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Wild & Sublime

A podcast about sex for everyone, no matter your preferences, orientation, or relationship style — based on the popular live Chicago talk show, hosted by sex educator Karen Yates. Panelists, interviews, stories, Q and A, and more reflect a dynamic and all-encompassing view of sexuality. Join the juicy party!

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"Good Sex" with Caitlin V
Karen interviews returning guest sex coach Caitlin V, whose new show “Good Sex” on Discovery+ helps couples looking for better sexual connection by using cameras in the bedroom to diagnose issues.In this episode:Good Sex - Streaming now on Discovery+! (Try a free trial.)More about Caitlin’s coaching practiceListen to Caitlin’s appearances on our early live showsI’m looking for…Tickets to the Oct 8 live showEpisodes on specific topicsThis episode’s transcriptA book on relationships or sexuality - Check out our recs on Bookshop!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation and to download her free guide: Say It Better in Bed! 3 Proven Ways to Improve Intimate Communication.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership club, brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
46:38 09/22/2022
"Please dominate us!" - newbie tips for power exchange
Want to try some kinky stuff with your partner, but have no idea where to begin? Panelists offer tips for those curious about experimenting with power play, sensation play, and beyond.In this episode:Cassie Porter - Somatic sex educator & sexological bodyworkerJason Best - Kink-aware therapist & founder of Best TherapiesPeter Navarro - Sex-positive and somatic-oriented therapistI’m looking for…The rest of this panel convo - S3E6: Fat ShameEpisodes on specific topics - There's a list! This episode’s transcript - Read it here.A book on relationships/sexuality - Check out our recs on Bookshop!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership club, brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
17:01 09/08/2022
Pleasure tips, impact demo, and more: June Live Show
Our live June stage show features an impact demo - whips, canes, paddles, oh my! - a panel convo on getting more pleasure in sexy encounters, interview with a sex shop owner, and an erotic story. Recorded at Hungry Brain Chicago. In this episode:Early to Bed - Sex toy shop in Chicago and onlineFtM Essentials - Online gender expression gearBest Therapies - June live show sponsorTazima Parris - Sex coachLily Gonzalez - Sex psychotherapistTom Doctor - Sex and relationship therapistAlan Colorado - StorytellerThe_Enigma - kink enthusiast - is on FetLifeClara and the Great Goddamn - bottom to The Enigma - and musician on April Live Show!More!:Episodes on specific topics - There's a list! This episode’s transcript - Read it here.Love live shows? Check out April and February Part 1 & Part 2!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership club, brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free…Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
71:04 08/25/2022
Religion and sex guilt
Can you get beyond religious guilt in your sex life? Can you be a religious person and also kinky, queer, polyamorous? This deep conversation explores themes of faith, the damage restrictive religions can do to our erotic spirit, and how to work toward getting free.In this episode:Jera Brown - Sex and relationship columnist & fetish provider. Their podcast Left-handed Journeys explores role sexuality has played in people's spiritual identities and practicesBrandon Hunter-Haydon - Surrogate Partner and Intimacy CoachMore on faith and sexuality:Dr. Laura E. Anderson on Instagram@thepursuinglife on Twitter@StPromiscuity on TwitterMarlene Winnell - Religious Trauma SyndromeBooks mentioned in this episode: Philip Gulley - “If Grace Is True”; “If God Is Love”Todd Salzman - "Sexual Ethics: A Theological Introduction," ; "The Sexual Person: Toward a Renewed Catholic Anthropology"Marcella Althaus-Reid -  “Indecent Theology” . See also: The Queer GodMany more recs on our Bookshop page!Go to our website for:Episodes on a specific topic - There's a list! This episode's transcript - Read it here.Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership club, brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
35:12 08/11/2022
"Sex When You Don't Feel Like It" with Cyndi Darnell
Karen interviews sexologist Cyndi Darnell about her new book that helps you connect to your authentic desires and work with mismatched libidos within partnership.In this episode:Cyndi Darnell - Sex & relationship therapist, clinical & somatic sexologistBuy Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire on Bookshop – support independent booksellers and Wild & Sublime when you buy through our link! Plus many more sex & relationship book recs. Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Looking for episodes on a specific topic? There's a list! Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership club, brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
45:08 07/28/2022
How to talk to a therapist about sex
Do you talk to your therapist about your sex life? How can you find a sex-positive provider who works for you? Three professionals discuss what to look for and how to start the conversation.In this episode:Blake Mackie, Hannah Schwartz & Tom Doctor of Best TherapiesKink and Polyamory-Aware Professionals DirectoryAdditional resource for therapists: Kink Clinical Practice Guidelines ProjectPlus Karen’s interview with clinician Carrie Jameson on kink-aware therapistsLooking for episodes on a specific topic? There's a list!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership club, brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
43:47 07/14/2022
Rope, tantra and more! - The April live show
Karen can’t come to the phone now… She’s all tied up. A raucous live recording of Wild & Sublime’s Chicago stage show, featuring a rope tutorial, music, storytelling, tantra interview, and more. Recorded April 16, 2022, at the Hungry Brain.In this episode:Clara and the Great Goddamn - Singer/songwriterTony Holmes/The Love Warrior - Kintsugi Coach & Tantric Bodywork PractitionerGoddess Erica - Storyteller, Sexual Empowerment Coach and Tantric DoulaStranger - Kink Enthusiast & EducatorWhat exactly happened? Rope demo images at Wild & Sublime online!Looking for episodes on a specific topic? There's a list!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works with couples online and in person in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership club, brings you regular bonus content, early show alerts, discounts to live shows, and more goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity. Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
67:27 06/30/2022
"Should we open up our relationship?"
When is the right time to start a polyamory convo with a long-term partner? Panelists respond to a listener who’s on the fence about opening up a monogamous relationship.In this episode:Tazima Parris - Sex CoachMatthew Amador - Psychotherapist for love, sex & gender rebelsBrandon Hunter-Haydon - Surrogate Partner and Intimacy CoachFurther Listening:S2E43: Polyamory Q&AS2E6: What Open Relationships Can Teach EveryoneLooking for episodes on a certain topic? Browse the full list!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works iwith couples to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
24:35 06/16/2022
"A Sexplanation" with filmmakers Alex Liu and Leo Neri
Filmmakers Alex Liu and Leo Neri speak with Karen about “A Sexplanation,” their lively and smart new documentary on sex education in the US, told through the lens of Liu’s own upbringing.In this episode:A Sexplanation - Available on iTunes!Nan Wise’s work on sexuality and the brainPlanned Parenthood - What’s the State of Sex Education In the U.S.?Further Listening:S2E7: The Sex-Positive ParentS2E8: Better Sex Ed with Heather CorinnaWant to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
41:24 06/02/2022
Making sex accessible for all with Shauna Farabaugh
What happens in the world if we accept that all of us are a little bit different? Karen interviews Shauna Farabaugh, a somatic sex educator working with people who have temporary and permanent disabilities, and with organizations that serve people with disabilities.In this episode:Shauna Farabaugh - Sexuality in TransitionKaren’s interview with Caffyn JesseFind Pelvic Pain Clinic, Supporting Disabled People with Their Sexual Lives and other books mentioned on the podcast on our Bookshop page!Crippingupsexwitheva.com - Eva Sweeney, queer sex educatorWant to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
45:43 05/19/2022
Men, trauma, and sex with JoJo Bear
What do male-identified people hold in their bodies that keeps them from greater pleasure? Karen interviews JoJo Bear, a somatic sex and intimacy guide, about what he’s learned from years of working with men.In this episode:JoJo Bear - Somatic sex & intimacy guideBetty Martin - Wheel of ConsentKaren’s interview with Betty MartinNeed a good read on sexuality or relationships? Check out our recs on Bookshop!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
45:50 05/05/2022
Play spaces, play parties
Do you want to know more about playing in groups and the nitty-gritty details? Organizers from several play parties, a dungeon and a bathhouse talk about their respective scenes. Recorded live at Constellation Chicago in October 2019.In this episode:LRA ChicagoGalleria Domain 2SteamworksMidwest FemDomme Group (find them on FetLife too)Find Girl Bang Chicago (and Girl Bang Madison) on FetLifeGoFundMe for Jerith of GD2Need a good read on sexuality or relationships? Check out our recs on Bookshop!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
36:28 04/21/2022
Bonus: Humor in Bed — yes or no?
Do you laugh during sex? Or are you very serious when things get steamy? Panelists respond to a listener question about different attitudes toward humor in the bedroom.In this episode:Cassie Porter - Somatic sex educator, sexological bodyworker and body-centered counselorClark Hazel - Individual and Couples therapist at Best Therapies Heather Shannon - Certified Sex TherapistApril 16 live show ticketsWant to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Need a good read on sexuality or relationships? Check our our recs on Bookshop!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
14:16 04/14/2022
Orgasmic Birth, Q&A, and more: Feb live show Pt 2
What’s your go-to for getting into a sexy or kinky mood? The audience tells us! Act 2 of our first live show since 2020 brings an interview on orgasmic birth, music, Q&A, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Recorded live in Feb. 2022 at the Hungry Brain in Chicago.In this episode:Goddess Erica - Orgasmic birth doulaTazima Parris - Sex Coach & Pleasure Mentor for WomenMksthingshappin - kink and relationship coachMatthew Amador - Sex-positive psychotherapistMatt Griffo - Comedian-musicianListen to Act One podcast epMore on the Feb 2022 live showWant to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!Need a good read on sexuality or relationships? Check our our recs on Bookshop!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
43:59 04/07/2022
Bringing Sexy Back: Feb Live Show Pt 1
Let’s bring sexy back in 2022. But how? Host Karen Yates and panelists discuss changes in sex and dating during the pandemic, plus music, and a storyteller shares a tale of an afternoon hookup gone wrong in our first stage show since 2020, recorded live at Hungry Brain in Chicago.In this episode:Tazima Parris - Sex Coach & Pleasure Mentor for WomenMatthew Amador - Sex-positive psychotherapistMksthingshappin - kink and relationship coachMatt Griffo - comedian-musicianLily Be - Stoop Style StoriesFeb 2022 live showNeed a good read? Check our our recs on Bookshop!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is an intimacy coach and somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
43:00 03/24/2022
Bonus Episode: Fat Shame
Panelists respond to a listener who feels shame after gaining weight and doesn’t want to be touched by a long-term partner.In this episode:Cassie Porter - Somatic sex educator & sexological bodyworkerJason Best - Kink-aware therapist & founder of Best TherapiesPeter Navarro - Sex-positive and somatic-oriented therapistNeed a good read? Check our our recs on Bookshop!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is a somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
17:10 03/17/2022
Asexual adventure with Lily Be
Asexuality - it's not what you think. Storyteller Lily Be shares how pegging, a bunch of unfulfilling relationships, and a late-night Reddit deep-dive helped her realize she’s asexual — which also brought her closer to her mother.In this episode:S2E55: Best Erotic StoryS2E4: Your True Sexual Self (Sarah Sloane discusses asexuality)Stoop Style StoriesNeed a good read? Check our our recs on Bookshop!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is a somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
45:53 03/10/2022
Creating Consent Culture with Marcia Baczynski and Erica Scott
Karen interviews Erica Scott and Marcia Baczynski, authors of “Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators” about the expansive possibilities of collaborative consent.In this episode:Creating Consent Culture Marcia Baczynski: Asking for What You WantGet their book on Bookshop!Cuddle PartyWant to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is a somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteGet tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
48:26 02/24/2022
Bonus Ep: Hookup Communication
In this sneak peek from the Patreon member feed, panelists answer a listener question about communicating and having better sex in a hookup setting.In this episode:Clark Hazel - Individual & couples therapist at Best Therapies Cassie Porter - Somatic sex educator & sexological bodyworkerHeather Shannon - Certified sex therapistS2E25 - Betty Martin interviewWant to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is a somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteGet tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
17:19 02/17/2022
Eavesdropping: kink misconceptions
In a new Eavesdropping conversation, sex coach Tazima Parris asks Karen about misconceptions of beginning kinksters, and the ways kink can be used to reframe and heal from negative life experiences.In this episode:Tazima Parris - Sex coachS1E10 - Carrie Jameson on developing kink-positive guidelines for therapistsFind more about kink and relationships on our Bookshop reading list!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is a somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.Are you a sex-positive patron? The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!Want to be Wild & Sublime out in the world?  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteGet tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
40:19 02/10/2022
Sexual Healing with Caffyn Jesse
We’re back with a new season! Karen talks with somatic sex educator and prolific author Caffyn Jesse about somatic sex therapy as a way to heal from trauma and expand your pleasure capacity in all parts of life.In this episode:Caffyn Jesse - Somatic Sex EducatorEthics for OutlawsInstitute for the Study of Somatic Sex EducationSomatic Sex Educators AssociationAssociation for Sexological BodyworkersFind Caffyn’s books on our Bookshop page!Want to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is a somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and expand pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.Are you a sex-positive patron? The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!Want to be Wild & Sublime out in the world?  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteGet tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
48:35 01/27/2022
Remix! A sex-positive sampler
We’re kicking off the new year with a sampler of segments you may have missed from past episodes. Guests discuss common medications with sexual side effects; nonbinary identities; and techniques for climbing out of a sex rut – plus, Karen’s Sermon on reminders to self for moving through relationship anxiety. We’re taking two weeks off and coming back with a whole new season!In this episode:Ren Grabert - S2E22: Are Your Meds Messing with Your Sex Life?Panel - S2E2: Bust Out of Your Sex Rut (ft. Jason Best, Tazima Parris, Heather Rider)Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound - S2E7: The Sex-Positive Parent“What’s Up with That?” episodes with Logan Pierce CisgenderTransgenderNonbinaryPronounsWant to rev up your relationship and bust out of limiting patterns? Host Karen Yates is a somatic sex educator who works in-person with couples in Chicago to help improve their intimate communication and to blossom pleasure in a process that can be embodied, meaningful, and fun. Go to karen-yates.com and set up a free Zoom consultation.Want to be a sex-positive patron? The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch!Yes, there’s merch! Check out our new tees and accessories. You too can be wild & sublime every day. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Or show your love for Wild & Sublime whenever the mood strikes: Leave a tip!They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteGet tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
42:42 01/06/2022
Best Erotic Story
 "Kink helped me find who I am." Storyteller Lily Be shares how becoming a Domme helped her get over a bad breakup and discover her own sexual identity in a powerful story from one of our live shows.In this episode:Lily Be - StorytellerS2E4 - Your True Sexual SelfAre you a sex-positive patron? The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch!Yes, there’s merch! Check out our new tees and accessories. You too can be wild & sublime every day. Our Limited Collection might help your inner relationship anarchist run free… Or show your love for Wild & Sublime on a one-time basis: Leave a tip!They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteAre you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
18:29 12/30/2021
2021 Most Downloaded! What Open Relationships Can Teach Everyone
What kind of relationships do you want to make? Our most downloaded episode of 2021 is a real conversation for ALL relational styles. Ethical nonmonogamists discuss relationship structures, communication skills, trust, jealousy, and the work of getting to know ourselves. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on sexual abundance.In this episode:Gabrielle SmithCooper BeckettMaile of #openThe Ethical Slut - and more sex book recs!Want to level up your sex-positive patronage? The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content and goodies! Our newest member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch!Or show your love for Wild & Sublime on a one-time basis: Leave a tip!Oh, and there's merch! Peep our new tees and accessories. You too can be wild & sublime every day. Check out our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteAre you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
52:33 12/23/2021
Eavesdropping: Masturbation ruts
Do you feel stuck in the same pattern whenever you masturbate? How can you reset and start to form a healthy masturbation practice? In this latest Eavesdropping ep, Sex writer Jera Brown sparks an impromptu convo with Karen on understanding and getting unstuck from masturbation habits that aren’t bringing us joy.In this episode:Jera Brown - Sex and relationship writer, fetish providerS2E3: Masturbation and Mindful Erotic Practice with captain snowdonJoseph Kramer’s work on changing how we watch pornLet’s get more wild, more sublime... The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content and goodies! Our newest member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch!Or show your love for sex-positive podcasting: Leave a tip!Wait, there's merch? Peep our new tees and accessories! You too can be wild & sublime every day. Our Limited Collection is updated ongoingly.They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteAre you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
40:59 12/16/2021
Are you polysaturated?
How can you tell when you’ve got enough partners? (But what if the new person you’ve just met is *really* cute?) Panelists respond to a listener question on avoiding overcommitment and burnout while living a nonmonogamous life.In this episode:Matthew Amador - Sex-positive psychotherapistHeather Shannon - Sex therapistMksthingshappin - Kink & relationship coach Get more wild, more sublime... The Afterglow brings you regular bonus content and goodies! Our newest member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch!Wait, there's merch? Peep our new tees and accessories! You too can be wild & sublime every day.Show your love for sex-positive podcasting: Leave a tip!They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteAre you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
18:58 12/09/2021
Working through pre-sex anxiety
A listener asks what to do about feeling anxious before sex with a new partner. Panelists offer techniques to get present, reframe spinning thoughts, and set the scene for pleasure.In this episode:Erica Washington - Sex-positive holistic mental health therapistElmo Painter-Edington - Queer somatic psychotherapistTazima Parris - Sex coach & pleasure mentorNeed more Wild & Sublime? The Afterglow brings regular bonus content and Wild & Sublime goodies! New member perk: 10% off all W&S merch!Speaking of merch… Peep our new tees and accessories! Be wild & sublime every day!Show your love for sex-positive podcasting: Leave a tip!They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteAre you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
21:14 12/02/2021
Receiving and Giving More Pleasure with Betty Martin [Rebroadcast]
Several recent conversations have touched on Betty Martin’s critical work with intimate communication and consent, so we’re revisiting our interview with Martin herself. Sex coach, former sex worker, and Wheel of Consent creator Betty Martin talks to Karen about her book, 40 years of touching people, and how you can practice giving and receiving pleasure.In this episode:Wheel of Consent video libraryRead a chapter of Betty’s new bookBuy it on BookshopWant more Wild & Sublime? The Afterglow brings regular bonus content and Wild & Sublime goodies! Until the end of Nov 2021, $10+/mo memberships get the new W&S sticker - PLUS our newest benefit: 10% off all W&S merch!Speaking of merch… New tees and accessories! Be wild & sublime every day!They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteDo you feel stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Show your love for sex-positive podcasting: Leave a lil’ tip!Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
56:04 11/25/2021
Eavesdropping: Is suffering optional?
Do you avoid difficult conversations with partners, or leap right into the sticky stuff? In the second episode in our Eavesdropping series — unplanned, no-holds-barred conversations, beginning with a guest’s question for Karen — Brandon Hunter-Haydon asks, “What does it mean to choose pain over suffering?”In this episode:Brandon Hunter-Haydon - Intimacy coach & therapistMore on the Wheel of Consent - Hear our interview (S2E25)Want more Wild & Sublime? The Afterglow brings regular bonus content and Wild & Sublime goodies! Until the end of Nov 2021, $10+/mo memberships get the new W&S sticker - and our latest benefit: 10% off all merchandise.Speaking of merch… Check out our new tees and accessories! Be wild & sublime every day!They said what?  Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteDo you feel stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Show your love for sex-positive podcasting: Leave a lil’ tip!Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
51:33 11/18/2021
Do you need a surrogate partner?
What exactly does a surrogate partner do? In a continuing exploration of sex work today, we hear from two professional surrogates about the intimate work of redressing trauma, dismantling unhealthy assumptions about sex, and helping clients move toward the relationships they want.In this episode:River Roaring - Surrogate partner, private coach & workshop facilitatorBrian Gibney - Surrogate partner and intimacy coachMore resources:Surrogate Partner CollectiveInternational Professional Surrogates AssociationWant more Wild & Sublime? Join The Afterglow for bonus content and Wild & Sublime goodies! Until the end of Nov 2021, $10+/mo memberships get the new W&S sticker! They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteDo you feel stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Show your love for sex-positive podcasting: Leave a lil’ tip!Get tickets for our Saturday Oct 8 show in Chicago! It's our fourth anniversary and you won't want to miss it! GO TO TICKETSSupport the show
51:11 11/11/2021