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Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

The Empowered Relationship Podcast helps you turn relationship challenges into opportunities and sets you up for relationship success, satisfaction, and intimacy. This podcast is designed to inspire, motivate, and guide individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.

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Navigating the tumultuous seas of grief and maintaining long-term relationships is no small feat. Whether it's dealing with the loss of a loved one, experiencing the invisible wounds of unacknowledged grief, or simply trying to find a balance between independence and partnership, many find themselves overwhelmed. How does one transition from anger to trust, from isolation to intimacy, while respecting the complexities of their emotions and relational dynamics? In this episode, we'll explore practical strategies and heartfelt insights to help you navigate these challenging waters. Discover how personal spirituality, a scientific mindset, and philosophical wisdom can intertwine to provide guidance and support on your journey. Learn about the life reentry process, understand the concept of invisible losses, and gain valuable advice on shifting perspectives to unlock the potential for fulfilling relationships and personal growth. Through real-life experiences of overcoming profound grief and the transformative power of vulnerability, this episode offers a beacon for those seeking a path from survival to thriving in their emotional and relational lives. Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author of Second Firsts (Hay House, 2013), Where Did You Go? (Harper One, 2018), and Invisible Loss (Sounds True, 2024). In 2010, four years after her spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process. Christina holds a master’s degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art). Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 9:49 Christina’s journey from the corporate world to grief author. 14:33 The role of intuition and the universe’s support. 19:23 Navigating new relationships after loss. 27:05 How people often remain in survival mode after trauma, not recognizing the potential for a fulfilling life beyond their past hardships. 28:20 Identifying and addressing invisible losses. 37:51 The complexities of balancing financial independence and trust in new relationships. 43:42 Long-term relationship dynamics continuous growth and understanding within marriage. 48:59 The concept of invisible loss: Unseen griefs and their impact on life progress. 50:33 Hope and transformation through life reentry: Shifting perspectives and embracing future possibilities. Mentioned Invisible Loss (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Second Firsts (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Where Did You Go? (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Life Reentry (website) The 31-Day Kindness Challenge (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Christina Rasmussen Websites: christinarasmussen.com Facebook: facebook.com/Secondfirsts X: x.com/Secondfirsts Instagram: instagram.com/christinarasmussen7 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

12/3/24 • 63:07

As the winter season unfolds and the holidays bring their usual whirlwind of activity, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Amid the gift shopping, party planning, and packed schedules, the essence of connection and kindness often gets overshadowed. Yet, this time of year offers a unique opportunity to refocus on the deeper values that make life meaningful. In 2017, a 5-part series titled "How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love" introduced a new take on the traditional Advent calendar, encouraging readers to practice one small act of kindness each day in December. This season, the focus returns to kindness—not just as a gift to others, but as a transformative practice for self-compassion and relationship growth. Research shows that the key to lasting, fulfilling relationships isn’t extravagant gestures—it’s simple acts of kindness and generosity. Studies reveal that kindness, along with emotional stability, is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in relationships. What's more, giving kindness often benefits the giver even more than the receiver. In this episode, we dive into the power of kindness and how it creates a ripple effect, spreading positivity and inspiring goodwill. We’ll explore how kindness strengthens relationships, nurtures emotional well-being, and can be cultivated like a muscle to improve our connections and our lives. Join us as we reflect on how kindness can be the greatest gift we give this holiday season—and beyond. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:31 Making a habit of spreading good vibes. 08:08 How kindness benefits both the giver and the receiver significantly. 14:51 Understanding emotional awareness in relationships. 19:26 The impact of gentleness and compassion in communication. 21:26 Navigating intimate dynamics with increased mindfulness. 27:21 How kindness transforms perspectives and priorities. 32:56 The science behind kindness and personal Well-being. 38:41 Kindness as a path to sustainable happiness. 41:40 Strategies for integrating kindness into daily life. Mentioned ERP 125: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love ERP 128: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Two ERP 129: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Three ERP 130: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Four ERP 131: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Five The 31-Day Kindness Challenge (free guide) (pdf) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

11/26/24 • 44:24

Emotional wounds from early relationships often cast long shadows over our adult lives, manifesting in unexpected ways. Whether it's feeling an inexplicable sense of burnout not tied to work, struggling with co-dependency, or recognizing recurring patterns of avoidance and anxiety in relationships, these issues are all too familiar but profoundly challenging. However, the road to healing and understanding these ingrained patterns doesn't have to be walked alone. In this episode, we delve deep into how early family dynamics and childhood experiences shape our emotional and physical well-being as adults. You'll learn how unaddressed attachment issues can trigger stress responses and lead to health problems, the importance of setting boundaries, and the power of emotional attunement in fostering healthier relationships. Additionally, through real-life stories and professional insights, you'll discover strategies to overcome these deep-rooted challenges, nurture personal growth, and ultimately, build more resilient and fulfilling relationships. Jen and Karden are seasoned mind-body practitioners who have experienced chronic pain and fatigue. Jen is an expert in the field of treating psychophysiological disorders and Karden specializes in somatic trauma therapies. Together, they co-founded the esteemed healing collective SOMIA where they have helped thousands of individuals regulate their nervous systems and heal. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:54 Exploring the impact of relational dynamics on healing and nervous system regulation. 18:54 Navigating attachment styles and emotional triggers in collaborative healing. 34:43 Embracing accountability: How self-awareness and validation promote relational healing. 43:02 The importance of setting healthy boundaries within oneself as a means of emotional regulation, particularly in the context of parenting. 49:53 How awareness with others impacts relationships and friendships. 52:49 How subtle childhood experiences can shape adult triggers and unmet needs in relationships. 58:15 The Secret Language of the Body. Mentioned The Secret Language of the Body: Regulate Your Nervous System, Heal Your Body, Free Your Mind ****(*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Jennifer Mann and Karden Rabin Websites: somiainternational.com Instagram: instagram.com/iamjenmann | instagram.com/kardenrabin Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

11/19/24 • 65:51

We've all been there—feeling misunderstood, hurt, or betrayed by those closest to us, which can lead to bottled-up resentment or explosive outbursts. But what if anger wasn't just a destructive force, but a powerful signal pointing us toward deeper healing and understanding? Let's dive into how embracing and channeling our anger can transform our relationships and emotional well-being. In this episode, we explore how viewing emotional experiences as a spectrum can unlock the door to more genuine vulnerability and meaningful connections. Techniques from the attachment EFT framework will guide you in expressing your deepest feelings in constructive ways. We'll also delve into understanding anger as both a primary and secondary emotion, uncovering its roots in betrayal and rejection, and offering practical exercises to help you process and validate your emotions. By the end, you'll have tangible tools and insights to nurture healthier, more empathetic relationships, while fostering continuous personal growth. Bronwyn Schweigerdt is a licensed psychotherapist, podcaster, and anger expert. She has a master's in counseling and another master's in nutrition. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 07:14 Understanding the spectrum of emotional experiences and their impact on relationships. 10:31 Understanding anger: Primary vs. secondary emotions. 12:49 The importance of recognizing and constructively expressing anger before it builds up to an outburst. 16:08 How to discern safe individuals from unsafe ones based on their response to feedback or emotional vulnerability. 21:48 How past betrayals and childhood experiences influence adult emotional responses. 30:42 Exploring the connections between anger, betrayal, and healing in adult relationships. 42:41 Distinguishing personal triggers from external behaviors. 45:04 Strategies for supporting a partner who is expressing anger but may not be using it as an opportunity for self-awareness or growth. 48:45 Exploring self-discovery: Insights from the podcast Angry at the Right Things. Mentioned Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Bronwyn Schweigerdt Websites: angryattherightthings.podbean.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

11/12/24 • 52:21

Ever feel like there’s a gap between your potential and your reality? Perhaps you sense there’s more to your interactions than simply going through the motions, more depth to be uncovered in your personal and professional relationships. Imagine what could be possible if you harnessed the power of resilience and brilliance—attributes that allow you to not just survive but to truly thrive in every interaction. What if you could tap into your innate creativity, intelligence, and confidence while navigating challenges with grit and perseverance? The potential for growth and transformation in your life could be limitless. In this episode, we explore how honing relational skills can radically improve your business, life, and relationships. Discover how a blend of perseverance, creativity, and confidence can unlock new levels of personal success and organizational progress. We'll dive into the science behind emotional alignment and the critical role it plays in leadership and effectiveness. Hear compelling personal stories about mending strained relationships through emotional support and consistency. Learn practical strategies for building stronger connections and fostering environments where everyone can shine. Tune in for insights that can help you unleash your true potential and transform your interactions with others. Simon T. Bailey is a leading expert on the topic of Brilliance. His groundbreaking research, State of Working America Report – Thriving in Resilience and Brilliance, solidifies his insights in his 11th book, Resilience@Work. Bailey left an indelible mark on 2,400-plus organizations in 54 countries and has made a remarkable impact on 120,000 professionals who’ve experienced his courses in LinkedIn Learning. He was also recognized in Success magazine’s Top 25 and leadersHum Top 200 Power List. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 07:43 What defines resilience for working Americans? 10:43 How congruence and alignment enhance leadership influence and effectiveness. 15:10 How do unresolved issues affect future relationships? 18:41 How does conscious awareness serve others? 20:48 Nurturing relationships through mindful connection. 25:48 The importance of sharing personal stories in the healing process 29:50 Learning to manage mental health through meditation, exercise, diet, and sleep (MEDS); using apps for meditation and journaling. 33:29 How prayer can shift attention from personal desires to serving others. Mentioned Resilience @ work: How to Coach Yourself Into a Thriving Future (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shift Your Brilliance: Harness the Power of You, Inc. (Brilliant Living) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Resilience is a Superpower (website) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Simon T. Bailey Websites: brilliantu.co | simontbailey.com Facebook: facebook.com/BrilliantSimonT X: twitter.com/SimonTBailey YouTube: youtube.com/c/SimonTBaileyIntl Instagram: instagram.com/simontbailey LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/simontbailey TikTok: tiktok.com/@simon.t.bailey Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

11/5/24 • 41:34

Navigating emotional turbulence in relationships often feels like weathering a storm without an umbrella. When emotions swell and reach a boiling point, they can cloud our judgment, leading to misunderstandings and disconnection with loved ones. But what if anger and emotional flooding could serve as gateways to deeper understanding and genuine connection rather than barriers? In this episode, we delve into the roots and triggers of emotional flooding, offering essential tools and insights to help you manage overwhelming emotions. By exploring concepts like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS), we aim to help you identify the vulnerabilities beneath anger and develop healthy ways to process your emotions. Practical strategies for emotional regulation, curiosity, and effective communication are shared to foster healthier relational dynamics and navigate the complexities of intimacy and personal triggers. Whether you're dealing with stressors from past experiences or facing present-day challenges in your relationships, this episode provides valuable guidance on building a more resilient and emotionally attuned partnership. Gayane Aramyan, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles, specializes in perinatal therapy, guiding women and couples through pregnancy, postpartum, and parenthood. She has additional training in Anger Management, EFT for Couples, Grief Processing, ACT, and IFS. Featured in Women's Health, CNBC, Forbes, The Los Angeles Times, and HuffPost, she empowers clients through life transitions and the challenges of parenthood. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:59 How Gayene Aramayan began her journey to helping couples understand each other’s evolving selves. 09:05 What is emotional flooding and how does it manifest in relationships? 14:51 How suppressing emotions in childhood lead to struggles with managing feelings in adulthood? 20:59 Strategies to help recognize emotional triggers and core feelings beyond anger. 25:31 How can couples handle strong emotions constructively? 30:51 How is our inner child impacting marriage? 38:57 Identifying and dissecting couples' emotional interaction cycles. 44:04 How does writing transform your thought process? 47:06 Awareness and preparation for perinatal depression and anxiety. 48:29 The importance of identifying your emotional hotspots? Mentioned What is Internal Family Systems? (*IFS Institute website) (link) What is EFT? (*ICEEFT website) (link) ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson Identify The Cycle (free pdf document) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Gayane Aramyan Websites: therapywithgayane.com Instagram: instagram.com/therapywithgayane Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

10/29/24 • 51:28

Criticism, defensiveness, and emotional withdrawal can become major roadblocks, making the journey toward a fulfilling relationship seem almost unattainable. How do couples navigate these natural challenges and cultivate a deeper, more enduring connection? In this episode, listeners will discover practical tools and mindful practices intended to transform criticism into connected communication. By exploring specific appreciation techniques, scheduled sharing practices, and innovative exercises like "caring and sharing" sessions, couples can nurture a safer emotional environment. With insights into balancing playfulness with constructive dialogue and creating conflict-free zones, this episode aims to equip partners with the skills needed to cultivate lasting intimacy and emotional security in their relationships. Warren Farrell, PhD, has coached couples and psychologists worldwide in couples’ communication for the past 30 years. His popular course is "Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Art and Discipline of Love." Dr. Farrell has been chosen by the Financial Times of London as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages, and include The New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, international bestseller The Myth of Male Power, and 2018's The Boy Crisis. His previous book on couples’ communication, Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, was a selection of the Book of the Month Club. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:20 From gender awareness to relationship transformation: A journey of advocacy and education. 10:50 Overcoming defensive listening with caring practices. 17:45 The importance of creating a safe environment for couples to handle criticism by regulating their nervous systems. 22:41 Cultivating deep connections through specific appreciation and conflict management. 32:48 How partners can effectively respond to critical comments while prioritizing thoughtful communication. 39:23 Enhancing relationship dynamics through awareness and accountability. 45:58 The importance of play and teasing in strengthening couple dynamics. Mentioned Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Seven Secrets to Lifelong Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say: Destroying Myths, Creating Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Why Men Are the Way They Are: The Male-Female Dynamic (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Myth of Male Power (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Why Men Earn More (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Warren Farell Websites: warrenfarrell.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

10/22/24 • 54:04

Infidelity—it's a word that can send shockwaves through even the most stable relationships. In our tech-driven world, the boundaries and expectations surrounding loyalty and commitment seem more convoluted than ever. Without clear communication and defined agreements, even the most well-meaning partners can find themselves entangled in misunderstandings and unanticipated crises. In this episode, we dive deep into the complexity of infidelity within contemporary relationships. We explore the importance of having candid conversations about monogamy and other expectations with your partner, guided by insights from experienced relationship experts. By examining real-life scenarios and discussing therapeutic concepts such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we aim to equip you with practical tools for handling betrayal. Additionally, we delve into the nuanced process of forgiveness, self-compassion, and the potential for growth and transformation that can arise from relationship challenges. Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists. Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.” His most recent book is "Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again.” Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:41 Dr. Bruce Chalmer’s profound exploration of forgiveness and betrayal in relationships. 10:31 How infidelity's evolving definitions complicate relationship expectations. 13:52 What forgiveness truly means: Accepting reality without condoning actions. 23:29 Three steps to forgiveness. 34:01 Struggles with emotional connection due to trauma. 40:53 How attachment system impacts security and emotional responses. 47:15 Communication issues often indicate deeper underlying conflicts. 49:16 Why only one partner can be upset simultaneously. 55:16 Why assigning good or bad is often misleading. Mentioned Betrayal and Forgiveness (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) My Stroke of Insight (*TED Talks link) (video) Crucible Institute by Dr. David Schnarch (website) Intimacy & Desire by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Resurrecting Sex by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship ERP 015: Do You Have a “Unity” or “Journey” Mindset in Relationship? ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson The Gottman Institute (website) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer Websites: brucechalmer.com | couplestherapyinsevenwords.com Facebook: facebook.com/drbrucechalmer YouTube: youtube.com/user/brucechalmer LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/bruce-chalmer-95ab70305/ Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/couples-therapy-in-seven-words/id1517231158 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

10/15/24 • 60:31

Anxiety can seep into our lives like an uninvited guest, disrupting our relationships, altering our moods, and even impacting our physical health. The struggle to recognize and address the roots of this pervasive issue often leaves us feeling overwhelmed and helpless. What if we could reframe our understanding of anxiety, seeing it not as a problem to be suppressed, but as a messenger of deeper, underlying issues? Could this shift in perspective transform not only our personal well-being but also our interpersonal connections? In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of anxiety, exploring its complex relationship with our bodies, minds, and interactions with others. We discuss practical strategies for setting personal limits to prevent burnout, share insights from groundbreaking research on anxiety and trauma, and introduce step-by-step algorithms that empower you to uncover and heal root causes. You'll discover how integrating biological and psychological knowledge can lead to a more holistic approach to mental health, paving the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to learn how you can turn your symptoms into powerful access points for healing and personal growth. Nicole Cain, ND, MA, is a pioneer in integrative approaches for mental and emotional wellness. With a degree in clinical psychology, training in EMDR, and being licensed as a naturopathic physician in the state of Arizona, her approach to mental health is multidisciplinary: medical, psychological, and holistic. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 08:03 Can anxiety be healed or just managed? 12:34 How medications like SSRIs and Benzodiazepines can impact relationships. 21:45 How trauma triggers persistent protective responses. 25:06 High-functioning individuals often mask internal struggles. 32:17 How understanding anxiety as data can transform healing and relationships. 36:48 How emotional adaptations from trauma protect us but can also cause issues. 40:08 Identifying root causes rather than just treating symptoms. 46:20 Expert guidance for calming the nervous system and optimizing health recovery. 55:49 Reflecting growth in relationships: Navigating subjective feedback and personal reactions. Mentioned Panic Proof: The New Holistic Solution to End Your Anxiety Forever (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson Connect with Dr. Nicole Cain Websites: drnicolecain.com Facebook: facebook.com/DrNicoleCain YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCe-hcFYhi5QMmXcR_kNippQ Instagram: instagram.com/drnicolecain Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/holistic-inner-balance-natural-mental-health-podcast/id1506869161 | drnicolecain.com/podcast Pinterest: pinterest.com/drnicolecain Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

10/8/24 • 61:11

Have you ever felt that your sensitivities in a relationship are misunderstood or undervalued? Are you struggling with maintaining sexual desire in a long-term relationship, particularly amidst the chaos and demands of daily life? Often, highly sensitive individuals find it challenging to balance their emotional and physical needs, leading to a decline in intimacy and connection over time. Understanding and addressing these unique sensitivities are essential for nurturing a fulfilling and passionate relationship. In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of how highly sensitive people interact with intimacy and sexuality. We explore various models of sexual desire, emphasize the importance of context and emotional connection, and offer practical solutions for managing overstimulation. With insights on daily practices, de-armoring needs, and creating intentional connection time, this episode provides a holistic approach to reviving sexual desire and intimacy in long-term relationships, ultimately fostering deeper emotional bonds and mutual understanding. Irene Fehr is a Sex & Intimacy Coach and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner who helps couples make love & sex work in a long-term relationship and bring sex and passion into sexless ones. Weaving together somatic coaching, mindfulness, emotional communication work, and experience with the dynamics of highly sensitive women's sexual desire in a long-term relationship, Irene has developed and successfully applied her holistic "Connection Sex" framework to turn her client’s relationships around toward more passion, connection, and love. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:24 Irene Fehr’s personal journey and insights on highly sensitive people. 09:25 Understanding overstimulation and emotional disconnect in relationships. 13:19 Exploring the differences in sexual desire: Spontaneous vs. Responsive models and the role of high sensitivity. 23:21 How high sensitivity impacts male sexual desire and performance in relationships. 28:31 The importance of creating space for highly sensitive individuals in relationships, especially in sexual dynamics. 38:49 The importance of emotional and physical de-armoring for intimacy in Long-term relationships. 45:21 Balancing sexual desire in relationships: Overcoming expectations and building daily connection. Mentioned Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Highly Sensitive Person Test ERP 211: How to Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure in the Bedroom – An Interview with Ian Ferguson ERP 257: A New Paradigm for Understanding True Sexual Connection and Intimacy – An Interview with Diana Richardson ERP 287: How to Engage in the Art of Giving and Receiving: Using the Wheel of Consent – An Interview with Dr. Betty Martin ERP 314: How to Work Through the Complexities of Sexual Desire in Relationship — An Interview Martha Kauppi Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Irene Fehr Websites: irenefehr.com X: twitter.com/ignitedwoman YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCR09-jgEvU89NH9CwoJ2I1Q LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/irenefehr Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

10/1/24 • 56:56

Are you feeling the strain in your long-term relationships, whether it’s with a partner or a friend? As time passes, staying engaged and committed can become a challenge, especially amid the demands of daily life, aging, or the shadow of global disruptions like the COVID-19 pandemic. Maintaining vibrant, nurturing connections can sometimes feel like an uphill battle, leaving many wondering how to inject new life and meaning into these cherished bonds. As we grow older, the importance of these relationships only intensifies, impacting our health, happiness, and overall lifespan. So, how do we keep the flame alive and foster relational longevity amid life's inevitable changes? In this episode, we explore innovative and meaningful practices designed to rekindle and sustain the depth of our relationships. From the ritual of vow renewal to annual relationship debriefs you'll discover inspiring ways to continually recommit to your loved ones. Insights from experts discuss the social and health benefits of these rituals, and how they can fortify not just marriages, but friendships and broader social networks. Whether you're looking to enhance your romantic life or invigorate your friendships, this conversation offers practical tools and evidence-based strategies to help you create an enduring and life-affirming connection. Dive in to learn how celebrating milestones, maintaining personal interests, and fostering intentional social ties can significantly elevate the quality of your relationships and your life. Maddy Dychtwald is an internationally acclaimed author, public speaker, and thought leader on longevity, aging, the new retirement, and the ascent of women. She co-founded Age Wave, the world's leader in understanding and addressing the far-reaching impacts of our aging population, and has led numerous acclaimed studies on women and money. Her recently published book, “Ageless Aging: A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Healthspan, Brainspan, and Lifespan” was a USA Today bestseller and a Publishers Weekly bestseller. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:05 Maddy Dychtwald’s four decades of passion in aging, longevity, and retirement. 10:08 The power of mindset and social connections for a healthier, longer life. 26:55 How couples keep their relationship vibrant through regular communication and annual vow renewals. 38:51 Navigating aging in relationships: Balancing different attitudes towards health and longevity. Mentioned Ageless Aging: A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Healthspan, Brainspan, and Lifespan (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Maddy Dychtwald Websites: maddydychtwald.com Facebook: facebook.com/maddy.dychtwald X: twitter.com/Maddy_Dychtwald Instagram: instagram.com/maddydychtwald LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/maddydychtwald TikTok: tiktok.com/@maddy_dychtwald?lang=fil-PH Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

9/24/24 • 49:15

Is your relationship running on autopilot, devoid of the meaningful conversations that foster growth and intimacy? Relationships often suffer when we avoid crucial conversations that could foster deeper connections and understanding. The problem is not the lack of desire but rather the missing know-how to navigate these uncharted waters effectively. Imagine a world where curiosity, vulnerability, and intentionality are the cornerstones of your relationship, transforming mundane interactions into meaningful, intimate moments. In this episode, we dive deep into the often-overlooked conversations that can create positive change in relationships. Learn about practical exercises designed to enhance intimacy, tools to build curiosity and engagement, and the importance of creating rituals within daily routines. From mindfulness exercises to reframing thoughts and leveraging curiosity, this discussion illuminates the pathway to a more connected and fulfilling relationship. The goal is to provide you with actionable insights and strategies that can immediately impact how you relate to your partner, helping to turn those awkward silences into moments of genuine connection. Zach Brittle is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Gottman Therapist, and Certified Relational Life Therapist. He is also the author of The Relationship Alphabet and the Marriage Therapy Journal. Laura Heck is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, and Sex Therapist in private practice working exclusively with couples to manage conflict and deepen intimacy and pleasure. Zach and Laura are the co-hosts of the podcast Marriage Therapy Radio where they bring wit and wisdom while tackling the most common complaints every relationship experiences. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:15 How this dynamic duo brings humor and expertise to relationship advice. 12:04 How actively engaging in the process leads to real relationship growth. 21:02 How curiosity can transform relationships and deepen connection. 26:47 Exercises for cultivating vulnerability and emotional intimacy in relationships. 32:38 Building lasting connection through rituals and intentional practices in relationships. 45:37 Aligning values with intentional practices for a more fulfilling relationship. Mentioned Reconnect: A Marriage Counseling Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Atomic Habits (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Smart Couples Finish Rich (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 420: The Importance of “Turning Towards” in Relationship — An Interview with Laura Heck ERP 396: How to Recognize Unhelpful & Misguided Relationship Advice — An Interview with Zach Brittle ERP 216: What to Know about Loneliness and Relationship ERP 110: How To Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs In Relationship Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Zach Brittle & Laura Heck Websites: marriagetherapyradio.com Facebook: facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio X: twitter.com/forbetter_us Instagram: instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-therapy-radio/id1295458667 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

9/17/24 • 54:57

Have you ever wondered why certain patterns seem to repeat in your relationships, leaving you feeling unfulfilled or misunderstood? Many of us carry the hidden scars of unmet childhood needs into our adult partnerships, often without realizing it. These unresolved emotional wounds can create barriers to giving and receiving love, often manifesting as conflicts and struggles in intimacy. Understanding and healing these deep-seated issues is crucial for building healthier, more fulfilling relationships. In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior and relationships. We'll explore how understanding and internalizing these early life influences can help recognize and address the missing emotional elements from one's upbringing. The discussion sheds light on the importance of processing past traumas, engaging in healing conversations, and employing therapeutic techniques like role-playing and letter-writing to reconcile unresolved feelings. By emphasizing the intertwined nature of individual and relational growth, this episode offers practical strategies to help listeners navigate the complexities of maintaining a strong sense of self while fostering fulfilling, intimate relationships. Talia Bombola, The Confidence & Assertiveness Specialist™, is a Certified Psychodynamic, Licensed Psychotherapist, and Relationship Mentor for Women. Her work centers around helping anxious women feel secure by increasing self-worth, confidence, and assertiveness & rewiring beliefs about themselves, men, and relationships. She helps you heal the "not enoughness" that is blocking you from living a life overflowing with satisfaction and self-worth. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:06 Talia’s journey from personal development to professional practice. 11:20 The dangers of tying self-worth to external achievements and goals. 14:45 Understanding the importance of developmental stages in shaping a person's sense of identity and self-worth. 18:56 The role of psychodynamic therapy and reparenting in healing childhood wounds. 29:03 Exploring the benefits of reconnecting with parents to address unresolved childhood experiences. 41:38 The importance of maintaining one's individuality and sense of self within relationships, particularly when faced with disapproval or differing opinions from loved ones. 46:57 Balancing closeness and autonomy: Navigating conflict and personal growth in relationships. Mentioned Rewire Your Relationships (online program) Triangular Theory of Love True self and false self (*Wikipedia link) (article) Eriksons Stages of Psychosocial Development (*National Library of Medicine link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Talia Bombola Websites: taliabombola.com Facebook: facebook.com/taliabombola Instagram: instagram.com/taliabombola TikTok: tiktok.com/@taliabombola Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heal-through-humor/id1657508931 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

9/10/24 • 54:49

Does the way society has dictated gender roles affect the dynamics in your relationship? Many of us are conditioned from a young age to adhere to certain gender roles, often seeking validation and traits from our partners that we feel we lack within ourselves. This deep-rooted socialization can result in an unhealthy dynamic, impacting the harmony and health of our relationships. How can we reclaim and integrate these vital energies within ourselves to create stronger, more authentic connections? In this episode, we explore how traditional gender conditioning influences our expectations and behaviors in relationships. Through a deeply insightful discussion, this episode offers practical strategies for recognizing and integrating both masculine and feminine energies in everyday life. Reflecting on personal experiences, societal dynamics, and spiritual perspectives, this episode provides tools to foster emotional maturity, authenticity, and harmony in your relationships. Join us to understand the importance of inner balance and discover how to step into a more empowered version of yourself. Dené Logan, AMFT, is a marriage and family therapist, spiritual teacher, and author of Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within. She is cohost of the weekly podcast Cheaper Than Therapy, which gives listeners a behind-the-scenes look at coaching sessions with actual clients, interviews with thought leaders in the field of mental health and wellness, and a bird’s-eye view into two therapists hashing out their current life struggles and perspectives on various hot topics. She lives in Los Angeles. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:35 Deńe Logan’s journey: From being a spiritual seeker and yoga teacher to becoming a therapist who specializes in couples work. 13:05 Redefining relational success and embracing the spiritual journey in relationships. 23:26 Balancing masculine and feminine energies in modern society. 46:51 Healing relationships through inner child connection and energy awareness. Mentioned Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles" (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dené Logan Websites: denelogan.com Instagram: instagram.com/dene.logan Podcast: denelogan.com/podcast Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

9/3/24 • 58:16

Relationships are complex and often fraught with misunderstandings, conflicts, and a sense of disconnection. The journey to nurturing deep, meaningful connections can feel overwhelming, especially when traditional advice falls short. How can we cultivate intimacy and trust in our relationships? What if the answer lies not just in psychology but also in the intriguing world of quantum physics? Imagine approaching your relationships with the same awe, curiosity, and flexibility physicists use to understand the universe. In this episode, we dive into the fascinating interplay between quantum physics and relational skills, offering fresh perspectives that challenge conventional thinking. The discussion explores the delicate art of deep listening, the transformative power of acceptance, and the importance of vulnerability. Learn about the stages of cultivating intimacy and the skills needed at each phase. We also touch on the importance of humility, adaptability, and approaching conflicts with a soft startup rather than with a harsh startup. By integrating these principles, you'll discover new ways to strengthen your connections and pave the path to more fulfilling and resilient relationships. Dr. McMillan is a clinical community psychologist who has 40+ years of experience providing people with tools and insights they can use in their personal relationships, communities, and society at large to heal divisions and find ways to work together. He developed and authored the Sense of Community Theory, the most influential research on the psychological sense of community. Dr. McMillan is also the author of several highly-rated books, including Create Your Own Love Story. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:41 Defining the social glue: Understanding sense of community theory. 9:22 The four elements of a sense of community and their parallel in relationships. 16:35 How principles from quantum physics can inform relationship dynamics. 26:47 How observation influences reality in relationships. 35:52 The transformative power of emotions: From fear and anger to healing and growth. Mentioned Create Your Own Love Story: The Art of Lasting Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. David McMillan Website: drdavidmcmillan.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

8/27/24 • 53:15

Navigating the complex terrain of romantic relationships can often feel like walking through a maze with no clear exit in sight. Fear, disguised as stress or anger, can become an invisible barrier that hampers our ability to foster intimate connections and develop relational skills. But what if we understood our deepest fears, attachment styles, and the ways we can reclaim our emotional maturity and personal empowerment within our relationships? Imagine transforming stress and conflict into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding. In this episode, we delve deeply into the complexities of attachment styles and their impact on relationships. Discover how different attachment styles manifest fear and the importance of recognizing these patterns in both yourself and your partner. We discuss practical strategies for managing negative thoughts, the role of nonverbal communication, and the power of physical touch in creating a secure bond. Furthermore, understand how emotional regulation, personal empowerment, and vulnerability can transform relationship dynamics. Charisse Cooke, an attachment-based psychotherapist and author, brings over twenty years of experience in relationship dynamics. With 7000+ clinical hours, including roles in three clinical facilities and private practice in London, she specializes in understanding relationship patterns. Rooted in adult attachment theory, her compassionate approach aims to transform relational dynamics. Through online courses and social media, Charisse educates on fostering secure, authentic connections, empowering individuals to mend relationships, and building emotional resilience. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:00 From fascination to practice: Charisse Cooke’s journey in understanding relationships. 8:55 The power of embracing acceptance and curiosity in relationships rather than immediately viewing unexpected situations as problems. 11:55 Balancing active participation and surrender in relationships. 16:08 Navigating fear and control in committed relationships. 22:03 Strategies for avoidant attachments and building secure bonds. 35:48 Cultivating emotional resilience: Balancing immediate and long-term regulation strategies. Mentioned 10 New Behaviours That Will Transform Your Relationship in Under 10 Weeks (course link) ERP 410: What Are the Signs of Emotional Immaturity in Relationship? Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Charisse Cooke Websites: charissecooke.com X: twitter.com/CharisseCooke3 YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCsTpiVcJCs65GYnITSkSAbQ? Instagram: instagram.com/charissecooke LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/charisse-cooke-08157845 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

8/20/24 • 47:44

Do you find it difficult to negotiate differing perspectives without sacrificing your own identity or creating deeper rifts? How do we balance our own needs with those of our partner? How do we stay connected even when conflict arises? Relationships can be a delicate balancing act, where the yearning for closeness and the need for autonomy often collide, leaving couples in a state of disconnection and frustration. In this episode, we delve into this very dilemma, exploring the concept of becoming "relationship visionaries," emphasizing the importance of prioritizing the relationship's higher intention over individual desires. Through compelling stories, visual models, and actionable advice, you'll learn how to take turns, communicate effectively, and make decisions that foster intimacy and connection. By embodying these principles, you can navigate conflicts with greater understanding and kindness, ensuring a resilient and deeply satisfying partnership. Join us as we uncover the essence of successful relationships and offer tools to elevate your love life to new heights. Jessica Myers-Adams is a licensed clinical social worker and certified relationship coach and is an author and speaker whose words resonate with authenticity. Her widely acclaimed book, "What To Do When You Do Give a F*ck," has been hailed for its unabashed counsel on breathing life back into waning relationships. Through her coaching initiative, Couples Speak, Jessica has facilitated countless couples in healing fractured ties and revamping the love connection. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 8:29 The common struggle of balancing the desire for intimacy with the need for personal boundaries. 12:17 Mastering effective listening and embracing relationship vision. 24:21 Steps to negotiation, validation, and intimacy in relationships. 37:10 Cultivating curiosity and flexibility in relationship decision-making. 44:33 Explore resources and programs to enhance your relationship skills. Mentioned What to Do When You Do Give a F*CK (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Jessica Myers-Adams Websites: couplesspeak.com Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100084765327582 Instagram: instagram.com/jessicarelationshipvisionary LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jessica-myers-adams-865136134 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

8/13/24 • 49:17

Do you find yourself repeatedly falling into patterns of insecurity, sabotaging your relationships and sense of self-worth? Many of us are haunted by memories from the past that influence our current thoughts, emotions, and sensations—creating a cycle of negativity that feels impossible to break. But there is a way out. Through compassionate self-awareness and targeted self-compassion, you can learn to transform these self-defeating cycles into empowering pathways for growth. In this episode, we delve into practical strategies to help you transform your relationship with yourself and others. We'll explore the powerful STEAM model—sensations, thoughts, emotions, actions, and mentalizing—as a guide to building self-awareness and self-compassion. By reflecting on past patterns and practicing compassionate self-awareness, you'll learn how to separate recurring thoughts and feelings, fostering growth and self-acceptance. Additionally, we'll uncover insights into attachment styles and how they shape your perceptions and interactions, providing you with the tools to improve your sense of worthiness and lovability. Tune in to discover methods for cultivating emotional resilience, empathy, and connection, paving the way for healthier relationships and a more grounded sense of self. Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps is dedicated to helping people understand themselves and what they need to do to become emotionally and psychologically healthy. She is in private practice, hosts a YouTube channel, and is a prolific writer. She has authored The Insecure in Love Workbook, Insecure in Love, and Bouncing Back from Rejection. She also writes the Authentically You blog and the Making Change blog on Psychology Today. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:29 Leslie’s passion for helping people and how her career has evolved. 9:37 Understanding attachment theory and its impact on well-being. 13:54 How early experiences influence adult relationships and attachment styles. 22:00 The importance of understanding one's attachment styles and the concept of self-awareness in fostering healthier relationships. 30:55 Differentiating between thoughts and emotions to gain greater self-awareness and break the cycle of insecurity. 34:24 Using steam to break the cycle of insecurity and self-sabotage. 46:49 A comprehensive resource for relationship growth. Mentioned The Insecure in Love Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Insecure in Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Bouncing Back from Rejection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Insecure in Love [large print edition] (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Insecure in Love Workbook (*New Harbinger Publications Affiliate link) (book) ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson ERP 261: How to Strengthen Your Relationship from a Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps Websites: drbecker-phelps.com Facebook: facebook.com/DrLeslieBP YouTube: youtube.com/c/LeslieBeckerPhelpsPhD LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/leslie-becker-phelps-ph-d-7221b155 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

8/6/24 • 51:22

Are you feeling stuck or unfulfilled in your life or relationship? Do you find yourself trapped in a cycle of boredom and longing for something more? It's a common struggle that many of us face, but the good news is that change and growth are possible. The key lies in embracing the unknown, staying curious, and seeking new experiences to reignite the spark both within yourself and with your partner.  In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of curiosity and exploration, especially during life's unexpected challenges. From taking up new hobbies like tennis and dance to reframing our perspective on life's curveballs, our conversation offers practical insights to help you shift your state of being and rediscover a sense of joy and fulfillment. By reassessing happiness and goals, adopting a growth mindset, and nurturing intimacy and communication, we explore how to navigate the complexities of life and love, ultimately fostering a deeper connection within and with those around us. Monica Berg is the author of Rethink Love, Fear is Not an Option, and The Gift of Being Different children’s book, as well as the co-host of the popular Spiritually Hungry podcast. She’s been called “The Marie Kondo of the Soul,” showing us how tidying up our inner mess can help us find the joy we’ve been seeking. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 00:04 Exploring the topic of boredom in relationships, especially in long-term ones where routines and habits often develop. 02:51 Overcoming boredom in relationships: Embracing creativity and growth. 09:14 The need for curiosity and engagement in exploring new interests to overcome feelings of boredom and routine. 24:10 Transforming fear and rigidity into opportunity and joy. 27:26 The importance of acknowledging and processing negative emotions rather than bypassing them. Mentioned The Gift of Being Different (On Being) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Fear Is Not An Option (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Rethink Love: 3 Steps to Being the One, Attracting the One, and Becoming One (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Maybe You Should Talk To Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) ERP 305: The Surprising & Powerful Benefits of Learning to Tolerate Discomfort — An Interview with Dr. Anna Lembke Connect with Monica Berg Websites: rethinklife.today | spirituallyhungrypodcast.com Facebook: facebook.com/monicaberg74 | facebook.com/SpirituallyHungryPodcast YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCe3q8OFWS2o9zy_PZsBDUtw Instagram: instagram.com/monicarberg74 | instagram.com/spirituallyhungry Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/spiritually-hungry/id1517646639 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

7/30/24 • 45:10

Deception in relationships is a common issue that can strain trust and intimacy, leaving partners feeling confused and disconnected. Whether it's through subtle nonverbal cues or drastic changes in communication style, lies—both big and small—can significantly impact the fabric of any relationship. Identifying lies and understanding their underlying causes are crucial steps to fostering a more honest and open partnership. How do you address this deeply ingrained issue? It all starts with awareness and communication. In this episode, we delve into the nuances of recognizing deception, from interpreting nonverbal cues such as tone of voice and fidgeting to understanding the reasons behind why people lie. We'll explore strategies for responding to dishonesty in a non-accusatory way and the importance of self-reflection and open dialogue. By examining case studies, behavioral tips, and psychological insights, listeners will better navigate the complexities of honesty in relationships, paving the way for deeper intimacy and trust. Andrea Beach is a highly acclaimed life and business coach and a leading authority on human behavior. She combines the best techniques from NLP and relational psychology with her “self-made success” strategies as a business leader and entrepreneur to deliver incredible results for both companies and individuals alike. Beach has created dozens of successful programs for relationship transformation. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:58 Andrea’s journey: From serial entrepreneurship to balanced life harmony. 12:05 Unveiling the complexity of lies: From business tactics to intimate relationships. 19:34 Navigating expectations and honesty in relationships. 35:01 Recognizing deception: Signs and strategies for authentic communication. 42:56 Strategies for constructive communication. Mentioned ERP 433: The Power Of Radical Honest On Connection — An Interview with Dr. Brad Blanton Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Andrea Beach Websites: andreabeach.me Facebook: facebook.com/TheAndreaBeach YouTube: youtube.com/@The_Andrea_Beach Instagram: instagram.com/the_andrea_beach LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/andrea-beach TikTok: tiktok.com/@the_andrea_beach Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

7/23/24 • 55:09

Establishing genuine human connections poses a significant challenge in the face of societal expectations and personal inhibitions. The pressure to conform and maintain a carefully constructed image often prevents individuals from expressing their true thoughts and emotions. Consequently, this fear of judgement or rejection fosters relational interactions that lack depth and authenticity. As a result, many find their connections to be superficial, leaving a pervasive sense of disconnection and isolation. In this episode, you'll discover how radical honesty can transform such patterns and lead to deeper, more intimate connections. By examining the intersection of honesty, forgiveness, and vulnerability, this episode offers practical insights and exercises designed to foster genuine contact and warmth in your interactions. Learn about the power of reporting your immediate experience versus relying on preconceived notions, ultimately guiding you toward a more fulfilled and open way of relating. Brad Blanton, psychotherapist, author, and founder of Radical Honesty Enterprises, is known for his unwavering honesty and engaging Southern charm. His bestselling book, "Radical Honesty: How To Transform Your Life By Telling The Truth," has been translated into sixteen languages. Blanton's work explores personal and social transformation, evident in titles like "Practicing Radical Honesty" and "Honest to God." He retired in 2020 after writing extensively, with his final book, "Lying or Living," set for publication in 2024 by Sparrowhawk Publishing. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:22 The philosophy of radical honesty. 8:49 The distinction between genuine perception and ideation. 14:40 Embracing uncertainty and its role in deepening personal connections. 16:55 The power of radical honesty in personal growth and forgiveness. 25:02 The importance of honesty and vulnerability in personal and relational growth. 37:32 Expressing true feelings and thoughts without censoring or editing. 45:36 The balance therapists and clients must achieve between allowing and making things happen. Mentioned Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Practicing Radical Honesty (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Truthtellers (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Honest to God: A Change of Heart That Can Change the World (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Power of Radical Honesty - Dr. Anna Lembke (*YouTube link) (video) Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) ERP 305: The Surprising & Powerful Benefits of Learning to Tolerate Discomfort — An Interview with Dr. Anna Lembke Connect with Dr. Brad Blanton Websites: radicalhonesty.com | lyingorliving.com Facebook: facebook.com/drbradblanton | facebook.com/RadicalHonesty X: twitter.com/drbradblanton | twitter.com/RadicalHonesty YouTube: youtube.com/@radical.honesty Instagram: instagram.com/drbradblanton | instagram.com/radical.honesty LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-brad-blanton | linkedin.com/company/radical-honesty-institute TikTok: tiktok.com/@radical.honesty Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

7/16/24 • 53:07

Have you ever felt that intimacy in your relationship brings both comfort and discomfort? Why do we feel pressured to conform or seek space when getting too close to someone? In this episode, we delve into these intriguing dynamics of human connection. We explore the pressures of seeking complete unity in relationships and the concept of the 'fusion mindset.' Hear how technology's impact on our interactions can lead to pseudo-connections, affecting the delicate balance between intimacy and loneliness. Gain practical insights on recognizing and communicating your needs, and understand how personal growth often comes through navigating discomfort and anxiety. Learn how to confront and manage relationship tensions, bringing curiosity and openness to the table, especially in sexual intimacy. Dr. Corey Allan is a husband, father, author, speaker, and a Marriage and Family Therapist with a Ph.D. in Family Therapy. He and his wife Pam host a weekly podcast, Sexy Marriage Radio, where they help frame conversations and actions that help couples create a marriage fully alive. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 06:30 Dr. Corey Allen's journey to helping marriages thrive. 09:58 How sexual intimacy mirrors life and relationships. 16:07 Understanding the elicitation window: Unpacking sexual intimacy and relationship dynamics. 21:02 How past reactions shape present interactions. 25:57 Balancing separateness and togetherness in relationships. 36:27 The importance of tolerating discomfort and anxiety as a pathway to personal and relational growth. 44:15 The importance of identifying and challenging habitual behaviors that may inhibit deeper connection. Mentioned Intimacy & Desire: Awaken The Passion In Your Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Resurrecting Sex (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Passionate Marriage (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Crucible Institute Dr. David Schnarch Turn Criticism Into Connection | Dr Jessica Higgins #678 https://drjessicahiggins.com/erp-027-asking-for-what-you-want-getting-it-with-dr-corey-allen/ ERP 238: How to Find Your Emotional Balance in Relationship ERP 110: How to Manage Two Majorly Conflicting Needs in Relationship Connect with Dr. Corey Allan Websites: smr.fm Facebook: facebook.com/sexymarriageradio YouTube: youtube.com/@sexymarriageradio Instagram: instagram.com/sexymarriageradio TikTok: tiktok.com/@sexymarriageradio Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-marriage-radio/id472302597 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

7/9/24 • 52:00

Setting limits and boundaries with others is a fundamental aspect of healthy interpersonal dynamics. Yet, many people struggle with asserting themselves due to ingrained patterns from childhood or societal expectations that prioritize giving over self-care. This difficulty often leads to overcommitment, resentment, and a pervasive sense of being taken advantage of, all of which can strain relationships and undermine personal well-being. In this episode, you'll discover actionable strategies to set and uphold boundaries in your relationships. Learn how to prioritize self-care without guilt, assert your needs effectively, and cultivate healthier dynamics with others. Gain insights from real-life scenarios and expert guidance to navigate interpersonal challenges with confidence and maintain your well-being. Johanna has been connected to the world of separation and divorce for decades, originally due to her personal situation, then as a systemic therapist focusing on restoring relationships for the past 12 years. Johanna is the founder of The Family Imprint Institute with an international private practice. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:14 Johanna’s personal experience to professional expertise. 7:24 The intergenerational influence on boundaries. 15:54 The profound impact of unresolved family trauma on present behaviors. 23:54 Recognizing poor boundaries and their impacts. 27:58 Recognizing and addressing overgiving. 44:09 Healing past patterns for healthier relationships. Mentioned It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 386: How to Identify & Shift Unconscious Patterns in Relationship – An Interview with Johanna Lynn Connect with Johanna Lynn Websites: johannalynn.ca Facebook: facebook.com/groups/1470185283292404 YouTube: youtube.com/@TheFamilyImprint Instagram: instagram.com/thefamilyimprint_institute LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/johannalynn Pinterest: pinterest.ca/family_imprint Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

7/2/24 • 55:49

Imagine being deeply in love, but constantly feeling the weight of judgment from society merely because of an age difference. Age gap relationships often face challenges beyond the typical trials of love, grappling with stereotypes, stress, and the pressure of public perception. In this episode, we peel back the layers of these complex relationships to reveal the surprising benefits and often-overlooked dynamics at play. Learn how partners can triumph over societal stigma through open communication, humor, and intentionality. Discover the true essence of what makes these relationships thrive, the power of embracing joy and playfulness, and the critical importance of challenging cultural norms to foster deeper connection and satisfaction. Prepare to rethink what you know about age gap relationships, and gain insights that could transform how unconventional love is viewed. Dr. Sarah Hill is an award-winning research psychologist and professor with expertise in women, health, and sexual psychology. At the intersection of evolutionary biology, social psychology, and neuroscience, her research aims to understand how hormones, the immune system, and the environment play in relationships and health behaviors. She appeared in the 2022 Netflix documentary, “The Principles of Pleasure" and is currently a consultant for Cougar Life, a dating site for confident women looking to meet younger men. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:06 Exploring double standards in age gap relationships. 9:48 Debunking stereotypes in female-led age gap relationships. 13:26 Various factors influencing power dynamics in relationships. 17:38 Redefining age gap relationships: Gender dynamics and societal perceptions. 21:08 Unveiling joy and satisfaction: Insights from research. 28:17 Advancing research to challenge stigma and enhance understanding of non-normative relationships. 30:17 The importance of open communication in navigating stereotypes and fostering acceptance. 39:42 The influence of hormones on relationships. Mentioned This Is Your Brain on Birth Control: How the Pill Changes Everything (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Sarah Hill Websites: sarahehill.com Facebook: facebook.com/sarahehillphd X: twitter.com/sarahehillphd Instagram: instagram.com/sarahehillphd LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/sarah-hill-39668431 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

6/25/24 • 51:13

At the core of many relationship struggles lie deeply ingrained wounds from our past, shaping how we perceive ourselves and interact with others. These wounds, often formed in childhood, can manifest as insecurities, fears, and maladaptive coping mechanisms in adult relationships. As an example, individuals with deep-seated abandonment wounds struggle to trust or embrace intimacy, resulting in clinginess or avoidance behaviors. Similarly, those with worthiness wounds may constantly seek validation or struggle to assert their needs confidently. These patterns sow seeds of conflict, communication breakdowns, and emotional distance, impeding intimacy and connection. In this episode, we delve into how understanding and addressing these core wounds can transform relationship dynamics. By exploring the origins of these wounds and their manifestations in adult relationships, we uncover actionable strategies for healing and growth. Through this insightful conversation, listeners gain valuable tools to navigate their own core wounds and foster healthier, more fulfilling connections. Thais Gibson is a counselor and co-founder of The Personal Development School, with a Ph.D., and over 13 certifications in modalities, such as CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, and shadow work. She is an expert in attachment theory and her research is extending the frontier of psychology with her modern Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, and she is the author of Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:53 Tyese Gibson’s journey through adversity and addiction to transformation. 12:12 The importance of addressing deeper emotional layers and primary attachment needs to achieve lasting change. 22:32 Reprogramming the subconscious for better relationships. 27:03 Thais explains her integrative approach to attachment therapy, which combines multiple modalities. 41:36 The power of inner work in relationship dynamics. Mentioned Learning Love: Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Thais Gibson Website: university.personaldevelopmentschool.com Facebook: facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ/videos Instagram: instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/personal-development-school/id1478580185 TikTok: tiktok.com/@thaisgibson?_t=8n6kvwtOLP0&_r=1 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

6/18/24 • 53:33

Ever wondered why your relationship feels like a never-ending cycle of conflict and distance? In this episode, we delve into the common dynamics experienced by 80% of distressed couples, with a particular focus on the anxious and avoidant attachment styles. This episode provides actionable guidance to regulate emotions, establish safety, and overcome attachment injuries. Discover a five-stage process for fostering intimacy, promoting personal and relational development. Learn practical strategies to address core emotions, halt escalating conflicts, and pave the way for secure, fulfilling connections. Whether you're dealing with an anxious-avoidant dynamic or looking to deepen your understanding of attachment, this episode provides valuable tools and insights to transform your relationship. Jennifer Nurick (Jen) specialises in healing anxious attachment, attachment injuries and childhood trauma. She is a licensed Clinical Psychotherapist, Couple Therapist, Energetic Healer, and author of “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”. She is the founder and voice of Psychotherapy Central. She has been working in the healing space for over 20 years, combining Eastern energetic practices and Western psychotherapy. She offers transformational courses to help individuals and couples heal trauma and build secure long-term relationships. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 09:32 Jennifer Nurick shares her journey of discovery and expertise in the realm of attachment dynamics. 18:10 The complexities of relational wounds and the quest for secure attachment. 25:01 Therapy as a haven for confronting and processing emotional injuries. 32:48 The unburdening process in internal family systems therapy. 38:09 Navigating attachment dynamics in distressed relationships. 51:33 Healing anxious and avoidant attachment styles in relationships. Mentioned Psychotherapy Online Course Catalog Heal Your Anxious Attachment: Release Past Trauma, Cultivate Secure Relationships, and Nurture a Deeper Sense of Self (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) ERP 423: How to Transcend Trauma (And the Effects Experience in Relationship) — An Interview with Dr. Frank Anderson Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Jennifer Nurick Websites: psychotherapycentral.health Facebook: facebook.com/psychotherapy.central YouTube: youtube.com/@psychotherapycentral Instagram: instagram.com/psychotherapy.central Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

6/11/24 • 62:21

Fostering genuine connections can feel daunting in a world filled with distractions and surface-level interactions. Many individuals struggle to find the right way to communicate, leading to misunderstandings and emotional distance in relationships. In this episode, we explore the art of refining communication through strategic question construction. While you can’t control the answers you receive, you can shape them by framing your questions thoughtfully. Discover practical insights and strategies to cultivate meaningful dialogue and forge authentic bonds with others. Join us on a journey to harness the potential of curiosity and intentionality in your conversations, paving the way for richer, more fulfilling relationships. Topaz Adizes is an Emmy award-winning writer, director, and experienced design architect. He is an Edmund Hillary fellow and Sundance/Skoll Stories of Change fellow. His works have been selected to Cannes, Sundance, IDFA, and SXSW, featured in New Yorker magazine, Vanity Fair, and the NewYork Times; and have garnered an Emmy for new approaches to documentary and Two World Press photo awards for immersive storytelling and interactive documentary. He is the founder and executive director of the experience design studio The Skin Deep. Topaz studied philosophy at UC Berkeley and Oxford University. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:51 Topaz’s journey from filmmaking to experience design. 10:36 Harnessing the power of intimate questions for better relationships. 14:06 How the quality and nature of questions significantly influence our experiences and outcomes. 17:56 Five key traits of effective questions. 32:28 Cultivating authentic connections through curious inquiry. 38:20 The importance of creating space for meaningful connection. Mentioned 12 Questions for Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) {The And} (videos) The Skin Deep - Creating The Space To Explore (card decks & shop) Enter in “DRJESSICA” for 15% off (*Affiliate link) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Topaz Adizes Websites: shop.theskindeep.com | topazadizes.com Facebook: facebook.com/TheSkinDeep X: twitter.com/the_skindeep?lang=en YouTube: youtube.com/c/theskindeep/videos Instagram: instagram.com/the_skindeep LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/theskindeep TikTok: tiktok.com/@theskindeep?lang=en Pinterest: pinterest.com/theskindeep Podcast: topazadizes.com/podcast Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

6/4/24 • 51:00

Navigating end-of-life conversations can be emotionally challenging and riddled with uncertainties. Many individuals and families struggle to broach topics surrounding preferences for care, leaving them ill-prepared for crucial decisions during times of crisis. In this episode, we embark on a journey to explore practical strategies and insights aimed at facilitating these delicate discussions with compassion and clarity. By providing actionable guidance and fostering a deeper understanding of end-of-life care, this episode equips listeners with the tools needed to approach these conversations thoughtfully, empowering them to honor personal values and preferences with confidence. Dr. Bob and Elizabeth Uslander co-founded Empowered Endings, a unique palliative and end-of-life care model addressing the physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual needs of patients and families. Bob Uslander, MD, received his Medical Degree from the UCLA Geffen School of Medicine and practiced medicine in Emergency, Palliative, and end-of-life care for over 30 years. Elizabeth Uslander, MSW MTS, received her BA cum laude from Georgetown University and earned her Master's degrees at USC and Wesley Theological Seminary. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 03:49 Bob’s transition from emergency medicine to palliative care and the founding of Empowered Endings with Elizabeth. 09:12 Elizabeth’s journey in spiritual care and social work shaping palliative and end of life care focus. 11:47 Integrating end-of-life doulas in comprehensive care planning and support. 18:48 The importance of having proactive, intentional discussions about end-of-life preferences within couples. 32:54 The role of spiritual practices and emotional connection in navigating end-of-life conversations within relationships. 38:29 Cultivating readiness and practical tools for end-of-life conversations. Mentioned Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Bob and Elizabeth Uslander Websites: empoweredendings.com Facebook: facebook.com/empowerendings YouTube: youtube.com/@Empowered-Endings Instagram: instagram.com/empowered_endings_ LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/empowered-endings Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

5/28/24 • 45:11

Ever wondered how happy couples navigate irreconcilable differences and still thrive? Arguments in relationships are both inevitable and impactful. While they often stir up feelings of frustration, anger, and sadness, they also hold the potential for profound growth and understanding between partners. When managed with care and intention, conflicts can uncover deep-seated issues, foster better communication, and ultimately strengthen the bond. In this episode, we explore how conflicts can become opportunities for growth and deeper connection. By focusing on emotional regulation, curiosity, and taking responsibility, couples can navigate differences with more understanding and empathy. Learn practical strategies for creating a safe environment and fostering open communication, transforming challenges into stepping stones for a stronger, more empowered relationship. Gain valuable insights and actionable tips to help you and your partner grow together through the ups and downs. Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W. is a psychotherapist and marriage counselor who teaches relationship workshops throughout the world. She and her husband, Charlie Bloom are co-authors of the widely acclaimed book, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married, Simple Lessons to Make Love Last, and Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truths from Real Couples About Lasting Love, An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships and more. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 4:20 Cultivating a thirst for growth: Linda Bloom’s path to a harmonious relationship with her husband after a rocky beginning. 12:51 Balancing differences: How mutual respect and curiosity foster harmonious relationships. 19:02 Mastering the art of handling differences: A key to achieving optimal relational well-being for couples. 27:24 Strategies for managing heated conversations and building stronger connections in relationships. 37:46 Navigating conflicts through emotional regulation and sincere communication. 44:56 How emotional maturity and practical resources can strengthen your relationship. Mentioned 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Gottman Institute Connect with Linda Bloom Websites: bloomwork.com Facebook: facebook.com/lindaandcharliebloom X (twitter): twitter.com/bloomwork YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCV3lPZs0gRNYCTQ6vgz4Q6Q Instagram: instagram.com/linda_charlie_bloom LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lindacbloom Tumblr: tumblr.com/linda-charlie-bloom-blog Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

5/21/24 • 57:23

The absence of clear personal boundaries can lead to numerous challenges in relationships. Without defined boundaries, individuals may find themselves constantly overwhelmed by the demands and expectations of others, leading to feelings of resentment, frustration, and even powerlessness. Moreover, conflicts can escalate, communication can break down, and genuine connection becomes increasingly elusive without firm boundaries in place. Essentially, the problem of not having boundaries manifests as a pervasive struggle to maintain authenticity, self-respect, and healthy interpersonal dynamics. In this episode, the discussion centers on the transformative power of consistently upholding boundaries despite potential pushback. Through insightful anecdotes and practical advice, listeners will gain valuable insights into identifying their core needs, overcoming fear, and building trust within relationships. Whether grappling with familial, professional, or personal boundaries, this episode offers actionable strategies for asserting oneself and cultivating fulfilling connections. Abby Medcalf is a Relationship Maven, psychologist, author, podcast host, and TEDx speaker who helps people think differently so they can create connection, ease, and joy in their relationships. She brings a fresh perspective to life’s struggles using humor, research, and her direct, no-nonsense style. She's the author of “Boundaries Made Easy”, bestseller “Be Happily Married, Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing”, and hosts the top-rated Relationships Made Easy Podcast, reaching 170+ countries. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 4:59 From addiction to authority: Abby Medcalf’s journey to boundary mastery. 9:43 Understanding boundaries as not just a component, but a fundamental structure in relationships and business dynamics. 12:23 The impact of congruence between conscious and subconscious signals on how others perceive and respond to us. 20:07 Understanding the spectrum of boundaries and the impact of disregarding them. 27:06 Establishing clear standards and responses for personal empowerment. 39:22 Defining personal standards and boundaries for empowered relationships. 47:49 Making your way from complaints to core needs. Mentioned Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Feelings Chart (*Hoffman Institute link) (pdf) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Abby Medcalf Websites: abbymedcalf.com Facebook: facebook.com/abbymedcalf YouTube: youtube.com/user/AbbyMedcalfThriving Instagram: instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/abby-medcalf-phd-718969b8 TikTok: tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd Podcast: Relationships Made Easy Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

5/14/24 • 62:40

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