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Psychologists Off the Clock

We are four experts in psychology, bringing you science-backed ideas that can help you flourish in your work, relationships, and health.

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360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson
Feeling disconnected in a world that's more connected than ever? Then our guest David Robson's insights couldn't be more timely. Through over 300 high-quality studies, he uncovers the scientific explanations behind building strong social bonds. Join us to hear about the shared realities that truly bond us, discover why authenticity is key to forming genuine connections, learn practical tips to navigate the complexities of social interactions, and how to overcome the fear of sharing too much. Tune in for a deep exploration of building a strong social network as we uncover David’s book, The Laws of Connection.  Listen and Learn: How David’s outgoing nature conflicted with his shyness, hindering his ability to make new friends, and new research on optimizing connections motivated him to write a book on social connections The concepts of shared reality and the liking gap, and how these phenomena form the foundation of effective communication and connection Moving beyond superficial conversations to forge meaningful connections through intentional shared realities Embracing "defocusing" to improve interactions by recognizing external influences beyond your control Balancing curiosity and self-disclosure in conversations for genuine connection The dynamics of requesting help and the mutual benefits of genuine altruism Resources:  https://davidrobson.me The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network https://www.instagram.com/davidarobson https://twitter.com/d_a_robson https://uk.linkedin.com/in/david-robson About David Robson David Robson is a science writer and author based in the United Kingdom. A graduate of Cambridge University, he has worked as a feature editor at New Scientist and as a senior journalist at the BBC, and his writing has appeared in the Guardian, the Wall Street Journal, the Atlantic, and many other publications. His previous book, The Expectation Effect, won the British Psychological Society Book Award for 2022. His latest book is The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network (Pegasus) Related Episodes 353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler 310. The Expectation Effect with David Robson 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
70:32 6/19/24
359. Evolution and Human Nature with Sam Wilkinson
What is the meaning of life? And what role does evolution play in our search for purpose? Join us in a conversation with Dr. Samuel Wilkinson, author of "Purpose: What Evolution and Human Nature Imply About the Meaning of Our Existence." We cover some big, philosophical questions that don't have clear answers but are so important to ponder. Our modern fears, our overactive stress responses, and the age-old struggle between good and evil—all these layers make up the complex human experience. Sam’s take on how our evolutionary history impacts our present-day lives is fascinating. So, wonderful listeners, tune in and reflect on these big ideas, and as always, we invite you to share your thoughts and takeaways.  Listen and Learn:  How Sam’s personal struggle with the meaning of life intersected with scientific inquiry and ultimately led to him writing Purpose Can you believe in evolution while maintaining religious or spiritual faith? The importance of understanding genetics in the context of evolution Exploring multi-level selection by redefining "survival of the fittest" across genes, individuals, kin, or groups, and discussing the implications for social traits and human nature The tension between altruism and selfishness How much of human aggression is rooted in biology versus culture? Do environmental factors and expectations influence testosterone levels? Compelling evidence from psychology that our thoughts influence our behaviors  The significance of family relationships in shaping our sense of meaning and purpose Resources:  SamuelTWilkinson.com Samuel Wilkinson, MD - Yale School of Medicine Connect with Sam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samuel-wilkinson-1863875a About Samuel T. Wilkinson, MD Samuel T. Wilkinson, MD, is Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Yale University, where he also serves as Associate Director of the Yale Depression Research Program. He received his MD from Johns Hopkins School of Medicine. His articles have been featured in the New York Times, the Washington Post, and the Wall Street Journal. He has been the recipient of many awards, including Top Advancements & Breakthroughs from the Brain and Behavior Research Foundation; Top Ten Psychiatry Papers by the New England Journal of Medicine, the Samuel Novey Writing Prize in Psychological Medicine (Johns Hopkins); the Thomas Detre Award (Yale University); and the Seymour Lustman Award (Yale University). He is the author of Purpose: What Evolution and Human Nature Imply about the Meaning of Our Existence (Pegasus; March 5, 2024). Related Episodes:  234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 63. The Ape That Understood The Universe With Steve Stewart-Williams 57. Evolution and Behavioral Science with Steven Hayes and David Sloan Wilson 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
68:07 6/12/24
358. How to Keep House While Drowning with KC Davis
Burnout from endless household chores? Meet KC Davis, the brilliant author behind How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing who we had to get on the podcast to share her wisdom with you! Most of us constantly juggle house cleaning, personal grooming, and what can feel like a million other responsibilities. It can feel like a relentless backdrop to our lives. But KC, who you may have seen making waves on social media, gives us a whole new way of looking at domestic labor. Her insights are transformative and so much more than just chores—they're about life-changing perspectives and even touch on social justice issues. If you’re overwhelmed by endless household to-do lists, this episode and KC’s book are invaluable. Tune in and revolutionize your approach to household tasks. Trust us, your future self will thank you! Listen and Learn:  Balancing a normal daily life with the unexpected recognition and success of her new book, How to Keep House While Drowning Why did KC make her book so accessible and simple to read? Why basic self-care like doing the dishes or taking a shower is often overlooked  KC recalls her daily struggles as a new mom facing postpartum depression during the pandemic, with escalating exhaustion and an unmanageable household The common feeling of failure when overwhelmed by basic care tasks and why these challenges don’t reflect one's character How mainstream self-help often leads to initial motivation but ultimately causes shame when people can't sustain the impractical systems Navigating domestic work and fairness in shared living spaces and making sure that everyone gets time to rest and recharge Resources:  https://www.strugglecare.com/ How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing Listen to KC’s Podcast: https://www.strugglecare.com/podcast-rss  Follow KC on social media:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strugglecare Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StruggleCare/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters  Article on scruffy hospitality referenced by Debbie: https://www.treehugger.com/in-priase-scruffy-hospitality-4868485 About KC Davis: KC Davis is a licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. KC’s compassionate and practical approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life has drawn over a million followers on social media in less than a year. Her book, How to Keep House While Drowning, has sold over 300,000 copies and is currently an Amazon bestseller.https://www.treehugger.com/in-priase-scruffy-hospitality-4868485 KC Davis began her therapy journey at 16 when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. Professionally, KC has worked most of her career in the field of addiction in roles such a therapist, consultant, and executive director. She lives in Houston with her husband and two daughters.  Learn more about the radical philosophy of Struggle Care that’s changing lives here. Related episodes:  176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin 348. Sustainable Exercise with Michelle Segar 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael Schonbrun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
62:11 6/5/24
357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson
If you’ve ever pondered questions like, "Should I follow my passion or chase after money? How can I strike the right balance between work and life? What legacy will my work leave behind?" then this episode with the insightful duo of Christopher Wong Michaelson and Jennifer Tosti-Kharas, coauthors of the terrific book Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work, will not only challenge your perception of work but also spark an exploration of deep introspection into the role of work in your life. Listen and Learn:  The story of how Christoper and Jen merged their backgrounds in psychology and philosophy to come together to coauthor Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work What Christopher and Jen learned about the meaning of work through studying The New York Times Portraits of Grief  What are the lasting effects of COVID-19 and how are they shaping how we work?  What are the traits of work and how does social construction come into play? Fairness in work Are there downsides to working in a field that's a “calling” and what toll might that take on a person?  What would we do if we weren’t working?  Resources:  Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541703407 Christopher’s Website: https://www.christopherwongmichaelson.com/ Connect with Christopher on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-wong-michaelson-41b85611/ Connect with Jen on: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jentostikharas and Twitter: https://twitter.com/jentosti (@jentosti)   About Christopher Wong Michaelson  Christopher Wong Michaelson is co-author, with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas, of Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work. He is a philosopher with 25 years of experience advising business leaders pursuing meaning and providing work with a purpose. He is the Opus Distinguished Professor and Academic Director of the Melrose and The Toro Company Center for Principled Leadership at the University of St. Thomas and on the Business and Society faculty at NYU’s Stern School of Business. Christopher lives in Minneapolis with his wife, three kids, and two dogs. About Jennifer Tosti-Kharas Jennifer Tosti-Kharas is co-author, with Christopher Wong Michaelson, of Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work. Jen is the Camilla Latino Spinelli Endowed Term Chair and Professor of Management at Babson College. She teaches, researches, and coaches others about what it means to craft a meaningful career, and appreciate the risks and rewards of work as a calling. Jen lives outside Boston with her husband and two kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
72:45 5/29/24
356. Navigating the Challenges of Caregiving with Allison Applebaum
In this episode, we talk about a topic that touches so many of our lives: caregiving. Whether it’s something we’ve already experienced or might face in the future, caring for a loved one with an disease or illness is a profound journey. Allison Applebaum, who is the founder of the Caregivers Clinic and Author of the beautifully titled, Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving comes on board to enlighten us about the realities of caregiving—the stress, the work, the emotional burden—but also the unexpected rewards. She talks about discovering strengths you didn’t know you had and finding deeper connections with those you care for.  Allison’s perspective is holistic and empathetic, offering a well-rounded view of caregiving. We cover everything from the emotional impact to practical tips and the broader societal issues like ageism and bias against those with neurocognitive challenges. It’s a conversation full of perspectives that you may not have even considered before. Let’s dive in! Listen and Learn:  The Allison Applebaum definition of family Caregiving  How Allison founded a clinic to support caregivers, cared for her father, coped with her mother's unexpected death, and dealt with the challenges of illness and loss in the healthcare system The moving tale behind the title of Allison’s book, Stand by Me   Recognizing the significance of a person's identity and dignity in healthcare  Combating ageism and elder speak in the health system  Tips for beginning the caregiving journey for a loved one facing a health decline Navigating through conflicts and disagreements within families regarding care for a loved one What is caregiver burden? How can we prevent or address it? And, is it the same as caregiver burnout? The challenge of uncertainty for caregivers and helpful strategies for dealing with this  Can meaning and suffering coexist?  Resources:  Allison’s website Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving Connect with Allison on Instagram and X About Allison Applebaum Dr. Allison Applebaum is an Associate Attending Psychologist in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center (MSK), and an Associate Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine. She is the Founding Director of the Caregivers Clinic at MSK, the first program of its kind in the United States to provide comprehensive psychosocial care to family members and friends of patients who are in the caregiving role. Dr. Applebaum is also the author of the recently published narrative nonfiction book, Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving. Related Episodes: 354. A Family Guide to Dementia with Brent Forester 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2) 327. Thriving on Overload with Ross Dawson 310. The Expectation Effect with David Robson 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman 338. ACT for Burnout with Debbie! 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
64:38 5/22/24
355. What is EMDR with Jamie Marich
You may have heard whispers about EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy, which has gained popularity for treating symptoms of trauma, anxiety, and depression. Although the eye movement component of EMDR is still not fully understood, it involves stimulating the brain through bilateral eye movements, sounds, or taps. Despite several studies finding no evidence that bilateral stimulation improves therapy, anecdotal evidence suggests that EMDR can be very effective in certain cases, and has been a real game changer for some. Here to chat with us and shed some light on this form of therapy, we are excited to have Jamie Marich, a leader in trauma recovery. Curious about EMDR therapy's transformative potential for healing trauma and mental health challenges? Tune in! Listen and Learn: The origin story of EMDR  The skepticism around EMDR  Are trauma and PTSD related?  Distinguishing between "big T" traumas and "small t" traumas  Why might talk therapy not work well for treating trauma and/or PTSD? What are the phases of an EMDR session?  Can EMDR be done through video therapy? Resources: Jamie’s website: https://jamiemarich.com/ Visit Redefine Therapy https://redefinetherapy.com/ EMDR Made Simple: 4 Approaches for Using EMDR with Every Client EMDR Therapy & Mindfulness for Trauma-Focused Care Connect with Jamie on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/drjamiem/ https://www.facebook.com/drjamiemarich https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamiemarich/ About Jamie March Dr. Jamie Marich (she/they) inspires people and systems to heal the wounds that keep them stuck, allowing for authentic transformation free of shame and stigma. A TEDx speaker, clinical trauma specialist, expressive artist, lay spiritual director, short filmmaker, Reiki master, yoga teacher, and recovery advocate, she unites all of these elements in her mission to redefine therapy. She is a woman in long-term recovery from an addictive disorder and lives with dissociative identities. As a queer woman who survived multiple spiritually abusive experiences in childhood and adulthood, Jamie is passionate about helping people to recognize where religion and spirituality may be causing harm in their lives so that they can chart a course for personalized healing. Marich is the author of EMDR Made Simple: 4 Approaches for Using EMDR with Every Client (2011), Trauma and the 12 Steps: A Complete Guide for Recovery Enhancement (2012/2020), Creative Mindfulness (2013), Trauma Made Simple: Competencies in Assessment, Treatment, and Working with Survivors, Dancing Mindfulness: A Creative Path to Healing and Transformation (2015), EMDR Therapy & Mindfulness for Trauma-Focused Care (with Stephen Dansiger, 2018), Process Not Perfection: Expressive Arts Solutions for Trauma Recovery (2019), Healing Addiction with EMDR Therapy: A Trauma-Focused Guide (with Stephen Dansiger, 2022), The Healing Power of Jiu-Jitsu: A Guide to Transforming Trauma and Facilitating Recovery (with Anna Pirkl, 2022), Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Life (2023), and Trauma and the 12 Steps: The Workbook (with Stephen Dansiger, 2023). Her long-time publisher, North Atlantic Books, is releasing her memoir of spiritual abuse and recovery, You Lied to Me About God, in October 2024. Related Episodes 210. Strategies for Becoming Safely Embodied with Deirdre Fay 37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie 25. Resilience: Bouncing Back After Difficulty with Debbie and Rae Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
64:42 5/15/24
354. A Family Guide to Dementia with Brent Forester
Dementia is a complex topic that requires a delicate balance of understanding, compassion, and expertise. With the prevalence of dementia on the rise, healthcare providers, caregivers, and individuals themselves must have a solid grasp on how to navigate these challenging conditions. Our guest Brent Forester is an expert in geriatric psychiatry and dementia care, bringing almost three decades of experience supporting individuals with dementia and older adults facing mental health challenges. Discussing his co-authorship with Tom Harrison of "The Complete Family Guide to Dementia: Everything You Need to Know to Help Your Parent and Yourself", we hear about his proactive approach to caregiving and education for families and his journey into geriatric psychiatry. Through his insights into the nuances of dementia care, early diagnosis, treatment, the importance of distinguishing between various types of dementia, and grief in caregiving, Brent guides us in developing resilience and adapting to the emotional complexities of caring for a loved one with dementia.   Listen and Learn:  The admiration for his role model grandmother and fascination with problem-solving in medicine that influenced Brent's career in Geriatric psychiatry  The process of diagnosing dementia and the benefits of early diagnosis The difference between the clinical syndrome, which we call dementia, and the disease of dementia What are the causes and symptoms of dementia?  The multifaceted challenges dementia presents and the need for comprehensive healthcare approaches that consider these complexities Goal setting and the importance of self-care for caregivers of people suffering from dementia  Resources:  More about Brent: The Complete Family Guide to Dementia: Everything You Need to Know to Help Your Parent and Yourself About Brent P. Forester Brent P. Forester, MD, MSc. is the Dr. Frances S. Arkin Professor and Chair of Psychiatry at Tufts University School of Medicine, Psychiatrist in Chief and Chairman for the Department of Psychiatry at Tufts Medical Center and Director of Behavioral Health for Tufts Medicine.  Dr. Forester spent a quarter of a century of his professional career at McLean Hospital and Mass General Brigham where he served as the Chief of the Division of Geriatric Psychiatry at McLean Hospital and Senior Medical Director for Value Based Care Solutions in the Population Health Management department at Mass General Brigham. Dr. Forester is an expert in geriatric psychiatry, specializing in the treatment of older adults with depression, bipolar disorder, and behavioral complications of Alzheimer’s disease and related dementias. He is a Past President of the American Association for Geriatric Psychiatry (AAGP), a distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, and has previously served on the board of directors of the Alzheimer’s Association of Massachusetts/New Hampshire and chair of their Medical Scientific Committee. Dr. Forester’s research focuses on novel treatment approaches to manage the disabling behavioral complications of dementia, such as agitation and aggression. Dr. Forester’s work also includes the implementation and evaluation of collaborative care models for comprehensive dementia care within primary care medical settings Related Episodes: A Family Guide to Dementia 338. ACT for Burnout with Debbie! 207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill 204. Ageless with Andrew Steele 13. Healthy Aging and the Brain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
59:53 5/8/24
353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler
Ever think about how powerful asking questions can be? It's kinda mind-blowing when you think about all the insights, knowledge, and experiences we can tap into just by asking. So in this episode, we’ve got Jeff Welzer on board to talk about his book ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life. Jeff enlightens us on how asking thoughtful and well-crafted questions that seek to learn can unlock a treasure trove of wisdom, ideas, and deep understanding. And it can even help you achieve your goals in both your personal and professional lives! You have to check out this awesome chat! Trust us, it's packed with gems that'll shift how you connect with others and enable you to grow as a person! Listen and Learn:  Are you missing out on valuable insights and hidden wisdom by not asking questions? How asking well-crafted questions can help you achieve your goals and benefit you both in your personal and professional lives Why do we withhold information?  Tips to navigate speaking up when you might fear the reaction you could get How Jeff’s ASK Approach can help you tap into other people's knowledge, thoughts, wisdom, and ideas Ways you can make it safer for someone to open up more  Transforming crummy questions into quality questions that promote meaningful discussion and insight How you can get better at listening to learn How can we pass the skillset of curiosity onto our kids  Resources:  Jeff’s website: https://www.askapproach.com/ https://transcendeducation.org/ ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306832697 Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781250235374 About Jeff Wetzler  JEFF WETZLER is co-CEO of Transcend, a nationally recognized innovation organization, and an expert in learning and human potential. Wetzler combines unique leadership experiences spanning more than 25 years in business and education, as a management consultant to the world’s top corporations, a learning facilitator for leaders around the world, and as Chief Learning Officer at Teach For America. Jeff earned a Doctorate in Adult Learning and Leadership from Columbia University and a bachelor’s in psychology from Brown University. Based in New York, he is a member of the Aspen Global Leadership Network and is an Edmund Hillary Fellow. https://www.askapproach.com/ Book: ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life  Related Episodes:  329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen  276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 165. How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine Kinzler 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado  302. Say the Right Thing with David Glasgow  185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith  299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley  168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
65:11 5/1/24
352. Twentysomethings with Meg Jay
Our 20s are a time of great change and transformation. But many people overlook this and label them "snowflakes" for not having certain things, like partners, houses, mortgages, big jobs, or kids. The truth is that trying to achieve all those milestones at once without any guarantee of success can leave us feeling insecure and stressed. For this episode, we bring you guest, Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist who joins us to chat about her new book, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age. Her insights are valuable for anyone in their twenties, about to enter their twenties, or even in their early thirties. Even If you are a parent with young adult children or a therapist who works with young adults, her book offers a solid foundation to help you understand the experiences of individuals at this developmental stage. Listen and Learn:  Are we being too hard on twenty-somethings?  What do evolution and science tell us about the role of uncertainty for humans? The impact of technology, particularly the internet and social media, on the difficulties faced by individuals in their twenties Is medication always the best medicine?  Your default mode network and your task-positive network  Why your twenties may not be the best years of your life (and why that's okay!!) Is work the leading cause of stress and anxiety in 20-somethings? Finding your purpose as a 20-something  Resources: Meg’s website: https://megjay.com/ The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781668012291 Connect with Meg on social media:  https://www.threads.net/@drmegjay https://twitter.com/drmegjay https://www.tiktok.com/@drmegjay https://www.linkedin.com/in/meg-jay-phd/ https://www.instagram.com/drmegjay/ About Meg Jay Meg Jay, PhD, is a developmental clinical psychologist who specializes in twentysomethings. She is the author of The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age, Supernormal: The Secret World of the Family Hero and the cult classic The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR, BBC and—maybe most important for her audience—TikTok.   A recent New York Times profile called Dr. Jay “the patron saint of striving youth, a prophet-like figure for a generation of young people buried under mixed messaging,” and her TED talk “Why 30 Is Not the New 20” is among the most watched to date.  Dr. Jay earned a doctorate in clinical psychology, and in gender studies, from the University of California, Berkeley. She is on faculty at the University of Virginia and maintains a private practice in Charlottesville.  Related Episodes 347. Job Changes & Career Pivots with Paula Brand 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 179. How to Be An Adult in Relationships with Dave Richo 74. Mastering Adulthood with Lara Fielding Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
61:26 4/24/24
351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman
As humans, we face this dilemma of wanting to live life to the fullest, but also taking everything for granted, including time. We often only realize the importance of time when we have little time left. Don’t let that be you! In an episode with Jodi Wellman, we dive into her phenomenal book, You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets. We have about 4,000 Mondays in our lifetime, and if we're halfway through, we have roughly 2,000 to go. The good news is that you are in charge of how you spend those days. Drawing upon principles of positive psychology, practical tips, and research-backed data, Jodi's book will provide you with a fresh perspective and renewed appreciation for life! Listen and Learn:  The impetus that made Jodi aware of her deep-seated fear of dying with regrets and inspired her book, You Only Die Once  Why do we only realize the importance of time when we have little left? How the Grim Reaper is a prominent character in Jodi’s book and message  Regrets of commission vs regrets of omission  What is death reflection? Ideas for gaining vitality in your life  Finding meaning in life  The value in pre-savoring and savoring the things that bring you joy in life   Resources: Visit Jodi’s website: https://fourthousandmondays.com/ You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets Connect with Jodi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fourthousandmondays/ Connect with Jodi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fourthousandmondays/ If you are interested in working with Michael: herold.coach/book About Jodi Wellman Jodi Wellman is a former corporate executive turned executive coach. She has a Master’s in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she is an instructor in the Master’s program and a trainer in the world-renowned Penn Resilience Program. She is a Professional Certified Coach with the ICF and a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach from CTI. She has coached and spoken with clients like American Express, Fidelity, pwc, Royal Bank of Canada, BMW, and more, and runs her own business, Four Thousand Mondays. She lives between Palm Springs and Chicago with her husband and cat, Andy. You can watch her inspirational TEDx Talk on how death can bring you back to life. Related Episodes 157. The Art of Dying Well with Katy Butler 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
87:15 4/17/24
350. Parenting Anxious Kids with Regine Galanti
Are you seeking effective strategies to help your anxious child thrive and grow? In an interview with clinical psychologist and best-selling author, Regine Galanti about her book, "Parenting Anxious Kids, Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage", we talk about the importance of differentiating between "normal" and problematic anxiety in children, spending one-on-one time with kids to build self-esteem, and the use of praise. Regine also describes how parents can focus on changing behaviors rather than controlling feelings. Her book is an incredibly empowering resource and offers many strategies and guidance on creating realistic parenting goals for anxious kids. Whether you're a parent, work with children, or plan to have kids in the future, this conversation is full of valuable tips and science-backed insights! Listen and Learn:  What inspired Regine to write Parenting Anxious Kids: Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage Why our brains are wired to feel anxiety as an emotion and why it can be a good thing  How have cultural shifts informed parenting, and what role does anxiety play in this?  Examples of typical parental worries and fears at different ages and stages that don't mean a child has an anxiety problem What behaviors cross into problematic anxiety in children? Explaining accommodation, a fundamental concept in childhood anxiety and parenting What is reassurance giving, how can this be a problem for your child's anxiety, and how can you respond differently to interrupt the loop? If a magic button made your child's anxiety completely disappear, how would your child's life be different? How would your life and your family's life be different, if at all? Introducing the principle of special time and why it's so key to parenting anxious kids Are anxious kids more sensitive to experiencing shame?  What is the HALT acronym, and how is it helpful? Parental strategies for dealing with frustration tolerance issues in the 6-10 age group Supporting middle and high schoolers with anxious thoughts  Resources: Long Island Behavioral Psychology: https://www.longislandbehavioral.com/team SPACE Treatment: https://www.spacetreatment.net/ Connect with Regine on:  https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.galanti?lang=en https://www.instagram.com/regine.galanti/reels/ https://twitter.com/reginegalanti?lang=en About Regine Galanti Regine Galanti is a clinical psychologist and best-selling author with expertise in anxiety and OCD in kids and teens. Dr. Galanti started writing in order to share the tools she teaches families in therapy with a wider audience. She also enjoys speaking to parents, schools, and media outlets to share information about effective mental health information in children. She has been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Buzzfeed, and other sources. When she's not working, or writing, she lives in Long Island, NY with her husband and 3 daughters.  Related Episodes:  344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 54. Anxiety in Children and Adolescents with Veronica Raggi 14. Mindful Parenting 212. Stuff That’s Loud: OCD and Anxiety with Lisa Coyne and Ben Sedley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
67:40 4/10/24
349. The Hunger Habit with Judson Brewer
Want to change your relationship with food? This incredible interview with Judson Brewer, a pioneer in the field of habit change and author of The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We're Not Hungry and How to Stop, will not only deepen your understanding of your eating behavior patterns and triggers, but you'll also learn how to completely shift your habits with kindness and curiosity. Listen in for a slew of actionable tips, modern science, and ancient wisdom from Judson; discover which foods are best for your body while still enjoying the foods you like; and strengthen your understanding of how your brain works and how to make permanent changes in your life based on that knowledge. Listen and Learn:  How his struggle to help patients with binge eating and overeating led Judson to write The Hunger Habit What's the issue we're facing as a society and culture with eating and food in general? Why keeping a healthy diet by measuring what you eat comes with its own set of challenges How our food consumption instincts have evolved and gotten mixed up in modern times Identifying the patterns that bring us to eat How you can practice kindness to facilitate openness and learning from experiences  Recalling past experiences before engaging in habitual behavior to make better decisions and avoid repeating negative experiences in the future Resources:  Visit Judson’s Website: https://drjud.com/ The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We're Not Hungry and How to Stop A simple way to break a bad habit | Judson Brewer | TED Connect with Judson on Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, and Facebook About Judson Brewer  Judson Brewer M.D., Ph.D., is an internationally renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He is a professor in the School of Public Health and Medical School at Brown University. His 2016 TED Talk, “A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit,” has been viewed more than 19 million times. He has trained Olympic athletes and coaches, government ministers, and business leaders. His first book, The Craving Mind, was published in more than sixteen languages. His second book, Unwinding Anxiety, was an instant New York Times bestseller. Related Episodes: 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer 231. Eating Skills and Emotional Eating with Josh Hillis 264. Raising Intuitive Eaters with Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson 31. DBT for Binge Eating with Debra Safer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
67:00 4/3/24
348. Sustainable Exercise with Michelle Segar
Are you prioritizing quick fixes over lasting joy in our pursuit of health and wellness? With a focus on promoting long-term health behavior changes rather than short-lived fitness programs that quickly lose momentum, we welcome award-winning researcher and sustainable-change coach Michelle Segar. We are honored to interview Michelle, who is the author of the acclaimed book, The Joy Choice: How to Finally Achieve Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise. Her thirty years of expertise and science-backed research are sure to inspire and enlighten anyone looking to make positive, sustainable changes in their health and lifestyle. Listen and Learn:  The main reasons people give for wanting to engage in exercise and health behaviors and why they can get us into trouble Reasons that would be more effective in helping you get active The limitations of habit formation when it comes to changing complex behaviors like exercise Permitting yourself to prioritize self-care How perfection can become problematic  Practical strategies for incorporating sustainable exercise into your life  Resources:  Michelle’s website: michellesegar.com The Joy Choice: How to Finally Achieve Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness Online beginner ballet: https://brocheballetonline.com/  Connect with Michelle on X and LinkedIn About Michelle Segar Michelle Segar, Ph.D. is an award-winning, NIH-funded researcher at the University of Michigan with thirty years studying how to help people adopt exercise and other self-care behaviors in ways that can be sustained within the unpredictability of the real world. Her research on creating sustainable change is widely recognized as uniquely pragmatic for real-world applications. An advisor to the World Health Organization on their global physical activity initiatives, Michelle was also selected to be the inaugural chair of the United States National Physical Activity Plan’s Communication Committee. She consults with leading organizations, including Kaiser Permanente, Walmart, WW, Anytime Fitness, Adidas, and Business Group on Health. Michelle’s synergistic combination of academic research with real-world sustainable-change curriculum design and coaching permit her to create engaging and practical sustainable-change systems for digital health and individual coaching/counseling. She certifies professionals in her sustainable-change methods and licenses them to large organizations. Michelle is frequently interviewed about how to help consumers and patients change their mindsets, cultivate lasting motivation and sustainable physical activity in major media outlets including The New York Times, NPR, The Atlantic, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Prevention, Real Simple, and TIME. Michelle’s training and experience is uniquely comprehensive, including a doctorate in Psychology (PhD), a master’s degree in Health Behavior/Health Education (MPH), a master’s degree in Kinesiology (MS) and fellowships in translational research and health care policy from the University of Michigan. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympics in Barcelona. Related Episodes:  132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal  124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 283. Healthy Habits with Dayna Lee-Baggley (Re-release) 318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin  135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick  72. Committed Action with DJ Moran  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
69:55 3/27/24
347. Job Changes & Career Pivots with Paula Brand
Almost all of our quality of life is impacted by our careers because we spend so much time at work. As psychologists, we see a lot of anxiety-based patients in our practice. Often, the root of stress or anxiety is having a lot of struggles at work and knowing that something needs to change, but having no idea how to go about it. Here to help you understand and effectively transition in your career no matter the reason, is career coach and author of The Purple Parachute: A Woman's Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change, Paula Brand. If you could benefit from some soul-searching and structured guidance around decision-making as you transition into a new career or even if you want to make some changes in your current career, this interview is an empowering listen! Listen and Learn:  A glimpse into the ASTER model: Access, Seek, Test, Execute, Repeat  Why your values are important to the assessment phase of a career change and what you can do to clarify them How are interests different from values and how you can start identifying what interests you? The distinctions between the types of professionals who can help you with career transitioning  Discovering your exceptional qualities Why your time is better spent uncovering your strengths and finding ways to put them to use, than wasting your energy trying to mitigate a weakness  How to identify and prioritize your skills Looking for themes within your VINES (Values, Interests, Natural disposition Exceptional Qualities, and Skills) to help you pursue new roles Resources: The Purple Parachute: A Woman's Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change You can access my webpage at paulabrand.com or www.brandcareermanagement.com which shares more information about my services and book.   Specifically to purchase and find out more about my book, visit landing page for The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change is http://www.purple-parachute.com/. You can download a free copy of The Purple Parachute workbook that contains all the exercises and questions from the book. https://www.brandcareermanagement.com/the-purple-parachute-free-work-book/ If you go to the bottom of my homepage at https://www.brandcareermanagement.com/, you can enter your e-mail to gain access to a PDF download to Uncover Your Work Values. For BCM: YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/c/BrandCareerManagement LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/brand-career-management/ Twitter: Twitter.com/brandcareermgmt Facebook: Facebook.com/BrandCareerManagement For the book Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paula_purple_parachute/ LinkedIn.com/in/paulabrandcareers About Paula Brand  Paula Battalia Brand, founder of Brand Career Management, is a Global Career Coach & Consultant, LinkedIn Expert, Speaker, Trainer and Author with a background in human resources, workforce development, training and career counseling. She speaks to groups and provides individual career coaching on using LinkedIn effectively, managing a successful career and navigating through career transitions with a focus on empowering mid-career to executive women to achieve career satisfaction. Organizational clients have included the World Bank Group, the Caribbean Development Bank, and the Executive Educations programs at Johns Hopkins University (JHU).     Paula released her first book in November 2022 on navigating career transitions titled The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change.  Related Episodes 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 293. Quit with Annie Duke 296. Money and Love with Abby Davisson 299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg 333. How Work Works with Michelle P. King Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
72:53 3/20/24
346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill
How often do you criticize yourself? Whether you torture yourself with negative thoughts about body image, career goals, or parenting, our conversation with guest and former cohost Diana Hill is sure to change that! Drawing from mindfulness, acceptance and commitment therapy, and compassion-focused therapy, Diana shows you how to liberate yourself from harmful self-criticism by cultivating forgiveness and kindness. We are grateful to Diana for her work in shifting the way people think about self-compassion, and we know you’ll take a tonne of wisdom from this conversation and her latest book, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, to help you live a fulfilling and impactful life. Listen and Learn:  What is self-compassion?  How does the inner critic evolve within us? Why you might have fears of giving, receiving, or self-compassion and how these fears can interfere with your ability to cope and be resilient during difficult times How you can practice self-compassion   Is there a way to know which response is the most self-compassionate for yourself? The three half-truths of self-compassion  Turning self-compassion from a momentary thing to a lasting trait Resources:  Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more. The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: Let Go of Your Inner Critic and Embrace Who You Are with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Podcast: Wise Effort: Wise Effort Podcast  Website: drdianahill.com Instagram: @drdianahill Facebook:@drdianahill YouTube: @drdianahill LinkedIn: @drdianahill Email: diana@drdianahill.com Learn how to practice Process-based Therapy with Diana Hill, Joseph Ciarrochi, and Steven Hayes Mindful article: A Love Letter To Yourself Psychology Today: Three Half-Truths About Self-Compassion Self-Compassion and ACT Meditation with Diana on Insight Timer 3 Half-Truths About Self-Compassion About Diana Hill:  Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and author of ACT Daily Journal, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal and the upcoming book Wise Effort, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can grow fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. She is on the board for the Institute for Better Health, and blogs for Psychology Today and Mindful.org. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian. Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more. Related Episodes 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 334. Our Polyvagal World with Stephen & Seth Porges 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
64:12 3/13/24
345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock
If you are someone who finds comfort and healing in writing, you’ll already be familiar with the therapeutic benefits of journaling. But, have you ever thought about exploring memoir writing? You may think, ‘What have I got to write about?’ or wonder if your life experiences are worth sharing. That's where our guest, Maureen Murdock, is here to prove you otherwise. In an episode where we talk about her latest book, Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir, Maureen inspires and guides us in discovering the untold stories of our lives through the craft of memoirs with the help of original writing advice and creative prompts.  Listen and Learn:  How can writing be therapeutic and help us with healing and growth? The difference between memoir writing and journaling  Mythological themes and archetypes: How do they come into play with individual memoirs? What was it like for Maureen to study under American writer Joseph Campbell?  What is the heroine's journey, and how is it unique and specifically important? Where to begin with memoir writing  Resources  Maureen’s website: www.maureenmurdock.com  Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir, Connect with Maureen on social media: https://www.facebook.com/maureenmurdockauthor/ https://twitter.com/murdockmaureen Jill’s essay about her brother: https://www.scarymommy.com/brother-pedophile-oblivious-trust  Writing groups, workshops, and communities:  Maureen’s upcoming memoir workshop in Santa Fe in April A writing group (You Belong Here, Now: A Wholehearted Writing Group) offered by our previous guest, Dr. Meg McKelvie Writing Down the Soul International Women’s Writing Guild Writing Class Radio About Maureen Murdock, Ph.D. About Maureen Murdock, Ph.D. is the author of her new book Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir and the author of the best-selling book, The Heroine’s Journey, which explores the rich territory of the feminine psyche and has been translated into twenty languages. Maureen is also author of Unreliable Truth: On Memoir and Memory; Fathers’ Daughters: Breaking the Ties that Bind; Spinning Inward: Using Guided Imagery with Children; and The Heroine’s Journey Workbook. She is the editor of an anthology entitled Monday Morning Memoirs: Women in the Second Half of Life and teaches memoir for the International Women’s Writing Guild and in Pacifica Graduate Institute’s program, Writing Down the Soul. Maureen was Chair and Core Faculty of the M.A. Counseling Program at Pacifica Graduate Institute. She has written pieces for the Huffington Post on the criminal justice system.  Related episodes  199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie  336. Mindfulness and Living Expansively with Sharon Salzberg  116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius  274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock  37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie  195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
62:42 3/6/24
344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber
Parenting neurodivergent kids can be a unique journey full of challenges and triumphs. For this discussion, we have the pleasure of being joined by Debbie Reber, the author of a book that is breaking the mold! Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope takes an innovative approach by focusing solely on the parent's experience and empowering them with the tools to take care of themselves while responding to their neurodivergent child in ways that are better for everyone involved. Debbie breaks down why nurturing a foundation of understanding with your child makes it so much easier to work through the challenging times and shares an important message: being neurodivergent is a difference that's worth celebrating.  Listen and Learn: The philosophical shift Debbie has encouraged from viewing neurodivergent kids as a problem that needs fixing to a difference worthy of celebrating What does being differently wired encompass? How learning more about her neurodivergent child has transformed Debbie's parenting Self-conscious versus conscious parenting in the context of raising differently-wired kids  How to become better attuned to your kid and use this deeper level of understanding to capitalize on skill development and learning opportunities  Meaningful ‘conscious maintenance’ for parents to shift their thinking mindset and expectations How mainstream parenting guidance can be frustrating for parents of differently-wired kids and where Debbie feels they could do better? Resources: Debbie’s website Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope Tilt Parenting  Tilt Parenting Podcast  Connect with Debbie on Twitter and Facebook Connect with Tilt Parenting on X, Instagram, and Facebook Parenting, the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety by Dr. John Duffy (referenced in this episode)  About Deborah Reber Debbie Reber, MA is a parenting activist, bestselling author, speaker, and the CEO and founder of Tilt Parenting, a resource, top-performing podcast, consultancy, and community with a focus on shifting the paradigm for parents raising and embracing neurodivergent children. Her most recent book, Differently Wired: A Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope, came out in June 2018. After living abroad in the Netherlands for five years, Debbie, her husband, and differently wired teen moved to Brooklyn, NY in 2019. Debbie is an avid runner, traveler, and hiker, and claims reality shows as her guiltiest of pleasures. Related Episodes:  194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2) 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley 14. Mindful Parenting A Conversation with Dr. Emily Edlynn on Raising Autonomous Children, TILT Parenting podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
70:41 2/28/24
343. Heartbreak with Florence Williams
Heartbreak, a universal experience that can leave us feeling lost and questioning ourselves. We've all been there. It's a painful journey, that's difficult to process and navigate. In a conversation everyone can relate to, we bring in the author of Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey. Florence Williams reflects on her personal experience facing divorce and draws upon science to explain the negative impacts of rejection, loss, and loneliness. We also unravel the mystery behind our actions during heartbreak-actions that seem to defy our values and norms. Whether you are a therapist treating clients going through heartbreak or experiencing heartbreak yourself, Florence will transform your understanding of health and love by combining scientific research with self-discovery. Listen and Learn:  What transpired in Florence's personal life that led her to write Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey Tapping into the fundamental human emotion of awe The healing properties of nature, and its integral role in Florence's journey  Is divorce diabetes a thing? Do men and women have different experiences recovering from divorce? Can Takotsubo syndrome (also known as broken heart syndrome) be linked to postmenopausal women? How nature immersive experiences can lead to transformation, connection, and healing, and Florence’s recommendations in your area! Resources:  Visit Florence at her website Get your copies of Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey and The Nature Fix: Why Nature Makes Us Happier, Healthier, and More Creative Connect with Florence on X, Facebook and Instagram About Florence Williams:  Florence Williams is a journalist, author, and podcaster. Her first book, BREASTS: A Natural and Unnatural History received the Los Angeles Times Book Prize in science and technology and the 2013 Audie in general nonfiction. The Nature Fix was an Audible bestseller and was named a top summer read by J.P Morgan. Her latest book, Heartbreak, was called “show-stopping” and “courageous” by Publisher’s Weekly. She is a contributing editor at Outside Magazine and a freelance writer for the New York Times and numerous other publications. A fellow at the Center for Humans and Nature and a visiting scholar at George Washington University, Florence’s work focuses on the environment, health and science. A certified forest-bathing guide and experienced workshop leader, Florence loves leading groups through nature-immersive experiences and watching the transformation, connection, and healing that results.  Related Episodes 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 289. Happily Even After with Jonah Paquette 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 251. Wonder with Frank Keil 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz 225. Psychedelics with Brian Pilecki and Nathan Gates 126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, with Yael and Debbie 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana 199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
58:46 2/21/24
342. Youth Sports and Raising Athletes with Kirsten Jones
Children nowadays have the luxury of being able to choose from a wide range of athletic activities. Though this is fantastic for their long-term development, youth sports have become more intense and competitive than ever before, which can pose a risk to our kids' mental health and overall well-being. So, how can we raise happy, healthy athletes while nurturing them into kind, compassionate, confident, and well-focused young adults who are empowered to passionately pursue their goals? Introducing Kirsten Jones, Peak Performance and Sports Parenting Coach and author of ‘Raising Empowered Athletes’. Packed with actionable advice, this episode is the ultimate roadmap if you’re a parent trying to navigate the challenges, decisions, and pressures of youth sports! Listen and Learn:  What are the advantages of our kids engaging in sports? What are the biggest pitfalls of our modern-day youth sports culture? How can we support instead of pressure our athletes? Ways to help increase internal motivation in your kids How to identify if your child is participating in sports solely just to please you?  Resources:  Kirsten’s book, Raising Empowered Athletes: A Youth Sports Parenting Guide for Raising Happy, Brave, and Resilient Kids Please sign up to receive updates, hear the podcast, or schedule a call at kirstenjonesinc.com @kirstenjonesinc (Facebook and X) @kirstenjonescoach (Instagram and LinkedIn) About Kirsten Jones Kirsten Jones, Peak Performance and Sports Parenting Coach, is a co-host of the #RaisingAthletes Podcast (with Susie Walton) and a motivational speaker. Her first parenting book, Raising Empowered Athletes, launched August 8, 2023 from Triumph Books. Kirsten, a Hall of Fame DI volleyball player from William and Mary and fifteen year NIKE executive, clients include teen athletes (and their parents), where she helps them learn how to reach their goals by releasing their limitations. Kirsten and her husband are raising three athletes themselves (ages 23, 20, & 17) in Los Angeles. Her boys are both DI basketball players and her daughter plays high school volleyball. Kirsten also coaches club volleyball and enjoys traveling anytime she gets the chance. Related Episodes:  324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg 293. Quit with Annie Duke 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba 194. How to Be (and Raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey 17. Sports Psychology with Elizabeth Boyer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
66:46 2/14/24
341. Self-Forgiveness with Grant Dewar
Self-forgiveness doesn’t come easily. For some, the shame and withdrawal that come with holding incredible bitterness and animosity towards oneself can take over for years, and in some instances, a lifetime, if left unaddressed. In an interview with Grant Dewar, psychologist and author of The Self-Forgiveness Workbook, he describes real-world examples of how to develop mindfulness and compassion skills to overcome self-blame and find true self-acceptance. We hear of Grant’s personal history with guilt and come to understand why self-forgiveness is not a simple decision but rather an ongoing process that requires training.  Listen and Learn:  Grant’s journey to self-forgiveness and why he is using his own experiences to help others overcome self-blame and find true acceptance  What is the opposite of self-forgiveness?  Indicators that self-forgiveness could be called for How self-forgiveness can illuminate the things that are important to you Resources:  Get your copy of Grant’s book, The Self-Forgiveness Workbook: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Blame and Find True Self-Acceptance Connect with Grant on LinkedIn About Grant Dewar  Hi, It has been good to spend time with you, as a son, brother father, partner, I have found throughout my life that we need tools to rid ourselves of unnecessary burdens that life is always ready to heap upon us. As a work health and safety professional, trainer and now author I have learnt that while we are all unique and precious beyond telling we also share a common humanity, which comes to us as this incredibly complex gift of life that is always giving but sometimes not in a way we understand. From this experience of assisting thousands of people to navigate the complexities of their working and private lives, I have found consistently that the skills of self-forgiveness assist us face all manner of challenges, both defeats and victories, mistakes and successes, setbacks and even smooth running. Every turn we take every choice we make , brings us new challenges, new decisions and new risks. Our ability to face those experiences with clarity and our full capabilities is enhanced when we are able to do the work of self-forgiveness to deal with the unexpected consequences of following our life’s calling. I have had many twists and turns in my life pathway and have faced my own mortality and the loss of loved ones. My career has been dotted with both success and failures. In each of these challenges I have been able to apply the sorts of skills that I have researched to my own pathway. I have then been able to help teach others the skills I have discovered through my studies in Work Health and Safety, a Masters Degree focused on Adult Education, and a Doctorate in researching the science of self-forgiveness as a tool for lifelong learning. Related Episodes:  320. Anger and Forgiveness with Robyn Walser 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Russell Kolts 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
63:28 2/7/24
340. How to Create Lasting Sexual Connections with Emily Nagoski
It's time to have a no-BS discussion about something that all of us have struggled with at some point in our long-term relationships: maintaining a sexual connection. If this speaks to you and you feel like you’re stuck with poor advice on how to navigate the situation, meet our guest, Emily Nagoski, a sex educator and author of Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. With scientific evidence, wit, and compassion, Emily joins Jill on POTC to debunk the myths we've been fed about sex, show us what real great sex can look like, offer a fresh outlook on what might be blocking us from enjoying sex, and explain how to communicate our sexual desires more effectively. Her insights are sure to revolutionize the way you think about sexual connections and give you a newfound understanding of yourself, your body, and your relationship. Listen and Learn:  The myths versus the science of sustaining satisfying long-term sexual connections What distinguishes spontaneous and responsive desire from pleasure? Discussing sexual intimacy and desire more effectively using Emily's accelerator and brake metaphor How care, curiosity, and play can help you move closer to lust The significance of the "third thing" in a relationship Having a clear understanding of you and your partner's "emotional floorplan" to find your way back to sexual desire The importance of following the sexual rules that work for you and your relationship Resources:  Visit Emily's website and subscribe to her newsletter to have your questions answered! Emily's books: Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections and Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life Follow Emily on Instagram, TikTok and Facebook SNL’s ‘Pound Puppy’ (referenced in the episode) About Emily Nagoski EMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling book Come as You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She is here today to talk about her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. Emily earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist. Related Episodes 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 248. Let’s Talk About Sex & Intimacy with Zoë Kors 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 309. The Language of Emotions with Karla McLaren 315. Hot & Bothered: Menopause with Jancee Dunn 318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
72:14 1/31/24
339. Picking, Pulling and Biting: Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors with Marla Deibler and Renae Reinardy
Research shows that somewhere between 2 and 6% of the population struggles with BFRBs at a clinical level, which can include behaviors like hair-pulling, skin-picking, and nail-biting (among others). What differentiates BFRBs from other self-grooming behaviors, though, is the unintentional harm they cause to the body and the lack of successful efforts to stop them. To gain a better understanding of these difficult-to-control behaviors that can have detrimental effects on mental and emotional well-being, Michael interviewed clinical psychologists Marla Deibler and Renae Reinardy. If you're looking to recover from body-focused repetitive behavior, Marla and Renae, who coauthored The BFRB Recovery Workbook, are here to provide up-to-date behavioral science and evidence-based tools specifically tailored to meet your individual needs and help you transform your life for the better! Listen and Learn:  What are body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs)?  The stigma and dismissive attitude surrounding BFRBs How prevalent are BFRBs?   WTF: What is the function of BFRBs? The importance of viewing change as a process rather than a final outcome  Techniques for experiencing shame, emotional avoidance, and response prevention How to deal with inevitable setbacks Resources:  Order your copy of The BFRB Recovery Workbook: https://a.co/d/5pFMEGM Marla’s Links: Website: https://thecenterforemotionalhealth.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecenterforemotionalhealth Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ceh_philadelphia/ "X": https://twitter.com/DoctorDeibler LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marla-deibler-psyd-abpp-a220851a/ BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/doctordeibler.bsky.social Renae’s Links: Lakeside Center for Behavioral Change: https://lakesidecenter.org  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/r.reinspi Courage Critters: https://couragecritters.com Related Episodes:  167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1) 5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
62:51 1/24/24
338. ACT for Burnout with Debbie!
It's disheartening to see how burnout has become increasingly widespread. We understand how overwhelming it can be, and we're here to support you in finding ways to overcome it. For this very special episode, all four POTC cohosts come together to celebrate Debbie's new book, ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. This incredible resource can teach you so much about burnout, its dimensions, and how to manage it effectively. You will also learn how this book can be a valuable tool in preventing burnout from happening in the first place. If you’re experiencing signs of burnout, this is an episode you won't want to miss!  Listen and Learn:  What inspired Debbie to pen a burnout book? Understanding the three dimensions of burnout  What are the risks and impacts of burnout? How does capitalism influence individual burnout? Why may attempting to fix burnout worsen the situation?  The cohosts guess each other's burnout subtypes  When work is causing burnout, how do you know when it's time to quit? Why is acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) a good approach to addressing the problem of burnout? Resources:  Debbie’s website Explore Debbie's books: ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Connect with Debbie on Instagram  Use the code “BURNOUT20” for 20% off of ACT for Burnout on the Jessica Kingsley Publishers US site! Link here to have the code pre-applied at checkout: https://us.jkp.com/discount/BURNOUT20?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fact-for-burnout  About Debbie Sorensen  Debbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is the author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. And of course, she’s a long-time cohost of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast! She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog. When she’s not busy working or podcasting, she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, traveling, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains! You can learn more about Debbie, read her blog, and find out about upcoming presentations and training events at her webpage, drdebbiesorensen.com. Related Episodes 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne  207. Burnout w/ Jill & Debbie 211. Subtract with Leidi Klotz 246. Burnout and Boundaries with Tammie Change 282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman 293. Quit with Annie Duke 305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
62:16 1/17/24
337. Puberty Is Awkward with Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett
Puberty can be a very confusing and transformative time, full of physical and emotional changes that can be both exciting and challenging to navigate. As your children go through this phase, they may need your support and guidance more than ever. Joining us for a conversation all about all things puberty are Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett, the coauthors of national bestseller, This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained. If you are the parent of children who are approaching or already going through this time of rapid growth and development, Cara and Vanessa's science-based explanations, compassionate and realistic advice on talking to tweens about difficult topics from mood swings to pornography, along with in-depth knowledge on understanding teen culture are sure to validate and empower you in your parenting journey.  Listen and Learn:  In Cara and Vanessa's expert opinion, what are the biggest obstacles that parents face during puberty? How are the early emotional and physical changes of puberty different for boys and girls?  Why is modern-day puberty different than before?  The importance of self-forgiveness when you mess up as a parent during the stormy stages of puberty  How to approach the topic of pornography with your kids How much are parents affected by the social messaging around gender, and how can you bring that into your parenting? Why teens in puberty feel emotions differently than adults  Are empathy and showing a way forward your best moves when your kids are at the mercy of their hormones? Can hunger sometimes be a major culprit for pubescent mood swings? Resources: Order of Magnitude website This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained The Puberty Podcast Follow Cara and Vanessa on Tik Tok and YouTube @spillingthepubertea About Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett Cara Natterson, MD is a pediatrician and New York Times bestselling author; Vanessa Kroll Bennett is a puberty educator and writer. Together, they host The Puberty Podcast; run Order of Magnitude, the leading brand dedicated to flipping puberty positive; and are co-authors of the bestselling This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained (Rodale Books, Oct 2023). Cara and Vanessa can be found on Instagram and TikTok @spillingthepubertea. Perhaps their biggest cred, however, is that between them, they parent six teens. Related Episodes: 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with Emily Edlynn 317. Growing Up in Public with Devorah Heitner 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour 272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
66:19 1/10/24
336. Mindfulness and Living Expansively with Sharon Salzberg
Is wellness something you would like to bring into your life this year? Then our first POTC episode of 2024, featuring Sharon Salzberg, a pioneer of meditation and world-renowned teacher, is a gold mine! Going deep into Sharon's many years of experience practicing and teaching mindfulness, we unpack principles from her work and latest book, Real Happiness: A 28-Day Program to Realize the Power of Meditation. One of the most empowering lessons from Sharon is that mindfulness is not just a practice but a trainable quality. She affirms many paths to building the quality of mindfulness, which goes way beyond the traditional formal practices. It's so refreshing how she describes the practice and benefits of mindfulness in a realistic way and doesn't promise a magical cure for eternal happiness. Having Sharon's voice on the podcast is an honor; her message and outlook on life will undoubtedly bring you heaps of value.  Listen and Learn:  What does it mean to live your life in a constricted way? How to get out of a constrictive place of living and live more expansively  Can we experience more awe in our day-to-day lives? How can mindfulness be helpful if you feel trapped or are struggling? The realistic challenges of achieving a state of mindfulness Sharon’s ‘breath, not breath’ technique  Tips for busy people who want to practice mindfulness more or are having trouble making it a regular habit How to sprinkle less formal mindfulness practices into your life The ways mindfulness can support the Buddhist concept of right action Transforming anger into courage Resources:  Visit Sharon’s website Sharon's books Real Happiness: A 28-Day Program to Realize the Power of Meditation, Finding Your Way: Meditations, Thoughts, and Wisdom for Living an Authentic Life and Real Life, The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom. Sharon’s Just Sit article for O Magazine  For more insight on mindfulness, listen in to Sharon’s podcast, The Metta Hour Follow Sharon on LinkedIn, YouTube, X and Instagram  Check out Sharon’s posts on Check out Sharon’s posts on Medium About Sharon Salzberg Sharon Salzberg is a meditation pioneer, world-renowned teacher, and New York Times bestselling author. She is among the first to bring mindfulness and lovingkindness meditation to mainstream American culture nearly 50 years ago, inspiring generations of meditation teachers and wellness influencers. Sharon is co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA, and the author of thirteen books, including the New York Times bestseller Real Happiness, now in its second edition, and her seminal work, Lovingkindness. In 2023, Sharon is releasing two new books. The first, Real Life, is now available from Flatiron Books in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook formats. The second, Finding Your Way, is a small gift book now available from Workman Publishing in hardcover and ebook formats. Sharon’s podcast, The Metta Hour, has amassed six million downloads and features interviews with thought leaders from the mindfulness movement and beyond. www.sharonsalzberg.com Related Episodes:  80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren  75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer  122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch 155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Rebecca Williams 139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1) 140. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
76:45 1/3/24
335. A Cozy Fireside Chat with the POTC Cohosts
As yet another incredible year comes to a close, the POTC cohosts, Debbie, Jill, Michael, and Emily, gather for the final episode of 2023 in a cozy fireside chat. Kicking off the episode, they reflect on some of the obstacles they faced this past year as well as share some of the valuable lessons they’ve learned along the way. Looking optimistically into the year to come, they get pumped about their aspirations for 2024 and wrap up the chat with a spirited speed-round. Intrigued to know their holiday season pet peeves, what dirty little secrets they’ve been hiding, and the game-changing buys they’ve made that cost less than a Benjamin?! Make sure to listen all the way to the end of the episode! Happy holidays, off-the-clockers! See you again in the new year! Resources:  The Love of My Life, by Rosie Walsh  I'm Glad My Mom Died, by Jennette McCurdy The Anomaly by Le Tellier About Emily Edlynn  Emily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children’s Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily’s writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently added author to her bio with her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children and has a Substack newsletter. About Debbie Sorenson  Debbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. drdebbiesorensen.com. About Jill Stoddard  Jill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. About Michael Herold  Michael (he/him) is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He’s helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they’re mostly fun for him). He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Related Episodes 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy Connection 218. Off the Clock with Us 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 252. Getting the Help You Need, with Us 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 300. Celebrating 300 Episodes with Us 323. Introducing Our New Cohosts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
64:16 12/27/23
334. Our Polyvagal World with Stephen & Seth Porges
Since we were introduced to Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges in the early nineties, the concept has revolutionized our understanding of the connection between safety and well-being and transformed trauma interventions and therapeutic interactions, inspiring researchers and clinicians to approach things in new ways. Here to enlighten us through real-world examples and themes from their book, Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us, are father and son, Stephen and Seth Porges. Tune in to gain a whole new outlook on what our body does based on how safe we feel and learn practical ways in which we can help one another feel safe. Listen and Learn:  What is polyvagal theory? What effects does it have on our physical and mental well-being to live in a world where signals of threat are all around us?   The science of safety  What role does cognition play in polyvagal theory? Clearing up misconceptions about our freeze response to life-threatening or traumatic events Breath, the vagus nerve, and feeling safe—and whether there's even an ideal way to breathe to stimulate or activate those feelings of safety Are hormonal changes impacting the vagus nerve, and is that why we experience mood changes during puberty and menopause? What makes us seek out the thrill of being scared? Resources: For more insight on polyvagal theory, visit Stephen and Seph’s websites  Order your copy of Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us Follow Stephen on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn  Follow Seth on Facebook and X About Stephen and Seth Porges Stephen W. Porges, Ph.D. is a Distinguished University Scientist at Indiana University where he is the founding director of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium. He is Professor of Psychiatry at the University of North Carolina, and Professor Emeritus at both the University of Illinois at Chicago and the University of Maryland. He lives in Atlantic Beach, Florida.  Seth Porges is a journalist and filmmaker. He directed the critically acclaimed documentary Class Action Park (HBO Max). He lives in Atlantic Beach, Florida, and Brooklyn, New York.  Related episodes 131. COVID-19, Anxiety, Cultivating Safety, and Polyvagal Theory with Stephen Porges 139 & 140 Neurodharma with Rick Hanson Parts 1 & 2 177. Mind-Body Practices for Stress and Overwhelm with Rebekkah LaDyne 210. Strategies for Becoming Safely Embodied with Deirdre Fay 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
63:49 12/20/23
333. How Work Works with Michelle P. King
The fact is that, next to sleep, we spend the most hours of a lifetime in the workplace. It's true, even though it is a bitter pill to swallow. That's why Michelle P. King argues the idea that we can only find fulfillment and purpose outside of work. Having a job takes up so much of our day-to-day lives, so we must strive to find meaning in it and understand the unspoken rules that lie beneath the surface. Discussing Michelle’s book How Work Works: The Subtle Science of Getting Ahead Without Losing Yourself, we shed some light on the path to achieving our career ambitions without compromising our identities. Listen and Learn What was Michelle's motivation for developing a framework for how to feel seen, heard, and valued at work? The evolution of the work environment as a result of economic changes  Why is the need to fit in inherently problematic, and how is belonging different? The steps to building an informal network to future-proof your career success How establishing meaningful connections and investing in self-awareness can help you get ahead at work without losing your authentic self  Resources:  Visit Michelle’s website Get your copy of How Work Works: The Subtle Science of Getting Ahead Without Losing Yourself Check out Michelle’s podcast, The Fix Follow Michelle on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn and X About Michelle P. King Dr. Michelle P. King+ is an award-winning academic and globally recognized expert on inequality and organizational culture. Her second book, How Work Works: The Subtle Science of Getting Ahead Without Losing Yourself, publishes internationally on October 10th, 2023 (HarperCollins).  Related Episodes: 299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 270. How Am I Doing? with Cory Yeager 217. Redefining Rich with Shannon Hayes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
61:37 12/13/23
332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell
Middle school can be such a stressful experience for kids, their parents, and educators alike. It's a time of change, pressure, and uncharted territory that can be extremely overwhelming. In this conversation, Emily Edlynn speaks with the author of Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times, Phyllis Fagell, who has crafted a science-backed and compassionate resource for parents and educators to support middle schoolers through the most challenging situations. You will learn why this particular age group has the capacity for remarkable growth and resilience and why adults should not be afraid of this stage of life—instead, concentrate on the strengths and skills that can be cultivated during it. We invite you to listen to this episode for actionable strategies and skills to help your tweens thrive and become more resilient in a world that can be chaotic and anxiety-inducing. From managing rejection, friendships, and self-regulating emotions to academic performance and recovering from setbacks, Phyllis’ advice is invaluable.  Listen and Learn:  What Phyllis enjoys most about working with and writing about the middle-school age group Why Phyllis wrote a book to help parents better understand and support middle schoolers Tips to help provide a foundation of security for kids in these chaotic and scary times Common parenting concerns during middle school and how using different superpowers can help with such challenges  How being a middle school counselor, writing about middle school, and being a parent at the same time has been a gift and a liability for Phyllis Resources: Phyllis Fagell’s website Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times About Phyllis Fagell  Phyllis Fagell is a practicing school counselor, a psychotherapist who works with children and teens in private practice, and an author and journalist. She is the author of "MIDDLE SCHOOL MATTERS, The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond – and How Parents Can Help," and her most recent book that we’re discussing today: "MIDDLE SCHOOL SUPERPOWERS, Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times." Phyllis is a frequent contributor to publications such as The Washington Post and CNN, and her ideas have been shared in outlets including The New York Times, NPR, The Chicago Tribune, and The Atlantic. Phyllis has three children and lives in Bethesda, MD. Related Episodes: 272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 213. Back To School! How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and A Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson 293. Quit with Annie Duke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
63:43 12/6/23
331. Seeing Others: The Importance of Being Recognized and Valued with Michèle Lamont
Inequality is a pervasive problem in society that leads to individuals and entire communities feeling undervalued and neglected and can have adverse impacts. We excitedly welcome acclaimed Harvard sociologist Michèle Lamont for this discussion, who joins Debbie to impart wisdom and discoveries from her powerful book, Seeing Others: How Recognition Works and How It Can Heal a Divided World. As they explore the complicated topic of recognition in society, Michele draws from almost four decades of research and interviews with young adults, cultural figures, and advocates for change to highlight the differences in treatment given to certain groups, the impacts of denied recognition, and the role of narratives in shaping societal and cultural norms and values. We also get Michele’s informed perspective on the social changes needed for us to cultivate a more compassionate and inclusive society. If this topic speaks to you, please join us for this very meaningful discussion and be part of the change we want to see in the world! Listen and Learn:  Michele explains how certain groups within society are valued and recognized, while others are left feeling devalued and overlooked The denial of recognition and dignity to marginalized groups and how this negatively impacts their well-being and sense of value within society Why psychology may not be able to capture the concept of worth comprehensively How internalized cultural narratives perpetuate and become embedded over time, and what is being done at a cultural level to change them What is normal universalism?  Is there hope for a more inclusive future that values and includes all people? If Michèle could change one narrative related to the concept of worthiness, what would it be? Resources:  Find out more about Michèle by visiting her website Michele’s book, Seeing Others: How Recognition Works--And How It Can Heal a Divided World The Ford Foundation referenced in this episode  Follow Michele on Twitter About Michele Lamont  Dr. Michèle Lamont is a Professor of Sociology and of African and African American Studies and the Robert I. Goldman Professor of European Studies at Harvard University. An influential cultural sociologist who studies boundaries and inequality, she has tackled topics such as dignity, respect, stigma, racism, class, and racial boundaries, and how we evaluate social worth across societies. Her most recent book is Seeing Others: How Recognition Works and How It Can Heal a Divided World (forthcoming with Simon and Schuster, September 2023). Her other books include: Money, Morals, and Manners (1992), The Dignity of Working Men (2000), How Professors Think (2009), as well as the coauthored Getting Respect (2016). After studying with Pierre Bourdieu and others in Paris in the early eighties, Lamont emerged as a pioneer in cultural and comparative sociology, helping to define these fields as we know them today. Her many awards include the C. Wright Mills Award from the Society for the Study of Social Problems for The Dignity of Working Men, the 2014 Guttenberg Award, the 2017 Erasmus Prize, and honorary doctorates from six countries. She served as President of the American Sociological Association in 2016, was a Carnegie Fellow in 2021-2022, and was inducted into the American Academy of Arts & Sciences in 2023. She co-chaired the advisory board to the 2022 United Nations Human Development Report, “Uncertain Times, Unsettled Lives: Shaping our Future in a World in Transformation.” Related episodes:  325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet  324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace   256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley  230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price  281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
65:48 11/29/23

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