and go for it. And another awesome thing that happens when you go for it and people do talk about you, it makes it easy… those aren’t your people. Thank you for saving me the time. And also thank you for making it clear where we’re at because I know that nobody ahead of me is taking the time to criticize me. This concept of, stop caring about what other people think is easier said than done. Today I’m giving you two awesome hacks to start today, to work towards the ultimate feeling of freedom- not caring what other people think of you. A few notes from this episode… -You only have so much energy - you could have actually done the thing!! Started the business, tried the new thing…. In the same effort it took to worry what would happen if you did. -The upside of never trying is that you never have to feel the feeling of failure. -I will ensure my failure in private so I never have to risk failing in public. They take the long failure rather than the short one. -We aren’t afraid of failing! We are afraid of what other people think of us failing. Imagine what other people are thinking if you aren’t doing anything, oh that’s right, they’re not. -If you could fail in isolation, you wouldn’t care. -If you’re insecure, you might as well use it to get something out of it. -The perfect condition is wherever you are at right now. If you feel like you have nothing, then you have nothing to lose. There is always an advantage and disadvantage from every position. -They won’t think of you at all if you aren’t doing anything and don't you want to be thought of? -You’re going to be 90. And it’s going to be too late to do anything. -You know I love thinking about my 90 year old self. If you’ve spent time with old people, they don’t give an F- in the best way. They are wearing socks with sandals in the way they want, they are -Seeing someone old and no time to do the things is the only motivation I need. -You know how you get good? You just start doing what you want without the fear of judgment. Like one tiny thing. Like if music comes on at an outdoor restaurant and you think about dancing with your little kid because how sweet but you don’t because nobody else is and people might think you are weird. But doing things that other people aren’t doing - usually means it’s actually a good idea but 66% of people say they are unhappy. -So not doing it because other people aren’t isn’t the right plan!! -Here’s the hacks!! 1.ONE. TINY. THING. And then you see that you don’t die. And you had fun dancing and just doing what you wanted. Or wearing something different than everyone else because it’s comfortable and you love how it feels… and then it’s just fine. You build momentum!! 2. You make it a clear priority and remind yourself often. Journal it, calendar it, write it down. The more you make it a priority to work towards, the faster you will get there. -Here’s another thing - call out your fails. Now what can they say. -AGREE when someone says something you didn’t do right. Takes the fire out of it. -OR agree just to end it. Who cares!? -Their response to you just doesn’t involve you honestly. It’s their own perspective based on their experiences and opinions and it just doesn’t have to affect yours. -What’s the worst that can happen? You don’t actually die of embarrassment it’s actually ok. We move on. -And I’ve really learned that leaning into vulnerably is such a strong thing. Ya, that thing totally flopped. But it’s cool I know so much more now and I’m so pumped on my next adventure. We accept it and move on, NEXT PLAY! A few other tips! -Identify your values: Clarify what truly matters to you and what you stand for. When you live in alignment with your values, you'll be less swayed by others' opinions. -Focus on your strengths: Recognize your talents, skills, and accomplishments. Embrace them and use them to boost your confidence. -Practice self-acceptance: Acknowledge and accept your flaws and imperfections. Nobody is perfect, and embracing your humanity can help you be less concerned about others' judgments. -Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize your own needs. -Challenge negative beliefs: Examine any negative beliefs you have about yourself that may be fueling your concern for others' opinions. Replace them with more empowering beliefs. -Develop a strong self-image: Visualize yourself as confident, capable, and resilient. Act as if you already possess these qualities, and eventually, they will become part of your reality. -Surround yourself with supportive people: Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and encourage you. Their positive reinforcement can help counteract any negativity from others. -Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that nurture your body and soul, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones. -Focus on your goals: Stay focused on your goals and aspirations. When you have a clear sense of purpose, the opinions of others become less significant in comparison to your pursuit of fulfillment. This is not an overnight thing!! Building resilience against others' opinions is a gradual process that requires consistent effort and self-reflection. By using these strategies, you can gradually reduce the impact of external judgments on your self-esteem and live more authentically.
3/9/24 • 47:56
You know I focus on the positive always and even though this title might not sound positive, it’s empowering to call things what they are and make a plan to proceed in the best way possible. Rather than getting mad about the way things are, we have to recognize what we can control and what is out of our control and make a plan with based on that. This isn’t just about avoiding disease and living as long as possible. It’s that but it’s also how to have more energy and strength now and as we age. How to feel sharp and healthy. I don’t think it’s even controversial anymore to say that the traditional healthcare system is not set-up to keep us healthy and prevent disease. It’s set-up to treat symptoms rather than the cause and lean heavily on medication rather than considering lifestyle and natural options first. I’m all for medications and treatments when needed- I just think it’s not a great system when there is so much money in treating illnesses and there isn’t a lot of money in getting people healthy or finding cures. Today we’re looking at the health landscape as it is now and making the best plan for us and our families. This new outlook involves shifting from sick care to well care and reactive medicine to proactive medicine. For the last 15 years, I have spent so much time in hospitals and doctors offices, and I think I come with a unique perspective… sometimes as a patient, but usually taking care of other people. In Tony Robbins new book… Life Force - they explain new technologies like gene therapy, stem cells and hormone replacement therapy to give the audience hope and knowledge for the future. He talks about how heart disease and other chronic illnesses can be reversed by optimizing four factors. How you eat How active you are How you respond to stress How much emotional support you receive We have the power to control so much of our health and heart health. Exercise, eating the right foods, quality sleep, building muscle and reducing stress. Good health is the foundation of quality of life. As the old saying goes, a healthy person has a thousand wishes; a sick person only one. It’s a powerful reminder to make the most important commitment you can make. You must become the CEO of your health. That’s how you keep your energy, vitality and a good quality of life. A few of my other favorite books on this topic are Outlive by Peter Attia, Lifespan by David Sinclair, and Super Human by Dave Asprey. We’ve learned that you must continually challenge the status quo and find what’s best for you. By understanding that you must be in control of your health and by not expecting the traditional healthcare system to take on this role… you will make better decisions for your own health and out of your family.
3/5/24 • 25:59
Talking about one of my favorite books- 10x IS EASIER THAN 2X By Dan Sullivan and Dr. Ben Hardy Excerpt from the book: What is a 10x goal? A massive goal that feels impossible. Doing more of what you’re currently doing will get you to 2x. 10x goals require a new plan and push you outside of your current level of knowledge and assumptions. To figure out your 10x goal, as yourself… What do you truly want, more than anything else? What would excite you more than anything else to be, do and have? What would you be and do if you weren’t afraid of what others thought or the repercussions? -Let’s focus on wants vs needs When you live life based on need, you’re stuck playing a finite game. When you play a finite game, you’re driven and controlled by outside forces. You’re competing for scarce resources. When you live life based on want, rather than need, you’re playing an infinite game. You see that reality is created and chosen. In order to go 10x, we have to let go of scarcity and competition-based needing and replace it with abundance and creativity-based wanting. -Focusing on FREEDOM! Committing to what you want most is the only way to be free. To be free, you must first be completely honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself starts with admitting to yourself what you want most. Not what you think you want. Not what you think you need. But what you truly- at your core-want. Until you can admit and commit to what you want, then you are not free. Living in a world of needs and rationalizations is prison. It locks you into relationships and situations you don’t want but maintain out of fear and perceived security or obligation. Llet’s think about what you are doing now… Anything you are currently pursuing. Ask yourself what is the source of that... Where did you get that idea? Is it from your parents? Is it from social media? Is it because your friend did something or because your friend got promoted? OR did you get that idea because it makes you FEEL ALIVE? It takes work to unlearn what we’ve been taught and put ear plugs in so we don’t hear the judgment or the opinions of others. It’s our job to make sure we are running our own race. We have to be intentional about what success means to us and stop at nothing to get there. -Once you have it down, what next… Start with your 10x goal, then figure out the steps, not the other way around. When we are working towards 2x goals, we are doing the same thing, just more of it. When we are working towards 10x goals, we must completely shake up the plan. So rather than starting with step 1 and making a plan, we start with the massive goal in mind, then figure out a plan to make it happen. To check out the 2.0 Habits System and 2.0 Mindset Master Course, click here. Have an awesome day!
2/27/24 • 27:43
I think most people would love to have more adventures and new experiences in life but the tricky part is… we get so busy with our routine and all the things that must get done in life, that often, we rarely go new places or try new things. Which is why I absolutely love this idea by Jesse Iztler. It’s part of his concept about building your life resume more than your professional resume. He calls it the Kevins Rule, named after his friend Kevin who showed him how fulfilling it can be when you plan out new experiences. Here’s how it works. You put 6 new adventures on your calendar each year. One every other month and it could be a day on the weekend or the entire weekend. The point of this is that by intentionally adding this things to the calendar, you prioritize time with people you love plus more fun and learning. Being intentional with our calendar planning and putting these 6 mini adventures on the books allows us for 24 experiences (that we wouldn’t have otherwise) in the next 4 years. It also sets us up to be proactive with how we spend our leisure time (advance planning) rather than reactive (planning around invitations that come your way.) We’re planning out your 6 mini adventures for the year today. Planning for 6 mini adventures per year allows for new experiences and challenges. By adding these days or weekends to your calendar, you prioritize time with people you love, fun and adventures. Lots of ideas… Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing, visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience, find a local path and plan a hike, go camping for the weekend at a local spot, take a photography workshop class with friends, set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area, plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries, learn to kayak at a local river, road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit, plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch, plan a ride in a hot air balloon, get a group to go indoor rock climbing, book a rental cabin for the weekend, take the train on an adventure! Cheers to alllll of your new adventures!!
2/17/24 • 26:16
The last hour of your day is so important because it determines the quality of sleep that you get and how you approach the next day. I’ve learned the most about this in my own life from doing things the wrong way to be honest. Staying up too late, eating too late or just sort of tinkering here and there and I couldn’t even tell you what I really did for those last 2 hours. All these things I did without intention and just because I was getting tired and just doing whatever slowly without a plan. Taking all of this as lessons learned and on this journey to do everything with intention - now, having a plan for the last hour of the day. So even if you’re tired or you’ve run out of motivation for the day, when you plan things ahead of time with intention, you don’t have to get up the energy because you aren’t making the decision, you’re just following the plan that you designed. It requires discipline, which is hard at first, but it gets sooo much easier to do when you see the benefits of these new awesome habits. We are revamping bedtime. From the book, 10X is Easier Than 2x: The final hour of the day determines the quality of your sleep as well as the quality of your next day. Over 90 percent of people are 2x at night, where they fall to unhealthy habits and consumption, especially random online scrolling. For 10x sleep, put your phone on airplane mode at least 30-60 minutes before bed. Write in your journal and include 3 wins you had that day. These wins can be any forms of learning or progress you had. Then after you’ve framed the day as a win, write down what you want for tomorrow. Other tips: -Have a few other healthy wind down habits like meditate or stretch or a moment of connection with someone you love and then commit to sleep. Be excited and happy to fully shut down. -Create an optional environment - dark, cool and comfortable. -Having a healthy wind-down process is key. Avoid thinking about stressing topics and solve problems or have tricky discussions earlier in the day. In prioritizing sleep, we have to wrap things up and let things go earlier in the day. Do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said so you don’t go to bed with crumbs! You will sleep better without a racing mind when you go to sleep. Journal to wind down and figure out what else sets you up for the best nights sleep. -Quality sleep over quantity of sleep - The quality of sleep is so much more important than the number of hours. -Get a schedule going - Have a set bedtime and wake time and don’t vary it too much or you’ll experience “jetlag." -If you want to read more on this- Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson. Many of these strategies were learned from this book. CHEERS to being intentional about how you end your day, for the most awesome days!!
2/14/24 • 24:24
Today we are talking about deep self confidence. How to get it, what it feels like and how to make it attainable. I’m a big fan of taking complicated concepts and turning them into simple daily actions. Here is how I define confidence. A belief in yourself and clarity of purpose. A feeling that is grounded in authenticity and comes from doing. Confidence is often talked about like this big feeling at the finish line, but that feels unattainable and hard to figure out how to make progress on. My favorite quote about confidence is by Alex Hormozi. He says “You don’t become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self doubt.” I love this way of thinking about confidence because it puts you in the drivers seat. Your self confidence isn’t based on what other people think about what you are doing or some level of success, but it’s more about the process and more about what you do, than what you say. When you feel this deep self confidence, it impacts all other areas of your life. You’re less likely to be offended and more likely to let little things go. You’re more likely to charge your big goals and less likely to let judgment slow you down. It’s a superpower and we’re talking about how to tackle it! Why have deep self confidence: -It makes you less affected by the opinions of others. -It keeps you in control of your mood and happiness. -It helps you communicate better because you feel comfortable expressing yourself clearly. -It positions you as a leader rather than someone who is easily influenced. -It makes you more adaptable as you trust in your ability to navigate change. -It allows you the freedom to really pursue your passions. How to get deep self confidence: -Put things on your daily habits like that move your towards your goals, personally and professionally. -Every week, try new things, do hard things, continue to learn and push yourself. -Since we know that confidence comes from doing, just keep doing things that align with your goals and priorities. What it feels like to have deep self confidence: -Confidence comes from doing the things you say you are doing to do. It’s this deep feeling of trusting yourself. -You feel empowered. Like you can take on any challenges. -This sense of inner peace. You are comfortable with you are and trust in your own abilities. -You’re optimist because you have a positive outlook and a strong foundation so you’re able to believe in a bright future. -You’re fearless because you know you can handle whatever comes your way. -You’re authentic because you’re running your own race. -You set boundaries, especially with people who are negative or don’t make you feel great. You respect yourself enough to know your headspace is top priority. -You're grateful because you appreciate the journey you’ve been on and the one you are on right now. -You’re inspirational. When you know someone with deep self confidence, it makes you believe you can be the same way. How to make progress on the daily: -Follow the plan! -Make your list of tasks, then execute. -Avoid distractions and don’t talk yourself out of it. -Set big goals, then focus on the daily actions, not the goals. -Do what you tell yourself you are going to do. -Set realistic habits so you are set-up for success. CHEERS to embracing the things that bring you deep self confidence!
2/9/24 • 33:46
I don't know what’s going on lately but I feel like I’ve been in several situations where someone is coming at me and I’ve had some friends who have had to deal with some pretty wild situations so I thought, yup, this needs to be a podcast episode. Let’s define some terms. By coming at you I mean - verbally trying to start something. It’s different than an argument because it’s like someone having a problem with you or just straight up casting judgment on you. Our instant reaction is to respond and defend ourselves or get hot with them back… but here’s the thing, most of the time, it’s just not worth it. So I think before we do anything we should ask ourselves, what would I gain from engaging? We often respond out of emotion, but because we know our priority is protecting our happy headspace and our emotional energy, I think we need to approach it differently. We are going through some awesome strategies today so the next time someone comes at you, you’re ready to handle it strategically rather than emotionally. When this happens, here are your options… 1. IGNORE Literally say nothing. Don't reply to the email or text or DM or walk away if in person. 2. AGREE - it ends it!! When you don't want to engage or if there is truth to what they are saying. When we are insulted, pay attention to it. If there is something that is true to it - then agree. And move on. 3. HASH IT OUT - onlyyyyyy if it’s really worth it! Only if it’s someone in your inner circle that you love. 90% of the time, it’s not worth it. Alex Hormozi says "The only insults that hurt are the ones we believe.” I tell myself… I don’t negotiate with terrorists. When you get REALLY good at this… it becomes so powerful because it doesn’t affect you for more than a few minutes. It’s almost additive because it feels so good to be able to control your emotions and you always win in the situation. You can’t negotiate with crazy so don’t try- there’s no point! It’s awesome and it saves you so much unnecessary headaches!! Remember this the next time someone comes at you, take a minute and decide how you want to really handle it. Have an awesome day!!
2/5/24 • 31:17
