The Divorce Podcast

In this episode, Kate is joined by Sarah Furness, performance expert and former combat helicopter pilot, to hear her story of separation and what she’s learned along the way.Mindfulness and resilience during divorceSarah opens up about her experience of divorce in the military, the emotional challenges that came with it, and how her family helped her through. She shares how these experiences led her to focus on mindfulness, resilience and wellbeing.Kate and Sarah explore practical techniques for managing emotions during divorce, reframing your mindset and finding calm during change. They also talk about common myths around co-parenting and how sharing personal experiences, both at work and in everyday life, can help build stronger connections.A summary of what we cover:Navigating the practicalities of divorce in the militarySarah’s go-to techniques for managing emotions and mindsetWhy your child isn’t “broken” because of your divorceHow openness and authenticity can build stronger human connectionsSarah Furness and her workSarah is a Founder of Well Be It, a coaching consultancy specialising in employee resilience and empowered leadership. She’s a keynote speaker, bestselling author and former helicopter pilot. After graduating from Cambridge University, Sarah followed her dream to become a combat helicopter pilot in the RAF. As a Squadron Leader she led on operational combat tours in Iraq and Afghanistan and she was the first female helicopter pilot to fly and lead UK Special Forces missions in Iraq. So she has a proven track record leading teams to victory in the most extreme conditions. As a qualified mindfulness coach and human factors facilitator Sarah combines her military expertise with proven cognitive techniques to expertly guide people on their own journey of discovery. More divorce resourcesYou can learn more about Sarah Furness on her website, you can purchase her book Fly Higher on Amazon and you can find out more about her coaching services on Well Be It website.Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #SeparationStory

11/12/25 • 37:38

This week, Kate is joined by Candice Bull, Divorce Specialist at amicable, to unpack what a prenup is and why you might need one.Prenup 101Kate and Candice talk through everything you need to know about prenuptial agreements - what they cover, how long they last and whether they’re automatically legally binding. They explore how to make sure a prenup is fair for both partners and why these agreements are not just for the wealthy.Candice also shares why more couples are choosing prenups today, how often they need to be updated and how to start this conversation with your partner.Here are some points covered in this episode:What a prenup is and what it includesWhen to update your prenupHow to keep things fair when one partner has more moneyWhy prenups are becoming more common among younger couplesTop tips for discussing a prenup togetherCandice Bull from amicableCandice is a Negotiation Divorce Specialist and part of the Negotiation Team at amicable. After qualifying as a family law solicitor in 2019, she gained invaluable experience in private family law practice. Passionate about supporting couples through separation, Candice is dedicated to empowering them to make informed decisions about their future and guiding them through constructive negotiations which are kind, collaborative and truly amicable.More divorce resourcesGot a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world #LegalBit

11/5/25 • 10:42

In this episode, Kate is joined by Susie Giles and Liz Harrington from Family Flow, and Anthony Syder from amicable, to explore what being truly amicable looks like when relationships end.Amicable divorce: expectation vs realityKate and her guests discuss how Family Flow supports women through separation with a compassionate, trauma-informed approach, and how amicable helps couples navigate divorce. Together, they dive into why an ‘amicable separation’ is often more of an aspiration than a reality, how things can shift from calm to conflict when solicitors and finances get involved, the common concerns women face when using joint divorce services and how to create a fairer balance around money. Anthony also shares what support couples can expect from amicable’s experts during negotiations, and we wrap up with practical tips for staying amicable - and redefining your relationship post-split.Family Flow and amicableSusie Giles is a trauma-informed coach specialising in separation, divorce and family wellbeing. ICF-trained and grounded in evidence-based approaches, she supports individuals - particularly mothers - in navigating the emotional and practical complexities of family breakdown with clarity, confidence and compassion. Her work is informed not just by professional expertise but by lived experience. Alongside her coaching, Susie offers specialist guidance on post-separation communication, co-parenting and keeping children emotionally safe through transition.Liz Harrington is a Somatic Trauma Therapist and coach with over 12 years’ experience supporting women through the complex aftermath of toxic relationships, coercive control and high-conflict divorces. Her work is deeply informed by both her professional expertise and her personal journey - including the power imbalances she has witnessed and lived through, pre- and post-divorce. She is currently finishing a bold, potentially controversial book that challenges the systemic issues within the divorce landscape - from how professionals handle family breakdown to the wider cultural forces at play.Anthony Syder is a Negotiation Specialist and the team lead for amicable's financial consent order drafting team. His areas of interest include the voice of the child in separation and diverse families. Anthony was previously an accredited family mediator and also sat on the board of the Family Mediators Association.More divorce resources:You can learn more about Family Flow on their website and you can listen to the previous episode of The Divorce Podcast with Liz Harrington on your favourite platform.Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #LegalBit

10/29/25 • 47:01

This week, Kate is joined by James Hayhurst, founder of The Parents Promise, to discuss a new school initiative designed to help children cope with the impact of family separation.How parental conflict impacts children at schoolJames introduces The Parents Promise and its mission before he and Kate explore the statistics behind this education initiative. They discuss how parental conflict during separation can affect children’s wellbeing and performance at school. James also shares his Five to Thrive steps that schools, teachers and parents can take to make a real difference.Here are some points covered in this episode:What The Parents Promise is and how it supports familiesThe impact of family separation on children’s school lifeFive to Thrive steps for teachers and parentsFree resources available to support teachers, parents and childrenJames Hayhurst and The Parents PromiseJames Hayhurst is the founder of the Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of The Parents Promise. Having seen up close the multitude of issues in the family courts and the numbers of children and parents affected, James wanted to begin a new conversation about separation. In May 2021, after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations, the Parents Promise was launched.More divorce resources:You can learn more about James and his work on The Parents Promise website and you can connect with him on LinkedIn. You can learn more about the Education Initiative here and you can listen to our episode about the HR Initiative here.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Coparenting

10/22/25 • 17:23

In this episode, Kate is joined by Jonathan Fitter-Harding, a creative entrepreneur and proud dad of two, to hear his separation story and share some practical co-parenting insights.About the episode: Jonathan opens up about his separation and shares how well-meaning friends and family unknowingly made things more challenging. He and Kate dive into co-parenting, focusing on the ‘nesting’ arrangement and explore the practical day-to-day details of this approach. They also talk about the benefits of joint therapy and how it can help separated couples maintain a positive relationship for their children. Jonathan shares how therapy even supported them in navigating finances during the separation. Finally, he explains how he continues to co-run a business with his ex-partner and how their approach to separation has made this collaborative journey possible.A summary of what we cover:Jonathan’s separation story‘Nesting’ co-parenting arrangementBenefits of joint therapy for separated couplesRunning  a business with an ex-partnerAbout our guests:Jonathan Fitter-Harding is a proud dad of two, a creative entrepreneur and one of the key people behind Pride Canterbury - the main LGBTQ+ event in the South East. He helped lead the way in bringing secure dog fields to Kent, runs a boutique hotel and juggles a property business too. After an amicable split from his husband, Jon has built a strong, respectful co-parenting setup that puts their kids first. His story is a great reminder that separation doesn’t have to mean conflict, it can lead to clarity, connection and even a well-earned glass of champagne now and then.More resources:You can get in touch with Jonathan’s counsellor, Jenny Blain, via her website.Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Coparenting

10/15/25 • 35:16

In this episode, Kate unpacks what it’s like to navigate shared friendships after a high-conflict split - and offers guidance for the friends caught in the middle.About the episode:Kate begins by exploring how high-conflict separations can disrupt friendships and social circles, often leaving ex-partners feeling sidelined or isolated. She then shares practical guidance for separated couples - from setting clear boundaries to allowing space to grieve the loss of old friendship dynamics. The episode wraps up with advice for friends who want to support both sides, including why it’s important to avoid acting as a go-between and how to check in privately in a way that feels safe and supportive.How to help a friend through a high-conflict separationIf someone in your friend group is going through a separation, small gestures of care can make a big difference - especially if there is a lot of tension between them. Here are some simple ways to support both people:Offer to listen without providing solutionsMake sure they feel safe and cared forShare compassion, but avoid taking sides or being the go-betweenIf certain boundaries are set, do your best to honour them (where practically possible)Accept that your friendship with both of them (and the wider group) could changeTry to avoid being pulled into gossip or rumoursRemember to prioritise your wellbeingYou can find out more from our guide to helping a friend or family member through separation.More resources:The studies mentioned in this episode are Amato (2000), Afifi et al. (2015) and Symoens et al. (2013).Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. They might be the topic of our next podcast!We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: https://www.youtube.com/@amicable_world #LifeAfterDivorce

10/8/25 • 12:26

In this episode, Kate is joined by Annmarie Chereso, a relationship coach and author, to discuss the role of fear in divorce and separation - and what you can do about it.About the episode: Annmarie starts by sharing her own story of divorce. Kate and her then talk about the role of fear and uncertainty and how they might hinder the separation process. Annmarie also gives some tips on how to talk to yourself in those difficult moments and how to accept the contradictory nature of your present situation. They move on to talk about the importance of taking responsibility for your own actions in the divorce - to stop the blame game and move to a more amicable outcome. They also discuss the importance of supporting each other’s growth and evolution, even if it might result in the relationship ending. Annmarie shares how fear can create drama in relationships ending and, more importantly, how to stop that from happening. She finishes off by discussing how all these principles apply in keeping peace and harmony in her large blended family of nine.  A summary of what we cover:Annmarie’s personal divorce storyHow fear makes separation harder and creates dramaTaking responsibility to reduce blame in divorceWays to overcome fear and reduce unnecessary conflictBuilding peace in a large blended familyAbout our guests:Annmarie Chereso is a conscious relationship coach, speaker and author of the #1 International Best Seller Anthology, The Perfectly Imperfect Family. She is devoted to helping women lead empowered, fulfilling lives from the inside out. With over two decades of experience, she blends deep wisdom with practical tools to help women break generational patterns, navigate conflict with clarity and reconnect with their true selves. Her mission is to help women let go of conditioned beliefs, embody unconditional love and step into their full potential. Living her teachings, Annmarie resides in Chicago with her husband, where they joyfully navigate life with their beautifully blended family of nine - a living testament to her work in cultivating harmony and conscious connection.More resources:You can learn more about Annmarie and get in touch with her on her websiteGot a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney

10/1/25 • 42:45

In this mini-episode, Kate shares practical tips on how to navigate shared friend groups after an amicable separation. She also offers advice for friends of separating couples. This episode focuses on situations where things end on good terms - guidance for higher-conflict separations will be covered in an upcoming episode.About the episode:Kate begins with tips for separated couples, from discussing social plans in advance to the importance of not oversharing personal details. She finishes the episode by sharing advice for friends who want to support both people - from handling group invitations sensitively to avoiding the trap of over-praising the couple’s maturity.How to help a friend through separationIf someone in your friend group is going through a separation, small gestures of care can make a big difference. Here are some simple ways to support them both:Offer to listen without providing solutionsMake sure they feel safe and cared forShare compassion, not comparisons to your own situations or too much adviceOffer practical help, like meals or pet carePoint them towards trusted resources You can find out more from our guide to helping a friend or family member through separation.More resources:Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. They might be the topic of our next podcast!We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. amicable’s YouTube channel is full of practical guidance on separation, divorce and co-parenting, explained in a clear and supportive way. From expert tips to interviews, it’s a helpful place to find answers and feel more confident about what comes next.Subscribe now: amicable divorce  #LifeAfterDivorce

9/24/25 • 08:12

In this episode, Kate Daly is joined by Stephen Wildblood, King’s Counsel and a playwright, to discuss non-court dispute resolution (NCDR).About the episode: Kate and Stephen start by unpacking what NCDR (non-court dispute resolution) is, the main types available and the key benefits of choosing this route over going to court to finalise a divorce. From there, they explore why NCDR isn’t as widely considered as it could be, and discuss simple ways to raise its profile with the public. Stephen then shares how the plays he writes are helping to shine a light on NCDR - and why this creative approach is such an effective way to spread awareness. Finally, we look ahead, imagining other ways to reach a wider audience and ensure NCDR becomes the go-to choice for untying the knot.A summary of what they cover:Main types of NCDR and their key benefitsWhy NCDR isn’t as widely considered as it could be during divorceUnorthodox ways to make NCDR people’s first choice when separatingAbout our guests:Stephen Wildblood KC was the Designated Family Judge for the Bristol area for ten years before stepping down in November 2023. He continues to sit as a Judge, part-time, in the Family and High Courts. He practised as a Family barrister for 27 years – the last eight and a half as a KC. His practice was divided equally between children and financial remedy cases. Stephen has written for over 20 legal textbooks and regularly lectures on all aspects of family law. He and Dr Freda Gardner (a consultant clinical psychologist) have set up a business which helps couples resolve family issues relating to money and children without litigation. They are both trained mediators. Stephen is a qualified Family arbitrator in relation to children and financial issues. He has joined 3 PB barristers' chambers as an associate member offering private financial hearings, early neutral evaluation and arbitration. You’ll learn more about this in the podcast episode. He is a man of many talents and is a playwright and author too. He believes that going to court should be a last resort in divorce and children cases.More resources:You can learn more about Stephen and get in touch with him through Gardner Wildblood LLP or 3 Paper Buildings.Got a question on divorce, separation or co-parenting you’d like us to cover? Share your thoughts with us at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.We've created amicable space to give you more personalised support. Become a member of amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community. You can share your questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Learn more and sign up here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Legal

9/17/25 • 42:53

This week, Kate is joined by Heather Black, the founder and CEO of Supermums, who shares her expertise as a training provider along with actionable tips for getting back into the workforce post-divorce. Separation often brings about change - and for many women, that includes transitioning to a new role or returning to work after a period of time away, such as after being a stay-at-home parent. Kate and Heather explore the practical and emotional sides of re-entering the workforce, with plenty of support along the way. If you’re considering going back into the office after a divorce, whether this is for your own financial independence or a fresh challenge, this episode will be helpful for you.About the episode:Heather starts off by describing the specifics of coming back to work after divorce and how Supermums can help you build the skills and confidence to make this career step. Heather and Kate discuss internal barriers that may prevent you from pursuing your career goals and some tools to overcome them. They finish off with some practical job search tips and even some ideas of how your ex-partner can support you in returning to work. Here are some points covered in this episode to help you return to work smoothly after your divorce:Tools to change your mindset and land the job that’s right for youTips to make you stand out from the crowd of applicantsHow Supermums can support youMore resources:You can learn more about Heather and her work at Supermums on their website. You can also learn more about a Salesforce career through these helpful resources.Join amicable space for bonus episodes, expert webinars and a supportive community here.We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might be the topic of our next podcast!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #LifeAfterDivorce

9/10/25 • 24:44

In this episode, Kate is joined by Elizabeth Day, an award-winning author, acclaimed podcaster and broadcaster, for a candid conversation about relationships, heartbreaks and friendships. About the episode: Elizabeth starts by opening up about her personal experience of relationships and separations, and what she learnt about herself through them. Kate and Elizabeth go on to explore why divorce isn’t a failure, the role your friendships play in your romantic relationships and tips on what to look out for in future partners. We finish off with Elizabeth sharing some incredible tips for those going through divorce or separation. Tune in so you don’t miss them! If you’re navigating separation, divorce, or even just the idea of starting again, this is the perfect episode for you. It’s thought-provoking, honest, and packed with takeaways you can use right now. You might even leave feeling a little bit lighter and more positive about your previous relationships (and the potential for future love).About our guests:Elizabeth Day is an award-winning author, acclaimed podcaster, and broadcaster known for her honest and compassionate explorations of modern life, relationships, and failure. Her latest book, One Of Us is her tenth, following the success of her previous nonfiction title, Friendaholic: Confessions of a Friendship Addict, which became an instant Sunday Times Number One bestseller. Her novels—including the bestsellers Magpie and The Party—have been praised for their psychological insight and social commentary.Elizabeth is the recipient of a Betty Trask Award and a Fellow of the Royal Society of Literature. She is also the creator and host of the chart-topping podcast How To Fail, where she interviews public figures about the lessons they’ve learned from setbacks. Through her production company, Daylight Productions, she works to amplify female and underrepresented voices in podcasting.Elizabeth has written and spoken candidly about her personal journey, including the emotional challenges of infertility, experiences she has shared in an effort to break the silence and stigma around the subject. She has also explored the evolution of her romantic life, including the end of her first marriage and the self-redefinition that followed. After years of growth and reflection, she found lasting love with entrepreneur Justin Basini, whom she married in 2021. The couple live in South West London with their much-loved ginger cat.Her openness about vulnerability, resilience, and human connection continues to resonate with readers and listeners around the world.More resources:Loved this episode? You can listen to Elizabeth Day’s podcast How to fail on your favourite platform, pre-order her latest book One of Us, and follow her on Instagram! You can get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, fi

9/3/25 • 37:28

In this mini-episode, Kate talks about something many people experience but rarely talk about openly: when your ex ends the relationship or marriage without giving you a real reason why. This might bring up a lot of difficult feelings, and without closure, it may feel like it’s impossible for you to move on with your divorce. About the episode:Kate starts off by exploring why your ex-partner might want to separate but can’t give you a reason why. She then explains why moving on is so important, even though it seems nearly impossible at the beginning. Kate finishes by sharing some actionable tips for dealing with the lack of closure, from acknowledging your feelings to getting the support you need.Here are some of the points covered in this episode to help on your divorce journey:Why your partner wants a divorce but can’t give you a real reasonWhy it’s important to move onTips for getting closure that your ex-partner can’t provide More resources:We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might be the topic of our next podcast!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney

8/27/25 • 11:29

In this World Entrepreneur Day exclusive episode, Kate is joined by Pip Wilson, CEO and Co-founder of amicable, and Ruth Handcock, CEO of Octopus Money, to explore what happens when entrepreneurship meets emotional change — and how building businesses around separation, money and human kindness can transform lives.  About the episode: Pip starts by sharing what sparked the idea to co-found amicable and change the way people divorce. We’ll hear why Ruth and Octopus Money chose to back amicable and how this aligned with Octopus’ goals. Pip, Kate and Ruth all talk about how values like kindness, resilience and emotional intelligence shape meaningful companies, and dig into the link between money and separation, the myths that hold people back and what it really takes to disrupt an industry. Kate, Ruth and Pip finish with practical and emotional tips for anyone going through a separation — and advice for budding entrepreneurs ready to build something that matters.A summary of what we cover:Pip’s reasons for starting amicableWhy Ruth and Octopus Money backed amicableHow human values can help companies disrupt industriesThe often-missed connection between finances and separationAbout our guests:Pip Wilson is the Co-founder and CEO of amicable, where she leads the charge in transforming the divorce and separation process. A highly successful tech entrepreneur, director and start-up mentor, Pip takes overall responsibility for driving amicable forward, including defining its innovative tech strategy to automate and improve the end-to-end journey, making amicable the kindest and best way to divorce or separate. Her entrepreneurial journey includes co-founding Bluefin Solutions, an SAP consultancy, which she successfully exited to Mindtree in 2015. Beyond amicable, Pip is a proactive angel investor, actively supporting and promoting female-led businesses. She has also contributed significantly to philanthropy, having served as a trustee for multiple charities including as Deputy Chair of the RSA. Ruth Handcock is the CEO of Octopus Money, a money advice brand for everyone. She believes everyone should be able to get help with their money, regardless of how much they earn or are able to invest and was awarded an OBE for services to financial services and investments in 2025. Ruth has been part of the Octopus Group since 2018. Before Octopus Money, she was CEO of Octopus Investments, an asset manager with £13bn under management. Ruth's career has spanned roles that have included zoology, strategic consultancy, finance director for Barcardi’s Martini & Cognac portfolios, founding employee of a challenger bank and working in Sierra Leone for the Ministry of Trade. Ruth currently serves as a non-executive director of Aldermore Bank. As a state-school educated kid from Lincolnshire, Ruth is passionate about social mobility. She was Governor at Bolingbroke Academy, a non-selective state secondary school for 6 years. More resources:Learn more about Octopus Money and book a free starter session with a money coach on their website. You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!#Finances

8/20/25 • 46:43

This week, Kate is joined by Jo Thurston from Action for Children's Parent Talk to discuss co-parenting children with neurodiversity after divorce. Jo shares some tools and tips that can make the whole process smoother, helping your children feel included and making sure you and your co-parent are on the same page. Parenting a neurodiverse child means that both parents should focus on effective communication, consistency and understanding to help their child thrive.About the episode:Jo starts by defining neurodiversity and giving a quick overview of some of the most common neurodivergent profiles, for example ADHD, autism, dyslexia and dyspraxia. Kate and Jo move on to discuss the nuances of co-parenting neurodiverse kids and how to keep your communication with an ex-partner child-focused. They finish off with some actionable tips to help you in the process.Here are some of the points they cover in this episode to help on your co-parenting journey:The importance of consistency when co-parentingHow to talk to your children about divorceHow to smooth the transition between two homes after separation or divorceTips for communicating with your ex-partner, with insights from Jo Thurston from Action for Children’s Parent TalkAbout our guest:Jo is a co-ordinator at Action for Children’s Parent Talk service, which offers free online advice for parents and carers of children aged 0-19. The service also supports families with disabled and neurodivergent young people up to age 25.Its confidential 1:1 live chat service connects parents and carers directly to an experienced parenting coach for judgement-free practical advice and emotional support, while its online advice content answers to some of the most common parenting questions.Jo first joined Action for Children in 2018 as a Family Support Worker in a Children’s Centre. She has a background working in schools and pastoral care, with a particular interest in supporting families impacted by SEND. More resources:Visit Parent Talk to read parenting advice or to chat online with a parenting coach. You can also learn more about the charity on Action for Children's website. To help your children prepare for handovers, you can use Mum’s House Dad’s House or My Home tools from Elsa Support. amicable’s Co-parenting App is a great tool to keep all conversations with your co-parent in one place. Our app also has schedules and calendars to help bring consistency to yours and your children’s lives.We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might be the topic of our next podcast!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Coparenting

8/13/25 • 20:35

In this episode, Kate is joined by Allison O’Brien, a communication and leadership development consultant, to discuss techniques for communicating with an ex-partner or co-parent and why some people might need more time to get on board with the idea of an amicable divorce. About the episode: Allison starts off by sharing the story of her parents' separation, and then her own experience with a relationship breakdown. She also explains how her professional skills helped her through her divorce and in establishing a positive co-parenting relationship. Kate and Allison go on to discuss the pushback that Allison received after her TED Talk "How to divorce as allies, not enemies" was released and what problems we’re still facing as a society that make the concept of an amicable, collaborative divorce so hard to accept. Allison finishes off with some expert tips on communicating with an ex-partner to remain civil and co-parent successfully.A summary of what we cover:Allison O’Brien’s personal stories about separationHow professional skills can help improve communication skillsOvercoming negative perceptions of amicable separationsTop tips for ex-partner and co-parent collaborationAbout our guest:Allison O’Brien is a communication and leadership development consultant who helps individuals and companies transform how they work through culture, communication and the science of listening. Known for embracing risk and change, her expertise lies in uncovering the insights needed to improve conversations, manage emotions and build genuine connection.When her marriage of 15 years was ending, she committed to using the same principles she teaches in her work to navigate her divorce without lawyers or mediators involved. As a result, she maintains a solid friendship and collaborative co-parenting relationship with her former spouse. All of which she shares in her recent TED.com talk.For O’Brien, the power of listening is the key to changing the way people live, love and lead.More resources:Get in touch with Allison on LinkedIn, and you can watch her inspiring TED Talk "How to divorce as allies, not enemies" here.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!#Coparenting

8/6/25 • 39:45

This week, Kate is joined by Jo Thurston from Parent Talk to discuss why summer holidays can be so tricky for single parents and share some simple tips for making them more manageable and fun. Without the school routine and longer days in the sun, it’s an important time to create new memories and enjoy new activities with your children. However, summer as a single parent can be challenging when you’re doing all of this solo. It might involve more schedules, additional childcare and juggling high expectations. About the episode:Kate and Jo start by explaining why summer holidays can be challenging for single parents, and when’s a good time to start planning them. There are also some tips on how not to over-plan! Here are some of the points they cover in this episode to help single parents this summer:How to navigate holiday costsWhere you can look for affordable activities to fit your budget and available timeCommunication tips with your co-parentStaying flexible and willing to adjust your scheduleWhy involving your children in holiday planning could be a good ideaAbout our guest:Jo is a co-ordinator at Action for Children’s Parent Talk service, which offers free online advice for parents and carers of children aged 0-19, or up to 25 where a young person has special educational needs. Its confidential 1:1 live chat service connects parents and carers directly to an experienced parenting coach for judgement-free practical advice and emotional support, while its online articles answer some of the most common parenting questions. Jo first joined Action for Children in 2018 as a Family Support worker in a Children’s Centre. She has a background working in schools and pastoral care and has a particular interest in supporting families impacted by SEND. More resources:You can learn more about Action For Children and how they can help you on their website. For parenting advice, visit Parent Talk to explore their resources and have a one-to-one chat with a parenting coach. You can also book a 90-minute Separating With Children session with amicable to create a parenting plan for the summer holidays. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!If you think your co-parenting might need a boost this summer, and you’re sharing arrangements with a co-parent, friend or family member, our Co-parenting App might be for you.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Coparenting

7/30/25 • 19:57

In this episode, Kate is joined by Donald Stewart, Head of Training and Competence at Octopus Money, to discuss financial arrangements during and after divorce. About the episode: Kate and Donald start by exploring why there are so many emotions attached to money during divorce, the importance of seeking financial advice early, and how to build financial confidence post-divorce. Many separating couples find it difficult to plan for their independent futures, and considering the practicalities, lifestyle adjustments and co-parenting arrangements can make financial discussions even more triggering. Donald explains the importance of understanding your assets, including pensions, which often get overlooked - but are key to your long-term stability. He finishes by explaining what a 'money coach' is and how they can help you prepare and plan for life post-divorce. You'll finish this episode feeling more confident in your finances, wherever you are in the separation process.About our guest:Donald Stewart is the Head of Training and Competence at Octopus Money and looks after the skills, knowledge and conduct for the coaches and advisers to help them deliver great outcomes for customers. Prior to joining Octopus Money, he spent 15 years in retail banking in various roles including management, financial advice and business banking and has always had a passion for helping people to feel empowered with money and personal finances. Want more financial tips from an Octopus Money expert? Senior Paraplanner at Octopus Money Ben Atherton shared five practical money-saving tips to help make you and your family more financially secure. Get the highlights in our blog post or listen to the full podcast episode.More resources:Get help with your finances wherever you are in the divorce journey with Octopus Money. You can book your free starter session with an Octopus expert here. Get in touch with Donald Stewart on LinkedIn or you can contact him via email - donald.stewart@octopusmoney.com Use this gov.uk service to track your pensions, and for more information about what you might be entitled to post-divorce, visit Citizens Advice BureauYou can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!#Finances

7/23/25 • 43:59

In this mini-episode, Kate shares practical, compassionate tips on how to start the divorce process when your ex-partner isn’t quite on the same page yet — and how to choose a legal service that works for both of you. This episode will be helpful for anyone who has decided their relationship has come to an end, and would like to share the news with their ex-partner in a kinder way. If you want to separate amicably, try following a few of our tips for a smoother, kinder transition to ending your marriage.About the episode:Kate starts by explaining the emotional journey of divorce. She offers guidance on how to approach initial conversations with your ex-partner, including making sure that they know you want a divorce, and how to introduce the idea of using a service like amicable. Kate also explores why amicable is different to the two-lawyer (typically combative) approach, and why a couples service can reduce stress, save money and time when you decide to split. This episode is all about meeting your ex where they are, reducing friction, and laying the groundwork for a respectful and cooperative split.More resources:We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney

7/16/25 • 12:20

In this episode, Kate is joined by Cate Mackenzie, a Sex and Relationship Therapist, to discuss dating post-divorce. Tune in for an amazing mix of actionable tips, real-life stories and even a mini-coaching session to get you started. This episode is fantastic if you want to build up your confidence after a relationship breakdown. About the episode: Kate and Cate start by exploring why dating is so difficult after divorce and separation. They then talk about why your friends can be a great help in making dating less daunting and scary and how to make dating apps work for you. Cate also explains how to date when you might be feeling emotionally vulnerable and questioning your dating readiness. Cate encourages checking in with yourself and managing expectations when you get ready for your first dates post-divorce. They even speculate on how to make our schedules work for our love life and whether it’s possible to have a ‘Wednesday-only’ relationship. Cate analyses different flirting techniques and how to uncover and lean into your natural style, which might be something you least expect … They finish the podcast by sharing some key tips on how not to get overly attached too quickly and essential online safety.Just a heads-up that this episode contains sexual references, so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children.About our guest:Cate Mackenzie is a Sex and Relationship Therapist specialising in attachment and self-expression. She has been the Dating Coach on Channel 4’s “The Undateables”, Flirting Coach for The Jeremy Vine Show on Channel 5 and Sex Therapist on Channel 4’s Kinky Britain. She is regularly in the press, has two podcasts “Love, pleasure and joy” and “Cate Mackenzie’s meditations” and runs workshops on flirting, dating, attachment and being open to love again after challenging experiences. More resources:You can learn more about Cate Mackenzie on her website and on Instagram. For more tips on dating and relationships, check out Cate’s podcast “Love, pleasure and joy”.You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!#LifeAfterDivorce

7/9/25 • 42:29

This week Kate is joined by Una Archer, founder of Help Your Child Thrive, to discuss handovers, why parents and even children might find them difficult and what you can do to make them easier. Una shares her insights about how to focus on yourself and effectively prepare your mindset for positive handovers.TW: This episode mentions domestic violence, which may be upsetting for some listeners. If you need support, contact: RefugeMen's Advice LineAbout the episode:Kate and Una start off by discussing why handovers are often so emotionally-charged for everyone involved. Una then shares some tips on how to make them just a little bit easier. Learn how to manage your nervous system, reframe the role of handovers and stay child-centred throughout those interactions. About our guest:Una Archer provides attachment and trauma-informed parenting support for separated parents. With a background in educational psychology and her own experience of navigating separation, Una's approach places children's emotional security at the heart of every parenting decision. Over the past 10 years, she has worked with hundreds of separated parents, helping them with challenges ranging from managing the logistics of moving between two homes to redefining and reinventing the kind of parent they want to be. Her work supports parents in building deeper connection, confidence, and resilience — both for themselves and their childrenMore resources:You can learn more about Una and how she can help your child thrive on her website. You can also register for her on-demand webinar, exploring emotional security for separated parents, hereWe'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Coparenting

7/2/25 • 11:54

In this episode, Kate is joined by Andrew G Marshall, a therapist and writer, to discuss the most common mistakes to avoid when separating. About the episode: Kate and Andrew begin the episode by looking at Andrew’s motivations for becoming a therapist, following his personal experience of family members’ divorce as a child. Andrew explains the importance of communication both during a relationship and after it ends. They role-play a typical scenario separating couples find themselves in, and how to de-escalate emotionally-charged conversations. Andrew gives some great tips on creating distance so you can choose to respond and not react. Kate and he explore common mistakes people make when separating, including rushing the ending, seeing divorce as the magic bullet and ‘switching off’ or emotionally ‘checking out’ pre-separation. They end by talking about Andrew’s upcoming retreat and who it can help. This is a fantastic episode, whether you’re in the midst of a separation or want to improve the health of your relationship by learning new communication skills.About our guest:Andrew G Marshall is a marital therapist with 40 years of experience helping couples make better relationships (or if they separate, to be good co-parents). He originally trained with RELATE, the UK's largest counselling charity, but now leads a team of therapists in private practice. He is the author of twenty-plus books which have been translated into over twenty languages - including the international bestseller 'I love you but I'm not in love with you'. He is the host of the award-nominated podcast 'The Meaningful Life with Andrew G Marshall' and this autumn will lead a retreat near Berlin for men seeking to 'Reconnect with Yourself'. More resources:You can learn more about Andrew G Marshall on his website. There, you can register to attend his upcoming retreat for men, listen to his award-nominated podcast and even access his video course to learn about Andrew’s best relationship tools. You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!#EmotionalJourney

6/25/25 • 36:58

In this episode, Kate is joined by Ben Atherton, a financial planning expert from Octopus Money, to share his top five money-saving tips post-divorce or separation. For many couples, one person might have handled more of the financial planning, and the other might feel unsure about where to start - particularly around securing their financial futures and setting achievable goals for their new priorities. No matter what journey you’re on, Ben’s tips will help build your financial literacy. About the episode:Budgeting might seem like the last thing you want to be doing when emotions are running high – but a little thought and planning now can be a big help in the long term. With that in mind, Ben shares his top five tips on how to plan for future finances during in this challenging period. Tune in to learn how to redefine your relationship with money and get some practical tools for financial management.About our guest:Ben Atherton is a Senior Paraplanner within the Advice Team at Octopus Money and his role is to look at the current financial situation of our clients, including any pensions, savings or investments which they might have and review them to establish if they are ‘fit for purpose’ i.e. are they helping them reach their financial goals and objectives.Ben has worked for Octopus Money since April 2024 but have been helping people with their finances since 2017, having worked for a small independent firm and a larger advice practice in the past. More resources:You can learn more about financial planning on Octopus Money website. For help with updating your will, you can reach out to Octopus Legacy. You can learn more about the benefits you might be entitled to at Turn2us, and for help with tracking your childcare expenses, you can download amicable co-parenting app. Finally, you can read our post-divorce checklist here.We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Finances

6/18/25 • 21:16

In this episode, Kate is joined by Christopher Gillard, chef and writer, to discuss how cooking can help rebuild your life post-divorce. About the episode: The episode starts with Chris opening up about his separation story and the unexpected discoveries like pet-sitting and newfound love for cooking that inspired him to write his book ‘The Divorced Man's Kitchen Survival Guide’. He also explains how visiting different kitchens led him to formulate a ‘recipe’ of essential tools & ingredients that everyone needs to cook up a fresh start post-divorce. Kate and Chris discuss why his self-care book and practical guidance are particularly important for men, and how nutritious cooking can help you get through a tough time and come out better than ever. They finish off by giving some actionable tips on how to improve your cooking habits, like planning smarter food shops and choosing to embrace imperfection when things don’t go as planned.About our guest:Christopher H Gillard is a qualified chef, professional writer, photographic artist, filmmaker and a tech entrepreneur with over two decades experience in communications and innovative technology development. He also happens to be a divorcee who suddenly had to rebuild his life from the ground up in 2019 - no job, no money, no home and two little girls to look after. Chris’s background as a professional chef combined with over 20 years in creative communications and tech innovation provided him with crucial skills and experience needed to successfully navigate the hardest period of his life. It led him to his accidental recipe for renewal and the subsequent creation of his book. In The Divorced Man's Kitchen Survival Guide, Chris is sharing his story and learnings in the hope of helping others, everywhere.More resources:You can get in touch with Chris on LinkedIn and you can buy his book The Divorced Man's Kitchen Survival Guide on AmazonYou can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!#LifeAfterDivorce

6/11/25 • 39:12

In the previous episode of The Divorce Podcast, Kate spoke to Cate Campbell about navigating intimacy when living together post-separation. In this episode, Kate wanted to delve deeper into another common challenge when it comes to sex and relationships – infidelity. What is it, why does it happen, and what can we do afterwards? About the episode:Kate begins by explaining what ‘infidelity’ is and why there is no clear definition for it. She also shares some fascinating statistics on how often adultery causes marriages to end and gives us three main reasons as to why that happens. She finishes off with some advice for forgiveness, moving on and getting closure if the infidelity has occurred. Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references, so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children.More resources:We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney

6/4/25 • 11:31

In this episode, I am joined by an award-winning author, Cate Campbell, to discuss intimacy, whether trial separations are a good idea, and boundaries while living together post-separation. About the episode:Kate and Cate begin by discussing what intimacy might look like for ex-partners, especially for those who have separated but are still living together. We also explore how boundaries might be set in those situations. We then move on to discussing break-up sex, its causes and consequences, and how to have a mature conversation about it afterwards. We also touch upon ‘trial separations’ and why they might be unhealthy for you and your ex-partner. We finish by exploring boundaries with your family and friends after a split, and how little daily rituals can help you get through a tough time. Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children.About our guests:Cate Campbell is a psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer specialising in relationships and trauma, working with individuals, couples and families. She is accredited by the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), College of Sexual & Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and is an EMDR Europe. consultant. She is the author of The Relate Guide to Sex & Intimacy, Love & Sex in a New Relationship, Contemporary Sex Therapy and Sex Therapy: The Basics.More resources:You can learn more about Cate on her website and you can get in touch with her via email - cate.campbell@btopenworld.com We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might just be the topic of a future episode!Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today#LifeAfterDivorce

5/28/25 • 37:22

In this episode, Kate is joined by Dr Sarah Foley, a Lecturer in Developmental Psychology at the University of Edinburgh. They explore her current research on children’s relationships with their parents in different post-separation child arrangements. Sarah talks about why this research is important and how you can get involved.About our guests:Dr Sarah Foley is a Lecturer in Developmental Psychology at the University of Edinburgh. Her research explores parent-child relationships and the psychological wellbeing of family members across diverse family forms (e.g., elective co-parents, those created through assisted reproductive technologies, LGBTQIA+ parent-headed families) and transitions (e.g., becoming a parent, separation or divorce). Her current research is exploring children’s relationships with their parents, adjustment and experiences of different post-separation child arrangements in England and Scotland. This is funded by an Economic and Social Research Council (ESRC) New Investigators Grant. She completed her PhD at the Centre for Family Research, University of Cambridge.More resources:You can register to take part in Sarah’s study here, and you can learn a bit more about this study on the University of Edinburgh’s website. For more support with co-parenting, amicable offer Separating With Children Service as well as an app for all your childcare arrangements and communications. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!#Coparenting

5/21/25 • 19:16

In this episode, Kate is joined by Andrew Keefe, a Psychodynamic Psychotherapist and Pilates Teacher, to discuss how Pilates can support you during divorce and aid your recovery afterward. Andrew shares the science of trauma, how the nervous system functions under stress and why Pilates is an effective tool to help with the emotional aftermath of a relationship breakdown. About the episode:Kate and Andrew begin by exploring what trauma means in the context of divorce and the physical and mental symptoms it can trigger. Andrew explains the biological responses that often occur during and after a traumatic event like separation and how the controlled movements and breathing techniques at the core of Pilates can help soothe these reactions. He also shares other practical strategies for coping with divorce and separation, including simple breathing exercises, the importance of releasing tension in the body and how to build a supportive network.About our guest:Andrew Keefe is a Psychodynamic Psychotherapist, EMDR Therapist, Pilates Teacher and Personal Trainer (Level 4, Lower Back Pain Specialist.) He works with mind and body to help people recover from trauma and trauma / stress-related Chronic Lower Back Pain. Andrew has been a therapist for twenty-five years, including sixteen years of clinical work with traumatised refugees and survivors of torture. He now works in private practice in Holborn and East London, specialising in working with people living with the traumatic effects of childhood sexual abuse, domestic violence, abusive relationships, birth trauma, violence and chronic lower back pain. He also uses fitness sessions and Pilates to help people recover their mental wellbeing.More resources:You can learn more about Andrew and his work on his websiteWe'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might just be the topic of a future episode!Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.#LifeAfterDivorce

5/14/25 • 34:11

As part of Mental Health Awareness week, today Kate answers a listener's question all about ‘divorce anxiety’. Divorce and separation are never easy, whether amicable or not. As a relationship counsellor and a divorcee herself, Kate shares some tips to help you cope when you feel overwhelmed by worry during this time.    About the episode:Kate begins by explaining what ‘divorce anxiety’ is and how fear of the unknown is often at the root of common worries and concerns, especially at the beginning of the divorce process. She then shares four top tips to help you protect your mental health during this tricky time – and start the divorce process on the right foot.More resources:Struggling emotionally? Explore our partners at Betterhelp for therapy or counselling support. You can also reach out to your GP or mental health charities like Mind or Samaritans.  We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #EmotionalJourney

5/7/25 • 11:52

In this episode, host Kate is joined by Dr Samantha Gaines, Head of the RSPCA’s Companion Animals Science and Policy department, and Carol Harte, Divorce Specialist at amicable, to debunk some common myths about separating with pets.About the episode:Kate, Carol and Samantha break down common myths about pet ownership during separation or divorce. They explain the legal realities, the emotional impact on pets – whether it’s a dog, cat or even a hamster – and share practical tips to help pets adjust to new routines. You'll also learn how to spot signs your pet might be struggling, and what to do if neither you nor your ex can care for them after your divorce or separation.About our guests:Dr Samantha Gaines is Head of the RSPCA’s Companion Animals Science and Policy department. She leads a specialist team who use evidence to advocate for good lives for companion, working and sporting animals through corporate and government policy change and human behaviour change. She is the lead on a variety of issues including dog control, racing greyhounds and dogs kept for working purposes. Prior to working at the RSPCA, Sam worked as a research scientist for the Defence Science and Technology Laboratory. She managed various projects studying the behaviour, performance and welfare of working dogs. She has an MSc in applied animal behaviour and welfare as well as a PhD from Bristol University, where she studied the effects of housing and husbandry on the welfare of kennelled dogs.Carol Harte is a Divorce Specialist at amicable and holds decades of experience in global change management, project negotiation and training. Having embarked on a career change to become an accredited family mediator, Carol aims to support separating parents and pet parents in their transition to being successful co-parents.More resources:You can find more advice on how to improve your pet’s welfare on the RSPCA website. We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. #Pets

4/30/25 • 28:48

This week, Kate is going behind the headlines of Manchester City manager Pep Guardiola and his ex-partner Cristina Serra’s divorce. Reports claim they’re using the ‘one lawyer, one couple’ approach to end their marriage while staying on good terms.About the episode:Kate breaks down the top three benefits of a collaborative divorce, using Pep Guardiola’s separation as an example. She explains who this approach works best for, and explores whether amicable divorces really are as rare as the media makes out  – or if they’re becoming the norm.More resources:We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk. They might just be the topic of a future episode!You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today. 

4/23/25 • 09:19