The Less Stressed Lawyer

Do you ever find yourself stuck in confusion, spinning your wheels and making no progress? You're not alone. Confusion is an uncomfortable emotion that many of us avoid, but learning to work through it is a game-changing skill.     Discover how to become more decisive, take action faster, and achieve better results by embracing confusion instead of running from it. I break down the process step-by-step and share real-life examples so you can put it into practice immediately.      Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/116

12/3/24 • 26:43

Do you ever find yourself feeling frustrated and unsure of how to handle it? Whether it’s in your personal or professional life, frustration is a common emotion that we all experience from time to time. However, while frustration can be super uncomfortable, it doesn't have to control us or dictate your actions.   Tune in this week to discover how to stop frustration from running the show. I share how to clearly identify the thoughts that are creating your frustration, and you’ll learn how to focus on what you can control, in spite of any uncomfortable emotion you’re currently going through.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/115

11/5/24 • 23:21

When something doesn't go our way, it's easy to get stuck in victim mode, dwelling on the negativity and arguing with reality. But what if there was a better approach? Today, we explore how to shift into problem-solving mode by focusing on what's within your control and taking intentional action.   Tune in this week to for a step-by-step process for gaining perspective, replacing unhelpful thoughts, and making a game plan to productively move forward when life throws you a curveball. I show you how to see what’s really in your control, what you need to let go of, and how to make an action plan for next time something “bad” happens in your life.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/114

9/3/24 • 31:02

While there is pleasure to be gained in instant gratification, there’s also displeasure in it. It’s not all upside. When you pay close attention, you’ll see that choosing temporary pleasure often leads to more negative emotions in the moment and afterwards. However, when you go through the short-term discomfort of making responsible choices, you set yourself up for success.   Join me this week as I dive into the displeasure of instant gratification and how focusing on the negative aspects of avoidant behavior can help you make better choices. You’ll learn how to make instant gratification less attractive, and practical strategies for overcoming the urge for temporary pleasure so you can achieve your goals with more ease.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/113

8/27/24 • 23:50

Do you ever feel paralyzed by the pressure to make the right decision? In this episode, we explore why there's actually no such thing as a universally correct choice, and how you can make your decisions right for you, instead of looking for reasons why you don't like your choices.     Tune in this week to discover how to make your decisions right for you. By focusing your mind on the reasons you decided the way you did, rather than second-guessing yourself, you can prevent regret, build lasting confidence in your judgment and revolutionize your approach to making decisions, from career moves to relationships and beyond.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/112

8/20/24 • 21:30

As lawyers, our time is our most valuable asset. But too often, we let tasks drag on longer than necessary, eating up precious minutes and hours that could be spent on more important work or enjoying our personal lives. By learning how to maximize our efficiency, we can take back control of our schedules and achieve better results.     In this episode, you'll learn practical strategies for streamlining your work processes, eliminating distractions, and making the most of every minute. Whether it's responding to emails, drafting documents, or managing your daily tasks, I help you work smarter, not harder. Get ready to boost your efficiency and take your productivity to the next level.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/111

8/13/24 • 18:53

Do you feel like you're working around the clock just to keep up with client demands and stay on top of your workload? Want to know the secret to finally working less without sacrificing your productivity or client service? This episode has all the answers.     Join me as I walk you through the exact strategy I teach my clients to reduce their hours, reclaim their free time, and still excel in their legal careers. It may feel counterintuitive at first, but I promise this approach is a game-changer. Get ready to say goodbye to the endless grind and hello to a more balanced life.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/110

8/6/24 • 21:56

One of the biggest things lawyers struggle with is being unrealistic with their schedules. You might think it makes sense to cram as much as possible into every day, but planning inaccurately and unrealistically is actually leading to procrastination. So, it's time to stop lying to yourself about what you can really get done.     Tune in this week to discover the problem with being unrealistic when it comes to scheduling, and how to fix it. I discuss the massive impact that having an unrealistic schedule is having on your life, I show you how to see the ways you're being unrealistic around your schedule, and you'll learn how to start being realistic about how time works and what you can actually achieve.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/109

7/16/24 • 18:36

How do you feel when others try to please you excessively? While being a people-pleaser can be uncomfortable, dealing with someone else's people-pleasing behavior often leads to frustration. How can recognizing and understanding the people-pleasing tendencies in others help you manage your own?     Tune in this week for a fresh perspective on people-pleasing, viewed through the lens of being on the receiving end. You know how uncomfortable it can be to be people-pleased, so let's unpack this experience from the recipient's viewpoint. By understanding this dynamic, you can better avoid falling into people-pleasing habits in the future.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/108

7/9/24 • 22:10

If you identify as a perfectionist, chances are you’re falling victim to all-or-nothing thinking often. Perfectionists tend to look at the world in extremes and see things as binary, black or white, this or that with no room for the grey, and this rigidity brings with it a lot of unnecessary emotional suffering.     Join me on this episode to learn examples of how all-or-nothing thinking may be showing up in your life and what happens when you habitually indulge in it. I’m showing you how to begin identifying where all-or-nothing thinking comes up for you, what the opposite of all-or-nothing thinking looks like, and the long-term benefits you’ll experience when you stop this cycle.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/107

6/18/24 • 16:55

Are you being specific enough when it comes to the results you want to create? Do you feel directionless or confused when it comes to the action you should be taking? How is failing to define clear results preventing you from achieving your full potential, and what can you do about it?   Tune in this week as I invite you to audit your life and the goals you’re working towards. I’m showing you the importance of defining clear results, what happens when you fail to do so, how you might be adding confusion and indecision to the mix, and what you can do to begin making the most of the action you’re taking toward your goals.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/106

6/11/24 • 15:41

Many people wrongly believe that perfectionism looks like that Type-A tendency to always be on top of things with all your ducks in a row, never a hair out of place. Maybe you resonate with this kind of perfectionism. However, I can guarantee that this isn’t the only way perfectionistic tendencies are making an appearance in your life.     Listen in this week as I lay out 20 different ways perfectionistic tendencies might be showing up for you and why they cause you so much unnecessary emotional suffering. You’ll hear why you must address your negative self-talk, how you might be unwittingly being perfectionistic with other people, and how to save yourself the time and stress you’re currently wasting on perfectionism.      Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/105

6/4/24 • 35:12

Where are you experiencing unnecessary drama in your life? Do you know how you might be creating an emotional rollercoaster for yourself through your behaviors? How is drama addiction showing up in your storytelling?      Join me on this episode to hear how drama addiction manifests and examples of how you might be unwittingly engaging in it. I’m showing you why telling unnecessarily dramatic stories is a problem, how to identify if you’re stuck in a dramatic narrative that isn’t serving you, and how to begin telling less dramatic versions of your experience.      Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/104

5/28/24 • 22:58

Are you stuck in a rut at work? Do you feel drained, uninspired, or burnt out? Maybe you’ve toyed with the idea of taking time off, knowing it will recharge your batteries, but get hung up on the what ifs.      Join me this week as I break down the negative thoughts you might be experiencing about taking time off and show you how to change the way you’re currently thinking about giving yourself a break. You’ll also learn why it’s worth questioning your judgments of other people taking time off, and my best practices for taking some time away from work.      Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/103

5/21/24 • 20:08

Mixed models are models where you’ve jumbled up positive and negative components together. This is where you might have a negative thought and feeling but a positive action and result (or vice versa), and while you might have multiple models running at one time, they should never be combined, and I’m showing you why.     Listen in this week to learn why mixed models are a problem and the power of separating your models. I’m showing you how operating from mixed models keep you stuck in unnecessary emotional suffering, and how to address your mixed models so it’s easier for you to achieve the things you most want.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/102

5/16/24 • 18:19

Want to know how to get unstuck? Whatever you're stuck with, whether it's your time, money, making an investment, or anything else, I've got you covered in today's episode because I recently recorded a masterclass on exactly how to get unstuck.   Discover 10 obstacles that are stopping you from making progress on your goals, and the 10 specific solutions to help you get unstuck. Wherever you're stuck, whether it's in your career, your business, or in your relationships, I'm giving you behind-the-scenes access to a masterclass that will be pivotal in getting you unstuck.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/101

5/7/24 • 73:22

In honor of the 100th episode of The Less Stressed Lawyer podcast, I’m walking you through my backstory of why I decided to make the shift from attorney to coach, the impact coaching has had on my life, and something exciting that I’ve had in the works since 2017.   Join me this week as we celebrate the huge milestone of reaching 100 podcast episodes! You’ll learn how I always knew I wanted to be a criminal defense attorney, why I struggled to perform in Big Law, how my life is unrecognizable now compared to just a few years ago, and the invitation of a lifetime that I’m offering you right now.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/100

4/30/24 • 86:36

There are many reasons we suffer emotionally, but one of the most common sources of emotional suffering comes from the expectations that we have. So, what is the easiest and most effective way of reducing our suffering? We change our expectations.   Tune in this week to discover how changing your expectations will help you feel better in your life. You’ll learn how great expectations are disrupting your happiness, and I share how to reduce your emotional suffering by better aligning your expectations in a more helpful way.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/99

4/23/24 • 41:12

Mirror judgments have come up on the podcast before, but I’m diving deeper in today’s episode. A mirror judgment is a judgment that you have about another person that you also have of yourself. So, you judge a person for something and then subconsciously, you’re judging yourself for it at the same time.    Tune in this week as I break down what a mirror judgment is, teach why it’s important to identify them, and show you what to do with your mirror judgments. You’ll learn how to spot mirror judgments when they come up for you, and most importantly, you’ll discover how to get out of this place of judging both yourself and other people.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/98

4/16/24 • 33:56

Something I’ve noticed about humans is that, oftentimes, they aren’t willing to help themselves first. It’s great that we live in a world where you can ask for help when you’re having a problem, but have you ever stopped to consider whether you’re helping yourself first?   Tune in this week to start committing to helping yourself first. You have to be the person most willing to solve your problems, and you’ll learn today why other people don’t have the long-term solution to your problems, and I show you what you need to do to help yourself first and create meaningful change in your life.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/97

4/9/24 • 23:45

Committing to the finish makes a massive difference in how you approach your goals and pursue the life you want to live. I watch too many people make lavish plans and deeply commit to getting started on them, feeling excited and motivated to take consistent action, until things don’t go exactly as they’d expected.   Tune in this week to discover how to start committing to the finish. I discuss the problem with telling yourself you’re ‘trying’, share why you’re struggling to fully commit yourself until the finish, and you’ll learn how to pursue your goals from a place of being fully committed to the finish.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/96

4/2/24 • 18:36

When you’re making a decision, you’re confronted with the options available to you. You make a choice, and as time unfolds, you see the consequences of your decisions. However, what I often see people doing is picking apart their decisions before they make them, looking for all the potential issues that could arise from their choice. In doing this, they create an alternate reality where the option that they didn’t choose would have led to better outcomes. This is the Sliding Doors Fallacy at work. This week, you’ll learn how to stop punishing yourself by wondering how different things in your life could look.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/95

3/26/24 • 18:48

Of all the lies I notice my clients telling themselves, one stands out to me. They look at other people and think that whatever they’re dealing with, they’re uniquely situated, and it’s easier for them. This came up recently when I was coaching on time management and my client said, “Isn’t it just easy for some people?”   Tune in this week to discover the problem with thinking, “It’s easier for them…” and how to see why this isn’t actually true. I’m showing you the real difference between you and those who are more successful than you or better in a specific area, and you’ll learn how to see what you can do moving forward to level the playing field.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/94

3/14/24 • 24:14

When you’re in a situation you don’t like, it’s normal to look for the faults and focus on all the negativity. But you have two other options available here: get out of it, or get into it. Getting into it may take more effort than just going with the flow, but it truly changes everything and allows you to create a life you truly love.   If you’re in a romantic relationship that doesn’t feel like it’s working right now, you’re in a challenging friendship, or you are having difficulty at work and you don’t want to just quit, tune in this week to learn how to get into it and make a concerted effort to have a positive influence over the world around you. You’ll be amazed at what you can create for yourself when you get into it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/93

3/7/24 • 20:52

The idea of being deserving is a topic that comes up often in my coaching calls. From what I’ve observed, using the thought framework of whether or not we’re deserving of what we want is completely unhelpful and overcomplicated, so I’m offering you a new way to approach whatever it is you desire most.   Join me on this episode to hear the two different ways most people struggle with the idea of being deserving, and how to start auditing your relationship with deserving energy. I’m sharing examples of how both entitlement and unworthiness manifest in your life, and my top tips for creating an empowering experience for yourself as you go after what you want.    Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/92

2/27/24 • 23:59

The thoughts we think really do matter, and they have the power to transform our experience of anything in our lives. Whatever you’re going through right now, you have the ability to think to yourself, “This is happening for me…” and when you do, you can approach your problems with a whole new perspective.   Discover how this one thought can totally transform your experience of what you perceive to be a negative situation. I’m showing you how to spot where you need to think more thoughts like this, and giving you everything you need to get positive results out of any situation you’re dealing with.   Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/91

2/20/24 • 23:27

Nobody is going to give you permission to set big goals, to chase big dreams, and to live an over-the-top life. Nobody is going to tell you it’s OK for you to want and have more for your life; you have to give that permission to yourself. You don’t have to need something to go after it, you can chase a dream simply because you want to, and I’m showing you how this week.   If you know you want more for your life, but you are hesitating to go after it, this episode is for you. This week, I show you why you need to give yourself permission to want and have more and what needs to change in order for you to pursue a life you truly love. Discover why up-leveling is available to you right now and how to stop tolerating parts of your life you don’t love and start truly loving your life.      Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/90

2/6/24 • 39:38

Most people think of business development as a massive challenge. However, that’s just because they never learned how to create clients and money on demand. So, if you want to develop a stronger, more profitable business, this is a must-listen episode.   Tune in this week to dive deep into business development. I’m sharing exactly what you need to do to create a thriving business, a blueprint for developing your business effectively, and you’ll learn tons of practical tips and strategies that you can go implement in your own business right now!   Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/89

1/23/24 • 93:34

You might think it’s too late to set your intentions and figure out a plan for 2024, however, now is the perfect time to kick your year into action. It’s a New Year, we’re back at it after a break, and today, I’m walking you through an evaluation of 2023 and setting you up for achieving your goals in 2024.   Tune in this week to review, reset, and focus your attention for the year ahead. You’ll learn how to perform a comprehensive evaluation of 2023, and I’m showing you how to decide what you want to leave behind, what you want to take with you, and how you want to do things differently in the coming year.   Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/88

1/16/24 • 29:51

The holidays are a time of hope, but there are some hard truths about hope that we need to discuss. Contrary to what you might believe, hope is not a helpful emotion. If you’re spending this season hoping and wishing for something different in your life, this is not a strategy, it isn’t serving you, and it’s time to try something else.   Tune in this week to discover why hope is not a strategy, how it has you relinquishing responsibility, and why operating from hope isn’t going to bring what you want into your life. Discover why hope doesn’t create results, how to see where you’re stuck in the emotion of hope, and how to start operating from more empowering emotions that will help you actually create your desired results.   Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelessstressedlawyer.com/87

12/12/23 • 30:51