Life on Repeat: A Dementia Caregiver Podcast

In this hopeful and eye-opening conversation, Laura welcomes Dr. Jayanth Peddi, a UK-based GP and integrative/functional medicine practitioner. Together, they tackle one of the most pressing realities for dementia families and professionals alike: chronic caregiver stress. Dr. Peddi explains how stress reshapes the brain–body connection, why mindset and sleep are non-negotiable, and simple, practical steps caregivers can take today to feel calmer, stronger, and more in control.👤 Meet Dr. Jayanth Peddi:Dr. Jayanth Peddi, MBBS, MRCGP is a family physician (GP) in Leeds, UK, practicing integrative and functional medicine. He leads Lifecare Functional and Integrative Medical Clinic and is associated with Serenity Health & Wellness in Leeds, offering adjunctive wellness therapies.📌 Topics Discussed:- The brain as a “frequency generator” and how thoughts influence physiology- What long-term high stress does to caregivers (nervous system, hormones, fatigue)- Parasympathetic vs. sympathetic: why balance matters and how to restore it- Practical resets: meditation, breathwork, sleep timing, movement, nature- Nutrient basics for stressed bodies: Vitamin D + K2, B-complex, magnesium, and minerals- Vagus-nerve support and neural therapy as a rapid “calm-down” intervention- Why genetics ≠ destiny for most chronic conditions; the empowering role of lifestyle- Water quality, environmental load, and starting small (one habit at a time)- Emotional detox: releasing stored stress and how it accelerates physical healing- Hopeful perspectives on dementia care and areas for future deep dives⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Welcome & Laura’s intro to Dr. Peddi02:40 – From illness to integrative medicine: Dr. Peddi’s journey08:10 – Caregiver stress 101: what constant stress does to the body14:45 – Mindset, meditation, and brain “frequency”: changing your state21:30 – Sympathetic vs. parasympathetic; vagus-nerve reset tools27:00 – Practical basics: sleep window, breathwork, daily movement32:10 – Foundational nutrients for caregivers (D/K2, B’s, magnesium, minerals)38:35 – Water quality & environmental load: realistic upgrades44:20 – Emotional detox & releasing stored stress50:15 – Hope for dementia families; why genetics isn’t destiny56:00 – Where to learn more & how to connect with Dr. Peddi💡 Key Takeaways:- Your thoughts are biochemical. Changing your mindset shifts stress chemistry.- Calm is trainable. Short daily meditation + breathwork can reset your system.- Protect your sleep window. Earlier lights-out supports brain detox overnight.- Replenish what stress depletes. Consider Vitamin D + K2, B-complex, magnesium, and multi-minerals (consult your clinician).- Vagus-nerve support helps. Interventions like neural therapy may create a rapid, felt sense of balance.- Start small. Pick one habit (sleep, breathing, water, or a 5-minute practice) and build from there.- You’re not powerless. For most people, genetics ≠ destiny—daily choices matter.📚 Resources Mentioned:Practices: meditation, guided breathwork, daily movement/walks, sauna, emotional release workNutrient foundations: Vitamin D + K2, B-complex, magnesium, multi-mineral supportTopics to explore: vagus-nerve stimulation, neural therapy, water filtration, photobiomodulation🤝 Connect with Dr. Jayanth Peddi:Clinic: Lifecare Functional & Integrative Medical ClinicWellness: Serenity Health & WellnessWebsite: lifecarefunctionalandintegrativemedicine.com🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt...

11/5/25 • 69:42

In this deeply compassionate and insightful conversation, Laura welcomes back licensed mental health counselor Laurie Thompson to explore one of the most personal and universal experiences of caregiving: losing yourself in the process.Together, they unpack what it means to lose your sense of identity while caring for someone you love — and how to slowly, intentionally begin to rediscover yourself. From the brain science behind chronic stress to practical mindfulness tools and emotional reframing, this episode offers validation, comfort, and hope for anyone who’s ever thought, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”👤 Meet Laurie Thompson:Laurie Thompson is a licensed mental health counselor and longtime collaborator on Laura’s clinical team. With nearly 15 years of experience supporting caregivers and families impacted by dementia, Laurie specializes in helping individuals manage chronic stress, reclaim a sense of self, and build emotional resilience. Her compassionate approach blends practical brain-based strategies with deep empathy for the caregiving experience.📌 Topics Discussed:- The emotional and neurological impact of chronic caregiving stress- Why caregivers often feel like they’ve “lost themselves”- The brain’s ability to rewire and heal through mindfulness and reframing- Small daily practices that help you reconnect with your identity- The concept of “identity anchors” and how to find yours again- Managing guilt and grief when life no longer feels familiar- How to bring your authentic self into caregiving moments- The power of holding space for both caregiving and self-care⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction and Laura’s connection with Laurie02:15 – Why caregivers often lose their sense of self06:30 – How chronic stress rewires the brain and impacts identity12:00 – The opportunity to “reprogram” your brain through awareness18:30 – Finding small ways to reconnect to yourself25:00 – Mindfulness, sensory awareness, and grounding practices31:00 – The unrealistic expectations placed on caregivers38:45 – Grief, loss, and the “spiritual journey” of caregiving45:00 – Reclaiming identity through small wins and “what went well” moments52:00 – Integrating your authentic self into caregiving58:00 – Closing reflections on empowerment, balance, and self-compassion💡 Key Takeaways:- Losing yourself as a caregiver is a common — and completely human — experience.- Chronic stress physically reshapes the brain, but healing and rewiring are always possible.- Your thoughts are not your identity — you have the power to reframe and redirect them.- Start small: one mindful breath, one grounding moment, one positive note in a jar.- Bring yourself into caregiving — your creativity, humor, and personality are part of what makes your care meaningful.- You can hold both truths: caring for others and caring for yourself are equally vital.📚 Resources Mentioned:Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers by Robert SapolskyMindfulness and sensory grounding practices“What Went Well” Jar exercise for daily positive reflection🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Instagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: Life on Repeat PodcastWebsite: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comEmail: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comIf this conversation resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share the episode with another caregiver who might need to hear it 💛 Every listen helps us reach more caregivers who deserve to feel seen, supported, and hopeful.

10/22/25 • 37:51

Getting a diagnosis can feel overwhelming — especially when you’re not sure where to start or what’s “normal” vs. “not normal.” In this episode, Laura walks you through the signs to watch for, how to know when it’s time to seek answers, and why getting a diagnosis can actually bring relief and clarity. You’ll also learn about common treatable conditions that can mimic dementia symptoms, and how to prepare for a doctor’s appointment so you feel supported and informed.👤 Meet Laura Vaillancourt:Laura is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Geriatric Mental Health Specialist, and the host of the Life on Repeat Podcast. With over 20 years of experience working with individuals and families navigating dementia, Laura’s mission is to provide caregivers with education, encouragement, and resources so they never feel alone on the journey.📌 Topics Discussed:- What’s “normal” forgetfulness vs. concerning memory changes- Red flags that signal it may be time to seek medical evaluation- Treatable conditions that can look like dementia (depression, delirium, vitamin deficiencies, infections, and more)- Who can provide a diagnosis — from primary care to specialists- How to prepare for a medical appointment (questions to ask, what to bring, and how to track concerns)- What to expect after receiving a diagnosis and how to begin building your care team⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Why people wait to seek a diagnosis04:30 – What’s normal aging vs. not normal memory loss08:10 – Treatable conditions that mimic dementia symptoms13:25 – Who can provide a diagnosis and what to expect19:40 – How to prepare for an appointment27:15 – What happens after diagnosis and building your care team34:45 – Resources, planning, and next steps💡 Key Takeaways:- Memory impairment is not a normal part of aging.- Many treatable conditions can cause memory changes, so don’t assume dementia.- Early evaluation helps rule out reversible causes and provides peace of mind.- Preparation is key — bring detailed examples, a list of medications, and questions to appointments.- Getting a diagnosis is not the end; it’s the beginning of support, planning, and resources.📚 Resources Mentioned:Annual wellness exam (Medicare-covered screening)Cognitive assessments (MoCA, MMSE, SLUMS)Local Area Agencies on AgingAlzheimer’s Association resourcesGeriatric care managers and elder law attorneys🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Instagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: Life on Repeat PodcastWebsite: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comEmail: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comIf you’ve been feeling unsure about your loved one’s memory changes, this episode is for you. Take a deep breath — you don’t have to walk this path alone.

10/1/25 • 27:43

In this heartfelt episode, Laura Vaillancourt offers five powerful, research-backed self-care practices for dementia caregivers who are feeling stretched thin. These small, meaningful shifts are designed to help you nurture your mind, body, and spirit — without adding more to your already full plate.If you’ve ever wondered, “But what does self-care actually look like when I’m caring for someone 24/7?” — this episode is for you.📌 Topics Discussed:Why “take care of yourself” can feel impossible for caregiversThe difference between busy and truly connectedHow embracing uncertainty can reduce stress and open possibilitiesThe surprising link between curiosity and lowering stressHow to experience authentic gratitude (not forced positivity)Why movement — not “exercise” — boosts energy and resilienceSimple ways to integrate self-care without adding overwhelm⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 — Introduction: Why self-care feels impossible in caregiving04:10 — Practice #1: Connection10:15 — Practice #2: Embrace the unknown17:30 — Practice #3: Invite curiosity23:20 — Practice #4: Gratitude32:00 — Practice #5: Movement39:45 — How to access Laura’s free 10-step self-care journal💡 Key Takeaways:Self-care isn’t about adding more tasks — it’s about noticing what truly nourishes you.Quality of connection matters more than quantity.Curiosity and stress can’t coexist — curiosity helps unlock creativity and calm.Gratitude works when you feel it, not just when you list it.Movement moves energy, restores vitality, and doesn’t have to be complicated.📚 Resources Mentioned:Free 10-Step Self-Care Journal: Email hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.com to get your download sent right to you!🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Instagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: Life on Repeat PodcastWebsite: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comEmail: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comCaring for yourself is one of the most loving things you can do — for you and for the person you care for. 💙If this episode inspired you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another caregiver who could use a little extra support today.

9/17/25 • 21:20

What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person (HSP) — and how does that intersect with the caregiving journey? In this powerful conversation, Laura sits down with Todd Smith, creator of the Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People podcast, to explore the gifts and challenges of being highly sensitive while caring for a loved one. Todd shares his personal caregiving experiences, insights on inner and outer work, and practical strategies for reducing stress and embracing reframing as a tool for resilience.👤 Meet Todd Smith:Todd Smith is the host of the Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People podcast and founder of True Inner Freedom. For over 18 years, Todd has guided highly sensitive people in breaking free from stress and emotional overload through inquiry-based processes, including The Work of Byron Katie. A highly sensitive person himself, Todd draws on his caregiving journey and personal practice to help others find peace without needing the world to change.📌 Topics Discussed:- What it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)- Todd’s personal caregiving experiences with his grandmother, father-in-law, and mother-in-law- Understanding the DOES framework for HSP traits (Depth, Overwhelm, Empathy/Emotion, Sensitivity)- The overlap between high sensitivity and caregiving strengths- How HSP gifts can also become challenges without boundaries- Why inner work matters for caregivers (and how to begin)- Reframing caregiving experiences as gifts rather than burdens- Using inquiry to manage stress, guilt, and overwhelm⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:02 – Welcome and introduction to Todd Smith04:00 – Todd’s caregiving journey and family experiences10:00 – What it means to be an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person)15:00 – Exploring the DOES framework of HSP traits22:00 – Caregiving strengths and challenges for HSPs30:00 – Guilt, overwhelm, and the importance of inner work40:00 – Reframing caregiving as a gift, not a burden55:00 – Todd’s tools for stress management and daily practices01:00:00 – Closing reflections and how to connect with Todd💡 Key Takeaways:Around 15–20% of people are Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), and this trait can be both a gift and a challenge in caregiving.HSPs often excel at noticing subtle needs and offering deep empathy — essential caregiving strengths.Without balance, sensitivity can lead to overwhelm, guilt, or burnout.Inner work, like inquiry practices, helps caregivers process emotions and prevent stress from building up.Reframing difficult caregiving moments can shift perspective and bring a sense of peace.Caregivers need to care for themselves as much as they care for others.📚 Resources Mentioned:True Inner Freedom – Todd Smith’s WebsiteStress Management for Highly Sensitive People PodcastResearch on Highly Sensitive People by Dr. Elaine AronThe Work of Byron Katie (thework.com)🤝 Connect with Todd Smith:Website: trueinnerfreedom.comPodcast: Stress Management for Highly Sensitive PeopleYouTube: @theworkasmeditation🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat PodcastWebsite: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comYouTube: @LifeonRepeatPodcastInstagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: Life on Repeat PodcastIf you found this conversation helpful, please like, subscribe, and share this episode with others who may need encouragement on their caregiving journey. Together, we can make caregiving feel less isolating and more supported. 💜

9/3/25 • 45:33

Caregivers often wish they had “another set of hands” to help manage endless tasks, appointments, and responsibilities. In this episode of the Life on Repeat Podcast, Laura explores how technology—when used intentionally—can save time, reduce stress, and bring more breathing room into the caregiving journey.From shared calendars and safety monitors to medication reminders and even AI, Laura shares practical tech tools designed to support caregivers without ever replacing the heart of caregiving. This conversation highlights how technology can be a helper, not a substitute—freeing you up to stay connected, present, and human.👤 Meet Laura VaillancourtLaura Vaillancourt is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Geriatric Mental Health Specialist, and founder of Eldercare Counseling & Guidance Services. Through the Life on Repeat Podcast, she helps caregivers feel less overwhelmed and more supported by providing education, resources, and encouragement rooted in compassion and expertise.📌 Topics DiscussedThe heaviest pain points in caregiving (appointments, communication, safety, isolation)5 tech categories that can support caregivers:Daily organization & remindersSafety & monitoring toolsMedical supportEmotional & social connectionRespite & outsourcingReal-life caregiver stories where tech made life easierPractical ways caregivers can experiment with AI (emails, activities, translations, and more)Keeping the “heart in tech”—why connection always comes first⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Why technology can be a caregiver’s ally06:15 – Caregiving pain points that feel the heaviest12:40 – Organization & reminders: calendars, task lists, voice assistants20:50 – Safety & monitoring: GPS trackers, sensors, stove shutoff devices29:35 – Medical support: smart pill dispensers & symptom trackers36:40 – Emotional & social connection: Memoryboard (*Correction: GrandPad mentioned in episode was meant to be Memoryboard), Echo Show, family engagement45:15 – Outsourcing & respite apps (TaskRabbit, Papa, Care.com)51:20 – AI for caregivers: real-world examples and creative uses01:02:00 – Keeping the heart in tech: connection over replacement💡 Key Takeaways:Tech should lighten your load, not replace your role as a caregiver.Shared calendars and digital task lists reduce overwhelm and ease coordination.Safety devices (GPS, fall detectors, stove shutoffs) bring peace of mind.Smart pill dispensers and trackers support independence and medical accuracy.Connection tools like Memoryboard and Echo Show help families stay close from afar.Outsourcing platforms can provide small but meaningful breaks for caregivers.AI can be a practical assistant for emails, activity planning, translation, and more.Start small: one tool at a time to see what truly helps without adding stress.📚 Resources Mentioned:Carely (caregiving app)Google Calendar (shared scheduling)Alexa & Google Home (voice assistants)GPS trackers & smart home sensorsMedMinder & Hero (smart pill dispensers)Symptom tracking appsMemoryboard (tablet for seniors)Amazon Echo ShowTaskRabbit, Papa, Care.comAI tools: ChatGPT, Google Gemini, Claude🤝 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt:🌐 Website:...

8/20/25 • 38:43

Mindfulness is more than meditation — it’s a way of connecting with the present moment, finding calm in chaos, and reclaiming your power even in stressful caregiving seasons.In this episode, Laura Vaillancourt sits down with Laura Alessio, a registered nurse and health and wellness coach, to explore how mindfulness can improve our lives and relationships, help us slow down, and even rewire the way we handle stress.Whether you’re a caregiver feeling overwhelmed or simply looking for practical ways to bring more calm into your day, this conversation will leave you inspired and equipped to start small but powerful mindfulness practices.👤 Meet Laura AlessioLaura Alessio, RN, is a health and wellness coach passionate about helping people integrate mindfulness and self-care into their everyday lives. She founded the free Facebook group Stress Less with Mindfulness, where people can find a safe, supportive community for learning and practicing mindfulness.📌 Topics DiscussedHow Laura discovered mindfulness and integrated it into her nursing careerThe link between mindfulness and stress reduction for caregiversWhat mindfulness actually looks like (beyond meditation)How multitasking rewires the brain — and why “monotasking” mattersThe power of mindful breathing and micro-practices throughout the dayUsing mindfulness to handle high-stress caregiving moments with graceReframing negative self-talk and shifting mental patternsPractical tips for incorporating mindfulness into everyday tasks (even laundry!)⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate) 00:00 – Welcome & how Laura and Laura met at a healthcare event 03:00 – What drew Laura Alessio to mindfulness and nurse coaching 08:00 – What mindfulness really is (and isn’t) 13:00 – Caregivers, multitasking, and how to rewire the stressed brain 18:00 – Micro-practices: one deep breath can shift everything 22:00 – Using mindfulness in challenging caregiving moments 27:00 – Reprogramming negative thoughts & self-talk 33:00 – How mindfulness impacts physical and emotional health 38:00 – Practical steps to integrate mindfulness into daily life 44:00 – Guided breathing exercise💡 Key TakeawaysMindfulness is not about perfection or long sessions — it’s about awareness in the moment.Small actions (like a single deep breath) can calm the nervous system and shift your energy.Multitasking is a learned state, but mindfulness can help rewire the brain toward focus and calm.Mindfulness improves caregiving experiences by helping regulate your own energy and responses.You don’t need extra time to practice mindfulness — you can integrate it into everyday tasks.📚 Resources MentionedFree Facebook Group: Stress Less with Mindfulnessnursecoachalessio.comDr. Joe Dispenza’s work on brain rewiring and meditation🤝 Connect with Laura AlessioWebsite: nursecoachalessio.comFacebook Group: Stress Less with MindfulnessInstagram & LinkedIn: @nursecoachalessio🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat PodcastInstagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: facebook.com/LifeonrepeatpodcastWebsite:

7/30/25 • 52:59

In this heartfelt episode, Laura speaks with Rick Henkin, a spouse-turned-caregiver whose wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at age 65. Rick shares his powerful story of navigating the emotional toll of caregiving, learning acceptance, and discovering how to care for himself so he could better care for his wife. From humor and heartbreak to practical wisdom, Rick offers a moving look at what it truly means to show up with love, even in the face of dementia.👤 Meet Rick HenkinRick Henkin is a family caregiver and advocate who began his caregiving journey when his wife, Sonya, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2020. In response to the emotional challenges of caregiving, he launched the Facebook group For Family Caregivers: Eliminate Stress, Anger, and Guilt and developed the Caregiver Mastery course to help others find peace, presence, and emotional resilience. Rick brings humor, insight, and hope to a journey many walk alone.📌 Topics DiscussedRecognizing the early signs of dementia and navigating diagnosisThe emotional impact of Capgras Syndrome and memory care transitionsHow Rick reframed caregiving through mindset and self-careThe importance of acceptance, humor, and being presentMale caregivers and the unique challenges they faceHow Rick supports other caregivers through community and education⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate)00:00 – Introduction and Rick’s story 05:40 – Receiving the Alzheimer’s diagnosis 11:15 – Capgras Syndrome and emotional toll 17:00 – Realizations about the burden of caregiving 22:30 – Launching his Facebook group and course 29:45 – Choosing memory care and building relationships with staff 40:00 – What it’s like now having Sonya back at home 49:20 – Humor as a survival tool 56:00 – Male caregivers, mindset, and emotional regulation 1:04:30 – Rick’s advice for caregivers and the importance of community💡 Key TakeawaysCaregiver stress is often more about your reaction than your loved one’s behaviorAcceptance of the disease is key to finding peaceHumor can be a powerful tool in difficult momentsTaking care of yourself is essential to being a good caregiverMale caregivers need community and emotional support tooYou don’t have to believe every thought—mindset can be changed📚 Resources MentionedRick’s Facebook group: For Family Caregivers: Eliminate Stress, Anger, and GuiltRick’s course: caregivermasterycourse.comJournal of the American Medical Association caregiver risk studyQuote by Maya Angelou: “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”Quote by Wayne Dyer: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”🤝 Connect with Rick Henkin🌐 Website: caregivermasterycourse.com📧 Email: rick@forfamilycaregivers.com💬 Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/forfamilycaregivers🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast🎙 Website: lifeonrepeatpodcast.com📸 Instagram: @lifeonrepeatpodcast📘 Facebook: Life on Repeat...

6/25/25 • 53:57

In this powerful new episode, Laura speaks with Dr. Lama Sibai and Alice Allen-Redfern, co-founders of Magnolia, about the GUIDE Program — a revolutionary new Medicare pilot project that provides comprehensive, wraparound support to people living with dementia and their caregivers.Dr. Sibai and Alice break down how the program works, who qualifies, and why this signals a major shift in how our healthcare system acknowledges and supports caregivers. Whether you're a family caregiver, healthcare professional, or someone navigating a new dementia diagnosis, this episode is full of crucial information and real hope.👤Meet Dr. Lama Sibai:Dr. Lama Sibai is a clinical neuropsychologist based in Seattle, WA. She specializes in the diagnosis and care of individuals with dementia and movement disorders. Dr. Sibai is a co-founder of Magnolia and a fierce advocate for caregiver education, equity in dementia care, and systems-level change.👤 Meet Alice Allen-Redfern:Alice Allen-Redfern is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in older adults, caregiving, and palliative care. She co-founded Magnolia to address the urgent need for better caregiver support. Alice is a national expert on the new GUIDE Program and is helping families across Washington access these life-changing services.📌 Topics Discussed:What the GUIDE Program is and why it's a game-changerWhy caregiver support is essential and often overlookedWho qualifies for the program and how to applyThe 9 pillars of the GUIDE Program and what families receiveHow Magnolia is building bridges between healthcare and community supportWhy dementia care must include emotional, logistical, and medical supportThe ripple effects of a dementia diagnosis on familiesThe importance of flexibility, education, and advocacy in care planningHow the GUIDE Program empowers families to remain at home longerThe emotional toll of caregiving and the urgent need for burnout prevention⏱️ Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction to the episode01:10 – Meet Dr. Lama Sibai and Alice Allen-Redfern03:15 – The mission behind Magnolia06:20 – What is the GUIDE Program?12:55 – Who qualifies and how the program works19:40 – Breaking down the 9 pillars of GUIDE27:18 – Why caregiver support is essential32:10 – How families can find participating GUIDE providers37:22 – Emotional support, planning, and caregiver identity45:50 – What makes Magnolia’s team unique49:30 – The importance of a collaborative, flexible care model55:45 – How GUIDE supports in-home and long-term care transitions1:02:00 – Respite benefits and emotional care1:07:10 – Final thoughts and gratitude🧠 Key Takeaways:GUIDE is an 8-year Medicare pilot program offering wraparound care for people living with dementia and their caregivers.The program includes monthly check-ins, care planning, respite benefits, and emotional and medical support — all covered by Medicare.Magnolia's care model bridges the gap between clinical care and real-life support, prioritizing the whole family’s wellbeing.Caregivers are viewed as experts and essential partners in the care team.The GUIDE Program recognizes that aging and dementia care require a coordinated, compassionate approach.Even those in assisted living or adult family homes can qualify — this program is designed to meet people where they are.📚 Resources Mentioned:Magnolia:

6/11/25 • 43:30

In this inspiring episode, Laura sits down with Marisa Payne, certified brain and cognitive health coach and dementia care consultant, to dive into the powerful Dementia Connection Model. Together, they explore how sensory-based strategies, cognitive behavioral theory, and structured daily engagement can transform life for both caregivers and individuals living with dementia.Whether you're a family caregiver, a healthcare professional, or simply someone looking to better understand dementia care, this episode is filled with practical tools and hope for deeper connection and better quality of life.👤 Meet Marisa Payne: Marisa Payne is a credentialed brain and cognitive health coach, Dementia Connection Specialist Certified Trainer, and dementia care consultant. With over a decade of experience — and a lifetime of personal connection to elder care — she’s passionate about empowering caregivers with evidence-based, compassionate tools that prioritize both caregiver well-being and dignity for those living with dementia.📌 Topics Discussed:- Marissa’s journey growing up alongside elders and how it shaped her passion for dementia care- What the Dementia Connection Model is and how it works- How cognitive behavioral theory can be applied in dementia caregiving- The power of sensory-based engagement (sound, scent, touch) to create connection and calm- Practical examples from the “Perfect Day” framework caregivers can use daily- Why preserving the dignity, autonomy, and emotional safety of people with dementia matters- How caregivers can feel less isolated and more empowered- How evidence-based training supports both family caregivers and professionals⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate): 00:00 – Welcome and meeting Marisa Payne 02:00 – Marisa’s story: Growing up in a home with elders 07:00 – The link between childhood experiences and dementia care passion 10:00 – Introduction to the Dementia Connection Model 14:30 – How cognitive behavioral theory applies to dementia 19:00 – The role of sensory engagement (music, scent, touch) 25:00 – Examples of building a “Perfect Day” for someone with dementia 30:30 – How this model works in home care vs. facility care 35:00 – How caregivers can lower their own stress with structure 39:00 – Breaking the myth: People living with dementia can still learn 43:30 – How evidence-based tools build real hope for caregivers 50:00 – Resources for getting trained or learning more💡 Key Takeaways:- Caregivers can lower stress and improve quality of life using sensory-based routines- Even with dementia, individuals can still learn — just differently- Evidence-based tools like the Dementia Connection Model offer hope, not just help- Small daily changes (like music and scent) can create powerful emotional shifts- Supporting caregivers' well-being is essential to better dementia care📚 Resources Mentioned:The Dementia Connection Institute – Explore training options and resourcesThe Busy Caregiver’s Guide to Advanced Alzheimer’s Disease by Dr. Jennifer StelterIn Pursuit of Wellness – Marissa Payne’s consulting and support services🤝 Connect with Marisa Payne:Website: InPursuitofWellness.com🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: https://lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram: @lifeonrepeatpodcastFacebook: Life on Repeat PodcastYouTube: www.youtube.com/@LifeonRepeatPodcast✨ Like this episode? Please like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs it. You’re not alone. 💛

5/28/25 • 44:18

In this heart-opening conversation, Laura speaks with Marty Schreiber, former Governor of Wisconsin and author of My Two Elaines: Learning, Coping, and Surviving as an Alzheimer's Caregiver. Marty shares his deeply personal journey of caring for his beloved wife Elaine through Alzheimer's, and how it reshaped his understanding of love, loss, and connection.With humility, humor, and profound insight, Marty offers encouragement and practical wisdom for family caregivers navigating the emotional complexities of dementia care. This conversation is a powerful reminder that even in profound loss, deep moments of love and meaning are possible.👤 Meet Marty Schreiber:Marty Schreiber served as Governor of Wisconsin and spent over 18 years as a public servant before facing his most challenging role yet: caregiver for his wife Elaine, who lived with Alzheimer's disease. Through his experience, Marty became a fierce advocate for caregivers, sharing his hard-won lessons to help others survive—and even find hope—through the caregiving journey. His book, My Two Elaines, has become a beacon of support for countless families around the world.📌 Topics Discussed:Marty's personal caregiving journey with his wife ElaineWhy caregiving requires letting go—and embracing who your loved one is nowThe emotional toll of caregiving and the importance of self-careHow unacknowledged grief impacts caregiversLiving in the present moment with your loved oneTherapeutic fibbing: preserving dignity and connectionWhy caregivers must ask for help (and why it’s an act of courage)Finding meaning, hope, and love even through loss⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Welcome and introduction of Marty Schreiber02:20 – How Marty's caregiving journey began06:45 – Learning to "let go" and love Elaine as she is now11:30 – Emotional challenges: grief, guilt, and frustration18:10 – The power of living in the present moment23:50 – Therapeutic fibbing: creating moments of peace30:15 – Marty's reflections on self-care and asking for help37:40 – Support groups, community, and connection43:00 – How caregiving changes our understanding of love48:50 – Final thoughts: What Marty wishes every caregiver knew💡 Key Takeaways:Caregiving requires profound emotional shifts—and immense courage.Living in the present allows deeper connection, even when memory fades.Self-care is not selfish—it’s essential for both caregiver and loved one.Therapeutic fibbing can preserve dignity and create calm.Asking for help is an act of strength, not weakness.Even amid great loss, moments of love, joy, and meaning can still bloom.📚 Resources Mentioned:My Two Elaines by Marty Schreiber🤝 Connect with Marty Schreiber:Website: mytwoelaines.com🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: https://lifeonrepeatpodcast.com Instagram: @lifeonrepeatpodcast Facebook: Life on Repeat Podcast YouTube:...

5/14/25 • 42:31

In this deeply meaningful episode, Laura sits down with Dr. Aaron Blight, founder of Caregiving Kinetics, to explore how caregiving reshapes our identity, relationships, and personal growth. Drawing from his experience as a family caregiver, home care business owner, and scholar of caregiving, Dr. Blight shares transformative insights on why reflection—not just action—is vital for caregivers.Together, they discuss how caregiving calls us to step off the “hamster wheel” of survival mode, face uncomfortable truths, and ultimately find deep meaning in the caregiving journey.👤 Meet Dr. Aaron Blight:Dr. Aaron Blight is the founder of Caregiving Kinetics, an international speaker, consultant, and author specializing in caregiving, aging, and healthcare workforce development. A former policy leader at the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services, Aaron’s personal caregiving experience profoundly shaped his career. His award-winning book, "When Caregiving Calls: Guidance as You Care for a Parent, Spouse, or Aging Relative," provides caregivers with practical strategies and reflective tools for navigating the complex emotional terrain of caregiving.📌 Topics Discussed:Aaron’s personal story of unexpected family caregivingHow caregiving reshapes identity, relationships, and emotionsThe importance of reflection—not just action—for caregiversHighlights from Aaron’s book When Caregiving CallsWhy traditional healthcare often overlooks caregiver needsIntroducing the Caregiver Mind Shift frameworkHow support groups and community reduce caregiver isolationUsing reflection questions to unlock deeper healing and meaningWhy connection and storytelling matter in the caregiving journey⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Welcome and introduction of Dr. Aaron Blight01:50 – How unexpected family caregiving changed Aaron’s life06:00 – Launching a home care company after caregiving experience09:30 – Why reflection is vital for caregivers' growth13:45 – Exploring When Caregiving Calls and its 18 key chapters18:40 – The role of caregiver identity theory in understanding struggles23:20 – How reflective journaling can transform caregiving30:00 – Stories from caregivers who found healing through reflection36:15 – Caregiver isolation, grief, and the need for connection40:50 – Introducing the Caregiver Mind Shift model48:10 – How community support can extend beyond caregiving seasons52:00 – Final thoughts and where to find Aaron’s work💡 Key Takeaways:Caregiving fundamentally changes who we are—but that change can lead to growth.Reflection and intentional self-inquiry are powerful tools for caregivers.A growth mindset helps caregivers adapt, survive, and ultimately thrive.Building or finding community can ease isolation and emotional burden.Caregiving deserves acknowledgment, support, and compassionate resources.📚 Resources Mentioned:When Caregiving Calls: Guidance as You Care for a Parent, Spouse, or Aging RelativeCaregiving Kinetics Free Resources & Models🤝 Connect with Dr. Aaron Blight:Website: caregivingkinetics.comSubscribe to his newsletter: Caregiving Kinetics Blog🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram:

4/30/25 • 45:11

In this enlightening episode, Laura speaks with Neal Shah, America’s Chief Elder Officer and co-founder of CareYaya, about how technology is transforming the future of elder care. From AI-powered caregiver tools to brain-computer interfaces, Neal shares how innovation—and his own caregiving story—sparked a movement to make high-quality care more accessible, affordable, and human-centered.Whether you’re looking for relief, curious about what’s next in caregiving, or just need a little hope, this episode delivers.👤 Meet Neal Shah:Neal Shah is the co-founder of CareYaya, a platform that connects college students pursuing healthcare careers with families who need in-home caregiving support. Inspired by his own experience caring for loved ones, Neal is on a mission to build a future where compassionate care and smart technology come together to serve older adults—and ease the burden on families.📌 Topics Discussed:Neal’s personal caregiving journey and how it inspired CareYayaWhy caregiving is long overdue for tech innovationHow college students are creating a new model of affordable careThe role of AI and voice tools in supporting caregiver trainingExciting projects: brain-computer interfaces, virtual reality, and moreHow tech can reduce guilt and burnout for family caregiversWhy human connection still matters—even in a high-tech future⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Welcome and introduction of Neal Shah01:00 – From finance to family caregiving: Neal’s personal story03:45 – The emotional and logistical toll of caregiving06:00 – The innovation gap in elder care09:20 – What CareYaya is and how it works12:30 – How the tech platform improves caregiver access and quality16:15 – College students as a compassionate workforce20:45 – Building a scalable, sustainable care model24:00 – The role of AI in caregiver support and training29:15 – What the future of caregiving looks like with AI and neurotech35:30 – New frontiers: brain-computer interfaces, VR, and more42:00 – Closing thoughts on hope, innovation, and dignity in care💡 Key Takeaways:Innovation is essential for sustainable caregivingCollege students offer untapped potential as compassionate caregiversAI and VR can enhance care without replacing human connectionNew tools can ease the emotional weight and guilt caregivers often carryThe future of caregiving can be brighter—and more personal—than ever before📚 Resources Mentioned:CareYaya.org – Learn more about CareYaya’s mission, platform, and innovationsStay tuned for new tools like AI-powered voice companions and neuro-assistive caregiving tech🤝 Connect with Neal Shah:Website: CareYaya.orgLinkedIn: Neal Shah🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: https://lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram: @lifeonrepeatpodcastFacebook: Life on Repeat PodcastYouTube:

4/16/25 • 50:11

📝 Episode Overview:In this episode, Laura sits down with licensed mental health counselor Laurie Thompson to explore the emotional toll of “challenging behaviors” in dementia care. This episode centers the caregiver—what you experience, what you need, and how to protect your own well-being while supporting a loved one.👤 Meet Laurie Thompson:Laurie Thompson is a licensed mental health counselor, dementia connection specialist, and certified sexual and intimacy wellness practitioner. With over a decade of experience working with families, care staff, and individuals in memory care, Laurie takes a holistic, individualized approach to helping both care receivers and caregivers navigate dementia-related challenges.⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction01:55 – Meet Laurie Thompson & her background06:20 – What are “challenging behaviors”?11:10 – All behavior is communication15:30 – Low, medium & high-risk behavior examples24:40 – The emotional impact on caregivers30:15 – Recognizing burnout36:30 – Real-world self-care strategies44:00 – When caregiving becomes unsafe50:50 – Reframing guilt and walking away55:00 – Final encouragement for caregivers📌 Topics Discussed:Understanding “challenging behaviors”Why behavior = communicationRisk levels of behaviors (low, medium, high)How stress impacts your ability to respondCaregiver burnout warning signsWhat to do when caregiving becomes unsafeTiny & medium-sized self-care ideasWhy caregivers must be supported💡 Key Takeaways:All behavior is communication—get curious, not reactive.Caregivers often experience burnout before they recognize it.Self-care isn’t optional—it’s essential to keep the whole system going.Small shifts like journaling or breathwork can have a big impact.Your energy affects the entire caregiving dynamic.It’s okay to call for help. Safety matters—for everyone.📚 Resources Mentioned:Dementia Connection Specialist CertificationADLs (Activities of Daily Living)Caregiver safety planningHabit stacking, grounding techniques🤝 Connect with Laurie Thompson:Contact the Life on Repeat Podcast team for more info.🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: https://lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/lifeonrepeatpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/lifeonrepeatpodcastYouTube: www.youtube.com/@LifeonRepeatPodcast✨ Like this episode? Please like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs to hear it. You’re not alone.

4/2/25 • 46:44

📝 Episode Overview:In this episode, Laura sits down with Martha Ranon, Executive Vice President of the Southern Caregiver Resource Center (SCRC), to talk about the power of turning personal caregiving experience into community advocacy. Together, they explore how caregivers can access meaningful support, educational resources, and the validation they need to continue showing up with compassion and resilience.👤 Meet Martha Ranon:Martha Ranon is the Executive Vice President of the Southern Caregiver Resource Center in San Diego, CA. Her personal journey as a family caregiver led her to a professional path supporting others in similar roles. Martha is a passionate advocate for caregivers, offering support through education, community programs, and public awareness. She helps families navigate the often complex and emotional world of caregiving, particularly for those caring for someone with dementia or cognitive impairments.📌 Topics Discussed:Martha’s transition from family caregiver to professional advocateThe mission of the Southern Caregiver Resource CenterSupport groups and education as tools for caregiver resilienceWhy caregiving should never be done in isolationThe emotional, physical, and mental toll of long-term caregivingBuilding a bridge between caregivers and accessible resourcesSimple steps toward caregiver self-care⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction to Martha Ranon and the Southern Caregiver Resource Center 02:45 – Martha’s personal caregiving story: Caring for her great aunt06:10 – How her caregiving experience led to her professional role08:30 – The mission and work of Southern Caregiver Resource Center11:40 – Challenges caregivers face and the importance of support groups15:20 – The emotional impact of caregiving and how Martha supports families18:10 – Educational programs and how they empower caregivers21:30 – Common caregiver struggles and how community helps26:00 – Martha’s advice for overwhelmed caregivers30:15 – What self-care really looks like for caregivers33:00 – Why accessible resources make all the difference36:20 – Final reflections and how to connect with SCRC💡 Key Takeaways:Caregiver support is essential—not optionalCommunity resources can transform the caregiving experienceEducational programs empower caregivers to advocate for themselvesThere is no “one right way” to care for someone—personalized support mattersEven small moments of self-care make a big differenceYou don’t have to do this alone📚 Resources Mentioned:Southern Caregiver Resource Center – https://www.caregivercenter.org Support groups, educational programs, and local caregiving services🤝 Connect with Martha Ranon:Visit https://www.caregivercenter.org to learn more about Martha’s work and the services available through SCRC.🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: https://lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/lifeonrepeatpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/lifeonrepeatpodcastYouTube:

3/18/24 • 37:56

📝 Episode Overview:In this episode, Laura is joined by clinical psychologist and dementia care innovator Dr. Jennifer Stelter to explore the Dementia Connection Model—a powerful, research-backed approach to dementia care that centers on non-pharmacological interventions like sensory stimulation, behavioral therapy, and prescriptive engagement.Whether you’re a family caregiver or a professional, this episode offers hope, practical tools, and an entirely new lens on what’s possible in dementia support.👤 Meet Dr. Jennifer Stelter:Dr. Jennifer Stelter is a clinical psychologist and co-owner of the Dementia Connection Institute. She developed the Dementia Connection Model, which helps caregivers connect with those living with dementia by focusing on developmental needs instead of chronological age. Her work is rooted in neuroscience, sensory-based interventions, and behavior change—and she is the author of The Busy Caregiver's Guide to Advanced Alzheimer's Disease.📌 Topics Discussed:What is the Dementia Connection Model?How sensory stimulation impacts mood and behaviorCognitive-behavioral therapy adapted for dementia careDiet, routine, and environmental design in caregivingCreativity as a tool for engagement and connectionResults from implementing the model in real-world settingsWhy prescriptive engagement changes outcomes for caregivers and care receivers⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction and Guest Presentation01:23 – Dr. Stelter’s journey into dementia care04:19 – Introduction to the Dementia Connection Model04:43 – The foundational pillars of the model09:15 – The power of sensory stimulation in dementia care12:41 – Cognitive behavioral theory in action16:34 – How to implement the model in daily caregiving21:15 – Visual contrast and food presentation21:34 – Mediterranean diet benefits for dementia patients22:18 – Results from a 3-month implementation study23:07 – Financial and emotional benefits of the model25:08 – Sharing the model through her book26:53 – The role of creativity in dementia care29:59 – What is prescriptive engagement?36:46 – The future of dementia care + next steps for the institute39:18 – Final thoughts and encouragement39:42 – Closing remarks & how to connect with Dr. Stelter💡 Key Takeaways:Non-pharmacological interventions can dramatically improve quality of lifeSensory stimulation can calm the nervous system and support connectionMatching care to developmental age opens new pathways for communicationCreative, consistent engagement can reduce caregiver stress and burnoutCaregiving is most effective when it’s proactive, personalized, and heart-centered📚 Resources Mentioned:The Dementia Connection InstituteThe Busy Caregiver’s Guide to Advanced Alzheimer’s Disease by Dr. Jennifer Stelter🤝 Connect with Dr. Jennifer Stelter:Visit dementiaconnectioninstitute.org for tools, training, and to learn more about the Dementia Connection Model.🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: https://lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram:...

2/2/24 • 40:37

📝 Episode Overview:In this episode, Laura welcomes Kimberly Best, a professional family mediator and former trauma nurse, to talk about one of the most stressful parts of caregiving: family conflict. Together, they explore practical ways to stay grounded, communicate effectively, and navigate emotionally charged situations with clarity and compassion.Whether you’re feeling stuck in a family disagreement or just want to avoid future tension, this episode is packed with tools to help you maintain your cool and preserve peace.👤 Meet Kimberly Best:Kimberly Best is a trained family mediator and owner of Best Conflict Solutions. She specializes in conflict resolution within families, elder care, healthcare teams, and small organizations. Drawing from her experience as a trauma and ICU nurse, Kimberly brings both compassion and structure to emotionally complex situations. She is also the author of How to Live Forever: A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story and is passionate about guiding people through meaningful, values-based conversations.📌 Topics Discussed:What causes family conflict during caregivingTips to de-escalate and stay calm in tense momentsHow to approach emotionally charged conversationsThe role of mediation in dementia and elder careUnderstanding grief, guilt, and family dynamicsWhy boundaries are an act of care—for everyone involved⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction and meeting Kimberly Best 01:38 – From ICU nurse to family mediator 04:44 – Common causes of conflict in caregiving 07:32 – The emotional landscape behind family disagreements 10:15 – Tips for staying grounded during family tension 14:08 – The difference between reacting and responding 16:42 – What transformative mediation really means 20:11 – How to begin difficult conversations with family 24:30 – Why “being right” can get in the way of resolution 28:19 – The role of grief and unspoken pain in conflict 31:47 – Setting boundaries and protecting your peace 35:04 – How to know when mediation might help 38:40 – Final encouragement and how to connect with Kimberly💡 Key Takeaways:Family conflict is common in caregiving—but it’s not inevitableYou can learn to respond instead of react, even in high-stress momentsMediation creates space for healing, not just problem-solvingClear communication starts with emotional awarenessPeace doesn’t mean avoiding conflict—it means navigating it with intention📚 Resources Mentioned:Best Conflict Solutions – Kimberly’s websiteBook: How to Live Forever: A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story by Kimberly Best🤝 Connect with Kimberly Best:Website: bestconflictsolutions.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kimberlybestmediatorInstagram: @kimberly_a_bestFacebook: Best Conflict Solutions🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website:...

12/12/22 • 40:46

📝 Episode Overview:In this deeply moving episode, Laura sits down with Cindy Weinstein, author and English professor, to discuss her experience as a long-distance caregiver for her father who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. Together, they explore themes of grief, memory, storytelling, and how language can help us understand—and cope—with dementia. This conversation blends personal reflection with powerful insights into neurology and the emotional complexity of caregiving.👤 Meet Cindy Weinstein:Cindy Weinstein is the Eli and Edythe Broad Professor of English at the California Institute of Technology. Her academic work focuses on U.S. literature, and she has authored several books. Most recently, she published Finding the Right Words: A Story of Literature, Grief, and the Brain, which interweaves her family’s Alzheimer’s journey with accessible explanations of brain science and emotional healing.📌 Topics Discussed:- Alzheimer’s through the lens of literature and science- What long-distance caregiving looks and feels like- Understanding depression in dementia care- Why language matters in grief and medical conversations- The healing power of writing and storytelling- How caregivers can advocate for themselves through knowledge⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction and meeting Cindy Weinstein02:04 – Cindy’s early exposure to neurology as a literature student04:20 – Her father’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis and long-distance caregiving07:48 – The emotional toll of depression and dementia10:55 – How caregiving restructured her life and perspective14:12 – The power of naming and understanding what’s happening in the brain18:03 – Why Cindy wrote Finding the Right Words21:00 – The importance of storytelling and sharing your journey with medical providers26:10 – Navigating grief and finding moments of beauty and humor32:34 – Reflections on memory, language, and letting go37:45 – How she bridges literature and science in her work42:10 – Final thoughts and message to caregivers💡 Key Takeaways:- Caregiving changes your relationship with time, memory, and identity- Grief can coexist with moments of humor, beauty, and connection- Sharing your story is not only healing—it’s essential in medical settings- Understanding the brain helps caregivers feel more empowered and less alone- Literature and neuroscience can work together to help us process loss📚 Resources Mentioned:Finding the Right Words: A Story of Literature, Grief, and the Brain by Cindy Weinstein → weinsteinandmiller.com🤝 Connect with Cindy Weinstein:Website: weinsteinandmiller.comMastodon: @CindyWeinstein@zirk.us🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: https://lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/lifeonrepeatpodcastFacebook: https://facebook.com/lifeonrepeatpodcastYouTube: www.youtube.com/@LifeonRepeatPodcast✨ Like this episode? Please like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs to hear it. You’re not alone.

11/14/22 • 48:31

📝 Episode Overview:In this honest and deeply relatable episode, Laura speaks with Gretchen Staebler, author of Mother Lode: Confessions of a Reluctant Caregiver. Gretchen shares what it was like to return to her childhood home to care for her 96-year-old mother—after 36 years of “comfortable distance.” Together, they explore identity, self-care, and the raw truth of what it means to show up in the messiness of caregiving.👤 Meet Gretchen Staebler:Gretchen Staebler is a writer, blogger, and family caregiver who left her life on the East Coast to move home and companion her mother through the final years of life. With a background in counseling, she thought she might be prepared—but her journey was anything but predictable. Her memoir, Mother Lode: Confessions of a Reluctant Caregiver, is a heartfelt, humorous, and raw account of what it really means to step into the role of caregiver.📌 Topics Discussed:Long-distance to live-in caregiving transitionsUnexpected emotional dynamics with aging parentsCaregiver survival tools: routines, writing, yoga, and gratitudeWhy storytelling and journaling can be transformationalReclaiming identity while caregivingThe power of naming your experience to regain control⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction and meeting Gretchen Staebler 01:40 – Returning home after decades to care for her mother 04:15 – What caregiving looked like (and what her counseling degree didn’t prepare her for) 06:25 – How she stayed grounded: yoga, writing, routines, and gratitude 10:55 – Creating a writing group as a lifeline 13:35 – Naming and tracking daily caregiving experiences 16:42 – The emotional complexity of caring for an aging parent 20:25 – What she learned about herself during the caregiving journey 25:00 – Finding humor and lightness amid grief 29:10 – Writing her memoir and sharing her story 32:30 – Encouragement for other caregivers💡 Key Takeaways:You don’t have to feel “ready” to step into caregiving—it’s okay to be reluctantWriting can be a healing tool, especially during chaotic seasonsMaintaining personal routines (even small ones) creates stabilityHumor and honesty are powerful survival skillsYou’re allowed to have complicated feelings and still be a loving caregiver📚 Resources Mentioned:Mother Lode: Confessions of a Reluctant Caregiver by Gretchen StaeblerGretchen’s blog: gretchenstaebler.com/blogMain website with resources and reading lists: gretchenstaebler.com🤝 Connect with Gretchen Staebler:Website: https://gretchenstaebler.comBlog: https://gretchenstaebler.com/blogInstagram: @gretchen.staeblerFacebook: Gretchen Staebler – Writer🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: https://lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/lifeonrepeatpodcastFacebook:

10/31/22 • 35:24

In this insightful episode, Laura welcomes Adria Thompson, a speech-language pathologist, dementia educator, and the founder of Be Light Care. Laura and Adria dive deep into how speech, occupational, and physical therapists can support individuals living with dementia — from communication and cognition to mobility and daily living activities. Adria shares her expert tips for navigating challenging behaviors, advocating for therapy services, and creating a dignified care environment. Whether you’re a caregiver, family member, or healthcare professional, this episode is packed with practical strategies and encouragement.👤 Meet Adria Thompson: Adria Thompson is a speech-language pathologist, dementia educator, and creator behind the popular social media platform Be Light Care. Through her relatable videos and educational content, Adria empowers caregivers and professionals to better understand and support people living with dementia. She offers consultations, caregiver resources, and upcoming courses to help ease the caregiving journey.📌 Topics Discussed:The unique roles of physical, occupational, and speech therapists in dementia careHow therapists can prevent falls, address challenging behaviors, and support daily activitiesUnderstanding communication changes and how to “listen” to behaviorsPractical strategies for accessing therapy services (at home, outpatient, or facility settings)Advocating for therapy over medication when addressing behavior concernsCreative success stories, including a transformative intervention using visual cuesThe importance of teamwork and supporting caregivers, not just care receivers⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate): 00:00 – Welcome and introduction of Adria Thompson 02:30 – What physical, occupational, and speech therapists do 10:00 – How therapists support people living with dementia 15:30 – Common challenges: falls, showering, resistance to care 20:00 – Advocating for therapy services vs. jumping to medications 27:30 – How to access therapy services: home health vs. outpatient 35:00 – Working around resistance from loved ones during therapy 40:00 – Creative success stories from real caregiving situations 53:00 – Empowering caregivers with tools, support, and hope 58:00 – How to connect with Adria and upcoming caregiver resources💡 Key Takeaways:Physical, occupational, and speech therapists play crucial, often overlooked roles in dementia care.Behavior is communication — and understanding it leads to better outcomes.Therapists can offer creative, practical interventions that restore dignity and independence.Advocacy is key: caregivers should feel empowered to request therapy services.Supporting caregivers with training and encouragement is just as important as supporting care receivers.📚 Resources Mentioned:Be Light Care WebsiteFollow Adria on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok: @belightcareUpcoming: Dementia Showering Course – launching soon via Be Light Care!🤝 Connect with Adria Thompson: Website: belightcare.com Instagram: @belightcare Facebook: Be Light Care TikTok: @belightcare🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life

10/12/22 • 45:02

In this episode, Laura welcomes Dr. Kimberly Dwyer, a clinical psychologist, author, and business coach with over two decades of experience. Dr. Dwyer shares her expertise on sleep, stress management, and mindfulness, especially for those navigating the challenges of caregiving. Together, they discuss why sleep is crucial for well-being and how caregivers can develop healthier sleep routines to better support themselves and their loved ones.👤 Meet Dr. Kimberly Dwyer: Dr. Dwyer is the author of Mindful Mondays: Transforming the Everyday to Claim Calm and Reduce Stress. She specializes in helping adults, teens, and children manage anxiety, stress, and life transitions. Through her work, Dr. Dwyer emphasizes the importance of sleep, self-care, and mindfulness as foundational elements of wellness.📌 Topics Discussed:The critical role of sleep in overall healthHow sleep impacts emotional regulation and stress managementWhy caregivers often struggle with sleep qualityStrategies to establish healthier sleep routinesUnderstanding sleep hygiene and common sleep disruptorsThe relationship between sleep, memory, and brain functionHow to practice sleep consistency despite caregiving challengesThe impact of caffeine, alcohol, and sleep aids on sleep qualityHow Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBTI) can support better sleepPractical tips for caregivers to improve their sleep environment⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate): 00:00 – Introduction and Dr. Dwyer’s background 03:00 – Why sleep is a foundational aspect of health 08:45 – How stress and anxiety interfere with sleep 12:30 – Sleep and emotion regulation: Why it matters 18:15 – Best practices for creating a sleep-friendly environment 22:00 – Sleep hygiene tips for caregivers 28:40 – Common myths about sleep and sleep aids 32:20 – How CBTI can help with chronic insomnia 38:50 – Managing sleep while caring for someone with dementia 45:00 – Final thoughts and practical takeaways💡 Key Takeaways:Sleep is essential for mental, physical, and emotional health.Consistency in sleep routines can help regulate mood and stress.Caregivers often face unique sleep challenges but can develop routines to optimize rest.Sleep hygiene practices, such as reducing screen time and creating a calming environment, can improve sleep quality.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBTI) is a highly effective, non-pharmaceutical approach to improving sleep.📚 Resources Mentioned:Book: Mindful Mondays: Transforming the Everyday to Claim Calm and Reduce Stress by Dr. Kimberly DwyerWhy We Sleep by Matthew WalkerNational Sleep Foundation – sleepfoundation.orgDr. Kimberly Dwyer’s website – https://drkimdwyer.com/🤝 Connect with Dr. Kimberly Dwyer: Website: https://drkimdwyer.com/ Instagram: @drkimdwyer Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrKimDwyer/🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast: Website: lifeonrepeatpodcast.com Instagram:

9/12/22 • 46:36

In this powerful episode, Laura sits down with Mark Macy and his son Travis Macy to explore their incredible journey of resilience, adventure, and living with Alzheimer's. Mark, a former trial lawyer turned endurance athlete, shares how his life changed after being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Together with his son Travis, a fellow endurance athlete, coach, and author, they discuss how endurance sports prepared them to face life’s toughest challenges, including Mark’s diagnosis.From adventure racing in Fiji to creating a powerful memoir, Mark and Travis share their insights on staying active, keeping the faith, and finding purpose even in the face of adversity.👤 Meet Mark and Travis Macy:Mark Macy: A former lawyer and elite endurance athlete who has completed some of the world’s toughest races, including Ironman and Eco-Challenge. Mark continues to live a full life despite his Alzheimer’s diagnosis, sharing his story to inspire others.Travis Macy: An ultra-endurance athlete, coach, author, and podcast host. Travis shares how his father’s diagnosis reshaped their relationship and strengthened their bond.📌 Topics Discussed:How Mark Macy transitioned from law to endurance sportsThe pivotal moment that inspired Mark to become an athleteAdventure racing and the world of ultra-endurance sportsHow endurance sports taught them resilience and teamworkMark’s journey with Alzheimer’s and his decision to live life fullyThe power of sharing your story to help othersTravis’s experience as a caregiver and sonTheir new memoir A Mile at a Time and its impactStaying connected, staying active, and keeping the faith⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Welcome and introduction of Mark and Travis Macy03:30 – How Mark got into endurance sports08:45 – Travis shares childhood memories of adventure racing14:20 – The transformative power of endurance sports21:00 – Mark’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis and how he responded28:30 – How their family adapted and grew stronger together34:15 – Facing challenges with resilience and mindset42:00 – Their new book A Mile at a Time and what readers can expect50:30 – Final thoughts on staying active, connected, and keeping the faith💡 Key Takeaways:Resilience is built one challenge at a time.Sharing your story can bring hope to others.Stay active and connected, even when facing hardship.Alzheimer’s doesn’t define a person’s life.Keep the faith, and don’t be afraid to ask for help.📚 Resources Mentioned:A Mile at a Time (Book) by Mark and Travis Macy – Available March 14, 2023.Travis Macy’s Website: www.travismacy.comTheir Podcast: The Travis Macy ShowNational Sleep Foundation: www.sleepfoundation.orgBeing Mortal by Atul Gawande🤝 Connect with Mark and Travis Macy:Podcast: The Travis Macy ShowBook: A Mile at a TimeYou can learn more and follow Travis here:Facebook: @travis.macy.7Twitter: @TravisMacyInsta: @travismacywww.travismacy.comwww.amileatatimebook.comwww.thetravismacyshow.com Follow Mark here:Instagram:  @mmacy146Facebook: @mark.macy.5283And check out Imagine Publishing:Twitter: @Imagine_CBInsta: @Imagine_cbFacebook:...

8/22/22 • 50:26

In this powerful rewind episode, Laura speaks with Charlotte Bayala—caregiver, coach, and creator of the Love Your Caregiving Life podcast and Caregiving Confidential digital magazine. Charlotte opens up about her long-term caregiving journey for her husband following his thyroid cancer diagnosis, and how it forced her to reevaluate everything she knew about self-care. From meditation and burnout to redefining joy and learning to be present, this conversation is a validating and heartfelt reminder that your well-being matters, too.Whether you’re new to caregiving or have been doing it for years, Charlotte’s wisdom offers a gentle nudge to stop, breathe, and prioritize yourself without guilt.Meet Charlotte Bayala:Charlotte Bayala is the creator of the Love Your Caregiving Life podcast, the Cancer Caregiver Podcast, and the Caregiving Confidential digital magazine. A long-term caregiver for her husband since his thyroid cancer diagnosis in 2013, Charlotte is also a yoga and meditation teacher and caregiver coach. Her work supports caregivers in rediscovering calm, joy, and self-compassion—no matter what stage of the journey they’re in.Topics Discussed:Charlotte’s story: from yoga teacher to full-time caregiverHow caregiving changed her life and identityThe myth of “just meditate” and why self-care often feels out of reachThe emotional and spiritual toll of long-term caregivingWhy it’s okay if the things that once brought you joy no longer doThe importance of adapting routines and rituals to a new life realityHow to make self-care doable—on your termsLetting go of guilt, perfection, and the pressure to "do it all"Reframing the future and reclaiming the present momentTimestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Welcome + introduction of Charlotte Bayala03:45 – Charlotte’s caregiving journey and sudden diagnosis10:20 – Why even skilled meditators struggle under caregiver stress14:40 – A new relationship with self: reframing identity and joy21:10 – The emotional rollercoaster of long-term caregiving29:00 – When your favorite self-care tools stop working35:30 – How to find new ways to soothe your nervous system41:45 – The spiritual reckoning and quiet crisis of caregiving48:00 – Letting go of busywork and learning to pause55:30 – Making your care a non-negotiable priority1:02:00 – Shifting thoughts, reclaiming the moment, and self-compassionKey Takeaways:You are not your thoughts—and you are not aloneIf old tools no longer bring peace, try new forms within your comfort zoneSelf-care doesn't have to be expensive, long, or quiet—it just has to fit your lifeCaregiving changes everything; your needs matter just as muchReframing the future starts with being fully present todayResources Mentioned:Love Your Caregiving Life PodcastCancer Caregiver PodcastCaregiving Confidential digital magazineBook: Being Mortal by Atul GawandeWork of Dr. Joe Dispenza Connect with Charlotte Bayala:Website: www.loveyourcaregivinglife.comOther Podcast: www.cancercaregiverpodcast.comInstagram: 

8/8/22 • 44:12

In this inspiring rewind episode, licensed clinical social worker and SoulCollage® facilitator Jennifer Wolfe-Hagstrom joins Laura to explore the powerful process of SoulCollage®—a creative method for accessing your inner wisdom. Jennifer shares how this practice supports caregivers in connecting with parts of themselves that are often neglected and offers tools for healing, reflection, and resilience. Whether you’re navigating burnout or simply craving a creative outlet, this episode invites you to slow down and tune in.👤 Meet Jennifer Wolfe-Hagstrom:Jennifer Wolfe-Hagstrom is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker working with clients online in New Hampshire and Vermont. She is also a certified SoulCollage® facilitator and offers workshops to the general public. Jennifer specializes in supporting highly sensitive people and caregivers, blending therapeutic and creative modalities to foster self-compassion and holistic well-being.📌 Topics Discussed:What is SoulCollage® and how it worksIntuitive vs. intentional collage creationHow creativity supports emotional processingHow SoulCollage® can benefit caregivers and those with memory impairmentThe therapeutic power of symbolic imageryJennifer’s personal experience with card making and emotional transformationHow to begin SoulCollage® on your ownFinding facilitators and workshops online⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction to Jennifer and SoulCollage®04:00 – How Jennifer discovered SoulCollage®07:45 – What is SoulCollage®? The process explained13:15 – Examples of cards and personal reflections21:10 – Symbolism, archetypes, and externalizing inner experiences25:30 – Using SoulCollage® with caregivers and memory care31:40 – Card creation as a tool for emotional healing37:15 – Guidance, workshops, and how to get started45:30 – Final reflections and where to find Jennifer’s work💡 Key Takeaways:SoulCollage® is a creative process that helps people access their inner wisdom through symbolic imagery.Caregivers can use SoulCollage® to process emotions, connect with parts of themselves, and manage burnout.Cards can be made intuitively or intentionally and become personal tools for ongoing reflection and healing.There’s no wrong way to begin—just start with images that speak to you.Working with a trained facilitator offers valuable guidance and support, especially when deeper emotions arise.📚 Resources MentionedSoulCollage® Evolving by Seena B. Frostwww.soulcollage.comwww.worldofcollage.comKindnessCorner.com🤝 Connect with Jennifer Wolfe-Hagstrom🌐 Website: kindnesscorner.com📷 Instagram: @kindness.corner🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast🌐 Website: lifeonrepeatpodcast.com📸 Instagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcast📘 Facebook: facebook.com/LifeonRepeatPodcast📧 Email: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comLoved this episode? Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who could use a little more creativity and connection in their caregiving journey. 💛

7/25/22 • 38:34

Caregivers are no strangers to burnout — but do you really know what it looks like when you’re in it? In this episode, Licensed Clinical Social Worker Gabrielle Juliano-Villani helps us untangle the difference between stress and burnout, what red flags to watch for, and how to reconnect with joy (even when it feels out of reach).Gabrielle brings wisdom, lived experience, and a powerful metaphor you won’t forget: some of the balls you’re juggling are plastic… but others are glass. Knowing the difference might just change everything.👤 Meet Gabrielle Juliano-VillaniGabrielle Juliano-Villani is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, consultant, and the founder of GJV Consulting and Training. With a background in caregiving, chronic pain, and mental health, Gabrielle specializes in burnout prevention — teaching professionals and organizations how to recognize burnout, build emotional resilience, and foster supportive work cultures that allow people to thrive.📌 Topics DiscussedThe key differences between stress and burnoutHow burnout shows up physically, mentally, and emotionallyEarly warning signs you might be ignoringThe isolation caregivers face — even when surrounded by othersHow to reconnect with joy when it feels out of reachSimple but powerful tools for shifting out of burnoutGabrielle’s glass vs. plastic ball metaphor Why connection and appreciation are essential for recovery⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate)00:00 – Meet Gabrielle + her caregiving & mental health background04:00 – Defining burnout vs. stress: “Too much” vs. “Not enough”07:00 – Emotional signs of burnout: numbness, apathy, hopelessness10:00 – The power of connection & the impact of isolation16:00 – Support groups: why they matter (even when you resist them)18:30 – How to spot changes in behavior that indicate burnout22:00 – The caregiver identity shift and loss of personal baseline25:00 – Questions to ask yourself if you think you're burned out29:00 – Gabrielle’s reflections on the physical toll of burnout32:00 – What brings you joy? And what to do if the answer is “nothing”36:00 – Rebuilding joy through memory, movement, and intention39:00 – EMDR, mental pathways & how the brain rewires43:00 – Gabrielle’s advice to caregivers who feel unseen or unsupported46:00 – The glass vs. plastic ball metaphor (don’t miss this!)50:00 – How to get support from Gabrielle💡 Key TakeawaysBurnout and stress are not the same. Stress is overstimulation; burnout is depletion.Burnout often feels like apathy, numbness, hopelessness, or isolation.Caregivers are usually the last to notice they’re burned out.Connection is essential. Seek support, even if it’s through small new steps.Your body remembers joy. Tap into past experiences to rebuild those neural pathways.It’s okay to drop some of the balls — just catch the glass ones.📚 Resources MentionedMaslach Burnout Inventory (MBI)EMDR TherapySupport groups for caregivers (local and virtual)🤝 Connect with Gabrielle Juliano-VillaniFind Gabrielle on LinkedInEmail: leadingwithGJV@gmail.comAvailable for consulting, training, retreats, and organizational support on burnout prevention and caregiver wellness.🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat PodcastInstagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: facebook.com/LifeonrepeatpodcastWebsite: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comEmail: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comProfessional Services: eldercarecounselor.comIf this episode resonated with you, share it with someone you care about. 💛Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast on your favorite platform —...

7/18/22 • 33:46

Most of us were never taught how to grieve — yet loss is an inevitable part of life. In this rewind episode, Beth Luwandi, success coach and licensed professional counselor, shares compassionate guidance on how to move through grief in a healthy way. From normalizing the grieving process to learning how to shift unhealthy coping mechanisms, Beth brings hope and perspective to an experience that often feels overwhelming.👤 Meet Beth LuwandiBeth Luwandi is a success coach and licensed professional counselor specializing in relationships and healing after loss. She works primarily with mid-life women who are ready to break old patterns and find more satisfaction and purpose. Beth believes that “we are made to heal” — and her approach empowers clients to do just that.📌 Topics DiscussedWhy it’s so important to do the work around lossHow early coping mechanisms can keep us stuckTypes of loss (beyond just death)What people can expect after they do the workNormalizing the grief process and gaining perspectiveHow to learn healthy grieving skills and shift patterns that no longer serve you⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate)00:00 – Introduction to Beth Luwandi04:22 – How grief shows up in everyday life10:47 – Why avoiding pain doesn’t work long-term17:15 – Normalizing grief and reframing loss24:50 – “We are made to heal” and what that means for us31:35 – Practical ways to move through grief with perspective38:20 – Beth’s resources and where to learn more💡 Key TakeawaysGrief isn’t the problem; lacking the skills to process it is.We often internalize coping mechanisms modeled to us early in life — and they may not truly heal our pain.All types of loss (big and small, expected or unexpected) deserve acknowledgment and care.Healthy grieving can lead to perspective, peace, and even joy in remembering those we’ve lost.“We are made to heal” — your body, mind, and heart already know how📚 Resources MentionedBeth’s Online Course: Successful GriefBeth’s Website: BethLuwandi.comBlog Post: “An Ideal Grief”🤝 Connect with Beth LuwandiWebsite: BethLuwandi.comOnline Courses: LivesWork.org🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat PodcastInstagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: facebook.com/LifeonRepeatPodcastPodcast Website: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comPodcast Email: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comProfessional Services: eldercarecounselor.comIf you’ve ever struggled to navigate grief or wondered if healing is truly possible, this conversation is for you. Remember: you are made to heal.

6/27/22 • 43:14

What happens when your inner critic runs the show—especially while you’re caring for someone else? In this rewind episode, Nicole Burgess, a clinically trained Soul-Led Leadership Coach for highly sensitive professional women, joins Laura to unpack stress in the body, everyday mindfulness practices, and how to soften perfectionism so you can receive more calm, joy, and support.Nicole also shares how her fiber arts weaving practice restores her—and why creative outlets with a clear beginning, middle, and end can be deeply grounding for caregivers.👤 Meet Nicole BurgessNicole Burgess is a clinically trained Soul-Led Leadership Coach to ambitious, highly sensitive, professional women leaders. She hosts the Soulfilled Sisterhood podcast and founded the Self-Care Summit: Improve Your Bottom Line and Your Persona. Nicole helps clients move from overthinking and perfectionism to presence, purpose, and sustainable self-care.📌 Topics DiscussedStress in the body: common signals (stomach, shoulders, headaches) and simple nervous-system resetsMicro-mindfulness you can actually do: breathing, shower/teeth-brushing presence, mindful walks, single-taskingMemory worries vs. anxiety: why being present matters for forming memoriesPerfectionism & the inner critic: all-or-nothing thinking, fear of judgment, giving that part a “back seat”Boundaries with advice-givers: permission to say no; asking for help on your termsCreativity as care: how weaving (and any tactile craft) can bring completion and calmPractical tools: brain dumps, nature breaks, hydration, tiny five- to ten-minute resets⏱️ Timestamps (Approx.)00:00 – Welcome + Nicole’s path: therapy, coaching, podcasting04:30 – Creativity & weaving as grounding (beginning–middle–end)08:40 – Storykeeping for caregivers: memory books & meaning-making12:30 – How stress shows up in the body; quick breath + posture resets17:20 – Micro-mindfulness: shower, brushing teeth, mindful walking22:30 – Presence, time, and easing the “I don’t have time” loop26:40 – Anxiety vs memory: why presence helps you remember31:10 – What mindfulness is: observing without attaching or fixing36:50 – Perfectionism & the inner critic: moving from black-and-white to gray43:30 – Boundaries with outside opinions; asking for help49:20 – Naming the critic as a part (not all of you)53:30 – Nicole’s self-care go-tos: nature, brain dumps, tiny practices57:40 – Where to find Nicole + resources💡 Key TakeawaysYour body signals stress before your mind does—listen early, respond gently.Mindfulness can be tiny: one breath, one task, one sense at a time.Worried about memory? Presence is what allows memories to encode.Perfectionism blocks joy and peace; most caregiving has no single “right” way.Your inner critic is a part of you, not all of you—it doesn’t have to drive.Ask for help. People can’t support needs they don’t know about.🔗 Resources MentionedNicole’s site: Nicole Burgess...

6/20/22 • 38:06

In this episode of the Life on Repeat Podcast, I sit down with Peg Sandeen, CEO of Death with Dignity and a social worker with 25+ years in end-of-life care. Together, we explore one of the most difficult—but important—topics for caregivers: end-of-life choices, dignity, and what options really exist for families facing dementia.Peg shares her personal story of losing her husband to HIV-related dementia in the 1990s and how it shaped her life’s work. We talk openly about the Death with Dignity laws in the U.S., why dementia does not currently qualify, and what families can do to prepare and communicate their wishes with compassion and clarity.This episode is about facing hard truths while also feeling empowered with knowledge, so you can better support yourself and your loved ones.👤 Meet Peg Sandeen:Peg Sandeen is the CEO of Death with Dignity in Portland, OR, and has more than 25 years of experience as a social worker in end-of-life care. Her personal and professional journey gives her unique insight into the challenges of caregiving, policy, and how we talk about dying in our culture.📌 Topics Discussed:Why end-of-life conversations are still taboo—and why they matterPeg’s personal story of caregiving, loss, and advocacyWhat the Death with Dignity laws allow (and don’t allow)Why people with dementia do not qualify under current U.S. lawsThe differences between U.S., Canada, Switzerland, and Belgium policiesThe role of POLST/MOLST forms and healthcare agentsHow caregivers can prepare their loved ones’ wishes with clarityRethinking death as a social issue with a medical component, not just a medical problem⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction + why this conversation matters04:20 – Peg’s personal caregiving story and early work in end-of-life care13:00 – What Death with Dignity laws cover and how they work22:30 – Patient and family experiences: calm, clarity, and choice33:00 – Why dementia patients are excluded from current laws41:00 – International perspectives: Canada, Switzerland, Belgium48:15 – The importance of advanced directives, POLST/MOLST, and choosing the right agent56:00 – Preparing families for dignity, clarity, and compassionate decision-making💡 Key Takeaways:Difficult conversations about end-of-life care are easier before a crisisDeath with Dignity laws allow choice, but exclude people with dementia due to competency requirementsInternational approaches vary, but the U.S. currently has no pathway for dementia within these lawsEvery caregiver should have clear conversations about wishes, markers of quality of life, and a trusted healthcare agentEnd-of-life care is about more than medicine—it’s about community, caregiving, and dignity📚 Resources Mentioned:Death with DignityIn Love by Amy Bloom (book)🤝 Connect with Peg Sandeen & Death with Dignity:Website: deathwithdignity.org🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:Website: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comInstagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: facebook.com/LifeonrepeatpodcastEmail: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comThese are not easy conversations—but they are necessary ones. My hope is that this episode brings you clarity, courage, and compassion as you navigate caregiving and end-of-life decisions. Please like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who may need it. 💙

5/16/22 • 38:49

In this rewind episode, Laura speaks with Dr. Maggie Syme, licensed psychologist and Project Director at the Marcus Institute for Aging Research, about one of the most overlooked topics in dementia care: sexual wellness and intimacy. Together, they unpack how intimacy changes with aging and dementia, the challenges caregivers face, and why it’s essential to honor this part of life with compassion and openness.👤 Meet Dr. Maggie Syme, PhD, MPH:Maggie Syme, PhD, MPH, is a licensed psychologist and Project Director at the Marcus Institute for Aging Research. She specializes in sexual wellness for older adults, with a focus on reducing stigma, supporting caregivers, and helping families navigate intimacy throughout the dementia journey.📌 Topics Discussed:How sexual relationships change during the course of dementia progressionPractical ways to maintain intimacy and connection for both caregivers and people living with dementiaRecognizing and navigating consent when awareness fluctuatesUnderstanding and responding to inappropriate sexual behaviors (ISB)The impact of stigma, ageism, and cultural attitudes on sexual wellnessHow long-term care settings can (and should) support intimacyWhy grieving changes is important—and how caregivers can still embrace new ways of connecting⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Introduction to Dr. Maggie Syme06:30 – How generational and cultural beliefs shape intimacy in aging15:45 – Biological and psychological factors that affect sexual wellness28:10 – Navigating intimacy and consent with dementia41:20 – Responding to inappropriate sexual behaviors (ISB)54:00 – Supporting intimacy in long-term care facilities1:05:00 – Grieving change and redefining connection💡 Key Takeaways:Sexuality and intimacy remain important throughout aging and dementia.Consent in dementia care requires close attention to behavioral cues and a willingness to pause when needed.Intimacy is broader than sex—it can include cuddling, touch, and emotional connection.Caregivers deserve validation for their own needs and can explore new ways to honor them.Reducing stigma around sex and aging helps families create more supportive, compassionate care plans.📚 Resources MentionedNational Institute on Aging – Sex and dementia articlesAlzheimer’s Association – Changes in Sexuality and IntimacyLong-Term Care Ombudsman Program – Resident rights and advocacy🤝 Connect with Dr. Maggie SymeCurrently at the Marcus Institute for Aging ResearchNational Institute on Aging (sex and dementia articles)Alzheimer's Association: Changes in Sexuality and Intimacy🌿 Connect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat PodcastInstagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcastFacebook: facebook.com/LifeonRepeatPodcastWebsite: lifeonrepeatpodcast.comEmail: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comIf you found this episode helpful, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who might benefit. Every share helps us build a stronger caregiving community where no one feels alone. 💜

5/2/22 • 50:26

In this episode, I sit down with Teresa Quadres, LCSW to explore Polyvagal Theory and how it applies to the caregiving journey. Teresa explains how our autonomic nervous system responds to stress through the “ladder” of three states—ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal—and how recognizing and befriending these states can help both caregivers and their loved ones. Together, we unpack practical ways to notice, normalize, and regulate our nervous system responses while caregiving.👤 Meet Teresa Quadres:Teresa Quadres is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 25 years of experience in healthcare, primarily in palliative care and hospice. She currently balances her work as a palliative care social worker with her private psychotherapy practice, where she supports caregivers and individuals navigating stress, grief, and life transitions.📌 Topics Discussed:What Polyvagal Theory is and why it matters for caregiversThe “ladder” analogy: ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal statesHow trauma and stress shape nervous system responsesCo-regulation between caregivers and their loved onesReframing guilt and why caregiver self-care isn’t selfishPractical tools to recognize and shift your state⏱️ Timestamps (Approximate):00:00 – Welcome and re-introduction to Teresa06:00 – What is Polyvagal Theory?12:45 – The three nervous system states explained21:10 – How caregivers get “stuck” in stress responses30:00 – Co-regulation and supporting your loved one40:00 – Tools for noticing and befriending your nervous system53:00 – Anchors, glimmers, and practical tips for daily caregiving💡 Key Takeaways:Your nervous system is constantly scanning for cues of safety or danger—even outside your awareness.Caregivers can learn to recognize where they are “on the ladder” and use awareness as the first step toward regulation.Co-regulation is real: calming yourself helps calm your loved one.Self-care is not selfish—it directly impacts your loved one’s wellbeing.Tools like glimmers, anchors, and mindful awareness can help reframe stress and bring more balance.📚 Resources Mentioned:Teresa Quadres’ website: TeresaQuadres.comTeresa’s blog (on Polyvagal Theory and caregiving)Deb Dana – Rhythm of RegulationBook: Anchored by Deb DanaBook: Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers by Robert Sapolsky🤝 Connect with Teresa Quadres🌐 Website: TeresaQuadres.comConnect with Laura Vaillancourt & the Life on Repeat Podcast:🌐 Website: lifeonrepeatpodcast.com📱 Instagram: @lifeonrepeat.podcast📘 Facebook: facebook.com/Lifeonrepeatpodcast📧 Email: hello@lifeonrepeatpodcast.comThank you for tuning in to this rewind episode! 💜 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who may need encouragement today. Every caregiver deserves tools, support, and a little hope on the journey.

4/11/22 • 42:58