Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

Send us a textMany of us find ourselves in this delusional thinking that the outside world could give us satisfaction, if only things went our way. The truth? There is no external solution to internal pain, and it only brings you deeper into a victim mentality. This week’s episode 317 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why controlling everything still doesn’t make you feel better!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my insights about the dangerous illusion of external control and its impact on recovery and how, through internal healing and self-acceptance, we can find serenity. Identify one area where you're trying to control external circumstances. Instead, turn your focus inward and ask yourself, "What can I change about myself?" Remember, you can't control the world, but you can always control your response to it. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

6/9/25 • 12:48

Send us a textRecovery showed me that I abused and neglected myself physically, psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually. I stayed in relationships and workplaces that were toxic, and I put up with abuse from bosses, colleagues, sweethearts, and others. This was all because I had this internalized belief from my family that you just put up with things like that. It wasn’t until I was reading the ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) Big Red Book and read about backfilling the love you didn’t get as a child that I realized I could make a change. This week’s episode 316 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to backfill the love you didn’t get as a child!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how recovery has taught me to backfill the love I was missing from my childhood and how you, too, can rewrite your emotional narratives, set healthy boundaries, and cultivate deep self-love. Your childhood doesn't define your future. By committing to inner healing, you can break generational cycles and create the emotional support you always needed. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

5/26/25 • 17:18

Send us a textPeople tend to hear the motto “keep the docus on yourself” and think it means “be selfish.” That could not be further from the truth. It’s actually about stopping your focus on what other people, places, and things are doing (or not doing) and turning that focus inward. This week’s episode 315 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the number one boundary-setting rule: keep the focus on yourself. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what it really means to keep the focus on yourself and 5 actionable pieces of advice you can take to start practicing this today. Your journey to wholeness begins with turning the focus inward. Start today by asking yourself what you truly want, need, and prefer. Remember, you are a unique "peach" - not everyone will like you, and that's exactly how it should be.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

5/12/25 • 15:05

Send us a textWhen I started this podcast, I had no idea that it would turn into such a meaningful part of my work and my connection to you all. What started as a place for me to share my lessons and experiences through recovery turned into a place for creativity, learning, and service, and for that, I am forever grateful. This podcast has given me the opportunity to take a deeper step into my business and serve people in a much more focused, intentional way. This week’s episode 314 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how I’m choosing depth over hustle and what that means for you!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a voice memo I received from a past coaching client that came at a time when I needed to hear it most, and some updates to my offerings, podcast schedule, and newsletter release. Whether you’re a long-time listener or brand new, I wanted to thank you. Thank you for being part of this podcast, this community, and this evolving journey through life. I can’t wait to see what this next chapter brings.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

5/5/25 • 11:24

Send us a textBefore recovery, I had no idea how many areas of my life I didn’t even perceive as having a choice in. I thought, ‘This is just the way it is; this is just how life works.’ But one of the greatest freedoms recovery has given me is learning that I actually do have choices, and the greatest of those freedoms is the freedom to choose what I think and believe. This week’s episode 313 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from victim mentality to empowered living!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I share how I went from feeling powerless to living an empowered life by recognizing that I have choices! I delve into the concept of victim mentality, how our internalized beliefs can limit our choices and keep us feeling trapped in destructive patterns, and ultimately, how to choose peace and intentionality over reactivity. I encourage you to start by identifying one area in your life where you've been playing the victim. Make a conscious choice today to approach that situation with intention, personal responsibility, and hope.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callGETTING OUT OF VICTIM MENTALITY EPISODES:Ep #3 Victim Mentality (8 min)Ep #106 How to Overcome Victim Mentality Even If You've Been Victimized (15 min)Ep # 126 How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality (15 min)Ep. #152 How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Come Out of Victim Mentality (14 min)Ep. #172 Seven Steps to Coming Out of Victim Mentality (21 min)Ep #176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of It (19 min)Ep. 266 How to Stop Victimizing Yourself and Reclaim Your Power (23 min)CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebook

4/28/25 • 13:31

Send us a textFor much of my life, I've known that one of my most hated human characteristics is arrogance. So, imagine my surprise when I learned in recovery that I was arrogant. Recovery also helped me understand that I hated it because it was something in me that I didn't like. And you know what we say in recovery: you spot it, you got it, and often, if you're spotting something regularly in other people, it's because you have it and probably don't like it. This week’s episode 312 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the humbling truth behind my need to rescue and how I got out of it. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Recovery helped me realize that my desire to help others stemmed from the need for control and superiority. Pointing out the different types of arrogance: intellectual, moral, spiritual, and social. Strategies for overcoming the need to rescue or fix others (including some language to use when doing so). I encourage you to reflect on your own "helping" behaviors. Are you truly supporting others or subtly trying to control outcomes? Challenge yourself to approach relationships with genuine curiosity and respect for others' capabilities.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of ItDonna Zajonc and David Emerald can be found at the Center for the Empowerment DynamicCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

4/21/25 • 14:24

Send us a textWhen my homeless friend moved in with me, we often listened to music instead of NPR, which was typical for me at the time. I came to realize that replacing politics with music shifted my mood drastically. When I was no longer filling my ears with the horrible things happening in our world, I noticed how much more at peace I felt and how much of a game changer this was for me. This week’s episode 311 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about choosing peace over panic- why I stopped watching the news. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my transformative journey of prioritizing my mental health by stepping away from constant news consumption, some options if you want to limit your news intake, but don’t want to be kept out of the loop completely, and a prayer you can read before watching the news should you choose to do so.A Prayer Before Reading the News Written by Rabbi Irwin Keller in early 2016  My God, the soul you have placed in me is pure and vulnerable. I am afraid that looking at today’s news will be painful. Encircle me in a robe of lightso that I can witness the wounds of the world without being wounded myself. Let me learn what I need to know In order to be of greatest usewithout being overwhelmed by despair. I feel your protective light nowas I open myself to the world’s suffering and the world’s joys. Amen Remember, you are not obligated to be constantly informed about every world event. Your mental peace is more important than feeling perpetually anxious about things outside your control. Take a moment to evaluate how news consumption affects your daily life, and give yourself permission to make changes that support your emotional wellness.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

4/14/25 • 15:19

Send us a textFor some of us who struggle with addiction, we’re using our addiction to fill some type of hole we’re feeling. Today’s guest, Mark, was using his compulsive, addictive behaviors in an attempt to fill a “God-sized hole” in his life. He shares with us how recovery and finding his higher power has helped him fill that hole and soar beyond what he ever believed possible. This week’s episode 310 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about Mark’s story: it’s hard to get off the ground when your wings are cut!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, Mark shares his profound journey through various addictions and the transformative power the 12-step program had on his path to healing. Some of the talking points Mark I go over in this episode include:Mark’s lifelong journey of using compulsive behaviors to fill a hole in his life.Addiction is often a symptom of deeper emotional wounds. Spiritual growth involves right-sizing your life and practicing humility. Recovery is about letting go and unlearning things so we can thrive, not just survive.Mark's journey demonstrates that no matter how dark your past, transformation is possible. If you're struggling with compulsive behaviors or feeling trapped, remember that hope exists. Take the first step by reaching out to a 12-step program or seeking support from professionals who understand your journey. Your path to healing and wholeness begins with a single, courageous decision to change.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

4/7/25 • 41:36

Send us a textBefore recovery, I had heard all about the importance of acceptance, but my question still remained: How do I do it? It wasn’t just one thing that helped me but a series of lessons that helped me change my thinking, reduce emotional suffering, and create inner peace. And I wanted to share those lessons with you. This week’s episode 309 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to find peace: mastering acceptance in difficult times!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the process I followed to lean into acceptance, some of the powerful lessons I learned along the way, and practical strategies you can use when practicing acceptance for yourself. Remember, serenity doesn't come before acceptance - acceptance leads to serenity. Start your journey today by meeting life exactly where it is, one moment at a time.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

3/31/25 • 19:07

Send us a textRegardless of how long I have been working with clients as a boundaries coach, I am still amazed by the mind-blowing revelations my clients have as a result of working with me. Today, I am sharing one of these profound experiences by sharing a story from “Sylvia,” one of my clients who confidently took back ownership of her life. This week’s episode 308 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go beyond ‘woe is me’- Sylvia’s powerful shift to self-ownership. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a story from a client call where, with the help of boundaries coaching, “Sylvia” was able to overcome years of trauma, workplace challenges, and personal struggles to emerge stronger and more confident. Some key takeaways I go over in this episode include:You have the right to set boundaries because you get to live your life the way YOU want. You don’t have to engage with people who have hurt you. You don’t need to explain yourself to everyone. You own your narrative; other people don’t get to tell you who you are or were. Give yourself grace, treating yourself as you would a beloved friend. Sylvia's story is a powerful reminder that we all have the ability to change our narratives and reclaim our power– and that's something we can all learn from.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

3/24/25 • 15:18

Send us a textOne of the most profound things I have worked on in my recovery journey is showing love to myself even after I make a mistake. So, when I had a recent experience where my unconditional love was tested after a slip-up with food, I had to share it with you. This week’s episode 307 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about discovering unconditional love after a food slip!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a recent food slip I had during a dinner with friends, eating unplanned seconds, and how, through recovery, I discovered the transformative power of loving myself, regardless of my mistakes. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Sharing the backstory of what led to my food slip and how I immediately contacted my sponsor about it. The profound moment of self-love I had while doing my inner family work. Realizing that I still get to be loved, regardless of my mistakes or actions. The importance of honesty and vulnerability in my recovery and self-healing journey,Remember that you are worthy of love exactly as you are. Embrace your journey, be kind to yourself, and know that one slip does not define your recovery.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

3/17/25 • 19:03

Send us a textFor years, I thought emotional unavailability happened to me, not something I actively participated in. Spoiler alert: I was dead wrong. Today, I'm pulling back the curtain on my journey from emotional unavailability to emotional availability and how recovery helped me understand and embrace my own feelings and the feelings of others. This week’s episode 306 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to unpack emotional unavailability- my journey to feeling my feelings (and yours).In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what it looked like for me to be emotionally unavailable and practical steps to become more emotionally available, feeling your feelings and giving space for others to do the same. Your emotional journey is a continuous process of growth and self-discovery. Start today by being curious about your feelings and treating yourself with the same compassion you would offer a dear friend. Remember, becoming emotionally available is not about perfection but about progress and self-understanding.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep. 273 - The ACA Solution and How to Overcome Intergenerational Family DysfunctionCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

3/10/25 • 18:59

Send us a textOne of the promises of ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) is that we go from being a reactor to an actor in our lives. This means taking a proactive approach to our lives rather than reacting to what is happening. It means that we are being thoughtful, giving conscious consideration to what's going on around us, and making conscious decisions instead of reacting based on habits or patterns from the past. This week’s episode 305 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from reactor to responder: breaking free from old patterns!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The difference between reacting and responding, and why it’s a significant paradigm shift in recovery. The role that awareness, decision-making, and learning to pause play in becoming a proactive person. Practical strategies for experimenting with different behaviors and getting feedback to determine what works best for you. Learning to view yourself as the solution, not the problem, and take empowered action towards the life you desire. Moving from being a reactor to a responder is a journey that requires patience and practice, but the rewards are immense. By becoming more aware, making conscious choices, and experimenting with new ways of being, you can break free from old patterns and start living a life of purpose and fulfillment. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 8 - My #1 Tool of Recovery: PausingEp 217 - Why Pausing Is So Important and What to DO When You PauseCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

3/3/25 • 19:27

Send us a textChanges in medicine, technology, currency, and so much more are happening at an exponential rate, and our ability to adapt is either going to make or break us. If you're able to adapt, you'll be able to thrive instead of just surviving or existing. That’s where the concept of adaptation energy comes into play. This week’s episode 304 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to handle life’s demands without losing your shit!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Defining adaptation energy, as introduced to me by my meditation teacher, Emily Fletcher, the founder of Ziva meditation.Why filling our adaptation energy tank is essential to avoid emotionally burning out.Consistent self-care practices you can do to refill your adaptation energy tank. Sharing an example of how recovery has allowed me to keep calm in stressful situations. Don't wait until you're running on empty to prioritize your self-care. Start building up your adaptation energy reserves today so you can handle whatever life throws your way with grace and resilience. Your future self will thank you.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ziva MeditationCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

2/24/25 • 20:59

Send us a textCodependency in relationships can be a complex cycle to break, especially when it comes to family members. We tend to tolerate toxic behaviors for the sake of love and loyalty. That’s why today I wanted to unpack some of the myths around loyalty and tolerance in dysfunctional family dynamics and how true love requires setting healthy boundaries. This week’s episode 303 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about breaking the codependency cycle!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Love and loyalty do not mean tolerating abuse; when we excuse harmful behavior in the name of love, we're being loyal only to the dysfunction. True love includes boundaries, truth, and valuing yourself as a person, not just as a parent.The belief that "I don't matter" is a common issue for those in codependent relationships, leading them to prioritize the happiness of others over their own well-being.If you're struggling with codependency and setting boundaries in your relationships, know that you're not alone. Recovery is about unlearning patterns handed down to us and choosing a different way forward. It's never too late to change, and I am living proof of that. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

2/17/25 • 15:02

Send us a textI recently heard a parable about a Zen farmer and how we perceive “good luck” vs. “bad luck.” I wanted to share it on the podcast this week because I think it reflects such an important mindset shift for how we view life’s unexpected twists and turns. This week’s episode 302 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about lessons from a Zen farmer- the truth about luck. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the parable I read that has such a profound message about how we perceive “luck,” drawing parallels to my own journey of recovery from co-dependency, trauma, and compulsive overeating. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep. 296. The Ripple Effect of Gratitude: How Small Moments Spark Big Changes CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

2/10/25 • 13:41

Send us a textIf you’re anything like me, you have used food, substances, or other people to numb your feelings. That’s why reconnecting with your feelings is a crucial step in recovery. Today, I will be reading some excerpts from ACA’s “Loving Parent Guidebook” that offer helpful insights on the importance of understanding and honoring your feelings. This week’s episode 301 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to reconnect with your feelings- a key step in recovery!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m reading from chapter 10, Feeling is Healing of ACA’s “Loving Parent Guidebook, and sharing with you some of the profound insights I have gleaned from these readings. Reconnecting with your feelings is a powerful step towards healing and personal growth. By understanding and honoring your feelings, you can break free from victim mentality and take constructive action in your life. Embrace this journey of self-discovery and unlock the transformative power of emotional intelligence. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Loving Parent GuidebookThe Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You  by Karen McLarenCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

2/3/25 • 20:56

Send us a textWe learn in recovery that the reason we continue to carry the message of recovery is that, yes, we want other people to recover. Still, first and foremost, we carry the message to continue recovering ourselves. So, for my 300th podcast episode, I wanted to reflect on my journey from numbing myself to finding freedom through recovery and how continuing to share the message of recovery has been transformative in my life. This week’s episode 300 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about my journey from numbing to freedom!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m celebrating the milestone of reaching 300 podcast episodes and recapping my story, highlighting the tools that aided my recovery and the spiritual awakenings that changed my life. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:How my numbing behaviors evolved throughout my life before recovery. The series of events that brought me to recovery in the first place. Tools and lessons learned along the way that I now help others with. Some of the spiritual awakenings that shifted the way I view my life and situations. Why I continue to carry on the message of recovery. Again, thank you so much for joining me on this journey to 300 podcast episodes. I hope my story of growth inspires you on your own journey in recovery. Don’t forget to review the podcast and let me know what stood out with you the most. Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Watch the YouTube video of this episode here!Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 2: AcceptanceEp 8:  My Tools of Recovery Part I: PausingEp 9: My Tools of Recovery Part II: Reaching OutEp 10: My Tools of Recovery Part III: Focus On MeCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

1/27/25 • 63:10

Send us a textAs I am nearing another massive milestone in my podcasting journey (300 episodes!), I wanted to go back and share the origin story of how I grew from a fragmented, lost person in recovery to an entrepreneur, boundaries coach, and podcast host sharing my experiences and lessons with the world. This week’s episode 299 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why I started sharing recovery wisdom with the world. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The series of events that led me to start a podcast, sharing my wisdom with the world.Where the name Fragmented to Whole came from. My tendency to lie and put on different masks to please others was just part of the source of my fragmented nature. How I came to be a boundaries coach, not just a life coach. The serendipitous moment the universe planted the desire to start a podcast in me before podcasting even existed.  Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

1/20/25 • 31:54

Send us a textAs young people, we are often taught refusal skills as it relates to saying no to drugs, alcohol, or unwanted sexual advances. Recovery has taught me that refusal skills are not just for the realm of substance use or sexual behavior. If we’re learning how to set boundaries, refusal skills are an essential part of it. This week’s episode 298 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from chaos to composure- the power of refusal skills!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:My journey of learning to “stop dragging the story”- a habit of retelling the same story of negative experiences, perpetuating chaos and trauma in my life.Sharing an excerpt from the book Drop The Rock that introduced me to the invaluable tool that refusal skills are in protecting my peace. Things to consider and scripts to use when developing your refusal skills in real-world scenarios. By developing refusal skills, you’ll be empowered to honor your needs, cultivate self-care, and create the life you truly desire. Start practicing these skills today and watch as your chaos transforms into composure. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Drop the Rock: Removing Character Defects - Steps 6 and 7Ep. 111 How and Why to Stop Dragging the Story with YouEp. 8 My Tools of Recovery Part I: PausingEp. 217 Why Pausing Is So Important and What To DO When You PauseCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

1/13/25 • 18:06

Send us a textLearning how to be accepting of myself and others was one of the most important things I learned in recovery. I have made several episodes on the life-changing impact of this acceptance, and today, I wanted to continue that by sharing the long-term impact of being accepting of the people, places, and circumstances of your life. This week’s episode 297 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how acceptance changed my life: peace, resilience, and self-love!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the profound impact that learning to be accepting has had on my relationships and circumstances in hopes that you, too., can move towards a more accepting, peaceful life. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 2: AcceptanceCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

12/30/24 • 16:19

Send us a textThe practice of keeping a daily gratitude journal has had such a considerable impact on my life that I now make a gratitude list both morning and night. I’ve found that the benefit of creating this list is that you have to search for things to be grateful for. You almost become wired to look for things to be grateful for in every moment, shifting your perspective to focus on the positives. This week’s episode 296 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the ripple effect of gratitude- how small moments spark big changes. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Using morning and nightly gratitude journaling as a way to shift my perspective and recognize more good in my life. How practicing gratitude has helped me recognize the pivotal moments and people that have shaped the trajectory of my life. Two powerful instances where a chain of events led up to something bigger, for which I am incredibly grateful. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Simple Abundance: 365 Days to a Balanced and Joyful Life by Sarah Ban BreathnachEp 11: GratitudeCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy

12/23/24 • 20:08

Send us a textAs we know, boundaries are essential for our well-being, but communicating them effectively can be a challenge. Last week on the podcast, I shared the importance of mastering communication to create healthy relationships. As a continuation of that, I wanted to share my tips for how to clearly communicate our boundaries with others. This week’s episode 295 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to communicate clearly, honestly, and politelySome of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Boundaries only become more difficult when you wait to set them.Politeness can go a long way in communicating boundaries. Take ownership of your boundaries; be truthful and avoid lying to justify them.Setting a boundary is not something to apologize for - it's your right to protect your needs and boundaries.Establish clear, consistent rules to depersonalize boundaries and make them about you, not the other person.If you’re unsure what your boundaries are, take time to pause, gather your thoughts, and communicate your boundaries when you’re sure.Offer an alternative or compromise to show your willingness to collaborate. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 294: How to Master Communication, Avoid Conflict, and Create Healthier RelationshipsCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

12/16/24 • 14:26

Send us a textBefore getting into recovery, I thought that I was a good communicator. While that may have been the case when it came to my work, I came to realize that interpersonally, I was actually a horrible communicator. This week’s episode 294 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to master communication, avoid conflict, and create healthier relationships!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Examples of how I communicated poorly by speaking indirectly, beating around the bush, and expecting people to automatically know things or read my mind. How I experimented with the ways I communicated my boundaries early in my recovery from compulsive overeating and sugar addiction. Practical tips you can use to communicate more effectively, especially when setting boundaries. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

12/9/24 • 18:17

Send us a textMost people know that the goal of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is sobriety, but what they don’t know is that the goal of Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) is emotional sobriety. And if you’ve listened to my podcast for some time, you will not be shocked to hear that the way to achieve emotional sobriety is through building healthy boundaries! This week’s episode 293 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how building healthy boundaries helps you achieve emotional sobriety. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing some literature that helped me achieve emotional sobriety, with my own struggles and illuminating insights sprinkled in. Whether you’re navigating addiction, codependency, reparenting, or simply seeking greater emotional balance, I hope these excerpts help you as much as they helped me.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Emotional Sobriety - The Next FrontierThe ACA Yellow 12-Step Workbook12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety: Getting Your Sobriety Unstuck by Allen BergerCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebook

12/2/24 • 25:54

Send us a textI have been following a guy named David Bayer for some time now and have been greatly influenced by him. One of the many pieces of wisdom he shares about limiting beliefs is that when we have a core limiting belief that we can’t seem to let go of, no matter how many tools we use, it’s often because that belief is connected to a person. Specifically, it may be connected to a resentment toward that person. When I heard that, I had the epiphany that my core limiting belief is that there will never be enough, particularly when it comes to money. And this belief stems from experiences I had with my dad. This week’s episode 292 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about rediscovering love for my father- a journey through resentment and healing!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my process of doing resentment and forgiveness inventories to uncover underlying resentments I was holding about my father and the reparenting work that came as a result of it - leading me to the realization of how much I truly loved my father as a child. The work I did as a result of this realization allowed me to experience profound emotional healing and vulnerability that was not possible in my real-life relationship with him. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Reclaiming My Inner Teen's Voice- How to Say No With Inner Strength | Episode 291David BayerCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

11/25/24 • 17:37

Send us a textAs part of my ACA recovery journey, I have been making daily conscious contact with my inner family members, one of which includes my inner teenager. Through this inner work and checking in with my inner teen, I have realized that my people-pleasing ways have put me in harm’s way. Since I was often not able to say no, I found myself in situations I didn’t want to be in with feelings I could not handle, so I turned to using substances as a coping mechanism to numb myself. Recovery has since allowed me to rewrite these scenarios, let go of old patterns, and heal. This week’s episode 291 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about reclaiming my inner teen’s voice- how to say no with inner strength!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The major breakthrough I had with my inner teenager who has been preventing me from asking for help and expressing my needs.How reparenting my inner teenager has allowed me to revisit past experiences, honor my feelings, and respond with boundaries. The support of my other inner family members has been crucial in my reparenting process, providing the love, guidance, and reassurance my teenage self needed. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:AdultChildren.org CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

11/18/24 • 25:18

Send us a textEveryone is on their unique path to healing. While there are many things we can gain from others’ journeys, every journey is ultimately different, so it is important to find the path that works for you. Jesse Harless came to terms with this realization once he was introduced to what some may view as an unconventional form of healing, cold exposure, and plant medicine. What he didn’t understand at first slowly became the thing to lower his extreme anxiety and keep him going on his path to healing. This week’s episode 290 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about connection, cold exposure, and plant medicine!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, Jesse Harless shares his profound journey from being born into addiction to his journey to recovery through focusing on the 12 steps, physical fitness, and nervous system regulation. Some of the talking points Jesse and I go over in this episode include:Jesse’s build up of addiction over time and the breaking point that ultimately forced him into recovery. The crucial role that connection played in Jesse’s recovery, from finding a mentor and therapist to building meaningful relationships within 12-step fellowships.How cold therapy has helped regulate his nervous system and build resilience. Jesse’s approach to researching and incorporating psychedelic-assisted therapy into his recovery plan.When it comes to your own healing journey, trust your own heart, trust your own path and see what works for you, and then study the people who have gone before as guides to see if that serves you.Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH JESSE HARLESS:JesseHarless.comJesse’s podcast “Entrepreneurs in Recovery”InstagramYouTubeLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Listen to Barb’s episode of Jesse’s podcast: “The Transformative Power of Boundaries”A Dose of Hope by Dr. Dan Engle and Alex YoungCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebook

11/11/24 • 32:19

Send us a textIf you’re not familiar with the term acting “as if”- it's a common saying in 12-step recovery and one of the ways we learn to adopt new ways of being in the world. Acting “as if” is essentially engaging in behaviors toward the goal of achieving something positive in your life by emulating the person you want to be or the life you want to have. But often, I get people questioning how this is different from pretending, something those of us in recovery are tired of doing. That’s what I am here to talk about today! This week’s episode 289 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go beyond pretending- build your authenticity through acting “as if”! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how acting “as if” differs greatly from pretending (it has everything to do with your intentions) and how you can use this practice to move closer to the person you want to become and live the life you want to have.  Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 276: From Pretending to Purpose- The True Power of Acting "As If"CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

11/4/24 • 11:40

Send us a textLast week on the podcast, I talked about how setting healthy boundaries was the key to changing the four patterns of overgiving. I want to further that conversation today by providing actionable guidance on understanding yourself better, setting boundaries that reflect your actual wants and needs, and upholding your boundaries once you decide on them. This week’s episode 288 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how boundaries restore balance and energize your life!If you missed part 1 of this episode, you can listen to it here: Overgiving No More - Part 1: Recognizing the Four Patterns that Drain You.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:What boundaries are, including some examples of the boundaries I uphold for myself and others. Why setting boundaries is an essential step to overcome the habit of overgiving. Knowing when and where to set boundaries starts with understanding what matters to you first. Advice for how to actually set and uphold boundaries with other peopleOvergivers often overgive because we feel like we must do that to earn our place. But when you're clear on your identity, you know that you belong because of who you are, not because you've given them extra, and they're therefore allowing you to belong. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery 

10/28/24 • 16:48