The Excellence Above Talent podcast was started because of death trauma and pain. Men are 3.6 times more likely to commit suicide than women. Men predominantly do the violence that happens in the US. Men in the United States predominantly commit domestic violence and sexual assaults. Ninety percent of the prison population are men. I want to start a conversation to get clarity and insight on why this is happening. Families are being destroyed, lives are being lost, and people are hurting from the hands of men, men who were supposed to be the providers and protectors of their families. As a BIPP (Batterer’s Intervention and Prevention Program) Director for 4 years, I have had numerous conversations with men about why they thought abuse was necessary or did not even know they were abusers. The conversation had in our class helped open my eyes and the eyes of other men. I found out that men want to talk about these issues, but there is no platform or space, so we keep quiet, not wanting to challenge the status quo. The Excellence Above Talent podcast will do just that; it will challenge everything we think manhood is. Join the conversation and let us fight for the state of man because this next generation of young men needs us too.
Send us a textImagine living every day on high alert, never able to relax or feel truly at ease. That's been my reality, and in this episode of Excellence Above Talent, I peel back the layers of my emotional struggles that came to light during a marriage counseling session with Pastor Mark Martha at Hope Alive Church. My wife Yanni's poignant observation that I've never been emotionally regulated hit hard, forcing me to reflect on my turbulent childhood and intense military career. From the weight of being the "man of the house" at a young age after my father left, to the relentless edge I lived on as a 19 Delta Cavalry Scout, I share my raw and personal journey toward understanding and managing my emotions.Join me as I recount the pressures of growing up in a financially strained household, dealing with societal judgments, and navigating life’s challenges without an emotional compass. This episode isn't just about my story—it's a call to other men who recognize these buried struggles within themselves. Together, let's break the cycle of constant survival mode and learn to regulate our emotions, creating a better version of ourselves for our own sake and for those who depend on us. Tune in, and let's start this journey of growth and self-discovery together.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
6/25/24 • 16:00
Send us a textImagine transforming your life by embracing change and uncovering your true potential. Join me, Aaron Thomas, on this soul-searching episode of Excellence Above Talent as I recount my personal journey of confronting mental barriers and negative perceptions about wealth. From childhood misconceptions that led to self-sabotage, to utilizing faith-based affirmations to reshape my mindset, we delve into the broader implications of change. This episode reveals the crucial role of emotional, spiritual, and mental maturity in attaining the blessings we aspire to in life.We also tackle the importance of vulnerability in relationships, especially before marriage. I open up about an eye-opening conversation with my partner that revealed hidden fears and tendencies to control. By sharing the challenges of relinquishing self-reliance and seeking spiritual guidance, I highlight how these realizations propel personal growth. Tune in to understand why embracing change is essential, how perseverance and self-awareness can foster a more fulfilling life, and the transformative power of facing life’s challenges head-on. This is an episode that encourages you to reflect, grow, and align more closely with your spiritual and personal aspirations.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
6/14/24 • 18:58
Send us a textWhat happens when a soldier returns home but finds no support to help them cope with the shadows of war? On this impactful episode of Excellence Above Talent, I, Aaron Thomas, share my deeply personal journey from the battlefields of Iraq to the daunting reality of civilian life. You'll hear about the harrowing encounters with IEDs, the tragic loss of comrades, and the ever-looming threat of death that haunted each mission. As I transitioned back home, the absence of a robust support network led me down a dark path of unhealthy coping mechanisms, including alcohol and seducing women. This raw and honest recount aims to illuminate the profound struggles veterans face, urging for a greater understanding and stronger support systems.Shifting our focus to another critical issue, we delve into the poignant story of a crisis center worker in West Texas who tried valiantly to save a friend from the brink. Despite his efforts, the friend tragically passed away, leaving behind a legacy of heartbreak and profound self-reflection. This tragic event catalyzed the creation of a Facebook support page for veterans and the nonprofit organization, Excellence Above Talent, dedicated to combating high suicide rates among men and addressing abuse. By sharing these stories, we hope to stress the importance of mental health awareness and the collective efforts needed to support those in distress. Join us for a powerful discussion on healing, resilience, and the urgent need for comprehensive mental health support.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
6/7/24 • 21:22
Send us a textAs I sat across from Keelan, Darrien, and Mavrick, the gravity of our conversation about manhood and masculinity couldn't be clearer. Together, we peeled back the layers of what it means to be a man in the fabric of today's society, where the threads of traditional and modern expectations are tightly interwoven. We brought our personal definitions to the table, grappling with the ideals of leadership, provision, and the stark reality that vulnerability remains a silent struggle for many. Our dialogue ventured into the realms of emotional expression and strength, challenging the stereotype that to be masculine is to be devoid of fear or softness.In the company of my nephews, this heart-to-heart uncovered the monumental influence of male role models and the societal pressures that shape our very beings. We tackled hard-hitting topics, from male suicide rates to domestic violence, probing the depths of these issues with the hope of understanding and change. Our exchange transitioned from the societal to the personal, as we shared the trials and triumphs that young men encounter while forging their paths. The conversation was a testament to the courage of authenticity and the enduring quest to build legacies beyond material wealth, rooted in the strength of character and the power of mentorship. Join us in this profound reflection—a tribute to all men navigating their identity with purpose and integrity.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/31/24 • 29:03
Send us a textStruggling with an addiction that lurks behind screens and clicks, I, Aaron Thomas, have fought a personal war against the grip of pornography. Today, I invite you into my world, not as a passive observer, but as a companion on a path paved with resilience and determination. Witness the profound impact this battle has had on my life, carving deep into the fabric of my first marriage and the valleys of my soul. It's been a year and a half of relentless pursuit towards recovery, where technology isn't just a gateway to temptation but a barricade against it, where a return to faith isn't a cliché but a cornerstone for rebuilding, and where initiating a heartfelt dialogue through this podcast serves as a beacon for others lost in similar shadows.Embarking on this episode, I unravel the threads of enticement that weave through the fabric of social media and the deceptive allure of superficial attractions. This journey is not just an outward quest but an inward odyssey, confronting the depths of our desires, understanding the distinction between looking and lusting, and embracing the vulnerability that comes with such stark honesty. As we navigate these revelations, I emphasize the powerful symbiosis of faith and action, the transformative shift from distraction to devotion—to family, self-improvement, and authentic connections. To those of you fighting this invisible foe or any other that threatens to undermine the essence of who you are, let's walk together with courage, unraveling the hold of addiction and stepping into a realm of genuine fulfillment.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/24/24 • 22:55
Send us a textWhen I stepped into the classroom at Nimitz Middle School, I wasn't just teaching math; I was embarking on a mission to transform lives. In today's episode, I, Aaron Thomas, open up about the powerful lessons learned from both my students and influential community figures like Colin Sewell. I share the emotional journey from being a spectator in life's arena to an active combatant for positive change, informed by the ups and downs of personal loss and the drive to mentor our youth. This narrative isn't just mine; it's a reflection of the collective struggle to uplift the next generation despite the weight of our own challenges.Our dialogue then pivots to the crucial role of men in shaping young boys into tomorrow's leaders. I delve into my own path of rediscovery and growth after a tough divorce, underscoring the surprising sources of support that emerged when I reached out for help. As we discuss the silent crisis faced by many men today—heightened suicide rates and incarceration—I highlight the men who stand as beacons of hope, guiding boys toward a better future. It's a candid conversation about resilience, the transformative impact of mentorship, and the powerful statement our actions make to the young minds watching and learning from us. Join me in this heartfelt exploration of what it takes to inspire men's journeys to greatness and empower our next generation through mentorship and positive change.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/17/24 • 27:29
Send us a textWhen I stepped into my 7th grade math classroom, I didn't expect to confront the harsh reality of how young boys treat their female teachers. But there it was, a microcosm of the disrespect and intimidation that can seed future abusive behaviors. In my latest podcast episode, I, Aaron Thomas, take you through a journey that is both harrowing and hopeful. I invite courageous men, who once walked a troubled path, to share their stories of transformation and the conversations they wish they'd had earlier. This is a deep look into the origins of abuse, the societal constructs of masculinity, and the critical importance of early intervention.Together, we question the societal blueprint that shapes the way young boys view strength, control, and power. Are they learning from family dynamics, societal pressures, or is it the toxic influence of objectifying women? We dissect these complex influences with the aim of understanding and reshaping the narrative around what it means to be a man. This episode isn't just an exploration—it's a call to action for anyone who cares about the development of our boys and the safety of our communities. Tune in for an insightful conversation that challenges us to be better mentors, educators, and allies in the fight against the cycle of abuse.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/10/24 • 18:46
Send us a textCaught in a silent struggle, many of us grapple with the heavy weight of what it means to be a man in today's society. I'm Aaron Thomas, and on our latest podcast, I bear my soul in a candid conversation about the internal wars we're too often fighting alone. We delve into the consequences of toxic masculinity, the impact of societal expectations on our mental health, and the transformative journey towards understanding our spirituality and purpose. Through my own experiences and those I’ve witnessed as a junior high math teacher, I reveal the importance of fostering spaces for vulnerability and honest discussions about emotions, dismantling the outdated narratives that bind us.Our recent episode is more than just a conversation; it's an urgent call to redefine masculinity for the modern world. Addressing the heart-wrenching issue of male suicide and the life-saving potential of mentorship, I underline the need for a new paradigm—one where strength is measured by the courage to unveil one's true self and seek support. We explore how the pressure to provide and protect fails to encompass the full scope of a man's identity and how embracing a holistic approach to manhood can create a blueprint for resilience, growth, and a more compassionate society. Join us for an episode that promises to challenge, inspire, and perhaps even heal.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/3/24 • 25:37
Send us a textHave you ever stood at the crossroads of self-improvement, feeling both daunted and determined? Join me, Aaron Thomas, on Excellence Above Talent, as we traverse the rocky terrain of personal growth and male leadership. This year's journey has been a profound one, wrestling with the ego and learning to let faith lead the way. It's been a battle against the lure of destructive habits and the quest to find value beyond our missteps. Through candid discussions, I delve into the power of our surroundings, the role of intentional living, and the courage to travel those dark roads with the light of self-awareness guiding us forward.As we draw the curtain on this transformative year, I want to leave you with an empowering message. You are worthy, and your value isn't diminished by the challenges you face. Tune in for an intimate conversation that promises to bolster your spirit and ignite your passion for what lies ahead. We'll explore the vital impact of structured habits and the importance of spiritual accountability in steering our lives and those we love. As we look to the future, I invite you to continue this uplifting journey with us, always striving for excellence and inspired by the hope that the best is yet to come.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
12/29/23 • 22:16
Send us a textWhat happens when determination, accountability, and hard work take center stage? Join us as we sit down with Justin, a man who juggles multiple thriving businesses, and learn about the grit and tenacity it takes to turn dreams into reality. From running a gym for 12 years to opening a new bar, Justin shares his journey and insights on navigating life's challenges, defining success, and the power of contributing to others' growth. How do you see success? Is it through materialistic measures or the feeling of inner fulfillment? Today's charged discussion with Justin dives into the changing perception of success and why it's not just about luck or privilege. We recount our humble beginnings, the lessons of hard work, and the joy in rewarding oneself through effort and perseverance. Meanwhile, we tackle the importance of vulnerability and self-improvement, breaking down stereotypes of masculinity, and the role of a supportive network in our journey of personal growth.Brace yourself as we venture into tough conversations on accountability, the relevance of coaching and athletics, and challenging negative stereotypes associated with manhood. We talk about understanding and managing emotions, the significance of preparedness, and the courage to ask for help. Ending the episode on a high note, we draw inspiration from overcoming fear, the benefits of an early start, and the importance of perseverance. So, buckle up and join us on this enlightening journey towards success and fulfillment. Listen, learn, and remember- you're never alone in the battle. Don't forget to subscribe for more empowering and motivational content!Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
11/20/23 • 59:04
Send us a textEver wondered why we so often wait for life to throw us curveballs instead of stepping up and challenging ourselves? This is the fundamental question that we tackle head-on in our new episode of Excellence Above Talent. I'm Aaron Thomas, and I pull back the curtains on my personal journey, sharing how the philosophy of 'embracing the suck' has helped me adopt a healthier lifestyle and smash my personal and financial goals. I walk you through how voluntarily choosing to challenge yourself can bring long-term benefits like improved health and financial stability.I then take you on a deep dive into the '75 Hard Challenge', a life-altering experience that has tested my resilience and discipline. It's not for the faint-hearted, but the rewards are immense. Hear about my endeavors with this challenging test of will, and my unflinching determination to overcome it. Drawing from this, I share my goal of running a half marathon and connect it to the broader theme of self-challenge and personal growth. So join me as I help you embrace your fears, confront life's trials head-on and elevate yourself to new heights. Who knows, you might just come away inspired to set a challenge for yourself and rise above life's trials.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
7/28/23 • 23:03
Send us a textReady for an unfiltered journey of self-discovery and personal transformation? My name is Aaron Thomas, and I'm inviting you to join me on a raw and emotional exploration through my life, insights, and experiences. From my early struggles to define my manhood to my current commitment to living an authentic life on my terms, this episode is a candid share about my journey of disruption and accountability.I have learned to find power in disruptive thinking, using it as a force to advocate for positive change and to challenge societal norms that don't resonate with my values. We'll also discuss the courage required to voice unpopular opinions, hold tough conversations, and confront societal issues head-on. My time serving in Iraq was profound and life-altering, shaping my outlook and driving my passion to fight for change. So, let's step out of our comfort zones together, embrace the disruption, and work towards a future we can be proud of!Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
7/21/23 • 29:11
Send us a textHave you ever wondered what kind of strength it takes to turn a personal tragedy into a purpose? Join me, Aaron Thomas, for an intimate conversation with the inspiring Bryn, a professional counselor, who has navigated this very journey following the heartbreaking loss of her son. Bryn opens up about the harsh realities of grief, and how her faith became a beacon of light during the darkest times. We delve into the invincibility mindset of 18-year-old boys, their skewed prioritization of social life, and the grave consequences of ill-thought-out decisions. Bryn enlightens us about the importance of leveraging our innate talents to effect positive change while sharing her inspirational mantra - the 999 quote from Juice World. We navigate the choppy currents of grief and the importance of confronting it head on. Bryn emphasizes the need for creating a safe space for grief and how services like Agape Counseling and Teen Court can provide invaluable support. Finally, Bryn emphasizes the capability of human resilience and the transformative power of a positive outlook. In a world that often seems bleak and challenging, she encourages listeners to persevere, reminding them that they are never alone in their battles. Join us for a soul-stirring episode and be inspired by Bryn’s unflagging spirit, as she turns her tragedy into a purpose.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
6/30/23 • 29:10
Send us a textEver been so overwhelmed that you felt like giving up? In this raw and heartfelt episode, I open up about my personal experiences, including hitting rock bottom, making mistakes, and finding the strength to keep moving forward. Listen in as I share the story of when I got caught stealing as a kid and thought my life was over. But through these challenges, I discovered the importance of not giving up, taking breaks, and sharpening our tools to reach our goals - even when it feels like we're stuck in the mud.You're not alone in feeling overwhelmed. I've been there too, going on weekend binging drinking sprees and making poor financial decisions. But the love, mercy, and grace of a higher power always found me. I began to pick up the pieces and rebuild myself, sharpening my axe to ensure I follow my true path, not just what society dictates. Join me as I explore the lessons learned from our struggles and the blessings that life has to offer when we choose not to give up.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
6/24/23 • 26:40
Send us a textIs it possible to navigate masculinity and relationships in today's society without succumbing to the pressures and expectations placed on men? Listen as I share my personal struggles with self-worth in past relationships, as well as the growth and communication I've embraced in my current one. I'll reveal how I've learned to be a human and not a machine, showing up in every way I can, and the importance of understanding one another.Together, we'll dive into the societal pressures men face to be perfect, and how these unrealistic expectations can lead to the breakdown of relationships. Discover the value of investing time in getting to know someone before committing and the crucial role that communication plays in fostering a successful partnership. Remember, you're not alone in your quest for excellence, and you deserve the best the world has to offer. So, join us on this journey and don't forget to follow us on Facebook and Instagram at Excellence Above Talent for more inspiring discussions!Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
6/20/23 • 18:21
Send us a textWhat does it truly mean to be a man in today's society, and how can we take responsibility for bettering the state of manhood? Join us, Aaron Thomas, Patrick Mackie, and Kenzie Clifton, as we embark on an eye-opening journey to redefine manhood and explore the responsibilities of men in society, from the impact of absent fathers to the importance of self-respect and confidence.Throughout this episode, we discuss the urgent need for men to hold each other accountable and engage in honest, straightforward conversations. We delve into the shocking statistics surrounding men's suicide rates and the societal pressures that contribute to them. We also examine the power dynamics in relationships, discussing women's choice in partners and the misconception of men as the enemy.As we navigate through these thought-provoking topics, we share insights on personal growth and the importance of authenticity, both online and offline. We emphasize the power of words, the significance of embracing the journey of life, and the necessity of maintaining a balance between genders. Let's come together to build a better understanding of manhood and create a society where men are heard, appreciated, and supported.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
6/9/23 • 83:05
Send us a textDivorce is Hard!!!!As a man, you question your manhood.Are you good enough?Why didn't that person want to stay and fight with you?Are you worthy of being fought for? You are a good man!You are working on your issues and building yourself to be a better man. Stop letting society put you in a box.You are a good man!!!!!!Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
6/3/23 • 20:03
Send us a textWe live in a world where people are always looking for ways to have power over each other. Power is assumed; you don't have to give it to anyone!!Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/26/23 • 10:44
Send us a textDon't allow society to stop you from being the best man you can possibly be. Don't allow society to box you in.Step out of the box and fight to showcase your God-given gifts and talents to the world!!“Let the quality man you’ve been created to be out; the world is world incomplete without him.”― Eric M. WattersonSupport the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/19/23 • 18:44
Send us a textThe United States is far from united. More than 60 percent of the country’s young men are now single; that’s nearly twice the rate of single young women. Males are now responsible for 80 percent of suicides, according to the CDC. Every 13.7 minutes, somewhere in the U.S., a man takes his own life. The masculinity crisis is real, and it’s getting worse.https://americanmind.org/salvo/men-in-crisis/Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/12/23 • 19:58
Send us a textIf a man wants a woman who doesn't want him, he cannot win. His neediness will undermine any possible relationship, and his woman will never trust him. - David DeidaManhood is a complex and multifaceted concept that encompasses many different qualities and behaviors. It is important for men to embrace a wide range of behaviors and emotions, and to work towards creating a more equitable and just society for all. “Don’t chase people. Because the right person who really belongs to you will come and stay!” — Jahidul IslamSupport the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
5/5/23 • 29:35
Send us a textCheating changes EVERYBODY involved!!Coward- a person who lacks courage in facing danger, difficulty, opposition, pain, etc.; a timid or easily intimidated person.Men who run to other women instead of facing the issue that's going wrong in their marriage or relationship are cowards. You don't have the balls to walk away and you don't have the guts to sit and have a difficult conversation. Communicating your needs as a man doesn't make you weak. Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
4/28/23 • 15:13
Send us a textLife sometimes hits you so hard. You don't feel like you could ever get back up. I will not only get back up, but I will also finish STRONG!!!!I've been gone for three months getting manhandled by life. I'm back!!!!!!!Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
4/21/23 • 27:34
Send us a textI am on a quest to find out why men are three times more likely to commit suicide than women. I have lost a few friends to suicide, and it hurts. One of the reasons I feel men commit suicide is the fact that we fight change. We see the need to change, but instead, we put our heads down and work, work, work in the hopes that when we look up, there will be change. When that doesn't happen, we feel like no progress has been made, and we feel useless as a man.It is Ok to slow down and reset.It is Ok to change. Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
1/27/23 • 14:06
Send us a textYou don’t have to pretend it’s OK. Or put on that brave face when, in reality, you’re feeling anything but brave. The emotional and even physical agony has likely sapped the little energy you left, leaving behind an uncomfortable numbness.As humans, we naturally crave affection from our loved ones or things that make us comfortable. But when we lose that feeling, it sows a gut-wrenching seed of abandonment. As the bitter roots take hold, so do the thoughts of why. Why did they leave? Why did they give up on me?“When you feel abandoned, don't let painful feelings fester. Tell someone; you have a right to feel better.” – Steve TsuchiyamaSupport the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
1/20/23 • 19:35
Send us a textThis week has been a struggle and has helped me grow in many ways. Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
1/13/23 • 21:03
Send us a textKenisha is a trailblazer and a fantastic person.She inspires me to be better from afar. I see her determination, perseverance, and strength.The slave mentality came up in our conversation, and this is the definition; “A mental attitude that includes feelings of inferiority.” The slave mentality is a belief that leads to the idea that they cannot do anything on their own.Kenisha is creating the world she wants to see around her, and I love it!!Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
1/6/23 • 35:41
Send us a textI want to see what changes happen to me in all phases of life if I reset the way I think about sex. I feel like I have been conditioned to view sex and women in a certain way, and the more I learn to more I want to challenge the status quo. Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
12/23/22 • 15:16
Send us a textConversation with real people energize me!!We talked about life, love, marriage, and humility.I left this conversation inspired and I know you will too.Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
12/16/22 • 72:06
Send us a textLife is what you make it.Join our conversation with Justin on life, what keeps him motivated, his biggest fears, and what he thinks Odessa needs to improve. Support the show#excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...
12/9/22 • 73:02
