That's Helpful with Ed Stott

Fallen out of love with your job? Can't get an interview? Don't have the right connections? Not sure what to do next? The next 40mins are just for you! Global career coach Claire Seeber is answering your top career dillemas. Claire's first episode resonated with SO MANY of you that she's joined our little self improvement club once again to answer your trickiest career questions - all things I’ve been wondering & I'm sure you have too:  - I no longer feel like my job is right for me. What do I do? - When is it time to quit? - Why can't I get an interview or a job offer despite numerous attempts? - Is it really 'who you know' that matters? - I've done loads of things in my career. How do I link them all together in my work AND on my CV? You're going to find this SO helpful. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Claire on Instagram or via her website BOOKS Less Hustle, More Happy PODCASTSPart 1: 5 Steps to Finding Fulfilling Work with Claire Seeber Ash Ambirge's Middle Finger Project on That's HelpfulClare's Podcast: Eating Your Cake TooThis Is Work

10/3/24 • 46:54

How do you split them - especially when one of you earns more than the other, if the worst happens - who gets what & how do you talk about them without killing the spark? Today’s topic is a contentious one - one that so many couples will have come across & searched for a solution - I’m talking finances, not just yours but your partners too. These are the big questions that journalist & author Nicole Haddow has answered in her latest book Couple Goals: Building a strong financial future and an even better relationship. SA: The podcast is now also available on Youtube if you'd like to see our smiling faces while you listen! CONNECT WITH US Connect with That's Helpful & Ed Stott on Instagram. Find Nicole on Instagram & via her website. BOOK Couple Goals: Building a strong financial future and an even better relationship Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com

9/25/24 • 22:53

A Life Brief will align your daily actions with your ambition & values. So how do you create one? Bonnie Wan is a brand strategist - she’s spent the last three decades helping huge brands like BMW, Pepsi and Heinz get clear about their purpose so they can grow and innovate. Almost 15 years ago, she turned these skills to her own life when she was going through what she describes as a ‘crisis of meaning’ - it saved her marriage & reinvigorated her career. She’s now distilled this process into what she calls The Life Brief - a tool for aligning your daily actions with your ambition and values. Today, she’s going to walk us through the process. Her book is called The Life Brief: A Playbook For No Regrets Living. PSA: The podcast is now also available on Youtube if you'd like to see our smiling faces while you listen! Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with That's Helpful & Ed Stott on Instagram. Find Bonnie on Instagram & via her website. BOOK The Life Brief: A Playbook For No Regrets Living TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Background 06:35 Taking Time and Art 11:05 Deep Desires and Values 18:53 Creating Declarative Statements 21:17 Creating a Life Brief: Gaining Clarity on What You Want 24:14 From Clarity to Action: Turning the Life Brief into Reality 31:46 Life Briefs for Individuals and Groups: Deepening Connections 36:52 The Evolution of Desires: Revisiting and Redefining the Life Brief

9/19/24 • 43:57

Does manifesting work? Neuroscientist Professor Joel Pearson says yes! Here’s why…  By this point we’re all familiar with the concept of manifesting & if you’re listening to this podcast I’m guessing you’ve tried it too. But as you know our little self improvement club is FIRMLY backed by science - so what does it say? Professor Joel Pearson is a neuroscientist who’s been studying how the brain processes unconscious information for 25 years. He explains why it works, what’s happening in our brains when we do it & how we can make the process even more powerful. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram Find Prof Joel on Instagram & via his website BOOKS The Intuition Toolkit  PODCASTS 5 Essential Rules for Using Your Intuition TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Definition of Manifesting 02:19 Priming: Changing Perception and Making Information Salient 06:27 The Role of Priming in Manifesting 10:16 The Power of Mental Imagery in Manifesting 13:11 The Influence of Self-Talk in Manifesting 17:42 The Impact of Visualization Abilities on Manifesting 20:45 The Benefits of Optimism in Manifesting 23:39 The Illusion of Material Possessions 26:26 Avoiding Mistakes in Manifesting 30:21 The Influence of Placebo Effect and Priming 37:19 Belief and Self-Identity in Manifesting

9/12/24 • 38:54

Being the hardest worker doesn’t always pay off. So how do we channel all of that time and effort into something that does?  Well Claire Seeber is the author of Less Hustle, More Happy. She’s a career consultant who’s spent the last 16 years in HR across many roles & multiple countries, she’s had a front row seat watching the difference between the people who get ahead & those who don’t.  Spoiler alert - it’s often not the hardest worker, nor the most technically qualified that’s rising to the top - Claire has unlocked the blueprint for being valued, seen and fulfilled at work & she’s identified those unhelpful career habits that may well be the reason why you’re stuck feeling incredibly busy but not necessarily satisfied. Got a career question for Claire? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Claire on Instagram or via her website BOOKS Less Hustle, More Happy

9/5/24 • 41:07

Where does your kids' temperament come from, how strict should you be & is it okay to be a 'good enough' parent? Honestly, the last few months have truly humbled me - being a parent is HARD and with so much advice out there, it’s VERY tricky to know what’s best for your children. So what IS good for your kids? Luckily, Dr Norman Swan has done the work for us - from birth to ten years old in his new book So You Want To Know What’s Good For Your Kids. If you’re an Aussie, you’ll know his name - he trained in pediatrics and he’s also a dad, so he knows the struggle!! We talk through some of the biggest takeaways - everything from where our kids' temperament comes from, how to strike the right balance when it comes to discipline and what it means to be a ‘good enough parent’. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. BOOKS So You Want To Know What's Good For Your Kids TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Challenges of Parenting 05:15 Learning Your Baby and Parenting for Life 08:10 Crying Babies and the Evidence Behind It 10:32 The Importance of Pregnancy and Breastfeeding 15:31 Breastfeeding and Introducing Solid Foods 19:09 Introducing Solids and Allergies in Children 23:34 Understanding Your Child's Temperament 27:29 The Canvas of Genes and Environment 29:18 The Importance of Consistency and Setting Expectations 34:09 The Concept of 'Good Enough' Parenting 38:01 The Impact of Parental Match Fitness 40:08 Cleaning the House and Order in Parenting 43:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts  

8/29/24 • 43:38

Aging can be a fairly daunting experience & when the topic comes to mind most of us try to move on  and clear it from our thoughts as quickly as possible. But award-winning journalist Melissa Doyle is urging us to take an active role in aging to push back against ageism and make the experience healthier and more connected for us all. In this conversation Mel shares her aging toolkit & the lessons she’s learnt from the experts on how to normalize aging and embrace some of our most challenging and transformative years. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Mel on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS How To Age Against The Machine

8/22/24 • 34:35

So often we prioritize romantic relationships above all others - whether it’s searching for a ‘soul mate’, choosing who we spend our time with or who takes priority in our lives…But according to Rhaina Cohen, the idea that a romantic partner is the only kind of relationship that can fulfill our emotional needs and bring meaning to our life is an incorrect one.  Rhaina is an award winning producer and editor for NPR and she’s the Author of The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Rhaina on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:00 - The relationship that made Rhaina re-think friendship 00:02:28 - The similarities between falling in love 00:03:46 - The hierarchy of relationships 00:07:00 - Why the phrase ‘just friends’ is BS 00:09:23 - What defines a relationship when sex doesn’t 00:10:10 - What we’re missing out on by not prioritising friendship 00:12:50 - The lessons romantic relationships & friendships can take from each other 00:14:54 - The scripts of relationships 00:17:17 - How to make deep friendships 00:20:10 - Other people’s reactions to close friendships 00:22:00 - Friendship break-ups 00:24:42 - How to nurture friendships to deepen them 00:27:00 - Reimaging friendship can help reinvent your life 00:29:57 - Dealing jealousy over close friendships 00:32:49 - Marriage is not a monopoly on closeness  

8/15/24 • 34:46

When it comes to role models, toddlers may not be the first people you think of. Their reputation for tantrums, impulsivity, distractedness and general chaos doesn’t put them at the top of most people’s list. But Hasan Merali says you’re wrong. He’s a pediatric emergency doctor and the author of Sleep Well, Take Risks, Squish The Peas: Secrets from the Science of Toddlers for a Happier and More Successful Way of Life. In this episode, he shares some of toddler's ultimate life hacks that could help everything from your work, to your relationship with food and even sleep! Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Hasan on Twitter & via his website. BOOKS Sleep Well, Take Risks, Squish the Peas TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:10 - Why are toddlers great role models? 00:03:00 - The masters of learning and building relationships 00:04:05 - Why toddlers’ poor reputation is unfounded 00:05:14 - Why toddlers’ brains are different to adults 00:07:15 - Lessons in laughter 00:09:19 - Finding joy 00:10:47 - Being kind 00:13:08 - Asking questions 00:16:06 - Setting boundaries 00:19:30 - Talking to yourself in the third person 00:23:10 - Toddlers are the ultimate intuitive eaters 00:26:51 - The sleep routine  

8/8/24 • 29:46

Back in 2015, journalist Gemma Hartley wrote an article for Harper’s Bazaar that went viral. The article was about emotional labor & it really hit home for so many people - in fact 2 BILLION people read it. It led to Gemma writing a book on the topic & coming up with some real solutions to this incredibly familiar experience. Gemma is the author of Fed Up; Navigating & Redefining Emotional Labour For Good. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Gemma on Instagram⁠ & via her website. BOOKS Fed Up; Navigating & Redefining Emotional Labour For Good. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:55 - The Mother’s Day that led Gemma to write the book 00:03:30 - What is emotional labor? 00:06:35 - Society assumes women are the default parent  00:08:00 - The mindset of ‘helping out’  00:10:40 - What happened when Gemma’s husband became the full time at home parent 00:12:30 - The response to ‘stop being such a control freak’ 00:15:00 - Setting shared standards 00:19:00 - Emotional labor for men in the dating period 00:21:12 - Why Gemma no longer asks for ‘help’ at home 00:25:11 - How to explain the problem without it becoming a fight 00:30:18 - Why taking on the emotional labor can make partners’ lives richer 00:33:15 - Having the expectation that this is going to require more than a single conversation 00:36:16 - Taking on the emotional labor of addressing emotional labor (!!) 00:40:30 - It’s okay to leave if someone isn’t meeting you where you are  

8/1/24 • 42:40

Often we see so many traits & behaviors as directly tied to our morality - including those around how we look, feel, think and act. But journalist & author Rebecca Seal says many of the things we’ve been told are bad are actually just as useful as the good. Her latest book is called Be Bad, Better: How Not Trying So Hard Will Set You Free. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com You can also find the video version of the podcast on Youtube here. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Bex on Instagram & via ⁠her website. BOOKS Be Bad, Better: How Not Trying So Hard Will Set You Free ARTICLES Rebecca’s original article for The Guardian PODCASTS Unlearning Shame with Dr Devon PriceHow to Work Solo without Losing Your Mind TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:24 - Rebecca’s own experience with perfectionism 00:11:39 - Why not trying so hard is empowering 00:18:00 - Why certain behaviors are tied to morality 00:27:10 - Embracing laziness 00:33:30 - Mindlessness over mindfulness 00:37:48 - Getting comfortable with negative emotions 00:48:00 - Accepting being human 00:50:50 - Where did these thoughts come from in the first place? 00:52:20 - Manufactured insecurity

7/25/24 • 55:27

Grief is one of those things that many of us still have no idea how to talk about. Whether we’ve lost someone or know someone who has lost someone it can be very uncomfortable to know what to share, when & even how to just broach the subject. This struggle is one Cariad Lloyd knows well. After losing her dad at 15, she says she only really started to understand her grief when she was 34 and pregnant and decided to start her award winning podcast Griefcast. Running since 2016, the podcast has helped a whole host of people to process & verbalize their grief & Cariad’s book encompasses some of those lessons. Cariad is a comedian & author of You Are Not Alone. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Cariad on Instagram⁠ & via her website. BOOKS You Are Not Alone PODCASTS Griefcast The Grief Gang Good Mourning TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:30 - What is the grief club? 00:02:30 - Why did Cariad start Griefcast in 2016? 00:06:00 - What enabled Cariad to start to grieve? 00:08:30 - Myths about grief 00:10:30 - Victorian time limits on grief 00:12:24 - What is grief?  00:14:20 - The physical sensations of grief 00:16:20 - How processing grief changed Cariad 00:18:19 - Grief never goes away & that’s okay 00:24:09 -  Why the 5 stages of grief are complete BS 00:30:30 - Dual process theory 00:34:00 - Why we should all be talking about death more 00:38:00 - What to say & do for someone who’s grieving 00:44:05 - The best thing to do / say if an acquaintance loses someone  

7/18/24 • 50:03

We all know how essential a good night’s sleep can be for our health, but whilst we might be prioritising our bedtime routine, our partner’s night time habits may be the thing that’s costing us a perfect night’s sleep. Whether they’re a champion snorer, elite level fidgeter or they just have a completely different sleep schedule to you - it doesn’t take much to affect our eight hours. So what can we do about it? How can we sleep better as a couple & is it time for a sleep divorce? Dr Wendy Troxel, is licenced clinical psychologist specially trained in sleep medicine & a senior behavioural scientist at the RAND Corporation think tank and the author of Sharing the Covers: Every Couple’s Guide to Better Sleep. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Wendy on Instagram & via ⁠her website. BOOKS Sharing the Covers: Every Couple’s Guide to Better Sleep TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:11 Why this is Wendy’s area of expertise 00:02:17 What does the research say about sleeping together or separately? 00:04:30 How men & women sleep differently 00:07:45 The benefits of sharing a bed 00:10:35 How we’ve slept throughout history 00:12:53 How important sleep is to our relationship 00:14:30 When to re-evaluate sleeping in the same bed 00:18:30 How to start experimenting with sleep as a couple 00:23:40 The stigma against night owls 00:27:28 Why we should see sleep as a social behaviour 00:31:51 Sleep as a public health issue 00:32:48 How to manage pets & kids in the bed 00:38:00 The one thing to take away 00:39:39 Sleep & morality

7/11/24 • 43:05

If you’re anything like me, ageing is probably something you try not to think about. But it doesn’t have to be this way - we can embrace ageing, help to combat ageism & make the most of all the brilliant things that come with it, without denying of course that it’s not all wonderful. So how do we do it? Well, lucky for you, my guest today is an expert in this.  Anne Karpf is a writer, sociologist, Professor of Life Writing and Culture at London Metropolitan University and the author of How to Age. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Anne on Twitter & via ⁠her website. BOOKS How to Age

7/4/24 • 29:36

A good skincare routine can be a truly fantastic thing, but with SO many products on the market making wild claims, it is incredibly hard to know where you should be focussing your time, not to mention your money. Fear not though, Dr Michelle Wong is here to help - you might know here as Lab Muffin Beauty Science on social media where she’s been debunking the beauty industry since 2011. She’s a cosmetic chemist & her latest book is called the Science of Beauty - we’re going to work through some of the beauty myths & get you what you really need to know about the products you use everyday and what actually works. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Michelle on Instagram & via ⁠her website. BOOKS The Science of Beauty TIMESTAMPS00:00:00 Intro 00:01:20 How Michelle started researching the chemistry of beauty 00:03:55 Does more expensive mean more effective? 00:05:45 Can we trust the research that brands quote about products? 00:07:30 How can we tell if a product is working? 00:10:30 How to choose a good cleanser 00:13:00 Should you use a cloth or tool with the cleanser? 00:14:20 How to choose a moisturizer 00:17:52 What to look for in a sunscreen & how often to apply 00:22:45 How to use spray sunscreen 00:23:30 If your makeup has sunscreen included, do you need to apply sunscreen? 00:24:37 Other things to do to protect your skin from the sun  00:27:00 How important is sleep to our skin? 00:28:30 Do skin supplements work? 00:31:10 How to fade a scar 00:32:30 Dealing with stretch marks 00:33:55 Michelle’s top 3 products 00:35:50 Sleeping to avoid wrinkles 00:38:15 Michelle’s top 3 active ingredients 00:40:00 Michelle’s top 3 tips  

6/27/24 • 43:02

The saying goes - win the morning, win the day. But, if you’re anything like me - your morning will be determined by your inbox, who calls first or what’s been dropped in your lap that day. Productivity expert Donna McGeorge says this way of working is a big mistake and could see the quality of your work suffer, not to mention the extra hours spent at your desk later in the day. So how can we take back control, maximise our time & spend less of it working?  Donna is my guest today & she’s the author of The First 2 Hours: Make Better Use of Your Most Valuable Time. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Donna on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS The First 2 Hours: Make Better Use of Your Most Valuable Time PODCASTSHow To Supercharge Your Day with ChatGPT Productivity Hacks The Happiness Lab: Ask for help...spread happiness TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:10 - Why the first 2 hours are so important 00:03:06 - How to best structure your day for max productivity 00:05:30 - Tools for structuring your day & protecting your mornings 00:09:30 - How to write a to-do list that’s actually helpful 00:13:30 - How to tailor your day to your circadian rhythm 00:21:00 - Don’t give 100%, 100% of the time 00:26:40 - Bad habits that are costing your productivity 00:29:30 - Being mindful of the time you’ve gained back 00:34:00 - How to avoid social media stealing your saved time 00:36:00 - Being kind to your future self  

6/20/24 • 38:23

If I were to ask you how healthy you are right now, what would you say? Would you tell me about your social life? How many friends have you connected with in the last week? Or how connected you feel with your local community? Probably not, but Kasley Killam says that social health is vital to our physical health & by ignoring it, we’re missing out on some huge benefits. She’s the Author of The Art and Science of Connection: Why Social Health Is the Missing Key to Living Longer, Healthier, and Happier. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Kasley on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS The Art and Science of Connection: Why Social Health Is the Missing Key to Living Longer, Healthier, and Happier. TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:20 - Kasley’s definition of social health 00:03:29 - The importance of social health 00:05:35 - How social connection changes us physically 00:09:50 - Quality over quantity 00:11:15 - Signs of a good social connection 00:13:14 - How to do a social audit 00:17:34 - How to deepen connections 00:20:30 - The 4 social styles 00:26:00 - The ebb & flow of relationships throughout our lives? 00:29:00 - How to find your people 00:32:33 - The common barriers to making genuine connections 00:37:00 - When it’s time to let a friendship go  

6/13/24 • 47:09

If you’ve ever shared that you’re feeling it, the most common reaction is ‘oh my gosh me too’. I’m talking about Imposter Syndrome - it’s brutal, unhelpful and feels horrible. So why do we experience it and how can we tackle it? That’s exactly what we’re going to take down today - by the way this episode was requested by Jess on Instagram - if there’s something you’re struggling with follow me @thatshelpfulpod and send me a DM, because if you’re going through it likely many of us out here are too! My guest today is the wonderful Dr Jessamy Hibberd, she‘s a Clinical Psychologist & the Author The Imposter Cure: How to stop feeling like a fraud and escape the mind-trap of imposter syndrome. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Jessamy on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS The Imposter Cure: How to stop feeling like a fraud and escape the mind-trap of imposter syndrome OTHER MENTIONS Forget the Dream Job, You Need a Good Enough Job- TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:22 - What is imposter syndrome? 00:02:28 - How is imposter syndrome different from normal self doubt? 00:04:20 - How many people suffer with imposter syndrome? 00:05:45 - Imposter syndrome isn’t just a problem in the workplace 00:06:45 - Can you have imposter syndrome & not know? 00:08:05 - The link between imposter syndrome and perfectionism 00:10:55 - How perfected life is now 00:13:23 - The common types of imposter syndrome 00:20:00 - How can we start to overcome it? 00:25:00 - Keeping a running document of achievements 00:27:48 - Thoughts aren’t facts 00:30:45 - The balance between humility & imposter syndrome 00:35:00 - Sharing these feelings 00:37:50 - The stories you share help you understand yourself 00:40:00 - Jessamy’s experience of imposter syndrome 00:42:33 - The importance of remembering you’re human  

6/6/24 • 46:28

So many of us expect to become less happy as we age, BUT science says you couldn’t be more wrong - you’ll likely become happier as you get into old age, you’ll be more content and more able to live in the present moment. This phenomenon is called the happiness curve and it’s a concept that award winning journalist Jonathon Rauch is incredibly passionate about. Jonathan is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution in Washington and the author of The Happiness Curve, Why Life Gets Better After 50. So what does the research say, how can we avoid the midlife crisis we hear so much about & how might the happiness curve help us to reframe the way we approach aging? CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Jonathon on Twitter⁠ & via his website. BOOKS The Happiness Curve, Why Life Gets Better After 50 Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:16 - How did Jonathon discover the happiness curve? 00:04:45 - How does the happiness curve play out in different countries? 00:07:24 - The forecasting error 00:13:13 - Why so many of us feel ashamed of the midlife slump 00:17:37 - Step don’t leap 00:23:35 - How to overcome the time trap of the happiness curve 00:26:26 - The happiness curve is fuelled by false assumptions around age 00:31:21 - It isn’t just teenagers who go through transitional times of life 00:33:31 - The power in giving yourself time to reset 00:35:51 - The things that truly bring life satisfaction 00:38:12 - The one thing to remember  

5/30/24 • 40:13

Gratitude is one of those words that’s everywhere - particularly if you’re interested in self-improvement & your health. BUT what does the science actually say about introducing a little more gratitude into our lives & the best ways to do it? Well, Professor Fuschia Sirois is a psychologist from the University of Durham who’s been studying gratitude for much of her career. Today we’re going to get answers to those questions and take a look at how gratitude can bring us closer to our future selves. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Fuschia on Twitter⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS Procrastination: What It Is, Why It's A Problem & What You Can Do About It Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com TIMESTAMPS  00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:05 - What is gratitude? 00:03:29 - Why do some people have more gratitude than others? 00:06:27 - When did we start to study gratitude? 00:08:47 - Gratitude’s influence on health 00:10:46 - Impact on gratitude for people with fibromyalgia  00:12:46 - Gratitude & future orientation 00:16:33 - The benefits of being future oriented 00:19:50 - Simple ways to incorporate more gratitude 00:25:06 - How to practice group gratitude 00:29:10 - How gratitude helps us find meaning 00:29:47 - What to focus your gratitude on 00:32:15 - Gratitude pitfalls 00:33:37 - Acknowledging joy in other ways 00:34:51 - Gratitude & society 00:37:45 - The one thing to remember  

5/23/24 • 39:38

We know how fabulous getting out in the water can be for our mental health & overall well-being but there’s a growing body of research showing that cold water can be absolutely transformative, whether it's from your shower, pool or  the ocean. So what is it ACTUALLY doing to our bodies & how can we start to reap the benefits in our own lives? Dr Mark Harper is a consultant anesthetist at Sussex University hospitals in the UK and a leading expert in the prevention of hypothermia in surgical patients and in the therapeutic uses of cold-water adaptation and cold water swimming. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Mark on Instagram & via his website. BOOKS Chill, The Cold Water Swim Cure OTHER THINGS MENTIONED 100 Days of Vitamin SeaThat’s Helpful - Drawn To Water? Blue Mind is Why TIMESTAMPS  00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:26 - When is cold good for us & when is it bad? 00:02:14 - When did Mark become interested in this? 00:05:05 - Why are we only just discovering the benefits? 00:06:52 - The benefits of cold water exposure 00:10:00 - What’s happening in our bodies when we’re exposed? 00:11:38 - Cold water exposure keeps you in the moment 00:13:07 - The optimum conditions 00:15:00 - Why is 3 mins the ideal time? 00:19:06 - Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable 00:19:53 - How to utilise cold showers for health benefits 00:21:47 - Things to avoid 00:24:13 - The side-effects of cold water exposure 00:26:10 - Should you combine a sauna with cold water exposure? 00:28:47 - The main take-aways 00:30:00 - Cold water exposure for migraines 00:34:27 - Cold water exposure as prep for surgery

5/16/24 • 38:07

How many times have you referred to yourself as ‘too old’ or ‘too young’ for something? Have you blamed your forgetfulness on a ‘senior moment’ or your sore neck on ‘being over 30’? I’ll be honest, before I found out about Ashton Applewhite’s work, they were comments I made ALL the time. But, remarks like these as well as a whole host of other behaviors are acts of ageism - something Ashton calls the ‘last socially sanctioned prejudice’ & it’s damaging to everyone because guess what? We’re all aging! So how can we push back against this discrimination and age positively in a society that’s obsessed with youth? That’s what we’re going to tackle today. Ashton, is a journalist, pro aging radical and the author of This Chair Rocks - A Manifesto Against Anti-Aging. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Ashton on ⁠Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism OTHER MENTIONS Old School: Anti-Ageism Clearing House Ed’s programme for ABC RN including Holdsworth Homeshare Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com TIMESTAMPS  00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:20 - Ashton’s evolving relationship with aging 00:02:42 - The truth about aging 00:06:30 - The damage of generalisations 00:09:30 - Where does our fear of aging come from? 00:11:30 - The impact of social media on ageism  00:13:30 - The hidden harms of ageism  00:17:00 - How to push back against ageism  00:24:00 - Striving for a world where age is less important 00:26:30 - The importance of having friends of all ages  00:28:27 - Ageism is not a given 00:31:05 - True diversity 00:34:20 - Ageism is a part of many more conversations now 00:39:15 - The one thing to remember 

5/9/24 • 43:56

If you’ve been listening to the podcast for a little while now, you'll know I am pregnant at the moment - in fact, very pregnant! So in this episode, I’ve invited my friend and fellow podcaster Kylie Lately to talk about all things pregnancy: navigating the transition into motherhood & learning about the term matrescence the tools I’ve learnt to mentally prepare for birth (spoiler alert: they're really helpful)  the podcasts and books I’ve loved my own honest experience of pregnancy It’s a very relaxed conversation but I’m hoping you’ll find it helpful and perhaps make you feel a little less alone if you’re also expecting. If you're not, please share it with the pregnant people in your life. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com. CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Kylie on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. PODCASTS I Am with Kylie LatelyChild BOOKSHypnobirthing: Positive Ways To Make Your Birth Better The Positive Birth Book The Birth MapIna May’s Guide To Childbirth  

5/2/24 • 54:50

This week Earth Day asks us to focus on climate change & the things we can do to make a difference, but it can often feel like an overwhelming problem with minimal solutions & maximum anxiety. So how can we take these paralysing emotions that leave us wanting to bury our head in the sand & turn them into something positive that’s actually helpful?  Associate Professor Leslie Davenport is a Climate Psychology Consultant. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Leslie on Facebook & via ⁠her website. BOOKS All The Feelings Under The Sun: How to Deal With Climate ChangeEmotional Resiliency in the Era of Climate Change TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:52 - Why is this Leslie’s focus? 00:02:00 - Why is it important that we talk about climate change? 00:04:24 - Why is uncertainty so hard for us to deal with as humans? 00:07:33 - Anxiety Vs. climate anxiety 00:10:50 - The window of tolerance 00:13:17 - Breath practices 00:15:55 - Noticing mental habits & internal stories 00:16:46 - Figuring out how you can help 00:21:15 - Noticing if you’re outside of your window of tolerance 00:23:15 - Helping children work through their anxiety 00:27:05 - How to take the negative emotions & make them useful 00:27:51 - Will taking action ease our guilt?

4/25/24 • 32:45

You probably know Taryn Brumfitt from her fabulous, viral before & after photo on Facebook in 2013. The two images of Taryn side by side - one in a bikini pos-ed on stage & the other relaxed & nude launched a global movement.  Since then Taryn has release two international films, published 3 best selling books, was named Australian of the Year 2023 & has even been invited to the White House. She’s now turning her attention to children with the release of her kids book - Chico The Schnauzer. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Taryn on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS Chico The Schnauzer Embrace Your Body DOCUMENTARIES Embrace The Documentary Embrace Kids OTHER MENTIONSIntuitive Eating 101

4/18/24 • 27:22

So often our focus here is on things that we can do as individuals to improve our lives and those of people around us, but there are some things that cannot be fixed by the individual. Regardless, society tells us that we are responsible for massive global crises like climate change, marginalised people are responsible for their own oppression and people living in poverty just need to work harder. Whilst many of us rationally know these things are not true, we struggle to let go of systemic shame. Social psychologist Dr Devon Price is on a mission to help us with this very unhelpful feeling & he’s the author of Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Devon on Instagram⁠ & via his Substack. BOOKS Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:00 - Devon’s own experience with shame 00:03:32 - Personal shame Vs. Systemic shame 00:06:00 - How systemic shame manifests 00:08:15 - Signs that we might be dealing with systemic shame 00:10:21 - The behaviours we display when we’re dealing with this shame 00:13:11 - How did we get here? 00:16:15 - How guilt fuels this sense of shame 00:18:00 - Shame as a distraction 00:19:15 - Systemic shame is not an effective tool for change 00:23:48 - The alternative to systemic shame 00:26:58 - How to ease shame on a personal level 00:30:46 - Letting go of perfectionism  

4/11/24 • 33:29

Before I fell pregnant, I honestly couldn’t have taken less interest in pregnancy, birth or babies & for the first two thirds of my pregnancy my attitude remained the same. Until I read a book & that book sparked an obsession and sent me deep down the rabbit hole and I am now utterly obsessed with the science & magic of birth. The book I read was about hypnobirthing. If you like me, before I read the book, think that means I’ll have to invite a man with a pendulum and a shiny black cape to my birth. You couldn’t be more wrong. Learning about hypnobirthing and reimagining the possibilities for birth has left me feeling empowered and dare I say it - excited for this huge life event. So if you have a pregnant person in your life - please send them this conversation, they are going to be eternally grateful to you. The woman responsible for my new obsession is Siobhan Miller, she’s the Founder of the Positive Birth Company. In this episode, we’re going to give you an introduction to hypnobirthing & teach you some practical tools that will absolutely make your birth better.- Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram. Find Siobhan on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ & The Positive Birth Company. MORE INFORMATION The Positive Birth CompanyPositive Birth Company Online CoursesThe Freya App BOOKS Hypnobirthing: Practical Ways To Make Your Birth Better PODCASTS The Expectation Effect: Transform Your Mindset TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:19 - How Siobhan came across hypnobirthing 00:04:04 - Changing the way we think about birth 00:06:45 - What is hypnobirthing? 00:11:00 - The science & evidence behind hypnobirthing 00:17:15 - Why language around birth is so important  00:22:35 - Reframing your mindset around birth 00:23:15 - The hormones at play during birth 00:31:00 - Game-changing breathing techniques 00:40:38 - How to help your body to push  00:43:30 - The BRAIN decision making framework 00:50:20 - Kate’s 2 top tips  

4/4/24 • 53:25

The gap between our expectation of where we think we should be at 30 & where we actually are can lead us to a pretty dark place. Today - we’re going to tear down those expectations and get you back on your path, not the one you think you should be on, regardless of which milestone birthday is filling you with dread. My guest today is Kate Berski - she’s on a crusade to tackle 30-phobia after feeling the same wobble in her late twenties but going on to find that her best years were ahead of her - fulfilling relationships, growing a successful business that she went onto sell for $150 million and finding true life satisfaction. This episode is brought to you by Youfoodz, for $200 of your first 5 boxes use the code HELPFUL or order via⁠⁠⁠ ⁠this link⁠⁠⁠⁠. CONNECT WITH US Connect with⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram. Find Kate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ & TikTok. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com PODCASTSThe Science Behind Your Weirdest Thoughts TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:02:08 - 30 is not the deadline, it’s the start line 00:07:30 - Why is 30 often perceived to be the deadline? 00:11:00 - The truth about 30 00:13:00 - The changing nature of careers   00:14:28 - How to break free of 30-phobia 00:21:27 - How to back yourself in choosing what you truly want to do 00:23:50 - The expectation gap 00:27:51 - Being mindful of self talk 00:29:57 - The ‘should’ test 00:35:00 - The ‘yes and’, ‘yes but’ strategy 00:37:50 - Avoiding burnout 00:40:04 - Getting great at taking rejection 00:44:11 - The arrival fallacy 00:48:00 - The one thing to remember

3/28/24 • 53:50

So many of us are keen to reduce the amount we drink or even cut it out altogether. But, kicking the evening glass of wine or the knock off beers can be INCREDIBLY hard. So what if you could tweak your nutrition to make reducing your drinking easier & boost your health in the process? Dr Brooke Scheller is a clinical nutritionist, the founder of Functional Sobriety and the author of How to Eat to Change The Way You Drink. This episode is brought to you by Youfoodz, for $200 of your first 5 boxes use the code HELPFUL or order via⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠this link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. CONNECT WITH US Connect with⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram. Find Dr Brooke on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & via her website.⁠ BOOK How to Eat to Change The Way You Drink PODCASTS Breaking Nutritional Myths: Unveiling Food Industry Secrets with Dr Marion Nestle Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com TIMESTAMPS00:00:00 - Intro 00:02:30 - Dr Brooke’s journey with alcohol 00:07:52 - The effect of alcohol on our health 00:11:40 - The gut microbiome & alcohol 00:15:05 - How alcohol affects hormones 00:18:32 - Why a lot of our beliefs around alcohol consumption are false 00:21:57 - The 3 types of drinker 00:29:00 - Why protein is VITAL when it comes to easing drinking 00:33:22 - How to add more protein to your diet 00:37:30 - How not to replace alcohol with sugar 00:39:40 - Functional foods to add into your diet 00:42:44 - How long it should take before you feel the benefits 00:46:06 - Helpful supplements to add in 00:47:23 - Follow your intuition  

3/21/24 • 51:20

How often do you get creative? For me, it’s actually not very often & I’m sure that’s true for most of us. But Caitlin Marshall & Lizzie Rose say it absolutely should be a priority in all of our lives as an essential tool for supporting good mental health - they even argue its science backed powers make it something that should be prescribed just like medication. They’re the founders of Makeshift - an organisation that helps to deliver creative first aid to people who need it most. They’ve worked with disaster affected communities, juvenile justice centres, injured workers and employers across the country. In this episode you’ll learn the science behind why our brains love being creative & some of the creative prescriptions you can start to introduce into your life whether you have a minute, 10 or 30 to play with! This episode is brought to you by Youfoodz, for $200 of your first 5 boxes use the code HELPFUL or order via⁠⁠⁠ ⁠this link⁠⁠⁠⁠. CONNECT WITH US Connect with⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram.Find Makeshift on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ & via their website. BOOK Creative First Aid Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:02:51 - What is creative first aid? 00:05:17 - The neuroscience of creativity 00:07:41 - Anything sensory is meditative 00:09:00 - How creativity interacts with our nervous system 00:12:30 - What is the window of tolerance? 00:15:30 - Joy’s two way relationship 00:16:45 - Glimmer Hunting 00:20:40 - The different kinds of creative prescriptions 00:22:15 - Quick relief prescriptions 00:24:00 - 15-30 minute prescriptions 00:25:30 - Longer prescriptions

3/14/24 • 30:55