Somebody You Love

It’s a big fat Holly & Jenna recap episode! What did we get up to this year? What games, movies, and tv shows did we love? What new sexual experiences did we encounter? And what is coming up for us in 2025??Support the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

12/19/24 • 95:22

NSWP (Global Network of Sex Work Projects): https://www.nswp.org/membersAPNSW (Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers): https://apnswnew.wordpress.com/membership/members/Sources: https://soundcloud.com/socialismconf/behind-the-rescue-sex-work-migration-and-the-anti-trafficking-industryhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-CfYvmGIzREhttps://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2012/03/the-white-savior-industrial-complex/254843/https://www.artofcitizenry.com/podcast/episode-15-rescue-industryhttps://truthout.org/articles/the-american-rescue-industry-toward-an-anti-trafficking-paramilitary/https://titsandsass.com/baked-goods-or-baby-missionaries-in-conversation-with-the-cupcake-girls/https://www.hrw.org/report/2010/07/19/streets/arbitrary-detention-and-other-abuses-against-sex-workers-cambodiaSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

12/5/24 • 53:31

Well, the time has come. We are finally doing a deep dive on the Nordic Model! End Demand, Swedish Model, Equality Model... whatever you want to call it, it sucks. Sources: Sex in the New Europe: The Criminalization of Clients and Swedish Fear of Penetration, Kulick, 2003Twenty Years of Failing Sex Workers: A community report on the impact of the 1999 Swedish Sex Purchase Act, Fuckforbundet, 2019 Sex Work and the Nordic Model (w/ Freja and Elizabeth), The Importance of Being Feminist, 2021The human cost of ‘crushing’ the market: Criminalization of sex work in Norway, Amnesty International, 2016What do sex workers think about the French prostitution act?, Medecins Du Monde, 2019Support the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

11/21/24 • 59:06

The film The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas was released in 1982, based on the 1978 musical, based loosely on a true story. The movie stars Dolly Parton and Burt Reynolds and this week Holly and Jenna are sharing their thoughts on it! Support the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

10/24/24 • 69:33

Combining 15 years as a professional undresser, award-winning stripper, pole dancer, & 🌽 star with an international research portfolio spanning SWer activism, LGBTQ+ health, sexual rights and sextech, it’s Zahra Stardust!Order Indie Porn: Revolution, Regulation, and Resistance: https://avidreader.com.au/p/indie-porn-revolution-regulation-and-resistanceSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

10/3/24 • 62:22

Pomma Granet, also known as Blair Bishop, also known as OnlyPomma, Juicy Pomma, Succubus Slut, and a host of other usernames given how many times they’ve had accounts deleted, is a New York-based full service sex worker, adult content creator, BDSM & fetish provider, cammer, and much more. Blair describes themselves as a bit of a nerd - they love video games, cosplay, anime, crafting, and alternative fashion and they are often traveling the country for anime conventions. They also spend a lot of their time online yelling into the void about sex worker’s rights and thus they fit right in here! Further reading: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00224499.2011.628132https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-23030090Support the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

9/19/24 • 62:37

CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assaultWelcome to part 2, and apologies for the darkness of these episodes! This time Holly & Jenna each share another story of stalking/harassment, as well as talk about the red flags they’ve learnt to watch out for, parasocial relationships, hitting on people at work, and female perpetrators. Support the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

9/5/24 • 68:34

CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault, animal death. We use the term “grandfathered” in this episode. We understand this term has very racist origins, and we apologise for the mistake. A better term would have been “legacy rates”While we are not more likely to be victims of violence because we sell sex, we are more likely to be victims of violence because people think the fact that we sell sex makes us less than human. Which is the whole reason this podcast exists. Today Holly & Jenna are each sharing one of the more harrowing experiences they have had in this industry.  For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

8/22/24 • 58:57

Holly finally convinced Jenna to watch Pretty Woman and here we are! Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

8/8/24 • 67:25

Note: we had some technical issues when recording this episode, so unfortunately the audio isn’t at the level we usually like to deliver! Buy SLUTDOM: ​​https://www.uqp.com.au/books/slutdom-reclaiming-shame-free-sexualityDr Hilary Caldwell has been a sex worker for over 20 years and decided to come out of hiding to publish her first book. She is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the world to explore women buying sexual services and was informed by her sex work and professional career in the field of sexology. She is kinky and queer, a mother and grandmother. Dr Caldwell has recently released her first book, Slutdom, which argues convincingly and passionately for women’s enjoyment of sex as a force to advance gender equality. Delving into topics such as pleasure, pain, empowerment, and including real women’s stories and saucy tips, we are welcoming Dr Caldwell on the show to discuss her research, the Slutdom movement and her experiences as an academic and secret sex worker.Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

7/25/24 • 53:21

How do I ask how recently they were tested for STIs? How do I ask for us to do something different this time? What if I get down there and it smells really bad? Holly & Jenna give you tips on how to tackle tricky topics and sticky subjects. They also answer the listener question “Is there room for older ladies to succeed in SW?”Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodMERCH: http://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storeInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

4/18/24 • 67:33

In part three of this series (make sure you’ve listened to parts 1 & 2 if you’re new or thinking about joining the industry!), we’re talking about the actual booking - how do you keep time, how to set up for and run a booking, how to do health checks, tips for building assertiveness, and what mental self care is necessary in this job. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

3/28/24 • 53:30

In part two of this series, we are moving more into the logistics of the job itself. Holly and Jenna talk about advertising & advertising platforms, dealing with time wasters, screening, getting deposits, and supplying invoices. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodSomebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

3/14/24 • 55:20

Michael (he/him), and Louise (she/her) both lost their “virginity” to sex workers and they’ve both agreed to share their stories on the show! *Virginity is a social construct, but we talk about that more in the episode. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

2/29/24 • 51:43

Yep, this week we are mining reddit for content. We read out the SW-related stories of contributors to /r/AITA and decide if we think:NTA (not the arsehole)YTA (you are the arsehole)NAH (no arseholes here)ESH (everyone sucks here) Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

2/15/24 • 74:31

Get your jazz hands ready, we’re doing musicals! Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41U6nuxshQciTYfLLnIsfb?si=a50dc606af40463eSonglist: 1. I Dreamed a Dream (Les Miserables, 1980) 2. Lovely Ladies (Les Miserables, 1980)3. The Movie in my Mind (Miss Saigon, 1989)4. The Transaction (Miss Saigon, 1989)5. No One Knows Who I Am (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990)6. Bring on the Men (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990)7. Someone Like You (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990)8. Out Tonight (RENT, 1994) 9. I Don’t Know How To Love Him (Jesus Christ Superstar, 1971)10. Sugar Daddy (Hedwig and the Angry Inch, 1998)11. Big Spender (Sweet Charity, 1966)12. There’s Gotta Be Something Better Than This (Sweet Charity, 1966)13. Don’t Tell Mama (Cabaret, 1966)Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

2/2/24 • 43:27

Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41U6nuxshQciTYfLLnIsfb?si=a50dc606af40463eMandatory article: https://www.mandatory.com/culture/1066689-the-10-best-songs-about-prostitutesSong list: 1. Call Me (Blondie, 1980)2. What Would You Do (City High, 1999)3. Sweetest Girl (Wyclef Jean, 2007)4. Slut Money  (ZAND, 2020) 5. The A Team (Ed Sheeran, 2011)6. None of Your Business (Salt-N-Pepa, 1993)7. Sugar Daddy (Qveen Herby, 2020) 8. Lady Marmalade (Labelle, 1974) and then by Xtina, Mya, Pink and Lil Kim in 20019. Killer Queen (Queen, 1974)10. Roxanne (The Police, 1978)Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

1/18/24 • 35:41

TW: Shit People Say mentions sexual assaultMeet Charlie Bear, a trans, non-binary sex worker based in Melbourne, on Wurundjeri land. They were assigned female at birth, but currently live in a body that falls between female and male, and use they/them pronouns. They see clients of all genders, and are on the show today to talk about the gender binary, the SWERF 'n' TERF lunch special, and both the privileges and pressures that come with being an 'out' non-binary sex worker. Charlie’s website: charliebearbookings.comIntersex Human Rights Australia: https://ihra.org.au/Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

1/4/24 • 71:37

Holly spreads the festive fun while Jenna tries to maintain her strong boundaries around frivolity. CHAPTERS04:32: Sexy Gift Giving Guide 202320:50: Porno or not-porno?26:30: Holiday traditions50:17: New Years Booking WishlistsLINKSPipedream Fantasy for her – Her ultimate pleasure: https://www.randyfox.com.au/fantasy-for-her-her-ultimate-pleasure-licking-sucking-pleasure-pump.htmlAlliance Ultra Plush MIcrofibre Pillow: https://www.mydeal.com.au/alliance-ultra-plush-microfibre-pillow-standard-4260271Spareparts Joque Unisex Strap-on Harness: https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/strap-ons/strap-on-kits/p/spareparts-hardwear-unisex-joque-strap-on-harness/a18043g22339.htmlAustralian Wildlife Sanctuary: https://www.australianwildlifesanctuary.com.au/Exit: The Game Advent Calendar: https://www.gameology.com.au/products/exit-the-game-advent-calendar-the-silent-stormSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

12/21/23 • 60:40

Season 4 is here and we’re finally tackling the minefield of a topic that is male escorts!01:00 Main Segment: The Problem with Male Escorts57:25 Shit People Say: “you're definitely not seeing clients in the family home”Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodMerch: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storeInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

12/7/23 • 67:03

CW: Deaths of peers 54:29 - 1:00:00For our final episode of season 3 we’re filling you in on what has happened in the world of Holly & Jenna (and Mr Love) over the last two years of Somebody You Love. What’s changed, what hasn’t, and what’s to come. And we answer a listener question on the topic of sex worker ethics Bella Green’s book ‘Happy Endings’: https://www.booktopia.com.au/happy-endings-bella-green/book/9781760982768.html‘The’ Buzzfeed video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWm9rdU6IRY&ab_channel=BuzzFeedOz&themeRefresh=1Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

8/31/23 • 79:48

CW: Weight loss, fatphobiaHolly & Jenna interview Lex Leigh - a nerdy gamer girl who has worked in the adult industry her entire adult life, including online and in person, and over the last few years has lost a total of 50kgs. She shares with us her reasons for wanting to lose weight, the physical and mental toll it has taken on her, and the reactions of clients/fans and her peers.Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

6/1/23 • 54:52

CW: SW slursWhy don't we like to be called "prostitutes"? When did this start and what are the alternatives? What is the harm in using slurs? What are the common arguments people use to continue saying the p-word?We know we've said we don't like the word on our show, but we've not gone into depth and we've received a few questions about it, so here's a whole hour dedicated to this gross word (that SWers are welcome to reclaim if they wish)!Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

4/13/23 • 64:13

Charlie has many years experience in different areas of the industry, having started initially in Aotearoa (New Zealand) doing online work as well as full service. He is currently the Male Project Worker at SWOP NSW and he joins us today to talk to us about how and where M4M sex work takes place, hookup culture and opportunistic work, resources and access to community, and safer sex practises. 1:52: Main segment41:07: Shit People Say Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.orgWA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

3/16/23 • 48:47

Sophie is renowned for being the only German trans mistress in Australia and she recently announced her intentions to retire from SW this year, due to the negative experiences she has encountered as a trans person within the industry.We’ve had gender diverse people on the show before, but thus far we haven't delved into the challenges unique to this community, so we invited Sophie on the show to share her perspective.Meaningful Work: Transgender Experiences in the Sex Trade: https://www.transequality.org/sites/default/files/Meaningful%20Work-Full%20Report_FINAL_3.pdfKirby Institute 2018 Australian Trans and Gender Diverse Sexual Health Survey: https://kirby.unsw.edu.au/report/2018-australian-trans-and-gender-diverse-sexual-health-survey-report-findingsPatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

2/16/23 • 59:08

Jenna managed to convince her mum to be on the show, and here she is - giving us the full, honest lowdown on what it’s like to have your daughter tell you she’s a sex worker. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR):http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta):http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

1/19/23 • 41:04

CW: Mentions of sexual assault This week Holly & Jenna explain what you might expect when going to get STI tests and share some of their own horror stories of going to do so. Jenna shares a Shit People Say interaction with someone who thinks she is running a sting operation, and a listener sends in a thoughtful and nuanced question about how we can best support providers when they are going through a horrible time. 1:19: Main Segment: Sexual health gaps in the medical system 51:46: Shit People Say: r u a cop55:36: Question of the Week: How should a client respond when a worker announces they have suffered an assault in the workplace? Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

12/29/22 • 66:41

Mr Love is Jenna’s husband and primary partner of 13 years. He’s also our sound engineer, and probably would’ve preferred to keep it that way, but Jenna & Holly somehow managed to convince him to make a guest appearance on the show, so here he is! Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

12/15/22 • 49:29

Today Holly and Jenna are giving  their uncensored opinions on the Australian Broadcasting Corporation 's (ABC) Compass TV Special 'Nude Next Door', while hoping they don't get sued. Nude Next Door featured our very own Jenna Love, along with Billie Beever,  Coralea Jade,  Billie Peques, and Phoebe Thompson. Watch the doco here (You'll need a VPN if you're not in Australia):  https://iview.abc.net.au/show/nude-next-doorInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodFor more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.auSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

12/8/22 • 53:00

TW: Trauma (obviously), and sexual trauma Don't worry, we're not about to trauma dump on y'all. We're discussing the narrative of "xx% of sex workers have experienced childhood trauma" which is apparently supposed to be an argument against decriminalisation? Or human rights for sex workers? We're not entirely sure, tbh, but we're tackling it in this episode. We answer a question about whether we get nervous when meeting new clients, and we've got a short, but hopeful, Shit People Say for you. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodTwitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodSomebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four, empowering sex workers through technology: https://assemblyfour.com/ For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopntQld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.htmlTas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vcWA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.orgSupport the showMERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/storePatreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupodInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupodX: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupodFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupodYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

11/17/22 • 39:14