Married After Kids

Social media has us believe that a great marriage means feeling like newlyweds forever, with constant passion, weekly date nights, and never-ending butterflies. But that’s not real life. And when we compare our relationships to those unrealistic expectations, it’s easy to feel like something is missing.    In this episode, I’m breaking down what a truly strong, healthy marriage looks like, what Instagram gets wrong, and how to shift your perspective so you actually appreciate the marriage you have.   Tune in to discover: The misleading message social media sends about what a happy marriage “should” look like Why the absence of passion or frequent date nights doesn’t mean your marriage is failing The key expectations that can make or break how satisfied you feel in your relationship The sneaky comparison trap that might be making you feel less connected to your spouse What a healthy, fulfilling marriage actually looks like and how to build one that feels good for you   Let’s redefine what a great relationship really is, one that makes you feel safe, secure, and truly supported.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

3/24/25 • 28:12

Being sick is hard enough, but have you ever noticed how it also stirs up tension in your marriage? Maybe it highlights just how uneven the mental load is or leaves you feeling uncared for when you need support the most. If getting sick has ever made you feel resentful, disconnected, or just plain exhausted in more ways than one—this episode is for you.   Tune in to discover: Why sickness can trigger disconnection and resentment in your marriage The real reason moms struggle to rest when they’re sick (and why dads don’t) How societal expectations shape the way illness plays out in partnerships The mindset shift that prevents arguments before they start The simple steps you and your spouse can take to support each other better   This episode will change how you and your spouse navigate illness and care for each other—so you feel like a team, even when life (or the flu) tries to take you down.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

3/17/25 • 30:58

What if the biggest thing keeping you disconnected from your spouse isn’t about spending more time together or even putting in more effort? So many couples focus on what’s missing in their marriage, but what if the real secret to reconnecting is something completely different? In this episode, I’ll help you shift your mindset and show you a powerful way to start feeling closer to your spouse again—without forcing anything or twisting yourself into a pretzel.   Tune in to discover: Why feeling disconnected has more to do with how you see your spouse than what they’re actually doing How to stop your brain from only noticing the things they aren’t doing The subtle but powerful mindset shift that makes everything feel easier Why focusing on the proof of your spouse’s love can create a ripple effect of connection A simple challenge to help you start seeing your spouse in a new way—starting today   This episode will change how you think about connection in your marriage. Share it with a friend and don’t forget to send me your review of the podcast for my free gift to you to celebrate 200 episodes!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

3/10/25 • 27:06

Something sneaky is quietly eroding connection in so many marriages, and chances are, it’s happening in yours too. It’s not just the big fights or major betrayals. There’s something else that builds up over time, leaving you feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected. But here’s the good news—once you recognize it, you can clear it out and finally feel like you’re in this together again.   Tune in to discover: Something that happens all the time—intentionally or unintentionally—that creates disconnection (and what to do instead) Why missing your spouse’s bids for connection is more damaging than you think The shift that stops you from feeling like you’re carrying everything alone How to express what you need in a way that actually gets heard Simple strategies to replace resentment with real partnership and connection   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

3/3/25 • 25:21

What does it take to build a marriage that not only lasts but thrives for 78 years? After witnessing my grandparents’ incredible love story, I’m sharing the key lessons from their decades together—lessons that can help you strengthen your own marriage today. These aren’t just old-school values; they are the foundations of a happy, connected, and resilient partnership.   Tune in to discover: The simple daily habit that keeps appreciation alive in a marriage Why respectful communication (even during conflict) is a game-changer How to prioritize your relationship through every season of life The mindset shift that makes your spouse feel like your greatest teammate The small but powerful ways to keep love and connection strong for the long haul   If you want to build a marriage that stands the test of time, this episode is for you. Share it with your partner or someone who could use these insights!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

2/24/25 • 24:54

The little things in your marriage matter more than you realize. Those tiny, everyday moments—how you respond, the words you choose, the way you show up—are either strengthening your connection or quietly pulling you apart. But with just a few intentional shifts, you can start feeling more loved, supported, and connected in your marriage!   Tune in to discover: The hidden habit that leads to resentment (and how to shift into a team mentality instead) A simple mindset change that prevents defensiveness and encourages connection How micro-moments of connection can completely transform your relationship (without requiring big date nights or getaways) The key difference between assuming the worst vs. giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt A small language tweak that instantly makes conflict feel less like a battle and more like a collaboration   These shifts may be small, but they have a huge impact. Try them out and watch how they change the way you and your spouse connect!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

2/17/25 • 26:08

Ever feel like your marriage is the problem? Like your spouse isn’t meeting your needs, follows through on nothing, or always gets defensive? While those things do need to change, there’s something bigger at play that makes everything feel so much harder—and it’s not just your relationship. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden stressor that’s quietly making marriage after kids so challenging (and what you can do about it).   Tune in to discover: Why marriage feels so much harder after kids—and why it’s not just you The unseen force that turns small conflicts into major disconnection How this stress makes even good marriages feel bad (and rocky ones fall apart) The mindset shift that helps you and your spouse work together instead of against each other The two must-have tools to get unstuck and actually feel happier in your relationship   If you’ve ever felt like your marriage shouldn’t be this hard, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about what’s really going on—and how to start fixing it today.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

2/10/25 • 33:30

Parenting disagreements can feel so personal—like you’re being judged by your spouse or anyone watching from the sidelines. But when you and your partner don’t see eye-to-eye on how to raise your kids, it can lead to fights that leave you both feeling disconnected. In this episode, I’ll show you how to navigate these differences and create a parenting partnership that works for both of you.   Tune in to discover: How to handle the judgment you feel from your spouse (or that stranger in the grocery store) The key to hearing each other and finding a way forward—even when you disagree Why keeping your shared goal of raising great kids in mind changes everything The power of emotional validation and saying the things that often go unspoken How to compromise without always agreeing, so you both feel good about your parenting decisions   This episode will help you as parents take the first steps toward working together as a team. Share it with your partner or a friend who could use these tools!   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

2/3/25 • 27:41

Have you ever opened up to your spouse about the mental load, only to be met with defensiveness, resistance, or invalidating responses? It can feel hopeless, lonely, and leave you questioning whether your partner truly understands or cares. This episode is for you if you’ve tried having these conversations but still aren’t getting what you need.   Tune in to discover: Why defensive or invalidating responses to the mental load feel so painful and isolating Scripts you can use when your spouse says frustrating things like, “Well, no one asked you to do all that,” or, “I guess I’m just a bad husband” The importance of understanding your spouse’s intentions and how to navigate the emotions behind their reactions How to avoid shutting down in your marriage, even when things don’t go well Why the solution lies in building systems that work for both of you (and how to start that conversation today)   If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying everything alone or that your spouse just doesn’t “get it,” this episode will help you approach these tough conversations with confidence, clarity, and love. It’s not about proving who’s right or wrong—it’s about finding a way to tackle the mental load together.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

1/27/25 • 27:25

Are you tired of feeling like you’re the one holding everything together - not just managing the household, but also keeping track of every need, schedule, and responsibility for your kids and spouse? The mental load can feel overwhelming, and even more so when you’re carrying it alone. But how do you talk to your spouse about it without it turning into an argument? In this episode, I’m sharing exactly what to do to approach this sensitive topic and how to build a stronger partnership in the process. Tune in to discover: Why the mental load isn’t just about tasks, but about the emotional weight of carrying everyone’s needs The #1 reason holding the mental load makes you feel disconnected and lonely in your marriage How to feel more appreciated and validated, even if your spouse doesn’t fully understand what you’re going through A step-by-step approach to talking to your spouse about the mental load without triggering defensiveness or conflict   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

1/20/25 • 35:26

Have you ever felt upset when your spouse says they’ll do something and then just… doesn’t? Or when they say they’ll be home at a certain time and aren’t? These small moments might not feel like a big deal at first, but over time, they fracture trust in your marriage. And without realizing it, these small cracks can lead to resentment, disconnection, and even marriage shutdown. In this episode, I’m diving into the small ways trust is broken, how it impacts your relationship, and, most importantly, how you can fix it fast to restore connection and partnership.   Tune in to discover: The surprising everyday actions that are quietly breaking trust in your marriage The quickest way to push your marriage toward shutdown (and how to stop it) How to rebuild trust through small, intentional actions that make a big impact The secret to knowing exactly what your spouse needs to feel valued and supported Simple strategies to repair fractured trust and create a stronger, more connected partnership   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

1/13/25 • 30:15

As we head into a new year, let’s focus on setting your marriage up for success in 2025. Whether your relationship feels strong or strained right now, these actionable tips will help you intentionally improve your connection and partnership in the months ahead. This episode is packed with simple yet impactful strategies that don’t require a ton of time or energy—perfect for busy parents.   Tune in to discover: Why lasting change takes time and how to stay consistent long enough to see results A surprising and powerful tool (that takes less than 5 minutes!) that has the ability to transform your marriage How to align your daily actions with your priorities (and make space for what fills you up) A simple method to organize household management and reduce resentment How to spot and shift negative thought patterns about your spouse and marriage to build a stronger foundation   Let’s make 2025 the year your marriage thrives—starting today.   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

12/30/24 • 28:12

The holidays can be an overwhelming time, especially for couples already feeling the strain of marriage shutdown. Many couples find themselves struggling even more during this season, and divorce filings spike right after the holidays for a reason. In this episode, I’ll share practical, research-backed strategies to help you avoid becoming part of that statistic, feel more connected to your spouse, and create the holiday season you truly want.   Tune in to discover: The staggering statistic about divorce after the holidays (and what it means for your marriage) Why holiday stress puts extra strain on marriages (and how to counteract it) How to avoid fights or de-escalate them before they spiral out of control The importance of clearly communicating your needs (and not assuming your spouse can read your mind) One simple question to ask yourself daily to ensure you’re staying aligned with what truly matters Why expert support can make all the difference when your marriage feels stuck   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

12/23/24 • 22:37

Parenthood is a never-ending grind, and the stress of it all can often feel overwhelming. But did you know that how good you feel as a parent is directly impacted by one key thing? In this episode, I’ll reveal what that is and show you how to create more capacity for joy in parenting by prioritizing this often-overlooked area of your life.   Tune in to discover: The connection between the quality of your marriage and your happiness as a parent Why resentment, disappointment, or frustration with your spouse depletes your capacity to parent at your best How to prioritize fun with your spouse, even when resentment feels like a barrier The tools you need to switch the dynamic in your marriage instead of focusing solely on what your spouse isn’t doing Why the thoughts you have about your spouse might not be true (and how reframing them can strengthen your bond) The #1 tip to take your marriage from struggling to thriving   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

12/16/24 • 29:33

62% of couples polled on my Instagram admitted to fighting with their spouse most of the holiday season.    Holidays are supposed to be joyful, but the stress can bring out the worst in even the happiest couples. In this episode, I’ll show you how to stop feeling like enemies and start working as a team to handle the most common holiday stressors—so you can actually enjoy the season together.   Tune in to discover: What to discuss before the chaos begins (so no one ends up disappointed) How to handle family dynamics as a team—even with triggers, in-law drama, or differing traditions Tips for navigating holiday parties to avoid tension, misunderstandings, or solo parenting The one thing couples often neglect during the holiday rush—and why it needs to stay a priority A simple approach to gift-giving that feels fair and stress-free Scripts and exact words to get on the same page with your spouse about it all   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

12/9/24 • 30:47

Feeling unseen, invalidated, or completely shut down in your marriage? You’re not alone—and there’s a way to feel connected again (and it’s simpler than you think). Marriage isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning, growing, and showing up for each other, even when it’s hard. In this episode, I’m diving into the powerful reactions to one of my viral reels about feeling lonely, unvalued, and disconnected in marriage. Let’s explore what these struggles have in common and, most importantly, how to move forward. Tune in to discover: How societal themes around marriage shape our relationships and expectations Why it’s okay to need more than your spouse to feel fully supported How to take control of your happiness in marriage—without waiting on your partner to change The key to building a stronger connection (and the do’s and don’ts of listening, validating, and understanding your partner’s perspective) Why timing matters and how waiting for calm can transform tough conversations The importance of developing the skills that will not only ease conflict but also make you feel better in your relationship   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

12/2/24 • 29:28

In this episode, we’re diving into something I know so many of us feel but don’t always talk about: that deep need to feel supported and truly connected with our partner. Sometimes, it’s not about what your partner does or doesn’t do; it’s about the little moments that either build trust or chip away at it. Remember that classic line from The Break-Up with Jennifer Aniston? “I want you to want to do the dishes!” It’s a funny moment, but it’s also deeper than that. We're exploring what this really means when it comes to feeling supported by our partners. Tune in to discover: The 3 most common reasons couples feel unheard and disconnected - and what you can do about it How small, every day promises (like showing up on time or picking up groceries) can significantly impact whether we feel truly supported and seen The truth about the “mental load” and why an imbalance here can lead to resentment Practical tips for creating a fair, flexible system at home where both partners feel valued   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

11/25/24 • 32:37

Intimacy goes far beyond the physical; it’s about creating a safe, loving space where you and your partner feel truly valued and cherished. With the whirlwind of daily life, kids, and endless to-do lists, building a relationship that not only survives but thrives can feel overwhelming. But making time to nurture each other isn’t just a nice-to-have - it’s essential. In this episode, I’m joined by the amazing Susan Bratton, an Intimacy Expert and advocate for couples who crave lasting passion and connection. Trust me, you won’t want to miss her insights on keeping the spark alive, especially during life’s busiest seasons! Tune in to discover how to: Cultivate intimacy that feels safe, pressure-free, and fulfilling for both of you Make time for what truly matters to build a joyful, lasting marriage Harness the power of communication and empathy to deepen your connection Bust through the “no time” myth and prioritize your relationship Use “erotic play dates” to keep things fun, fresh, and free from pressure   Resources mentioned in episode: seductiontrilogy.com Sex tips newsletter: betterlover.com sexlifebucketlist.com 30 Day Masturbation Challenge: https://betterlover.com/30-day-masturbation-challenge/ pumpingguide.com   ---   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

11/18/24 • 43:09

Sometimes, the topics that make us most uncomfortable are the ones we need to talk about the most. In this episode, we’re diving into the tough (but crucial) topic of triggers - those moments that make us feel defensive, frustrated, or downright vulnerable in our relationships. If you’ve ever felt like certain conversations leave you feeling overly angry or misunderstood, this one’s for you. Tune in to discover: Why it’s often easier to focus on what we wish our partner would change rather than looking inward (and what happened when my partner pointed out something I never expected) The hidden reasons behind feeling “triggered” and how to understand what’s really going on beneath the surface A surprising strategy to use in arguments that shifts the dynamic and helps both of you feel seen How to recognize your own triggers and communicate them to your spouse Why facing your triggers head-on is essential for breaking free from the same frustrating cycles The power of grace and love when dealing with uncomfortable feelings   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

11/11/24 • 30:34

You don’t want to wait months (or even years!) to feel happier and more connected in your marriage. And the good news is, you don’t have to. There are simple shifts you can make today to start seeing results right now. Let’s dive into strategies that can help you bring more joy, ease, and connection into your relationship, even in the busiest seasons of life.   Tune in to discover: Why the importance of feeling good in your marriage is often overlooked A surprising question to ask yourself about how you spend time together (hint: is it more about connection or just tackling to-dos?) How things outside your marriage may be influencing how you feel inside your marriage - and why taking care of yourself could be the key to feeling closer The underrated power of setting up systems with your spouse to support each other and keep the household running smoothly Why setting clear boundaries in your marriage is key to feeling respected and connected Why getting the right kind of support could make you feel a huge sigh of relief (and where to start)   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

11/4/24 • 36:10

Have you seen the “marriage is scary” TikTok trend? While it’s fun to laugh about the little things that can be scary in a marriage (and trust me, they are valid), there’s often a lot more beneath the surface that couples may not realize.   In the spirit of Halloween, let’s dive into the bigger, deeper issues that can make your marriage feel scary - especially after having kids and, most importantly, how you can address them to move forward in a happier, healthier way.   Tune in to discover: The #1 thing every relationship needs to thrive (spoiler: it’s the opposite of scary - safety), and why couples who lack it are in dangerous territory Why your spouse’s words - whether it’s a compliment or a criticism - cut deeper than anyone else’s What to do when you feel stuck - when you want things to change in your marriage, but don’t know how to work together to make it happen How to resolve conflicts without damaging your relationship, and instead, use disagreements to build a stronger connection The hidden danger of carrying an unequal mental load, and how to address it when you’re feeling overlooked, unsupported, and uncared for   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

10/28/24 • 30:49

Juggling the demands of parenthood often leaves intimacy on the backburner. In this episode, I’m joined by marriage and family therapist Steph Flood, who has helped countless couples rediscover a healthy, joyful marriage. Together, we’re diving into realistic ways to stay connected, even in the busiest seasons of parenthood.    Tune in to discover: Why the first five years of parenthood require so. much. grace.—and how to give it to yourselves and each other The common challenge most women face post-baby and how it impacts intimacy How men can help reignite intimacy in their relationship Our conversation on why today’s dads are more involved than ever, but often lack the models or skills to actively support intimacy The one small shift that brings lightness and fun back into your marriage Practical tips to help women get to a place where intimacy feels good again What she works with couples on (figuring out what feels right/good)   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

10/21/24 • 38:45

Is your spouse preventing you from being happy in your marriage? The truth is, you may be focusing on the wrong thing. In this episode, I’ll guide you through the most common barriers to building the marriage you want - and how shifting your approach can lead to real, lasting change.   Tune in to discover: Real-life examples of why couples come to me feeling unfulfilled (often assuming their spouse simply won’t meet their needs - when that’s rarely the case) What’s actually getting in the way of your spouse meeting your needs (hint: it’s not that they don’t care) The biggest factor holding you back from the marriage you desire How mismatched or unclear expectations are creating tension and frustration Why the way you’re asking for change may be pushing your spouse away and causing defensiveness or distance The impact of being at different stages of change and how it’s affecting your ability to grow together   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

10/14/24 • 28:57

When your marriage feels like it’s falling apart, it can be hard to imagine things ever changing for the better. The hopelessness creeps in, making you feel like a failure. And social media? It only adds to the pressure. The truth is, marriage doesn’t have to be this complicated - especially after having kids - and I’m here to help you make it easier!   Tune in to discover: The common myths couples come to me with (hint: they think marriage should just work) The biggest mistake people make that ends up making their marriage harder Why you feel so guilty when you try something new you saw on social media and it doesn’t work The three simple keys to having a happy and healthy marriage How to block out the noise and figure out what truly works best for you and your relationship   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

10/7/24 • 25:22

Reality TV. Bridgerton. Romance novels. We all crave that kind of intense, sweeping passion in our own relationships - the kind that has us glued to our screens. But what if that kind of love is actually setting us up for disappointment? Here’s my (very) unpopular opinion: The real magic in a successful marriage lies in safe, steady, and consistent love - not in grand, movie-worthy gestures. In this episode, I’ll break down why stability is the true secret to a fulfilling relationship. Ready to be convinced?   Tune in to discover: The one thing no one tells you about deepening your connection with your spouse How to figure out exactly what works for YOUR marriage (and why Hollywood-style romance is setting you up for a letdown) Why prioritizing this one thing can make your marriage feel so much better Simple ways to better support your mental load as a team (without adding stress!) What brushing your teeth daily has to do with having a healthy marriage (it makes more sense than you think!) The only time to have important conversations with your spouse (hint: when you’re able to really listen and validate them!)   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

9/30/24 • 31:33

Do you know what works for you when life feels overwhelming? Do you know how your spouse can best support you? When the mental load is already heavy, and the to-do list feels endless, it’s time to talk about how to avoid tension and get the support you need most.   In this episode, I’m getting real about the stress I’m feeling in this season of life. I’ll share how I’m handling it, the strategies that have helped me (and my clients), and how you can use them too.   Tune in to discover: The very first thing to do when it all feels too much How to ask for and accept help - from your spouse and others Ways to go from feeling lonely and unsupported to genuinely feeling cared for by your partner The powerful shift I made in my marriage to feel fully supported Why it’s essential to work on this now - and the cost of not addressing it   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

9/23/24 • 30:21

No one seems to be talking about this. After years as a marriage expert and staying on top of the latest research, I recently came across something that made my jaw drop. It sheds new light on why so many couples struggle after having kids, and I’m surprised I’ve never seen it framed this way before.   Tune in to discover: A staggering statistic about marriage and parenthood that changes everything How having a child shifts both individuals in a relationship - and why it can feel so isolating The single most important thing you and your spouse need to do to stop your marriage from feeling like a struggle How to align with your spouse and become a team to support each other through the challenges The key thing you and your partner are probably missing that’s creating conflict - and how to fix it   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

9/16/24 • 28:28

Here’s the thing: this tool works every single time when it comes to defensiveness, yet so many people resist it - including my clients. But if you’re serious about building a stronger marriage where both your needs are met, this is one tool you can’t afford to skip. Ready to try the tool you’ve probably been avoiding but absolutely need?   Tune in to discover: A deep dive into defensiveness in relationships (with relatable personal examples) The real reasons behind your defensiveness and how it shows up in your marriage What makes this defensiveness tool completely maddening, yet so effective How to approach conversations when you suspect your spouse might get defensive Practical steps to increase trust, safety, and love in your marriage   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

9/9/24 • 25:42

We all know that feeling of being surrounded by people yet feeling completely alone—like no one truly sees or notices you. Parenthood can make it all too easy to lose yourself and your sense of joy. In this episode, we normalize those feelings and explore how to reconnect with who you are and what you need to feel more fulfilled.   Tune in to discover: The hidden shame of not knowing who you are or what you truly enjoy The key to unlocking your unique path to feeling less lonely (hint: it’s different for everyone) Practical steps to take when loneliness hits Thought-provoking questions to help you discover and prioritize YOUR needs—not everyone else’s The one crucial thing everyone should know about themselves (that no one else can tell you)   FREE LIVE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

9/2/24 • 30:36

If you're waiting for things to magically improve in your marriage once the kids are older or life calms down - think again. Change doesn’t just happen; it requires active, intentional effort. If you notice any of these red flags in your relationship, start acting on them today.   Tune in to discover: The misconception that everything will return to the way it once was “someday” How you might be blocking your spouse from validating you without even realizing it Whether your actions are truly justified when your spouse makes you mad - and vice versa The one thing you should prioritize above all else to fuel your marriage (and it’s not about scheduling date nights) How your assumptions about your spouse can shape your relationship and your happiness What to focus on to ensure your marriage works for BOTH of you   Sign up for my live FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

8/26/24 • 33:18