Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl

Welcome to Season 3 of Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl! Today I'm sharing my personal 3 key takeaways from my journey these past few years. These are 3 things I've come to believe about the faith journey, and I hope they can encourage you too! XOXO, Tiffany DawnBOOKS + DEVOS I WROTE😍👇Practical tips + fun to read - all about relationships + singleness!👉https://shorturl.at/hrPY4YOUTUBE: YouTube.com/c/tiffanydawnNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

9/14/24 • 09:30

Enter book giveaway by commenting: "WINNER" on Youtube!Here's the link: https://youtu.be/RzvF20rp9isToday we're talking with Lisa Colón DeLay about rethinking devotions and how we connect with God. How can we refresh our hearts when doing the same old “devotional routine” feels like a burden instead of life-giving? What other ways can we connect with God through spiritual practices from different cultures and times?I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@5:17)Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@7:50)Q3: Many of us have grown up with a very disciplined approach to daily devotions as THE way to connect with God. What do you think devotions are expected to look like? And what are the fruits (good and/or bad) of that approach? (@13:40)Q4: When I was growing up, Bible reading and prayer were the primary way of connecting with God. And those are great ways to grow in faith. But what do you think would be a more holistic approach for our spiritual health? How might our personality types play into the ways we connect with God? (@19:10)Q5: There was a point in my life where Bible reading began to feel like such a stressful burden, that I just stopped reading it for awhile. But at the same time, I still believed the Bible was so important! What are your thoughts on all this? (@22:10)Q6: What does it mean to you to take care of your soul and study the Bible? How does this play out in your life? (@27:28)Q7: In your book “The Wild Land Within,” you talk about different spiritual practices from different cultures and different times. Would you share a few of these practices that might be helpful, especially for those of us whose devotions might be feeling stale right now? (@32:55)Q8: On the other extreme, it can be tempting to not care for our souls at all. Why is that a dangerous extreme? Why is soul care so important? (@43:40)Q9: If we’re feeling a lot of guilt over missed “devotions,” what does that guilt do to our souls? (@48:02)Q10: Let’s go to a bird’s eye view again. Part of deconstruction is deciding what you are taking forward with you, and what you are leaving behind. Do you have any examples of this in your own life that you’d feel comfortable sharing? (@52:50)Q11: You have a ton of resources for people who are looking for holistic and healing ways to connect with God. Can you share those resources with us? (@56:20)LISA’S RESOURCES:⭐️“The Wild Land Within” by Lisa: https://a.co/d/icVaJRk⭐️The “Spark My Muse” Podcast: https://lisadelay.com/blog/⭐️Lisa’s website: https://lisadelay.com/blog/about/⭐️IG: @lisacolondelay⭐️My interview on Lisa’s podcast: https://lisadelay.com/blog/eps-228-guest-tiffany-dawn-on-leaving-her-tiny-christian-bubble/NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

9/7/24 • 60:19

Today we're talking with Wendy Snyder about parenting young children in a firm but KIND manner. What does Jesus Himself teach us about parenting? Has our preoccupation with sin caused our kids not to trust their hearts and bodies? What are some practical parenting strategies?I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@5:07)Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@7:54)Q3: Let’s dive into that Bible verse about “sparing the rod.” Would you speak to the idea of spanking? (@14:03)Q4: What is the biblical precedent for using other methods of discipline, or a gentler approach to parenting young children? (@21:50)Q5: There are many misconceptions about what “gentle parenting” even means. What are some of those misconceptions, and what does “gentle parenting” or “positive parenting” even mean? (@24:20)Q6: Let’s talk about Psalm 51:5, “Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me.” I grew up thinking that misbehavior came from sin, whereas modern psychology seems to be at odds with this. Can you help us better understand Psalm 51:5 and this idea of seeing kids as sinful? (@31:25)Q7: What are a few tips for more loving, more compassionate parenting? Especially if your child is struggling with behaviors that seem negative? (@38:46)Q8: If a parenting is struggling with setting and following through on boundaries with their children, what advice would you give? (@46:25)Q9: You have a ton of resources for parents who want to learn more about a powerful and positive approach to parenting. Can you share those resources with us? (@51:38)WENDY’S RESOURCES:⭐️ “The Firm and Kind Blueprint” - use code TIFFANYDAWN10OFF - freshstartfamilyonline.com/discipline⭐️ The Fresh Start Family Podcast: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/show/⭐️ Wendy’s website: freshstartfamilyonline.com⭐️ IG: @freshstartwendyOTHER RECOMMENDED RESOURCES:⭐️ “Woven: Nuturing a Faith Your Kid Doesn’t Have to Heal From” by Meredith Miller: https://a.co/d/jdfkb15⭐️ “Jesus, the Gentle Parent” by L.R. Knost: https://a.co/d/3ECnpo7⭐️ Dr. David & Amanda: flourishinghomesandfamilies.comNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

8/31/24 • 54:39

Today we're talking with Sheila Gregoire about her book "She Deserves Better" and how to raise daughters with self-esteem! How do you instill faith without forcing it onto a child? How do you teach healthy boundaries? And what should parents know about "the sex talk"?I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:30)Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@5:45)Q3: In "She Deserves Better," you talk a lot about parenting - less from a place of perfect doctrine, and more from a place of good vs. bad fruit. Can you tell us more about that? (@9:28)Q4: People often say that good fruit is different than good outcomes. What are your thoughts on that? (@11:59)Q5: How do we parent for connection, and why is that a biblical approach? (@13:44)Q6: Let's talk about Proverbs 13:24 about "sparing the rod." When I grew up, it seemed like the only "Christian" way to discipline was by spanking your kids. What do you think about this? (@15:15)Q7: In "She Deserves Better," you talk about letting children come to God instead of forcing them. How do we introduce faith to our kids in a healthy way? (@18:27)Q8: In "She Deserves Better" you talked about raising girls who set boundaries and speak up for themselves. Can you tell us about your idea of "remember what Jesus did and didn't die for" and how that can help girls set boundaries? (@21:31)Q9: Is self-esteem actually biblical? And how can we instill self-esteem as parents? (@24:33)Q10: Do you have any practical tips for how to instill self-esteem in a child? (@26:58)Q11: Can you talk about the difference in authoritative vs. authoritarian parenting styles? (@28:52)Q12: Let's talk about Proverbs 22:6, "train up a child..." I've known a lot of Christians who try so hard to do everything "right" to train up their child in faith, but it almost seemed to backfire. What do you think this verse is talking about? And can trying too hard actually backfire? (@30:43)Q13: What wisdom would you share with parents who are feeling afraid, or parenting out of "fear" of making a mistake with their child? (@33:21)Q14: I know of parents who believe their child is walking in sin, and the parents cut off connection with their child. What are your thoughts on that? (@35:22)Q15: What are some things you are glad you did as a parent, and what are some things you wish you'd done differently? (@37:08)Q16: Part of deconstruction is asking, “What parts of my faith do I bring forward with me, and which do I leave behind?” Do you have any examples of this you would feel comfortable sharing? (@39:12)Q17: One of the things you are passionate about, is talking about sex. What advice and resources would you give for parents who want to teach their kids about sex in a healthy way? (@41:56)SHEILA'S RESOURCES:⭐️ "She Deserves Better" (book) - https://a.co/d/8K3yRki⭐️ "The Whole Story" (sex + puberty online course) - use code TIFFANY0824 for 20% off during August 2024! - http://thewholestory.thinkific.com/courses/WholeStoryVIP?ref=eb28db⭐️See all of Sheila's online courses here:http://sheilawraygregoire.thinkific.comUse code TIFFANY0824 for 20% off during August 2024!⭐️ https://sheilawraygregoire.com + https://baremarriage.com⭐️ IG: sheilagregoireNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

8/24/24 • 47:32

Today we're talking with Lora about her story of deconstructing while on the missions field—and also how gender discrimination contributed to her journey! Is our approach to evangelical missions working? Is there a better approach? How does our approach affect single women in ministry? I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:08)Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@6:27)Q3: Let’s dive into your story. What were your life and faith like as you were growing up? (@9:37)Q4: When did you know you wanted to do full-time missions? And what was it like when you started? (@13:41)Q5: Are you allowed to share where your overseas missions were? And tell us about how your faith began to change, and how that began to shift your understanding of missions. (@18:05)Q6: What was it like to start asking these questions while being a missionary funded by supporters who may have been much more conservative than you? (@22:26)Q7: What is it that has kept you committed to missions instead of pursuing a different career path? (@39:50)Q8: If you were to reimagine our approach to evangelism, as the western church, what are some things you would like to see, and why? (@45:34)Q9: As we wrap up, I know you and your husband are now on a new missions post in an inclusive church. What is the work like there? How did you finally discover an organization you could actually sign on with? (@51:39)Q10: Part of deconstruction is asking, “What parts of my faith do I bring forward with me, and which do I leave behind?” Do you have any examples of this you would feel comfortable sharing? (@54:33)Q11: Do you have any resources or even just advice that you’d share with people who want to think about our western approach to missions? (@56:05)LORA’S RECOMMENDED RESOURCES:⭐️ “A Just Mission” by Mekdes Haddis: https://a.co/d/exgAhhv⭐️ “Curveball” by Pete Enns: https://a.co/d/jh1yplG⭐️ “The Inner Voice of Love” by Henri Nouwen: https://a.co/d/9tqJF1vNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

8/17/24 • 59:28

Today we're talking with Dr. Cynthia Hester about the theology of women in church leadership. What are women’s roles biblically, when it comes to the church? Have we made doctrine from disputed texts? What are 1 Corinthians 14 and 1 Timothy 2 actually telling us?I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"!  XOXO, Tiffany   HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:05)  Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@5:10)  Q3: Let’s dig into women in leadership. Can you walk us through some background? How do you think this topic has been understood in western evangelical circles for the last couple decades? And what have been some fruits, good and/or bad, of that perspective? (@7:02)  Q4: (I share some of my backstory with this topic.) There are passages in the Bible that seem like a very clear call for women not to be able to lead. Can you break these down for us contextually? Are there other passages that should inform how we read these verses? (@12:20)Q5: Let’s dive into 1 Corinthians 14. (@14:56)  Q6: What Bible passages and principles do you feel are more helpful in informing our theology of women in leadership? (@27:04)  Q7: I think we’re often afraid of coming to the “wrong” perspective theologically, which can make us afraid to explore issues like these and think differently. What would you say to that fear? (@33:30)Q8: Let’s dive into 1 Timothy 2. (@35:55)  Q9: You have a ton of resources on this topic, including an entire online course on biblical womanhood. Can you tell us about these resources and where my listeners can find you? (@45:34)  WHERE TO FIND DR. CYNTHIA HESTER:⭐️Theology of Women Academy: https://cynthiahester.com/course/⭐️ https://cynthiahester.com/⭐️“40 Questions About Women in Ministry” book: https://a.co/d/bOc3dL4⭐️Instagram: @cynthiahester1 / Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/1CynthiaHesterNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

8/10/24 • 48:42

Today we're talking with Ngina Otiende, a marriage coach who is helping us deconstruct some harmful ways we’ve viewed marriage and divorce. Does God really hate divorce, or is that a mistranslation of the verse? Is marriage meant to make us holy or is it also meant to be good and bring joy? PLUS, we take a FASCINATING sidebar to discuss why some Christians refer to God as “they!” I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. XOXO, TiffanyHERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:42) Q2: How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@6:58)  Q3: Let’s dive into your story. Would you share with us what your life and faith were like growing up? (@8:06)  Q4: Let’s talk about theology around marriage and divorce. How do you think this topic has been understood in western evangelical circles in the last couple decades? What have been some fruits (good or bad) of that perspective? (@10:38)  Q5: What led you to begin deconstructing these ideas of marriage and divorce that were handed to you? What was that process like for you? (@14:12)  Q6: Are there scripture passages that have been misunderstood, or even weaponized to keep people in unhealthy marriages? If so, can you break those down for us and help us understand them better? (@18:19)  Q7: When you look at the Bible as a whole, and at Jesus Himself, what have you come to believe God’s heart is toward marriage and divorce? (@27:30) Q8: Why do some Christians refer to God as “They”? Where does that come from biblically? (@30:54)Q9: What do you believe a healthy marriage should look like for Christians? It’ll look different for everyone, but are there key pillars that are often found in healthy marriages? (@39:05)Q10: We’ve heard that divorce is okay if there’s harm or unfaithfulness in a marriage. But is there ever a time when there’s no “harm” there, but divorce is still the loving and healthy option? How do we know if this is true for our specific situation? (@46:48)Q11: How can we as the church do a better job of ministering to people who are (A) going through a divorce or (B) setting boundaries in a relationship that needs healing? (@52:13)Q12: You have a ton of resources for people trying to navigate marriage, divorce, and healthy relationships. Can you share your resources, and where my listeners can find you? (@55:40) WHERE TO FIND NGINA OTIENDE:⭐️Instagram: @nginaotiende; Facebook: @intentionaltoday⭐️Book: Courage: Reflections and Liberation for the Hurting Soul https://intentionaltoday.com/courage-reflections-and-liberation-for-the-hurting-soul/⭐️ Free eBook "16 Things You Won't Find in a Healthy Marriage" https://intentionaltoday.com/marriage-library/⭐️Blog: https://intentionaltoday.com/blog⭐️Website & Resources: IntentionalToday.comNGINA’S RECOMMENDED RESOURCES:⭐️For partners who wonder if it's more that just a really difficult relationship. "Is This Abuse? Recognizing Red Flags." by Sarah McDugal: https://www.wildernesstowild.com/is-it-abuse/⭐️"Are you in an emotionally abusive Christian marriage?" Take  the quiz.  By Natalie Hoffman, www.emotionalabusequiz.com⭐️SAFER CHURCHES | Awareness Seminar by Sarah McDugal, introduce your community to more effective ways to prevent and respond to abuse. www.wildernesstowild.com/safer-churches-seminar/⭐️Healthy marriage advice and research (in which they have identified that a lot of stuff taught in church about marriage, sex, and gender roles actually leads to worse sex and less happy marriages.) https://baremarriage.com/NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

8/3/24 • 57:43

Here's an unplanned, raw chat with me and James! Based on some comments we've received, we wanted to talk more about the heart behind this podcast, and why I'm so passionate about talking about controversial theology. I hope this can encourage you!Much love, Tiffany (& James)MY PODCAST EPISODES ON THE THEOLOGY BEHIND LGBTQ:⭐️Let's Talk About The Whole Bible: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2zJiyACYRI⭐️Let's Talk About Romans: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r60q67y5ZiIBOOKS & COURSE I RECOMMEND:⭐️God and the Gay Christian: https://a.co/d/344gQ32⭐️Scripture, Ethics, and the Possibility of Same-Sex Relationships: https://a.co/d/2A4uKwn⭐️Scripture and Sexual Ethics Course: https://reformationproject.org/courses/scripture-and-sexual-ethics/NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqbNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

7/27/24 • 22:13

Today we're talking with my friend Heather, who is sharing her story of coming out as a queer Christian. That isn’t a statement you often hear, but her faith is vibrant and alive! What led her to come out? What led her to be a Christian? And why does she feel such a call on her life to build bridges between people with different theologies in this area?    I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"!   XOXO, Tiffany     HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:  Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@3:50)   Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@5:20)    Q3: Let’s dive into your story. Would you share with us what your life and faith were like growing up? (@8:06)    Q4: When did you start wondering when you might be gay? Did your faith affect the process, or your process affect your faith? And if so, how? (@11:05)    Q5: When you came out to your Christian community, how did people respond? Did this affect your faith? (@19:33)    Q6: What fruit are you seeing from your decision to come out? (@25:32)    Q7: What has been helpful in those conversations, specifically with people who think it’s a sin to be gay? From your perspective, is it more about showing your life, or is it certain conversations you have? Are there any resources that have helped you? (@28:09)   Q8: What are some things you’d recommend for people who’ve been really hurt by the church? What has helped you find healing and confidence? Are there times when you have to set boundaries to protect yourself? (@31:22)Q9: Are there times where it’s helpful to talk more about the theology you’re coming from, and why biblically you’ve come to different conclusions? (@35:34)Q10: You said the LGBTQ+ community had shown you a picture of what church could be. Could you talk about that? (@42:34)Q11: Have you seen different understandings of what it means to love? A lot of times we think loving someone means pointing out their sin. What are your thoughts on that, or pointing out if someone’s hurting themselves? What’s that balance? (@44:27)Q12: Something many of us have been taught is that a person can’t have a real faith and be openly in the queer community. Can you tell us what faith means to you now, and how it’s changed these last few years? (@48:52)Q13: As we wrap up this interview, I have two final questions. First, let’s go to a bird’s eye view again. Part of deconstruction is asking: What parts of my faith do I bring forward with me, and what parts do I leave behind? So I’m asking all my guests: Do you have any examples of this in your own life that you’d feel comfortable sharing? (@50:12)Q14: Do you have any resources or advice for people who are deconstructing their faith and/or questioning their sexuality? (@51:20)NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

7/20/24 • 53:40

Today we're talking with biblical scholar Karen Keen, exploring human sexuality - both same sex relationships, and premarital sex. What is the larger biblical story and vision for human sexuality? What do all the "weird" stories in the Bible teach us about human sexuality? What happens when we as Christians disagree on our theology of sexuality?  I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"!  XOXO, Tiffany   HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:  Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:10)   Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@8:04)    Q3: Would you share with us first what you believed about sexuality growing up, and if that began to change at some point, what sparked that faith shift? (@12:32)    Q4: What scriptures or biblical principals have you found that inform your understanding of biblical sexuality? (@15:22)    Q5: Are there any other overarching principals that are important for us to understand before we dig into the specifics of biblical sexuality? (@23:17)    Q6: Let’s dive into the big questions we have about LGBTQ+ - can you be in a same sex relationship as a Christian, while still honoring God and the Bible? Why or why not? How does biblical intent and literacy play into this? (@30:53)    Q7: Let’s talk briefly about abstinence before marriage. What do you believe the Bible teaches us about sexuality before marriage? (@50:48)    Q8: When it comes to controversial issues like these, where many Christians disagree on the “right theology,” can we come to different conclusions? When is it appropriate to just build bridges, vs when is it important to speak up about theologies that might be hurting someone else? (@56:40)Q9: You have a ton of resources for people trying to navigate and better understand biblical sexual ethics. Can you share your resources, and where my listeners can find you? (@1:02:22)   WHERE TO FIND KAREN KEEN:⭐️Instagram: @keen.kr⭐️“Scripture and Sexual Ethics” Course: https://reformationproject.org/courses/scripture-and-sexual-ethics/⭐️Website: https://www.redwoodspiritualcare.com (also has her substack on this topic of sexuality!)⭐️“Scripture, Ethics, and the Possibility of Same Sex Relationships” book: https://a.co/d/07PLTcT1  ⭐️“The Word of a Humble God: The Origins, Inspiration, and Interpretation of Scripture” book: https://a.co/d/0hUQvhwFNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

7/13/24 • 64:00

Today we're talking with Shane Claiborne, exploring politics and the idea of being pro-life. What does it mean to be pro-life? What issues are important to consider (through the lens of Jesus) when we're voting? What does the Bible teach us about politics? What does it mean to BE a peacemaker?  I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"!  XOXO, Tiffany   HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@5:01) Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@14:02)  Q3: You have a ton of resources for people who are trying to navigate faith, deconstruction, politics, and pro-life. Can you tell us about these? Where else can my listeners find you? (@19:03)  Q4: Now let's get into our discussion on politics and pro-life. My first question is: What does the Bible actually teach us about politics and our political party? (@21:17)  Q5: In what ways should faith inform our politics? What issues are important to consider from a biblical worldview that we don't always think about? (@29:30)  Q6: Some Christians would say that biblical justice is different than our culture's idea of social justice. Can you talk about this? What is justice, and why is it important to God? (@38:58)  Q7: How do we look at current events as Christians? So often we use our western understanding of scripture as a cop-out, or in a way that can do more harm than good. But how do we look at current events through the lens of Jesus? (@44:03)  Q8: In a nutshell, how can we respond to world events as peace makers? And what does it mean to actually BE a peacemaker? (@52:24) WHERE TO FIND SHANE CLAIBORNE:⭐️Instagram: @Shane.claiborne⭐️Website: https://www.shaneclaiborne.com⭐️"Rethinking Life" book: https://a.co/d/05Ae82Ck⭐️"Red Letter Christians" PodcastNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

7/6/24 • 57:40

Today we're talking with Brittney Moses, exploring the psychology that affects us mentally and physically as we're deconstructing and healing from church hurt. What are some signs of a healthy vs. unhealthy church community? Why is deconstruction so uncomfortable, and why can it take so long to heal from hurt? What can we do to help ourselves along that healing process? What are corrective experiences, and why are they so important?  I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"!  XOXO, Tiffany   HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:30)  Q2: Let's start with a discussion on spiritual hurt. Many of us feel hesitant about reading the Bible or going to church, because those things can feel so triggering. Is that normal? Why does that happen and what does it mean? (@10:13)  Q3: Let's talk about the message that once you start skipping church, you're going to lose your faith. Is it ever necessary to take a break from church to heal? Why or why not? And if we do decide to take a break, how can we do that in a healthy way without losing our faith? (@13:36)  Q4: What are some tips you have for easing back into church and/or Bible reading if we've taken a break? How do we even know if we're ready to get back to those things? Is there ever a time when we need to push through hard feelings? (@20:55)  Q5: Can you talk about corrective experiences, and why those are so important? (@25:18)  Q6: What are some signs of a healthy church, and how can we figure that out before we get too invested? (@27:53)  Q7: A lot of us have this fear of being deceived and having the wrong theology. What are your thoughts on those fears? How do they affect our faith and mental health, and how do we move out of that fear-based Christianity? (@35:08)  Q8: Do you have any last tips for coping skills or ways to help yourself as you're trying to heal, or putting yourself back in these environments? (@43:35) Q9: As we wrap up this interview, I have two final questions. First, let’s go to a bird’s eye view again. Part of deconstruction is asking: What parts of my faith do I bring forward with me, and what parts do I leave behind? So I’m asking all my guests: Do you have any examples of this in your own life that you’d feel comfortable sharing? (@47:20)Q10: Lastly, you have a ton of resources for people who are trying to navigate faith, deconstruction, and mental health. Can you tell us about these? Where else can my listeners find you? (@52:20) WHERE TO FIND BRITTNEY MOSES:⭐️Instagram: @brittneymoses⭐️Website: https://brittneyamoses.com - see "Mental Health" tab⭐️"Speaking Our Minds" PodcastBRITTNEY'S RECOMMENDED RESOURCES:⭐️"Faith After Doubt" by Brian McLaren - https://a.co/d/7T5J3rb⭐️"Field Notes for the Wilderness" by Sarah Bessey - https://a.co/d/bFlIZhr⭐️"The Bible for Normal People" Podcast - https://thebiblefornormalpeople.comNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

6/29/24 • 54:53

Today we're talking with Kate Boyd of An Untidy Faith & Remembered Table, exploring how we understand church and Christian community. Is going to a building on Sunday morning really required of Christians? What was church meant to be? If we could envision a more holistic approach, what would that look like?  I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"!  XOXO, Tiffany   HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:20)  Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@6:32)  Q3: So let's dive into your story. What were your life and faith like growing up? (@13:28)  Q4: When did you start noticing a shift in your faith? What started this journey for you, and what was that like? (@15:33)  Q5: Would you tell us about your relationship with church during and after deconstruction? (@20:03)  Q6: What do you see as the biblical understanding of church and why? And if you have a lot of anger toward church but don't want to stop joining in community, what do you do? (@23:41)  Q7: Is there anything you'd like to share with people who might be struggling in their relationship with church right now? (@31:05)  Q8: Would you tell us all about Remembered Table? What's your vision for it, how can people get involved, etc? (@36:04)  Q9: How can people join Remembered Table? (@44:04)  Q10: What's the story or meaning behind the name "Remembered Table"? (@44:53)  Q11: What are some things you'd love to see integrated into our own church communities here in the United States? (@47:20)Q12: As we wrap up this interview, I have two final questions. First, let’s go to a bird’s eye view again. Part of deconstruction is asking: What parts of my faith do I bring forward with me, and what parts do I leave behind? So I’m asking all my guests: Do you have any examples of this in your own life that you’d feel comfortable sharing? (@49:54)Q13: Lastly, you have a ton of resources for people who are trying to navigate faith, deconstruction, and church. Can you tell us about these? Where else can my listeners find you? (@54:17)  WHERE TO FIND KATE BOYD:⭐️Socials: @kateboyd.co and @rememberedtable⭐️Remembered Table: https://www.rememberedtable.org⭐️“An Untidy Faith" Book: https://a.co/d/0uDU1Lk⭐️"Untidy Faith" Podcast & Newsletter⭐️Kate's Website: https://www.kateboyd.coNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

6/22/24 • 57:08

Today we're talking with Pastor Trey Ferguson, deconstructing how we construct our theologies. Was our theology really meant to never change? Is it meant to be an ongoing process? How do we invite our imagination into this process, while still honoring God and Scripture?  I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"!  XOXO, Tiffany   HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:12)  Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@6:29)  Q3: Would you tell us a little bit about your life and faith growing up, how your faith has evolved over the years, and how that process began? (@9:46)  Q4: Would you tell us about your book, Theologizin' Bigger? (@13:05)  Q5: How have we understood theology throughout church history, and more specifically the past couple decades in the western evangelical church? In your opinion, what are some ways we've misunderstood what theology is meant to be, and what are some things we've done well? (@14:50)  Q6: Let's dive into this idea of imagination now. What is the biblical and historical precedent for involving our imagination our theology? (@19:03)  Q7: Would you talk about Pentecost and what that teaches us about theology? (@21:48)  Q8: Also, I believe you wrote that many things we now believe were given to us by people who were once considered heretics. Would you tell us more about this, and why imagination has a long history in church theology? (@24:52)  Q9: Can you talk about the idea of orthodoxy being tied to political power? (@28:28)  Q10: There's so much fear about leaving behind "safe" (aka, common) beliefs. How do we navigate this? (@33:09)  Q11: I think for many of us, there’s this idea that theology is a place we’ve already arrived, not a journey we’re still on. We might even think that because Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever, that means our theology should be as well. Can you speak to these concerns? (@36:49)Q12:What does it look like practically to invite our imagination into our theology? (@40:55)Q13: Do you have any recommended resources for people who'd like to dig into some older, traditional, rich, contemplative spiritual practices? (@45:19)Q14: When it comes to controversial issues, where many Christians disagree on the “right” theology, can we come to different conclusions? What does that teach us about God? How can we learn about God’s character through our disagreements? (@46:56)Q15: As we wrap up this interview, I have two final questions. First, let’s go to a bird’s eye view again. Part of deconstruction is asking: What parts of my faith do I bring forward with me, and what parts do I leave behind? So I’m asking all my guests: Do you have any examples of this in your own life that you’d feel comfortable sharing? (@50:12)Q16: Lastly, you have a ton of resources for people who are trying to navigate faith and theology. Can you tell us about these? Where else can my listeners find you? (@54:05)  WHERE TO FIND PASTOR TREY:⭐️Socials: @pastortrey05 ⭐️https://www.pastortrey05.com⭐️“Theologizin' Bigger":https://a.co/d/dFXCCdg⭐️"The New Living Treyslation" Podcast⭐️"Three Black Men" PodcastNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

6/15/24 • 55:37

Today we're talking with Marty Solomon of the BEMA Podcast, deconstructing how we INTERPRET the Bible. Was it meant to be historically accurate? Will it all fall apart if we think that 7-day creation might not be literal? Are the “problems" in the biblical stories actually there on purpose like clues on a treasure map?  I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"!  XOXO, Tiffany   HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS: Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@5:07)  Q2: For me deconstruction has had a lot to do with how I understand Scripture and its intent. How do you understand biblical intent and how has that evolved on your journey? (@6:30)  Q3: You and your team talk about “groundwork and biases” before approaching a topic in scripture. Can you explain why those two things are so important, and what groundwork and biases we should consider in our own lives? (@9:13)  Q4: Sometimes the Bible isn’t saying “what,” but teaching us “how.” Can you expand on that a little bit? (@11:04)  Q5: I think for a lot of Christians there’s this fear that if I don’t take it all literally, it’ll all fall apart. Can you talk to that? (@13:12)  Q6: How did you start to learn all of this? (@15:41)  Q7: When I was growing up, I was taught that we take the Bible literally. And people who don’t take the Bible literally, are just picking and choosing, and looking for an approach to sin. What are your thoughts on that approach to Scripture? And what problems do we have with taking the Bible literally? (@17:23)  Q8: You describe the problems in biblical stories like treasure maps. This was really interesting to me, because I always felt like I needed to gloss over or explain away the problems as quickly as possible. They felt very uncomfortable! Can you tell use more about this treasure map approach, and give us some examples of this? Why is it so important to embrace and study the problems? (@21:04)  Q9: Would you walk us through an example of these “problems”? (@23:45)  Q10: When I was growing up, I thought biblical truth was black and white. There was one “right answer” for every question, one clear interpretation of each text. What are your thoughts on that black and white view of scripture? (@27:10)  Q11: Can you tell us about the lullaby effect and how to break out of it? I think this is something that affects a lot of us who have grown up in church. (@30:52)Q12: As we wrap up this interview, I have two final questions. First, let’s go to a bird’s eye view again. Part of deconstruction is asking: What parts of my faith do I bring forward with me, and what parts do I leave behind? So I’m asking all my guests: Do you have any examples of this in your own life that you’d feel comfortable sharing? (@34:01)Q13: Is there any piece of advice you’d give to someone who’s deconstructing? (@37:09)Q14: Lastly, you have a ton of resources for people who are deconstructing their faith and re-understanding the Bible. Can you tell us about these? Where else can my listeners find you? (@39:48)  WHERE TO FIND MARTY:⭐️Bema Podcast: https://www.bemadiscipleship.com⭐️martysolomon.com⭐️“Asking Better Questions of the Bible” by Marty Solomon: https://a.co/d/euJupFUNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

6/8/24 • 41:03

Today we're talking with Rev. Immanuel van Tonder, deconstructing our approach to the Bible. What if taking it literally is just as unhelpful as constantly picking every detail apart? How do we determine which parts apply today and which parts we have to look deeper? What is OUR intent as we approach Scripture, and how does that change what we TAKE AWAY from it?I LOVED this interview and can't wait to share it with you. Welcome back to  "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! XOXO, Tiffany HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: What does deconstruction mean to you? (@4:53)Q2: A lot of us have been trained to be very guarded. How do we cultivate this openness of spirit? (@15:12)Q3: What do you believe the Bible's intent is? (@19:44)Q4: How do you decide what you believe on controversial issues like LGBTQ+, when some people biblically argue one way and some people biblically argue another way? (@27:51)Q5: I believe you often say the Bible is descriptive rather than prescriptive. Will you tell us more about that? (@31:55)Q6: How do you discern what the value is beneath the specific rule, and when the rule vs. value applies today? (@37:11)Q7: What do inerrancy and infallibility mean to you, when it comes to Scripture? (@45:09)Q8: How would you describe the purpose of the Bible and how you see that? (@48:25)Q9: What are some unhealthy but common ideas you see people having about the Bible? (@53:00)Q10: What advice and resources would you recommend for people who want to explore how we understand the Bible? (@58:49)Q11: Part of deconstruction is asking, "What do I take with me, and what do I leave behind?" Do you have any examples of this in your own life? (@1:02:00)RECOMMENDED READING(These are the books we talked about in the episode!)⭐️"The Bible" by Karen Armstronghttps://a.co/d/eXDXSfk⭐️Lectio Divina approach to reading Scripture⭐️Richard Rohr's books:https://shorturl.at/kwCK8NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

6/1/24 • 67:14

What's it like being married when one person is deconstructing and one person isn't? Today James and I both share the hardest parts of this deconstruction journey, how it's affected our marriage and what we’ve learned along the way. Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! We hope you enjoy this final episode of the season. XOXO, TiffanyHERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: What did James initially think about deconstruction? (@0:44)Q2: Was James ever afraid that Tiffany might leave the faith? (@1:35)Q3: Looking back, where did your ideas on hot topic issues originate? (@3:00)Q4. What did James think about the podcast episodes this season? (@3:40)Q5: Was our takeaway different than was intended when we were growing up in church? (@5:43)Q6: What was the hardest part of deconstruction for Tiffany? How has our approach to Bible reading changed? (@7:18)Q7: Did deconstruction conversations ever feel divisive or like a personal attack to James? (@12:50)Q8: Does James still have catastrophic worries about Tiffany ending up in spiritual la la land? Why or why not? (@16:50)Q9: Why is deconstruction sometimes seen as black and white with only one possible ending? What is the fruit of our journey saying? (@17:50) INSTAGRAM:@tiffanydawniqbNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

2/25/22 • 19:23

Today we're talking with Carlos Rodríguez about if our approach to evangelism needs to change. We're also talking about a bunch of hot topics in social justice and about finding Jesus in deconstruction!! SO EXCITED about this episode!! It is so thought-provoking and a different perspective than I ever heard growing up. Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, TiffanyHERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: Would you tell us a little of your personal journey with social justice and Christianity? And what has been the fruit (good or bad) of that approach? (@4:18)Q2: What have you observed about conservative Christian approaches toward social justice? What is the fruit of the approach? (@6:11)Q3: Does God have a preference for the poor? And is that the best thing He can also do for the rich? (@12:48)Q4. How, if at all, does this understanding of social justice change the way we view evangelism? If so, what changes should we be making as the church? (@14:12)Q5: Let’s take a side bar here. Is deconstruction biblical? Did Jesus teach it? (@15:07) Q6: Have our mission trips been evangelization or colonization, or both? (@16:26)Q7: Is it okay to question everything? Will we find Jesus there? (@17:51)Q8: Growing up we emphasized the salvation of souls over the physical bodies of people. What are your thoughts on that? (@21:36)Q9: I want to dive into a couple hot topic social justice issues with you. The first one is racial justice. (@27:10)Q10: On a similar note, would you talk with us about Christian Nationalism? (@33:32)Q11: What do you think it means to be pro life? Is our version of pro life biblical? (And can we talk about identity politics?) (@37:51)Q12: What does the Bible teach us about political parties? Would Jesus want us to only vote Republican? (@45:06)Q13: What do you think is the most important takeaway for my listeners? (Spoiler: It’s about deconstruction!) (@51:12) CARLOS’S INSTAGRAM:@carloshappynpohttps://www.instagram.com/carloshappynpo/ CARLOS’S BOOKS:(The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links to each book.)Drop the Stones: https://amzn.to/3oT2HFOSimply Sonship: https://amzn.to/3LEq4wvRECOMMENDED READING(The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links. These are the books we talked about in the episode!)⭐️“The Road Away from God: How Love Finds Us Even as We Walk Away” by Jonathan Martinhttps://amzn.to/3rRZCYr⭐️Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg’s Books:https://www.amazon.com/Danya-Ruttenberg/e/B001JRYKX6?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1645035627&sr=8-1 ⭐️“Living Brave” by Shannon Dinglehttps://amzn.to/3LELppD NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

2/18/22 • 57:40

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Mike McDonald of The Bible Project about social justice! What does the word "righteous" actually mean, and how is it tied to justice? (This word study changes everything!!) How is bad theology hurting our approach to justice? What is biblical vs social justice? (Is there even a difference?) SO EXCITED about this episode!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, TiffanyHERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: Why do you think social justice can be such a controversial topic in some Christian circles?  (And what is the church history behind this “controversy”?) (@1:38)Q2: Why do you think social justice is sometimes pegged as a liberal issue in churches? (@5:40)Q3: What is the fruit of a Christianity where you neglect the social justice aspect of our faith? (@8:15)Q4: Why are we quick to split up the social justice vs. the spiritual disciplines? (And how does our heaven and earth theology play into this?) (@11:00)Q5: Where does this biblical understanding of justice begin? Why is it so important to God? (@14:05)Q6: What is the difference between “biblical justice” and “social justice”? (@17:35)Q7: What are the original words for righteousness and justice? How do they work together? (@19:55)Q8: How do we practically make a difference? (@23:45)Q9: How do we figure out self-care boundaries in our approach to justice? (@27:25)Q10: Why is it so difficult to accept we’ve been a part of the problem? What does repentance look like as a passive participant in the problem?  (@30:20)Q11: How can we use our voices for justice? (@34:21)VIDEO ON SOCIAL JUSTICE:https://bibleproject.com/podcast/justice-part-2-what-social-justice-and-righteousness-bible/NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

2/11/22 • 40:20

James and I both grew up in purity culture and both saved sex for marriage. And today we’re talking about that! We’re debriefing our segment on purity culture + sex, and sharing what we’re learning about a biblical view of sex!  Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, TiffanyHERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: What did you grow up believing about sex, and have those beliefs changed? (@0:11)Q2: What do you believe about a healthy biblical sexuality now? (@2:55)Q3: Does the Bible really say to save sex for marriage? (@3:53)Q4: Let’s talk about the way we approach modesty + bikinis in conservative evangelical circles. Is our approach helpful or harmful? (@10:55)Q5: Does saving sex until marriage = a great marriage? Does a sexual past and/or masturbation = a ruined marriage? (@16:20)Q6: What started purity culture, and what would have been a better way to approach sexuality in the church? (@19:23)NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnTHE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: From James and Tiffany Dawn!What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.comNEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

2/4/22 • 22:22

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Sheila Gregoire about some of the damaging teachings we grew up hearing about "biblical sex" in marriage. She's turning some of those teachings on their heads as she shares what a truly biblical sex life looks like, and how this new perspective actually makes sex so much more enjoyable! We're also going to debunk some modesty and dating myths while we're at it. SO EXCITED about this one!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, TiffanyHERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:Q1: What was your old perspective on sex, and what fruit did that bring in your life? (@3:01)Q2: What are two of the most common and toxic teachings about sex in evangelical Christian circles? And how do those teachings affect women? (@5:55)Q3: There's an idea in some Christian circles that women are obligated to have sex anytime their husbands want sex. Where does this idea come from? What does the Bible ACTUALLY say? (@15:28) Q4: Is orgasm important for a woman to experience? Or is it enough to simply cuddle and enjoy the closeness of sex, without worrying about orgasm? (@20:39) Q5: Is it okay for women to be a little "selfish" during sex - to pay attention to their own needs and desires? Is that biblical? (@25:01) Q6: Is it a woman's responsibility to help her husband stay pure (mentally, emotionally, physically) by having lots of sex with him? (@28:29)Q7: Let's talk about modesty. Is it a woman's responsibility to dress in such a way that guys won't be tempted to "stumble"? (@35:12)Q8: Will your husband have "eyes for only you"? Is that what godly men do? (@38:45) Q9: How can a woman heal her perspective toward sex, whether single or married? (@42:38) Q10: What resources do you recommend? (@45:24) HERE ARE THE RESOURCES WE TALKED ABOUT:(The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links to each book.)⭐️Sheila's Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com⭐️Sheila's "Bare Marriage" Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/242918⭐️Sheila's Orgasm Course: https://sheilawraygregoire.thinkific.com/courses/the-orgasm-course⭐️The Great Sex Rescue Book: https://amzn.to/3JQwyHT⭐️The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex Book: https://amzn.to/3HMxgEh⭐️Talking Back to Purity Culture Book: https://amzn.to/3qZtkcD⭐️The Making of Biblical Womanhood Book: https://amzn.to/3q6epxL⭐️The Where Do We Go From Here Podcast: https://tunein.com/podcasts/Religion--Spirituality-Podcasts/Where-Do-We-Go-From-Here-p1274502/THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: From James and Tiffany Dawn!What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.comNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

1/28/22 • 48:12

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Kat Harris about masturbation, sexuality, and how to deconstruct purity culture while keeping a biblical approach to sex! SO EXCITED about this one!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, TiffanyHERE ARE OUR QUESTIONS:Q1: When you grew up in the height of purity culture, what was your approach to sexuality? (@3:03)Q2: What was the fruit of that approach, and the shame you felt? (@8:01)Q3: Let's talk about contentment and when we're trying to mask our longing for a relationship with spiritual language... (@15:54)Q4: What aha moment led you to deconstruct your view of sexuality? (@18:43) Q5: What does the Bible say about sexuality as a whole, and about the human body? (@24:31)Q6: How did you come to understand the Bible's message about premarital sex? (@36:56)Q7: What does the Bible say about masturbation? (@45:35)OTHER RESOURCES:⭐️Podcast episodes on masturbation: https://therefinedwoman.com/podcasts-all/part-i-is-masturbation-a-sinhttps://therefinedwoman.com/podcasts-all/part-ii-is-masturbation-a-sin⭐️Kat's Instagram: @therefinedwoman ⭐️Kat's book: https://amzn.to/3zAPSnP(👆My Amazon affiliate link to her book!)⭐️Kat's website: https://therefinedwoman.comNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥YouTube.com/c/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

1/21/22 • 55:46

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Deconstructing your faith can be REALLY hard on your mental health. So today we're talking with Brittney Moses, host of The Faith and Mental Wellness Podcast, about mental health during deconstruction, recognizing spiritual manipulation, healing from church hurt, finding a healthy community, and SO MUCH MORE! Welcome back to Episode 9 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast!HERE ARE THE QUESTIONS FOR TODAY:Q1: When you were younger, what was your approach to mental health as a Christian? And what was the fruit (good or bad) of that approach? (@3:20)Q2: How does growing up in a fundamental or legalistic faith tradition affect our mental health? (@7:42)Q3: How can we recognize if our approach to spirituality is healthy or unhealthy? (@15:17)Q4: Many of my listeners are deconstructing at least some parts of their faith right now, and I know firsthand that can be extremely stressful and anxiety-provoking. Why is deconstruction so hard on our mental health? Is this a common experience? (@21:52)Q5: What red flags should we look for to see if we're being manipulated or gaslighted? And how do we respond if we think that's happening to us? (@29:12)Q6: What should we do if we’re in a toxic church situation? (@34:22)Q7: How do we recognize a healthy church? (@38:54)Q8: How do we heal from church hurts? (@41:42)Q9: I loved your IG reel: "Things I thought were holy that were actually unhealthy." Would you share a few of these with us, and some steps we can take to become healthier in these areas? (@46:53)Q10: There’s sadly still such a stigma around mental health in some church circles. So how has your study of the Bible AND psychology led you to view mental health as a Christian? (@53:00)Q11: You've put together some really thoughtful resources for Christians wrestling with mental health. Would you tell us about your resources and where we can find them? (@59:11)LINKS WE MENTIONED: ⭐️GRACE (for reporting and investigating church abuse concerns) -https://www.netgrace.org⭐️Brittney's website with resources: https://brittneyamoses.com⭐️Brittney's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittneymoses/⭐️Pre order Brittney's book: https://tinyurl.com/brittneybook⭐️Faithful Counseling link: Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥 YouTube.com/c/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

1/14/22 • 63:03

We're wrapping up our mini series on women's roles! Here's what we each believe + our journey to this point. We'll also take a brief rabbit trail to talk about deconstruction and some of the recent press it's been getting. Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany & JamesMY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/ti...NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

12/17/21 • 19:07

Let's dive into episode 7 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl!" Today we're talking with the Rev. Dr. Amy Peeler, an Associate Professor of New Testament at Wheaton College and Associate Rector at St. Mark’s Episcopal Church. Here are the questions we'll be talking about:1. What did you grow up believing about women's roles in the church and in marriage? (@2:10)2. How did you come to understand 1 Timothy 2, and how it applies to women today? (@6:30)3. Can you walk us through 1 Corinthians 14, and help us better understand how this might apply to women today? (@23:44)4. What is the fruit of silencing women in church? (@30:57)5. Would you talk with us about 1 Corinthians 11, and how that informs our understanding of women's roles in the church today? (@35:10)6. Let's talk about marriage and submission. Would you walk us through Ephesians 5? (@44:34)7. Let's talk about feminism. One of your specialties is feminist theology. What is that, and is it biblical to be a feminist? (@53:43)8. What resources would you recommend for people who want to study this topic further? (@57:49)Come back next week as James and I debrief this episode and talk about our personal thoughts on this topic!Love you all! Thank you for your courage to go through this Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl series with me!XOXO, TiffanyAMY'S WEBSITE: amypeeler.comAMY'S BOOKS:Hebrews: An introduction & study guide: https://amzn.to/3qpHgOgYou Are My Son: The Family of God in the Epistle to the Hebrews: https://amzn.to/3bYp0TR(👆My Amazon affiliate links)THE BOOKS AMY RECOMMENDED TO LEARN MORE:Discovering Biblical Equality: https://amzn.to/3qpvcwmPaul and Gender: https://amzn.to/3qpvgMCRediscovering Scripture's Vision for Women: https://amzn.to/3krnYUWWomen in the World of the Earliest Christians: https://amzn.to/3knt6JS(👆My Amazon affiliate links)MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

11/26/21 • 60:14

We're wrapping up our mini series on LGBTQ+! Here's what we each believe + our thoughts on some of your comments. Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany & JamesWHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT TODAY:@1:14: Why is this topic the “litmus test” of being a Christian and obeying the Bible?@2:50: Growing up, what was the message you heard about being gay?@4:03: When did you start thinking more about this topic? 7:01: seeing the depression in his life@7:28: What made you start wondering if your understanding of Scripture was correct in this area?@19:30: As far as what the Bible says on this topic, what are some of the things you’ve been thinking about on this journey? INCLUDING:     - Something to keep in mind when talking about historical / cultural context     - Why is the topic of LGBTQ+ such a huge deal in Christian circles when it’s only talked about 6 times in Scripture?     - Thoughts on the passage when Jesus talks about divorce, and could that apply here, or not?     - Are we outgrowing the Bible on this podcast?     - Let’s compare Romans 1 to the wording in 1 Corinthians 11.     - But Jesus never addressed same sex relationships - what does that mean?     - Are we really meant to make a judgment call in this area, as heterosexual people?@30:40: What do you believe on this topic now?     - Also brief side bar @33:33: What did God intend marriage to be? Monogamy or different genders?MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

11/19/21 • 36:09

Let's dive into part 5 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl!" Today we're talking with Matthew Vines, author of "God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case for Same Sex Relationships." Here are the questions we'll be talking about:1. What did you used to believe it meant to honor God with your sexuality? (@4:05)2. What was the fruit of seeing sexuality that way? (@13:10)3. Would you tell us about how you approach the Bible? (@16:05)4. Would you tell us why you wrote "God and the Gay Christian"? (@20:13)5. What would the words for "homosexuality" have meant to Bible readers in the early church? What did "homosexual behavior" look like at that time in history? (@26:43)6. Let's talk about the Bible passage that I used to think ended any conversation on homosexuality: Romans 1. Would you give us just an overview of what your Bible study has revealed about this passage? What about that word "unnatural"? (@34:15)7. What is Scripture's trajectory with gender roles? (@37:45)8. Let's go back to Romans 1! What was same sex behavior commonly associated with at that time? (@40:56)9. So what about the option of celibacy? (@45:07)10. What about other sexual orientations and gender identities? (@47:23)11. Would you tell us more about The Reformation Project and the resources you offer for those who want to learn more? (@49:56)Come back next week as James and I debrief this episode and talk about our personal thoughts on this topic!Love you all! Thank you for your courage to go through this Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl series with me!XOXO, TiffanyMATTHEW'S RESOURCES - highly recommend!!👇GOD + THE GAY CHRISTIAN: https://amzn.to/3Gw0XJR(👆My amazon affiliate link)MATTHEW'S INSTAGRAM: @thereformationprojectREGISTER FOR THEIR CONFERENCE: https://reformationproject.org/conference/#virtual-ticketsTHEIR NEW 7-HOUR ONLINE COURSE: https://reformationproject.org/courses/the-biblical-case-for-lgbtq-inclusion/#detailsMY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

10/29/21 • 54:10

We're wrapping up our mini series on hell + heaven! Here's what we each believe + our thoughts on some of your comments! Let's talk! XOXO, Tiffany & JamesWHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT TODAY:What did we grow up believing about hell?What was the fruit of that belief?Why is this conversation even important?What do we think hell is, and why?What was the purpose of Jesus's death + resurrection? Can people go to heaven if they're not a "Christian"?What stood out to us from the previous two podcasts?And more!THE SKELETONS IN GOD'S CLOSET:https://amzn.to/3FMoW7h(👆My amazon affiliate links)MY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/ti...NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

10/22/21 • 35:32

Let's dive into part 2 of our mini series on hell! Today we're talking with Josh Butler, author of "The Skeletons in God's Closet." Here are the questions we'll be talking about:1. What was your old way of thinking about hell? (@2:16)2. The first thing we’ll be looking at is fruit. What is the fruit of that belief about hell? (@4:30)3. What is a biblical view of heaven and earth? (@8:15)4. What is hell and why is it merciful? (@12:25)5. Who goes to hell and who goes to heaven? (@26:15)6. How do I know I'm heaven-bound? (@30:10)7. Would you walk us through the parable of the wedding feast (Matt 22), and what that story tells us about hell, heaven and God's posture toward all of us? (@37:14)8. Can you talk us through the parable of the prodigal son (Luke 15), and again the picture that gives of heaven, hell and God's posture toward all of us? (@43:50)9. Should this new understanding of hell change the way we think about missions and evangelism? If so, how? (@51:00)Come back next week for part 3 on hell, as James and I debrief this mini series and talk about our personal thoughts on this topic.Love you all! Thank you for your courage to go through this Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl series with me!XOXO, TiffanyJOSH'S BOOKS - highly recommend!!👇SKELETONS: https://amzn.to/3FMoW7hPURSUING GOD: https://amzn.to/3AKeI3z(👆My amazon affiliate links)JOSH'S TWITTER: @butlerjoshMY INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)https://www.faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawnNEW YT VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕YouTube.com/c/tiffanydawnNEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

10/15/21 • 58:36

Today I got to interview pastor and author Steve Daughterty (IG: @stepd0c)! I LOVED getting to talk with him about hell! Here are the questions I asked him:1. What was your old way of thinking about hell? (@2:57)2. The first thing we’ll be looking at is fruit. What was the fruit of that belief in your life? (@6:03)3. What was your aha moment when you realized maybe you were misunderstanding the Bible? (@8:42)4. The second thing we’ll be looking at is intent and the original language in Scripture. What are the four words that are translated "hell" in our English Bibles? (@13:20)5. What is this idea of "eternal destruction"? (@25:16)6. Is God's justice restorative or retributive? (@27:50)7. What are the wages of sin? (@31:08)8. What about the "lake of fire" in Luke 16? (@35:39)9. If there's no hell, why did Jesus die? (@43:52)Come back next week for part 2 on hell, an interview with pastor and author Joshua Butler, talking about why Jesus died, who's in and who's out, etc! Then the following week, James and I will debrief and talk about our personal thoughts on this topic together.Love you all! Thank you for your courage to go through this Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl series with us!XOXO, TiffanySTEVE'S BOOK:https://amzn.to/2YD61uX(👆My amazon affiliate link)INSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with Faithful Counseling!(This link is sponsored by Faithful Counseling.)http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffany...NEW VIDS: Tuesday Life Advice + Friday Faith Series! 💕NEED A COUNSELOR?Get 10% off your first month with BetterHelp!(This link is sponsored by BetterHelp.)http://betterhelp.com/tiffanydawnINSTAGRAM: @tiffanydawniqb

10/8/21 • 49:00