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Thriving Adoptees - Let's Heal

We are all at different place on our healing journey. Thriving Adoptees helps you along your unique journey with insights from your fellow adoptees. So that their learnings catalyse your healing. So why do I love helping adoptees heal? I was adopted at 5 weeks old and told about it so young I don't ever remember not knowing. I didn't experience any conscious adoption trauma until I hit 40 when I found out my childhood teddy bear was a gift from my birth mother. This caused an eruption of anger, feeling rejected and unloved. That kickstarted a learning journey that led me to heal and then want to help others. I created the podcast so guests help listeners along their unique healing journey and see their worth. That's the reason the Thriving Adoptees logo is a diamond. You are a diamond. We are all diamonds. Diamonds whose worth is hidden by our trauma. But every metaphor has it's limits. Diamonds have a finite value. Your value is infinite. Most podcasts for adoptees focus on stories, we focus on healing. Email me at simon@thrivingadoptees.com if you'd like to have a chat about being a guest on the show. There have been 83,000 downloads of the show since launch in April 2021.

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Befriending Loss With Jennifer Jue-Steuck
So many of us spent so long pushing tough emotions like loss away. So much of that has been unconscious. What if we can welcome loss in like a friend? So it loses its power over us? Jen shares her learnings from the loss of two mothers. From Laguna Beach (Orange County), California, Jennifer Bao Yu "Precious Jade" Jue-Steuck is an author, screenwriter, children's novelist, adoption researcher, and adoption columnist. Adopted from Taipei (by an American family from Los Angeles), Jennifer is a graduate of New York University's Tisch School of the Arts and Harvard University, where she was a Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation Scholar.She is the founder of Chinese Adoptee Links (CAL) International — Global Generations, the first global group created by and for the more than 150,000 Chinese adoptees growing up in 26+ countries around the world. She currently serves as the co-founder of Harvardwood Vancouver-Seattle (for Harvard alumni in the Arts & Entertainment), and is the West Coast Brand Ambassador for Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs (HAE) Canada.Jennifer has given more than 100+ adoption talks in 8 countries, including several Keynote Speeches, on behalf of the international adoption community. A contributor to St. Martin’s Press, Oxford University Press, MIT Press, Conde Nast and more, Jennifer was recently awarded a runner-up prize by International Thriller Writers (ITW). She won her first writing competition at age 9, and has been writing ever since. The Stepmother's Project is Jennifer's first Canadian global media project ("EVERY MOTHER MATTERS").https://www.gofundme.com/f/Stepmother-Projecthttps://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-jue-steuck/
56:39 2/23/24
Grace With Louise Browne
Would you like a better relationship with yourself? Less anxiety? Less anger? Listen in as we talk about forgiving ourselves, grace and much more. I don't usually swear on the podcast but I do so for emphasis. Sorry for any offence caused.Would you like a better relationship with yourself? Less anxiety? Less anger? Listen in as we talk about forgiving ourselves, grace and much more. I don't usually swear on the podcast but I do so for emphasis. Sorry for any offence caused.Louise Browne is a baby scoop era adoptee from the United States living in California. She Co-Hosts a podcast, Adoption: The Making of Me, that helps to get adoptees stories out in the world to help change the narrative around adoption. Louise enjoys spending time with her grown son, her husband, family and friends, hikes, enjoys nature and is working on writing her first novel and getting a Young Adult published. Find out more at:https://twitter.com/LouiseBrowne_LAhttps://www.facebook.com/louise.b.gonzalezhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/louise-browne-3b5a0519/https://www.adoptionthemakingofme.comhttps://www.facebook.com/themakingofmepodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/themakingofmepodcasthttps://twitter.com/makingofmepdcst
62:52 2/22/24
40 Years Of Healing With Paige Strickland
One of the strongest themes in our conversations on healing is that it's an ongoing process. So what do learn over that process that helps us along that process? Listen in as Paige shares what she's done and continues to do to help her along the process.Paige Adams Strickland (1961- ) was born in Cincinnati, Ohio and adopted at 13 months. In 1987 she began a search for her biological family members. She has a BA from Florida State University in Spanish Education. She has 30 years experience in teaching. Her writing has been featured and won attention from scinti.com, a wordwithyoupress.com, soniamarsh.com and adoptionvoicesmagazine.com.Listen to her previous interview:Paige felt ashamed about being adopted when she was younger. Listen to what she's learned over the years to leave this behind. We discuss overcoming stigma, questioning the primal wound and our true identity to feel better, do better and thrive. https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/from-shame-to-thriving-with-paige-stricklandFind out more about her at:https://stricklandp.wordpress.com/author/stricklandp/https://www.facebook.com/23plashttps://twitter.com/plastrickland23https://www.instagram.com/paigeladamsstrickland/https://www.linkedin.com/in/paige-adams-strickland-4819722b/https://www.instagram.com/akin_to_and_after_the_truth/Check out her books at:https://www.amazon.com/s?i=digital-text&rh=p_27%3APaige+Strickland&s=relevancerank&text=Paige+Strickland&ref=dp_byline_sr_ebooks_1https://www.amazon.co.uk/Paige-Adams-Strickland/e/B00FQ6GU5C?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1644231531&sr=8-1 
58:22 2/20/24
Gratitude Josee Brault
How do you feel when say that you should be grateful for having been adopted? Angry? Frustrated? Invalidated? Feeling grateful is totally different to being told to feel grateful. Listen in as Josee shares a lifetime's of insights on gratitude and much more. https://www.facebook.com/JoseeBraultofficial
49:57 2/19/24
Unshackling From Trauma With Adoptee Suni Zmich
Does trauma sometimes keep you locked up?Listen in as transracial adoptee shares Suni powerful insights about breaking free from our trauma to find the freedom that sets us free.Here's a link to Suni's previous interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/lightbulb-moments-with-adoptee-suni-zmichHere's a bit about Suni and her book:After ignoring her own adoption story for 50 years, SUNI MILLER ZMICH journeyed alongside the interviewees as they described their stories, connecting on an elemental level, her unanticipated reward was she could clearly see herself in the mirror for the first time in her life. She is the mother of two daughters, a retired accounting and finance manager, and a transient ex-army brat poised for the next adventure. Practically empty nesters, she and her husband, Kurt, live in Minneapolis. For Now. When I first started Through the Lens of Ourselves,I only had a vague idea of what I wanted to accomplish.​I am an adoptee. After conducting many interviews, my personal journey melded with the interviewees. I learned that ALL members of the adoption triad yearn for familial connection. In listening to the birth mothers, I was surprised at my own reaction. For years, I had harbored resentment about my own birth parents and would not fully invest myself emotionally with my adoptive parents. But after allowing myself to see through the lens of the birth parents in my book, I felt safe enough to become closer to my adoptive parents.My hope is that my book will bring peace to to those who are still traumatized by their adoption experience. I will forever be grateful to the individuals who were brave enough to share their stories with me. They nourished my soul and I hope their stories will feed the world.Listening to the stories of others touched by adoption healed me.My hope is that my book will also heal you.You know that quiet voice that whispers to you when you first wake up in that fuzzy space between sleep and full consciousness - where your dreams and reality collide? I would sometimes hear those little nudges to examine my adoption.Here's the link I to the Dragon story mentioned https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7stT4OQoFGUHere's links to her website with links to Amazon etc:https://www.sunimillerzmich.com/Here are links to her social media:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100068780925549https://www.instagram.com/sunimillerzmich/ 
45:00 2/1/24
Peace With Gilli Bruce
Peace. Isn't that what all want? Or maybe just a bit more peace would be nice. A bit more well, peaceful. Triggered less of the time. Trigger for shorter periods of time. How do we find peace when our nervous systems have been shot to pieces? When we are constantly hyped up and hyper-vigilant. Adoptee and therapist Gill shares 25 years of learnings and what's really worked for her.https://www.facebook.com/gilli.brucehttps://www.lara-leon.com/first-retreat-for-adopted-adults-june-2023/https://howtobeadopted.com/blog/2021/study-into-lifelong-impacts-of-adoption-by-gillian-bruce
68:25 1/31/24
Choices With Jill Bolte Taylor
Most of us aren't choosing how we feel most of the time. Most of us aren't choosing what we think most of the time. Our trauma is choosing our thoughts and feelings for us. So how DO we choose? Listen in as neuroanatomist Dr Jill Bolte Taylor dives deep into learning to choose. Fascinating and empowering.Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a Harvard-trained and published neuroanatomist whose research specialized in understanding how our brain creates our perception of reality. She was interested in this subject because she has a brother who is diagnosed with the brain disorder schizophrenia.As irony would have it, in 1996 at the age of 37, Dr. Jill experienced a severe hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of her brain. On the afternoon of this rare form of stroke (AVM), she could not walk, talk, read, write, or recall any of her life. It took eight years for Dr. Jill to completely rebuild her brain to recover all physical, emotional, and thinking abilities.Dr. Jill is the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey (published in 2008 by Viking Penguin), which is still often the #1 book about STROKE sold in the Amazon marketplace. In addition, her second book WHOLE BRAIN LIVING: The Anatomy of Choice and the Four Characters That Drive Our Life was published in May of 2021 by Hay House and is now readily available.In 2008, Dr. Jill gave a presentation about her experience with stroke at the TED Conference in Monterey, CA, which was the first TED talk to ever go viral through the internet. TED and Dr. Jill became world-famous instantaneously and that TED talk has now been viewed well over 27.5 million times. This 18-minute presentation catapulted Dr. Jill into the public eye, and within six weeks of presenting that TED talk, she was chosen as one of TIME Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People in the World, she was the premiere guest on Oprah’s Soul Series webcast, and her book My Stroke of Insight became a New York Times bestseller and remained on the list for 63 weeks.Dr. Jill is passionate about educating the public about the beauty of our human brain, and she is committed to not only helping others find their way back from neurological trauma but is eager to help everyone better understand their brain so they can live their best life.  Her Foundation Jill Bolte Taylor BRAINS is dedicated to providing educational services and promoting programs that are related to the advancement of brain awareness, appreciation, exploration, education, injury prevention, neurological recovery, and the value of movement on mental and physical health, as well as other activities that support this purpose.Dr. Jill remains the National Spokesperson for the Harvard Brain Tissue Resource Center (Harvard Brain Bank), whereby she educates the public about the shortage of brain tissue donated for research into the severe mental illnesses. Since 1993, she has been an active member of NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness), by serving for three years on the National NAMI Board of Directions and later spent over ten years as the president of the local level NAMI Greater Bloomington Area affiliate in Bloomington, Indiana.https://www.ted.com/talks/jill_bolte_taylor_my_stroke_of_insighthttps://www.instagram.com/drjillboltetaylorhttps://www.facebook.com/DrJillBolteTaylorhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHfUhV_xjrJLPiLZSlTRNvghttps://www.drjilltaylor.com/
78:15 1/30/24
Seeing Our Potential With Anneke Vinke
Whilst we are consumed with our trauma, we miss our potential. Listen in as therapist Anneke points us towards hope, the future and healing. Profound and empowering.Here's a bit about Anneke Vinke from her website:" I studied orthopedagogy in Nijmegen, specializing in educational and behavioral problems in young children. I then worked as a scientific researcher at Utrecht University. I received my PhD there in 1999 with a dissertation on adoption. I am a Certified Advanced Practitioner Sensorimotor Psychotherapy ®   and Consultant -internal  for Sensorimotor Psychotherapy ®, trained and certified in the use of the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics (NMT™️)   Orthopedagogue (NVO), Registered Psychologist and supervisor Child & Youth (NIP) and Body-oriented Working Psychologist (NIP). In addition, I am  included in the government's BIG register as a GZ psychologist and Orthopedagogue Generalist . I am a member of the following trade and professional associations:  NIP , NVO , ESTD , SPIPA-NL .My first real contact with adoption was during my internship in a child psychiatric clinic in the 1980s. After graduating in 1991, I had the opportunity to study adoption scientifically through a PhD research project. This resulted in a dissertation on adoptive parenting and ultimately in Adoption Practice in 2006. In addition to (intercountry) adoption, I am involved in foster care, trauma, attachment and youth protection (including child abuse, diagnostics and risk assessment). A portrait can be found on Project Adopted.In the period after my graduation until the establishment of the Adoption Practice, I explored and carried out the full breadth of youth protection work. I have worked as a care provider, as a researcher, as a teacher/trainer and supervisor (university & HBO), as a behavioral scientist in youth protection (BJZ) and as a senior (policy) advisor/researcher at a commercial consultancy firm (youth care). In 2006 I decided to return to clinical practice and founded Adoption Practice Vinke. More information about education and experience can be found on  Linkedin ."https://www.facebook.com/anneke.vinkehttps://twitter.com/Adoptiepraktijkhttps://www.adoptiepraktijk.nl/wie-ben-ik/
63:31 1/24/24
Growth With Linda Pevac aka Emma Stevens
How do we grow? What stops us growing? How do we remove those barriers? Emma shares hard won insights to empower us along our life-long healing journey.Her first interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/freedom-with-emma-stevensHer second interview  https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/becoming-our-own-guru-with-emma-stevensHer third  interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/healing-changeLinda Pevac aka Emma Stevens is a U.S. domestic adoptee from birth and has survived layers of trauma that have put her on multiple journeys. She developed the inner strength and courage to surmount the many struggles she faced. Her traumas were born from being an adoptee who struggled with being forced to wear an impossible mask of playing the part of the “good adopted child.” Because being relinquished and adopted has colored her life, it’s Emma’s desire to be part of the movement that is dedicated to helping bring forth change to the way our world views the needs and support of adopted individuals. She believes strongly in adoptees finding their voice and discovering their truth to have a solid sense of self and to reclaim their identities. Through telling her story, Emma is dedicated to help redefine the narrative of adoption to include the entire complex truth.More about Linda/Emma at:https://linktr.ee/EmmaStevensWriterhttps://www.instagram.com/EmmaStevensWriterhttps://www.facebook.com/EmmaStevensWriterhttps://www.tiktok.com/@EmmaStevensWriterhttps://twitter.com/emmastevenswrtr
52:03 1/23/24
Open With Fiona Myles
How do we move forward on our healing journey given the complexities around adoption. Remaining open seems to be one of Fiona's key drivers. Listen in as she shares insights from navigating her ongoing healing process. https://www.fionamylesauthor.com/bookshttps://www.facebook.com/fionamylesauthorhttps://www.instagram.com/fionamylesauthor/https://www.linkedin.com/in/fiona-myles-960470226/  
56:49 1/19/24
Healing & Reunion with Melisha Mitchell & Lizz Hutchison
How many reunions are still going over 2 decades later? How does reunion help healing? Listen in as birth mother Melisha and her daughter Lizz talk about what they have learned through reunion. Melisha also talks about Barrack Obama and his role supporting her change adoption law in Illinois. Connect with Melisha here https://www.facebook.com/melisha.mitchell.5/ 
37:16 1/18/24
Connected With Sara Docan-Morgan
Do you want to feel more connected? Listen in as transnational adoptee Sara shares how she found that feeling of connection with her birth family. You're going to want to listen to the very end. She touches on profound and surprising insights that will touch you even if you're not a transnational adoptee.Sara Docan-Morgan (PhD, University of Washington) is Professor of Communication Studies. Dr. Docan-Morgan's work has been published in Adoption Quarterly, the Journal of Family Communication, the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Communication Quarterly, Family Relations, and the Journal of Korean Adoption Studies, as well as in edited volumes. Her research focuses on how personal identity and family identity are formed, maintained, and negotiated through discourse in both adoptive and birth families. She teaches courses in interpersonal communication, family communication, gender and communication, communication and race, research methods, and intercultural communication, and directs senior thesis projects.Sara is a transnational Korean adoptee who was adopted at the age of 4 months. She has been in reunion with her Korean family since 2009. https://tupress.temple.edu/books/in-reunionhttps://www.instagram.com/esjaydm/https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-docan-morgan-8642175/https://www.facebook.com/sara.docanmorgan
59:28 1/17/24
Learning To Heal With Vin
If you're stuck on your healing journey it may be because you're not seeing clearly. I know I've done that. But we don't know what we don't know. So grace for ourselves is really important. Vin turns the tables on me to explore some of what I've learned from my own experience and over 400 interviews..Connect with him here:https://www.facebook.com/vinadopteejarrodhttps://www.instagram.com/Vinadoptee
63:34 1/16/24
Out Of The Abyss With Lisa Ann
Being stuck in the abyss hurts like hell. So how did Lisa Ann find a ladder out? Listen in for a deep exploration of healing through self reflection and discovery.Adoptee Lisa Ann is the engaging host of Wandering Tree Podcast connecting with her guests on thought-provoking discussions focused on the adoption journey; and spoken with each person’s unique perspectives. Guests show their resilience, personal growth, and the power of positivity.Known for her empathetic interview style, insightful questions, and the ability to authentically connect with her guests, Lisa Ann creates a welcoming space for constructive discussions on the lived experiences of adoption.Her background in early childhood development, combined with decades of service in public safety, and a deep commitment to her local volunteer efforts, has garnished Lisa Ann with an insightful understanding of human development, community dynamics and the powerful flow of life.Outside of her podcasting work, Lisa Ann devotes her professional expertise to helping others save lives and passionately believes in empowering the adoptee community to become builders of connections.In her downtime, you'll find her spending time with family and friends, experimenting with new food concoctions, and immersing herself in books of all genres.https://wanderingtreeadoptee.com/https://www.facebook.com/LisaAnn4040https://www.facebook.com/wanderingtreeadopteehttps://www.instagram.com/wanderingtree_podcast_lisaann/
59:43 1/15/24
Feeling Whole With Candace Cahill
Do you yearn to feel whole? Understanding the really tough stuff birth mothers went (and are still going through) has profound effects on how us adoptees feel. Candace lost her son. Twice. The first time to adoption and the second not long after their reunion twenty years later. She also suffered abuse and by being adopted by her stepfather. A whole lot of trauma to heal from. And a whole lot of learning to help you on your journey to feeling whole.https://candacecahill.com/https://twitter.com/candace_cahill_https://www.facebook.com/candace.cahill.16https://www.instagram.com/candace_cahill_ 
58:10 1/11/24
Processing Trauma To Heal With Liz DeBetta
We have to feel it to heal it. So how do we do that? Listen in as Liz sets out how the creative process that helps her process trauma. We dive into granular detail to catalyse you to your own insights and shifts in perspective.Find out more about Liz:https://www.instagram.com/lizdebetta/https://www.linkedin.com/in/liz-debetta-ph-d-7b4ba953https://www.facebook.com/liz.debettahttps://www.lizdebetta.com
68:23 1/9/24
Healing, Holistically With Kelly Williams
Do you sometimes feel you're getting nowhere fast? Like you're treading water instead of making progress? I don't know about you but I've gotten stuck a lot of times on my healing journey. So what's the catalyst that moves us on? A shift in our perspective. Seeing the bigger picture. Spotting things we haven't noticed before. Kelly explores how curiosity on what he's NOT seeing has driven progression. Connect with Kelly on https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61552376577563
80:24 1/8/24
Wave After Wave With Janeen Jackson
Wave after wave of powerful emotions threaten to engulf us as trauma blows like a force 10 gale. Anxiety, insecurity and fear feel like they can drown us. So how do we ride the waves rather than fighting them? Because we know that's futile right? Listen in as we take a deep dive into the storm that is adoption trauma.Here's the link to the Ministry of Inspiration  https://www.theministryofinspiration.com/Janeen Jackson was a longtime resident of Santa Monica, CA, and in 2022 moved to Evanston, IL, with her husband, Ron Clark, and their two sons, Tyson and Phoenix. She received her B.A. from Norfolk State University, an HBCU, and completed her master’s in Education Leadership and Change in 2020 from Antioch University.In 2018, at age 46, Janeen received unexpected news through DNA technology: she was adopted and biracial. Read about Janeen’s adoption discovery at:https://janeenjackson.com/Mixedupdiary.comhttps://www.instagram.com/mixupdiary/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091805086716https://twitter.com/hello_janeenhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/janeenjackson
57:46 1/4/24
Overcoming Issues With Abandonment and Anger With Guy Gray
In this podcast, Guy Gray walks us through dealing with anger that has come up as a result of abandonment. Guy was placed for adoption at birth and was in a foster home until he was 10 weeks old.Guy feels that his adopted parents were loving and nurturing. Yet the feelings of the initial wound, being abandoned at birth, does flare up, sometimes with explosive anger.As Guy indicates, this has become more in control by talking to another birth mother, challenging Guy's false assumptions, and by forgiving his birth mother.Find out more about Guy and his book...https://www.storiesandphotosbyguy.com/
43:33 12/18/23
Feeling Whole With Dawn Tracz
So many of us have felt wounded so long. So what would it feel like to be whole? Listen in as we explore experiencing wholeness and what get in its way. Profound and enlightening. Just how we like our conversations on Thriving Adoptees.Find out more about Dawn here:https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawn-tracz-37700516/Read about her research here:https://scholars.wlu.ca/etd/2462/
55:33 12/15/23
A New Relationship With Trauma Dr Joyce Maguire Pavao
Many of us - myself included have sought to fix our trauma only to find it exhausting and ineffective. So what we do instead? Listen in as adoptee and therapist Joyce shares 55 years of experience on creating a new relationship with trauma to bring us peace.Here's the link to Joyce's previous interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/theres-nothing-wrong-with-us-with-joyce-maguire-pavaoHere's the link to the interview with Leon https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/with-leon-clowesDr. Pavao has done extensive training, both nationally and internationally.  She is a lecturer in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, and she has consulted to various public and private child welfare agencies, adoption agencies, schools, and community groups, as well as probate and family court judges, lawyers, and clergy.  Additionally, she has worked closely with individuals and families touched by adoption, foster care, and other complex blended family constructions.She has developed models for treatment and for training using her systemic, intergenerational, and developmental framework, The Normative Crises in the Development of the Adoptive Family, and her book, The Family of Adoption (Beacon Press), has received high acclaim.Dr. Pavao has received many awards and honors, including the Children’s Bureau/U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Adoption Excellence Award for Family Contribution (2003) and the Congressional Coalition on Adoption award for Angels in Adoption (2000).http://www.pavaoconsulting.com/https://www.facebook.com/Dr.JoyceMaguirePavaohttps://twitter.com/GetKinnectedhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/kinnect/
56:18 12/14/23
Experiencing Healing With Nicolle Tremitiere
We can't talk ourselves out of our pre-verbal trauma. Our intellect can't heal pre-intellectual trauma. So what on earth do we do? Listen in as we dive into healing as an experience with adoptee and therapist Nicolle.Find out more about her at:https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolle-a-tremitiere-lcsw-79199a25/https://www.facebook.com/TtraumaR/
56:52 12/13/23
From Pain To Resilience With Glenn Morey
How does our pain become resilience? Filmmaker and transracial adoptee Glenn has, with his wife, interviewed 100 Korean adoptees for their Side by Side project. Having compartmentalized his own pain, he was surprised about the amount of pain he heard. What he's learned from his fellow adoptees has, and continues to be, vital on his journey to resilience. Listen in as we dive into the profound learnings on that journey.Glenn and Julie Morey are a husband/wife filmmaking team. Glenn (AKA Kim Kang) was born in Seoul, South Korea, in 1960. He was abandoned days after birth, taken to Seoul City Hall, then to a Holt orphanage, and adopted at the age of six months to the US. He has a long career as a commercial and documentary filmmaker. Julie Morey is an artist and filmmaker, and her work has been recognized in film festivals across the country. They live in Denver as empty-nesters, but with adopted cats.https://sidebysideproject.com/https://www.facebook.com/glennmoreyhttps://www.facebook.com/SidebySideDocumentaryhttps://twitter.com/sidebysideprojhttps://www.instagram.com/glennfmorey/https://www.linkedin.com/in/glenn-morey-b297174/
50:38 12/12/23
Adoption Unfiltered
What helps you heal? Other people's perspectives continues to be a huge catalyst on my healing journey. Whether it's validating our feelings or showing us something new, we heal. Their truths can shift our truth. Insights from others in the adoption constellation can be particularly potent. This episode brings you not one, but three perspectives so listen in and let their healing insights and highlights from their new book, heal you.Adoption Unfiltered is presented by adoptee Sara Easterly, birth parent Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard, and adoptive parent Lori Holden. Collectively, we bring 75 years of lived experience relating to adoption, and we span the Millennial, Gen X, and Baby Boomer generations. We understand the history, challenges, and trends experienced by people living in adoption and the broader adoption constellation, and we are recognized throughout the adoption community as thought leaders, influencers, and bridge-builders.Sara Easterly is an award-winning author of books and essays. Her memoir, Searching for Mom, won a gold medal in the Illumination Book Awards, among several other honors. Her adoption-focused articles, essays, and book reviews have been published by Psychology Today, Dear Adoption, Severance Magazine, Feminine Collective, Godspace, Her View from Home, and Englewood Review of Books, to name a few.Sara is founder of Adoptee Voices and previously led one of the largest chapters of the Society of Children’s Book Writers & Illustrators, where she was recognized as SCBWI Member of the Year. She is on staff with the Neufeld Institute, where she supports the Adoption & Foster Care cohort of the Reaching Troubled Kids course, spearheads the Kid-Lit Book Club, and oversees the Neufeld Institute Children’s Book List. Additionally, Sara brings 20+ years of experience as a publicist and event planner orchestrating book tours, launch campaigns, and large-scale events.Link Instagram Facebook TwitterKelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard spent several years working in the adoption field, most notably working on public policy issues impacting all adoption-triad members. Kelsey has played a part in the success of state legislation and has tirelessly advocated for current federal legislation. She’s a birth mother who is passionate about raising the standards in adoption to better serve the children, mothers, and families affected by family separation.Adoption has been a monumental part of her entire life: Kelsey is the daughter and granddaughter of adoptees. She can often be found fervently and frequently demanding, “How do we fix this?” She is also a co-host of the first-ever birth-mom podcast,Twisted Sisterhood.Link Instagram SpotifyLori Holden, a veteran parent of two newly-minted young adults, writes at LavenderLuz.com and hosts the podcast Adoption: The Long View. She’s the author of the acclaimed book The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole (recommended by People magazine in 2021), written with her daughter’s birth mom. Her book is featured on adoption-agency required-reading lists across the country. She has keynoted and presented at adoption conferences around the US, and her work has appeared in magazines such as Parenting and Adoptive Families. In 2018, she was honored as an Angel in Adoption® by the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI), nominated by Senator Michael Bennet of Colorado.Link Instagram Facebook Twitter Spotifyhttps://adoptionunfiltered.com/
62:13 12/8/23
Open To Healing With David Enker
I've been getting in my own way!!! As I reflected on David's words it struck me that I've TOTALLY over-estimated my openness to change. It's time for me to really open up. I'd encourage you to listen to this episode. It might reveals new insights to help you on your healing journey.Here's a link to David's previous interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/who-am-i-with-david-enkerHere's a bit about David and his bookDavid Enker (Amsterdam, 1970) is a Dutch writer and artist. He was unofficially adopted as a baby, using the experience to explore the world from that unique perspective.An unusual adoption, a gruesome family discovery, a lonesome journey, a brush with death in the London Underground and a life-altering diagnosis are just some of the ingredients in this collection of short stories.This book will lead you on a sometimes heart-breaking, sometimes humorous journey of self-discovery that inspires hope and renewed appreciation for the blessings in life.https://www.davidenker.com/https://twitter.com/david_enkerhttps://www.facebook.com/davidenkerart/https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidenker/https://www.instagram.com/davidje/
64:45 12/7/23
A Healing Mindset With Damon Davis
Mindset is rarely talked about in adoptee circles, it's trauma all the way. And yet it's a big part of what helps us heal according to Damon who's interviewed over 200 adoptees for his podcast. Listen in as he shares what he's learned through his own experience and listening to all those other fellow adoptees.Here's the link to Damon's previous episode:https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/with-damon-davisHere's a link to the Adoptee Therapist Directory:https://growbeyondwords.com/adoptee-therapist-directory/A Little About Damon Davis"I had the good fortune to be reunited with my biological mother in 2009 in a heart warming story of coincidental history, a mutual desire to be reunified, and the pure luck to be able to surprise my biological mother, Ann, for our reunion on her birthday! I always enjoy hearing and sharing the real stories of our lives that makes each of us who we are.I’m devoting this program to helping people placed into adoption or who grew up in foster care to explore their own emotions, desires, and questions about reuniting with their biological family by asking others to share their true stories."Listen to his podcast and find out more at:https://www.whoamireallypodcast.com/https://twitter.com/waireallyhttps://www.facebook.com/WAIReallyhttps://www.instagram.com/waireally/https://www.facebook.com/damon.l.davishttps://www.linkedin.com/in/damonldavis/
53:54 12/6/23
At Home With Jo North
Do you feel at home? Like you belong? With a complete sense of your identity? Therapist Jo and I go deep on healing. We explore barriers on that journey to speed you on your way home.Here is Jo's first interview:https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/securing-our-sense-of-self-with-jo-northHere's a bit about Jo from her website:I have been a practicing psychotherapist for thirty years with a focus on mental health and wellbeing and supporting adoptive families and adults affected by adoption.   I am a Senior Accredited Member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy.Adopted adults have a unique identity and broader perspective and understanding on what it means to be parented and belong in a family. But even the best adoption can leave an adopted person with questions about their life that they need answered. Often these answers can be found in birth records, and we are now running a Birth Records Retrieval Service, we also offer you time to think and reflect with others in our Adults Affected by Adoption Listening Group and to participate in our Blog by sending us news and articles on adoption (please contact us if you would like to contribute).https://joannanorthadoption.co.uk/
59:20 12/1/23
Healing On Every Level With Danielle Gaudette
Are you happy with your healing? If not it may be because there are still some parts of you yet to heal. Listen in as Danielle explores where we heal and what hinders our healing. Here are Danielle's previous interviews on Thriving Adoptees:https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/upping-our-empathy-gamehttps://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/seeing-our-untarnished-soulHere's a bit about Danielle from her website:My name is Danielle and I am an Earth Citizen 🙂 .What I mean when I say that, is I have a sincere desire to see a healthier, happier and more peaceful world, and I believe it starts with me.I have dedicated my life to growing my own light by helping others to grow their light also.  For this, I currently work as a Regional Manager of Body & Brain Centers in Seattle, WA., giving lectures and leading training and coaching sessions.My journey with this work and this path began over 20 years ago – when I started to seek healing for my own body, mind and spirit.  I have created Healing Tree – the blog, and now the book – in order to share my stories and inspirations family, friends, my students, and anyone else who may be interested in the healing journey.It is a journey – and a long one at that!  Sometimes it’s nice to know you have companions along the way, traveling down similar roads as you.  It is my hope that the words you discover here become comforting friends for you, finding their way to your heart.  Who knows, they may even turn on a small light in there 🙂 When my light, your light, and our lights shine bright together, what a beautiful world it will be! “Our adopted angel” – that’s what Danielle’s adoptive parents called her. She grew up adored, doted on, and unconditionally loved. It wasn’t until she was in college that she first felt a gnawing curiosity about her roots. From time to time, she would wonder: Where did this face come from? Where did this body come from? Where did this blood come from?  Her search to find her biological parents had begun – one full of surprises and revelations.After reuniting with her birth mother – and uncovering the primal wound that lay deep within her – Danielle embarks on a twenty-year healing journey of self-discovery, reconciliation, and forgiveness.At once a heartfelt memoir and a guide to self-awareness, Healing Tree offers a compassionate exploration of self, family, and what it means to be whole. Rooted in her twenty-year practice in Body & Brain holistic mind/body techniques, Danielle offers an approachable eight-step method for anyone wishing to heal from emotional or psychological wounds. This method invites readers to cultivate a loving relationship with their authentic selves and charts a pathway to inner peace.For anyone who feels stuck, hurt, or rudderless in the sea of life, for anyone interested in doing the deep work of self-healing, becoming liberated, and realizing the potential to heal beyond themselves, Healing Tree is a source of direction, inspiration, and hope.Find out more at:https://www.daniellegaudette.com/https://www.facebook.com/danielle.gaudette.33https://www.facebook.com/DGhealingtreehttps://www.instagram.com/danielle.gaudette/
53:23 11/30/23
Our Whole Soul With Corissa Saint Laurent
Are you confused about who you are? Identity has many layers is inextricably linked with healing. Transracial Adoptee Corissa suffered in the deep darkness of depression and addiction. Listen in as she shines clarity on who we are and how we heal.Here's a link to her first interview https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/how-we-find-ourselves-with-corissa-saint-laurentHere's more about Corissa from her website:WHO AM I?I’ve been asking myself this question my entire life. I’m a Korean-born, adopted, American, mother, wife, entrepreneur, energy worker, storyteller, teacher, mystic, marketer, connector, curator, manifesting generator, ENFP, nature worshipper, and spiritual explorer.When my mother was pregnant with me, she awoke from a dream of a giant shooting star falling to earth, and named me Byul Nim, the honorific form of the word ‘star’.It’s my destiny to shine light in this world.HOW DID IT ALL BEGIN?Being given up for adoption at 3 years old and moved to the United States to be raised by a new family who didn’t look, sound, or act anything like what I knew created a deep sense of abandonment and uncertainty about my identity.I adapted. I had to. And in the process locked all of my needs, hurts, and traumas away where they wouldn’t interfere with the success of my life. Other childhood traumas piled upon the already shaky foundation....More at:https://corissasaintlaurent.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/corissasaintlaurent/https://www.youtube.com/@corissasaintlaurenthttps://www.instagram.com/theeverydaymystic/
79:02 11/29/23
At Peace - Finally With Pamela Karanova
So many of have been fighting our feelings for so long that war is all we know. Pamela's whole life typified that. So how do we find peace? Listen in as she shares key moments, insights and much more on her hard fought journey to peace.Here's Pamela's interview from earlier this year https://thriving-adoptees.simplecast.com/episodes/finding-happiness-within-with-pamela-karanovaHere's the adoptee therapist directory https://growbeyondwords.com/adoptee-therapist-directory/Pamela Karanova, an adult adoptee, living in Lexington, Kentucky, was born in Waterloo, Iowa, in 1974. Although Pamela’s roots are scattered all over Iowa, she considers Kentucky to be her home.Pamela is the President of a National Nonprofit called Adoptees Connect. Adoptees Connect is focused on putting adoptee voices first, creating irreplaceable adoptee-centric spaces where adoptee voices meet. The original connect group was planted in Lexington, KY, in January 2018. In just three short years, 50 connect groups have been planted in different locations around the USA, with two being in Canada. Pamela’s vision for Adoptees Connect didn’t stop in her community. She desires all adoptees to have an adoptee community to fall back on, so these groups are growing and expanding globally. They are designed to take online relationships offline and get to know the person behind the profile. In April 2019, Pamela won the “Angel In Adoption” award on behalf of the National Association for Adoptees and Parents for her role in the adoption community. Pamela is the creator and founder of Adoptee Remembrance Day – October 30th.  Here is a Adoptees Connect, Inc. Google Earth Project she’s created that shows all the group locations scattered all over the USA, Canada and even Queensland, Australia.Check out The Real Adoptea Moxie - adoptee-centric writings that boldly highlight the adoptee experience where motivation meets moxie at:therealadopteamoxie.substack.comhttps://www.facebook.com/pamelakaranovahttps://www.instagram.com/pamelakaranovahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/pamelakaranova/https://open.spotify.com/show/2FGmPmog8cFONagMM7ILja?si=a8a26cdc659c4a4d&nd=1https://pamelakaranova.com/
68:12 11/28/23

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