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Single Wives

For those who feel empty and stuck in the chaotic, wondering “Does God know me?” this is a safe, authentic, and joy-filled place to explore life beyond just surviving. A place to know and be known and to embrace our true identity.

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Emotional Safety
In this episode, Wendy and Terri discuss the practicalities of emotional safety in relationship.
15:43 4/9/24
Triggers
Wendy and Terri take on the topic of triggers in our relationships. Three areas of integration are required and discussed: somatic, cognitive, and emotional.
30:01 4/2/24
Story Power Part Two
In this episode the conversation with Pete Vanderpool continues. Join us as we dig further into the power of story.
30:16 3/26/24
The Power of Story
In this episode we are joined by Pete and Joyce Vanderpool, directors of the Creative Story Project. The discussion centers around who's writing your story and what is writing your story.
22:28 3/19/24
Biblical Marriage On the Ground
In this episode Wendy takes the thoughts of last week's discussion on Biblical Marriage and adds a practical element. What does Biblical marriage look like in real life?
19:28 3/12/24
Biblical Marriage, Part One
Terri and Wendy hold a discussion about the use of Scripture in the Single Wives ministry. They then meander onto the topic of Biblical Marriage. What have we learned over the years that was wrong and what does a biblical marriage actually look like?
22:47 3/5/24
Welcome Back!
Single Wives is coming back! With a few changes, exciting topics, and empathic support, we are kicking the season off by welcoming and updating everyone on the events of the past year.
07:41 2/20/24
Handling the Holidays
In this episode Wendy provides an update and encourages us to change our perspective to invite blessings. She gives us a sweet approach for some of those agonizing difficulties we can experience during the holiday season, and reminds us that emotion feeds emotion, maintaining a positive perspective shapes our experiences, celebrating the truth of the season sustains us, and lots of self-care is more than acceptable!
11:07 12/23/22
My Perspective Matters
Today, Wendy gives an update concerning the podcast and some thoughts on perspective. God calls us to do justice, love kindness and walk humbly with Him. When we offer that to Him we see things-even in our relationship-differently. 
13:02 8/16/22
Help! I Need Some Rest
Click HERE to check out our website!Wendy takes the mic this week to talk about rest. Ladies, we get weary, right? Wendy discusses what is rest, what does it look like, what does it not look like, and how do we step into daily, weekly, and extended periods of rest as needed.Join us on FaceBook"Your Authentic Self is not just your marriage."SHARE the Podcast With OthersTell Us Your StoryBuzzsprout: If you follow the link below, it let's Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid podcast plan. It also helps support our show.Link to Buzzsprout
21:26 5/24/22
How to Bring Up Sticky Topics
Click HERE to check out our website!Terri takes the mic this week and offers a tool set for healthy communication. She tackles the ins and outs of bringing up topics that carry a lot of potential for conflict. Tools include: knowing how you and your spouse process and react to conflict; sandwiching conversation with validation; being clear without too much emotion, taking time and space to think and process; not taking things personally. Join us on FaceBook"Your Authentic Self is not just your marriage."SHARE the Podcast With OthersTell Us Your StoryBuzzsprout: If you follow the link below, it let's Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid podcast plan. It also helps support our show.Link to Buzzsprout
22:56 5/10/22
Toolbox: The One-Step-Ahead Tool
Click HERE to check out our website!This week we dive into the use of a specific tool designed to get ahead of the game; anticipate how your spouse might react; and wisely intervene. Wendy tells the story of her new pair of glasses. Although she chose not to use the tool, we analyze the story to discuss how to use it; the choice to use it or not; and living with the possible outcomes of either choice. We'll discuss being brief, monitoring tone, and limiting the number of emotions we bring into a situation.Join us on FaceBook"Your Authentic Self is not just your marriage."SHARE the Podcast With OthersTell Us Your StoryBuzzsprout: If you follow the link below, it let's Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid podcast plan. It also helps support our show.Link to Buzzsprout
28:13 5/3/22
How to Express Relationship Needs
Click HERE to check out our website!Building on last week's episode, we discuss ways we can express needs to our spouse. Discussion around how needs can be met is helpful so both spouses are clear on what is meant. If discussion is not easy, it is still important to clearly state needs. If discussion is not possible, boundaries are needed. We talk about practical ways to communicate including writing a letter or text, taking a class or counseling. Join us on FaceBook"Your Authentic Self is not just your marriage."SHARE the Podcast With OthersTell Us Your StoryBuzzsprout: If you follow the link below, it let's Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid podcast plan. It also helps support our show.Link to Buzzsprout
32:34 4/26/22
Identifying Our Needs in Relationship
Check out our website!In this episode, we discuss the importance of identifying what our needs are in a difficult relationship. Identifying needs can be hard when we are used to having them pressed down or ignored. We'll talk about how to identify them and care for ourselves well. Join us on FaceBook"Your Authentic Self is not just your marriage."SHARE the Podcast With OthersTell Us Your StoryBuzzsprout: If you follow the link below, it let's Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid podcast plan. It also helps support our show.Link to Buzzsprout
35:28 4/19/22
Should Separation or Divorce Be the Next Step?
Check out our website!In Season Two we kick things off with an episode dedicated to discerning whether separation or divorce are recommended or needed when your relationship is so difficult. We'll  also discuss the dance of manipulation; codependency; and who's in control of  the relationship.Join us on FaceBook"Your Authentic Self is not just your marriage."SHARE the Podcast With OthersTell Us Your StoryBuzzsprout: If you follow the link below, it let's Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid podcast plan. It also helps support our show.Link to Buzzsprout
37:04 4/5/22
Knocking Down Your Walls and Going to God
Date: 3/15/2022 Name of podcast: Everything You See Episode title and number: Knocking Down Your Walls and Going to God  Episode Five Terri and Wendy discuss what it is like to choose God over going to the barricade. They share how this goes against our independent culture, but how fulfilling it is to do so. Terri and Wendy talk about various steps to being vulnerable before God. They encourage listeners to identify what type of relationship they are in both with a partner but with God as well. Being before God means being fully naked and vulnerable. They discuss God strengthening each person by how He proclaims the truth about their identity. Finally, they wrap up with allowing yourself to be delighted in by God. 1- Identify What Kind of Relationship you Have With Others2- Identify What Kind of Relationship you Have With God3- Going to God as you are, with your raw emotions and scars4- Being Strengthened by God and Allowing Him to Identify You as His Masterpiece  5- Allow God to Delight in you  Connect With Us: 1-We would LOVE for you to contact us:            Website: everythingyousee.org           Email: info@everythingyousee.org 2-Share the episode with others:           https://www.buzzsprout.com/1907983/10251109  Buzzsprout: If you follow the below link, it lets Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan. It also helps support our show. https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1890278  
38:51 3/15/22
Grieving the Marriage You Thought You Would Have
Date: 3/08/2022 Name of podcast: Everything You See Episode title and number: Grieving the Marriage You Thought You Would HaveIn this episode, Terri and Wendy talk about grief. In disconnected relationships, there is often a heaviness that feels unbearable at times. Much of this can be tied to  various feelings of loss:1-The marriage you thought you would have,2-The conversations you expected to have,3-The partnership and peace you desired. Often, we can feel like there was a bait and switch where he seemed like a knight in shining armor when dating, and then he abdicated from the marriage. Compassion and creative suggestions are offered to encourage a process of self care and grief.Terri and Wendy will also open up the email and respond to the question of a listener.What do I place on the individual bricks of the Story Wall?Connect With Us: 1-We would LOVE for you to contact us:            Website: everythingyousee.org           Email: info@everythingyousee.org 2-Share the episode with others:           https://www.buzzsprout.com/1907983/10060532-valley-of-dry- bones.mp3?download=true Buzzsprout: If you follow the below link, it lets Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan. It also helps support our show. https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1890278 
35:35 3/7/22
What Disorders and Injuries Could Be Impacting My Marriage?
Date: 3/01/2022 Name of podcast: Everything You See Episode title and number: What Disorders and Injuries Could Be Impacting My Marriage? 03  This week is a little different, Terri and Wendy provide listeners with psychoeducation about possible relationship dynamics that impact a lack of emotional connection. They provide information on autism spectrum disorder, attachment disorders in adults, traumatic brain injuries, and trauma. Together they empower their audience to seek information, community, and resources when living in an emotionally absent or neglectful relationship.  The main points of Episode Two include:1- Spectrum autism disorder2- Attachment disorders3- Traumatic brain injuries4- Personality disorders5- Trauma6- Equipping yourself to better understand dynamics impacting emotional connection in your relationshipThis episode helps the listener identify possible tendencies present in their relationship that negatively impact emotional connection.  Connect With Us: 1-We would LOVE for you to contact us:            Website: everythingyousee.org           Email: info@everythingyousee.org 2-Share the episode with others:           https://www.buzzsprout.com/1907983/10060532-valley-of-dry- bones.mp3?download=true  Buzzsprout: If you follow the below link, it lets Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan. It also helps support our show. https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1890278  
39:58 3/1/22
Losing ourselves in the barricade of perceived safety
Date: 2/22/2022 Name of podcast: Everything You See Episode title and number: Losing ourselves in the barricade of perceived safety: 02  Episode Two involves Terri and Wendy discussing pain and loneliness in difficult marriages by revisiting the place of pain from the first episode. Terri shares a story of hating her situation and herself and calling out to God to give her hope and change. Terri and Wendy discuss God delighting in our vulnerabilities and honesty. Terri and Wendy also discuss running to our barricade (place away from the pain) when things become too painful. Wendy shares insightful definitions about what a barricade is and how we internalize that perceived safety. Terri and Wendy discuss how we lock ourselves away from the world because of pain which causes us to lose ourselves ultimately. Wendy shares a story about how our childhood conditioning impacts our adult relationships. Terri and Wendy discuss the desire to be delighted in. They also share the start of identifying truths and coming out of the barricade. Ultimately, Terri and Wendy discuss God’s desire to be with us and His patience in waiting for us to come out of our barricade. The main points of Episode Two include:1- Acknowledging pain and loneliness in a difficult marriage 2- More information on the place of pain 3- Calling out to God in the ugliness of tough situations and God delighting in us in those moments 4- Running to the barricade when things are too hard 5- Developing a perceived idea of safety by closing ourselves off from relationships and the world6- Identifying lies we believe and ways to proclaim truth over the lies7- God is waiting for you and not condemning youThis episode helps the listener identify their hurts and ways they avoid emotional pain.  Connect With Us: 1-We would LOVE for you to contact us:            Website: everythingyousee.org           Email: info@everythingyousee.org 2-Share the episode with others:           https://www.buzzsprout.com/1907983/10060532-valley-of-dry- bones.mp3?download=true  Buzzsprout: If you follow the below link, it lets Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan. It also helps support our show. https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1890278  
35:48 2/22/22
Valley of Dry Bones
Episode One introduces your hosts Terri Bone and Wendy Brown. Together they will tell the story about how Everything You See became a Podcast and introduce the theme of Season One. This season will relate to difficulties in marriage which can leave a spouse feeling lonely. Terri and Wendy will also discuss how we truly find God and ourselves by being vulnerable to Him. The three main points of Episode One include:1- Being in a place of pain, 2- Running away to a barricade for protection and perceived safety, and 3-Seeking God amid difficult situations. This episode helps the listener identify their hurts and ways they avoid emotional pain.Connect With Us:1-We would LOVE for you to contact us:           Website: everythingyousee.org          Email: info@everythingyousee.org2-Share the episode with others:          https://www.buzzsprout.com/1907983/10060532-valley-of-dry-bones.mp3?download=trueBuzzsprout: If you follow the below link, it lets Buzzsprout know we sent you and gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan. It also helps support our show.https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1890278 
33:25 2/15/22