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Failing Motherhood

If you're riddled with mom guilt, your temper scares you, you're terrified you're screwing up your kids and are afraid to admit any of those things out loud....this podcast is for you. Hosted by Danielle Bettmann, parenting coach for families with 1-7-year-old strong-willed kids, each episode is a storytelling interview about one mom's raw and honest experience of growth that leads to new perspectives and practical strategies. Each week we will normalize the struggle, share vulnerably about our insecurities, and rally around small wins and truths. We hope to convince you you're not alone and YOU are the mom your kids need. Interviews with experts that have brilliant insight to share will be sprinkled among interviews with moms just like you. We hope you see yourself, hear your story, and find hope and healing. Welcome to Failing Motherhood. You belong here!

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What to do when they won't let it go
Today's episode is a little bit of a different, more special setup. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 3 1/2 year-old about a situation that they were dealing with around an irrational hyperfixation they just could not get over or let go of no matter what they tried!Listen as I dive into this universal experience and offer some more context around these situations and what I recommend. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The critical step to salvaging your sanity in these momentsWhen to introduce the logic or reasoningA counterintuitive game-changer I dare you to try!DON'T MISS-The lifesaver that is individualized feedback and support!I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
21:17 4/16/24
Do LESS and Feel BETTER: Saying Goodbye to Intensive Mothering and the "Perfect Mom" Myth with Erica Djossa
Ever feel like you're doing it ALL and it's never ENOUGH?My guest today, Erica Djossa is a registered psychotherapist, sought-after maternal mental health specialist, and the founder of wellness company Momwell. Erica is frequently featured in media publications and her popular Momwell podcast has over a million downloads. Her book - Releasing the Mother Load: How to Carry Less and Enjoy Motherhood More comes out TODAY (Tuesday, April 9th) and our conversation today highlights so much of the meaningful work inside it.After she shares her "breakdown to breakthrough", Erica reiterates it’s not just us - MOMS ARE NOT OKAY.  She introduces ideas like the motherload, our motherhood filing cabinet, and an activity called a Values Sort to help us become more conscious of the default patterns we've found ourselves in and how to dig our way out.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Where the myth of the "perfect mother" comes fromThe 5 core beliefs of "intensive mothering" and what to replace them withThe measuring stick we should use to evaluate ourselves instead of blood, sweat and tearsDON'T MISS-What it truly means to be a good mom// CONNECT WITH ERICA DJOSSA //Links to order the book: Ericadjossa.comWebsite: http://Momwell.comInstagram: @momwellI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
51:46 4/9/24
Caregiving, Aging, + the Sandwich Generation with Michele Magner
Many parents today find themselves in the sandwich generation where stress, guilt and burnout is real. My guest today, Michele Magner, has earned her MBA and Master's certification in gerontology and is a Gerontology PhD student at the University of Nebraska Omaha. She's a certified life coach, certified dementia practitioner, and certified conscious aging facilitator and an adjunct professor in the fall of 2024.  As an experienced family caregiver with many years in the senior living industry, she understands the challenges that you are facing as you care for those you love. Our conversation included dissecting how we are managing stress, how core values play into our capacity and integrity, why it's okay to fill your cup just for you, and the difference between making promises and making plans. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Michele's vulnerable example of "failing" her daughter and the powerful realizations she took from itThe 3 "C's" all caregivers needThe Importance of bringing your kids into hard conversationsDON'T MISS-Fascinating research around the relationship between chronological age and subjective age, and its effect on aging// CONNECT WITH MICHELE MAGNER //Website: www.michelemagner.comInstagram: @inspiredcaringLinkedIn: Michele MagnerI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
51:56 3/26/24
The 3 Types of Parents of Strong-Willed Kids
Which one are you?  Which one is your partner?Not only does the second half of your parenting life begin when you understand you're parenting a strong-willed child, but your self awareness sky rockets when you realize you're a Worrying Warrior.Your next step is to evaluate whether you're parenting with a "Just tell me what to do" parent or an "It is what it is" parent.In this episode, I break down each of these three parenting approaches, the motives behind their actions, and wedge of divide that grows between parents that feel they need to overcompensate for the other.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...How to identify your parenting styleThe long term ramifications of you + your partner parenting from opposite ends of the spectrumThe foundation to build from and move forward withDON'T MISS:How Chelsy and Matt found common ground // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
27:51 3/19/24
Life After Divorce with Paige Dempsey
Have you ever wondered what life after a divorce would even look like?Today's guest, Paige Dempsey, is an anti-anxiety Dating and Relationship Coach for women. In Paige’s words, she got married late and divorced early. She’s been a step mom, mom of a child with her ex, and a solo mother by choice.  At the same time as her and her husband were separating, her best friend was diagnosed with cancer. She felt like she was just getting by.In this episode, Paige holds nothing back as she narrates her thoughts and feelings both inside and outside of her marriage. She shares how she believes divorce can strengthen the kids’ experience of and relationship with their fathers, the mindset she used to move forward without fear, and the patterns she sees in her dating clients. This episode is for you if you’ve wondered what’s on the other side of a divorce, been intimidated by leaving or dating again, or just hope to glean wisdom for your current relationships!IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How Paige decided getting a divorce was the right decisionWhy Paige and her Ex get along now better than everThe difference between therapy and coachingDON'T MISS-Paige's timeless dating advice, especially if you're on the apps// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//UnF*ck your Brain podcast - Kara Loewentheil Ep. 121 of Failing Motherhood - Solo Motherhood by Choice - 9/12/23// CONNECT WITH PAIGE DEMPSEY //Website: www.paigedempseycoaching.comInstagram: @datingcoachpaigeTikTok: @datingcoachpaigeI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
47:14 3/12/24
Don't Insist on an Apology
Say you're sorry. "I'M SORRY! GAAHHH!!" they ROAR from the other room.  Lessons were learned, right? Often when parenting strong-willed kids, the messages we're trying to send, the skills we're trying to model and the lessons we're trying to teach get lost at sea in a battle of control and BIG emotions.Instead of checking the box to make ourselves feel better, I'm breaking down why I don't insist my kids apologize and what we do instead.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...Why especially strong-willed kids struggle so much with the vulnerability of apologizingWhat choices you have in how you react that doesn't let them "get away with it"The way my kids ask each other for forgiveness and forgive the other.DON'T MISS:What to say when they shut down the choices you offer// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
19:44 3/5/24
"I Should WANT to do This": The Challenges of Playing with our Kids with Sara Olsher
Have you ever thought these things while attempting to play with your kid(s)?I’d rather be doing something else. I should want to do this. This is boring. OR This is too much. I feel guilty bc of how much I hate this. This is not fun. This is not easy.  How do I get this to stop?You’re not alone, and my guest today, Sara Olsher is going to share a brutally honest take at the real life challenges and guilt associated with play and quality time as a parent.Cancer survivor, divorced single mom of one, author-illustrator and founder of Mighty and Bright, Sara has a credible and honest take on these challenges as well as a unique, creative solution.We know we’re supposed to spend quality time with our kids. We also know it’s quite often much easier said than done.In our conversation we take the time to name the obvious realities of being bored, overstimulated or doing it wrong as well as the real dynamics that make it even more challenging like being a single parent, having multiple kids, having a chronic illness, and being neurodivergent or just being under so much stress.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Why we believe it’s a crime that your mental health as a parent is not a consideration with most expert advice of what’s best for kidsHow 1:1 time prevents negative behaviorsThe critical components to make sure play together ACTUALLY fills their cupDON'T MISS-Our beef with playing "The Floor Is Lava" :)// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//Sara's previous episodes:Ep. 37- Talking about Hard Things - April 13th, 2021Ep. 51 - Kids’ Mental Health at Home - October 26th, 2021Time Timer Apps// CONNECT WITH SARA OLSHER //Website: MightyandBright.comInstagram:  @mightyandbrightcoSPECIAL TIME CARDS: https://mightyandbright.com/products/special-time-cardsEnter code: failingmotherhood for 10% offI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
58:38 2/27/24
How TO (and NOT to) Use Timers with Strong-Willed Kids
Have you found using timers at your house to be HIT or MISS?Either it helps tremendously or meltdowns ensue?  What gives?I'm breaking it all down on today's episode- both the DO's and DON'T's so you understand exactly what's needed to make your use of timers as effective as possible.Not only do I share key insight into reducing whining, clinging, and complaining, but visual timers are your friend, and it's all about semantics so your child sees the "what's in it for me" factor!IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...My go-to recommendation for keeping kids at the dinner table longerWays to make transitions to bedtime or leaving the park so much easierHow to leverage a timer during play / quality timeDON'T MISS:Whether or not you should be making "deals" with your child//MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//7.5 inch Timer3 inch TimerTime Timer Apps// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
21:59 2/20/24
ENOUGH: Overcome Self-Doubt and Find Self-Compassion with Relationship Expert, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
Happy Valentine's Day!   This episode is guaranteed to help you tap into more self-love.I'm talking to Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist, couples therapist, and relationship expert. She's the host of the podcast, "I'm not your Shrink", and author of "I Didn't Sign Up For This". Tracy starts by sharing her frustration with a family ski event not going according to plan.  As we dove into our conversation, a theme quickly emerged around feeling not enough, and how our core beliefs about self-worth influence how we parent and interact with partners.Tracy breaks down tangible ways we can level up our communication style in our partnerships, as well as how to become more of a friend to ourselves. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The 4 negative communication styles + how to ask for feedback3 Questions to ask yourself to become more self-awareHow meeting our own needs models healthy behavior for our kidsDON'T MISS-The 2 C's required to access self-compassionHow Tracy has reframed how she sees her strong-willed child// CONNECT WITH DR. TRACY DALGLEISH //Instagram:  @drtracydBook:  I Didn't Sign Up for ThisPodcast: I’m not your ShrinkWebsite, Be Connected Course: DrTracyD.comI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
39:04 2/14/24
Entrepreneurship, Having a 4th + Fighting for My Marriage with Steph Pellish
Whether you’re trying to decide whether to have another child, hoping to salvage your marriage, on your way to creating or owning your own business, or are just desperate to not feel so alone without family support - this is your episode.Steph Pellish is a wife, a mom of 4, owns 2 businesses, and  has always been a dreamer with big ideas. After feeling lost and lonely, Steph has built a community of entrepreneurial women who come together regularly to grow, learn, support and collaborate with each other. In this episode, Steph chronicles her reckoning with wanting to have a 4th child, having that child 6 weeks before lockdown, and her husband telling her 6 weeks later that things weren’t working. In the most relatable of ways, she shares the journey into healing she went through personally and in their marriage to come back stronger, while finding the support she deserved.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The clarity Steph needed when deciding whether or not to have a 4th child when she and her husband didn't see eye-to-eyeWhat it takes to be successful as an entrepreneurThe importance of finding like-minded women, not just the other moms who happen to be in the play groupsDON'T MISS-What people kept telling her when she was struggling that made her feel crazy!// CONNECT WITH STEPH PELLISH //Instagram:  @thriving_through_motherhoodFB Group:  Motherhood, Life, & Business Coaching - with Stephanie PellishI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
51:12 2/6/24
Challenging Common Fears When Raising Strong-Willed Kids
What if it's not what you think it is? Two weeks ago I listed the 11 most common fears/challenges experienced by parents of strong-willed kids.  In this episode I address each one.The work is in NOT letting these fears take hold of the way you parent, but rather gain awareness and understanding while you get to the bottom of what's really going on.Listen to that episode first, then circle back here for the freedom to zoom out and let some fears go entirely.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...Why conflict should be embraced, not fearedA reason to relax if you're the *least* preferred parent currentlyInsight that will help let new perspective inDON'T MISS:An illustration to help you imagine how your child might feel at the end of everyday// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//Part 1 - Ep. 138 - The 11 Most Common Challenges of Parenting a Strong-Willed Child Ep. 108 - Break the Cycle // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
23:46 1/30/24
Make More Mom Friends with Emily Siegel
Do you wish you had more mom friends?  You're not alone.Unfortunately villages don't just happen. They're created!Today’s guest, Emily Siegel, is a friendship mentor, podcast host, working mom of two adorable little boys, and the leader of The Connected Mom Life Community.  She helps busy moms create the circle of friends they crave because she firmly believes we weren’t made to mom alone, and she’s on a mission to see that we stop trying.In our conversation she highlights the three most common misconceptions moms believe that hold them back from the relationships they'd love, how to make friendships *stickier* and whether or not it's okay if our spouse is our main source of connection in this season.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Why making mom friends feels harder than datingThe comment to make to test the waters and see if a potential friend is a "safe" personHow to fit friendship into your life as a busy mom by making the most of the time you haveDON'T MISS-Emily's fail proof pick-up line to get a mom's number// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//Laura Tremaine// CONNECT WITH EMILY SIEGEL //Website: TheConnectedMomLife.comInstagram:  @theconnectedmomlifeI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
55:11 1/23/24
The 11 Most Common Fears/Challenges of Parenting a Strong-Willed Child
Hard, frustrating, exhausting - is an understatement. Your lived experience as a parent of a strong-willed child is one many can't understand, including yourself sometimes!There are very real dynamics, fears, and perceptions that make showing up moment to moment extremely difficult, and it's impossible to solve for them without being able to name them first.   This episode is going to give words for what you haven't yet had words to describe.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...Proof you're not the only one late night Googling and stressing about these things...The valid + understandable reasons why you feel the way you doWhat you have control over and what you don'tDON'T MISS:Why you might feel defeated as a "Can do" Parent with a "Do it For Me" Kid// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
23:18 1/16/24
Loving + Leaving Alcohol with Stefanie Wilder-Taylor
Today's guest, Stefanie Wilder-Taylor, is an author, TV personality, and cohost of the popular podcast For Crying Out Loud. She co-created and hosted the late-night comedy parenting show Parental Discretion with Stefanie Wilder-Taylor for NickMom on Nickelodeon. She’s the author of Sippy Cups Are Not for Chardonnay; Naptime Is the New Happy Hour; It’s Not Me, It’s You; I’m Kind of a Big Deal; and Gummi Bears Should Not Be Organic. In this episode (and her new book DRUNK-ISH: Loving and Leaving Alcohol (On sale January 16, 2024)), she recounts the rise and fall of her relationship with alcohol, from her online fame as a wine-loving mommy blogger, to her denial, to the disastrous evening when she drove drunk with her kids in the car that marked the end.The moral of the story we hope you hear from this episode is that it’s less important to figure out whether or not you’re an alcoholic, and more important to decide whether you could benefit from stopping drinking.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Her compulsion to keep secrets or stay silent when feeling like she was failing motherhood early on"Mommy wine culture" and all the reasons we happen to drinkHesitations, pre-conceived notions, and fears about life as a sober momDON'T MISS-Indicators of a problem to watch out for in your (or a loved one's) relationship with alcohol// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//Ep. 79: Really Wanted and Really HardBook: Pregnancy Sucks: What to do when your Miracle Makes you MiserableBook: Toddlers are A**holes: It's Not Your Fault// CONNECT WITH STEFANIE WILDER-TAYLOR //Website/Books: stefaniewildertaylor.com/booksInstagram:  @SWilderTaylorApple Podcasts: For Crying Out LoudPre-Order: Drunk-Ish: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving Alcohol (out January 16th, 2024)I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/ApplySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
64:13 1/9/24
Decluttering TOYS: A Guilt-Free Guide to LESS
Tis the season for under-stimulated kids, over-stimulated parents, an influx of gifts and stuff everywhere!  If you have the urge to throw everything away right now, you’re not alone!If you’d love to have LESS at your house but feel guilty for getting rid of perfectly good (educational even!) toys, this episode is for you.Today I’m sharing the benefits of less toys for you and your kid(s), your goals to set out and attain, and I break down the steps to take to go through things one shelf at a time.Cheers to more cooperation, more focused independent play, and more SANITY in 2024!IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...A step-by-step approach to tackle toys at your house with no guilt whatsoeverAdvice on how to involve your kidsMy thoughts on toy rotation, books, gifts, and all their trinkets + trash :)DON'T MISS:The key mindset shift that sets the tone for everyone!// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
48:52 1/2/24
[REPLAY] Special Needs Parenting, Guilt for Siblings, and Mama Bear Love with Paulette Pinero
Originally Aired: September 8th, 2020If nothing prepares you for parenting... how can you possibly be prepared to parent a child with special needs?After trying everything & realizing her son wasn't able to get the help he needed, Paulette risked everything to leave her home country of Puerto Rico. After devoting her all to her son, Paulette felt like the ultimate failure when she realized she was missing obvious signs her daughter was behind at school.  Paulette felt like she wasn't doing enough and it was all her fault.This episode is an ode to a dedicated teacher, the sacrifices we make as moms, and learning to step back to watch our kids fly.// CONNECT WITH PAULETTE //Lead Media LLC is now Unstoppable Latina - Strategy & Marketing for Latina Consultants FacebookInstagram*FREE* CALM BIG EMOTIONS GUIDEwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com/emotions// SCHEDULE YOUR FREE CONSULTATION //wholeheartedly.as.me/callI believe in you & I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Write a Review & Share with a friend!Support the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
53:24 12/19/23
[REPLAY] Becoming the Expert of Your Child with Grace Henke
Originally Aired: October 6th, 2020Keeping a brand new human alive when you've never done it before is... A LOT.When Grace Henke's daughter could not stop screaming, she took her right back to the hospital their first night home!Supplementing, lip/tongue ties, constipation, gas, panicking about milestones is all overwhelming enough, let alone the constant comparisons to others & the doubt in your own abilities.Is my daughter alright? Is she behind? Am I behind?After a whirlwind of a few months, Grace is here to share how she's combating the pressure, embracing her daughter for exactly who she is, and becoming confident as a new mom.She also dives into her perspective on anti-obedience dog training and the parallels to positive parenting!  MIND BLOWN.// CONNECT WITH GRACE //https://fairlovedogtraining.com/*FREE* CALM BIG EMOTIONS GUIDEwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com/emotions// SCHEDULE YOUR FREE CONSULTATION //wholeheartedly.as.me/callI believe in you & I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Write a Review & Share with a friend!Support the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
72:53 12/12/23
[REPLAY] Boundaries with Parents with Jamie Cooper
Originally aired: October 13, 2020 (Ep. 26) "You want your parents to be involved in your child's life, but at what cost?"Both of Jamie's parents are alcoholics and are still in a gut-wrenching divorce that's been going on for years.  She has been working daily to break the chain of trauma, and what once crippled her has made her so much stronger."It was a scary thing to realize that this is no longer something that only affects me.  This affects my kids.  I have to ensure my kids are safe."Disappointment.  Lies.  Heartbreak.  Guilt.  Grief.If you've ever been stuck trying to navigate boundaries with your extended family, this episode is for you.  Get ready to take notes from Jamie's example.Support the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
62:30 12/5/23
How to Be the CALM to Your Strong-Willed Child's Storm: Moving Beyond Theories to Application with Omaya + Andrew
Parents to a 4-year-old strong-willed son and an almost 2 year-old daughter, Omaya + Andrew are here to share the biggest mindset shifts they internalized that made it possible for them to go from constantly splitting up their family to avoid setting off their strong-willed child to watching their sibling relationship thrive and taking both kids hiking as a solo parent! They reflected on what they've done well to parent together as true partners, processing the information in real time and tagging each other out in the moment.  But most importantly, they hope by hearing their story you'll not only feel incredibly validated, but realize how possible it is to make sense of all the theories when you have individualized insight.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The problem with spending your energy trying to rationalize with someone who’s behavior is by definition, irrationalWhat it really means to respond to the emotion, not the actionHow empowering it is to move from avoidance to acceptance of your child's BIG emotionsDON'T MISS:What to do with your fears that your child is the *worst* child of all the kids you know// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
66:20 11/28/23
Best GIFTS for Strong-Willed Kids (unconventional, practical and long-lasting ideas that are still fun to open!)
No matter the occasion, when buying a gift for the kid(s) in your life, you want to WOW them without breaking the bank or seeing your investments lying in the "toy graveyard" 2 months from now, taking up space or making a mess, never to be played with again.  I GOT YOU!I've compiled a huge list of mostly unconventional items your strong-willed child will lose their mind for, and continue playing with for months or years to come!  They're not super expensive, they're not super messy, they're not annoying, and they still retain the "fun to watch them open" factor!The overall GOAL for gifts for strong-willed kids is that the gifts create a feeling of being BIG/grown up, getting to be the boss, feeling important or in control through play.Remember, if we don't proactively give them outlets to get this very real need met, we leave it up to them and they'll find a way, it just won't be mutually beneficial.// CLICK HERE TO VIEW THE BLOG POST //https://www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/blog/best-toys-for-strong-willed-kidsIN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...My "5 Rules to Live By" when buying toysOodles of practical gifts you haven't thought of, like over 100+ Ideas that give strong-willed kids a huge sense of power + control!DON'T MISS: The 3 gifts that take the cake!// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applySupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
37:26 11/21/23
Is this Normal? Peeing your Pants, Hemorrhoids, Period Pain and All Things Pelvic Floor with Dr. Sara Reardon (@the.vagina.whisperer)
Today I am talking to Dr. Sara Reardon (@the.vagina.whisperer), board-certified pelvic health physical therapist and founder of an online on-demand workout platform for your pelvic floor and core. She's here to talk about all things pelvic floor,  dropping basic knowledge we all wish someone would have told us by now but no one has. Together we work to normalize the conversation, not the pain or the misery.You might begin to realize that what you're experiencing is more common than you think. But also not necessarily normal. And there is something that you can do about it.  IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Dr. Sara's two core truths she's learned in motherhoodThe difference between a pelvic floor therapist and an OBGYN Direct answers to questions like "Do you need pelvic floor therapy if you have a C-Section?"Why kegels aren't the answer for everyone - and could actually make things worseDON'T MISS-The priceless (and disgusting) parts of being known on social media// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Magnesium Citrate - Natural CALM// CONNECT WITH DR. SARA REARDON //Website: https://thevagwhisperer.comIG: @the.vagina.whispererTikTok: @thevagwhisperer7 days free pelvic floor workouts: https://thevagwhisperer.com/membership/I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
49:26 11/14/23
BEST Books for Strong-Willed Kids
Think of literally anything. There's a fantastic children's book on it!Books can be used to meet your strong-willed child's need for control through a power reversal role, as well as teach them important social-emotional life skills!I've compiled 29 of my very favorite books I highly recommend to my clients, and have categorized them by  - Offers Control, BIG Emotions, Best for Toddlers and Skill Building.While they are linked to an Amazon wishlist below, feel free to reserve and rent them from your local library!// CLICK HERE TO FIND THE FULL LIST //IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...29 Books I Wholeheartedly RecommendWhy You Need Power Reversal Books in your Life ASAPWho my All-Time Favorite Author/Illustrator is!DON'T MISS:Omaya + Andrew's wisdom shared inside Wholeheartedly CALM// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Ep. #53 - Parenting Around Family// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
30:42 11/7/23
The Reality of Human Trafficking + How to Protect Your Kids with Alexandra Ford
Today's topic is a heavy one; dark and possibly triggering...but we don't leave you hanging. It's not one that I would advise playing in the car with kids around, but it is necessary listening if you aim to be an aware, conscious parent in today's society. Alexandra Ford (previously Stevenson), a former trafficking victim turned activist, started her anti-trafficking work at 11 years old. 10 years later, she was trafficked. And it wasn't until another 10 years passed that she was able to identify what happened to her as trafficking.  In today's episode, Alexandra not only walks us through her story, but depicts the truth about human trafficking: what it really is, why it's so hard to recognize and stop once you're in it, and what's actually worth spending your time on as a parent to protect your kids. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How human trafficking is different from the movies;  much closer to home, yet harder to recognizeThe progression of the relationship that binds and traps victimsPractical things we can implement in each age and stage to help prevent our kids from being susceptible to this pathDON'T MISS-How to put traffickers out of business for good// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //American Human Trafficking Hotline-1-888-373-7888  Text* 23333Canadian Human Trafficking Hotline-1-833-900-1010 // CONNECT WITH ALEXANDRA FORD //Website / Book Waitlist:  TheLaughingSurvivor.comInstagram:  @thelaughingsurvivorI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
59:01 10/31/23
The 3 D's of Lasting Change: Does Your Family Have What It Takes?
It's HARD + SCARY to unlearn, re-learn, and teach new ways of being with your child as a united front with your partner, improve your child's behavior, and become more and more confident by the day (ESPECIALLY with strong-willed kids)!What sets the families apart that succeed in truly changing their lives for good?There's much more insight to be gleaned from the actual journey toward growth than from anything to do with the power struggle that happened at breakfast this morning.Today I'm breaking down the questions I ask to determine whether families have the three necessary components that create transformational change.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...The Transformation Triad: the 3 D'sWhy change just doesn't last if you don't have all 3Whether or not it matters how much they're strugglingDON'T MISS:Dee's wisdom shared inside Wholeheartedly CALM// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Ep. #28 - How to Do the Work with Sarah Saldi// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
21:21 10/24/23
When Productivity Masks High-Functioning Anxiety with Becky Gleed, PMHP
Motherhood is hard for everyone, so how do you know when what you’re experiencing is not what everyone is experiencing? Today’s guest, Becky Gleed is a busy working mom of two fun, spirited girls, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a certified perinatal mental health professional ! She owns and operates a private mental health practice right outside of Washington, D.C. specializing in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. In today’s episode we talk about how the egregious policies and lack of support she witnessed while working in emergency psychiatric care for moms informed the work she does now. We covered the breadth of mental health and mood disorders postpartum parents experience and why it’s critical to seek support sooner than later.  In a world that equates busyness with success, how do we differentiate when productivity is a mental health concern?  Becky shares key indicators, next steps and power thoughts for moms struggling with high functioning anxiety, and insight on when and why to get help.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How to recognize the root of what's driving your productivityWhy you need to differentiate your identity from your symptomsWhat happens years down the road when you DON'T get help DON'T MISS-Key take home messages to remind yourself of often// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Postpartum Support International: postpartum.net// CONNECT WITH BECKY GLEED //Website: rebeccamgleedlmft.com/Instagram: @employedmotherhoodAudible Promo Code: 2NSL4SARSEWACI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
49:50 10/17/23
11 Reasons Why Gentle Parenting Feels Impossible to Implement
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK FOR GOODNESS SAKE!There are likely more than a handful of very legit reasons why doing this hard thing feels even harder for you right now.  Are you aware of them enough to know how to overcome them?IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...Often underestimated, proven ways your progress has been held back Why some of the approaches you've been working so hard to implement aren't working at allHow learning more in some ways does more of a disservice than a benefitDON'T MISS:#11- the key to transformation // CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
31:08 10/10/23
The Case for Embracing Screens + Video Games with Mx. Ash Brandin, EdS
NOTE: This episode will not answer every question you have in hopes of finding the *perfect* formula for managing screens and video games at your house.  However, I guarantee you will see them in an entirely new light one hour from now, no matter your child's age. Mx. Ash Brandin, EdS (they/them) has been a public school educator for over a decade. . After years of research and starting  their Instagram page @thegamereducator,  they have helped over 100,000 families make screen time beneficial for the whole family. The COVID-19 Pandemic brought forth a reckoning in how we view and interact with screens, especially as parents.   Ash believes screens should be a part of our lives, not the center of our lives and helps caregivers navigate the world of tech using consistent loving boundaries.  IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...Whether there is "good" screen time and "bad" screen timeThe brilliance of video games and how to work WITH themThe need to sit in the discomfort of prioritizing our own needs as parentsDON'T MISS-The privilege of discovering ourselves so our kids have an easier time doing the same// CONNECT WITH ASH BRANDIN //Resources: Linktr.eeInstagram: @thegamereducatorI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
51:24 10/3/23
Good Cop / Bad Cop: The Broken Record Relationship
This episode goes out to every family that is trying to break the cycle and feels like it might break their marriage.There's a vicious cycle that plays itself out over and over like a broken record in these dynamics in ways that account for the inevitable stress on your relationship that is parenting a strong-willed child. Not only does this episode shed light on the unseen contributors and look at it in new ways, but it points out two proven ways to put an end to this dynamic between you for good.IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...The step-by-step Groundhog Day happening daily in homes everywhereThe unspoken, unaddressed factors holding your partner back from going ALL IN on your new parenting approachesWhy it's worth addressing NOWDON'T MISS:How to stop "throwing spaghetti" at your partner// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
30:56 9/26/23
Breakthroughs + International Travel with our Strong-Willed Child with James + Vanessa
Parents to boys age 7 + 4, Vanessa + James, are here to be completely honest with you about how they've gone from regretting their decision to have kids, to enjoying international travel with them, tantrum-free.  They ended up sharing a powerful story about a recent trip they took that drove home so much of the perspective that we need to be compassionate with our kids and their need to make sense of the world. But most importantly, you'll get to hear how they think, which is one of the most powerful impacts of working with a mentor or coach; being able to not only relate, but adopt their mentalities, viewpoints, perspectives and mindset. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...How the way they're wired and trained as a physician and a scientist make parenting even more challengingThe accommodations they made to make their trip to Mexico so successfulHow James' strength of staying really calm was actually making things worseDON'T MISS:Why they're SO glad they didn't do one-on-one parenting coaching// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //Website: parentingwholeheartedly.comIG: @parent_wholeheartedlyAPPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/applyFREE CONSULT: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
69:11 9/19/23
Solo Motherhood by Choice, PMDD, + Leaving a Legacy with Emily Mulligan
We cover a lot of topics in this episode, so buckle your seat-belts. Today we get a front row seat to learn from a mom already wise in her years, Emily Mulligan!  Emily is a solo mum by choice to two little girls living on the West Coast of Australia.  She walks us through her journey into creating her family, as well as her experience in discovering and managing her PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder, a very severe form of PMS).Crippled by low self-esteem, depression + anxiety as well as an overwhelming feeling of never feeling good enough, Emily has recently discovered her calling outside of a career, working on the impostor syndrome one day at a time!IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The thoughts + experiences that led Emily to donor conceptionThe way she differentiates depression + anxiety from a hormonal disorderHow her personal project became a social movementDON'T MISS-Ways Emily has leaned on friends and community resources to support her and her girls// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Ngala (Australia)// CONNECT WITH EMILY //Join the waitlist: TheLoveMumProject.comInstagram: @thelovemumprojectPersonal IG: @emilygracemulliganI believe in you + I'm cheering you on.Come say hi!  I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
76:35 9/12/23

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