For Empaths: Practice Self Care and Self Kindness DraftSep 25, 2023 Empaths are unique individuals who are often misunderstood. As babies and small children they learn that they are unlike other family members. Some children are accepted and respected but this attitude tends to be the exception. Empaths have a heightened sense of perception. They are highly sensitive to loud noises, large crowds and social events.  Empaths are seekers of the truth and have keen insights and intuitions. The society and even within their families, these gifts are not accepted and valued. Rather the empath is treated like a person who is odd, peculiar, someone who doesn't fit in.  True empaths are rare and extraordinary. Their perceptions about human nature and individuals in particular are very accurate. Often these individuals are not believed. Many growup in families that discount this level of high consciousness and intuitive sight. Self care and self kindness are essential practices for empaths: Protecting Your Sleep and Rest: Honor your sleep. Don't let others, especially demanding individuals-narcissists- interfere with your sleep. The great healer is sleep, a profound activity that we are designed for. Sleep is part of all human and animal species. It nourishes and restores every system: skeletal, muscular, respiratory, cardiovascular, digestive, reproductive, endocrine, lymphatic and the mitochrondria in every cell.  We are created to follow the natural daylight and night---to sleep when darkness comes at night and to awaken when the sun rises and radiates in the sky throughout the day.  Sleep protects and strengthens the immune system, restores our vital energy and decreases inflammation. In sleep the unconscious speaks, bringing us dreams that are mysterious, healing and insightful. We are often daunted by the meaning of our dreams. Nevertheless, they are invaluable although often inscrutable. In many cultures for hundreds of years the habit of taking a rest has been part of a daily routine. Rest offers physical, psychological and emotional refreshment. Having the freedom to think in quiet, to enjoy one's solitude and creativity is a very pleasant activity. This gives us a feeling of well-being. It offers a great opportunity to move into the parasympathetic nervous system, the restorative, healing mode.  Protecting Your Psychological Boundaries Respecting your personal boundaries is an essential part of your positive self-entitlement to inner peace. Recognize that you can say "No" to the narcissist who is constantly making outrageous demands, lying to you, projecting venomous rage. Developing a strong sense of self-regard is essential to eatablishing and maintaining boundaries. Separating out of the narcissist's delusion world you move forward along your unique individual pathways of psychological and creative development. Setting Your Personal Pace: Each individual has a natural tempo, a way of moving that is unique to them. As a child, spouse or partner of a high level narcissist you spent many years dancing to their choreography. High level narcissists are often peripetetic---they never stop moving. You have been trying to keep up with their rapid pace and constant demands for too many years. This is your time your space, your pace, your dance.  Spend time with Nature, her beauty and Inspiration: We are part of Nature. It showers us with gifts of magnificent beauty. Nature is our home, an inspiration for creative thinking, a companion that inspires, nourishes, calms and delights us.  Developing Your Unique Routine: Daily routines that you are motivating, creative, healing and restorative.  Decide on your priorities, try different schedules, choose activities that appeal to you. Leave room for flexibility. Don't be judgmental. There are no mistakes in choosing the elements of your routine. Enjoy your choices. Honor your unique needs, wishes, energy levels, deep interests, appreciation of beauty, the manifestation of your singular individuality. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network: A Global Network of Shows by Podcasters encompassing every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com     Collapse More Episodes 0 High level Narcissists – Playing Their False Self Roles Read More Quick LinksGet Embed PlayerDownload Audio File Author : N/A Episode Type : Full Episode : N/A Rating : Clean File Info :  | | NaNMB  

High level narcissists stand at center stage, commanding all the attention. He/she struts and preens before the audience. The high level is exultant before his/her adoring audience. These individuals expect nothing less than being perpetually adored.  Many names are associated with these false self high flyers: Champion, Winner, Nobleman, Noblewoman, Prince, Princess, Genius, Spiritual Master.  On the outside, the high level narcissist sparkles, exuding a magnetic charm.  Beneath the many false selves  the high level narcissist is a hollowed out, psychologically empty real self.  The high level uses specific defense mechanisms to protect himself/herself from exposure to the depleted real self.  Projection: Projection is a primitive defense mechanism that involves ejecting vile psychological venom onto victims, especially those close within his inner circle: spouses, ex-spouses, children, siblings. The big advantage for the high level is that there are no consequences for their abominable behavior. When you are the recipient of a primitive projection your guts churn, your heart beats wildly, you feel humiliated—feel like disappearing. Projections originate in the unconscious of the perpetrator. In these dark recesses, powerful untrammeled feelings and inclinations are brewing and foment upward into consciousness.    Massive Denial: This is a profound disavowal of the true reality, particularly about himself. The narcissist believes that he/she is a fine person, an individual of integrity. The high level is immune to his mean, vindictive, demanding behaviors. The narcissist easily finds fault with others, (often rivals for power) whom he criticizes reflexively. The high level harbors a deep envy of his competitors. When he/she has behaved badly in business or socially, the high level shifts the blame on to others rather than taking responsibility for his deceptive, and egregious behaviors. The high level can never admit being “wrong” since the reinforced false self perceives himself/herself as perfect and superior.  Repression:The use of repression works very well for the high level narcissist. This is a form of forgetting and blocking feelings and actions and memories that run counter to the narcissist’s belief that he/she is superior and perfect. Repression is a psychological shield that protects the high level from experiencing his emotional and psychological vulnerabilities and imperfections. This mechanism “protects” the narcissist from experiencing his/her hollow, helpless, depleted, empty real self.  Many are so taken with the compelling, believable false selves of the high level narcissist that they are incapable and unwilling to perceive these malevolent individuals for who they truly are—vile exploiters of those whom they psychologically and mentally control.  As a result of your research and clear insights, you perceive the true nature of the high level narcissist defined by the dark, empty, hollowed out core of these individuals.  Give yourself credit for your perseverance, your strong belief in yourself, your mental and psychological stamina. Focus on your movement into the restorative, calming pathways of the parasympathetic of self care and the use of your unique creative gifts. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below the Mental Health News Radio Network, A Global Network of Shows by Podcasters encompassing every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com                             

"In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action. I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it." (Michelangelo)  One of the greatest sculptors created unsurprassed masterpieces---The Pieta, David, Moses among others. He was a master at taking a block of inanimate material and bringing it to the highest artistic fulfillment.  I was thinking about this great work and something popped into my mind about the narcissistic mother who endeavors with all of her force to create the perfect child---her golden one. Some are chosen to play this role; others are not.  Many a narcissistic parent has become obsessed with molding a tiny baby into a perfect vision. This works beautifully with art using clay, marble and alabaster but it is a disaster with little children.  Were you the chosen one, the one who was ignored, the golden child dethroned, the child who was hidden in the bunch, the child who got into a lot of trouble with mom because you insisted on being yourself? There are innumerable patterns in these narcissistic, highly dysfunctional families.  Some children respond positively to the prodding of their highly ambitious narcissistic mothers. These mothers are restless creatures. Mother is relentlessly at work. Day and night she is plotting and thinking about the magnificence of the end product when the curtain parts and her creation is at center stage.  If one daughter does not go along with the transformation project, she will discard her and pick another child. The abanded daughter has a hard time because she has lost her mother's attention and is no longer in a psychological state of her mother's grace. But those who tough it out can be blessed because they bucked the force of the narcissistic mother's disturbed contorted vision.  Rather, this daughter is an individual with many unique gifts.  Narcissistic mothers will always be with us as well as narcissistic daughters. Our work is to recognize the true nature of the high level narcissists in our families and to assert and honor the immutable authentic, creative self that is grounded in truth and integrity.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, A Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com  

High level narcissists are essentially solo acts. They are incapable of forming genuine relationships, especially with their spouses, partners and children. Narcissists are duplicitous. They have many secret agendas. They compartmentalize their lives skillfully and without conscience.  After you have been married to a narcissist for a while you realize this man or woman is not the person you met and think you have known.  Even when he/she is getting everything he wants, the high level suddenly turns on his /her spouse. He is projecting and spewing his unconscious self loathing and psychological emptiness on to you. Spouses and partners on the receiving end often learn to ignore and rationalize these abusive behaviors.  After the marriage has turned stale---and this can happen quickly with narcissists---they need to figure out exactly what they are going to do with you.  Narcissistic spouses are irritated and disgusted with spouses and partners who are not performing up to their unrealistic standards. After the divorce the spouse/partner is dropped quickly, abandoned without ceremony.  High level narcissists don't look back; they are not haunted by any memory of their cruelties. They sleep well at night and are still completely full of themselves as they move on with another person. This is a travesty, a number of horrible scenarios that are repeated over and over again by narcissists with impunity.  As you move forward, focus on your sense of self entitlement. Practice self care each day: rest and sleep, eat nourishing food, good hydration, exercise and movement that appeals to you, expressive unedited writing, listen to beautiful music, spend time with Nature, the great healer.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com    

You are in charge now unlike the days of childhood when you were under the control, expectations and pscyopathologies of your parents. Your partner, spouse, ex-spouse, siblings and other family members are not entitled to intimidate or control you. Be kind with yourself. Self Kindness activities include: Move at our own pace; don't let anyone rush you. Many children are herded around and forced to move quickly by other family members. This is particularly stressful, causing nerves to fray, stomach roiling when they are forced to hurry mindlessly. It is distressing and disorienting.  Develop daily routines that work well for you and that orient you into the parasympathetic nervous system and out of the fight or flight sympathetic mode.  As a child you experienced the stresses of the sympathetic, especially if you grew up with a narcissistic parent and other personality disordered individuals.  The practice of diaphragmagtic breathing offers you an entree into the parasympathetic state. Disphragmatic breathing activates the vagus nerve. The awakening of the vagus nerve puts you into the parasympathetic---the calming, healing, restorative part of the nervous system. The origin of this kind of breathing has existed for thousands of years introduced by Indian practices called pranayama. The practice of pranayama is part of an ancient yoga that goes back in time with its origins in India in the sixth and fifth centuries BC.  Listen to beautiful music that speaks to you. You can hear these melodies or songs over and over again and always find them calming, inspiring, affirming, joyful. Pay attention to your dreams. They are revealing invaluable messages. When you awaken from a dream, take a few minutes to digest it before you get up. Expressive, unedited writing offers you an opening to your unconscious and your unique creativity. Messages that come through this writing are profound and help you to see through delusion to the true reality.  Be as kind with yourself as you are to others.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, A Global Network of Shows by Podcasters encompassing every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com          

Covert narcissists fly under the radar. It can be very difficult to identify them before they have psychologically ambushed you. Polite, humble, soft spoken, respectful in manner, the covert narcissist conceals his/her true nature with great skill. They are at your service, appear to be good listeners and are clever actors of pseudo empathy. In the first moves the covert narcissist appears to be very sincere. He/she has your best interests at heart. This is the bait and the trap.  All the while the covert narcissist is sizing you up. These individuals have taken your measure and know that by romancing you and becoming an indispensable part of your life that they will own your feelings and possess you psychologically.  Whether it is direct or covert, the narcissist is a user who only becomes involved with those whom he/she can use and increase his power and economic reach.  Protect yourself. Narcissists are users and abusers. You can learn to identify the covert narcissist with great skill.  Turn you attention to your self care: rest, sleep, hydration, nourishing food, expressive writing, beautiful music, sublime Nature.  Embrace your unique creative individuality.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasers encompassing every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com    

Our hearts are drawn quickly and beat fiercely with someone who is irresistible. That often is a narcissistic man or woman.  They have our "numbers", are often very attractive and compelling. They give us so much attention in the beginning. The narcissist always wants something from us and it is not our welfare or peace of mind, or our creative, psychological or spiritual well being.  There is a strong human tendency to repeat patterns of behavior, especially those that are hurtful to us. Many children of narcissistic parents marry narcissists. It is not unusual for them to step into a marriage with someone who has fooled them completely with a grandiose false self full of confidence and who appears to care deeply about them. If you suspect that your intended man or woman is a narcissist, remember what you learned about the characteristics of the narcissistic personality: Narcissists are clever actors who convince others that they truly care about them. Narcissists are consumed with creating and maintaining with their perfect image. Does this individual over promise? Is he or she very grandiose and could possibly be delusional? Is he or she the Golden Boy or Golden Girl in the family? Does this person lack true empathy? The capacity to put yourself emotionally and psychologically in another person's place.  Are they skilled at pseudo empathy? How often are you catching him/her in lies? Narcissists are gifted liars.  Narcissistic personalities are not inclined to change. After all, they believe they are perfect and live in a delusion of their own making.  Prepare personally by putting the emphasis on taking vey good care of yourself. Take time to listen to music, spontaneous writing with a pen and your imagination, exercise in the way that works for you, good nutrition and hydration, a spiritual practice as you define it. Get the sleep and rest that you deserve. Seek anf find the beauty of Nature, our restorative, healing, transformational source. Ackowledge and feel deep inside an appreciation for who you really are: genuine, unique, talented, creative: a person of vision, empathy and integrity.  I have great faith in you and know that you will prevail. Let your light shine! Click the link below for my books on Amazon:  https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasterr encompassing every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com            

Daughters of narcissistic mothers have a particularly difficult pathway to travel. From childhood they have had to contend with mothers who were cold, distracted, self-absorbed, coercive, dismissive, manipulative and psychologically destructive. Their children are at their mercy and whim. Their daughters are an ongoing source of narcissistic supply to this non-mother.   Adult daughters of narcissistic mothers have to contend with maternal deprivation, perpetrated by these mothers from hell.  The daughter of a narcissistic mothers is very special...She is a survivor, a beautiful human being who has prevailed over the psychological gulags of childhood to emerge as a vibrant, loving, creative individual.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters covering every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com    

Psychological fusion represents the need to identify and merge with the high level narcissist.  This occurs as a result of emotional and psychological deficits and causes a sense of being incomplete as an individual.  Those who experience this fusion seek the high level narcissist for validation and a sense of worth and purpose. The causes of psychological fuson can be the result of childhood trauma, maternal deprivation and abandonment issues. You feel emotionally damaged, less than, incomplete with feelings of worthlessness, guilt, lacking value and importance as an individual.  Each time that you return to the high level narcissist you put yourself in the hands of this unempathic, controlling individual  At a time of insight and deep understanding you decide to separate from the high level narcissist with the practice of self care: going at your own pace, sleep and rest that you deserve, healing and restoration through Nature, activating your unique creativity, movement and exercise that works for you.   Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com  

Classic narcissists are bombastic and charismatic, running through their days in the fast lane---always moving to their next cascade of narcissistic supplies. If they are very successful they have more opportunities to be adored, praised and rewarded hnadsomely in this current world of rampant pathological narcissism. Those at the top of their game don't do the hard work. They have adoring followers, psychologically dependent individuals, hangers on, at their beck and call.  If you have narcissists in your family, you are keenly aware of how they demean and/or ignore you or both.  Since they have no internal psychological consciousness or a well developed conscience, they move swiftly and smoothly through their professional and personal lives with ruthless abandon. They choose partners whom they can dominate and control. They ignore their children or choose only those who will become their living ego supplies---little narcissists who will grow up to be just like them. Narcissists are peripatetic---They always have their engines running. They go from one project to the next--one trip to the next---one acquisition to the next--one partner to the next---, etc.  They jauntily move along in the conversation to tell you about how swimmingly their lives are going, how busy they are, what they are achieving and don't forget---"their successes." I am talking about their all out bragging when the other person is going through a very tough time and needs to be heard. I find this kind of interchange to be nauseating and cruel.  Remind yourself that you are genuine and that having psychological ordeals is part of our authenticity with real feelings and deep caring for others as well as oneself.  You are not deluded. You do not brag about yourself. You are highly empathic and care deeply about the feelings, the problems and the tough issues of others: family members, friends, spouses, etc. You are the opposite of the narcissist.  Give yourself credit for being a true individual who is growing and evolving. Know that this is a process that takes time and effort and that you are moving toward developing a stronger, expanded true self. (The narcissist is a false self that leads his/her entire days in delusion.)  Practice the self care each day: rest and get the sleep that you deserve, eat nourishing food--organic if you can, use your creative gifts, create a spiritual practice as you understand this. Spend time with Nature--beautiful, restorative, transformational!   Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com    

Some grandiose narcissists are egomanical. Their bloated sense of self is without boundaries. They are delusional, believing that they are all powerful, omniscient, demi gods. They are obsessed with obtaining and maintaining the highest levels of raw power and control over others in their orbits. Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life: "The narcissist fabricates delusions that protect his/her belief in limitless power. The narcissist holds fast to his bloated self images...for him these are irrefutable and immutable truths. His core beliefs are unshakable: "There is nothing I can't do, I have no limits. I'm perfect---everyone else is mediocre and inferior. I will win at all costs." Grandiose narcissist create thickets of lies. They lie automatically and take great pleasure in lying to you in a variety of ways. The focus is always on them and what they can get and take from you.  Grandiose narcissists control you by manufactoring an empty promise that you will become part of their unique, golden circle of followers who are treated as special and unique.   Shameless to the highest degree, the grandiose narcissist does not have a fully developed conscience.  Highly exploitive, the grandiose narcissist treats others with disrespect and disdain.   For them, you are expendable, like a used wrapper thrown to the winds. Delirious with greed grandiose narcissists can't stop themselves from obsessive acquisition of  properties, money, trusts, investments.  At a time of awakening you recognize that you need to separate from the delusional, psychopathollogical world of the grandiose narcissist.  Practice self care each day: rest and sleep that you need and deserve, eat nourishing food, movement and exercise, quieting the mind or meditation for calming and focus. Listen to beautiful music that puts you in a restorative healing mode.  Celebrate your essence---your unique individuality! Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com  

From the time he/she was very young, the budding narcissist was convinced that he was brilliant, talented, resourceful, socially gifted at magnetizing people to him/her. Often the golden child, these individuals are exceedingly self entitled, overflowing with hubris.  They are convinced that they are perfect--superior to others in every respect. These beliefs and convictions become an integral core of the budding narcissist, especially if they are the vaunted, glorious golden child who can never do anything wrong. In addition they don't develop a conscience and blame their dirty deeds on siblings, friends, family member, acquaintance, rivals.  High levels are "climbers", determined to reach the highest summits of monetary and professional largesse, to ingratiate themselves to moneyed power brokers and social movers and shakers. With their gifts of persuasion and light seduction--- a kind of hypnotic trance---they work their way up to positions of great power and influence. They get their lieutenants to do their dirty work. They come out of their misadventures without blemish or murmur. They are keen at playing above the fray, above reproach. They cheat, steal, lie, threaten, collude, betray, scheme---and never get caught. When questioned, the high level lies with great skill by omission and commission. His perfect persona convinces almost everyone that there is no way he could or would have done anything wrong. Many fear that lying will bring the wrath of God down upon them. Not the high level narcissist. He or she takes pleasure in mendacity---this is a familiar game to them---like a grand chess master who knows he can win every play, blindfolded. Operating without conscience makes for an easier ride to the high level's goal. Carrying a conscience takes humility and a consideration of being just and righteous in the world and with oneself. Cruel misdeeds vanish in the ethers as the high level re-invents himself/herself countless times. Learn to recognize these vipers quickly. Study your research, use your high intuition to follow the scent of the malevolent high level. You know how dark and malicious these individuals are.  Separate yourself from them. Take your own pathway, that of the just, discerning, empathic. Your intellect is keen; your character is fine, your creative talents are many, you are fearless in the face of this dark human nature. You shine forth and chart your own course. The winds are at your back now and you see and feel the beauty and majesty of the blue waters of healing, restoration, transformation and creativity. Sail on!   Click the link below for my books on Amazon:  https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com  

Running a fever is a sign that we are fighting an infection. Your temperature rises; you are very hot. Your sweat glands activate and you cool down. Your fever has broken and you are in the process of recovering and getting well. You are moving toward healing. The lust for money and power in the high level narcissist is a fever, a sickness, a perverse pursuit,  uncontained. Monetary acquisition captivates the high level narcissist. High levels are always thinking about how much money they have, how to get more, how to keep it from others. For the high level there is never enough money, investments, properties, financial holdings. Lusting after money is the singular preoccupation for many high level narcissists. Having lots of money makes them feel more entitled, superior to others, a consummate winner. In this obsessive pursuit the high level narcissist doesn't stop victimizing others, disrupting their lives, leaving them without monetary means, causing extreme duress, anxiety and worry. Pay attention to your intuition about the high level narcissist. You sense their vileness, like a noxious odor in the air.  Dis-entangle yourself from the lust fevered high level narcissist. Develop habits of self care: rest, sleep, nourishing food, good hydration, movement and exercise that works for you, spend time with Nature, bring Great Art into your days. Exercise your intuitive gifts. Honor your wisdom and fine character. Develop a spiritual practice specifically designed for you as an individual. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health www.mhnrnetwork.com

The narcissistic personality leads his/her life in psychological delusion. Wearing a series of false self masks, the narcissist convinces so many that he/she is authentic. There are many stories of the extraordinary duress and psychological and emotional pain that are inflicted by them on their  spouses, children, partners, ex-spouses.  In current society where highly successful narcissists are feted and rewarded for their worldly accomlishments---raw power, cultural influences---these individuals are not held accountable for the extreme psychological and emotional pain they inflict on others.  The narcissist is without conscience, shame or mercy. He/she wouldn't be foolish enough to outwardly harm another and get caught and have to deal with the circumstances of their dark deeds.  These individuals are unacquainted with their damaged real selves. From the time they were very young, narcissists, especially golden children, glide through life, supremely entitled, believing that they are perfect and others are inferior. They are unfamiliar with the truth. What they think and believe is the only truth. High level narcissists, powerful in the world, they convince those in their inner charmed circles that they are extraordinary, gifted, accomplished and entitled to be treated with extraordinary deference.  Devoted followers of the narcissist willingly surrender their identities and their morality to be a part of this special club.  At a point of awakening, your research and insight, you make the decision to separate from the narcissist. After leaving the narcissist, you are freer to speak and manifest the truth each day with your words, attitudes, actions, creative gifts.  Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: "Knowing and speaking the truth about human nature is part of your destiny if you are to evolve as an individual." With clarity, discernment, strength, stamina and the truth, you are moving forward along the pathway of the authentic, original, creative self. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, A Global Network of Shows by Podcasters covering every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com      

"The shadow personifies everything that the subject (person) refuses to acknowledge about himself." CG Jung "Those who have no conscious acquaintance with their shadow project forgotten, forbidden and disowned parts of themselves on to others in destructive ways." Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., LMFT, Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist Are you trapped in a marriage or partnership with a pernicious high level narcissist, an individual obsessed with self and public image, with extreme self-entitlement, very low conscience capacity, n an infant terrible, with a dreadful temper that is projected out onto you behind closed doors. This is horrifying to the spouse of the high level narcissist. There are severe criticisms, humiliations, exhausting over the top demands, blatant hyoocrisy, incessant lying. More lying to cover other lies. The high level narcissist carries from within a primitive, seething Shadow that ejects venom in various forms on to you: false accusations, recriminations, incessant criticisms, withering projections that send you into the dark reaches of the fight or flight nervous system, the sympathetic mode.  You are at the mercy of the narcissist's rampant regressed Shadow. The high level vehemently blames you for these traits, deeds and words he/she is incessantly using. The narcissist never owns his/her wrongdoings since he/she believes that he/she is perfect. It is in private that you shudder and cower and take the full brunt of the narcissistic partner's disowned Shadow. How much longer can you tolerate the scream fits, volleys of temper, scathing glances, belittling snipes that leave you psychologically and emotionally weakened. You don't deserve to be treated this way. You are making a stand now for yourself. You make the decision to separate from the toxic high level narcissist and move along your pathways of self care, healing, restoration, transformation and the reawakening of your true, authentic, creative self. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com      

I have communicated with many individuals who tell me that they keep marrying, divorcing and then partnering with another covert narcissist. How could they have known that they would repeat this corrosive psychological pattern. They should not blame themselves. It is exceedingly difficult to recognize a covert narcissist, especially if he/she is at the top of their game. The covert has been practicing his/her superb act since early childhood. The covert narcissist learned to camouflage his/her true feelings and thoughts.  After the glow and excitement has begun to fade (even in the early months after marriage) you notice that your partner demeans you, makes incessant demands and tears you down when you are particularly vulnerable. The vituperative projections increase, the demeaning remarks and humiliations rise. You are worn down.  Covert narcissists are particularly drawn to empaths, those individuals of high discernment and insight. Empaths need to learn to protect their psychological boundaries.  At a point of insight you recognize the true nature of the covert narcissist. You make the decision to separate and divorce the covert narcissist.  You can break the pattern of marrying covert narcissists.  As you develop a strong sense of self entitlement and self care, you recognize that you are a strong, enlightened individual. Give yourself tremendous credit for your psychological and emotional perseverance, grit and integrity.  Click the link below to purchase my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network: a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com  

Many individuals have narcissistic friends who are taking advantage of them and who cannot be trusted with confidences or personal information. High level narcissists, those who are socially  smooth and highly successful in the world, are difficult to detect. They effect a convincing pseudo empathy, appear to be genuinely engaged, come across as bright, articulate and share much in common with you.  Recognizing the folllowing personality attributes will help you to identify the high level narcissistic personality: Total Self-Absorption - The high level narcissist is completely self-focused. Everything in his/her internal or external environment is about tthem: personal experiences, professional accomplishments, academic achievements, successful business ventures, coming from "perfect families" ---an endless list of an Ode to Self.  There is a grandiosity and superiority to the self-absorption of the high level. He/she brags, flaunts, struts--always moving about the stage to catch the center spotlight. Lack of Empathy - This is a key human quality that is missing in the high level narcissist. Having empathy, we are capable of putting ourelves in the other person's place, psychologically and emotionally. We leave our ego needs and sense what they are experiencing and feeling. The narcissist never developed this quality.  Don't expect the high level narcissist to ever be become empathic.  Lack of Genuine Warmth - High Level Narcissists are cold and manipulative. They can appear to be charming and ingratiating---even irresistible. But this is a trap. Watch the follow-up to the fake rush of warmth. Does your friend drop the ball, forget to call you. Do you have to initiate all of the contacts between the two of you. Does your friend cancel engagements with you or act out by being a "no-show" and expect you to make excuses for him/her.  Exploitive - All relationships with high level narcissists are exploitive. Believing that you have an authentic relationship with a narcissist is an illusion. High level narcissists are users. In some instances they co-opt your creative ideas and projects and use them as their own. They feed off of others psychologically. They expect their "friends" to be constant sources of narcissistic supplies, providing them with veneration and adulation.  They expect to be treated as very special and highly entitled.  You could be on the receiving end of one of their harsh, vituperative projections.  High level narcissists are known for projecting their psychological venom on to others.  You don't deserve this. You are entitled to an apology (which will not be forthcoming).  There is a  time of your evolving insight that you can no longer be treated with this level of disrespect.  Now you understand that your "friend" is a narcissistic personality. You have done your research and along with your intuition, recognize your "friend's" true nature.  Practice self care and restoration. Take time to get the rest and sleep that you deserve. Focus on your needs rather than the demands of any narcissists. Explore your many creative gifts. Spend time with the beauty of Nature. Listen to beautiful music and move at your own pace. Honor and appreciate your individuality.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Cllick the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com  

We are flawed human beings. We make small and big mistakes. It is difficult to admit that we are wrong. It takes dropping our egos and acknowledging that we were in error. If we hurt someone emotionally as a result of our mistakes and insensitivities and our inner turmoil, it takes humility and insight to say: "I was wrong, I am sorry tht I caused you to suffer. It is not your fault; it is mine. I take responsibility for my words and actions." When we are able to get past our always having to be right and beyond long held humiliations, we can admit being wrong, communicate this to the person we have hurt and move forward. It is freeing and rewarding to know that we are capable of self redemption, putting the ego aside and choosing self truth.  Narcissists cannot admit they are wrong. He/she is driven by an ego inflated sense of self. His/her burnished golden image represents the delusional reality of his making. This is their sine qua non. No exceptions. Narcissists don't let the truth get in their way. It is an obstacle unfamiliar to them. Golden child narcissists have been manufacturing their own truth since early childhood. Their versions are immutable, as real to them as the turning of the earth on its axis, the rhythms of sea tides, the predictable phases of the moon.  High level narcissists are dupicitious. They demand unreachable perfection from others and the constant delivery of narcissistic supplies: praise, aduldation, blind loyalty, veneration---yet they constantly attack our thought processes, motivations, emotional responses and purposely harm us psychologically every single day. Their lack of a developed conscience keeps them from viewing themselves realistically. Eventually, you become receptive to your moments of repeated insights, along with your in-depth research about the true nature of the narcissistic personality. This is the time of reckoning. Your days are turning around; you are on the road of psychological redemption.  Hold on to the golden cord of your intuitive insights, the diligence of your research and your courageous, strong, fine character.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon:  https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health.  www.mhnrnetwork.com

The high level narcissist is a projection machine. Rather than internalizing, introspecting or encouraging insight, the high level narcissist is always in the process of externalization. He/she is either basking in his perfection or plotting the next move that will weaken, topple or destroy a real or imagined enemy.  Projection is an unconscious defense mechanism an individual uses to protect himself/herself from intolerable feelings of worthlessness, self loathing and forbidden impulses. The high level narcissist is continually projecting his/her venom on to others. This is particularly painful and harmful to his family---spouses, partners and children. Learn to deflect the high level narcissist's projections. This person is constantly externalizing, reeling out one trajectory after another. You cannot control the narcissist's impulses but you can be in command of yourelf. A daily practice of stilling the mind and gentle forms of yoga that emphasize focus on the breath provide a steady mental and psychological foundation. These practices are thousands of years old and have served yogis and laymen in a profound way. Learn to access the parasympathetic nervous system. that part of yourself that is calm, relaxed, at peace. A master acupuncturist whom I know reminds her patients: "let yourself go down and settle." She is speaking about the innate part of ourselves that naturally seeks peace in the body, mind and psyche.  Get the rest and sleep that you deserve. Practice diaphragmatic breathing that puts you in the parasympathetic mode of calming and restoration.  Minimize contact with high level narcissists. This is a tall order since many people in positions of power and influence are narcissistic personalities. If you have to be in their presence, try to be in the company of someone else whom you trust. Being alone is the best opportunity for the high level narcissist to pounce. When the projection comes, remind yourself that this shred of debris is emerging out of him/her. It does not belong to you. Beneath it all, the narcissist is a coward---hitting others when they are down, feeding off of vulnerabilities and weaknesses, setting baits and traps that will harm and disrupt other individuals. These people are despicable.  With today's narcissistic society giving them a pass, because so many of them are successful in the world, look to yourself.  You are not alone, I hear from those who have been victimized by these predators and have prevailed over them.  The wise philosopher Lao-tsu states the truth clearly: "He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still."  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the great Shows by Podcasters on the global Mental Health News Radio NetworK:  www.mhnrnetwork.com

Some of our greatest challenges are narcissistic personalities within our families. The first move is to learn to recognize these individuals as narcissistic personality disorders who are not going to change.  When you do the research, you learn to recognize the narcissist within your own family. It is not unusual for other family members to make excuses for their cruel, dismissive and outright abusive behaviors. I have known of family situations where one individual knows the truth about the narcissists in their family and shares this information. Many who go along to get along and put up with their cruel psychopathology, are fearful to assert themselves.  They berate the one person who is holding the truth. If one individual out of thousands knows the truth, it is still the truth. We live in a time of narcissistic delusion.  People are blinded by the burnished image that the narcissist perpetuates, his/her incandescent  "charm", all of the unfulfilled promises he/she makes.   I have known of a number of family members who, despite all of the pressure placed on them, severed the relationship with this toxic individual. They were castigated, criticized and thought to be strange by other family members but insisted on their truth.    Put yourself first and keep a distance from the narcissistic family member.  In some instances it can be necessary to go very low or no contact with these individuals.  Trust what you know is true. Practice the self care that you deserve. Sleep, rest, spending time with Nature, accessing your unique creativity, appreciating who you are as a valuable unique individual.     

At times the earth feels unsteady beneath our pscyhological feet. We experience uncertainties, even fears and trepidationss that haunt us in wakefulness and sleep. In moments of confuson and  uncertainty it is particularly helpful to view ourselves with objectivity and compassion.   Those who are healing and restoring themselves after their stressful and traumatic experienes with narcissistic partners and spouses and growing up in narcissistic families, are called to take steps to bring about their emotional and psychophysical balance.  You deserve this renewal of your true, original self.  Honor yourself physcially, psychologically and spiritually by practicing self care each day: rest, sleep, movement and exercise in the ways that work best for you. Perform basic yoga poses like child's pose that gently stretches your muscles, calms your nervous system and puts you in the restorative parasympathetic mode.  This is your moment of independence and transformation.  Keep company with yourself: get to know and appreciate who you are as an individual. Take time for your solitude, restfulness, creative pursuits, experiences of Beauty.  Trust your deep wisdom and intuition.    Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network: a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com  

The high level narcissist has mastered a very smooth act: false, cunning, acquisitive and very greedy.  Psychologically empty inside, he/she is always searching for more while he treats others without mercy or respect.  The greediest are the have mores and the have mosts who are perpetually in acquisitive mode. They go after what you have--investments, properties, residences, businesses, valuable possessions, trusts, works of art.  They feed off of your creativity and steal your projects--all the while leading you to believe that they are collaborating and contributing to your success. High level narcissists are not team players. This is a pretense, a strategy, a ruse, a well honed act to gain your trust and ultimately control you and the products of your unique creativity. No matter how much they have, for the high level narcissist, it is never enough. The fever of covetousness rises with every acquisition. You cannot win with these individuals if you stay partnered with them unless you are willing to become their psychological prisoners. Some who remain aligned with the high level narcissist are in a state of deep delusion.  The high level doesn't care if you are left with nothing. They get what they want, discard you and move on to the next shiny prize.  There is great hope and promise for those who remain steady in their grounded fine characters, steady and risng in their creative gifts.  You are entitled to honor yourself as an individual: self care each day: rest, sleep, Nature's beauty, joy of music, exercise your way, activation of your unique creativity.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health www.mhnrnetwork.com

The high level narcissist is a towering, talented, conquering hero, another Alexander the Great. Everyone seeks his/her counsel. Exalted to high positions of power, influence and prestige, everyone seeks their counsel. They are anointed, even considered holy.  Convinced of his perfection and superiority, the high level flies high with an extraordinary sense of self entitlement and delusional grandiosity.  They obsessively brag about their accomplishments, becoming increasingly manic with each achievement--a bloated ego on full display.  There is a shameless hypocrisy that is part of this identity. Their delusions of grandeur and perfection are limitless.  Their obsessive focus is always on themselves: what they are entitled to have, whom they will control, how much money and power they will acquire, how to defeat their competitors and enemies--real and imagined-while maintaining an impeccable persona. You are actually partnered with or married to a petulant child. The narcissistic personality is psychologically regressed to the age of two. Me, Me, Me is the constant word. Temper tantrums and outrageous demands are the theme when they don't get exactly what they want on the spot. Two year olds go through a period of separating out from their parent and asserting themselves and insisting they are independent. Eventually the young child moves through this phase as he or she becomes more rational and capable of viewing themselves realistically. The narcissist never leaves this developmental phase. He/she is stuck psychologically in toddlerhood. Microscopically light on conscience describes the narcissist's lack of a moral compass. Having a solid conscience takes work and moral discernment. Those with a conscience think about the welfare of others and question themselves about moral and ethical issues. Being light on conscience accelerates the narcissist's movement up the steps of power, influence and control. Don't wait for the high level narcissist to be held accountable for his/her malicious transgressions, constant lies. They have abused others, including their children in word and deed. Arrogantly striding the upper echelons of the power pecking order, the high level learned how to escape by blaming others, especially those who are vulnerable and willing to take the heat for them.  Your time of re-awakening has arrived. You now understand the true nature of the high level narcissist and begin your movement forward to separate out of this narcissistic abuse.  You start by putting yourself first with self care: rest, sleep, eating nourishing food, good hydration, movement and exercise your way, listening to beautiful music, spending time with Nature and using your many creative gifts.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com    

You can't fall asleep at night; you are anxious; your mind is racing, You listen to your thoughts and wonder when you will get respite. Morning comes and you face extreme fatigue.  Exhaustion has a pain of its own, a feeling of weakness that is relentless. Finally, you face the day and wonder if your strength and stamina will ever return.  You are distracted and miserable most of the time. Your gut is out of whack. You feel gnawing vulnerabilities---raw fear. On top of this is the dark presence, the horrific shadow side of the high level narcissist. What you know for sure is that eventually he/she starts screaming at you, picking you apart in a low voice filled with derision and mocking. One of his/her favorites is humiliating you. Humiliation is one of the worst sensations we can experience. It is intolerable; we squirm inside, we feel small and want to disappear, to become invisible.  These cruelties visited on you by the high level are a regular feature, wearing you thin, jangling your nervous system, causing anxiety and panic. For some, re-activating their childhood trauma.  This is particularly alarming since your narcissistic partner/spouse doesn't give a damn about you or your well being. In fact he is incensed that you are ill and pulling him/her down. You are bad for his image. Having a partner who is not "Up" all the time is very unappealing. The flawless narcissist despises your chronic exhaustion and uses every opportunity to deride and abandon you.  Gradually, you are moving through the exhaustion, feeling the beginnings of strength. You do research and develop a clear understanding of the high level narcissist.  With time and an inner resolve and connection with a few individuals whom you trust you know that in order to heal and restore your psychological and physical health you need to move along your own recovery pathways that activate the restorative, parasympathetic body/mind systems, daily self care: rest, sleep, pure nutrition, good hydration, Nature's healing gifts, the use of your unique creativity, your form of spiritual practice: basic restorative yoga, stretching, exercise your way.  Another phenomental gift of restoration: listening to beautiful music that moves inside with its beauty and promise of renewal, strength and transformation, the fullness of your original true self. 

Narcissistic mothers are non-parents. They are incapable of emotional and psychological intimacy. They cannot attach and bond with their children appropriately. They use their children as puppets to mirror them perfectly.  At some point you know that your mother cannot and will not and did not fulfill your deepest needs. This is a time of reckoning when you know that you must act for yourself and learn to nourish and take care of yourself first. This is not selfish; it is essential. This self healing begins with small steps. Get the sleep and rest that you need and deserve. Eat nourishing food, organic if you can, that keeps you healthy and strong. Develop a spiritual practice using your definition, turn to Nature, the great healer and source of great beauty, experience the solitude of your own company, listen to music that appeals to you and moves you into the parasympathetic restorative mode, move and exercise in the way that works for you.  Be very kind to the small child inside of you. You are a wonderful individual: empathic, persevering,  resourceful, authentic, creative.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on Mental Health www.mhnrnetwork.com    

 High level narcissists have raised telling elaborate lies to a dark art form. They repeat their lies with emphasis and convincing delivery. The audience is immersed in his/her "story" and the way it is delivered. The narcissist's nonverbals are impeccable: tone of voice, great eye contact, pseudo empathy. The high level narcissist appears to be warm and caring. These individuals are so sure of themselves that they have no hesitation.  The high level makes comments like: "You and I have a lot in common." "We understand one another." "I am looking out for you." Lies of omission and commission are all part of their performance, their act.  High level narcissists don't tire from lying; it is their sustenance. It maintains their power over others.  You cannot trust someone who is lying to you.   You are evolving all of the time. This process is not a straight line; it is a process.   Give yourself tremendous credit for being a person of character and compassion. You are that unique individual that always strives to do the right thing, especially when no one is watching. It is in the deep inner self that you feel the peace of your authenticity and integrity.  Click the link below for my books on Amazon:  https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network: A Global Network of Shows on every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com      

Empaths are unique individuals who are often misunderstood. As babies and small children they learn that they are unlike other family members. Some children are accepted and respected but this attitude tends to be the exception. Empaths have a heightened sense of perception. They are highly sensitive to loud noises, large crowds and social events.  Empaths are seekers of the truth and have keen insights and intuitions. The society and even within their families, these gifts are not accepted and valued. Rather the empath is treated like a person who is odd, peculiar, someone who doesn't fit in.  Empath Special Care Practice Protecting Your Sleep and Rest: "Sleep that knits up the raveled sleave of care, sore labor's bath. Balm of hurt minds, great nature's second course. Chief nourisher in life's feast." William Shakespeare Honor your sleep - Don't let others, especially demandig individuals interfere with your sleep. The great healer is sleep, a profound activity that we are designed for. Sleep is part of all human and animal species. It nourishes and restores every system: skeletal, muscular, repiratory, cardiovascular, digestive, reproductive, endocrine, lymphatic and the mitochrondria in every cell.  We are created to follow the natural daylight and night---to sleep when darkness comes at night and to awaken when the sun rises and radiates in the sky throughout the day.  Sleep protects and strengthens the immune system, restores our vital energy and decreases inflammation. In sleep the unconscious speaks, bringing us dreams that are mysterious, healing and insightful. We are often daunted by the meaning of our dreams. Nevertheless, they are invaluable although often inscrutable. In many cultures for hundreds of years the habit of taking a rest has been part of a daily routine. Rest offers physical, psychological and emotional refreshment. Having the freedom to think in quiet, to enjoy one's solitude and creativity is a very pleasant activity. This gives us a feeling of well-being. It offers a great opportunity to move into the parasympathetic nervous system, the restorative, healing mode.  Protecting Your Psychological Boundaries Respecting your personal boundaries is an essential part of your positive self-entitlement to inner peace. Recognize that yu can say "No" to the narcissist who is constantly making outrageous demands, lying to you, projecting venomous rage. Developing a strong sense of self-regard is essential to eatablishing and maintaining boundaries. Separating out of the narcissist's delusion world you move forward along your unique individual pathways of psychological and creative development. Setting Your Personal Pace: Each individual has a natural tempo, a way of moving that is unique to them. As a child, spouse or partner of a high level narcissist you spent many years dancing to their choreography. High level narcissists are often peripetetic---they never stop moving. You have been trying to keep up with their rapid pace and constant demands for too many years. This is your time your space, your pace. Enjoy the dance! Spend time with Nature, her beauty and Inspiration: We are part of Nature. It showers us with gifts of magnificent beauty. Nature is a home for our solitude, an inspiration for creative thinking, a companion that inspires, nourishes, calms and delights us.  Developing Your Unique Routine: Daily routines that you crative are motivating, creative, healing and restorative.  Decide on your priorities, try different schedules, chose activities that appeal to you. Leave room for flexibility. Don't be judgmental. There are no mistakes in choosing the elements of your routine. Enjoy your choices. Honor your unique needs, wishes, energy levels, deep interests, appreciation of beauty, the manifestation of your singular individuality. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health.  www.mhnrnetwork.com    

The covert narcissist is "gifted" at re-victimizing his/her human targets. Whether you are partnered with or married to a covert narcissist you are riddled with fear and dread much of the time. You are stuck in the fight or flight mode, the sympathetic nervous system. The covert is skilled at concealing his/her multiple cruelties, manipulations and deceptions. Lies roll off of their tongues automatically and everyone believes them. Lies are automatic to the covert. In some instances your own family may not believe that you know and are telling the truth about this covert viper.  Their act deceives so many including highly trained therapists, psychiatrists, social workers, attorneys and the list goes on. Don't be surprised if you have been compromised by the covert narcissistic man or woman who makes you believe that he/she is genuine and deeply cares about you.  Learn to recognize the seductions of sweetness, soft persuasion, their vulnerability act, guilt induction and promises of special treatment that are designed by the covert narcissist to pull you back into their delusonal world of manipulation and deception.  There are steps you can take to maintain your psychological boundaries and strong sense of self: Identify the covert narcissist with your research, knowledge and the full use of your intuition. Put yourself first. Get the sleep you need and deserve. Eat pure food and hydrate, spend time with Nature, do movement and exercise that works you, form relationships with individuals you can trust.  Do expressive writing that is unedited and uses your imagination.  You have turned on to a new pathway of renewal, health, beauty and a source of continued healing, evolution and transformation. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global  network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com    

The narcissist is a projection machine. Rather than internalizing, introspecting or encouraging insight, the narcissist is always in the process of externalization. He/she is either basking in his perfection or plotting the next move that will weaken, topple or destroy a real or imagined enemy. Projection is an unconscious defense mechanism an individual uses to protect himself/herself from intolerable feelings of worthlessness, self loathing and forbidden impulses. The narcisssist is continually projecting his/her venom on to others. This is particularly painful and harmful to his family---spouses, partners and children.  Learn to deflect the narcissist's projections. You cannot control the narcissist's impulses but you can be in command of yourself.  Practice self care: rest, sleep, hydration, movement/exercise, a form of mindfulness that works for you. Learn to access the parasympathetic nervous system, tht part of yourself that is calm, relaxed and grounded.  Tap into your creativity --an invaluable resource.  Honor your wisdom. "He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still."---Lao-tsu Click the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/46befxue Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network. This is a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: www.mhnrnetwork.com

As the high level narcissist becomes more successful in the world, he/she activates greater and greater grandiosity, extreme self entitlement and ruthlessness. If he is at the top of his/her profession---finance, science, medicine, academia, entertainment, entrepreneurship, politics, media, etc, he is surrounded by a circle of people who believe that he is superior. This protective golden circle provides the high level narcissist with a continuous circulation of narcissistic supplies: adulation, praise, accolades, multiple perks, high monetary compensation.  As high level narcissists move to higher tiers of power and influence of great reach, they become untouchable in terms of being held accountable for their personal misdeeds and cruelties.  Does it matter to him/her if he decimates someone else's career. Absolutely not! This is business hardball. Those who side with him (not knowing that they too are disposable) will vanquish his enemies. The narcissist becomes more and more ruthless and inhumane as he grabs more power and becomes more maniacally delusional. If this narcissist is a waking nightmare at work, he is hellish at home. In the private space there is no need to wear his/her false facade. It is ripped off by the time he reaches the front door. He screams, taunts, threatens, demeans, humiliates his spouse and children. The reign of narcissistic terror is endless. He has his spouse in a psychological stranglehold.  If the marriage is going badly and the spouse suggests a divorce, the decree of threat comes down---"You will be left with nothing." "I will get full custody of the kidns." "Everyone will know that you have instigated the divorce and take my side." "I will hire attorney who will defeat you at every turn." Some spouses of high level narcissists reach a breaking point---They are in severe distress---They cannot sleep; they are on red alert with free floating anxiety and chronic insomnia.   Don't wait for the narcissist to change course. He/she knowes he can control and manipulate you at any time.  Some spouses take the step to sever their relationship from these highlydisturbed individuals. They strrengthen themselves physically, mentally, psychologically and spiritually. Begin with self care: get the rest and sleep that you deserve, good nutrition and hydration, movement and exercise that works for you, restoration through Nature, doing expressive writing with edit or judgment, rediscovering your many unique creative gifts.  Click on the link below for my books on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2p92ymam Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health:  www.mhnrnetwork.com