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NIGERIAN DYKE REALNESS

Unfiltered, candid thoughts on pop culture, music, love, spirituality, healing, depression, grief + whatever else comes up. The voice? Multilingual maven of the mic, your favourite dyke's favourite dyke, Yvonne Onakeme Etaghene. Ijaw Urhobo Nigerian dyke poet, author of For Sizakele, performer, dancer, visual artist, bad gyal, fashion designer and creative director of OyinT. Designs, cook, goddess and a real one. 

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not every hobby has to be a money maker
Make time for the things you care about. Hobbies are important. Not every moment you spend in your life should be spent making money. Do your best to make some time for art that is purely for your own pleasure, enjoyment, release and/or self-expression. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
12:14 5/7/24
You Ever Do An Artist Self-Evaluation?
Some questions to ask yourself when evaluating your work, your process, your practice, your journey as an artist. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
09:38 5/5/24
self-doubt is you betting against yourself
A more efficient use of your energy? Believe, truly believe, it works out perfectly for you. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
24:49 5/3/24
Children Are Not A Retirement Plan
Just as you plan for every aspect of your life, so too must you plan for retirement. Children are a blessing, not a retirement plan or financial investment you should be expecting a return on. Feeling entitled to your children taking care of you in your old age is selfish. You chose to be  a parent, be a parent. Allow your children to grow up without worrying about providing for you. Allow any financial gifts from your child be from love, not obligation and after being pressured. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
30:51 5/1/24
Black Sheep, Unicorns & Breaking Generational Curses
What does it mean to say no to abuse in an abusive family? Being the one to change a family dynamic or break toxic emotional patterns takes a lot of strength and courage. Sometimes the person with that courage becomes the black sheep, exiled from the family because of a refusal to go along with the toxicity. There can be a high price to pay for standing up for what you believe in, including losing people who embrace their dysfunction over being healthy relationships. What is the impact on the mental health and on the lives, of those who choose to walk away from their abusive families? What is the cost of being the person who walks away? Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
53:58 7/16/23
As Artists, What Happens When We Change?
Do we make room for artists to change and explore who they are and what they most desire to create? Do we allow artists to create their own vibe/sound/aesthetic before calling them tired, over or overrated? Do artistic eras exist anymore? How has social media impacted the shelf life of work and our patience with artists' process? From discussing the pandemic's impact on the arts to talking about what it means to change/grow as an artist, listen up and let's chat. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
52:33 7/11/23
Heartbreak Na Your Mate?!
Heartbreak comes in many forms. Whether from a romantic breakup, friendship breakup or as a result of trauma, grief or other life experiences. Heartbreak can come into our lives for a million reasons. How do you heal from it? How do we deal with it? Let's talk. Chat me up @NDRpodcast or @myloveisaverb on twitter. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
44:12 2/27/23
Whose Standards Are You Actually Living By?
Do you feel self-conscious about what you truly desire? Whose standards are you living your life by? Your own? Or your friends? Your parents? What's allowed in your space and what's not? Are you chasing your dreams? Or someone else's idea(l) of what your life "should" be? Take a listen, babes. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
15:07 6/6/21
Your Energy Is Your Power & Thoughts On Forgiveness
Is forgiveness necessary for your soul's growth and healing?  Some things are unforgivable. You deserve healing regardless of whether you choose to forgive. Energy is food, is power. You feed and empower what you give energy to.  Especially as you heal: why bother to expend energy towards those who hurt you by feeding them with your energy? This episode explores pathways to freedom past pain and into a deep recognition of the power of your own energy. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
28:57 2/14/21
Prayer Don Expire! & Calling Back Your Energy
Not everyone deserves your prayers. If they don't deserve that prayer, put an expiration date on it and direct that loving energy to someone who deserves it--YOU! Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
15:49 2/6/21
Are You Your Own Soulmate?
Legendary singer, actress, dancer, Eartha Kitt said: "It's about falling in love with yourself and sharing that with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit." This episode explores this quote and what it means to be a WHOLE human being without needing or relying on another to complete you. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
19:33 12/23/20
#SARSMustEndNow | Nigerian Youth Are TIRED | Political Context of SARS
Protests have been ongoing for six days in Nigeria and throughout the world against SARS (the Special Anti-Robbery Squad), a section of the Nigerian police that murder, steal, commit violence against and extort money from Nigerian citizens. #SARSMustEndNow protests have been led by Nigerian youth throughout the country, who are incredibly passionate because, simply put, they have had ENOUGH. In today's episode, I talk about the political context of this moment, the consequences of such violent suppression of the people and more. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
34:19 10/15/20
F**k Being Likable. Do YOU Like You?
The idea of "being likable" has been used to suppress women, African women in particular. In this episode, I discuss the invisible impact of colourism, the ways it's often ignored and dismissed. Also: I talk a bit about never taking your own beliefs for granted. Ask yourself what you believe now. Goals change. Don't let yourself get stuck in your vision of who you used to be. Take a listen. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
35:14 9/18/20
LOYALTY!
Everyone needs a code in this world, my love. Exploring loyalty to self, to others, to versions of yourself. My thoughts on LOYALTY as a choice and a gift, rather than compulsory. Take a listen. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
11:35 8/12/20
FROM BROKEN TO MOSAIC: a spiritual journey & heeding the call of my soul
This is a Special Edition of the podcast! This is the audio from my YouTube channel exploring: What does it mean to embark on a new spiritual journey? To heal from grief, take care of your mental health, be vulnerable *and* listen to your heart? What does it mean to heed the call of your soul when you can't quite decipher the message or the path ahead? For the full visual and audio experience, hop on over to my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/yangagoddessWanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
21:04 8/12/20
BREAKING NEWS! Wait What?!?! Joe Biden Chooses Kamala Harris As Vice Presidential Running Mate
I got a text at 2:01pm from the Joe Biden campaign announcing Kamala Harris, California Senator and former presidential candidate, as his Vice Presidential nominee. I was so shocked by this choice! Take a listen and find out why. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
39:21 8/11/20
Celebrating Life ALWAYS No Matter the Circumstance
What exactly is the meaning of a birthday in the midst of a global pandemic? Live and direct, Yvonne celebrates her birthday, talks about divinity, the meaning of life and transforming pain and depression into lessons. Beyond cookie cutter advice on healing, how do you heal? How do you face your wounds? Yvonne comically advises against the uselessness of comparing yourself to other people and discusses the importance of compassion in spiritual spaces as well as in our own personal healing journeys. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
40:34 5/26/20
What About African Dykes Tho?!
In conversations about gay tingz, apparently all the gays are men and all the women are straight. WHAT ABOUT AFRICAN DYKES THO?! In recent news, Philip Schofield, British ITV new presenter, came out as gay, after 27 years of marriage to a woman with whom he has 2 daughters. From this surprising news came a lot of conversation, a lot of homophobic comments and a lot of questions--like: can we talk about homosexuality in ways that do not revolve around DL (down low) men or on the impact closeted gay men have on on straight women? Can we expand/deepen, and in fact focus our conversations around queerness on queer people? Why are queer women always left by the wayside, forgotten, dismissed from these conversations?  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
49:01 2/13/20
From Henna Tattoos to Jerk Chicken
Yv. nerds out about the origins and history of henna not only as a beautiful form of body art over 5,000 years old, but also the plant henna comes from and its medicinal, spiritual and cosmetic uses. Henna is used all over the world--in Tunisia, Nigeria, Egypt, India, Iran, Yemen and more. How has henna use in the U.S. impacted the authenticity of this artform and its aesthetics? What is lost when an artform like henna travels to places where there is no cultural context for it? Also: henna should be its own official tattoo style  people specialise in period point blank. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
46:01 1/22/20
15 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Getting Tatted
There are a million (yes, literally one million) things to think about before getting a tattoo. From choosing a tattoo artist to choosing what to get tatted and where to get tatted, Yv. goes IN, shares advice, reflections and the significance of tattoos to her. Whether inked already or considering getting your first tattoo, ask yourself these questions to help you along your tattoo journey. To see some of Yv.'s tatts, check www.instagram.com/myloveisaverb Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
79:37 1/20/20
Breathing Thru the Holidays + Depression
The holidays can be hard. This episode explores different tips and tools to get through it. Some jokes. Some music to vibe to, movies/shows to watch and of course some love to wrap yourself up in to get through this holiday season. Sending big big love. xoxox. Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
66:53 12/25/19
Black Girls + Women Get Social Anxiety Too
Episode 3 explores the criticism Summer Walker experienced recently over a performance, the ways Black girls and women girls experience disproportionately high suspension and expulsion in schools as well as the general lack of compassion for Black women experiencing anxiety and addiction. Also: Black trans girls + women are the future. Shout outs to Whitney Houston, Summer Walker and Moya Bailey. It’s a lit episode, dive in. (www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
38:26 10/21/19
"Positive Vibes Only" Is A Scam, Fam
Positivity used to dismiss people's pain is a SCAM. I said what I said. (www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
30:30 10/19/19
Why Would I Match Somebody Else's Energy When I Have My Own?
In the first episode of NIGERIAN DYKE REALNESS, Yv. discusses the idea of matching the energy of the people we meet. How do you move through and navigate the people and situations you encounter? Do you match the energy of others? Extract your energy altogether? Or create your own vibe? (www.patreon.com/myloveisaverb)Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the Show.More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.comMore specifically about the podcast:www.twitter.com/NDRpodcast www.nigeriandykerealness.com Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ
29:56 10/16/19