Handing the Shame Back

The known facts about being triggered are these: We don't know when they're going to occur, or how they will occur. What this means is that we cannot prepare for that which we cannot know. These triggers can appear through anything that involves one or any of the five senses; sight, smell, sound, taste, or touch: triggering a memory or experience of the abuse we suffered. There is nothing we can do to stop that, but there is a way to manage it.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coachingWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

4/22/25 • 05:08

 Q&A SessionJoin us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, the Survivors. Ranging from how to manage a family who still believe the predator, to is it even possible to go on to have a loving and healthy relationship as an adult. The range of questions is moving, and Gloria, as always provides calm and measured responses that helps restore grace and acceptance to these difficult experiences.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.orgWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

4/15/25 • 15:01

 Meet Diane PayneSurvivorDiane was sexually abused by her brother-in-law from age 12 to 16. He was 24 when it started. She told no one for 40 years. Fast forward 4 years, & last year he finally got convicted in NZ. He got home detention for 8 months, due to a plea deal & the laws in the 1980's, when the abuse occurred. Don’t miss her story here.You can reach out to Diane here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ffs.trauma/For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.orgWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

4/8/25 • 46:06

 Feelings of shame and guilt are common to Survivors. This is especially true if we had siblings we felt we couldn't protect, or that we had to lie to protect the abuser which hurt our siblings even more. There is a process over time of healing, which requires great self compassion and tenderness. Don’t rush it and please give yourself some grace. The blame and shame never belonged to you.Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/i92FPdCwp8kFor more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

4/1/25 • 05:35

 Meet Sue PhilipSurvivorSue was abused from preschool age by her father. She blocked the memories out for many years until she was in her 40’s.. Her parents were part of the mormon church, and it was not until she left the church as an adult, that she was able to remember the details of what her father had done to her and her siblings.Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/NrhT15r_iqQ For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.orgWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

3/25/25 • 30:45

 Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: that we play mind games with ourselves, more than with any other person, and we do it in a multitude of ways: like testing ourselves, overthinking, questioning ourselves and through sabotaging ourselves! The point being we are constantly undermining who we are by doing this. We need to stop doing this!► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coachingWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

3/18/25 • 05:06

 On behalf of Handing the Shame Back, I had the privilege of presenting to the Parliamentary Select Committee on Child Sex Trafficking within NZ, (we are wanting increased penalties added to the slavery offences amendment bill). Although the experience was daunting, the submission was well received.Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/GwndoRE3kRIVideo source: New Zealand ParliamentWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

3/13/25 • 07:13

 Meet Hanz FrellerSurvivor Advocate. Dad. AuthorHe was abused in care by a St John of God Brother. The abuse was to span several years and was calculated and manipulative in the grooming of him throughout those vulnerable teenage years.You can reach out to Hanz here:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hanz.frellerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hanzfrellerFor more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.orgWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

3/11/25 • 46:25

 First Q&A SessionJoin us on this, our very first Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, ‘yes you’, the Survivors. Ranging from what to look for in kids who are being trafficked to coping with seeing your child experience the worst trauma possible, Gloria provides calm and measured responses that help soothe and restore equilibrium to these difficult experiences.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

3/6/25 • 10:49

 Today marks the start of something powerful — 2,700 books are being unboxed, packaged, and prepared for delivery to schools across New Zealand.Every book sent is a step toward a safer future. If you’d like to help us get them into schools, please consider donating: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss (Reference: ‘Book Distribution’).At Handing the Shame Back, we don’t see this as just opening boxes. We see it as opening a path to better protecting children, breaking barriers, and giving teachers the tools they need to recognise and respond to child sexual abuse.Let’s make a difference together!We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

3/4/25 • 01:17

 Sometimes as survivors we can feel guilty, frozen or just plain wrong about having sex. As adults this has impact beyond what we can imagine. Have a look at this video as it just may help free you up from anything holding you back from enjoying intimacy with a loved one.Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/j-hwv9GTetAFor more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.orgWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

3/4/25 • 05:31

 Today is the day!We are beyond excited to have received the books, "Keeping Kids Safe", which will be distributed to schools across New Zealand.We are still accepting donations to cover book distribution costs. If you’re able to help, please use this direct link: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss and include the reference "Book Distribution".Our goal is simple but vital: to equip teachers with the knowledge to recognise the signs of child sexual abuse, respond appropriately, and ultimately protect vulnerable children.Thank you. Your support could help save some children.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

3/4/25 • 01:15

Meet Susan GoldSurvivor, Author and Transformationalist.She was the middle child born in a family where generational abuse was undealt with and therefore continued. She was abused by her brother between 7 to 10 years of age with some flashbacks of both her father and grandfather being abusers as well. She believes that finding kindness for yourself from within is a key part of the healing journey.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

2/25/25 • 46:25

We have now raised $2,500. If you are able to help, please use this direct link: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss and include the reference 'Book Distribution' to ensure the funds are allocated to processing and postage. Every $10 means one school receives a copy of the book!Thank you. You may just save some kids!We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

2/20/25 • 02:37

It is entirely natural for you as a survivor of child sexual abuse to struggle with sex as an adult. some survivors have a constant battle with this, preferring to be celibate in the end. For others guilt, fear and dissociation can occur. Wherever you are at is entirely normal, and can be worked with if it is of concern. Don’t miss this podcast.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

2/18/25 • 05:16

As children, we were always dependent on the adults around us to meet our needs. This is common and expected, as we were unable to feed or clothe ourselves. However, guilt does feature because we had to accommodate the adults around us, even when we felt scared and uncomfortable.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.orgWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

2/11/25 • 04:46

Meet Steven SheltonSurvivor and AuthorWas abused by many males beginning when he was just 4 years old. His mother walked in on the abuse, saw it, and walked back out again. This was the beginning of Steven’s nightmare, culminating in him developing Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID. He firmly believes that passage of time, a loving spouse, and talking about it, have helped him recover from this.For further information on Steven, go to: https://stevensheltonauthor.com/author-page/We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

2/4/25 • 46:51

We are thrilled to provide answers to any questions you may have — let's interact! We want to provide information you need, in order to do that, please email us at contactus@handingtheshameback.org and put ‘Question’ in the subject line, followed by your main question in the body of the email.Let's customise our content to work with your objectives as closely as possible.We are always thinking of you and finding ways to support the amazing survivors that you are.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

1/30/25 • 09:10

Meet Elizabeth MelendezAuthor. Advocate. CEO/Founder of the Foundation United Org.She was sexually abused by a family friend at age 11, though saw that physical, emotional and sexual abuse was happening throughout her family from a very young age, she feels this was ‘generational’ rather than ‘intentional abuse’.To reach Elizabeth: https://www.thefoundationunited.com/, or on Instagram: @‌thefoundationunitedWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

1/28/25 • 39:03

Don't make any new year resolutions, instead reflect on what you have achieved over the last 12 months and honour that. You may consider growing that skillset further or adding to it, but at this time of year, recovering from Xmas and the holiday season is challenging enough. Don’t pressure yourself by making impossible goals that are unlikely to be achieved.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

1/21/25 • 05:11

We are bringing you this update due to the generous and much appreciated response to our video asking for help to get the book ‘Keeping Kids Safe - A Roadmap for Parents, Teachers & Others’ into schools. We have the funding to provide the books, just not to post them! So far we have raised over $700, which is an amazing 70 schools. Remember that $10 ensures a book gets into a school of your choice. thank you and what a great legacy for you to have. You may just save some kids!We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

1/16/25 • 08:12

We are seeking sponsors so we can distribute the book 'Keeping Kids Safe' to every school in NZ. We have the books funded, just not the distribution costs.If you are able to help, simply visit http://gloriamasters.com , click the 'Donate' button, or use this direct link: https://buy.stripe.com/8wMg0Y1OqdTc1vG4gh. Please include reference 'Book Distribution' to ensure the funds are allocated to processing and postage. Every $10 means one school receives a copy of the book!By making a donation, you not only help save kids in NZ - You also leave a legacy.Thank you.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

1/16/25 • 02:09

Meet Avery KearneySurvivor. Advocate. Non-profit worker in the health sector.Avery is a survivor of sexual abuse at the hands of his uncle from the age of 8.The grooming process went on for years prior, and much of his abuse was tied into athletics and masked as massages and stretching to increase his athletic performance. The abuse went on for a few years.To reach Avery, email: kearneywjj@gmail.com, or Instagram: @‌averykearneyHELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

1/14/25 • 44:43

Welcome back to Louise Nicholas and Ken Clearwater who join me on the this panel, to discuss all things Survivors experience throughout the Xmas season. We need to honour survivors through this time of year, and I couldn't think of anyone better to bring back to share this important messaging with.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

12/17/24 • 52:29

Here is our Xmas Message from the Board at Handing the Shame Back Foundation, to all the amazing survivors, supporters and sponsors we have. Thank you so much, and from all of us, Merry Xmas to you.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

12/10/24 • 03:53

It’s Christmas.Getting through Christmas, can be an overwhelming ask for us as survivors. While many people experience joy and celebration during this time, we can feel the opposite through difficult emotions, painful memories, and feelings of isolation surfacing.Here’s some ideas that may just help.Love to all of you.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/coaching#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekidsWe are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

12/3/24 • 05:04

This time of year can be difficult when trying to manage end of year events, Xmas interactions and school concerts. Try to find time to ground yourself by remembering to reflect on you, what you have managed to achieve and the incredible survivor you are.It should be about you, not just those you love.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

11/26/24 • 01:51

Deb AldrickAuthor. Speaker. AdvocateDeb was abused from 5 - 14 by a family member while another family member did nothing to protect her. Pre-abuse she was happy and confident, and enjoyed life with lots of friends. Post-abuse she became anxious and a worrier.To reach Deb go to: https://dragonflyadvocacy.com.au/or Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dragonflyadvocacy/or Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dragonflyadvocacy3/or LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborah-aldrick-188b4530b/ Link for Deb’s book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com.au/Circling-Wagons-hiding-becomes-important-ebook/dp/B0CYN278KZHELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

11/12/24 • 50:15

Meet Raymond LumSurvivor and Film ProducerAs a young boy, he was sexually abused by their female live in nanny for years. When he eventually told his father the response was ‘Look out for your brother’.To reach Raymond go to: https://www.facebook.com/sting16 or https://www.instagram.com/raymondtlum/HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

11/5/24 • 38:25

As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming simply so the abuser could exploit us. What is less discussed is the coercive control that lay underneath all of it. What that meant (for some of us), is that we weren’t just controlled through sexual abuse, there was also the emotional and physical manipulation as well. How that impacted us was we had no opportunity to live or behave in a way that was truly ours. We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/X: https://x.com/HandinShameBackYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshamebackTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshamebackLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids

10/31/24 • 05:04