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The Divorce Podcast

The Divorce Podcast is a podcast dedicated to looking at divorce from new perspectives and driving reform. Hosted by Kate Daly, each episode invites experts from a variety of backgrounds and disciplines to discuss their own views on divorce, and debate them with the other guests.


Episode #109: Forgiveness with Founder of Self Space, Jodie Cariss
In this episode, Kate is joined by Jodie Cariss, Founder of the online therapy platform Self Space to discuss the emotional journey of separation and the role of forgiveness in the healing process.Meet our guestsJodie is a therapist with over twenty years of experience in the field and a Tavistock-trained executive coach. Jodie has fast become a leading voice advocating for accessible mental health support.Jodie is the co-author of 'How to Grow Through What You Go Through', published by Penguin in 2022, and regularly contributes to panel talks, podcasts and media titles such as Stylist Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Vogue and The Times.  About the episodeKate and Jodie begin this episode by discussing Jodie’s background, and how she got into her profession and ended up founding Self Space, including Jodie’s individual experience with divorce. Throughout the episode, they discuss topics such as forgiveness, moving past and overcoming resentment, and replacing it with compassion, especially when it comes to co-parenting.
47:00 5/15/24
Episode #108: The role of grandparents during parental separation and divorce
In this episode, Kate is joined by Founder of the Bristol Grandparents Support Group, Jane Jackson, and amicable Divorce Specialist, Anthony Syder to discuss role of grandparents during parental separation and divorce.About the episode Kate, Jane and Anthony touch on a variety of topics including what can happen during an acrimonious separation, especially how grandparents can lose touch with their grandchildren, as well as the rights they may have and the more amicable ways of regaining contact. This episode is full of tips and highlights the importance of putting the children first, as well as the value grandparents can bring to children’s upbringing.  Meet the guestsJane founded the Bristol Grandparents Support Group in 2007 when she lost contact with her granddaughter due to her sons’ divorce.The support group aims to inform people of the issues surrounding Grandparents and their rights to see their Grandchildren when contact has been denied.Jane holds bi-monthly support groups remotely to help grandparents deal with estrangement, an issue affecting one in seven.Anthony is a Divorce Specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 10  years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families.
31:46 5/1/24
Episode #107: Loneliness in relationships, separation and divorce
In this episode, Kate is joined by former family barrister turned therapist and author, Charlotte Friedman. About the episodeThe focus of this episode is loneliness. Kate and Charlotte begin by exploring what loneliness is, whether it’s a physical or mental feeling or both, and how loneliness links to grief, as well as the emotional journey of divorce and separation. They discuss seeking professional help and how children and other family members can sense and react to loneliness. Finally, Charlotte and Kate discuss coping mechanisms for loneliness, especially post-separation.About the guestCharlotte decided to move from the courtroom to the therapist’s chair to help people manage the emotional journey of divorce. In her book, Breaking Upwards, Charlotte offers calm, therapeutic advice on everything from managing loneliness to letting go of grievance. Charlotte is a trained Psychodynamic Psychotherapist registered with the British Psychoanalytic Council and the Tavistock Society. She is also the founder of the Divorce Support Group which has provided a community for people trying to manage the emotional impact of divorce and separation.
42:10 4/17/24
Episode #106: A Child’s Right to Matter with Helen Adam and Dr Angharad Rudkin
In this episode, Kate is joined by clinical psychologist, Angharad Rudkin, and solicitor, mediator, and campaigner Helen Adam. About the episode Kate and Helen begin the episode by discussing the Family Solutions Group (FSG) and explaining the Right to Matter report. They move on to discuss who in Government currently takes responsibility for children when parents separate. Helen explores some of the consultations' findings as well as the common questions that emerged from the UK Youth Parliament. Later on in the episode, Kate and Angharad discuss how children and families are impacted during parental separation, whether divorce or separation impacts children’s mental health and to what extent. Also, they explore what this can look like day-to-day and what the key factors are that lead to significant impact. Finally, Helen and Adam give their recommendations for further help and advice and the next steps for future reports and actions on the level of government.About the guestsHelen Adam started her work with separating families as a solicitor in London. Following a career break, she retrained as a mediator and founded Wells Family Mediation. Helen is also chair of the Family Solutions Group (FSG). The FSG presses for coordinated political oversight and funding for separated families. We’ve previously recorded an episode on language with Helen, so make sure to have a listen. Dr Angharad Rudkin is a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce and separation from the perspective of children.Angharad is also an expert for the Metro's relationship column, offers training and consultation for family lawyers and worked as a lecturer on the Clinical Psychology doctorate at the University of Southampton for 12 years.Angharad was a consulting editor for ‘101 Questions Answered about Separating with Children’ and has recently published a book for children on how to cope with their parent’s divorce, The Split Survival Kit, written with children’s author Ruth Fitzgerald. We’ve also recorded an episode with Angharad in the past which is number 57 if you would like to have a listen.For help and advice with divorce, separation, co-parenting or anything related to these, please visit:
44:23 4/3/24
Episode #105: Co-parenting at different ages and stages
In this episode, Kate is joined by clinical therapist and manager, Julie Cooper, to discuss the reality of co-parenting across the varying stages of childhood.About the guestJulie is a lead provider of mental health services at Honey for Moms, in Ferndale, Michigan. She is a Co-parenting specialist and single mum of two and has dedicated her career to helping parents throughout their co-parenting journey. As a mother moving through divorce, Julie’s personal experience of co-parenting highlighted the need for a stronger support system, clearer information and dependable resources. Her journey along this path drove her to believe that, regardless of marital status, raising secure children who feel seen, heard, and loved by both parents, is possible with the right tools and support. Julie's tenured work in mental health has led her to become a strong clinician, leader, and advocate for mental health. She also has a passion for helping individuals with trauma, anxiety, depression, and low self-worth. As team lead in her practice, Julie is deeply committed to providing professional guidance and furthering education in this field.About the episodeThroughout this episode, Kate and Julie move through the different stages of childhood, highlighting the most important considerations when moving into a co-parenting family structure. They look at separating when children are babies, toddlers, young children, teenagers and finally, children as they grow up and the signs and changes you may have to look out for, as well as signposting the available help. 
44:52 3/18/24
Episode #104: Introducing a new partner after divorce or separation
In this episode, Kate was joined by Professor Lisa Doodson and Rebecca Jones from amicable to discuss introducing new partners and navigating blended families. Meet our guestsLisa is a chartered psychologist and founder of HappySteps, a consultancy providing training and advice to professionals and families directly.  As an expert in the field, Lisa frequently contributes to TV documentaries and comments in the press. Rebecca, or Bec, is a divorce specialist at amicable and was previously a family solicitor. Bec has also been through her own divorce and now has a blended family. About this episodeThis episode is full of tips about introducing new partners and general advice on blended families. We look at some of the unique challenges that each presents, as well as the potential benefits of growing up in a blended family. Lisa provides insightful advice about coping with different parenting styles, as well as tips on establishing house rules. Bec gives many tips on practical things families can do to make the journey smoother, based on her experience. This episode is a real homage to the idea that families come in all shapes and sizes and there's no ‘right’ way to parent your kids, highlighting the fact that respect and communication are the foundations for a happy blended family.  
45:06 3/6/24
Episode #103: Co-dependency, relationships and separation with Mark Groves
In this episode, Kate was joined by Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist and founder of 'Create the Love', to discuss co-dependency in relationships, separation and divorce.  About the guestMark's separation from his ex-partner sparked his journey to turn his experiences into an impactful message. Mark founded Create The Love, a platform that guides people to design the life and love they long for, following on from his rock bottom when his relationship ended. He hosts The Mark Groves Podcast and has a significant following on social media where he shares his insight into relationships. Today, Mark is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.  Mark is a friend of the podcast and this is his second appearance; you can check out Mark's previous episode here.Kate and Mark begin the episode by exploring how co-dependency can manifest in romantic and other personal relationships. They look at the link between codependency and addiction, as well as whether a codependent relationship can ever be healthy. During the episode, they talk about ending a codependent relationship and how fear is a driver for couples staying together in unhealthy and unhappy relationships. Finally, Mark and Kate end the episode by discussing the role of boundaries in healing co-dependency and co-parenting. 
42:47 2/21/24
Episode #102: Surviving the family courts with Louise Neville
In this episode, Kate is joined by founder and Master Divorce Coach, Louise Neville, to discuss surviving the family court.Louise founded the company Family Court Survival and supports people emotionally, practically and strategically through the Family Court System In England and Wales. She is a Master Divorce Coach and Professional McKenzie Friend who works in children’s welfare and is at the forefront of everything she does. Kate and Louise begin this episode by exploring what we mean by the family court. Louise explains how she ended up there after separating from her husband over unresolved financial and child arrangement issues. This episode is focused on helping people navigate the family court when they have no other choice.   Louise’s detailed explanation of the process for Children Act proceedings is useful in understanding what’s involved if you end up in a dispute when you separate.Trigger Warning: This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing including poor mental health and abuse.Organisations who can help:Dads UnlimitedYour local GPMind - mental health charitySamaritans - dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258YoungMinds Crisis Messenger – for people under 19Is your life in danger? - dial 999Outside of the UK? Search for help here
43:24 2/14/24
Episode #101: Divorce tales and co-parenting with actress Ella Kenion
In this episode, Kate was joined by Ella Kenion to talk about her experience of divorce and co-parenting. Ella spoke candidly about her two divorces, the first being the pinnacle of ‘amicable’ and the second being far from it. They also explore her co-parenting journey. About the guest: Ella has enjoyed a long and varied career as an actress, working successfully across both stage and screen for many years., with highlights including the BBC’s The Outlaws, Doctors, and The Detectorists, ITV’s Midsomer Murders and the feature film The Night before Christmas. Television credits include: Beyond Paradise (BritBox), So Awkward: Kids Camp (BBC), The Outlaws (BBC), Honour (ITV), The Barking Murders (ITV), The Duchess (Netflix), Shakespeare & Hathaway (BBC), Doctors (BBC), Pure (Channel 4), Warren (BBC), Kiss of Death (Discovery), Midsomer Murders (ITV), The Detectorists (BBC), Episodes (Showtime), Swashbuckle (CBBC), New Tricks (BBC), Justin's House (CBBC), Big Bad World (Comedy Central), Law & Order UK (Kudos), Cuckoo (BBC), Heading Out (BBC), Hollyoaks (Channel 4), Doctor Who (BBC), Fun Police (Channel 4), Gates (Sky), Criminal Justice (BBC), Gayle Tuesday: The Comeback (Living TV), Holby City (BBC). Theatre credits include: Dusty (Theatre Royal Bath), Ghosting the Party (NT Company), Emil & The Detectives (National Theatre), The School for Scandal (The Comedians Theatre Company), Shooting Star (Chester Gateway Theatre), Private Lives (Watford Palace Theatre), Gift of the Gorgon (Royal Shakespeare Company) Film credits include: The Offenders (Big Talk), The Knight Before Christmas (HP Christmas Knight Productions), Stan & Ollie (Fable Pictures). TW: This episode mentions abusive behaviour. Some listeners may find the information and topics discussed distressing. Useful links/ charities:Surviving Economic AbuseDashRefugeMen's Advice Line
42:34 1/24/24
Episode #100: The best bits from The Divorce Podcast
To celebrate this special occasion, we're taking a trip down memory lane and bringing you the absolute best bits from our most impactful and insightful episodes. Tune in as we delve into various topics including the emotional journey, co-parenting and children, and finances on divorce. We'll touch on finding your inner strength, co-parenting with grace, rebuilding your life, and embracing personal growth. Our guests will share their expertise, stories, and advice, creating a space for understanding and support.About the guests (In order of appearance):Jessica Fostekew: comedian, actor and writerIn 2019, Jess was nominated for The Dave Edinburgh Comedy Award ‘Best Show’ for her show Wench. She's the co-writer and co-star of the forthcoming Sky special 'Real Friends' and her series 'Sturdy Girl Club' is now on BBC Sounds. Ed Bassett: well-being entrepreneur, Dad, and rugby fanFather of two, Ed is involved in several not-for-profit companies, an Ambassador for Staffordshire, a start-up mentor and a passionate believer in finding your voice and speaking your truth.The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James DavisClaire and James Davis are the husband-and-wife team behind the multi-award-winning well-being company 38 Degrees North and the thriving midlife coaching business, The Midlife Mentors. Dr Angharad Rudkin: clinical psychologist Dr Angharad Rudkin a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce from the perspective of children.  Marcie Shaoul: Director of The Co-Parent WayMarcie is the Director of The Co-Parent Way, the UK’s only Co-Parent Coaching Practice. She is responsible for developing a unique coaching methodology that enables parents to co-parent together effectively after separation.Christina McGhee: internationally recognised divorce parenting expertWith over 25 years of experience, Christina has been featured across television, radio and podcasts including The Times, Channel 4 and the BBC.Louise Oliver: financial plannerLouise has worked in the financial services sector for over 30 years and is a Certified Financial Planner and a Chartered Wealth Manager.Daniel Copley: consumer expert at ZooplaDan is an editor with over 10 years of experience in the property, lifestyle and fashion sectors.Shreepali Chauhan-Tufail: Divorce Specialist at amicableShreepali is a former Solicitor with over 20 years of experience in Dispute Resolution, Family and Commercial law. Joshua Rozenberg: the UK’s most experienced legal commentatorJoshua Rozenberg KC (hon) is Britain's most experienced full-time legal commentator. He is the only journalist to have been appointed as Queen's Counsel honoris causa. David Hodson: solicitor, mediator, arbitratorProf David Hodson OBE KC(Hons) MCIArb is a co-founder partner of The International Family Law Group, which works with international families and their children.
38:33 1/10/24
Episode #99: Boundaries, relationships and separation with Dr. Charlotte Fox Weber
In this episode, Kate was joined by Dr. Charlotte Fox Weber to talk about boundaries, relationships, and separation. This episode focuses on what we mean by boundaries and explores how we can use them in the context of relationships, separation, and divorce.   About the guest:Charlotte is a psychotherapist and writer. She co-founded ‘Examined Life’ and is the founding head of ‘The School of Life Psychotherapy’. She grew up in Connecticut and Paris and now lives in London with her husband and two young children and ‘Tell Me What You Want’ is her first book. She's writing her second book about why we hold onto hurtful relationships.She is registered and accredited by the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) and a registered member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (MBACP). Charlotte founded The School of Life Psychotherapy in 2015, and now works in private practice. She is also a trustee on the board of the Josef and Anni Albers Foundation and works with Le Korsa, running educational programs with women in Senegal. 
32:44 12/27/23
Episode #98: How to be a happy single parent with Frolo
In this episode, Kate was joined by Zoë Desmond and Rebecca Cox to talk about their brand new book ‘How to be a happy single parent’. They start the episode by talking about why Zoë created Frolo and how she got to know Rebecca in the process. Zoë and Rebecca discuss their stories of becoming single parents and the challenges associated with raising children on your own. They explore their new book as well as some of the chapters, including those that focus on boundaries, the emotional side, and what it means to be a single parentAbout the guests: Rebecca Cox is a single mother and founder of The Single Mother Edit. She is a journalist whose writing has been published by Elle, Glamour, Country & Town House, and more. Her pieces on single motherhood have been featured in publications, including The Evening Standard, Grazia and Harper's Bazaar.Zoë Desmond is a single mum and the Founder of Frolo, the award-winning app and community for single parents. Both Zoe and Rebecca are the author’s of the brand new book, ‘How to be a happy single parent’.You can buy a copy of  ‘How to be a happy single parent’ by clicking on the link. 
42:57 12/13/23
Episode #97: Choosing professional help for divorce with Nichole Farrow
In this episode, Kate is joined by Relationship & Family Coach, Nichole Farrow to discuss professional help during a separation or divorce. Episode summary:In this episode, Kate and Nichole look at the different professionals who can help you navigate a separation. They discuss the various organisations and charities in this space as well as which parts of the process you can do yourself. Nichole explains how to access support, and where to find free information and low-cost options to help if you're on a budget. About the guest:Nichole Farrow is a relationship and family coach. Her distinctive blueprint for fostering thriving relationships and families is shaped by her own journey, as well as a profound grasp of human psychology and relationship dynamics. She is an expert in guiding complex family dynamics and divorce cases to a harmonious outcome.Nichole is a certified Robbins Madanes coach, NLP practitioner, and Resolution member, so she is well-placed in guiding complex family and divorce matters to a harmonious outcome. She is one of the UK's leading mindset coaches, specialising in supporting divorcing parents and blended families, and is regularly featured across the media, with a monthly slot on BBC Radio 5 Live. 
44:19 11/29/23
Episode #96: EFT coaching with Liz Hancock
In this episode, Kate is joined by Liz Hancock to discuss EFT coaching and how it can help in the context of divorce or separation.Liz has over 10 years of experience as an EFT Coach. EFT coaching is one of the therapeutic ways you can manage the emotional journey of a divorce or separation. In this episode, Kate and Liz explore what EFT is and how it can help separating couples navigate their divorce and negotiate through the emotional trauma which a divorce or separation can cause. Liz chose to specialise in the divorce and financial space following her own divorce, which started off amicable but then went on to be very toxic with threats over finances which affected not just her, but her children too.
35:42 11/15/23
Episode #95: Building self-confidence post-separation
In this episode, Kate is joined by The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James Davis, to discuss building self-confidence post-separation & divorce.Claire and James Davis are the husband-and-wife team behind the multi-award-winning wellbeing company 38 Degrees North and the thriving midlife coaching business, The Midlife Mentors. The couple have a successful midlife health podcast; The Midlife and their passion is helping ‘midlifers’ achieve the body, mind, and lifestyle they deserve.Kate, Claire and James begin the episode by discussing their own journeys and how it led to the creation of 'The Midlife Mentors', as well as '38 Degrees North'. They discuss building self-confidence after a divorce or separation, nutrition and its impact on confidence, the role of friends and family and much more.More about the guests:Using their backgrounds and qualifications in psychology, coaching, hormones, nutrition, personal training, stress management, menopause and NLP, their evidence-based approach empowers individuals with the practical tools and knowledge they need to make positive lifestyle changes.Claire & James are incredibly passionate about offering an anti-fad approach to the health and wellness narrative. You’ll find no fancy diets or pseudo-science - just authentic, balanced information based on years of professional and personal experience.They also work with corporations providing coaching and wellness programmes for individuals and teams and are regular media commentators. They have featured in The New York Times, The Daily Telegraph, The Sunday Times, The Observer, The Daily Mail, Conde Nast Traveller, The Evening Standard and more.
40:50 11/1/23
Episode #94: Separation in the workplace with Tesco, OnePlusOne and The Positive Parenting Alliance
In this episode, Kate is joined by Mustafa Faruqi from Tesco, James Hayhurst, founder of The Positive Parenting Alliance and The Parents Promise and Jimi Odel from OneplusOne to discuss separation and the workplace.Kate, Mustafa, James, and Jimi begin by looking at what employers can do to support their employees during a separation, especially in the wake of the movement to ‘bring your whole self to work’. Jimi and Mustafa touch on how employees can tell work about a separation and how managers can navigate these conversations. They explore the different policies and practices that might be in place, as well as how employers can create a culture that opens communication about life events which may impact work performance or work patterns. This is a brilliant episode for those going through a separation and people more generally, as it gives great tips about talking to and supporting colleagues. You can find OnePlusOne's tips for employers and the OLPAC approach by following this link. For more information and to sign up for and download The Parents Promise HR initiative resources, click here. About the guests:Mustafa Faruqi is Head of Reward and Workplace Relations at Tesco. Tesco, a leading multinational retailer with over 330,000 employees, is among the major employers committed to a new initiative to support staff going through separation. Before this, he worked for several prominent companies in the private and public sectors, including British Airways, Heathrow Airport and Network Rail. His career in human resources has specialised in negotiating with trade unions, implementing workplace change, developing HR policies and managing employee casework, including employment tribunals.Jimi Odell is the content manager at OnePlusOne, a relationship support charity with more than fifty years of experience in creating evidence-based early intervention resources to help people build and maintain healthy relationships. James Hayhurst is the founder of The Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of The Parents Promise.  He set up The Positive Parenting Alliance, having seen up close the many issues in the family courts and the scale and numbers of children affected. In May 2021, the Parents Promise was launched after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations. 
36:56 10/18/23
Episode #93: Property and divorce with Zoopla
In this episode, Kate is joined by Daniel Copley from Zoopla and Shreepali Chauhan-Tufail from amicable to talk about property and divorce.Throughout the episode, Kate, Dan and Shreepali cover a wide range of topics including living together post-separation; how to value property for divorce; how to obtain financial protection; and alternative living arrangements post-divorce. More about the guests:Zoopla is a property portal website and app and Daniel (Dan) is a consumer expert at Zoopla. Dan is an editor with over 10 years of experience in the property, lifestyle and fashion sectors. Having worked for brands such as M&S and Uber – and contributed to publications such as The Telegraph and GQ – Daniel champions readers’ interests in various subject areas. Shreepali is a Divorce Specialist at amicable helping couples navigate the emotional and legal aspects of relationship breakdown. Shreepali is a former Solicitor with over 20 years of experience in Dispute Resolution, Family and Commercial law. Her personable approach enables her to work empathetically applying emotional support with a balanced style allowing couples to separate in a fairer, kinder more amicable way
36:22 10/4/23
Episode #92: Is 50/50 fair? Fairness, finances and divorce with Joshua Rozenberg and David Hodson
In this episode, Kate is joined by Joshua Rozenberg and David Hodson to discuss whether 50/50 is a fair way to divide money and property during a divorce or separation. Joshua Rozenberg is the UK’s most experienced legal commentator. David Hodson is an English solicitor, mediator, arbitrator, and part-time (deputy) family court judge specialising in complex financial family law cases. In April 2023, the Law Commission of England and Wales launched a review of the laws determining how finances are divided between couples when they divorce or end a civil partnership. This is the backdrop of the episode; Kate, Joshua and David explore ‘fairness’ and whether 50/50 is consistently fair in the Law Commission's Review of rules around how money and property should be divided.Kate, Joshua and David look at the current law and the potential reforms being considered. They discuss the 'sharing principle', whether 50/50 should be the default for how finances are divided between couples and how the court deals with 'needs' cases.  More about the guests: Joshua Rozenberg KC (hon) is Britain's most experienced full-time legal commentator. He is the only journalist to have been appointed as Queen's Counsel honoris causa. He is an honorary Master of the Bench (bencher) of Gray's Inn and a non-executive board member of the Law Commission. His most recent book is Enemies of the People? How Judges Shape Society.  After taking a law degree at Oxford, he trained as a solicitor, qualifying in 1976. Since 2008, he has written for the Law Society Gazette, the Guardian and The Critic magazine. Joshua was the BBC's legal correspondent for 15 years before moving in 2000 to The Daily Telegraph. After resigning as legal editor in the summer of 2007 he continued to write a weekly column until the end of 2008. Joshua returned to the BBC in 2010 to present the Radio 4 series Law in Action. In 2012, he was included by The Times in its independently-judged list of the UK's 100 most influential lawyers, the only journalist to feature. Joshua is known for his independence, authority, and ability to explain complicated legal issues with simplicity, clarity, and wit.  He appears regularly on Sky News, on the BBC's various news outlets and other news networks in the UK and abroad. Prof David Hodson OBE KC(Hons) MCIArb is a co-founder partner of The International Family Law Group, which works with international families and their children.  He is an English solicitor, mediator, arbitrator, Australian (NSW) solicitor and a deputy (part-time) family court judge at the Central Family Court (DDJ in the FRC at the CFC) in London and Western Circuit.  He is a member of the English Law Society Family Law Committee, a Fellow of the International Academy of Family Lawyers, a member of LawAsia, the Family Law Section of the Law Council of Australia and a similar contributor to many family law organisations worldwide.  He is a regular speaker at international family law conferences around the world.  He was awarded the OBE for services to international family law.  He was appointed the (now) KC (Hons) in March 2022 by virtue of making a significant impact on the law of England and Wales.  He is the editor and primary author of the LexisNexis textbook ‘The International Family Law Practice’ (6th ed).  He is a Visiting Professor at the University of Law and an Honorary Professor of Law at Leicester University.  
44:16 9/18/23
Episode #91: Parenting apart with Christina McGhee
In this episode, Kate is joined by Christina McGhee, an internationally recognised divorce parenting expert, speaker, and author. With over 25 years of experience, Christina has been featured across television, radio and podcasts including The Times, Channel 4 and the BBC. Kate begins this episode by exploring the emotional journey of children when their parents separate. Christina explains how emotions may vary between children and when to seek professional help, particularly with sadness and anger. They discuss how to talk to children about separation and the importance of using the word ‘divorce’. Christina gives some great tips on how to reply to questions your children might have, especially when you're not sure how to respond. Christina's core principles provide valuable guidance to navigate the challenges of parenting apart, irrespective of the level of amicability between the parents involved. 
43:18 9/6/23
Episode #90: Child maintenance with Gingerbread
In this episode, Kate is joined by Jack Gillis from the single-parent charity, Gingerbread, to discuss child maintenance. Jack is the Advice Service Manager at Gingerbread and is responsible for the single parents’ helpline and webchat service. Gingerbread has supported and championed single parents since 1918. They’ve changed laws, influenced government and challenged stigma and stereotypes. Their expert advice and information help tens of thousands of single parents every year. Kate and Jack begin the episode by looking at the basics of child maintenance, including what it is and when you might be expected to pay. Jack explains the difference between private arrangements and going through the child maintenance service, or CMS. They explore the pros and cons of private arrangements and the enforcement powers of the CMS if you’re the receiving parent and you aren’t being paid. They also touch on the benefits available for single parents and how to renegotiate arrangements if circumstances change, such as a one parent losing a job. Gingerbread has a wealth of knowledge on child maintenance so remember to get in touch with them if you need more support.  How to contact Gingerbread:Gingerbread's helpline - 0808 802 0925Gingerbread websiteAdvice and support services
35:51 8/23/23
Episode #89: Sex and relationships with Ian Kerner
In this episode, Kate is joined by sex and relationship therapist, Ian Kerner.Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children Ian Kerner (PhD, LMFT) is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The New York Times, The Economist and NPR amongst others. Ian contributes regularly on the topic of relationships for CNN. He lectures frequently, with recent presentations for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, the Ackerman Institute, Tony Robbins, Goop, and TED 2021. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has been translated into more than a dozen languages, as well as the recently published So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (Grand Central). In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). Kate and Ian kick the episode off by discussing common problems which long-term couples tend to struggle with when it comes to sex. Later, they delve into various topics including intimacy issues, loss of attraction and practical tips to help relight that flame and get your physical relationship back on track.
36:43 8/9/23
Episode #88: How to help a friend or family member going through a separation
In this episode Kate was joined by Verity Glasgow, CEO of the relationship charity, Oneplusone to discuss friends and family in the context of relationship breakdown. OnePlusOne has more than fifty years of experience in creating evidence-based early intervention resources to help people build and maintain healthy relationships. Verity is committed to the digital transformation of relationship support services and has been a driving force behind some of OnePlusOne’s most recent projects, including the rollout of digital conflict reduction interventions and securing government funding to develop a new app to support separating parents. This episode is aimed at friends and family of anyone separating or going through a divorce so please share this episode with your network as most of us know someone who is splitting up. Kate and Verity begin this episode by touching on what happens when someone goes through a separation. They explore the role that friends and family play and the danger of misplaced advice.  Kate and Verity discuss how others 'war stories' often lead to rash decision-making because of fear. With a lack of information in the public domain on how to help friends and family who are separating, they end this episode by looking at five things to keep in mind when talking to people about their separation, with the goal of helping people end relationships in a kinder and better way. 
31:22 7/26/23
Episode #87: How to adjust to a new lifestyle when you separate from your partner
In this episode, Kate was joined by financial planner, Louise Oliver and Divorce coach, Tosh Brittan to discuss adjusting to a new lifestyle post-separation. Louise has worked in the financial services sector for over 30 years and is a Certified Financial Planner and a Chartered Wealth Manager. Throughout her career, she has regularly featured as a financial expert in the media, including across the BBC, GMTV and local radio.  As well as being a divorce coach, Tosh is an inspirational speaker, thought changer and host of the Divorce Goddess podcast, supporting women and men to have a calmer, more confident and emotionally healing divorce experience. She’s been featured on the BBC, ITV, SKY, Radio 5 Live, and in publications such as Elle Magazine, Telegraph, Sunday Times and the FT. Fear of having to change their current lifestyle is one of the biggest blockers preventing people from ending unhappy or unhealthy relationships says Tosh. This episode is all about equipping people going through a separation with the financial and emotional tools they need to adjust to a new lifestyle and build positive futures apart. With Louise covering the financial and numbers side, and Tosh focussing on the emotional journey, this episode is full of tips and advice to help anyone going through a separation. 
38:07 7/12/23
Episode #86: Separation story with comedian and actor, Jessica Fostekew
In this episode, Kate was joined by Jessica Fostekew - a comedian, actor and writer. In 2019, Jess was nominated for The Dave Edinburgh Comedy Award ‘Best Show’ for her show Wench. She has appeared on Live at the Apollo, QI and C4's Travelman. She's the co-writer and co-star of the forthcoming Sky special 'Real Friends' and her series 'Sturdy Girl Club' is out now on BBC Sounds. As an actor, she stars in Motherland and in Cuckoo both on BBC and Netflix and also in a new feature film called 'Scrapper'. She hosts her own podcast Hoovering, all about eating. Jess is also a regular co-host of the behemoth podcast The Guilty Feminist. This episode is all about Jess’s separation from her long-term partner. We explore her wonderful co-parenting journey, her sexual awakening in her 30s and her subsequent relationships. We also look at how her parents' divorce impacted her attitude towards her own separation. This episode, and Jess’s story overall, exemplifies how you can end a relationship in a kinder and better way, prioritising the emotional well-being of everyone involved. P.S. We're sorry there are a few moments where Jess's audio picks up traffic outside. 
40:43 6/28/23
Episode #85: Navigating shame and guilt during a divorce with Paul Huntingford
In this episode, Kate was joined by Paul Huntingford to discuss how therapy helped him through his divorce journey. Paul is an integrative therapist working in private practice. Paul is passionate about group work and increasing access to psychological support around divorce and separation. His own divorce experience led him to retrain as a therapist having previously worked in sports and healthcare settings. They begin this episode by looking at how Paul’s separation impacted his mental health, when things went sour after the involvement of solicitors, ultimately leading to a complete breakdown in communication between Paul and his ex.  Kate and Paul talk about the role that shame and guilt played in his separation and the trickiness of navigating the emotional journey. It's interesting to learn how Paul has used his divorce experience to help others move through their separation and deal with their emotional journeys. They finish the episode by looking at practical tips to help if you're going through a divorce or a breakup.  Trigger Warning: This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing including poor mental health and abuse.Organisations who can help:Dads UnlimitedYour local GPMind - mental health charitySamaritans - dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258YoungMinds Crisis Messenger – for people under 19Is your life in danger? - dial 999Outside of the UK? Search for help here
33:20 6/14/23
Episode #84: What is family arbitration and how does it work?
In this episode, Kate was joined by Nadia Beckett to talk about arbitration and separation. Nadia has been a family law solicitor for 30 years and established Beckett Solicitors in August 2008.  She specialises in private children and matrimonial financial disputes.  Nadia has been a mediator since 1997 and a Family Law Arbitrator since 2013.  She is dual-qualified as a financial and children arbitrator and is a founding member of the Certainty Project. Nadia also co-chairs the IFLA (Institute of Family Law Arbitrators), executive committee and sits on the IFLA rules committee as well as chairing the FFA (Forum of Family Law Arbitrators).  This episode is all about arbitration as an alternative route to resolving disputes during a divorce or separation. Kate and Nadia begin with the basics looking at what arbitration is and how it differs from going through the court. They explore when you might want to use arbitration as well as how to find an arbitrator. Nadia outlines the arbitration process, including how long it takes to reach a decision, and how an arbitrator’s determination will need to be written into a consent order if the decision is around finances. They also talk about the fact arbitration can be used for cohabiting couples as well, in their property disputes. They finish by exploring the advantages and the barriers to arbitration. 
33:50 5/31/23
Episode #83: Conscious uncoupling with Katherine Woodward Thomas
In this episode, Kate was joined by Katherine Woodward Thomas to talk about conscious uncoupling. Katherine is perhaps best known for having coined the phrase ‘conscious uncoupling’ famously used by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin to describe their separation in 2014 and the topic of this episode. Kate begins by asking Katherine to define conscious uncoupling and what led to her becoming a marriage and family psychotherapist. They discuss the notion of fairness being hardwired and how becoming aware of emotions such as guilt, shame and anger are important in the healing journey. Katherine talks about how conscious uncoupling takes work and self-reflection and the barriers that prevent us from achieving it. They explore the stages of conscious uncoupling and what to do if your ex-partner is resistant. Kate and Katherine finish by chatting through an example of how to de-escalate conflict situations with an ex using Katherine’s three-stage technique of; apology, acknowledgement, and amends. Katherine is the New York Times bestselling author of Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After and Calling in “The One”: 7 Weeks to Attracting the Love of Your Life, as well as an award-winning licensed marriage and family psychotherapist. Over the past two decades, Katherine has taught hundreds of thousands of people from all corners of the globe to create conscious, loving relationships. Katherine’s virtual learning communities include the Conscious Uncoupling & Calling in “The One” Quests with Mindvalley. She also trains and certifies Calling in “The One” Coaches and Conscious Uncoupling Coaches, and provides ongoing supervision and development to a vibrant community of coaches from around the world. Katherine is a Billboard charting, #1 iTunes jazz artist with her CD, Lucky in Love, which was co-written and co-produced with The Brothers Koren.You can join Katherine for free in a two-part workshop ‘The Art of Conscious Completions: How to Avoid the 5 Most Common Breakup Mistakes That Cause Sufferings, Steal Joy, and Prevent Future Love’ or find out more about her through her website or on social media. Kate Daly is the Co-founder of amicable, the online legal service for divorcing and separating couples. 
40:15 5/17/23
Episode #82: Wills, divorce and separation with Farewill
In this episode, Kate was joined by  Hayley Weston from Farewill and Siân Ford from amicable to talk about Wills and how they are impacted by relationships. Farewill provides Will-writing, probate, and cremation services in the UK. It’s mission is to change the way the world deals with death, putting people at the heart of everything they do. Farewill is the UK’s favourite will-writer, winning National Will Writing Firm of the Year for the fourth year in a row at the 2021 British Wills and Probate Awards, and Probate Provider of the Year for the second consecutive year in 2021. Hayley has been with Farewill for just over a year and is the Lead Solicitor on their Legal team.  She is primarily responsible for all aspects of the legal accuracy of the company’s wills and she provides day-to-day supervision and support to the online and telephone Wills teams, as well as supporting where needed on our probate and funerals business. Hayley joined Farewill having previously specialised in all areas of private practice from Wills, probate, trusts, estate and tax planning.Siân is Consent Order Specialist at amicable having completed a law degree, LPC and Masters specialising in family law. Before joining amicable, Sian worked at several law firms working in private client with a focus on Wills and probate.  She also has experience in criminal practice and Cardiff crown court.  In this episode, they start with the basics looking at what a Will is and when you might need one. They go on to talk about how Wills are impacted by different types of relationships including cohabitation, marriage and civil partnerships.  What becomes clear is the importance of having a Will, particularly if you’re in a cohabiting relationship. They also discuss blended families and estate planning, as well as when you should seek specialist advice from a tax expert. 
35:35 5/3/23
Episode #81: Infidelity, affairs and separation with Mr. Divorce Coach
In this episode, Kate was joined by Tom Nash, Mr Divorce Coach to talk about healing from infidelity and affairs. Tom is the UK's premier internationally certified Male Divorce Coach and knows first-hand the roller coaster of emotions and practical challenges of separation, having grown up with divorced parents, in a blended family and going through his own divorce. He retrained as a Master NLP Practitioner in Coaching and now supports individuals & couples with the emotional, mindset & practical realities of their divorce, separation, and co-parenting. He is regularly in the media sharing his unique expertise, from BBC Radio to The Times, and ITVs This Morning. Topics Kate and Tom cover in this episode include; reasons why people cheat, how a victim of an affair isn’t always a victim of the marriage, the situations when reconciliation is possible, how to work through an affair and the role of shared accountability. He explained how coaching offers an opportunity for self-reflection and growth. They end the episode with Tom sharing his top tips for navigating a blended family based on his personal and professional experience.
37:20 4/19/23
Episode #80: When the system fails with Nav Mirza, Founder of Dads Unlimited
In this episode, Kate was joined by Nav Mirza to talk about his experience of divorce, what happens when the system fails and why he founded Dads Unlimited. Dads Unlimited is a men’s mental health charity working with fathers who have gone through family separation and male victims of domestic abuse. Its purpose is to help improve the outcomes for the men and the people they care for. Nav wanted to make life easier for dads in his situation, and provide the advice, support and community he didn’t have.Nav has a background in law having previously called to the Bar. He’s helped set up the Independent Police Complaints Commission; held senior positions from the NHS Chief Executive programme, as well as a host of strategic, tactical and operational roles from across Central Government, including the House of Commons, House of Lords and the Home Office.Coming up to the one-year mark of the introduction of no-fault divorce in England and Wales, which came into law on April 6th 2022, this episode is all about what happens when the system fails, and future reforms in this space. Kate began this episode by exploring Nav’s experience of divorce and the various ways he and his family were let down by the legal system and other public bodies. They explore positive reforms that have taken place since Nav’s separation, as well as future reforms that need to happen to help protect people in similar situations in the future. Nav also explains more about the wonderful work of Dads Unlimted.   Trigger Warning: This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing including poor mental health, suicide and abuse.Organisations who can help:Dads UnlimitedYour local GPMind - mental health charitySamaritans - dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258YoungMinds Crisis Messenger – for people under 19Is your life in danger? - dial 999Outside of the UK? Search for help here
35:11 4/5/23

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