The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

In this episode, Jefferson Fisher discusses how to have better conversations by learning to argue less and listen more. Jefferson emphasizes that winning arguments is counterproductive, as it damages relationships and breeds contempt. Instead, he advocates for approaching conversations with curiosity and a goal of mutual understanding. Key strategies include proper timing, emotional self-awareness, creating conversational “frames” to set clear expectations, and avoiding over-explanation. Fisher also highlights the importance of acknowledging your emotional state and traveling light by addressing lingering issues calmly rather than carrying unnecessary emotional baggage. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated by your inability to follow through, this episode offers a grounded, actionable path forward, one small step at a time. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The concept that winning an argument is not the goal; understanding is more important. Viewing arguments as knots to be untangled rather than battles to be won. Strategies for effectively handling difficult conversations, including timing and emotional awareness. The importance of acknowledging and validating feelings during discussions. The role of patience in resolving complex issues over time. The significance of timing in initiating difficult conversations. The impact of over-explaining and the importance of being succinct in communication. The three rules for better conversations: control, confidence, and connection. The concept of creating a “frame” for conversations to set clear expectations and reduce anxiety. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Jefferson Fisher, check out these other episodes: How We Can Improve Communication in Polarized Times with Charles Duhigg How to Unlock the Power of Deeper Connections with David Brooks By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Rocket Money Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at rocketmoney.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Hello Fresh – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4/10/26 • 58:33

In this special solo episode, Eric Zimmer shares five powerful insights from his book How a Little Becomes a Lot. Rather than offering quick fixes or surface-level advice, Eric explores the deeper mechanics of real, lasting change. He unpacks why small, consistent actions outperform bursts of motivation… how to shift from self-judgment to skill-building… and why the stories we tell ourselves shape everything from our habits to our happiness. You’ll also learn a practical, compassionate approach to working with your inner critic, not by silencing it, but by understanding it. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated by your inability to follow through, this episode offers a grounded, actionable path forward, one small step at a time. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Small actions create big change; if they’re low resistance and consistent. Real transformation isn’t about intensity. It’s about doing what you can actually sustain over time. Change is not a character trait, it’s a skill. If something isn’t working, it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you haven’t found the right strategy yet. Most of our struggles happen at “choice points.” The tension between what we want now and what we want most determines the direction of our lives. Your mind is constantly creating meaning, and it’s often wrong. Learning to question your interpretations can dramatically reduce unnecessary suffering. The inner critic isn’t the enemy, it’s a misguided protector. When you learn to relate to it with curiosity instead of resistance, it loses its power. The language you use shapes your emotional reality. Extreme language (“always,” “never,” “this is unbearable”) intensifies distress more than the situation itself. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Eric Zimmer, check out these other episodes: Why Willpower Isn’t Enough: The Tiny Habits Method Explained with Dr. BJ Fogg How to Make Lasting Changes with John Norcross By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Rocket Money Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at rocketmoney.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4/7/26 • 48:19

In this episode, Dorie Clark explains her long-game playbook about persistence, patience, and purpose in a fast-paced world. She explores the challenges of prioritizing long-term goals over daily distractions, the cultural obsession with busyness, and strategies for sustained motivation. Dorie also shares things that include saying no to good opportunities, embracing failure as a delay rather than a dead end, and breaking big goals into manageable steps. Exciting News!! My new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is now available!!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The contrast between short-term thinking and long-term goals. The cultural perception of busyness as a status symbol. Strategies for managing time and prioritizing meaningful work. The parable of two wolves representing good and bad impulses. The importance of making conscious choices in life and work. The challenge of saying no to good opportunities. Goal-setting techniques and the value of pursuing interesting choices. The role of persistence and resilience in achieving long-term objectives. Learning from failure and viewing setbacks as temporary. The significance of maintaining motivation through small, actionable steps. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Dorie Clark, check out these other episodes: The Search for Meaningful Work with Bruce Feiler Purposeful Living: Strategies to Align Your Values and Actions with Victor Strecher By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4/3/26 • 63:16

In this special episode, Eric Zimmer is interviewed by Sahil Bloom, as they discuss Eric’s new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life. Their conversation explores how small, consistent actions, not dramatic moments, lead to lasting transformation. Eric shares personal stories of addiction and recovery, discusses the complexity of motivation, and introduces practical frameworks like the SPAR method. They emphasize self-compassion, resilience, and the importance of aligning actions with values, while critiquing the pressure to be extraordinary. The episode offers actionable strategies and thoughtful insights for building positive habits and embracing change with kindness. Exciting News!!!  My new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is out now! Key Takeaways: Behavior change and its complexities The role of motivation and willpower in personal transformation The significance of small, consistent actions leading to meaningful change The distinction between values and desires in decision-making The importance of self-compassion in the process of change Practical frameworks for behavior change, including the SPA method The impact of social media and comparison culture on self-perception Strategies for visualizing consequences to aid in decision-making The concept of “still points” for cultivating new habits of thought The balance between striving for improvement and practicing acceptance in life For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Eric Zimmer and Sahil Bloom, check out these other episodes: Redefining Wealth: The Truth About Money & Happiness with Sahil Bloom Why Willpower Isn’t Enough: The Tiny Habits Method Explained with Dr. BJ Fogg By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Alma is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit helloalma.com to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/31/26 • 61:26

In this special episode, Eric coaches a listener named Birgit as she rebuilds her daily routine after a long-term illness and her children leaving home. Together, they explore practical strategies for habit formation, focusing on starting with a consistent healthy habits. Using frameworks like SPAR and RENEW, they discuss breaking habits into small steps, planning ahead, and responding compassionately to setbacks. The conversation highlights the importance of structure, self-kindness, and progress over perfection, offering listeners actionable advice for building sustainable routines during life transitions. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Rebuilding life after a long-term illness and navigating changes in daily structure. Establishing a consistent morning routine, focusing on a healthy breakfast habit. The importance of specificity and simplicity in habit formation. Strategies for reducing decision fatigue and avoiding procrastination. The SPA framework: Specificity, Prompts, Alignment, and Resilience for habit building. The RENEW framework for resetting habits after setbacks: Recognize, Embrace your Why, Neutralize emotional drama, Extract the lesson, and Walk forward. The role of self-compassion and positive self-talk in maintaining habits. The significance of small, manageable actions to overcome resistance. The impact of environmental setup on habit formation and behavior. Emphasizing progress over perfection in the journey of habit change. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, check out these other episodes: Why Willpower Isn’t Enough: The Tiny Habits Method Explained with Dr. BJ Fogg How to Create Elastic Habits that Adapt to Your Day with Stephen Guise By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Shopify⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai⁠ ⁠Brodo Broth⁠: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to ⁠Brodo.com/TOYF⁠ for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. ⁠Alma⁠ is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit ⁠helloalma.com⁠ to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/27/26 • 41:19

In this episode, Alex Hutchinson discusses moving from comfort zones to adventure zones and the journey of personal exploration. He delves into the human nature of exploration and fulfillment. Alex also explains how to find the balance between contentment and the drive to seek new experiences, the psychological benefits of embracing challenge, and the explore-exploit dilemma. He shares insights from his book “The Explorer’s Gene,” offering practical rules for meaningful exploration and emphasizing the importance of risk, effort, and play in leading a fulfilling life. The conversation encourages listeners to actively pursue novelty and growth, regardless of age or circumstance. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Exploration as a theme in both physical and metaphorical contexts. The balance between contentment and the desire for new experiences. The concept of the “explore-exploit dilemma” in decision-making. The impact of age on the tendency to explore and seek novelty. The importance of meaningful exploration and active engagement. The psychological benefits of effortful and challenging activities. The role of environmental factors in shaping attitudes toward risk and exploration. The significance of play in fostering creativity and exploration. Strategies for minimizing regret in decision-making. The influence of personal experiences and choices on the capacity for exploration. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Alex Hutchinson, check out these other episodes: Navigating Life’s Disruptions: Insights on Adapting and Thriving with James Patterson How To Cultivate Excellence in a Chaotic World with Brad Stulberg By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Alma is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit helloalma.com to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/24/26 • 61:12

In this episode, Laura McKowen discusses embracing emotional sobriety and small choices for big healing from heartbreak and anxiety. Laura talks about her 11-year sobriety journey and her personal journal of navigating heartbreak. She delves into the daily choices that foster healing and emotional well-being. Laura also shares insights on the non-linear nature of recovery, the importance of small, consistent practices, and the role of relationships and self-compassion in emotional sobriety. Together, they explore how healing is an ongoing process, shaped by vulnerability, connection, and the willingness to embrace both pain and growth. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Personal journey of sobriety and its challenges Managing anxiety and heartbreak after a significant relationship The non-linear nature of emotional healing and recovery The parable of the two wolves and its relevance to personal choices Importance of daily practices for mental health maintenance Concept of emotional sobriety and its distinction from mere survival The role of relationships in emotional well-being and healing Understanding attachment dynamics and their impact on relationships The interplay between trauma, addiction, and relational patterns Emphasizing self-forgiveness, compassion, and community support in healing processes For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Laura McKowen, check out these other episodes: Why Community and Courage Matter More Than Ever with Laura McKowen A Journey to Self-Discovery and Sobriety with Matthew Quick By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai⁠ ⁠Brodo Broth⁠: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to ⁠Brodo.com/TOYF⁠ for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. ⁠Alma⁠ is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit ⁠helloalma.com⁠ to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/20/26 • 47:56

In this episode, James Patterson discusses navigating life’s disruptions and shares insights on adapting and thriving in life.. He also discusses managing negative thoughts and balancing ambition with contentment. James shares insights from his writing career, co-authoring experiences, and personal life, including parenting and the importance of prioritizing family, health, friends, and spirit. The conversation blends practical advice, engaging stories, and reflections on adapting to change, offering listeners inspiration and tools for navigating both personal and professional challenges. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of James Patterson’s new book, Disrupt Everything and Win: Take Control of Your Future. Exploration of how individuals and organizations can adapt to change and leverage disruption. The metaphor of the “two wolves” representing positive and negative qualities within individuals. Insights into Patterson’s writing process and creative journey. Reflections on co-writing experiences with various collaborators. The balance between ambition and contentment in personal and professional life. The importance of storytelling and practical tools in business and self-help contexts. Patterson’s early career in advertising and its influence on his writing and approach to disruption. The significance of maintaining balance in life, using the metaphor of juggling five balls. Personal anecdotes and reflections on travel, parenting, and life philosophy. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with James Patterson, check out these other episodes: How to Find Real Life in Stories with George Saunders Life Transitions with Bruce Feiler By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Alma is on a mission to simplify access to high-quality, affordable mental health care. Visit helloalma.com to learn more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/17/26 • 49:58

In this episode, Light Watkins explores the best path to authentic happiness and embracing spiritual minimalism. Light defines spiritual minimalism and delves into the importance of leaving every place better than you found it. The conversation explores authenticity, happiness, stress, embracing discomfort, and the value of consistent, small actions. Light also shares personal stories and practical wisdom on finding freedom in limitations, giving what you want to receive, and focusing on process over outcomes to create a more meaningful, present, and fulfilled life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The parable of the two wolves and the importance of choosing the “good wolf” or authentic self. The concept of spiritual minimalism and its principles, including leaving places better than found. The significance of final impressions in interactions and their lasting impact. The relationship between happiness, income, and stress, emphasizing internal versus external sources of fulfillment. The paradox of motivation and the importance of consistent effort for personal growth. The idea of finding freedom within limitations and the power of acceptance in challenging situations. The principle of “give what you want to receive” and its role in fostering community and connection. The importance of embracing discomfort for personal growth and stepping outside comfort zones. The value of being process-oriented and focusing on the journey rather than just outcomes. The significance of consistent effort and incremental change in achieving lasting transformation. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Light Watkins, check out these other episodes: How to Embrace Mindfulness on the Path to Personal Growth with Dan Harris How to Let Go of Expectations and Transform Disappointment into Growth with Christine Hassler By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠Hello Fresh⁠⁠⁠ – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. ⁠⁠⁠David Protein⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/13/26 • 58:33

In this episode, Nir Eyal, author of Beyond Belief explores procrastination and the hidden pain behind your limiting beliefs. He explains how beliefs shape our perception of reality, motivation, and behavior.. He also shares how beliefs are flexible tools, not absolute truths, and that changing limiting beliefs can reduce suffering and unlock personal growth. The conversation covers the brain’s filtering of reality, the motivational triangle (behavior, desire, belief), and practical strategies for reframing beliefs to overcome procrastination, manage discomfort, and foster well-being. Nir emphasizes using science-backed methods to intentionally choose beliefs that empower and support lasting change. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The nature of beliefs and their impact on perception and reality. The distinction between beliefs as flexible tools versus absolute truths. The role of beliefs in motivation and behavior change. The motivational triangle: behavior, desire, and belief. The influence of beliefs on health, longevity, and personal growth. The concept of pain versus suffering and how beliefs affect this distinction. The importance of exposure therapy in overcoming limiting beliefs. The relationship between beliefs and procrastination as a pain management issue. Strategies for identifying and changing limiting beliefs. The significance of adopting empowering beliefs to enhance well-being and life satisfaction. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠!⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Nir Eyal, check out these other episodes: How to Master Internal Triggers and Regain Control of Your Attention with Nir Eyal How to Overcome Procrastination with Tim Pychyl By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠David Protein⁠⁠⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Hello Fresh⁠⁠ – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. ⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/10/26 • 61:19

In this episode, Elisha Goldstein talks about how to go from overwhelm to empowerment by harnessing tiny shifts for emotional resilience. He explains how small, consistent changes, or “tiny shifts”, can break negative emotional loops and improve stress, relationships, and longevity. He shares personal stories, practical tools like the “four R’s” (Recognize, Release, Refocus, Reinforce), and emphasizes emotional awareness over willpower. The conversation offers accessible strategies for managing overwhelm and building resilience, encouraging listeners to make manageable changes that support emotional health in everyday life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The concept of “tiny shifts” in emotional health and well-being. The impact of modern life on emotional loops and chronic stress responses. The importance of emotional awareness in breaking negative patterns. The biological and psychological effects of “bracing” in response to perceived threats. Strategies for interrupting emotional loops and fostering recovery. The “four R’s” framework: Recognize, Release, Refocus, and Reinforce. The role of self-compassion and supportive questioning in emotional management. The significance of reinforcing positive emotional experiences for lasting change. Practical applications and limitations of the discussed methods. The relationship between emotional health, stress management, and longevity. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠click here⁠!⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Elisha Goldstein, check out these other episodes: Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D-Mindfulness and Depression Jonathan Rottenberg Florence Williams By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Hello Fresh⁠ – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. ⁠David Protein⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠ ⁠Shopify⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/6/26 • 60:47

In this episode, Catherine Gray discusses her new book about “little addictions” and the big impact of transforming your habits for a healthier life. She explores how everyday compulsions like excessive screen time, snacking, or people pleasing are driven by ancient brain wiring and dopamine. Catherine shares practical strategies for managing these habits, emphasizing environmental changes, self-compassion, and shifting reward systems. The conversation highlights the importance of awareness, reframing language, and building mental strength, offering listeners actionable tools to regain control over their “tiny but mighty” compulsions and make more intentional choices. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Exploration of “little addictions” and their impact on daily life. Discussion on the neuroscience of addiction, particularly the role of dopamine. Examination of the difference between “little addictions” and clinical addictions. Strategies for managing compulsive behaviors and creating healthier habits. The importance of environmental factors in shaping behavior and habits. Insights on the internal conflict between the impulsive limbic system and the self-regulating prefrontal cortex. The concept of “dopamine shifting” to redirect reward systems toward healthier activities. Personal anecdotes illustrating the challenges and successes in overcoming compulsions. The significance of language in framing choices around habits and self-control. Practical tools and apps to help manage technology and behavioral addictions. For full show notes:⁠⁠ click here!⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Catherine Gray, check out these other episodes: Understanding Identity and How Our Past Shapes Who We Become with Catherine Gray Rethinking Addiction and Identity with Catherine Gray By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Hello Fresh – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3/3/26 • 66:56

In this episode, Rohan Gunatillake discusses how to unlock the power of mindfulness and transform your life one story at a time. He explores how stories can shift perspectives, the challenges and opportunities in mindfulness apps, and shares ways to integrate meditation into daily life. He also shares insights on making mindfulness accessible, playful, and adaptable, emphasizing community, creativity, and the importance of small, consistent practices for personal growth. The conversation highlights the evolving landscape of modern mindfulness and the value of finding meaning through both story and meditation. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Mindfulness and its role in personal growth. The transformative power of storytelling in meditation. The mechanics of storytelling as a tool for insight and perspective shifts. The challenges and opportunities within the mindfulness app industry. The concept of mobile mindfulness and integrating meditation into daily life. The importance of community in sustaining mindfulness practice. The “time problem” and accessibility of mindfulness for busy individuals. The relationship between mindfulness and technology in modern life. The significance of playful and creative approaches to mindfulness practice. Understanding the core techniques of mindfulness to foster flexibility and creativity in practice. For full show notes:⁠ click here!⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Rohan Gunatillake, check out these other episodes: Inner Freedom Through Mindfulness with Jack Kornfield Effortless Mindfulness with Loch Kelly By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Shopify⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. ⁠Pebl⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠hipebl.ai Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2/27/26 • 54:54

In this episode, Chris Bailey discusses how to be intentional and finish what you start. He explores how intentionality, values, and motivation shape our ability to set and achieve meaningful goals. Chris also introduces concepts like the “intention stack” and “sepia-toned goals,” emphasizing the importance of aligning actions with core values. The conversation offers practical tools for editing goals, balancing planning with action, and cultivating both deliberate and default intentions to create a more purposeful, fulfilling life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Importance of intentionality in achieving goals Challenges of goal-setting and the concept of "sepia toned goals" The "intention stack" framework connecting daily actions to broader values Understanding and identifying personal values and their polarities The role of desire and aversion in goal pursuit The concept of "goal editing" to align goals with personal values Distinction between outcome goals and process goals The significance of the learning phase in goal attainment Balancing planning and action to avoid productivity traps Cultivating a positive relationship with goals to enhance motivation and fulfillment For full show notes: click here! If you enjoyed this conversation with Chris Bailey, check out these other episodes: How to Break Free from the ‘More’ Trap and Find Balance in a Busy Life with Chris Bailey Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity, and Meditation (2018) Getting Things Done with Charlie Gilkey David Kadavy on Getting Started By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Shopify – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at shopify.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2/24/26 • 65:53

In this episode, Chris Duffy, author of Humor Me: How Laughing More Can Make You Present, Creative, Connected, and Happy, discusses how humor can transform our relationship with life’s challenges, connect with others, and shift our perspective on difficult situations. He shares personal stories and practical tips for cultivating humor, emphasizing laughter’s role in resilience and well-being. The conversation covers the social power of humor, taking risks, and learning to laugh at ourselves. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The role of humor in coping with life's challenges. The concept of shifting perspectives through laughter. The parable of the two wolves and its implications for personal growth. Distinctions between comedy, humor, and levity. Humor as a spiritual virtue and its importance in connecting with others. The social function of laughter and its role in building relationships. Practical strategies for cultivating humor in daily life. The therapeutic benefits of humor during difficult times. The idea of taking social risks to foster genuine connections. The transformative power of humor in reframing experiences and enhancing well-being. For full show notes: ⁠click here⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Chris Duffy, check out these other episodes: Humor and Healing with Josh Johnson Pete Holmes Paul Gilmartin By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2/20/26 • 66:41

In this episode, Faith Salie, CBS Sunday Morning correspondent and comedian, explores the complex nature of envy and how to harness it for personal growth. Drawing from Faith’s Audible series “Envy Enlightened,” they discuss the different types of envy, how it can be both destructive and motivating, and the importance of acknowledging and transforming it. Through personal stories and expert insights, they emphasize gratitude, self-awareness, and compassion, encouraging listeners to view envy as a natural feeling that, when understood, can guide personal growth and deepen appreciation for one’s own life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Exploration of the nature and complexities of envy as an emotion. Discussion of the parable of the two wolves and its relation to emotions like envy. Differentiation between benign (positive) and malicious (negative) forms of envy. The impact of modern culture and social media on feelings of envy. Personal experiences and reflections on envy, including its evolution over time. The importance of recognizing the whole lives of those we envy, not just their successes. The role of gratitude as a tool to counteract feelings of envy. Distinction between envy and jealousy, and their emotional implications. The neuroscience of envy and the concept of "envy grooves" in the brain. Strategies for managing and transforming envy into positive action and self-awareness For full show notes: click here! If you enjoyed this conversation with Faith Salie, check out these other episodes: The Age of Magical Overthinking: Why Our Minds Keep Doubling Down with Amanda Montell How to Turn Life’s Pain into a Path of Meaning and Joy with Danielle LaPorte Are Your Desires Really Yours? How to Recognize and Reclaim What You Truly Want with Luke Burgis By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2/17/26 • 59:50

In this episode, Ross Gay talks about embracing the messiness of life and finding joy in every day moments. He explores the complexities of joy, delight, and sorrow, emphasizing how attention and human connection shape a meaningful life. Ross also discusses the practice of noticing small moments, the interplay of joy and grief, and the importance of caring for others. The conversation also touches on societal challenges, the role of comedy, and the creative process, offering listeners thoughtful insights on living with compassion, devotion, and openness to everyday wonders. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Exploration of joy as a complex emotion intertwined with sorrow and human connection. Discussion of the importance of attention and devotion in cultivating joy and meaning in life. The relationship between joy and societal challenges, including systemic injustice and hardship. The concept of "feeding the good wolf" and focusing on what we love rather than negativity. The significance of small moments of beauty and connection in the face of suffering. The role of poetry and writing in enhancing attention and understanding of joy and delight. The idea of joy as a precursor to solidarity and collective care. Reflections on personal experiences of loss and the search for meaning in grief. The impact of societal machinery on human connection and daily acts of care. The process of writing as a means of self-discovery and understanding one's relationships and emotions. For full show notes: click here! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ross Gay, check out these other episodes: How to Feel Lighter with Yung Pueblo How to Turn Life’s Pain into a Path of Meaning and Joy with Danielle LaPorte Finding Hope When Life Isn’t Okay and the Power of Micro Joys with Cyndie Spiegel By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2/13/26 • 61:41

In this episode, Guy Winch discusses the concept of mind over grind along with practical tips to manage work stress and enhance your well-being. He explains the pervasive impact of work-related stress, the cultural glorification of overwork, and how chronic stress leads to burnout. Guy also shares strategies for reframing stress, breaking the cycle of rumination, and intentionally recovering from mental fatigue. The conversation emphasizes the importance of conscious effort, mindset shifts, and small daily actions to restore work-life balance and protect mental health in a world where work often hijacks our lives. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: ⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey⁠ Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Impact of work-related stress on personal life and mental health Imbalance between work life and personal life leading to burnout Chronic nature of modern work stress and its effects Psychological framing of stress: “challenge state” vs. “threat state” Cultural romanticization of overwork and hustle culture Importance of conscious effort to maintain work-life balance Strategies for managing stress and avoiding burnout The role of mindset in stress perception and performance Techniques to interrupt rumination and intrusive thoughts Importance of engaging in meaningful activities for mental recovery For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Guy Winch, check out these other episodes: Emotional First Aid with Guy Winch How to Recognize the Hidden Signs of Burnout with Leah Weiss How to Deal with Burnout Through Self-Compassion with Kristin Neff By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2/10/26 • 64:06

In this episode, Jonathan Goodman discusses defines unhinged habits and how to transform your life by doing less. He shares how selling his software company led him to focus on writing and living intentionally. Jonathan also explores the importance of prioritizing money, health, and relationships, embracing life’s natural seasons, and making conscious trade-offs. He explains how intense focus can transform habits, the value of childhood passions, and the difference between meaningful and vacant activities. The episode encourages listeners to nurture what matters, let go of what doesn’t, and periodically reset for a more fulfilling life. Take our quick 2-minute survey and help us improve your listening experience: oneyoufeed.net/survey Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of the importance of prioritizing life’s triad: money, health, and relationships. Exploration of the concept of life seasons and the need to focus on different priorities at different times. Insights on habit formation and the necessity of making trade-offs to avoid burnout. The metaphor of the “good wolf” and the importance of nurturing positive qualities within oneself. The significance of recognizing when a season ends to allow for rest and reflection. The idea of maintaining balance in life and the dangers of comparing oneself to others. The role of intentional living and making deliberate decisions about time and energy investment. The benefits of an exploratory mindset and trying new activities to discover what fits best. Discussion on the social and physical benefits of engaging in inclusive activities like games. The impact of modern life on natural rhythms and the importance of consciously ending seasons for personal growth. For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonathan Goodman, check out these other episodes: How to Create Elastic Habits that Adapt to Your Day with Stephen Guise Behavior Change with John Norcross Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠David Protein ⁠⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2/6/26 • 63:31

In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton explains how to start moving from people pleasing to self-trust and breaking the cycle of fawning, which is the compulsion to appease others to stay safe. She shares her personal and clinical insights on how fawning develops, its impact on self-identity, and the challenges of healing. Dr. Clayton also discusses therapy approaches, the importance of self-trust, and practical steps for breaking the fawning pattern, emphasizing the value of curiosity, self-compassion, and gradual, body-based healing in reclaiming one’s authentic voice and boundaries. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of the trauma response known as “fawning” as a coping mechanism. Exploration of the challenges of setting boundaries for individuals who fawn. Examination of the differences between fawning and other trauma responses like fight, flight, and freeze. Personal stories illustrating the impact of fawning in childhood and adulthood. The importance of nervous system regulation in healing from trauma. Clarification of the distinctions between fawning, people pleasing, and codependency. The role of self-awareness and body-based practices in recognizing and addressing fawning. Discussion on the complexities of healing and the individual nature of recovery journeys. Critique of common therapeutic advice and the need for trauma-informed approaches. Emphasis on the importance of self-trust and curiosity in the healing process. For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ingrid Clayton, check out these other episodes: How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠David Protein ⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠.⁠ ⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2/3/26 • 66:44

In this episode, Nedra Glover Tawwab talks about why family relationships are so hard and what actually helps navigate them. She explores the complexities of family dynamics, self-sabotage, and why people resist change. Nedra also shares insights on managing discomfort, setting boundaries, and accepting others’ limitations. The conversation covers practical strategies for healthier relationships, the challenges of being a “cycle breaker,” and how to navigate difficult conversations. You'll discover compassionate guidance for breaking free from unhealthy patterns and fostering self-awareness, acceptance, and growth in family and personal relationships. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Family dynamics and their impact on personal development Understanding and managing unhealthy relationships The concept of self-sabotage and its connection to discomfort The role of emotional patterns in addiction and recovery Navigating relationships with individuals resistant to change The significance of personal accountability in healing The complexities of shame and its effects on relationships Strategies for effective communication and resolving circular conversations The importance of self-compassion and acceptance in difficult relationships Recognizing and addressing the influence of family roles and expectations on identity For full show notes: ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Nedra Glover Tawwab, check out these other episodes: How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson How to Have Healthier Relationships with Yourself and Others with Jillian Turecki By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: David Protein Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to davidprotein.com/FEED. ⁠Hungry Root⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/30/26 • 64:48

Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠⁠! In this episode, Brad Stulberg explores how to cultivate excellence in a chaotic world. He explains how excellence is a lifelong practice rooted in daily effort, presence, and values, not a final achievement. Brad also discusses the importance of process over outcome, balancing ambition with self-kindness, and finding meaning through consistent, value-driven actions. The conversation also covers overcoming burnout, the illusion of perfect balance, and how to live intentionally in a chaotic world, offering practical advice for cultivating fulfillment and true greatness in everyday life. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The concept of excellence as a continuous practice rather than a fixed destination. The transformative nature of pursuing goals and its impact on character and personal growth. The importance of a process mindset, focusing on daily efforts and consistency. The metaphor of "feeding the good wolf" to emphasize nurturing positive qualities. The balance between striving for outcomes and being present in the process. The significance of measuring effort over outcomes for sustained progress. The idea of "raising the floor" to improve performance on average days. The role of care and commitment in achieving excellence. The distinction between meaningful engagement and the pitfalls of comfort and convenience. The necessity of intentional living and effort in a chaotic, technology-driven world. For full show notes: ⁠click here⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Brad Stulberg, check out these other episodes: The Practice of Groundedness with Brad Stulberg Mindfulness and Understanding Identity with Cory Allen By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Hungry Root: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to www.hungryroot.com/feed and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Check out ⁠Mountains to Cross ⁠by Dr. Abraham George. It’s the story of how a life built on success was redirected toward compassion, and how that choice led to the founding of Shanti Bhavan, a school helping children break free from generational poverty. Find it wherever books are sold. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/27/26 • 71:38

Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠! In this episode, Casey McGuire Davidson talks about discovering life beyond alcohol and strategies for lasting sobriety and emotional wellness. She shares her struggles with alcohol, repeated attempts to quit, and how support, coaching, and treating sobriety as an experiment helped her succeed. Casey also discusses the challenges of early sobriety, the importance of community and self-care, and practical strategies for replacing drinking habits. The conversation emphasizes curiosity, planning, and support as keys to lasting change, offering hope and encouragement for anyone considering a break from alcohol. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠ Key Takeaways: Personal journey of struggling with alcohol and attempts to quit. Challenges faced during early sobriety, including anxiety and withdrawal symptoms. Benefits of sobriety, such as improved emotional stability and better sleep. The concept of treating sobriety as an experiment rather than a permanent decision. Importance of support systems, including coaching, therapy, and community groups. Strategies for replacing drinking habits with healthier alternatives and activities. The role of public accountability in maintaining sobriety goals. Understanding the cultural conditioning around alcohol and its impact on social interactions. The significance of creating new rewards and self-care practices to replace alcohol. Encouragement to approach sobriety with curiosity and openness to change. For full show notes: click here! If you enjoyed this conversation with Casey McGuire Davidson, check out these other episodes: Special Episode: 4 Different Journeys to Sobriety The Joy of Being Sober with Catherine Gray The Magic of Being Sober with Laura McKowen By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Check out Mountains to Cross by Dr. Abraham George. It’s the story of how a life built on success was redirected toward compassion, and how that choice led to the founding of Shanti Bhavan, a school helping children break free from generational poverty. Find it wherever books are sold. ⁠David Protein⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/23/26 • 66:59

Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)! In this episode, Chris Guillebeau explores time anxiety and the illusion of urgency that is st. aling your joy. He explains the pervasive feeling of never having enough time, discusses the psychological roots of time anxiety, and shares practical strategies for managing competing demands, avoidance, and procrastination. Chris also offers insights on creating personal “rules of engagement,” decluttering schedules, and embracing acceptance, encouraging listeners to cultivate a more intentional, compassionate, and fulfilling relationship with time. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Definition and exploration of time anxiety as a psychological issue. The distinction between feeling overwhelmed and traditional productivity challenges. The impact of competing priorities and requests on time management. The concept of “rules of engagement” for managing daily demands. Strategies for overcoming avoidance and procrastination. The importance of self-awareness and intentionality in managing time. Practical tips for improving time management, such as allowing buffer time for tasks. The idea of “time decluttering” to create space in schedules. The role of cognitive distortions in exacerbating time-related stress. Encouragement to embrace a mindset shift towards a more fulfilling relationship with time. For full show notes: https://www.oneyoufeed.net/time-anxiety/https://www.oneyoufeed.net/time-anxiety/! If you enjoyed this episode with Chris Guillebeau, check out: Chris Guillebeau (Interview from 2014) How to Accept Limitations and Make Time for What Counts with Oliver Burkeman Time Management for Mortals with Oliver Burkeman Oliver Burkeman on Modern Time Management (2019) By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Aura Frames: For a limited time, save on the perfect gift by visiting AuraFrames.com /FEED to get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames – named #1 by Wirecutter –  by using promo code FEED at checkout. This deal is exclusive to listeners, and frames sell out fast,  so order yours now to get it in time for the holidays! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/20/26 • 61:50

In this episode, Adam Alter discusses the science of getting unstuck and learning to know when to keep going or when to let go. He explores why people get stuck in areas like work, creativity, and personal growth, and discuss the psychological and cultural factors behind feeling stuck. Adam also shares practical strategies for getting unstuck, such as breaking big goals into smaller steps, embracing curiosity, and taking action - even imperfectly. The conversation highlights the importance of acceptance, mindset shifts, collaboration, and self-compassion in overcoming plateaus and sparking breakthroughs. Exciting News!!!Coming in March 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways Exploration vs. Exploitation: The two-step process for achieving creative breakthroughs. The concept of "stuckness" in various life aspects, including creativity, work, and relationships. Psychological vs. physical stuckness and the emotional toll it takes. Cultural differences in perceptions of change and stuckness (Eastern vs. Western perspectives). The importance of acceptance and mindset in overcoming feelings of being stuck. Strategies for breaking large goals into manageable tasks to maintain motivation. The "plateau effect" and how to navigate periods of stalled progress. The role of curiosity in fostering creativity and challenging the status quo. The significance of action and starting small to overcome inertia. The impact of physical movement and changing environments on mental clarity and creativity. For full show notes,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠ Connect with the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Adam Alter, check out these other episodes: How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David Thomas Sterner on How to Be Fully Engaged By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠David Protein⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura Frames⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time, save on the perfect gift by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AuraFrames.com /FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠to get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames – named #1 by Wirecutter –  by using promo code FEED at checkout. This deal is exclusive to listeners, and frames sell out fast,  so order yours now to get it in time for the holidays! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/16/26 • 67:44

In this episode, Amanda Montell explores the age of magical overthinking and why our minds keep doubling down. She discusses how cognitive biases and irrational thinking shape our perceptions and behaviors in the information age. Amanda also explains shine theory, zero-sum and sunk cost biases, and the allure of manifestation and conspiracy thinking. Through personal stories and humor, Amanda and Eric discuss how understanding these mental patterns can help us navigate modern life more consciously and compassionately. Exciting News!!!Coming in March 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways Exploration of cognitive biases and their impact on modern thinking. Discussion of irrational thinking in the information age. Examination of the parable of the two wolves and its implications for personal behavior. Analysis of the shine theory and its relevance to social dynamics, particularly among women. Insights into the sunk cost fallacy and its effects on decision-making in relationships. Critique of manifestation beliefs and their parallels to conspiracy thinking. The role of storytelling in human cognition and its influence on self-perception. The relationship between overconfidence bias and self-assessment. Challenges of navigating modern life with evolved cognitive shortcuts. The impact of social media on decision-making and personal narratives. For full show notes,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠ Connect with the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Amanda Montell, check out these other episodes: Why You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Overthinking with Adam Mastroianni The Purpose of Emotions and Why We’re Not Wired for Happiness with Anders Hansen By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura Frames⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time, save on the perfect gift by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AuraFrames.com /FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠to get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames – named #1 by Wirecutter –  by using promo code FEED at checkout. This deal is exclusive to listeners, and frames sell out fast,  so order yours now to get it in time for the holidays! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/13/26 • 63:27

In this episode, Gretchen Rubin shares how to go from chaos to calm and why your environment shapes your habits and happiness. She explores how organizing and decluttering physical spaces can boost mental clarity and emotional well-being. Gretchen also shares practical strategies for habit change, discusses individual differences in preferences for order, and explains how small environmental tweaks can make positive behaviors easier. The conversation also covers managing possessions, letting go of outdated identities, and making intentional life choices. Exciting News!!!Coming in March 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways The relationship between outer order (organization and decluttering) and inner calm (mental and emotional well-being). The impact of small environmental changes on habits, mood, and productivity. The concept of “feeding the good wolf” from the parable of two wolves, emphasizing intentional living. The significance of setting intentions or themes for the new year, such as choosing a “word of the year.” The role of “ignition costs” in habit formation and how reducing friction can facilitate positive behaviors. The varying responses individuals have to clutter and organization, including “clutter blind” individuals and “abundance lovers.” The importance of monitoring habits and recognizing progress to encourage continued growth. Strategies for managing possessions and making decisions about what to keep or discard. The psychological challenges of letting go of items tied to past identities or aspirations. The concept of “choosing the bigger life” as a decision-making framework to guide intentional choices. For full show notes,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠ Connect with the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Gretchen Rubin, check out these other episodes: Living Skillfully with Gretchen Rubin (2020) Designing a Life That Supports You: Presence, Beauty, and the Power of Environment with Nate Berkus By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Hungry Root⁠: For a limited time, get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to www.hungryroot.com/feed  and use code FEED. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura Frames⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time, save on the perfect gift by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AuraFrames.com /FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠to get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames – named #1 by Wirecutter –  by using promo code FEED at checkout. This deal is exclusive to listeners, and frames sell out fast,  so order yours now to get it in time for the holidays! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Post your job for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/oneyoufeed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/9/26 • 71:07

In this episode, Jay Vidyarthi discusses how to reclaim your mind and build a healthier relationship with technology. He explores common pitfalls—like avoidance, anxiety, and judgment—and shares practical strategies for using digital tools consciously. Jay emphasizes personal agency, setting boundaries, and the value of both online and offline connections. This conversation challenges the idea that technology is inherently good or bad, instead encouraging listeners to cultivate awareness, compassion, and intentional habits to foster well-being and authentic relationships in a tech-driven world. Exciting News!!!Coming in March 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways The relationship between technology and mindfulness. The tension between the desire for genuine connection and the allure of digital devices. The concept of technology as neither inherently good nor bad, but shaped by our relationship with it. Strategies for engaging with technology mindfully, as discussed in Jay Viviani's book. The "two wolves" parable and its implications for attention and emotional awareness. The importance of clarity and awareness in managing emotions related to technology use. The role of meditation and mindfulness practices in cultivating a healthier relationship with technology. The impact of societal narratives on perceptions of technology and its users. The significance of personal agency in setting boundaries and making conscious choices regarding technology. The potential for technology to meet emotional and social needs when approached mindfully. For full show notes,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠ Connect with the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Jay Vidyarthi, please check out these other episodes: The Hidden Costs of Technology and Our Search for Selfhood with Vauhini Vara Distracted or Empowered? Rethinking Our Relationship with Technology with Pete Etchells By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Hungry Root: For a limited time, get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to www.hungryroot.com/feed  and use code FEED. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura Frames⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time, save on the perfect gift by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AuraFrames.com /FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠to get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames – named #1 by Wirecutter –  by using promo code FEED at checkout. This deal is exclusive to listeners, and frames sell out fast,  so order yours now to get it in time for the holidays! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Post your job for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/oneyoufeed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/6/26 • 58:59

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and don’t have the luxury of doing less, Overwhelm Is Optional offers simple tools you can use in under ten minutes a day. Learn more at⁠⁠⁠ oneyoufeed.net/overwhelm⁠⁠⁠ Help us make the podcast better—share your input in a short survey:: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thank You! In this second part of the 2-part episode with James Clear, we explore practical, research-backed strategies for habit formation, including making habits obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying. Through personal stories and examples, they discuss how environment, social groups, and small behavioral tweaks can help build good habits and break bad ones. The episode emphasizes starting small, celebrating progress, and designing supportive surroundings, offering listeners actionable advice for lasting behavior change. Exciting News!!!Coming in March 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways Practical strategies for habit formation and behavior change The role of environment in shaping habits Techniques for making habits obvious and accessible The concept of habit stacking (anchoring new habits to existing ones) The importance of social groups and community in habit adoption The impact of technology on finding supportive communities for habit change The significance of reducing friction for positive habits and increasing friction for negative ones The “two-minute rule” for simplifying habit initiation The emotional payoff and satisfaction associated with habits The importance of tracking progress and celebrating small victories in habit formation For full show notes,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠ Connect with the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Katy Milkman, check out these other episodes: ⁠⁠How to Stay Motivated with Ayelet Fishbach⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg⁠⁠ By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura Frames⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time, save on the perfect gift by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AuraFrames.com /FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠to get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames – named #1 by Wirecutter –  by using promo code FEED at checkout. This deal is exclusive to listeners, and frames sell out fast,  so order yours now to get it in time for the holidays! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Post your job for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/oneyoufeed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1/2/26 • 35:36

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and don’t have the luxury of doing less, Overwhelm Is Optional offers simple tools you can use in under ten minutes a day. Learn more at⁠⁠ oneyoufeed.net/overwhelm⁠⁠ Help us make the podcast better—share your input in a short survey:: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneyoufeed.net/survey. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thank You! In this part 1 of a 2-part episode, James Clear, discusses how to unlock the power of identity and how small changes can lead to big transformation in your life. They explore the compounding power of habits, the importance of focusing on systems over goals, and how identity shapes behavior. James explains practical strategies for building good habits and breaking bad ones, emphasizing patience, persistence, and the role of self-perception in lasting change. The conversation offers actionable insights for anyone seeking to improve their habits and overall well-being. Exciting News!!!Coming in March 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways The compounding effect of habits over time and their significance in personal growth. The metaphor of the "two wolves" illustrating the choice between positive and negative habits. The importance of patience and persistence due to the hidden lag time in habit formation. The distinction between focusing on systems versus goals for achieving lasting change. The concept of the "goal trap" and how it can hinder happiness and satisfaction. The role of identity in behavior change and how self-perception influences habits. The mechanics of habit formation, including the stages of cue, craving, response, and reward. The impact of environmental cues on habit formation and the challenges of changing habits. The four laws of behavior change as a framework for building good habits and breaking bad ones. The relationship between happiness, desire, and practicing contentment in the pursuit of growth. For full show notes,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠ Connect with the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Katy Milkman, check out these other episodes: ⁠How to Stay Motivated with Ayelet Fishbach⁠ ⁠Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg⁠ By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura Frames⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time, save on the perfect gift by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AuraFrames.com /FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠to get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames – named #1 by Wirecutter –  by using promo code FEED at checkout. This deal is exclusive to listeners, and frames sell out fast,  so order yours now to get it in time for the holidays! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Post your job for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/oneyoufeed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12/30/25 • 37:13