Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Click here to get the Save My Marriage Course or learn about out Couples Workshops: https://bit.ly/4vzEapsYou can't control whether your spouse fights for the marriage. You can only control whether you do.That's the hardest part of saving a marriage alone. You're pouring everything in while they've checked out, filed, or already walked away. And every instinct you have right now (the pleading, the chasing, the trying to make them see) is most likely pushing them further away.In this video, I break down the three things you can start doing today, with or without your spouse on board. How to calm down so you stop reacting out of panic. How to spot the behaviors that are quietly driving them away. And how to start becoming the person they fell in love with in the first place.I've lived this. I was the one crying on the bathroom floor, convinced my husband was the whole problem. Two things turned out to be true at once. He was doing things he shouldn't have, and I was contributing to where we ended up. Owning my part is what changed everything.You can get halfway there on your own. Here's how to start.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

6/5/26 • 77:13

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Click here to watch part 2! https://bit.ly/4dLDJRuAsking your spouse to work on the marriage isn't working.Because they don't want to work on the marriage. That's the whole problem.Stop asking.Nobody wants more counseling. Nobody wants another conversation about "us." Nobody wants to be handed a printout of what's wrong with them on Halloween night.They need a different reason to walk through the door.In this video, Amber and I break down how to actually get a resistant spouse to a Marriage Helper workshop, even when they've filed, even when there's an affair partner, even when they've already said it's over.The shift:Stop selling the marriage. Find what actually motivates them. Take "us" off the table. Treat it like a business agreement.Your job is to get them through the door. Our job is the next 3 days.That's how marriages get saved, not by convincing your spouse to love you again, but by getting them in the room where the work actually happens.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

5/29/26 • 23:33

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Click here to sign up for coaching →  https://marriagehelper.com/coaching----------------------------------------------------You don't have to pick between yourself and your marriage.That's the lie that keeps people stuck.Stay and shrink. Leave and grieve. Endure the mistreatment or end the marriage.Those aren't your only options.In this video, Nathan breaks down the difference between pain and damage, and why getting this wrong is the reason so many marriages either dissolve or destroy the people inside them.Pain is what makes you stronger. Damage is what breaks you.One you push through. The other you stop.And most people can't tell them apart.He walks through two real client stories. Both women were hurting. Both were asking the same question. "Do I keep showing up, or do I walk away?" But the right answer for one was the exact opposite of the right answer for the other.One needed to lean in. The other needed to put up boundaries.And the moment they figured out which was which, everything changed. Not just for them, but for their marriages too.Because here's what nobody tells you:What's best for you is often what's best for the marriage.You don't have to choose.But you do have to know the difference between the pain that's making you stronger and the damage that's slowly killing you.That's what this video is about.How to tell which one you're in. What to do about it. And how to stop walking on a broken leg in the name of saving your marriage.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

5/22/26 • 12:07

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Take The Free Marriage Crisis Assessment Here → https://bit.ly/4nD2kfW-----------------------------------------------------------I've been teaching this marriage principle for 14 years.And I've been getting it wrong.The principle: your spouse's perception trumps your intention.It's true. But it's only half the story.Because perception can be weaponized."He scheduled a reminder to send me flowers... if he really loved me, he wouldn't need one.""He spent $60 on roses and didn't even put them in water.""He moved my stuff again."That's not perception. That's negative sentiment override.And it'll kill your marriage faster than the original hurt ever could.In this video, I break down what I missed for 14 years... the push-pull dynamic underneath every interaction, why your spouse's good intentions still land as wounds, and how to respond without weaponizing your perception against the person trying to love you.Grace is needed on both sides.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

5/15/26 • 14:29

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

5/13/26 • 61:23

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Marriage advice isn't dead.Bad marriage advice is dead.Nobody wants to "just give it time." Nobody wants to be told to punish their spouse into coming back. Nobody wants a counselor telling them to have a revenge affair to "even the score."(Yes, real counselors actually say that.)You want your marriage back. With your dignity intact.In this video, Dr. Joe Beam walks through the 3 things you HAVE to do before you start standing for your marriage.Decide if you really want this. Get honest about your own contribution. Pick the right path. Not nothing. Not the wrong thing.Most people skip step one and burn out by week three. Most people refuse step two and stay stuck for years. Most people fall into step three's trap and make everything worse.32 years. Hundreds of thousands of couples. A 70% success rate.If your spouse just told you they want out, watch this before you make a single move.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

5/8/26 • 20:42

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Book a call with someone on our team → https://bit.ly/4udufow----------------------------------------------------------------Your marriage didn't fall apart overnight.It won't be saved overnight either.But it can be saved.Most people in a marriage crisis do the wrong things. Not because they're bad people, but because they're in pain.They beg. They plead. They give ultimatums.They go silent and call it "boundaries."They follow every piece of bad advice the internet throws at them.And it pushes their spouse further away.In this video, I walk you through the first 3 steps of our 7-step plan to rescue your marriage and your sanity.Calm down.Get clarity.Stop your pushes and start your pullsThese aren't fluffy concepts. They're the same framework we've used with thousands of couples over the past 25+ years. Couples you'd look at and say "there's no way that marriage survives."It survived.The truth is, every marriage is two imperfect people. Both bringing baggage. Both doing things that slowly erode the relationship, sometimes for 6 years before anyone asks for help.You don't need a perfect spouse.You don't need a perfect situation.You need a framework that actually works.That's what this video gives you.I'll show you the breathing technique that resets your brain, the mindset shift that changes everything, and the push-pull dynamic that is the foundation of every healthy relationship.Even mine.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

5/1/26 • 27:49

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Take our free marriage crisis assessment → https://bit.ly/4mKItuy------------------------------------------------------------If your spouse is leaving, your instinct is to stop them.Block the exit.Monitor their phone.Guilt them into staying.That doesn't work.In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan shares a story about his daughter Valerie, and how it perfectly illustrates what most people get wrong when trying to save their marriage.You're focused on the exterior pull.The other person. The new life. The thing pulling them away.But you can't control that.What you can control is what's happening inside the marriage.Stop chasing the thing that's pulling them out.Start bringing the pull back in.Nathan walks through a real client story. A woman whose husband was living overseas and showing signs he wasn't coming back. She was snooping, pain shopping, and letting her frustration poison every interaction.Then she made a shift.She stopped obsessing over what she couldn't change and started becoming the woman her husband married.Months later? He was back in the States. Back in the house. And sitting next to her at a Marriage Helper Workshop.That's what happens when you bring the pull inside.Want to know where your marriage stands right now? Take our free marriage crisis assessment. It'll show you where you are and what your next right step looks like. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

4/24/26 • 08:58

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Click here to learn about our Marriage Saving Workshop Program 👉 https://bit.ly/485yuKm---------------------------------------------------------------------Standing for your marriage isn't being a doormat.Nobody wants to beg. Nobody wants to plead. Nobody wants to text their husband's affair partner tips on how to cure his headache.Yes. That actually happened. To a friend of mine.She chose misery over being alone. She ended up in the hospital. Her house stayed dark for months. She became a shell of the woman she used to be.All because she was too scared to stop allowing it.In this video, I break down the difference between being a doormat and being a bulldozer, and why there's a third option most people never learn.You can't control what your spouse does. You can control what you allow. You can control how you treat yourself.That's the shift.I'll walk you through the three changes in thinking that help you respect yourself again, set the right kind of safeguards, and actually make your spouse take notice. Not by punishing them. Not by pleading with them. By becoming someone worth respecting again.Because here's the truth. You'll keep enduring whatever you keep allowing.Life is already hard enough. Don't let a lack of self-respect make it harder.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

4/17/26 • 14:00

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Get Instant Access To The Marriage Crisis Assessment Here → https://bit.ly/4eee45HMost people whose spouse cheated are asking the wrong question: "Why did they do it?" The better question right now is: "What are they feeling now that it's over?"In this video, Marriage Helper breaks down the three emotional states a cheating spouse typically falls into after the affair ends, and what each one means for the future of your marriage.The spouse who feels nothing and justifies what they didThe spouse drowning in guilt who believes they can never be forgivenThe spouse who is genuinely sorry and desperately wants a second chanceHow to respond to each situation without making things worseAnd why understanding how it happened is the key to making sure it never happens againMarriage Helper has worked with over 25,000 couples in the last 30 years.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

4/10/26 • 13:54

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Is pornography sabotaging your sex life and your marriage?In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down the three ways pornography creates unrealistic expectations, leads to sexual dysfunction, and destroys real intimacy in marriage. Whether it is visual pornography, erotic novels, or the shows you watch, the effects on your relationship and sex life are more damaging than most people realize. If you want a better sex life and a stronger marriage, it starts with addressing the real relationship problems underneath.Take Marriage Helper's free marriage assessment to identify the real issues in your marriage and find out how to start fixing them today: https://bit.ly/4toDvWDIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

4/3/26 • 14:56

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you stuck in the same relationship patterns and wondering why nothing ever changes? In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, breaks down what most people get wrong about marriage and relationships, and what you actually need to do to turn things around. Drawing from a powerful biblical story and real-life experience, Dr. Holmes shares why real relationship change starts with you, why getting uncomfortable is the key to a thriving marriage, and how to stop waiting for your spouse to change so your marriage can finally move forward.Take our free marriage assessment to find out how many reasons you have to save your marriage and what steps you can take right now: https://bit.ly/4dwgEUzIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

3/27/26 • 16:56

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!This week's live show, streamed on March 18, 2026If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

3/20/26 • 60:37

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you in panic mode because your spouse wants to leave, has moved out, or is talking about divorce? Your instincts are probably telling you to do whatever it takes to pull them back—but that might be pushing them further away.📖 Click here to download 10 Texts To Reconnect Without Pressure: https://bit.ly/4b1Yfh6How do you get a spouse to stay? You cannot force or manipulate someone into staying in a marriage. To truly save your relationship, you must shift from controlling behaviors (begging, pleading, guilt-tripping) to influencing behaviors. You do this by stopping what we call "Push Behaviors" and working on yourself to become a safe, welcoming place that your spouse wants to return to.In this video, Marriage Helper coach Nathan explains the exact psychology behind why your attempts to hold on tightly are backfiring, and what you can do instead to create an environment of genuine connection.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

3/13/26 • 15:49

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

3/11/26 • 56:41

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You’ve probably heard the classic advice: "If you want to save your marriage, you have to work on yourself." But what if that’s only half the truth?In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Marriage Helper COO Marcos Silva reveal why focusing purely on self-improvement can actually be a trap that pushes your spouse further away. While working on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual attraction) is a vital first step, doing it solely for yourself—or solely to manipulate your spouse's reaction—will leave you stuck.The real secret to saving a broken marriage isn't just about becoming the best version of yourself. It's about learning how to love differently, navigating the "gray area," and changing the way you actually show up for your spouse.- Take the FREE "Show Up Snapshot" Assessment: Discover where you are at risk of burning out and where you have untapped potential to show up stronger for the people you love. [https://bit.ly/4cdIBzH]If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

2/27/26 • 09:22

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you living in a sexless marriage?Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences a spouse can face. It destroys self-esteem, creates a "lonely" atmosphere in the home, and often leads to a cycle of pressure and withdrawal. But most of the advice out there—like "just communicate better" or "make a list"—doesn't actually work. Why? Because sexual frustration is rarely just about the sex itself.In this deep dive, Dr. Joe Beam unpacks what actually drives desire and what erodes it. Whether you are the spouse feeling rejected or the one feeling pressured to perform, this conversation provides a roadmap to understanding the "why" behind the disconnect.In this video, Dr. Joe discusses:The 4 Root Causes: Is the issue Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, or Spiritual?The "Universal vs. Specific" Test: How to determine if the problem is biological or rooted in the relationship.The Arousal Myth: Why many women (and some men) don't feel "desire" until after the process starts.Pornography & Affairs: A candid look at how sexual unfulfillment contributes to—but does not justify—betrayal.The "Outside/Inside" Rule: How your daily interactions are sabotaging your intimacy.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

2/20/26 • 13:48

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

2/18/26 • 59:55

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If your marriage has gone from "good" to "bad" and you’re terrified that you’ll be divorced in the next six months, you are not alone. Most people think it takes two to save a marriage—but at Marriage Helper, we’ve spent 30 years proving that one spouse can change the entire dynamic of a relationship.In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down the fundamental process that has helped thousands of couples—even those in "hopeless" situations—turn things around and build a dream life together.In this video, you will learn:The "Frantic" Trap: Why begging, pleading, and "acting crazy" (even if it’s out of love) actually pushes your spouse further away.Symptoms vs. Root Causes: Why "quick fix" text messages don't work and why you need to "strengthen your core" instead of just treating the pain.Pushes vs. Pulls: How to stop the behaviors that drive your spouse out the door and start the "dance" that pulls them back in.The 7-Step Framework: A roadmap from total chaos to passionate intimacy.The 7 Steps to Saving Your Marriage:1. Calm Down: Moving from a frantic state to a place of peace.2. Get Clarity: Identifying the real issues that have been simmering for years.3. Stop Pushes & Start Pulls: Changing your "dance steps" to shift the dynamic.4. Forgive & Reconcile: The internal work and the 5-step reconciliation process.5. Build Back Trust: Restoring the foundation.6. Reignite Passionate Intimacy: Moving past the "roommate" phase.7. Create Your Dream Life Together: Designing a future you both love.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

2/13/26 • 11:03

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

2/11/26 • 58:41

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In today's Marriage Helper LIVE, Dr. Joe and Dr. Kimberly explain why focusing on the affair partner doesn't actually matter, and take live questions from callers. This show also features segments from Micheal Felker and Nathan Grounds.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

2/4/26 • 58:37

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Why Confronting Your Spouse's Limerence Always Backfires (And What to Do Instead)If you’ve discovered your spouse is in an affair, your first instinct is likely to confront them, expose the truth, and demand they "wake up." But as many heartbroken spouses discover, this almost always pushes them further away. Why?In today’s video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam explain the psychological "brain takeover" known as Limerence. When a spouse is in this state, they aren't just making a bad choice—they are experiencing a chemical addiction similar to OCD.Learn why your efforts to "fix" them are failing and how to shift your strategy to actually save your marriage.🔍 In this video, we cover:The Limerence Trap: Why your spouse seems like a completely different person.The Confrontation Backfire: Why attacking the "Affair Partner" makes your spouse defend them even more.The Science of Limerence: How dopamine and "Affair Fog" create a fantasy world that logic cannot break.The 3 Things You Must Stop Doing: If you want any hope of reconciliation, you must stop these three specific behaviors immediately.The Path to Reconciliation: How to focus on what YOU can control to become the person your spouse eventually wants to come back to.What is Limerence?Limerence is a state of mind which results from romantic feelings for another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one's feelings reciprocated. In a marriage, this often looks like "Affair Fog," where the spouse becomes erratic, re-writes marital history, and seeks a "dopamine high" from a new partner.🆘 Need Help Saving Your Marriage?If you are in the middle of a marriage crisis, you don't have to do this alone.Our Workshop: https://bit.ly/3ZhA1btIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

2/3/26 • 13:33

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Does it feel like you are living with a ghost? Your spouse comes home, eats dinner, and sleeps in the same bed, but they aren't really there. If you are dealing with a spouse who is indifferent, numb, or emotionally walled off, you are likely asking yourself: "Can a marriage like this be saved when I'm the only one trying?"In this video, Coach Nathan from Marriage Helper explains exactly why your spouse has checked out and how to get them to check back in—without forcing them.👇 FREE RESOURCE: 10 TEXTS TO RECONNECT WITHOUT PRESSURE 👇 https://bit.ly/4b1Yfh6IN THIS VIDEO: You will learn the difference between "Push Behaviors" (which drive your spouse further away) and "Pull Behaviors" (which invite them back in). We break down the psychology of the "emotional callus"—how your spouse became numb over time—and introduce you to the S.M.A.R.T. Contact method to begin dismantling their walls.KEY CONCEPTS EXPLAINED:Why has my spouse checked out? Rarely does a spouse check out overnight. Just like playing a guitar builds calluses on fingertips to resist pain, your spouse has built emotional calluses to shield themselves from negative emotions, feeling unheard, or shame. To save the marriage, you must stop pressing on the "bruise" and start changing the environment.What is SMART Contact? If you want to save your marriage, you need to stop "Push Behaviors" (begging, pleading, forcing relationship talks) and start using SMART Contact.S - Stop Push Behaviors: Stop doing things that elicit negative emotions in your spouse (crying, begging, arguing about the relationship).M - Manage Business Items: Only discuss necessary logistics (kids, finances, schedule) without letting emotion bleed into the conversation.A - Allow for Conversation: Don't go "No Contact" (that is manipulation). Be open to talking if they initiate, but let them lead.R - Respond Strongly, Calmly, & Gently: Watch your tone and body language. Be a safe place for them.T - Take it One Day at a Time: Consistency and patience are key. You cannot fix years of damage in a few days.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

1/29/26 • 13:16

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you are watching this, it’s likely your wife wants a divorce, and you want to save the marriage. If you are willing to take responsibility and step up as a leader, not a dictator, but a true husband and father, this video is for you.In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down the psychology behind why women leave and introduces the concept of the "Push" and the "Pull." It isn't about magic bullets; it's about understanding the deep-seated "whys" behind her decision and taking specific actions to turn it around.👇 BOOK A FREE CALL WITH OUR TEAM 👇 https://bit.ly/4bbPp0g📖 Download Our Free Workshop Brochurehttps://bit.ly/4pXfRyrIf you are asking, "Why does my wife want a divorce?", it almost always comes down to three specific dynamics.1. The Push (Driving Her Away) This occurs when your behavior evokes negative emotions in your wife. Even if you didn't mean to, things like angry outbursts, ignoring her, controlling behavior, or making her feel disrespected push her out the door.The Fix: Identify what behaviors are causing her pain and STOP them immediately.2. The Lack of Pull (No Emotional Connection) You might not be pushing her away, but you aren't drawing her in. A lack of pull means you aren't evoking positive emotions. She needs to feel heard, understood, accepted, and safe.The Fix: Learn to listen to understand (not to fix) and create a safe emotional space.3. The Outside Pull (A Better Option) This isn't always another man. An outside pull can be a dream, a career, a new self-image, or a lifestyle she desires more than her current life with you.The Warning: Do not try to attack the outside pull (or the other guy). It will only make her defend it. Focus on fixing your own pushes and pulls.ABOUT THE VIDEOIf your wife has said "I love you but I'm not in love with you," or if she is already filing for divorce, panic is your enemy. Many men react by begging, pleading, or getting angry—all of which act as "pushes."Dr. Joe explains that saving a marriage requires:Owning your part: Admitting that you may have contributed to the breakdown.Willingness to learn: Moving past "I know everything" and seeking expert help.Urgency: Understanding that waiting for her to "come to her senses" usually leads to divorce.Recommended Resource: We have worked with over 25,000 couples with a high success rate, even when one spouse wanted out. If you are willing to make the investment of time and effort, check out our 3-Day Intensive Workshop.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

1/22/26 • 20:09

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Does moving out save your marriage or is it the first step toward divorce? If you are desperate for peace and thinking about packing your bags, you need to watch this video first.👉 Get the FREE "10 Text Messages to Reconnect" Guide here: https://bit.ly/4b1Yfh6Does separation save a marriage? According to research, 80% of couples who separate ultimately end up divorcing. While moving out provides temporary relief and peace, it often creates a "false positive" environment where living apart feels better than the hard work of fixing the relationship. Unless there is a safety issue, separation usually accelerates the end of a marriage rather than saving it.In this video, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes shares both the research and her personal experience regarding marital separation. You’ll learn why the human brain craves separation to "avoid pain and seek gain," but why acting on that impulse usually backfires.We cover:The Statistic: Why 8 out of 10 separations fail to reconcile.The Psychology of Peace: Why your brain resists going back to the marriage once you've had a taste of living alone.Dr. Kimberly’s Story: How moving out twice early in her marriage didn't fix the problems, it only paused them.Communication vs. Punishment: Are you moving out to "teach them a lesson"? We discuss why using your presence as a reward or punishment destroys trust.⚠️ IMPORTANT SAFETY NOTE: If you are in a physically abusive situation or an emotionally unsafe environment where your physical health is at risk, your priority is safety. Please seek help immediately. Separation is necessary for safety, even if the goal isn't marriage restoration yet. You can call 800-799-7233 or text 'BEGIN' to 88788📖 Download the FREE Guide: "10 Text Messages to Reconnect With Your Spouse." Stop the fighting and start communicating differently today. 👉 https://bit.ly/4b1Yfh6 If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

1/15/26 • 11:35

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Is there a timeline for saving a marriage?If you are asking "How long will it take to save my marriage?" the honest answer is that there is no magic formula or set number of days. It relies entirely on consistency over time. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam explains that saving a relationship is not an immediate event. It is a process of changing the negative narrative your spouse has about you by consistently doing the right things, even when it feels like it is not working.In this episode:Dr. Joe Beam breaks down the typical pattern of marriage dissolution and shares the hard truth about separation. Did you know that once a physical separation occurs, the likelihood of divorce rises to between 75% and 80%?Dr. Beam explains why this happens using a concept called Negative Affect. This is when your spouse interprets everything you do through a negative filter. Even when you try to change or work on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual attraction), your spouse might attack you or criticize you.Why do they do this? Because your positive changes are messing up the negative narrative they have created to justify leaving.You will learn:The typical "devolving" pattern of a marriage heading toward divorce.Why you should avoid or delay separation if at all possible.Negative Affect: Why your spouse sees you as the "bad guy" regardless of what you do.Why your spouse might get angry when you start working on yourself.The vital importance of consistency over time to change their mind.It is unfair that you have to do the heavy lifting right now. However, if you are the one standing for the marriage, you are the one who has to change the dynamic. It is not easy, but we have witnessed "hopeless" couples turn it around even after years of struggle.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

1/8/26 • 13:41

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Learn how they saved their marriage after an affair and addiction, even after 25 years of what looked like a "perfect" life. In this raw and honest interview, Aaron and Rena Garcia open up about the secret pornography addiction and infidelity that nearly destroyed their family, and the specific steps they took to rebuild trust from the ground up.If you are asking, "Can a marriage survive infidelity?" or "Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?" this video provides a real-life roadmap. Aaron, a former pastor, lived a secret double life for decades, while Rena was completely blindsided by the discovery. They discuss the intense physical reality of betrayal trauma (flooding), the shame of addiction in the church, and why they believe leaving isn't always the "easier" option.In this video, we answer hard questions like:How do you rebuild trust after cheating?What does real healing look like for a betrayed spouse?Why does the "good guy" or spiritual leader fall into addiction?How long does it take to save a marriage after an affair?Rena and Aaron’s story proves that while trust is lost in buckets, it is earned in drops. With the right help, including the Marriage Helper workshop, they didn't just go back to their old marriage... they built a new, stronger one.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

1/2/26 • 58:04

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Did you know that divorce filings increase by 30% in January? It’s not a coincidence. The holidays don't just magnify relationship problems; they market a perfection that no marriage actually has. If you are dreading this Christmas because you feel like you are walking on eggshells, you are not alone.In this video, I’m sharing the exact "Stop The Chaos" plan you need to implement next week. This isn't about fixing your whole marriage in one day. It is about damage control. It is about getting through the holidays without becoming a statistic.I was where you are 12 years ago. I know the fear, the loneliness, and the overwhelming anxiety. But I also know there is hope.In this video, we cover:The "Knee Surgery" Analogy: Why you need to calm the inflammation (the chaos) before you can have the surgery (the workshop) to fix the root cause.The Holiday Truce: Why you must stop all relationship talks from Dec 23rd to 26th.Managing External Chaos: How to handle nosy family members and protect your children from the tension.The "If/Then" Plan: Practical ways to manage your own anxiety if your spouse doesn't show up or acts distant.The PIES of Attraction: How to focus on YOU physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually to become a safe place.🎄 THE "STOP THE CHAOS" PLAN FOR CHRISTMAS:Stop Pushing: No begging, pleading, or "heavy" talks.Be A Safe Place: Warm, kind, and accepting (but not smothering).Manage Expectations: If your spouse is distant, treat them like a guest. Be hospitable, but don't force connection.Damage Control: Your goal this week is not to "save" the marriage, but to prevent making it worse.👉 Join our Marriage Helper Community today and get 50% off your first month!https://bit.ly/4qlQCXeIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

12/26/25 • 77:13

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!The shocking termination of Michigan head coach Sherrone Moore has dominated the headlines, but beneath the sports scandal lies a profound psychological phenomenon: Limerence. In this video, we break down the reports from USA Today and Sports Illustrated to analyze the behavior leading up to Moore’s firing. From the alleged years-long affair to the reports of stalking and the "kitchen scissors" incident, we look at these events through the lens of relationship psychology. Was this just a lapse in judgment, or was it the destructive cycle of limerence?What You’ll Learn in This Video:The 3 Stages of Limerence: Understanding Infatuation, Crystallization, and Deterioration.Why Good People Make Bad Decisions: How brain chemistry changes during an obsessive affair.The Reality of Stalking in Limerence: Why the person "left behind" often resorts to desperate, unrecognizable behaviors.Hope for Marriage Recovery: Can a marriage survive a public scandal and limerence? (The answer might surprise you).🔗 Get our free mini course on how to save your marriage: https://bit.ly/4j2P0yWWhat is limerence in a relationship? Limerence is a state of involuntary obsession with another person. It involves intrusive thoughts, an intense desire for reciprocation, and can lead to irrational behavior that the person wouldn’t normally exhibit.How long does limerence last? Typically, limerence lasts between 18 months to 3 years. As seen in the Sherrone Moore case, once one partner enters the "deterioration" phase while the other is still in "crystallization," it often leads to conflict or stalking.Can a marriage survive limerence and an affair? Yes. While the process involves a difficult "grief period" for the unfaithful spouse, many marriages can be rebuilt to be stronger than they were before the affair began.👉 Join our Marriage Helper Community today and get 50% off your first month!https://bit.ly/4qlQCXeIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

12/19/25 • 10:39

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!This episode is from the Marriage Helper LIVE Call-In Show from December 10, 2025. Marriage Helper LIVE airs live on YouTube, every Wednesday at Noon CT. To listen in or have a chance to call into the show, you can head to https://youtube.com/@marriagehelperIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelperFollow our other channels!📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam

12/15/25 • 73:35