Welcome, I'm your host Rakel Colina. If you're facing challenges in your relationship, there may be hidden aspects that you haven't fully grasped yet. For years, I found myself in a toxic relationship without realizing the extent of the abuse until the day I finally walked away. Now, I'm here to assist you in identifying the abusive patterns and behaviors, but it's not solely about them. It's time to confront the issues that might be hindering your personal growth and preventing you from becoming the best version of yourself.Ladies, together let's break down the barriers that hold you back from moving forward and embracing your best life, even in the aftermath of abuse. Remember, it's not just about seeing through their facades; it's about empowering you to overcome your own obstacles. By facing your fears, no matter how small, you can initiate significant transformations. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and liberation. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and liberation. Get ready to take charge of your life!"Facing small fears can lead to big changes." - Rakel Colina
In this podcast episode, I dive into the topic many women struggle with setting boundaries and saying "no". I'm dedicated to empowering women like you to establish healthy boundaries with confidence and overcome the guilt associated with saying "no" to abusive individuals. My goal is to help you build healthier relationships and protect your physical, emotional, and mental well-being.Boundaries are like invisible shields that protect your space, feelings, and personal rights. They're about self-care and demanding respect, not selfishness. We discuss seven types of boundaries and guide you on how to identify your discomforts and express your boundaries clearly. This episode is a step-by-step guide to setting healthy boundaries. To learn about the Rising Strong Society, go hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
9/28/23 • 13:00
In this podcast episode, I'll talk about the common feeling of emotional dependency. Many of us have experienced emotional dependency at some point in our lives, where our well-being seems tied to someone else's actions or words. In simple terms, emotional dependency is when we rely on others to make us feel good about ourselves. The podcast host shares personal experiences and valuable insights into overcoming emotional dependency. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness, building self-esteem, creating a support system of friends and family, prioritizing self-care, setting boundaries, and redefining happiness. The message is clear: true happiness comes from within, and by taking these steps, you can learn to be emotionally self-sufficient, leading to healthier relationships and personal growth. So, if you've ever felt trapped in emotional dependency, this episode offers hope and practical advice on how to find happiness and fulfillment from within yourself.To learn more about Rising Strong Society, go hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
9/21/23 • 17:11
In this podcast episode, we're going deeper into the tactics that narcissists use to control and manipulate you. This episode is part two of a series, so if you're just joining us, it's a good idea to go back and listen to last week's episode to catch up on what we've covered so far. We'll be discussing seven more tactics employed by narcissists, These tactics are like hidden traps that slowly erode your self-esteem and control, leaving you feeling trapped and powerless, by shedding light on these manipulative strategies, we aim to help you recognize them and empower yourself to break free from the cycle of abuse. Remember, knowledge is power, and you're not alone on this journey – there is help and support available to you.To learn about the Rising Strong Society go hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
9/14/23 • 18:32
In this podcast episode, we're diving into the tactics used by narcissists to control and manipulate others. These tactics are like tools in their toolkit, and we'll explore seven of them in detail. These insights aim to help you recognize these behaviors and empower you to protect yourself.Understanding these manipulative tactics is crucial, by shedding light on these tactics, this episode equips you with the knowledge to navigate these challenging situations and work towards a healthier, happier life. Stay tuned for the next part of this series to dive deeper into recognizing and dealing with abusive behavior. – Knowledge is your flashlight in the darkness of manipulation. To learn more about Rising Strong Society, go hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
9/7/23 • 23:07
Imagine feeling like you're not good enough, that you don't deserve better. We'll uncover why that's a trap we can fall into. And ever wondered why some folks accept mistreatment? It might have to do with what they saw growing up. Let's unravel why our past can affect our present. And the fear of being alone? We've all felt it, but it can lead to some bad decisions. Join me to discover the reasons behind these tough situations, and remember, understanding is the first step to a brighter path. To learn about Rising Strong Society go to: RakelColina.com/membershipHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
8/31/23 • 19:42
In today's podcast episode, we delved into the disturbing world of dog whistling within abusive relationships. This manipulative communication tactic is used by abusers to exert control and maintain power while evading direct accountability for their harmful actions. Similar to a dog whistle emitting high-frequency sounds only dogs can hear, abusers use subtle language, gestures, and actions with hidden meanings understood only by the victim. These hidden messages serve to isolate, manipulate, and emotionally control the victim, leaving them doubting themselves and their reality.The podcast provides a comprehensive breakdown of how dog whistling operates within abusive dynamics. It highlights covert communication, isolation tactics, code words, and the implantation of fear to keep the victim compliant and fearful of consequences. The emotional and psychological impacts are significant, leading to anxiety, depression, and distorted self-perception. The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing dog-whistling, seeking external support, and building a solid network to break free from the abusive hold. By shedding light on this manipulation tactic, the podcast aimed to empower listeners to identify and address such behaviors, fostering awareness and conversations about healthy relationships.For more information about the Rising Strong Society Membership Program, go to: RakelColina.com/MembershipHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
8/24/23 • 17:11
Let's talk about an important but often misunderstood topic: how narcissists use threats of suicide or harm to control their victims and keep them trapped in a cycle of abuse. We'll uncover the manipulative strategies behind these tactics and offer insights into breaking free from this toxic dynamic. Learn how narcissists exploit emotions, weave webs of guilt, and maintain dominance through psychological mechanisms. We'll also explore practical steps for victims to prioritize their safety, establish boundaries, involve professionals, and ultimately regain control of their lives. Remember, understanding and addressing these tactics can help you escape a hurtful cycle and find a brighter future.To learn more about the Rising Strong Society, click hereTo get the Exit Strategy Guide, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
8/17/23 • 15:54
Join me for an insightful discussion on the profound journey of healing following narcissistic abusive relationships. In this episode, where I look into the intricate layers of the healing process, highlighting the importance of support and community. From understanding the emotional rollercoaster to reclaiming personal power, we explore the diverse aspects of post-abuse recovery. Tune in to gain valuable insights into self-discovery, boundary-setting, and seeking help, as we empower survivors to move forward on their healing journey.Resources:For the Rising Strong Society, click hereInstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.comHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
8/10/23 • 20:13
In this episode, we explored the challenging journey of breaking free from abusive relationships and discovering inner strength. On average, it takes a woman 7 times to leave an abusive relationship. But why does this happen? I talk about what makes this happen and also offer some insight to help you in the process of breaking free. Here's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
8/3/23 • 20:25
In this special episode, I dig into the sensitive topic of abusive relationships and the misconception that God hates divorce. Despite the advice to avoid discussing religion and politics, I believe it's essential to talk about this issue, especially as a coach helping women heal after abusive and narcissistic relationships. It's TIME!While the Bible acknowledges divorce as a reality, it doesn't promote it, but God's grace understands human struggles, especially in abusive situations. It's necessary to seek guidance from trusted individuals before making such significant decisions and to listen to God's guidance. Ultimately, the podcast encourages you to prioritize safety, well-being, and self-worth, and to leave abusive relationships, as God hates abuse more than divorce.Bible Verses Mentioned:Ephesians 5:25: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."Colossians 3:19: "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them."Ephesians 5:22-24: "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."Resources:For the Exit Strategy Guide, click hereFor the Side Hustle Guide, click hereFor the Rising Strong Society, click hereRakelColina.comHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
7/28/23 • 15:24
In this episode, I dive into the depths of this manipulative behavior, shedding light on its various forms and tactics employed by narcissists to exert control and undermine their victims. With clarity and compassion, I provide listeners with practical guidance on how to recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse, empowering them to break free from its toxic grip. The episode also explores the vital aspects of healing and support, offering valuable strategies and resources for those on the path to recovery. Through personal anecdotes and expert advice, I highlight the importance of self-care, therapy, and building a strong support network. Finally, the podcast episode concludes with a message of hope and resilience, emphasizing the significance of moving on and reclaiming one's life after narcissistic abuse. This episode is for anyone seeking understanding, healing, and ultimately, the ability to thrive beyond the shadows of such damaging relationships.Links mentioned in this episode:The Rising Strong Society, click here for infoGaslighting episode, click here Trauma Bond episode, click hereLove Bombing episode, click here Financial Abuse episode, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
6/16/23 • 19:00
In this podcast episode, I speak about the challenge of dealing with disbelief and a lack of support from those closest to us. Drawing from personal experiences, we candidly explore the emotional toll it takes when the people we trust fail to recognize our abilities and offer the encouragement we seek. Through insightful discussions, we shed light on the possible reasons behind this skepticism and how it can impact our self-esteem. This episode will empower you with effective strategies to foster self-belief and resilience in the face of doubt. By seeking alternative sources of support and embracing our own potential, we learn how to navigate this common obstacle with strength and grace. Tune in to discover the transformative power of self-belief and the importance of finding inner strength when external support may falter.Don't forget to share this episode!For Rising Strong Society, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
6/8/23 • 15:11
In today's episode, I am talking about the importance of support and community regarding healing. Healing can be difficult, and trying to do it alone can be even harder. Having a supportive community around you can make all the difference. We'll be exploring the benefits of finding support, as well as some ways to connect with others who are on a similar path. Don't forget to share this episode!For Rising Strong Society, click hereEmail me hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
5/25/23 • 21:38
There is such a thing as financial abuse, which is likely why most abuse victims get stuck in relationships they can't get out of. Financial abuse happens in many different forms, but it is a way to keep control, gaslight, and manipulate you like any other form of abuse. In this episode, I talk about two sides of financial abuse and some ways to get your mind ready to make the necessary moves to get going, move forward, and think out of the box. To download the free guides, go to RakelColina.comTo email me, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
5/18/23 • 15:06
In this episode, I'll talk about a crucial and sensitive matter - the impact of leaving our child's father and how it affects our role as parents. It's essential to acknowledge that even though we may have ended a relationship with their dad, we can still fulfill our responsibilities as caring and nurturing parents. This situation can be challenging, but it's vital to recognize that leaving an abusive relationship is often necessary for the well-being of everyone involved. Together, we'll explore ways to navigate this journey, focusing on providing a stable and loving environment for our children despite the changes in our personal lives. Join me for an insightful and compassionate discussion on ensuring we don't fail our kids as we move forward from this difficult chapter.For The Break Away Journal, click hereConnect with me, click hereFor coaching, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
5/4/23 • 19:40
Welcome to this podcast episode where I will be discussing three effective ways to recover from emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can have a long-lasting impact on a person's mental health and well-being, but there are steps you can take to heal and move forward. In this episode, I will explore the strategies that I have used and recommended. I will provide practical tips and how to use each one, to get you started in your healing journey. Let's get started.For the journal prompts, click hereFor the self-love guide, click hereConnect with me, click hereEmail me, hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
4/27/23 • 19:03
If an abusive relationship was always abusive, we would all run away. These relationships run in what is called the abuse cycle, which means there are good times & bad. During these bad times, they will get caught doing things they are not supposed to and they will promise you they will never do it again. If they hurt you physically, they'll always promise they will never do it again. The problem with this is, it goes back to the cycle. An abuser will always repeat their behavior. Don't forget to share this episode!For the Exit Strategy Guide, click hereFor One on One coaching, click hereFind me on Instagram, click here Here's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
11/4/22 • 16:07
In this episode, I talk about the phrase "I can't leave him". I have been in conversations with many women who are saying this and here are my thoughts on why it's so harmful to keep saying this.You should stop saying: "I am stuck", "I can't leave" and "I'll never be able to leave". These are meant to keep you in the cycle that you are now and are ideas that someone else has put in your mind.Don't forget to share with your friends!For the Exit Strategy Guide, click hereFor One on One coaching, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
10/28/22 • 17:07
When a narcissist tells you "It's a joke", it's not a joke. The fact these words were added after what they just said only means they saw your reaction to what they said. This is a very sensitive topic and I talk about what it means and why they do this in this episode.It's essential to shed light on the seriousness of abusive behavior masked as jokes. Whether dealing with a narcissistic partner or any other form of abuse, recognizing the signs is paramount to your safety and well-being. Do not downplay or normalize their hurtful words. Seek support from loved ones who can provide guidance and offer a fresh perspective. Share this information with others who may be going through similar experiences, as awareness and support can be life-changing.Don't forget to share with your friends! For the Exit Strategy Guide, click hereFor One on One coaching, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
10/13/22 • 14:58
In this podcast episode, I want to share what I think my secret was to leave my narcissist. I thought this was the norm long ago as it was something my mom always told me about, but I also know it is not discussed in many homes.Not only is it a subject that is not widely discussed, but many women are gaslighted into thinking the opposite. It is important that women understand the importance of having and handling their own money.For Come to Rise coaching, click hereFor my Instagram, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
9/15/22 • 19:32
How do you leave a narcissist? There is no specific way to leave a narcissist or get out of an abusive relationship, but there are certain things you need to understand and some actions you can take to move in that direction. In this episode, I talk about 6 ways to move you closer to leaving that abusive relationship.For Come to Rise coaching, click hereExit Strategy plan, click hereInstagram, click hereEpisode 66. Hoovering: Manipulation Tactics and How to Protect Yourself, listen here Here's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
9/8/22 • 17:40
Our childhood trauma makes us more susceptible to attracting toxic or abusive partners. When you grow up in a home that makes you feel like you're not enough or makes you feel like you can't do any better, you grow accustomed to living like this and this becomes your normal.Therefore, when you get older, you might encounter relationships where you might get the feeling that you're not deserving any better, which makes you fall into abusive relationships, not recognizing the pattern as a toxic one, but as a familiar one.For more information on my coaching program, go to RakelColina.com/CoachingConnect with me, RakelColina.com/ConnectHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
8/25/22 • 14:53
In this episode, I talk about how hard it is to feel good about yourself if you are in an environment that is always holding you back and making you feel less than you deserve. I will go into why it is almost impossible to feel good about yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, but I also talk about the things that you could start doing while you are working on moving from the relationship.To get The Break Away Journal, go to thebreakawayjournal.comFor more information, or if you are looking for coaching, go hereConnect with me, RakelColina.com/connectHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
8/5/22 • 15:16
In today's episode, I talk about 7 different ways emotional abuse can break you down. Abuse is not just physical and there are different types of abuse, emotional abuse is just one type. Emotional abuse can be done when the victim doesn't even know is being abused. They use different techniques such as gaslighting to help change your perception about what is going on, which actually makes you a little bit confused and makes you feel like you're going crazy. This is just one of their tactics there are many more and that is why emotional abuse starts breaking you down. 11 Signs you're in a toxic relationship, click here for free guideThe Break Away Journal, http://thebreakawayjournal.comConnect with me, click hereRemember: "Facing Small fears can lead to big changes" Here's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
7/28/22 • 15:04
Have you realized how you seem to forget abusive episodes in your relationship? In this episode, I talk about why this happens and the one thing you could do to keep this from happening. Our brains are made to protect us, therefore the abuse is stored differently in our brains and that is why we seem to forget it. The reality is that our brains stores it differently because it cannot make sense of a loved one hurting us. Go on a journey with me to understand why this information seems to disappear until we experience a similar episode. For Free Guide, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
7/14/22 • 16:23
We tend to believe that the abuse ends the moment we step out of the relationship or the moment they decide to end it. The truth is the abuse does not end when the relationship ends and you need to be prepared for what is to come. It is still 100% better to be out of reach physically, even when they can still try to reach out. In this episode, I talk about 6 types of post-separation abuse. These can help you be ready and also know that it is normal. You are not alone in this either, it's the norm when dealing with narcissists.More resources: rakelcolina.comFor coaching: cometorise.comEmail meHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
7/14/22 • 16:17
Have you ever heard of the narcissist pregnancy trap? Well, let me tell you all about it. A pregnancy is used to get you stuck in the relationship and ensure he's still in control. He believes that if he gets you pregnant you will not be able to leave, among other things.In this episode, I will share part of my story. Just like you, I was not aware this was a thing and I believe I could have put myself in this situation. I will also give you some reasons as to why he could be looking to get you pregnant and some scenarios to be aware of.For Come to Rise coaching, click hereGet your copy of The Break Away Journal hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
6/30/22 • 16:09
In this episode, I talk about the puzzling phenomenon of repeatedly finding ourselves in toxic relationships. If you've ever wondered why you seem to attract the same type of people or feel like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle, you're not alone. We'll explore the three key reasons behind this pattern, shedding light on the psychological and emotional factors at play. From unconscious patterns and unresolved traumas to self-esteem and boundary issues, while unpacking the root causes. But don't fret! We also offer valuable insights and practical tips on breaking free from these cycles, empowering you to cultivate healthier connections and find genuine happiness in relationships.For Come to Rise coaching, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
6/23/22 • 15:48
I have a message tugging in my heart for you. I believe the media is trying to tell the victims of domestic abuse that no one will be believed because ONE woman lost her case against a powerful man, as they want to portray it.The message is clear, but it's not the message the media is showing. The media is showing that a woman should be believed no matter what. The media is saying that only women can be victims and men cannot. This is the wrong message and is also a very dangerous message to take to such a wide audience.The message that should be sweeping the nation should be, to tell the truth, no matter your gender. The message should be that as long as you are telling the truth, you should come forward. The message should be to NEVER stay silent, but that's not the message. WHY?Abuse comes in many different shapes and sizes, and now we finally recognize that it comes in different genders...THAT should be the message. Want to know if you're relationship is toxic, click hereInstagram, click here (this is a new account, I lost my other one)One on one coaching, click hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
6/16/22 • 13:49
It seems everywhere I go, we are all Team Johnny. In this episode, I go into detail as to why I believe that is. This trial has been more than a trial about one of our favorite all-time starts being put on the stand. This trial has been about how a man came forward to talk about abuse. It has given many a new view of what abuse/ domestic violence is. Abuse has no gender, and that has to be the message. #MENTOOFor information about 1:1 coaching, go hereHere's all the ways we can connect:InstagramFacebookTikTokRakelColina.com
5/27/22 • 15:14
