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Closeness

San Diego's number one rated sex, intimacy and love coach takes you on a passionate journey through all the forbidden questions you've always wanted answers to. Get clear, sensual, guidance to help you learn about your body, experience more passion and uncover hotter chemistry. Learn how to do all of it simply by tuning in and applying what you learned. If you're currently experiencing heartbreak, emotional pain or betrayal there are plenty additional episodes to help you get through it all. Tari's unique blend of wisdom, intelligence and humor takes complex and often uncomfortable subjects and breaks them down into something you can do something with, tonight! A must for anyone who wants to elevate themselves or their intimate relationship to the next level. The Closeness podcast is also a supplement to real world in-person and virtual coaching sessions. To schedule an appointment for you and your partner, fill out an intake form at www.cravecloseness.com/intake

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10 ways women can feel more sexually desirable and connected in and out of the bedroom
Chapters: 0:00 Intro 4:45 Speak up for yourself 12:00 Speaking unconsciously for obnoxious lengths of time 20:26 Making her come well and relax often triggers women to talk 22:24 Learning to be open and in a receptive mode to welcome intimacy 25:58 Don't have sex with people you don't like sleeping with 27:02 Beating up your man for mistakes from his past that he has remedied 33:05 Not letting insecurities get in the way of a good time 36:38 Toning down the arrogance, entitlement and aggressiveness 40:00 Talking about and bringing your fantasies to life 43:00 Coming to terms with the duality of your beauty 54:30 Actually do stuff to your man 59:00 Bonus: Stop grabbing our D's like it's a stress toy 1:00:48 Bonus: You really can do more. Your advances are almost always welcome Intimacy and closeness are not always about the hottest sex tip or latest magazine article for instant results. Sometimes it's about being a better person. Here are 10 strategies that are sure to not only make you a better human, but will also make your man feel more open and receptive to having sex with you.
61:44 09/04/2022
Staying hard, getting it up, finishing too early, ED, PE, and other fascinating subjects for men and women
The most difficult subject for any man to think about much less discuss is likely to be: keeping it up, getting it up and finishing too quickly. This is an episode you'll want to listen to with your partner because there are tools, tips and tricks in here for both men and women. Don't skip out on incredible intimacy when the answers can be found right here! CHAPTERS 0:00 Introductions  1:33 Finishing too quickly is not an option for a successful relationship  2:35 It’s not enough to only accommodate her in other ways  4:04 Women need time to get warmed up!  5:50 It's selfish of you when you finish first  7:40 Analyze your equipment - where are you the most sensitive 8:49 Rocking back and forth  9:37 Grounding yourself  12:14 Caveat for particular women who hold back sex 16:57 Being slothful and lazy  19:19 More techniques for a man to ground himself  21:41 Don’t transition from one thing to the next without a break 24:05 How do you initiate sex  26:46 Body language. It matters!  30:40 Remaining calm through the storm 34:24 Don’t get so focused on not finishing  35:48 Finishing and the actual orgasm are two different things  37:12 Thoughts on edging  39:39 You just can’t last without practice  40:45 Thoughts on taking care of her first  43:32 Simply making a woman come once is not the answer 44:30 Selflessness vs selfishness 46:46 When you’ve been with someone for a long time  49:16 How to be a little more selfish  52:11 Maintaining your erection  52:50 The absurdity of constant hardness  55:10 The women that want you to be ‘obsessed’  58:55 Where exactly do you touch her if she doesn’t want certain parts touched? 1:01:09 It’s not always about how hard you are  1:02:09 Men avoid sex too, just like you  1:04:04 When you catch yourself avoiding sex, do this instead  1:06:46 Being afraid to touch it and getting uncomfortable  1:08:00 Things women do that do NOT help  1:11:26 Why is touching it not ok  1:13:49 Removing the stigma of touching yourself  1:15:23 Bad expectations  1:19:35 Outro 
79:58 05/21/2022
How to properly be dominant and assertive with a woman in the bedroom
CHAPTERS 0:00 Introductions 3:29 How exactly does a man learn to be dominant 8:06 What does healthy dominance mean? 14:30 When a woman is ready for sex before you are and understanding gender roles 16:15 What is sexual foreplay? 22:05 Women often can't express what they want 24:03 How do you handle bad results and fears 25:37 Welcome to Deep Listening™ 29:04 What do women want in bed? 30:15 The shadow side of aggressiveness is not sexually attractive 32:45 What are some better approaches 35:36 It's not about acting 36:32 What is your working definition of being dominant? 38:15 More on what healthy dominance is not 42:00 Men have a different idea of what dominance is, and it's not good 46:40 Anything can be done with the right tone, intensity and speed 47:40 Women with sass 50:16 Don't treat her like a dog 52:06 Why men have such a hard time doing it right 54:18 Women already deeply struggle with decisiveness 55:32 Most women don't often know what they want or how to help you 57:46 More steps to begin being more dominant 58:38 How to demand a woman's presence 1:00:03 Please stop saying I don't know 1:01:58 How to ask the right questions 1:03:45 The myth that the fantasy just happens... naturally 1:06:16 How men ask for sex 1:12:50 To be dominant you must know this 1:13:38 More on what being dominant does NOT mean 1:14:46 What would REALLY put you in the mood for sex? Is it help with chores? 1:17:55 Thoughts on initiations 1:20:10 Final master tips 1:24:52 Outro
85:24 01/30/2022
Can you have it all in relationships? Plus, female mating strategies
CHAPTERS 0:00 Introduction and can you have it all? Recitals and disclaimers 2:44 In a nutshell 4:20 What does it mean to have it all? 9:40 Misunderstandings 12:40 Should one person be your everything? 15:21 COVID and Politics 16:26 Are you really perfect, just the way you are? 17:40 The Disney Fairytale 21:30 How Women Select mates 24:39 How men often think of intimacy 25:45 Great sex does not come naturally to most many men 33:04 How does one become a skilled lover? 37:25 Can a man really become a sexual dynamo? 40:26 An unskilled woman CAN be flipped into a fantastic lover 47:24 What do I make of all of this? 49:15 The fallacy of, If they can do it I can too" 56:24 Further thoughtsWe're one moment away from a meltdown 58:09 Is it ok that you don't have it all in your relationship?
62:50 11/24/2021
30 Things you don’t need to say ever again
Chapters: 0:00 Intro 6:40 Oh you really don't care? 7:38 Words carry power 8:35 I don't sugar coat 12:46 A certain type of emoji 14:55 Who hurt you? 17:00 Cute 22:55 It is what it is 30:42 Like I said 34:27 Thoughts on talking and conversing 36:10 Useless filler words 38:55 Pour some sprinkles on me 39:23 Low key pointless phrases 41:06 Other phrases that have gone out of style 44:00 I feel like... 48:20 Next time 49:15 It depends 52:07 I just can't possibly imagine 55:09 I just can't explain it 58:28 I'm really so picky and selective 59:32 The misogynist 1:05:31 Shots fired 1:08:28 Just curious 1:10:28 I'm not like all those other girls 1:13:07 Who hurt you? 1:15:20 I can't believe I am doing this! 1:17:01 Keep it chill, what will be will be x=x 1:21:38 Get your ish together 1:24:14 That big D energy and vibin 1:26:02 You can't tell me what to do and starting fights from nothing 1:26:46 Don't judge! 1:34:42 I don't want to argue 1:37:50 It's complicated 1:39:06 Female entitlement for the goddess 1:42:50 Dealing with the most painful type of emotional hurt - special edition 1:59:09 Outro
119:55 10/04/2021
To come or not to come. Whether men should finish and how women feel about it
One of the biggest questions of our time as it pertains to intimacy is whether or not a man should always "finish" when having sex. This episodes dives deep into the pros and cons and explores the little known avenue of pressure that women can place on men. Topics include: 0:00 Introduction 0:53 Societal expectations around finishing 1:33 Typical expectations around male ejaculation 9:10 Is a male orgasm bad? 12:03 The spiritual minded orgasm 13:17 Restraining for energy 14:44 Everyone has a different sex drive 17:43 Pressure! 23:15 There is no reward for marathon sex 30:58 Final thoughts on pressure 34:10 Final thoughts and tips
41:16 06/29/2021
Empathy, understanding and answers for sexually inexperienced men
Please listen to this episode with your partner. Sexually inexperienced men do not get a lot of attention. Because this subject is so sensitive, there isn't much real world instruction around it either. In fact most men grapple with a great deal of shame and guilt around the subject and often will not reach out for help. This episode is for you.  CHAPTERS: 0:00 Introduction Cause and Effect 6:34 You're not alone  9:11 Sex does NOT suddenly become a skill once you're married  12:47 Women do not want to teach you how to have sex with them  17:03 Inexperienced men often find themselves with sexually experienced women 18:25 Inexperienced men often have women initiate in the beginning  21:12 Women get angry, frustrated and resentful when they have to do all the work or nothing happens  23:41 Brief recap 25:32 What can women do to help their men in this situation  28:42 More things women can do to support an inexperienced lover 30:47 Third thing she can do 33:39 Inexperienced men often take on the female role  36:35 Are women more sexual than men?  39:45 Conclusion and outro 
41:56 04/11/2021
What to do and what it means when a woman says she needs space
One of the most difficult things someone can hear, is that their partner needs space. Nothing is clear, the terms are undefined, and once uttered it usually ends up in disaster. Tune in now to find out what to do. CHAPTERS: 0:00 Introduction 5:25 Malignant phrases 6:20 How to handle short term space 8:38 When she takes days, weeks and months of space 13:15 What you're supposed to know when she says she needs space 16:08 If you're going to try to make it work, here's what you should do. 15 minutes. 34:42 Do the feelings of the other partner matter? 39:54 How to correctly ask for space 42:21 Asking for space in a healthy and conscious way 44:55 What NOT to do when you needs space 47:36 Should you go out, party, drink and do drugs? 52:45 You actually could have just ended the relationship 53:32 When a guys never texts you back or calls you back... 56:15 How much space do you actually need? 56:54 Why women get upset when a man asks natural questions 59:15 If you're going through this now, it gets worse... 1:03:25 The pitfalls of actually taking space 1:06:42 What if your partner doesn't need or want space but you do? 1:08:43 What if the man needs space? 1:10:54 Summing it all up 1:15:15 How anger and resentment plays in to taking space 1:25:50 Does Tari actually see the value in taking space? Thank you for listening! We hope you enjoyed this immensely.
90:39 03/15/2021
Part 3: How to properly handle and move on from a breakup
1:45 Actions speak louder than words 5:55 What do you actually owe the other person? 8:24 Do unto others as you would have them do unto you 10:36 When we invest ourselves too much and get overextended 13:54 Self care and taking care of ourselves 20:23 When you think you don't want anyone else but them 23:28 getting over your previous relationships 24:36 an exercise to show yourself you can get past this... using your exes 26:20 Caring for and helping others...once you're healed 28:21 Can you still be friends with your ex or after a breakup? 30:48 How do you treat your ex after a breakup? 32:38 Personal stories of trying to remain friends with exes 34:15 Why must we NEVER touch again after breaking up? 36:26 The ways that couples deal with breakups 38:34 How to not handle your breakup 41:48 Advice for the person who is hurting the most 45:56 Do you even want to be friends after a breakup? 47:46 Personal stories about breakups and relationships 49:11 Being in love when someone only 'likes' you back 51:42 What to do if you feel like you actually love them more 55:28 Don't stay in relationships where you partner doesn't show up for you 59:17 Personal experience from a partner loving me more, but I wasn't there yet 1:03:13 Nobody wants to be loved when you're thinking about someone else 1:08:04 Outro
74:37 02/16/2021
Part 2: How to properly handle, cope and deal with a breakup
One of the biggest challenges of being alive today, is handling, processing, surviving and getting through a breakup. In this 90 minute episode I am going to help you get through it. CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 2:45 You are probably in crisis right now 7:09 We look for ways to resent our partner to get over them 8:05 Understanding the emotional scale 9:08 There must be a grieving process 10:20 The disaster of distracting yourself vs healing yourself 12:14 The age old adage, that everything heals with time is not helpful 14:45 How to self soothe and search for relief 17:33 Avoiding unhealthy distractions 24:39 How can you separate distractions from helpful actions to occupy your mind or time? 30:09 Things to not do during your healing process 35:00 The kinds of friends you should seek solace from 39:14 Feng Shui and letting of old possessions 41:05 Questions to reflect on 43:02 It's the aftermath of a breakup that makes spending time together impossible 48:01 Trying to be with or supportive of your ex while they are reeling 50:01 The loss of all terms of endearment 51:43 Pay attention to how they treat you during and after a breakup 54:19 We never want to talk about it when things are going well 57:27 We don't need to suffer so deeply to experience the highest of highs 59:15 When you like or love your partner more than they like or love you 1:00:42 The person who loves you less will tend to gaslight and attack you 1:06:10 People are selfish 1:08:26 You're never going to get what you want when you need it most 1:17:07 People lie... incessantly 1:22:21 In lying to and deceiving your partner, you will lead them on 1:26:36 When they tell you they need space...
89:26 01/26/2021
How to properly handle a breakup…before it happens Part 1
Breakups are extremely painful and can often take months and years to heal from. But there are always warning signs and things we often ignore. In part one of this three part series, we help you identify what's working and not working right now in your current relationship, to see if it will last or if it's time to breakup, given how you're being treated.
64:59 10/11/2020
Ghosting and Blocking and Curving Oh My!
It's one of the most detrimental behavior patterns of our generation. Here's everything you need to know to recognize it, avoid it and if you are afflicted with this disease, how to cure it. CHAPTERS: 0:00 What is ghosting? 2:25 Why do people ghost? 6:25 When does emotional involvement begin? 10:17 Preliminaries and disclaimers 13:15 Having to make backup plans 14:41 Taking our own insecurities out on others 15:16 The most important sentence when it comes to dating 16:45 Runaway brides 19:58 Understanding the devastating effects of ghosting 24:15 Why ghosting makes you someone who can't be trusted 25:05 Why you being uncomfortable is not as important as you think 26:35 Examples of being uncomfortable 30:50 Do you ghost when your finances are involved 34:35 More emotional effects of ghosting 41:46 Stop pretending you don't want hurt the other person 43:34 Curving 46:01 Blocking 48:05 The one key you need to understand boundaries 50:15 Ghosting causes hostility 56:02 Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) 57:55 Why you NEED to care about what others think about you 1:00:35 One guiding principle 1:01:54 When you do need to set a boundary. Story time 1:05:50 Why you need understanding when someone ghosts 1:09:19 Another story about someone who gave different reasons for breaking it off 1:14:16 The perils of changing your mind 1:21:22 Secrets to being rejected 1:24:25 An exceptional example of asking for understanding 1:26:20 A woman's sensitivity to tone and intensity 1:27:24 More on healthy boundaries 1:28:51 Do the other persons feelings really matter? 1:32:52 Why if your'e involved with someone, it's your obligation to be a custodian of their emotions 1:35:15 Why it's risky to ask for understanding if you are being rejected 1:38:24 We MUST learn how to reject and be rejected responsibly 1:39:40 Tying it all together Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon:  www.patreon.com/closeness  
101:36 06/29/2020
How to Create Hot Sexual Chemistry from Nothing
What’s your definition of hot passionate chemistry? Do you believe that it’s just “there or it isn’t?” In this episode we will put that myth to an end.  We’ll explore over twenty concepts including:  - How to have naturally good chemistry with everyone around you -Is chemistry for men inevitable or bound to happen regardless of what happens? -How many kinds of chemistry are there?  -How to have good chemistry by "allowing it" to happen and letting yourself go there -How we constantly shut ourselves down and turn away love when it comes from the wrong people  -Why there will always be people who you aren’t going to have chemistry with  -Why context is everything  -How to chemistry from your past to create chemistry in your now -How to bring forward intimacy from your previous relationships to allow good chemistry to flourish in new ones  -How touch and eye contact play into chemistry  -Why saying, I’m just not feeling it, doesn’t cut it -Why thinking that good chemistry just happens is flawed    Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1     Please consider donating to our Patreon:  www.patreon.com/closeness    
81:49 05/25/2020
Is she asking for it and is she asking for it sexually?
Chapters: 0:00 Intro 1:16 Is she asking for it?  8:04 Men don't really like to be teased the way women do 8:43 You should always be able to say no  9:43 He's reading your cues accurately if you're advertising sex 10:04 The same cues you use to flirt are the same cues people use to have sex 13:52 When a man takes you shopping...       
16:54 04/13/2020
An Intimate Sensual Meditation About Kauai
In this unprecedented time of worry and concern regarding COVID-19 (or coronavirus), this is our corona-free offering to soothe you and help you relax: a sensual meditation to listen to again and again, anytime you need it. Think of it as a rampage of appreciation. We won't reveal much, but make sure you're in a comfortable and relaxing place before you listen. Fifteen minutes is just the right amount to help shift your focus without demanding too much of your time.   Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
24:58 03/24/2020
How to Properly Have Sex with a Man and How to Turn a Man On
Countless Closeness episodes focus on how to pleasure a woman, but what can you do to take care of your man? Put down your magazine and let's get deep. Sure, we can talk about how to go down and how to arch your back, but what about the stuff everyone is afraid to talk about?   Let’s get closer:   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
77:36 03/15/2020
How to kiss properly. 10 big juicy steps.
Learning to kiss our partner in a way that really turns them on is not innate. Like most things we do for the first time, we're sloppy and we don't take the time to learn good technique. Yes even kissing has a technique and it isn't taught in school or by our family, fortunately. Enter the Closeness podcast: a guide to kissing, replete with all the do's and don'ts you need to be a successful lover as well as understanding all the different varieties of kissing.   One of the best tips we can offer is to be receptive, malleable and intentional with your kissing, but how do you do that. Closeness takes a very intimate look at how to appropriately use our mouths to experience the most pleasure possible. Tips include: Not biting, not doing too much and too little, how to avoid sharing an unsavory tongue, the porn star tongue and a deep explanation as to why simply saying you're not feeling it, doesn't really cut it.   Are you ready to come closer?   Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  www.getcloseness.com/coaching     Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1     Please consider donating to our Patreon:  www.patreon.com/closeness  
67:31 03/10/2020
How to properly have sex with a woman
Welcome to 2020 and welcome to Season Two of the Closeness Podcast! To start the New Year off with a bang we're diving in with a sexually-explicit episode that covers fifteen steps to giving a woman a phenomenal experience she won't forget. What are some of the specific things we can do to get out of our heads, out of our egos and into our partner? Do you have strategies for going beyond yourself and getting into her? This is not a technique driven episode, but if you apply these principles women will feel dramatically more comfortable and sexually drawn to you. We'll help you decipher what confidence and presence is and teach you how to enjoy the journey along the way. Perhaps most importantly, we'll show you how to make sure she actually wants to have sex with you. Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
83:22 01/10/2020
How to Have the Big Talk: STD’s, STI’s and Proper Etiquette
Exposing your sexual health and history to someone new is very vulnerable. Getting tested, asking a partner about their past and sharing your feelings are difficult territories to navigate. Since most of us feel uncomfortable even thinking about it, very few of us possess the wherewithal to have a mature conversation and make the right choices. We're put off and grossed out by disease, but then in the moments when it counts, we don't do a whole lot to prevent transmission. Sometimes we make mistakes that we regret. This episode pulls out all the stops on how to handle yourself in the most delicate of situations, including how to share and receive good and bad news and life after bad news. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
57:57 12/14/2019
The Female Sexual Response Cycle: 10 Passionate Phases
Growing up you may have heard of the sexual response cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.  We'd like to introduce you to something a little more provocative. In this sexually explosive episode, we'll unravel the 10 phases most women go through as they get more and more turned on, but we'll take it further and deeper than you ever thought possible.  Move over Masters and Johnson, this sexual response cycle is hot! Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon:www.patreon.com/closeness
49:10 11/15/2019
How to say no, Part 2: Changing your mind and maybe
How many times have you changed your mind? Perhaps you didn't desire someone at first and you later found yourself wanting them. You said you were attracted to them, you acted like you were attracted and then suddenly something switched and you felt differently. Why is that? As a general rule, men love to please women. How then do you reject a man in a way that is healthy for both sexes? Delivery and tone is everything. If feeling safe is a concern, tune in to learn how sugar coating, ignoring and making excuses can only makes it worse for you and other women in your tribe. Additional topics covered: - How to reign it in slightly when something is too much for your partner - What to do when they change their mind from a yes to a no, or a no to a yes - How to navigate your own energy and desires when this kind of confusion sets in It is EXTREMELY important to honor someone's boundaries and meet them where they are. Closeness DOES NOT ENCOURAGE pushing past anyone's no. We DO, however, encourage gentle communication, questions, and authentic discussion on the subject so that we can understand each other and move closer to love. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
64:25 10/30/2019
How to say no Part 1: Rejecting and approaching
Rejection leaves most people feeling unworthy and hurt. Both men and women are generally terrible at receiving it and even worse at giving it. But rejection is a necessary step towards establishing or maintaining healthy boundaries and a healthy sex life. Why don't we ever put ourselves in anyone else's shoes? We hate rejection, but we never stop to imagine the effect our own words have on others. It's usually scathing and we have no idea that we're treating others so poorly. It's critical that we honor each other's boundaries when we hear a no, but there's so much more to it than that. How do we distinguish between no, maybe, I'm curious, not yet, and a hard stop? How do we lovingly communicate this to our partners, and how can we hear it without losing our minds? Have we learned how to reject someone in a considerate way? Have you ever thought about the best way to receive rejection? We have, and we've got a lot to say about it. We'll also examine why men must approach women as well as why women should be sensitive to this if they plan on not approaching men or are incapable of doing so. Many issues in relationships can be avoided simply by telling your partner what you’re feeling and how it’s making you feel. Showing compassion toward the partner who is hurt or being rejected is paramount. As simple as this sounds, we often tell everyone else what’s wrong while our partner remains clueless. We need to be able to give and receive rejection gracefully. It is EXTREMELY important to honor someone's boundaries and meet them where they are. Closeness DOES NOT ENCOURAGE pushing past anyone's no. We DO, however, encourage gentle communication, questions, and authentic discussion on the subject so that we can understand each other and move closer to love. Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
63:21 10/15/2019
Sunday morning for her: Another sensual meditation
One of the best parts of listening to Closeness is learning how to have great sex! After so much great feedback from previous sensual meditations, we'd like to offer you another. When men listen to this episode, they don't understand it, yet, for a woman it can mean everything. Check it out for yourselves and let us know what you think. It's short enough for both partners to listen in one setting and it's worth discussing how each of you felt after listening. Make sure you're in a place where you feel safe and can relax when you listen to this one, it's extremely intimate! Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
14:20 09/30/2019
Part 3: Who should pay for first dates and beyond?
This much-anticipated, 90-minute conclusion to our 3 part series holds nothing back. We'll share articles, statistics, personal references and even explore if paying for dates is a form of prostitution! We'll discuss how people really feel when their partner fights or argues for the bill, what the expectations are when people pay, and how it works if you have sex first before going to dinner. We'll even look at evidence that suggests up to 70% of men feel obligated to pay whether they want to or not! This episode is not for the faint of heart, and asks you to take an up-close-and-personal look at your expectations around sex and money. Enjoy! Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  https://cravecloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon:  http://www.patreon.com/closeness  
98:22 09/15/2019
Part 2: Who should pay for the first date and beyond?
In this three part series, we explore over 25 more points regarding who should pay, including: - What happens when the woman makes significantly more financial resources? - How do we know when our ego is running the show vs. our generosity? - How to handle dating with regard to the wage gap - Is paying for and going on dates like prostitution? We'll deeply explore semantics, expectations, and whether our choices are stemming from fear or inspiration. Do you feel like sex is something you're giving up? What about natural born givers vs. people who feel entitled? We'll explore all of this and more in today's episode. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  https://cravecloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon:  http://www.patreon.com/closeness  
80:39 08/31/2019
Who should pay for the first date and beyond?
In this incredible three part series, host Tari shares his thought-provoking stance on who should pay and why. He draws on countless personal experiences as well as experiences from others that have helped shape his philosophies over time. Over three and a half hours of content spread out over three episodes ensures you’ll reexamine almost everything you thought about dating rituals and male, female dynamics. Drawing on countless case studies and hundreds of interviews, Tari helps you explore what kind of person you are inside and out of the dating arena. Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  https://cravecloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon:  http://www.patreon.com/closeness  
73:37 08/15/2019
How to know if a girl really wants you using 5 signs
When we learn how to share closeness with someone else, it often deals with the things we should avoid doing. We'll give some examples of this before exploring body language, hugging, eye contact as well as understanding who should initiate touch. After listening to this episode, you'll have five sure-fire ways to figure out if a woman is really into you and what you can do about it. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  https://cravecloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon:  http://www.patreon.com/closeness  
65:07 08/01/2019
5 easy steps to figure out what turns you and your partner on
Open any self-help book to discover the phrase, “communication is the key.” But do we in fact know how to communicate? Are we shy? Do we say what we mean? Are we a great listener? Do we practice non-violent communication? How do you know if your partner is understanding what you are trying to express? We can’t hide behind the word, “communication” and expect it to solve everything. We have to know how and when to communicate. More importantly, we have to know what specific things to say and do (and to avoid saying or doing) that will help bring us closer to our partner. In this episode, you’ll not only gain tips you can apply immediately to communicate better, but also learn how to explore your own body in a way that will allow you to unlock more pleasure. We’ll then look at how to ask your partner the right questions to escalate their excitement. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  https://cravecloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon:  http://www.patreon.com/closeness  
50:35 07/14/2019
Should you engage in long distance relationships?
We all have the capacity to make things work, but are long distance relationships really worth it? If you’ve been in one yourself or are in one now, you know how challenging it can be without regular visits and zero physical connection. In this episode we look at the countless disadvantages to these types of arrangements and explore why it probably isn’t for everyone. How long can you go without intimacy, being touched, or someone’s real physical presence? This short-form episode is perfect to listen to on your way to work or if you are looking for a quick answer. Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life:  https://cravecloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon:  http://www.patreon.com/closeness  
30:56 06/30/2019
Interview: The intimate adventures of a 48 year old mother
Hot sex and great intimacy is not just for young people. In this episode we cover a lot of territory such as: - Stigmas and judgements about homosexuality and whether it's easier for a woman to be openly bisexual in today’s society- Judgements and whether it's possible not to judge- If the concept of non-judgement is a myth - Double penetration- What is true love, devotion and monogamy?- Does being jealous mean you don’t “truly” love the person? - If you are jealous are you loving conditionally?- Why people think that they’ll be just fine if their relationship ends- A deep exploration of breakup pain- Exploring whether it's healthy to immediately start seeing other people after just ending a relationship- How to help someone with anxiety when they're in pain- Do men need women and do women need men?  - What does it mean to need attention- BONUS: A few details about Persian culture. Enjoy! Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: https://cravecloseness.com/coaching   Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1   Please consider donating to our Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/closeness  
73:45 06/15/2019