The ADHD Manual: How to survive with a colorful brain in a black and white world. Living with ADHD in a world built for neurotypicals (people with the most common brains) is like trying to follow an IKEA assembly manual for our Hot Wheels race car track pieces. We could toss this rocket launcher and buy crappy plastic pins. Or we could toss the manual and write our own.
Hello my beloveds. I'm here to let you know that The ADHD Manual Podcast is going on hiatus. I have simply too many ideas that I want to develop, so the pod is taking a break while I work on breathing new life into TAM. I will be back with public updates on November 16th at the latest! Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
9/21/23 • 21:52
Today I'm here with something different: a listener interviews me about time blindness/time perception differences in ADHD and how loved ones can support ADHDers struggling with it. Thank you for joining me Laura! If you want to come on the pod with me and discuss an ADHD topic of your choice, please email me! theadhdmanual@gmail.com Uncut audio is on Patreon, and for a full list of sources visit theadhdmanual.com.Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
9/7/23 • 46:04
TW: medical trauma, gaslighting, death/mortality Six years ago this week, I almost died. And for some reason, that still bothers me?? So today I spend some time unpacking how trauma recovery might look for the neurospicy. More information on the symptoms of pulmonary embolism & blood clots Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
8/24/23 • 45:49
Today I give a few tips to address some of the challenges ADHDers might face when it comes to fueling their meat machines. Follow these nutritionists on Insta for more ADHD-friendly anti-diet nutrition tips: @adhd.nutritionist @adhd.dietitian Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
8/10/23 • 42:07
Today I answer a question about how to ease transitions for yourself and/or your neurodivergent children. For time, I ended up cutting a section in which I talk more about how task switching involves every executive function. If that interests you, check out the full episode on Patreon. Here's everything else I've written and recorded on executive functions. Check out this article on ADDitude for more suggestions on helping kids with transitions. Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
7/27/23 • 41:14
As Pride Month comes to an end, queer neurodivergents might be wishing they could have participated more. Here's how I know you did more than enough."Wild Geese" is from Dream Work (1986) by Mary Oliver.Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
6/29/23 • 20:05
Today I'm joined by Lyric Rivera - the badass behind the Neurodivergent Rebel and best-selling author of Workplace NeuroDiversity Rising. Join us as we frolic in the intersection of queerness and neurodivergence. Follow Lyric on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, and support them on Patreon. Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
6/15/23 • 51:57
Today Max and I talk about taking a med break, the Adderall shortage, and Pride Plans for the Pod. If you have thoughts or requests regarding Pride month episodes, shoot me an email theadhdmanual@gmail.com Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
6/1/23 • 37:12
*Warning: vulnerability ahead* Today I am one loud noise away from a meltdown and so not equipped to record an episode. Which is why I recorded an episode. You need to know that it's okay to have days when you are stretched to your limits by ordinary things. Be soft with your heart; you are working so much harder than anyone understands.Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
5/18/23 • 24:17
Today Hong joins me to talk about how the Baby Challenge has affected our sex life, and how our neurodiverse relationship has prepared us for tough conversations. Check out my other podcast Happily Ever Pasture Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
5/4/23 • 42:01
My gramma's birthday was last week, so I've been thinking about all the little ways she supported me as a neurodivergent kid. Happy belated birthday, Gramma. I hope there's always music wherever you are. Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
4/20/23 • 17:11
Today I gave Hum a free pass for any ADHD question she hasn't gotten around to asking. Listen to my interview with Rachel Scanlon here. Follow Rachel Scanlon on Instagram to see when and where her special comes out. Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
4/6/23 • 41:58
ADHD can disrupt sleep. Disrupted sleep can worsen ADHD symptoms. Worsened ADHD symptoms make it harder to get adequate sleep. Are you familiar with this vicious cycle? In today's episode (appropriately recorded at 3am), I break down some theories on why ADHD is such a Sleep Bully and what I do about it, with the help of an article by Dr. William Dodson. You can listen to my new podcast here: Happily Ever Pasture Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
3/23/23 • 44:57
We're back with a recap of our appointment with a new fertility clinic, as well as a discussion and some tips about the national Adderall shortage.If you have ideas on what Hum and I should discuss next, shoot an email to theadhdmanual@gmail.com!Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
3/9/23 • 43:42
Happy New Year! People often ask us how they can offer support as we're trying to start a family. So we are back with some ideas on how you can help your queer loved ones who are trying to conceive. Current legislation concerning family building equality (via RESOLVE) Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
1/12/23 • 42:43
Most things suck! We're tired! Have a holiday! See you next year!Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
12/15/22 • 05:33
Today Hum and I debrief our first clinic appointments, and share what we've learned about ourselves and each other. Video ft. Max is on PatreonSupport the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
12/1/22 • 51:40
Today Hum and I are talking about feeling frozen in the face of a daunting process, and how our different neurotypes and identities might impact our experience. The extended video is on Patreon. Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
11/17/22 • 45:56
We've been lost in the weeds of How to Have a Child Without Declaring Bankruptcy, so we're coming up for air by reminiscing about how we met and fell in love. To view the extended video, check out Patreon.Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
11/3/22 • 46:27
Today I wanted to share what's been going on in the Chau House, and what the pod might look like going forward. The video's up on PatreonSupport the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
10/20/22 • 32:14
Today I'm talking housing accommodations. And by "talking" I mean "giving a Powerpoint presentation" and by "housing accommodations" I mean the quirks of my living space that make my house more ADHD friendly, and some more information on Emotional Support Animals. To behold my Powerpoint in all its glory, check out Patreon. theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
10/6/22 • 44:20
*RE-RELEASED 9/23* After so many hours, I have finally cleaned up this audio. I used a program that made a clone of my voice and then I overdubbed the parts that were corrupted - so there are some words that sound a little like a weird robot, but there's no more painful static. Today I'm sharing tips for how ADHDers can ask for accommodations in their personal relationships, and how non-ADHDers can foster more meaningful connections with their ADHD loved ones.For ad-free episodes and to read the "Abby's Going to Israel Book" my mom wrote for me when I was three, check out Patreon. It's pretty adorable. theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
9/8/22 • 31:32
Today I'm talking accommodations at work - how to ask for them and where you can find resources and support. For unedited video of this episode, check out Patreon. AskJAN Links (for Employees and Employers): Sample Accommodation Request Letters ADHD Accommodations Executive Dysfunction Accommodations Contact JAN If you want me to come speak to your workplace about ADHD, email theadhdmanual@gmail.com. theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
8/25/22 • 37:34
I'm back! Today I'm talking tips for interoception difficulties; i.e., body signals we might miss and what they mean. For an extended video version of this episode, check out Patreon. theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
8/11/22 • 42:01
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6/30/22 • 11:28
This is a brief excerpt from last week's ADHD & Sex Patreon episode, "My Coming Out Story ft. ADHD". If you want more juicy details about how growing up neurodivergent influenced my sexual identity, check out Patreon. theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
6/16/22 • 26:03
I am beyond excited, because today I get to show off the amazing minds in my community. Listen to how my neurodivergent peers answered the question: What is a life lesson you have learned (or unlearned) that changed your neurodivergent experience for the better? Thank you to all who shared so generously. I had to cut a couple for time, so for the full-length and video version of this episode, check out Patreon. If this inspired you to reflect on your own collection of Neurodivergent Life Lessons, it's never too late to join the conversation on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, or email: theadhdmanual@gmail.com. Share what you've learned and you could be featured on a larger piece I'm curating for the website. theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
6/2/22 • 43:15
My brother Joe is back with wisdom and insight as we answer an email question about how to have challenging conversations with an ADHD loved one. For a video version of this episode with an extra half hour of content, check out Patreon. Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
5/20/22 • 58:16
Yesterday was the four year anniversary of my ADHD diagnosis! I took the opportunity to share the nuts and bolts of how it happened and some reflections on how it changed my life. "Which Side I'm On" - Blind Pilot Watch my first video about ADHD & sex on Patreon. Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
5/5/22 • 40:42
In 3rd grade, a teacher chastised me in front of the class for a "careless" mistake during a project. For twenty years I have bided my time. Now my moment has finally come. Article by Dr. Brown about ADHD & executive function The first of my videos about ADHD & sex comes out next Thursday the 28th. Become a patron to access that, episode transcripts, and other exclusive content. theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com Support the showExtended video episodes available on Patreon Follow TAM on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter theadhdmanual.com | theadhdmanual@gmail.com
4/21/22 • 35:17